Opioids are now a far-reaching epidemic and crisis, with rates of deaths from opioid overdoses almost doubling from 2019 to 2022. As someone in recovery who now works with others whom often suffer from opioid addiction, I can attest to the dramatic ways that this type of addiction has changed how we treat addiction.
Not only are opioids a lethal threat, but they pose unique challenges for those seeking recovery. From detox through the inpatient rehabilitation process to sober living and into outpatient treatment, now, more than ever, it’s vital for providers to tailor their approach to meet the specific needs of those suffering from opioid addiction.
Emphasizing a Continuum Of Care
Successful recovery requires so much more than abstinence. It requires lifestyle changes that can seem daunting at first. Addiction is a chronic disease deeply rooted in the brain and needs to be managed very closely over the early months and years of recovery. With this in mind, treatment providers need to offer a continuum of care that addresses all aspects of addiction and recovery.
What is a Continuum of Care?
Providing a continuum of care involves providing multiple levels of treatment and support as someone progresses through their recovery journey. For those living with opioid addiction, this might include stages such as:
Medically assisted detox
Inpatient rehabilitation
Outpatient treatment
Sober living programs
Aftercare and ongoing support groups
Each stage of care addresses different aspects of recovery, from managing physical withdrawal symptoms in the early months and years to addressing underlying mental health issues and social reintegration during recovery.
Creating a Continuum that Works
With the high rates of relapse in opioid addiction, it’s clear that more needs to be done to prevent and address these potentially fatal relapses. A comprehensive continuum of care can help by providing long-term support and resources to those in recovery.
Some strategies for creating a successful continuum of care for opioid addiction may include:
Regular check-ins with medical professionals during all stages of treatment.
Access to therapy and support groups that address underlying mental health issues such as depression or anxiety, which are common comorbidities with opioid addiction.
Incorporating holistic approaches such as mindfulness techniques and exercise routines into treatment plans.
Providing ongoing education and resources on coping skills, relapse prevention strategies, and healthy lifestyle habits.
Integrating sober living or transitional housing options for those who may not have a stable and supportive home environment.
Sober Living During Recovery for OUD
Obtaining sober living and transitional housing is a crucial component of a successful continuum of care for opioid addiction. Sober living environments offer a structured and supportive community for those in recovery to continue their journey toward sobriety.
With opioids being highly addictive and having higher relapse rates than other substances, a sober living community can foster a sense of support, offer 24/7 accountability, and provide access to ongoing treatment and resources. It can also serve as a bridge between inpatient or outpatient treatment programs and independent living.
Fortunately, sober living homes are now highly accessible, with many offering sliding scale payment options or donated funding for those in need. Sober living homes are a fantastic addiction to treatment, and in my experience, provide much-needed stability and support during the early stages of recovery.
Utilizing Medication-Assisted Treatment (MAT)
Another major advancement in the treatment of opioid addiction is the use of medication-assisted treatment (MAT). MAT combines behavioral therapy and medications to address both the physical and psychological aspects of addiction. It has been shown to be an effective option for those struggling with opioid use disorder.
Some commonly used medications in MAT include:
Buprenorphine (ie brand name Suboxone, Subutex, and Sublocade)
Naltrexone (ie brand name Vivitrol)
These medications work by either reducing withdrawal symptoms or blocking the effects of opioids on the brain. They are not meant to be a long-term solution, but rather a tool to help individuals stabilize and focus on their recovery journey.
Why Use MAT?
It’s important to note that MAT should not be viewed as a replacement for comprehensive treatment but rather as a tool to aid in recovery. When combined with therapy and support, MAT can provide numerous benefits such as:
Reducing cravings: By blocking the effects of opioids on the brain, MAT can help reduce the intense cravings that often drive relapse.
Stabilizing mood and reducing withdrawal symptoms: Medications such as buprenorphine and methadone can help alleviate withdrawal symptoms and stabilize a person’s mood, making it easier to engage in therapy and other recovery activities.
Lowering risk of overdose: One of the biggest dangers for those struggling with opioid addiction is the risk of overdose. MAT has been shown to significantly reduce this risk by stabilizing a person’s opioid tolerance.
Increasing retention in treatment: Studies have shown that individuals who use MAT are more likely to stay engaged in treatment for the recommended duration, increasing their chances of successful recovery.
For people with other types of addictions, medications aren’t necessarily a part of their recovery journey. However, for those struggling with opioid addiction, MAT can be a vital component in achieving and maintaining long-term abstinence. In addition, a 2023 Yale study examining opioid addiction and MAT found that not using MAT during recovery may be more harmful than no treatment at all! This finding highlights how different, and difficult, it is to treat opioid addiction compared to other types of substance abuse disorders.
Removing the Stigma Around Relapse
As I mentioned earlier, relapse is incredibly common in opioid addiction, and unfortunately, it often comes with a heavy burden of shame and guilt for the individual. This stigma surrounding relapse can create barriers to seeking help or returning to treatment after a relapse.
To combat this stigma, we need to change our perspective on relapse. Instead of seeing it as a personal failure, we should view it as part of the recovery process. Oftentimes, relapse is an opportunity for growth and learning. It allows individuals to identify triggers and challenges in their recovery journey and develop new strategies for coping with them.
In addition, we must also recognize that addiction is a chronic disease and like any other chronic illness, relapse can occur. Just as someone with diabetes may experience a flare-up of symptoms, someone in recovery from opioid addiction may experience a relapse. It does not mean they have failed or that their recovery is over.
By removing the stigma around relapse and viewing it as a normal part of the recovery process, we can create a more supportive and understanding environment for individuals seeking help for opioid addiction. Now, more than ever, it’s vital to understand that removing stigma from relapse can not only prevent individuals from feeling shame and guilt, but it can also save lives.
Medication Monitoring – Critical for 24/7 Care
According to SAMSHA, as many as 21.5 million people have a co-occurring substance use disorder and mental health condition. This means that individuals with opioid addiction may also be struggling with other mental health issues, making recovery even more complex.
This is where medication monitoring becomes a crucial aspect of recovery. Every day, there seems to be a new news story of someone dying of Fentanyl poisoning or overdosing on prescription opioids. Medication monitoring helps to prevent these tragic occurrences by closely tracking and managing an individual’s medication use.
Not only does it provide a safety net against accidental overdoses, but it also ensures that individuals are taking their medication as prescribed and not diverting it for non-medical use. This level of accountability can greatly aid in the recovery process and help individuals stay on track with their treatment plans.
Medications are truly life-saving and can make a world of difference for someone with a co-occurring mental health condition. However, it’s important to note that medication like anti-anxiety and antidepressants can also be misused by people with opioid addiction, so close monitoring and responsible prescribing is essential.
Providing Narcan
Lastly, Narcan can be a life-saving tool for individuals in recovery. Narcan, also known as naloxone, is an overdose reversal medication that can quickly restore normal breathing to someone who has overdosed on opioids.
In recent years, there has been a push to make Narcan more widely available and accessible in communities where opioid addiction is prevalent. This includes making it available over-the-counter at pharmacies without a prescription. For those residing in sober living homes or transitional housing, having Narcan readily available is crucial in case of an emergency.
Overall, medication monitoring and providing tools like Narcan can greatly aid in the recovery process and ultimately save lives. As we continue to combat the opioid epidemic, healthcare providers and loved ones of people in recovery must understand how critical the role of responsible prescribing, medication management, and access to Narcan is in helping individuals on the path to sobriety.
Conclusion
Addiction is a complex disease that requires a multifaceted approach to treatment. With opioid use rising, these changes will continue to impact addiction treatment practices. These changes can be exciting, like reducing stigma and increasing access to resources, but also challenging, as we navigate new treatment methods and hurdles. It’s important for healthcare providers, therapists, and loved ones of individuals in recovery to stay informed about these changes and continuously educate ourselves on the best practices for helping those struggling with opioid addiction.
About the Author:
Mark is a U.S. Veteran-in-recovery who has been serving the recovery community of San Diego for a decade as Founder and CEO of Present Moments Recovery, which is an addiction treatment program for adults in San Diego. We care for adults for up to 1 year in our residential program. Present Moments Recovery can be reached at (619) 367-4767.
Mental health crises can occur unexpectedly and can be overwhelming for those experiencing them as well as their loved ones. Having a well-thought-out mental health action plan in place can provide structure and support during these challenging times. This article outlines how to create an effective mental health action plan for crisis situations, ensuring that individuals are prepared and can respond appropriately to maintain safety and well-being.
Understanding a Mental Health Crisis
What Constitutes a Mental Health Crisis?
A mental health crisis can take many forms, but it generally involves a significant deterioration in mental health that requires immediate attention. This can include:
– Severe anxiety or panic attacks
– Suicidal thoughts or behaviors
– Severe depression or mood swings
– Psychotic episodes (e.g., hallucinations or delusions)
– Substance abuse that leads to dangerous behaviors
Importance of a Mental Health Action Plan
Having a mental health action plan helps individuals and their support networks to act quickly and effectively. It provides clear steps to follow, reduces confusion, and ensures that the appropriate help is obtained as quickly as possible.
