Loving Someone Truly Means Loving Them Unconditionally

Loving someone truly means loving them unconditionally. Unfortunately, many people tend to think that unconditional love means loving someone no matter what. But, nothing could be further from the truth.

Because this isn’t what unconditional love means. “Loving someone no matter what” is a lack of self-respect. It is attachment. It is neediness. And these three things have nothing to do with genuine, pure, unconditional love.

“Loving someone no matter what” means that you are going to stay in a relationship with that person regardless of the way they treat you or other people. It means that you are supposed to overlook their bad behavior. It means you are supposed to tolerate everything they put you through.

NO! This isn’t how you love someone unconditionally.

To love someone this way means not being dependent on them for your happiness and fulfillment.  It means not putting aside and ignoring your own feelings, needs, and problems. It means not allowing yourself to be mistreated or abused. It means protecting your identity and not forgetting about your importance.

It means loving and taking care of the other person while loving and taking care of yourself. Because if you don’t love and respect yourself, how can you love and respect others?

When you’re unconditionally in love with someone, your love knows no boundaries. You love them so deeply that just the thought of them makes you feel warm on the inside.

You love being around them and you miss them terribly when they’re not around. You feel that you’re deeply connected with them on an emotional, mental, and spiritual level and that this bond is unbreakable.

You know he/she is the one who understands you the most. The one who knows your essence. The one who has managed to reach the deepest parts of your soul.

When you love someone unconditionally, you accept and cherish them for who they are. You’re aware of all their insecurities, annoying habits, fears, problems, and failures, and still, you decide to stay. Still, you make them your choice.

You don’t try to change them or mold them into the person you want them to be. You understand that their flaws and weaknesses are what make the person they are – the person who occupies the most precious place in your heart.

When you love someone unconditionally, you don’t judge and criticize them when they make a mistake or get emotional, moody, or afraid. You don’t make them feel less important because of their past mistakes and failures.

Instead, you show understanding of their problems and insecurities and try your best to help them overcome them.

Yet, loving someone this way doesn’t mean you accept everything they do to you. Instead, it means that when they say or do something that hurts your feelings, you feel free to have open conversations with them about it.

It means that you don’t sweep problems under the carpet, but you put all your cards on the table and work together with your significant other to find solutions to your problems that will be the best for both of you.

When you love someone unconditionally, you allow them to be the true version of themselves. You free them from wearing the mask which society forces them to wear every day.

You understand that they’re not invincible and that they have emotions, weaknesses, and vulnerable sides. And you don’t make them feel embarrassed because of them. Instead, you make them feel free and comfortable to undress their soul and be themselves in front of you.

When you’re unconditionally in love with someone, you keep the original flame of passion always alive. You remember how you felt at the beginning of the relationship, and you make sure you keep feeling that way after that, no matter if you’ve been together for six months or six years.

When you feel unconditional love for someone, your appreciation for life increases. Everything around you gets a new meaning and appears more interesting to you.

When you love someone unconditionally, you love them free of attachment.

You don’t love them because you depend on them or because they make you feel comfortable. You don’t love them because you don’t think you’ll ever find someone better than them or someone who will be willing to accept your imperfections.

Instead, you love them because what you feel for them is pure, deep, and honest. It’s free of expectations and attachment.

You love them because you know they’re worthy of your love and trust. Because you feel free to be yourself in their presence.  Because you’ve never felt like that in your life before.

Because you know you didn’t make a mistake choosing them.