Steps to Create a Mental Health Action Plan
Step 1: Identify Triggers and Warning Signs
Understanding what can trigger a mental health crisis and recognizing early warning signs are crucial for early intervention.
– Common Triggers: Identify situations, environments, or stressors that tend to provoke a crisis. This can include certain social situations, work stress, or specific times of the year.
– Warning Signs: Note the signs that a crisis may be developing, such as changes in sleep patterns, increased irritability, withdrawal from social activities, or neglect of personal hygiene.
Step 2: Develop a List of Coping Strategies
Having a list of coping strategies can help manage symptoms before they escalate into a full-blown crisis.
– Breathing Exercises: Techniques like deep breathing or progressive muscle relaxation can help reduce anxiety.
– Distraction Techniques: Engage in activities that can divert attention from distressing thoughts, such as reading, listening to music, or drawing.
– Grounding Techniques: Use sensory experiences to stay connected to the present moment, such as holding a comforting object or focusing on a specific sound.
Step 3: Create a Support Network
A strong support network is vital during a mental health crisis. This network can include friends, family, mental health professionals, and support groups.
– Contact List: Compile a list of people who can provide immediate support. Include their phone numbers and the best way to reach them.
– Roles and Responsibilities: Assign specific roles to each member of the support network. For example, one person may be responsible for staying with the individual, while another contacts mental health professionals.
Step 4: Plan for Professional Help
Knowing when and how to seek professional help is a key component of any mental health action plan.
– Emergency Contacts: Include contact information for local mental health crisis hotlines, such as the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255 in the U.S.), and emergency services (911).
– Mental Health Professionals: List the contact details for therapists, psychiatrists, or other mental health providers involved in the individual’s care.
– Crisis Intervention Services: Identify local crisis intervention services that can provide immediate support and assessment.
Step 5: Outline Immediate Actions
Having a step-by-step guide for what to do during a crisis ensures that everyone involved knows their role and can act swiftly.
– Initial Steps: Outline the first actions to take, such as contacting a support person or using a specific coping strategy.
– Escalation Steps: If initial actions are not sufficient, specify the next steps, such as contacting a mental health professional or going to the nearest emergency room.
– Safety Measures: Include safety measures such as removing harmful objects from the environment or ensuring the individual is in a safe, secure place.
Step 6: Document the Plan
Write down the mental health action plan and ensure it is easily accessible to the individual and their support network.
– Easy Access: Keep copies of the plan in multiple locations, such as at home, at work, and on your phone.
– Review Regularly: Regularly review and update the plan to reflect any changes in triggers, symptoms, or contact information.
Implementing and Maintaining the Plan
Regular Practice and Drills
Regularly practicing the steps outlined in the mental health action plan can help ensure everyone is prepared to act quickly and effectively during a crisis.
– Role-Playing Scenarios: Conduct role-playing scenarios to practice how each person will respond in a crisis.
– Feedback Sessions: After practice drills, hold feedback sessions to discuss what worked well and what could be improved.
Monitoring and Adjusting the Plan
Regularly monitoring the effectiveness of the mental health action plan and making necessary adjustments is crucial for maintaining its relevance and efficacy.
– Check-Ins: Schedule regular check-ins with the support network to discuss any changes in the individual’s mental health status and update the plan accordingly.
– Evaluation: Periodically evaluate the plan’s effectiveness, noting any challenges encountered and adjusting strategies as needed.
Conclusion
Creating a mental health action plan for crisis situations is an essential step in ensuring safety and support for individuals experiencing severe mental health issues. By identifying triggers and warning signs, developing coping strategies, building a support network, planning for professional help, outlining immediate actions, and documenting the plan, individuals and their loved ones can be better prepared to handle crises effectively. Regular practice, monitoring, and adjustments will help maintain the plan’s effectiveness, providing a reliable framework for managing mental health crises and promoting overall well-being.
References
– National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). (2020). Navigating a Mental Health Crisis: A NAMI Resource Guide for Those Experiencing a Mental Health Emergency. Retrieved from [NAMI](https://www.nami.org)
– American Psychological Association (APA). (2021). Coping with a Mental Health Crisis. Retrieved from [APA](https://www.apa.org)
– Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA). (2021). Crisis Services: Effective Care for a Mental Health Crisis. Retrieved from [SAMHSA](https://www.samhsa.gov)
God knows how many times I’ve had someone say this to me.
God only knows how many hours I’ve been stressing over first impressions and lost opportunities.
What’s Meant To Be Will Be!
People say these words to encourage you, to prompt you to action, and, for the fear of missing out, you dive into that rush of the moment, thinking there isn’t enough time. Not enough time to get a job. Not enough time to finish a course or learn a new language. Not enough time to travel the world. Not enough time to find the love of your life.
Moving to and from into those same old cycles of life, we accept the average. The ordinary.
What if everyone else finishes before me? What if I am the last one to graduate?
What if all my friends get married before me?
The social aspect of things makes us rush and force things.
Instead of letting things run their natural course, we push that fast-forward button in life and focus on chasing goals, instead of just enjoying the journey of life. What’s meant to be will we!
Unfortunately, life is not a journey that you can plan as it suits you. Sometimes, things are going for us and other times, nothing happens the way we expect and want.
Things that are meant to be will happen no matter what. You can do everything that’s in your power, you can go against common sense and try to crack a brick wall with your head if you will, but one thing is certain: you will have the control for as long as it’s given to you.
Control is an illusion and life has a funny way of proving us that. No matter how much we force or rush timings and events, if the Universe, God hasn’t planned those for us, all our efforts are vain.
If it’s meant to be it will be – without efforts, without fears, without anxious overthinking, without trying.
The right person, the right opportunity will just pop out of nowhere and they will catch you off guard, wiping away all the sadness of failed relationships and lost chances and they will heal you, and you will finally understand why it never worked out with anyone else.
You will finally realize that all that rushing and nagging and overthinking and analyzing, all that wishful thinking, the false hope, the pain of lost and detached friendships and unreciprocated feelings… no longer matters. Like it never happened.
Life is about destiny, and I firmly believe in that.
What is Yours Will Find You
I can proudly say that I am a fighter. I have clear goals and work hard to achieve them. I accept the challenges and fight the obstacles and problems life sends my way.
I can’t stand when things don’t happen as I plan so I try hard to make them right. I get sad when my plans fail and my dreams don’t come true. I get nervous when I feel like I’m losing control over my life.
But I’m willing to fight every battle I have to so as to get where I want to be in life. I’m willing to oppose anyone and anything who will try to stand in the way to my happiness and success.
I’m Willing & Ready To Stand Up Every Time I Fail. Why?
Because I’ve learned that what is meant to be mine, will find its way to me.
God finds his way to me and I no longer worry when things go down. I smile and wait because a brighter day will dawn at my curtained window. I know it.
What’s supposed to happen to me, will happen – I don’t have to force it.
Because that’s life. Sometimes it all falls into place and other times, nothing makes sense. Life doesn’t always go the way we plan.
We’ll be with someone and think he/she is the love of our life, our forever person, and then we’ll helplessly watch the relationship fall apart. We’ll pursue the career we’ve always hoped for, and then one day we’ll realize that’s not what we really want and need.
We’ll have friends and think they’re the most loyal and supportive and before we know it, they’ll stab us in the back the moment we turn around. We’ll fulfill our highest goals and wildest dreams, and then fall down.
And in all of those moments, we’ll rack our brains trying to figure out why bad things happen to us. We’ll wonder what we’ve done to deserve all that disappointment, sadness, and anguish. We’ll have many questions, but unfortunately, we won’t have the answer to each and every one of them.
Because that’s how life works. We can’t predict what tomorrow will bring to us and we definitely can’t control it. We won’t always understand what’s happening. We won’t always know what choices and decisions to make and where we should go. We won’t always know what’s the right thing to do and what’s ours to keep. And what we should actually do is trust.
What’s meant to be will be yours just trust the Universe, trust God, and trust yourself.
What’s meant to be will be – when you least expect it.
That’s life–a belated birthday present, an unexpected summer holiday in October.
Life is what happens to us when we loosen up and stop chasing careers, people, fame, or social statuses.
Life happens when we stop expecting it to happen, and then, just like that, the strangest, yet most beautiful things start happening. Out of the blue. Without stressing and pre-planning.
If it is meant to be ours, it will come to us, sooner or later. We’ll part from our partner because there’s someone better out there waiting for us to meet them. We’ll quit our job because new, better opportunities lie ahead of us. Some decisions will prove wrong because we’re supposed to make new ones that will benefit us on both personal and professional levels.
And when these things happen, we might feel scared, angry, disappointed, or sad. We might feel like screaming or crying. We might doubt ourselves and everything and everyone around us. We might feel like our entire world is crumbling in front of our eyes.
But what we need to understand is that sometimes what we hold on too tight falls apart so that something better can come to us. Sometimes some people leave us so that others who are worthy of our love come into our life.
You need to remember that what’s meant to be yours will find its way to you. You don’t need to over think and rack your brains worrying whether you have done something wrong and whether your prayers will be heard. You don’t need to worry and despair.
You Don’t Have to Force Anything
You don’t have to chase things that are not meant for you. You don’t have to cling to people who are supposed to leave.
You have to remember that you’re worthy and deserving of all the good things life has to offer.
You have to remember that life will not always go according to your plans, but you have to keep believing that you’ll find what you’ve been always searching for.
You have to keep believing and never let any obstacle or change, no matter if it’s small or big, wreck your hopes. Stay blessed by knowing that things will fall in your lap, but only when you are ready to appreciate their beauty.
Happiness happens when we learn how to value it.
Only, we cannot value our blessings without first getting a taste of that bitter hellthat threatens to redefine our understanding of the world and twist it upside down.
It is the only way–the only bridge to estimating happiness and valuing it.
What’s meant to be yours will come to you at the right timing. It’ll come when you’re READY to receive it. It’s all part of a bigger plan – one that was meant to be for YOU, remember, but you will realize it in retrospect.
What Does It Mean When A Guy Is With You For Convenience?
Just because someone is in a relationship with you, doesn’t mean they’re seriously in love with you. No, my dear. He may be with you because you’re good for his ego. He may be with you because you make him feel better about himself. And maybe he doesn’t want to be alone, so he is just wasting his time with you.
However, sometimes, we don’t realize that there are so many red flags that show us our partner is not worth our energy and time.
A relationship of convenience is an unhealthy relationship that has no mutual understanding; the partners are not equal when it comes to their needs and desires, and to put it simply, there is no genuine love. There is just a physical and no emotional connection, and your partner is never ready to define your relationship. Therefore, it is always best to end this type of relationship and let no one use you because it is not worth it and there is no future for this type of relationship.
Here are 14 signs that he isn’t serious about you, you’re just his backup plan:
1. He treats you like an option, not a priority.
He always has plans, but you’re rarely a part of them. He chooses to spend his time with his friends and relatives. He never makes a healthy balance between time spent with you and them. If you find yourself in a relationship where you’re treated like an option, and run and never come back because you’re just convenient.
2. He is mysterious.
When was the last time you heard him talking about his life expectations, dreams, goals, secrets, fears, and deepest emotions with you? He is emotionally unavailable like a puzzle that waits for you to be solved. It makes you feel awkward.
3. It’s all about him.
The whole world revolves around him. He thinks he is always right. He is willing to compromise and acts kind when he needs a favor from you. He doesn’t care about your needs and wants. He neither admits nor apologizes for his mistakes. Your heart has become food for his grandiose ego.
4. He is always busy.
Are you always justifying him when he’s telling you he can’t make time for you? Don’t you ever do that! No one is always busy. People make time for those who matter to them. If he can’t make time for you, he is definitely not worth your time.
5. He talks about his ex-partners.
Moreover, he keeps in touch with them and leaves you wondering whether he is in a relationship with you or them. You deserve to be with someone with whom you will know where you stand; someone who won’t make a mess out of your feelings and emotions.
6. He is only interested in sex.
You’re his booty call. He considers you nothing more than a friend with benefit. He calls you only when he wants you to satisfy his sexual needs. What can you expect from a man who only wants to get in your pants? What can you expect from someone who has no idea what love is?
7. He never talks about the future with you.
Being with him, the future seems to be a very distant place. He sweeps you off your feet and calls you whenever he needs a teddy bear to cure his loneliness. But, he isn’t interested in moving in together, he avoids making plans for the future. He isn’t serious about your relationship. You’re dating a manipulative commitment-phobe.
8. You feel your relationship is going nowhere.
He doesn’t know the real you and you feel like a stranger around him, stuck in the middle of nowhere. With him, you experience nothing more than half-hearted love. Never settle for that.
9. He is not emotionally connected with you.
True love means a real emotional connectedness and open conversation. So, if he is not open with you, doesn’t share his problems, and demonstrates any closeness, it is for sure a red flag you are his girlfriend of convenience.
10. He doesn’t ask for your opinion on any big decisions in life.
He should consider your feelings as equal to his own and shows that he truly respects you. If he makes important decisions in life like changing his workplace or moving his place of living and doesn’t ask for your opinion, your relationship is not as serious as it should be.
11. He makes you live according to his schedule.
His schedule is always convenient, not yours. If you do not follow it, you do not do yourself a favor. But, in a relationship, both partners matter, and no one should expect the other to live only by his schedule.
12. He is a manipulator.
He threatens that he will end the relationship if you do not follow his rules, the rules that are convenient for him. Do not let yourself in a relationship where someone manipulates you and where you should always say “yes” and agree to his rules no matter how much you love him.
13. He finds comfort in you.
He finds comfort in you when his other relationship ends because he knows he can and you are always there for him to help him get over his ex-girlfriend. But this doesn’t mean he loves you, he just takes advantage of you and you are his convenient girlfriend.
14. He has great expectations from you.
He expects everything from you, but, in turn, he doesn’t commit enough to the relationship. He always blames you for his faults because he finds that easier. He would not do it if he truly respects and loves you.
7 Signs Your Boyfriend Is Using You As A Placeholder
You are probably in love with the guy you are together with, but you cannot see signs of true love in his eyes and you think you are just a placeholder, a person he holds until he finds someone better, someone he would think his true love is.
He is sometimes distant, avoids discussing future plans, flirts with other girls, and your relationship is not built on genuine love and mutual respect.
If the following signs are present and you notice them, you should make a move and find your own way to a brighter future and get out of the relationship as soon as possible.
1. He did not introduce you to his family and friends
If he sees you as a placeholder, he wouldn’t like to meet his family or friend because they might pressure him to marry you and marriage is the last thing that would come to his mind. He doesn’t make any big future plans for you together and wants to isolate you from all important people in his life, which can be rather toxic for your relationship.
2. He wants a secretive relationship
Maybe he wants to appear single? This is a bad sign for your relationship. He tries to appear available for other women until he finds his true love and of course, you are just his placeholder. You are always dating in some secretive places, and you haven’t yet defined as a couple? Well, drop this guy; he is an idiot.
3. He sees your relationship as a one-way street
He never asks how you feel and do you have any problems to give you some help or advice, but he always asks for your help for his. Are you his therapist? Well, there is nothing wrong with seeking comfort in your partner, but this should be two – way street. This is just another sign that your relationship is fake and not genuine and there is a lack of support.
4. He comments on other women’s looks
If he tries to have something real and long-lasting with you, he would not never comment on other girls’ looks or talk about what kind of girl he would like to date. You probably feel very angry and insulted. This is such an obvious sign that your relationship is toxic and it would not be hard for him to break it.
5. He doesn’t support you and show enough interest in you
He doesn’t support or show any interest in your endeavors, dreams, or passions and talks about theirs. Sometimes he doesn’t even text you back when you write him. This is an obvious sign of lack of interest and support, so you should realize that this relationship has no future and try to end it as soon as possible.
6. He might tell you that you two are not meant to be
This sign is probably the most obvious one that something is wrong in your relationship and that your partner is trying to tell you that your relationship will end up soon. Do not take it personally; it is just you were not meant to be together and believe what they say. Anyway, be more careful in the future; it will save you from heartbreak.
7. He uses you as a casual rebound
He just ended his serious relationship, and he needs a shoulder to cry on. There is a chance that you remind him of his ex-girlfriend and he thinks he is still with her. This is a bad sign, and you are just his placeholder.
9 Ways To End Up A Placeholder Relationship
You may feel that your partner doesn’t appreciate you, he is not interested in you enough, and that both of you are not a perfect match. You probably need the courage to tell him this in the face and leave him. So, carry on reading to see how you can gain enough courage to speak up about how you feel excluded and that you are willing to walk away.
1. Check to see if your relationship looks temporary and describe how your true relationship would look like
You have probably concluded that your relationship is not serious and you and your partner have not made any real plans for the future. Your partner doesn’t show any interest in your dreams and life goals. You already have a description of a love relationship you want to have and that will make you feel happy and satisfied, and the one you have now it is worthy, and it doesn’t match your description.
You can write down and describe the treatment you want to have to feel loved and feel emotionally connected, not just physically.
You might need stronger communication with your partner and you need someone to talk to about your problems and issues you have in life.
2. Identify what it means most for you
Identify and explain to your partner what it means to you to be cared for and explain why you feel he doesn’t care enough for you. Maybe you need more quality time together, gifts, touch, or another expression of your love language. Tell him what makes you feel appreciated and happy.
3. Ask him if he has healed from his past relationship
In some cases, some partners are not healed enough from their past relationships and are not ready to commit themselves to a new one. Talk with your partner about this, and if he has not healed enough from his past relationships, investing and committing yourself in the current relationship is no use and feels like a casual rebound.
4. Speak openly about behaviors that put doubts about your relationship
Always be ready to share your perspective about questions that question your relationship. Some of them may be subtle, some of them may be dramatic, like your partner flirting with girls, not spending too much time together, and some other things that are not normal for a healthy relationship.
5. Be ready to discuss with your partner about future
You might feel that your relationship looks too stuck in the present and you both never consider how it will be like if you stay together in the future. This is a big sign that your relationship is short – term and you can start asking your partner questions about how he sees your relationship a year from now, and you can see how they feel about it from their answer.
6. Start speaking about his family and friends
Speak up if you feel excluded and isolated from his family and friends and you are not completely integrated into his life. If he doesn’t answer you and doesn’t feel like talking about the topic, it means that your relationship is meant to be short.
7. State your romantic visions clearly
Be bold, state clearly all your romantic visions, and compare them with your partner. Let them know what you expect from your relationship, starting from emotional support just up to watching films and dining together at least once a week.
8. Check if your partner impacts negatively on your health
Sometimes you may feel drained and exhausted from your relationship. Maybe he is not aware of the negative impact he has on you. That is why you should speak with him and tell him that you are tired, burnout, and emotionally drained. These are all signs of an emotionally imbalanced relationship and you can either speak about it openly with your partner or just end up the relationship.
9. Tell them openly that you want to end the relationship
In the end, you can make a strong statement and state that you feel like a placeholder, and you want a meaningful and nourishing relationship and you are ready to leave because you are ready just for a real relationship that makes you happy and doesn’t wear you out.
Did you know that what you wear can reveal various aspects of your personality? For example, it can inform a passerby of your emotions, ambitions, type of employment, and even whether you’re a typical money-saver or someone who enjoys spending money.
If you happen to be someone who loves wearing black clothes, psychology says you’ve made the right choice. (1)
What Does Wearing Black Clothes Psychology Say About You?
Well, there’re several reasons for that. First of all, according to the wearing black clothes psychology, black is a color that many people consider a sign of power.Wearing black clothes signals dominance and a strong desire to be in control.
Then, it’s not a secret that we usually choose to wear black clothes when we are trying to woo or impress others. Black communicates a sense of professionalism, formality, seriousness, and responsibility. In addition, both women and men feel attractive when wearing black clothes. Indeed, the black color is one that easily gets other people’s attention and one that leaves no one indifferent.
So, whatever the reason someone loves wearing black clothes, this habit can reveal a lot about their personality. Wondering what that is?
Here are 5 personality traits of people who love wearing black:
1.They don’t accept authority.
They are independent and confident. They don’t see the point of pleasing others, meeting other people’s expectations, and conforming to outdated, boring social norms. They simply live their lives following their own beliefs and rules.
2. They are extremely confident.
They’re self-sufficient and bold. They go through life depending solely on themselves. They live their lives in accordance with their own beliefs and principles, and they don’t care about what other people think or say about them.
3. They are sensitive too.
People that wear black clothes most of the time usually have a sensitive nature. Unconsciously or deliberately, they try to protect themselves from strong, negative emotions. Wearing black prevents them from getting distracted and helps them stay calm and focused in stressful situations.
4. They don’t build relationships with others easily.
People that love wearing black clothes often have a hard time establishing close relationships with others. While some people feel confident when wearing black, others feel insecure. They don’t want other people to find out what their insecurities and flaws are. So, remaining distant helps them hide their vulnerabilities and imperfections.
5. They love feeling dominant and classy.
As we already said, black signals power and confidence. But it also signals prestige. People that wear black are highly ambitious, and they want other people to respect them and perceive them as influential, classy individuals.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can You Wear All Black?
Wearing all black can be tricky. If you don’t choose the right pieces, textures, and cuts, your entire outfit can look wrong. There’s a lot of debate concerning wearing all black. Some people see this as boring. Others see it as too “gothic,” and there are some who see it as depressing. But, one fact that can’t be denied is that wearing all black makes you look elegant, stylish, sophisticated, confident, and powerful.
3 Benefits Of Wearing All Black
1. Wearing All Black Is Flattering
Have you ever seen someone that doesn’t look good in a black outfit? Yeah, me neither.
Wearing all black is flattering. It makes you look slimmer, refined, and sleek. In addition, both women and men look good in black.
2. Wearing All Black Works Well With Everything
This color works well with all skin tones and looks good with different hair colors. It also goes with any makeup or accessories. So, whenever you’re late for work and don’t have time to choose and match clothes in the morning, wear all black. You can never go wrong with that.
3. Black Radiates Confidence And Power
And not only confidence and power. Black exudes authority, maturity, strength, boldness, ambition, and, of course, elegance as well.
How To Wear All Black
Wearing all black is not as easy as it may seem. You need to be extremely careful when choosing cuts, fabrics, and textures so that your outfit looks right. Here are a few rules you should follow when wearing all black:
Make sure the textures and fabrics match well. An all-black outfit that is all linen or cotton looks unattractive and old-fashioned. Instead, try to pair black denim and black leather. You can even combine a black velvet item with this outfit.
Ensure that the fabric you choose to wear is appropriate for the season. For instance, a black satin dress will look wonderful in the summer but weird in the winter. During the summer, wear breathable fabrics and light.
During the winter, wear warm fabrics, such as wool.
Wearing black makes you look slimmer and sleek. So, make sure you don’t ruin this effect by wearing drab and shapeless items.
When wearing all black, you can spice up your outfit with some bold accessories.
Wearing colorful high heels or a colorful belt or jewelry is a nice way to make a statement.
What Does Wearing All Black Symbolize?
According to wearing black clothes psychology, when it comes to clothing, wearing all black can symbolize various things. To some, it symbolizes elegance, class, power, business, and sexiness. Others see it as a symbol of formality, authority, confidence, intelligence, and wealth.
Wearing all black can also symbolize respect, like wearing it to a funeral. In addition, this color can also convey your mood, like wearing it when you’re feeling down.
The way we perceive black depends on many factors, such as religious and societal beliefs as well as values that we have been taught since childhood in regard to certain colors. For instance, someone wearing black is usually perceived as confident, bold, strong, authoritative, ambitious, and serious.
People wear black for different occasions. Whether you’re going to a restaurant, bar, or cocktail party with friends, to work, to a meeting, to a funeral, or to a job interview, you can never go wrong with black.
What Does It Mean When A Woman Wears Black?
When a woman wears black clothes, her outfit can reveal a lot about who she is, what she wants, and what she’s trying to accomplish in life. In what follows, we’ve presented what it means when a woman wears black.
She wears black because this accentuates her figure. It makes her look slim, sleek, and attractive.
She wears black because this color is associated with positive qualities, such as confidence, boldness, strength, power, and authority.
She wears black because this makes her look sophisticated. It makes her look refined, elegant, and a little bit mysterious.
She wears black because she doesn’t want to stand out from the crowd. She doesn’t want to draw attention to what she wears. She doesn’t want to be bothered by other people.
She wears black because she wants to impress and woo others, and black is known to exude intelligence, seriousness, confidence, self-sufficiency, elegance, mysteriousness, and sexiness.
She wears black because this color suits her mood. Perhaps she feels sad, or she is anxious or depressed.
She wears black because this color is appropriate to wear for different occasions. She can wear it for job interviews, meetings, parties, weddings, dates, and other important events.
Why Shouldn’t We Wear Black Clothes?
There’s no specific reason why you shouldn’t wear black clothes. However, some people think that black has a blocking effect and suppresses your energy.
Moreover, many think that when you’re wearing black, you’re sending the world the message: “Don’t disturb me. Leave me alone.” It’s like you want to camouflage yourself and be invisible.
And last but not least, some people associate black with negativity and depression. For instance, a person wearing all black most of the time may be perceived as negative or depressed.
There’s nothing quite like falling in love. Nothing as intense, as consuming. That rush of emotions, that detachment from reality.
Love can take many forms. It can hide around every corner, driven by passion, attraction, and chemistry, or it can be fleeting like summer rain.
Love can shift into a habit. It can happen at a later stage or it can happen very early on in our lives.
These are all but forms of love, each of which prepares us for that ultimate, life-changing, life-altering – love.
To reach that ultimate, cathartic love, the one that many refer to as a lifetime love, we have to go through love’s stages, and everyone who hasn’t had the luck to fall in love with the right person from the start has lived to have three types of love: the first one that makes us do foolish things, the second one that makes us work hard for it, and the third one that doesn’t need a special reason to succeed. This is the so-called The Three Loves Theory! If you are seeking guidance on love and relationships, including support through the different stages of love, you can get help from Nebula’s experienced psychics. Get a psychic reading and learn how to navigate the three types of love – from the foolish first love to the enduring third love. (1)
3 Loves in Life – The Three Loves Theory
The First Love
This is the love you would die for. This love is romantic, even dramatic at times. You think this is the love that would last forever, no matter how many people are against it or what comes on your way. You would do anything to save it.
According to the 3 Loves in Life Theory, in this relationship, even your own principles become unimportant because you are certain that this is it until you grow up. You have found love and you’re not giving up on it. Then there is the type of love that makes you grow.
The Second Love
Out of the three loves in life, this one makes you learn more about yourself than the other person in the relationship. You realize that you want to have someone by your side whom you can trust and who you can love. But you learn this the hard way – often through heartache and dishonesty.
In this love, both of you make mistakes and forgive. This is repeated again and again, sometimes for years until you get tired and give up, no matter how much effort you have put into it.
This love is passionate, but also dramatic and that’s why you have kept waiting for the happy end. But somehow, the end is always worse than you expected.
This experience made you stronger, but it also brought you back to reality and made you realize that love doesn’t always have a happy ending. It made you realize that love is not always Cloud 9, rather, it’s a lesson that old habits die hard and that you can’t force love because you’ll be spinning in circles.
The Third Love
Is the one that comes in the time when you want it and expect it the least.
It’s the love that happens out of the blue and that makes you do everything you have said you would never do. You didn’t plan for this love and that’s what makes it even stronger and more passionate.
It’s the love that just seems right. In everything – the connection you have, the support they provide for you, the way they make you smile… You don’t have to act perfectly in front of this person – the way you are is enough. They accept you with all your flaws.
You never imagined you would be with this type of person, but you’re happy and you wouldn’t change them.
You learned that love isn’t always how we imagine it and that’s okay. You don’t have to wait for the happy end now because at the end of every day you fall asleep happy since you’re with them.
Some people meet the perfect person early and don’t experience all of these loves. Others aren’t ready for the right love and miss it, only to find someone who is a perfect fit for them later.
And there are some who needed to experience the same type of love several times because they have hoped that every new relationship is different from all the others.
We cannot know who is the luckiest one. Whether it’s better to find the perfect love from the start or to have all of the three types of love in your lifetime. But it’s true that people who have had the three loves are stronger.
They know what heartache is, and they have learned what it is to try and fail. Their relationships have made them fearless in love and in life.
It all comes down to our choices – if we decide to keep looking for what we want or not. It’s your choice if you will stay with your first or second love because of what other people might say or because of the effort you have already put.
But only the people who were brave enough to get to the third love know if it was worth it. And it often is because it’s this love that never tires you and shows you what was wrong with the other two.
Out of the three types of love, THIS is the love that doesn’t ask for hard work, but it gives you everything you have always wanted. It’s the love that just fits. It’s the love that stays forever.
What’s the best gifts for the one you love
Caring about what your loved one cares about shows how much your love means to you. However, we may worry that a normal gift will cost too much or be too ordinary to express your love. It’s suggested to make some customized products.
Personalized lapel pin: Unique custom pins are inexpensive, but high quality, creative and innovative. Pin the pins on the clothes, that is the closest place to centrifugal, to convey your love from time to time.
Challenge coins custom: Custom challenge coins express honor in eternity, as does the relationship between you and your loved one. You can turn a group photo, name, and date into a challenge coin.
How Long Does It Take To Fall In Love
We all have three loves in life, and many have experienced them all.
What Is love?
Is it just a chemical reaction of the brain and then when it wears off, it’s just an old, worn-off habit?
Or is it an emotion that defines who we are and what decisions we make in life, infinitely connected to that one soul that moves and understands ours?
I guess love is all those things at a different stage and with a different intensity. Sometimes it’s that rush of intensity at irregular intervals, and sometimes it’s a constant inflow of feelings towards a person that makes you a better version of yourself.
You feel the beginning of something; you are just still unable to put it in words and explain it. That’s because you are confused. It’s new. You are clueless.
You want to deny that you are beginning to feel something. It’s just an infatuation, you think. But how long before it turns into something bigger, larger, more significant?
How Long Does It Take For Those Real Feelings To Start Kicking In?
It depends on many factors. The issue is not in how quickly or intensely you feel those emotions, it’s in recognizing whether those feels are the real deal, not just pure physical attraction and desire, which can feel very much like true love at the very beginning.
What Factors Come Into Play When Dealing With Matters Of The Heart?
Your Relationship History
People are as good as their experiences, right? People who’ve been hurt in the past are not likely to dive into new relationships very fast, nor be willing to meet new people.
People who have never been in a relationship are also less likely to fall in love quickly. This is similar to people who don’t want to be in a relationship. They may be reluctant to give someone a chance even if they are interested because a relationship would not go in line with their current goals.
People who’ve suffered infidelity, are specifically hard to fall in love. They have trouble trusting people for one, and they are more likely to not open up in front of someone they just met and in hopes of protecting themselves from feeling pain again, they push the other person away.
A lot of our past burdens pre-determine our behavior and extend the time we need to fall in love.
Age.
This is very much connected to your relationship history. The older a person, the longer it takes to fall in love.
You probably think you already went through all three loves in life, and you are now disappointed. Or maybe it was the ego that broke the deal.
Or maybe that third, final love hasn’t still knocked on your door yet and as time goes by, you just don’t know it yet.
You have your guard up; you are on to people’s true intentions and you are tired of playing games. This too influences how long will it take you to fall in love. After all, you are wiser, better at reading people, and tired of playing that hot and cold game.
Gender.
While we just need an hour of alone time with literally anyone to feel attraction, research also states that it takes very little time to fall in love.
A survey by Mail Online found that men take an average of 88 days to utter those 3 words, while women will take a little longer – 134 days.
This is to say that when a new relationship kicks off, men fall in love potentially sooner than women when they are in love.
Women, for the fear of being played, usually take longer to let their guards down and to admit it to themselves.
Most people think of saying the words I love you long before they actually say them, but deep down in them, they also feel the urge to confess their burning feels.
Your Personality Mindset
Being eager to find a partner will make you more open to meeting new people and giving them a chance.
People who want to be in a relationship will likely fall in love faster than those who cherish individuality. Some people are just not afraid to be single; they are unconfined by the norms of society.
Similarly, people who’ve had a tough childhood and are children of divorced parents may not be as eager to let a new person in.
They are more prone to focusing on flaws and imperfections, so much so that their shield from the outer world will prevent them from falling in love effortlessly, without much inspection or analysis.
Similar worldviews.
Even if someone catches our attention, if they are not in line with our visions, goals, and passions, that infatuation will be short-lived.
Apart from having a positive mindset and an overlapping timing where both of you are ready for a relationship, similar worldviews are also very important.
In fact, they are the makers and the breakers of a bond like a seed you plant in the soil. You plant it so when the time comes, you can reap the crops and enjoy their juicy taste, right? But to reap delicious crops, you first need to plant good seeds.
It’s the same with worldviews.
A Mix And Match
Physical attractions, temporal chemistry that makes us feel like we’ve never been hit by Cupid’s arrow as hard as up til now, and the brain’s firing of neurochemicals can sometimes trick us into thinking we’ve fallen in love for someone.
But those are merely tricks our brain pulls on us when bored.
The truth about love is broken down into a trifocal. You fall in love three times. Our three loves in life teach us what we need to know about love before we settle down. It’s a universal truth.
Our experiences for love and the three loves theory may be radically different, but they all boil down to that crazy love that makes you lose your sanity, the one that teaches you a lesson for a lifetime, and the one that heels you and sets your soul at peace.
Now, the average time it takes to fall in love varies from person to person.
Love is intrinsic, personal, and subjective, hence it’s difficult to measure scientifically. For some, falling in love will take days, years, for others.
It’s a matter of right timings and positive attitudes. It’s a matter of letting go of the past that holds you in its claws, and a matter of admitting to ourselves that what we feel is genuine and won’t go away.
Love is a matter of hormones playing twist in our head and a matter of habits that make us feel safe, accepted, and loved, but mostly, it’s a combination of factors that happened to overlap.
It is inevitable that the time necessary to fall in love, although a phenomenon that to this day mystifies neuroscientists, will vary from person to person because we all have different life paths that determine our understanding of love and how we approach relationships.
Dear men, here’s an important thing you need to know about women regarding love and relationships: Women don’t believe in mediocre love. They don’t believe in hiding and suppressing their feelings. That’s why they always choose to show them.
Therefore, know that when a woman is angry with you, it means that she cares about you. When she gets a little bit jealous, it’s because she fears she might lose you.
When a woman is truly in love, she won’t pick a fight with her man if he doesn’t mean anything to her. She won’t raise her voice at him if she doesn’t feel anything for him. (1)
When a Woman Goes Silent!
Therefore, don’t worry when she is angry with you. Don’t worry when she starts a fight with you. Don’t worry when she yells at you.
Don’t worry when she bombards you with questions, asking you to tell her where you’re going or who you’re going to hang out with. Don’t worry when she doubts you. Don’t worry when she gets jealous. Don’t worry when she blames you.
Don’t worrywhen she cries silently in bed at night because of something you said or did.
This is too confusing for you, isn’t it?
But it shouldn’t be. Because when you experience the above-mentioned situations, know that you’re with a woman who loves and cares about you.
Worry when she goes silent. Worry when you notice that she doesn’t pick fights with you anymore. Worry when you no longer receive messages in which she begs you to talk to her. Worry when she no longer bothers to solve your relationship problems. Worry when she stops trying.
Worry when she sees that you sent her a message and she doesn’t bother to text you back right away.
Worry when she remains indifferent when you say or do things that would offend her or hurt her feelings otherwise.
Worry when she doesn’t even have a tear left inside of her. Worry when she no longer wears her heart on her sleeve.
Worry when she doesn’t react when she catches you flirting with another woman. Worry when she no longer asks you to tell her where you’re going. Worry when you notice she no longer reacts or cries.
Be Worried When She Stops Caring
Worry when she doesn’t care to fix your relationship problems anymore. Worry when she no longer gets angry and yells at you. Worry when she goes silent. Why?
Why Does A Woman Stop Arguing With You?
Because when she goes silent, it means you aren’t worth her anger anymore. It means your words and actions don’t mean anything to her anymore.
When she goes silent, it is clear that the flame once lit in her heart no longer burns.
When she goes silent, it means that she is putting an end to your relationship. It means she is giving up on you. It means she’s finally letting go of you. It means you’re no longer worth her efforts.
Because when a woman is truly in love, she tries hard until the very end. She fights for you. She invests all of her energy in nurturing your relationship and being there for you.
But, once she stops giving you chances to put right your mistakes, once she stops trying and fighting for you, once she goes silent, know that there is no turning back. Nothing you say or do will make her change her mind.
Therefore, don’t worry when she gets angry with you and fights with you. Instead, worry when she goes silent since her silence is more dangerous than her sarcastic comments, emotional outbursts, and angry reactions. Her silence is scarier than her words. Her silence is a sign that she is no longer afraid to let go of you. (2)
What Does A Man Think When A Woman Goes Silent?
The first thought that probably pops into your head when a woman goes silent is that she is giving you the silent treatment because she’s trying to control and manipulate you. But you’re wrong.
A smart, confident, and strong woman doesn’t have time to play such games. When you’re faced with a problem in your relationship, and you want to talk to her about it, she won’t ignore you. She won’t act like you’re invisible or unimportant. She won’t sweep the problem under the carpet. Instead, she’ll lay all her cards on the table and tell you what she thinks about it honestly and openly.
She’ll also tell you what’s bothering her. Perhaps it’s something that you did. Perhaps it’s something you said that hurt her feelings. She won’t keep quiet. She’ll tell you how she’s feeling. She’ll let you know she’s hurt.
A woman also goes silent in a relationship when she’s had enough of your fights and misunderstandings. When she’s had enough of your empty promises, flimsy excuses, and lies.
A woman goes silent in a relationship when she’s tired of arguing about the same things over and over again. When she’s tired of letting you prove yourself right and make her a scapegoat for your mistakes and failures.
When a woman goes silent, it’s because she thinks her opinions no longer mean to you. She thinks her feelings, needs, and desires are last on your list of priorities. She thinks that when she’s talking to you, you don’t truly listen to her.
When a woman goes silent, it’s because she needs to spend some time alone. She needs time to process her emotions, reorder her priorities, reconnect with herself, and think about what you can do together to resolve your problems.
Yes, when a woman goes silent in a relationship, it’s because all of these things, not because she’s giving you the silent treatment.
What To Do When She Goes Silent On You?
It can be upsetting and frustrating when a woman goes silent on you. The first thing you’ll probably do is berate her for her behavior, or maybe even go silent on her too. But this is wrong as it’ll only make the situation worse and create a further divide. In what follows, we’ve explained what you should do when a woman goes silent on you to get her to talk to you again without hurting her feelings.
1.Try To Understand Why She Went Silent On You
Try to understand why she’s upset. Perhaps you made her feel unheard. Perhaps you said something that hurt her feelings. Perhaps you behaved in a way that made her think that you prioritized your feelings, opinions, needs, and desires over her own.
If you can’t figure out the reason on your own, ask her directly why she’s upset with you. In this way, you’ll show her that you really care about how she feels.
2. Say “I’m Sorry” If You Hurt Her
If you’ve figured out how you may have upset her, apologize to her genuinely. Let her know you’re aware of your mistake and you’re truly sorry for it.
However, make sure your apology doesn’t only contain the words “I’m sorry.” Instead, try to explain why you behaved the way you did and say that you accept responsibility for your behavior. She may not forgive you right away, but she’ll greatly appreciate that genuine apology.
3. Don’t Berate Her
Don’t respond to her silent treatment by being angry with her and criticizing her. If you behave in this way, you may cause additional, unnecessary problems in your relationship, and you may make her become angrier with you.
If you feel like you’re too overwhelmed by resentment and anger, don’t approach her until you calm down. And when you do, you can try to talk to her to find out what the problem between the two of you is and ask if there’s anything you can do to fix the situation.
How Do You Know A Woman Is Done With You?
Women are not afraid to sacrifice their time, energy, and needs to fix things with the man they love. They’re willing to do anything in their power to protect their relationship. But, once a woman realizes that you’re no longer worth her time, energy, attention, and love, she’ll walk away. Because when a woman is done, she’s really done, and nothing you do will make her change her mind.
So, how do you know a woman is done with you?
In what follows, we’ve presented 30 signs that a woman doesn’t want you in her life anymore.
She no longer flirts with you.
She told you that she doesn’t have any feelings for you anymore.
She is taking you for granted.
She doesn’t answer you calls and text you back.
She doesn’t want you to text her, call her, or try to get her attention in any other way.
She doesn’t share details of her life with you anymore, such as how she spent the day, who she was with, or her plans for the weekend.
She talks less with you.
She no longer seems interested in your opinions and feelings.
Things she liked about you have started annoying her.
There’s no romance in your relationship anymore.
She no longer argues with you.
She no longer makes an effort to make things work between you.
She doesn’t care about your needs, desires, or what is important to you anymore.
She doesn’t seem interested in solving your relationship problems with you.
She’s less tolerant of your differences.
She keeps secrets from you.
She doesn’t kiss or hug you as often as she used to.
She doesn’t give you compliments anymore.
She often compares you to other guys.
She often disrespects you.
She spends more time with her friends than with you.
She focuses more on her career than you.
She kicked you off of her Facebook and Instagram profiles.
She doesn’t get jealous anymore.
You’ve stopped being intimate.
She is indifferent to you.
She no longer includes you in her future plans.
She seems unhappy around you.
She is dating someone else.
How Do You Know If She’s Coming Back?
If you recently broke up with your girlfriend and are wondering if she’s going to come back, know that getting an ex-girlfriend back is not easy. It takes patience and time. And it can be a long process. Fortunately, there are ways you can tell she is coming back, and we’ve presented some of them in what follows.
Her friends or family tell you that she feels bad about the breakup and misses you.
She lets you know that she thinks the breakup was a mistake and wishes your relationship didn’t end.
She hasn’t cut off contact with your friends or family yet. She still calls them, texts them, and hangs out with them.
Or maybe she still hasn’t cut off contact with you either. Whether she still texts you or just comments and likes your photos on Facebook or Instagram, being in touch with you may be a sign that she’s still not over you.
She makes excuses to see or talk to you in public.
You’ve already broken up with her once, and she came back. There’s a good chance she’ll do the same again.
Instead of waiting for her to come back, you’ve decided to take steps to get her back.
The good times outnumber the bad times in your relationship, which means her mind is filled with fond, pleasant memories.
She’s not dating someone new.
It wasn’t her who put an end to the relationship. It was you. If she didn’t want to end things at the time, chances are she still wants to be with you.
How Do You Know She Has Moved On?
Breakups can be hard and painful. But do you know what is even harder and more painful?
It’s the realization that she’s moved on while you’re still struggling with pain after the breakup and wishing she would come back. So, the question is: How can you tell for sure that she’s moved on?
In what follows, we’ve presented 11 signs your ex-girlfriend is totally over you and has moved on.
She cut off contact with you, including your friends and family.
She no longer calls you or texts you.
She blocked you on social media.
She told you that she’s over you.
She told you to find someone better when you broke up.
Your mutual friends told you that her feelings are gone.
She avoids going to places where she could bump into you in public.
She wouldn’t care if you are dating again.
She took all her stuff back and returned all of yours.
While we like to think that we know what evil is, true evil is much more intelligent and will often seem like it is not there. People are essentially good – whatever they are, there will always be some good in them.
No matter how much we wish to see the good in everyone, some will be ready to use whatever good is left in them for a sinister purpose. These people are genuinely evil, and this is something they enjoy.
12 Signs Of An Evil Person:
1. Denying reality
The truth you know it to be as such is not something they will agree upon. These people know a different truth, and they will never agree with the reality that really is. And this is not a difference of subtle differences – this is facts versus their twisted ideals and interpretations.
2. Twisting facts
The secret of their trade lies in their ability to twist any fact that they come across. That is, any fact that does not agree with their goals and the manipulative reality they are trying to impose. They are ready to take things out of context, glue them to other things taken out of context until they create ‘alternative’ facts that align with their purpose.
3. Withholding information
If they believe that something will compromise the identity they are trying to create; they are ready to withhold any relevant information about that. “I didn’t lie! Not saying anything about it isn’t lying.”
Of course, lying or not, they keep this information from the others and use their ignorance of the situation to their ends. And if you find out? Not only will they twist the truth and spice things up, but they will even make you feel guilty of not trusting them.
4. Misleading people
If they find it suitable, they will use some truth to twist it in such a misleading way that you will feel afraid, vulnerable, attacked, hated, or incompetent. They know how to pick the right words to evoke any emotion they intend to create in you.
In the end, you will start believing in the information the way they presented it. They can create enemies in your mind using simple words; they can make you feel like you are doing everything wrong – words are their weapon, and they know how to handle it nicely.
5. Lying constantly
Their form of ‘sincerity’ is one wrapped up in silver-tongued lies. Lying is their way of expressing themselves. They cannot construct a thought in their head without thinking of how something juicy could also be included too.
They lie to gain something out of it, and they lie for the pleasure of fooling those around them. And each time you catch them in a lie, they will tell you a dozen more to cover it up. They will ‘sincerely’ explain to you why they were forced to lie about it, and you might even start feeling sorry for them.
6. Remorselessness
These people will not feel sorry for anyone they have destroyed, are destroying, or plan to destroy. They see people as pawns in their game, and they consider the best people to be the best pawns. If they spot the good in you, they will use that good to work for them, and they will treat you like garbage in the process.
They do not feel sorry for good people, and they see an opportunity in every weakness they expose. It is because they simply enjoy other people’s pain and they do not see a reason why those people should not experience such pain.
7. Avoiding responsibility
Evil people do not have a moral compass. They do as they please and they will never feel responsible for the pain they have caused. If they sense that some sort of blame is going to hit them, they start redirecting it even before it gets to them.
They toss their blame onto others, and they do not know the meaning of an apology. They find apologizing to be a virtue of the weak, and they know how to get an apology from anyone they have harmed. In the end, you apologize for their mistakes. Isn’t that convenient?
8. Manipulating
They are masters of manipulation. They know how to plan ten steps ahead, and they always know the purpose of their manipulation.
If they want to, they will make you feel stupid, they will make you do the things they are not competent at doing, and they know how to take all the credit afterward, leaving you feeling that you were not competent enough to do what you did (although you already did it well).
9. Fair-weather friends
If such a person comes to your aid, know that they have done it for a purpose that involves them in the end. In other cases, they will be around when things go well, and they will disappear when things go sour.
You should not expect support from these people. If you get support, know that you are being played and that you will end up being the pawn in their well-devised game. They do not see a reason why they should be there for you if there is nothing in it for them.
10. Stealing your time
If they know that you have some kind of deadline or other important events with close people and family, they will subtly get under your skin and make you lose track of time. They do not want you to be better than them in any way, so do not expect to be good when they are around to ruin that expectation.
They know exactly when to show up and mess up your plans. In the end, they will even put on a concerned face and watch you lose your mind as things start spiraling down. Time is a very important asset, and they are well aware of it.
11. Leading double lives
These people will never reveal their true lives to you. And saying that they lead double lives is an underestimated expression when they come into question. They lead a hundred lives – each life more different than the rest.
They are different with every person, and they have a well-devised history to tell that would accompany the image they are trying to portray. The common thing about all of them is that nobody really knows their true essence or past.
12. Control freaks
Of course, to hold everything together, they have to be in complete control over the situation. They will easily get possessive and controlling if they see that someone else is trying to earn your trust and be a genuine friend.
The control they have over others is how they can feed off them. If they lose this control, they lose their precious pawns. It is very simple, really. And it all becomes very evident once they start losing control.
Everybody can possess one or some of these characteristics. However, put them together, and you are dealing with someone who is truly evil (1). Do not expect from them to change for you, as you mean nothing to them.
And if you love yourself enough, you should definitely break free from their control and manipulation and go on living your life surrounded by genuine and sincere people. Nobody is perfect, and if someone is trying to look perfect, they have something they are hiding beneath.
Signs you should stay away from someone:
1. You find yourself complaining about them constantly
Complaining about them has become a hobby for you. You find yourself constantly complaining about them and the way they treat you to your family and friends. Well, this is a sign that you may be dealing with a bad person. And even though you can’t stand them, you feel so consumed by them and their toxicity that you can’t get them out of your mind. Stop giving them so much power!
2. You are losing control of your emotions
An evil guy or girl can really make you lose control over yourself and your emotions. And even if you don’t react to their snide comments and ill-treatment of you, you will lose sleep repeating the scene over and over in your head and getting mad at yourself for not saying the things that you wanted to say. You start feeling like you are losing control because you cannot control your emotions of sudden anger, rage, frustration, and sadness.
3. Your self-esteem is ruined
Every person who is dealing with an evil guy or girl has one thing in common – a lowered or ruined self-esteem. Wicked people have the power to make anyone feel bad about themselves. They do that because they want to be in control. They want to be dominant. That’s their food. An evil person will belittle you, call you names, and insult you to lower your confidence and make you feel unworthy of anything because when other people are feeling so low, they feel like a God.
4. You are scared of spending time with them
If the thought of meeting them gives you chills down your spine, or you feel dreadful having to spend time with them, then they are most definitely a bad person. Wicked people make any encounter a traumatic experience. Afterward, you feel drained and worthless because they have managed to eat away your positivity and self-confidence.
5. You stoop to their toxic level
If you ever felt so drained and exhausted from dealing with a certain person that you even tried stooping to their level of negativity and evilness only to find your peace, you are not alone. Many people have made the mistake of lowering themselves to the level of an evil person. This is a huge red flag that you must stay away from them in order to find the peace you need.
6. You have developed unhealthy habits
Everyone has their own style of dealing with pain. And when someone is constantly putting you down and breaking your heart, then you have probably developed some habits that are bad for you, such as excessive eating or drinking. You may find some relief in those things, but the best medicine for your broken heart is staying away from the evil person that harms you.
7. Your relationships with other people get severely damaged
Have you found yourself in a situation where after spending time with an evil person and absorbing their negativity, you go home and start yelling at your husband and your kids for no reason? Or, you get annoyed at your parents or your close friend, and you lash out at them. This misplaced anger will damage the relationships you have with other people who love you and care about you. Stop for a moment and ask yourself: Who really made you angry?
8. You lack healthy boundaries
Wicked people make it extremely hard for us to set healthy boundaries. That’s why our relationship with them is a power struggle, and they are always the winner. They will lie to you, manipulate you, belittle you, and take you for granted only to prove to themselves and you that they are better than you and that they have more power over you.
9. You feel guilty about everything bad that happens in the relationship
This is probably the most important sign since it is so commonly used by evil people. If you feel like you are always the one to blame for everything that goes wrong in the relationship, then you are dealing with a manipulative, evil person. When you feel like a scapegoat for all their issues, then you better get out of the relationship fast because your physical, mental, and emotional health is in serious trouble.
10. You feel taken for granted
Wicked people are master manipulators. They only take and take and take without giving anything in return. The word ‘reciprocate’ is not in their vocabulary. They take people for granted and use them for their convenience. And when they no longer have a benefit from them, they toss it away like a piece of garbage. That’s how evil and manipulative these people are.
11. You feel ridiculed and unworthy
An evil person will do everything to belittle you so that they can feel ‘above’ you. They will ridicule your opinions, mock your appearance, and throw insults at you constantly. With time, you will start feeling unworthy of anything good, and you may even start feeling ‘lucky’ that they are putting up with you. How wicked is that?
12. You are not happy with them
If you are not happy when you are with someone, then you know what to do. You should never undermine yourself to the point of sacrificing your happiness and your well-being for the sake of staying with someone who mistreats you. You should never accept their toxic treatment of you. You are better by yourself.
Let them go because if you don’t protect yourself, no one else will. If you don’t have boundaries, everyone can hurt you. You deserve better than someone who breaks your heart on a daily basis.
What does evil mean?
Evil people are ready to walk over corpses with no remorse, and they do not pick favorites. If you get in their path, be ready to be used, manipulated, and thrown away like trash without any second thoughts.
The worst is our nature to try and see the good in everyone can often make us blind to the evil that permeates from them. So, how to be sure that a person is worth having around? What does it really mean to be evil?
Spot them in someone, and you can be sure that whatever good is left in them, they will use for their ends, and if necessary, they will use that good against you.
How to deal with an evil person?
1. Get Angry
This is probably counter-intuitive but if you want to disarm an evil person – get angry with them. Because anger is a powerful emotion that if it is properly distributed can really change your life for the better. You can use the power of anger to make the changes necessary to walk away from the evil person and drastically improve your life.
2. Distance yourself
Distance yourself from people who are bad for you. Protect your energy because an evil person will try to eat away at your positivity and fill you only with negative thoughts and a bleak vision of reality. Don’t let their toxicity get to you.
3. Don’t try to fight them
Evil people may try to involve you in unnecessary drama. They may intentionally hurt you only to watch you in pain because that is what satisfies them and strokes their ego. And when you do fight back, to them, it means that they have managed to get to you. That’s why you shouldn’t accept their invitation to fight.
4. Rise above them
Don’t get sucked into their level. Rise above their evil ways. Don’t let their bad treatment of you define you and diminish your self-worth. Get away from them, physically and emotionally. Don’t let them drag you down. Don’t entertain their devilish and immature ways. You are better than that.
5. Stay in control of your emotions
Practice mindfulness. Meditate. Do anything you can to get hold of your feelings because they are your weapon against them. Don’t let them push your buttons and make you angry. Stay in control of yourself and your emotions by rationally dealing with them.
6. Set clear boundaries
If the evil person is your work colleague or a family member, then you can always protect yourself by setting clear boundaries by limiting your contact with them to a minimum.
7. Don’t let anyone steal your happiness
You and only you are responsible for your happiness. No one else. Therefore, don’t allow toxic people to ruin your day. You are in charge of your life, and you should make the best of it.
Every person has a divine protector, a spirit guide that watches over them. They are made by God and their purpose is to bring love, peace and serenity to all humanity. We can call our guardian angels in times of need through prayer and we can rest assured that they will help us surpass the difficult time. (1)
When we call for a specific Archangel for help, it is like we are asking God to help us since Archangels are God’s appointed helpers and messengers of His word and His divine power. In God’s name, the Archangels will answer our prayers if we ask them for help.
The Archangels have the vital job of protecting humankind and making life on Earth a safe and pleasant space to live in. They all have different roles and they are all connected so that they can offer help to anyone who calls them in prayer. (2)
The Archangels always come into our life with deep understanding, compassion, acceptance, and love. They work for God and they obey Him and His commands. That’s why their name always finishes with ‘El’ which means “of God.”
The Archangels are never exhausted. They can also exist at many places at a time thus helping as many people needing their help as they can. Archangels love us and they want to assist us with their guidance throughout our life. They want us to call them. They want to be close to us. They want to protect us.
Is there a difference between Angels and Archangels?
Angels are pure and perfect incorporeal beings. They are God’s creation with the purpose of serving Him and His people and being His messengers. They represent God’s image and are always ready to help those in need. They listen to God’s word and obey Him always. They are the truest and most faithful executors of Him and His commands. Angels are spirits that exist for God only but are also very close to humans since they help them to practice God’s will.
The Archangels, on the other hand, are also angels but of a higher rank. Their duties are very similar to those of angels, however, what is required of them is more glorified and important. All their names end with ‘EL’ which means ‘of God. They carry God’s name in their name thus remaining close to Him and protecting His image. Moreover, every Archangel comes with a different mission.
Angels and archangels are present in every religion – they aren’t restricted by the bounds of religions and transcend the differences between them. Angels are considered genderless, and the names that were given to them bear a meaning and frequency that can best describe their nature.
Every number has its own vibration, and each archangel governs over one or more of the frequencies that correspond to the numerological system. To discover which archangel governs over your number (and thus protects you), you first need to calculate your numerology number using your date of birth.
For example, I am born on 31.07.1991, which means that I need to reduce this number sequence to a single number (or leave it at a cardinal number).
Simply put, 3+1+0+7+1+9+9+1 = 31, and 3+1 = 4. So my number is 4, making Archangel Haniel my guardian archangel.
If you get numbers 11, 22, 33, and 44, don’t reduce them, as they are the master numbers in numerology.
Once you have calculated your life path number, read below to see which archangel reigns over that number and what this means for you.
9 Archangels Names And Their Meanings:
Archangel Raguel (The Divine Peacekeeper of Synchronicity) – Number 1
This archangel’s name means “The Friend of God,” and Archangel Raguel is responsible for acting God’s will and introducing it into human relationships. This archangel helps in creating peace in the interaction between people, and with the interaction of the person with oneself.
Archangel Raguel has the role of peacemaker for people in Heaven and on Earth. It brings harmony and balance to the world. This Archangel reminds us that we need to help each other because we are all divinely connected and so we need to get close to one another instead of growing apart.
Moreover, Archangel Raguel collaborates with all the other Archangels in order to establish synchronicity between the natural world and all of humanity. This Archangel wears a white robe and carries a big book in their hand which has the Akashic records written on it i.e. it has all the information about the past, present, and future of every being in this world.
In animal form, this Archangel appears as an opossum, mouse, skunk, groundhog, and raccoon. The opossum is a symbol of the nurturing of the family, the mouse symbolizes productivity in silence, the groundhog is always looking deeper for answers, and the raccoon and the skunk represent the cleanup crew. Ants and bees are also symbols of this Archangel since they mean working harmonically together.
When you are dealing with situations that are out of order, and you have perplexed thoughts, call this Archangel to assist you in restoring the balance in your life and get things in order. Archangel Raguel will always bring to you the positivity and the harmony you need when dealing with the hardships of life.
Archangel Uriel (The Divine Pillar of Solitary Strength) – Numbers 2 & 11
This archangel’s name means “God Is My Light,” and Archangel Uriel is associated with wisdom and truth. This archangel can help in bringing knowledge, wisdom, and light into the dark, release painful memories, and turn disappointment into victory.
Archangel Uriel appears in human form as a hermit, dressed in white with wings while carrying a lantern to light the way to every being. In animal form, this Archangel appears as a bluebird or a blue jay. This Archangel helps us deal with the loneliness that everyone gets to experience once in a while. It teaches us how to be alone without feeling lonely. It makes us appreciate our own company and love ourselves.
If you find yourself feeling sad and alone, or if someone you know is dealing with feelings of loneliness, call on this Archangel for help and guidance. This Archangel will remind you how wonderful you are and will show you all the goodness of your soul so that you can find the treasure within yourself.
Moreover, you can call on this Archangel to provide you with the answers you seek. It will deliver them to you through epiphanies, automatic writing, meditation, or a spirit that will communicate the answers to you. And if you see a bluebird or a blue jay, it is a sign from the Archangel to look more clearly at the situation you have at hand and choose another path in order to guide you toward a brighter future.
Archangel Jophiel (The Great Giver of Joy) – Number 3
This archangel’s name means “Beauty of God,” and Archangel Jophiel is the angel of beauty – not just physical beauty, mind you. This archangel’s mission is to bring beauty to the lives of people, the beauty of thought, feelings, the home, and the Self.
Archangel Jophiel brings positivity, healing, joy, love, and transformation. In human form, it is represented clothed in a fine robe of both deep and light pink with wings and carrying a jeweled scepter in its hand. In animal form, it appears as a heron, meaning living and enjoying life by going to great heights and listening to your inner voice.
Archangel Jophiel will encourage you to focus only on the positive aspects of life. This Archangel will inspire you to raise your energy levels so that you can attract more positivity toward you. With the help of this Archangel, you can become a magnet for receiving only good and beautiful things. You will get all the things your soul is yearning for. You will also be inspired to give and receive unconditional love and form deeper bonds with the people in your life.
Call this Archangel whenever you want to attract love, happiness, and positivity into your life.
Archangel Haniel (The Divine Healer of Families and Relationships) – Numbers 4 & 22
This archangel’s name means “The Joy of God” or “The Grace of God,” and Archangel Haniel is the channel between us and God, providing patronage to those who are searching for enlightenment. This archangel brings sensitivity, love, and joy, illuminating our souls when fear, stress, and worries try to take over.
This Archangel will also help you mend the broken bonds with your family and friends. It will heal every broken relationship you have with other people. In human form, this Archangel appears dressed in light blue carrying wings and it has a gold chained necklace around its neck which is a symbol of how we are all connected to each other. In animal form, this Archangel appears as a turtle which highlights relationships and the healing process in regard to abandonment issues.
Call on Archangel Haniel whenever you want to repair the relationships between your family, friends, or romantic relationships. Archangel Haniel will bring to you the healing energy you need to mend your broken hearts and trust and start interacting with each other again.
Archangel Jeremiel (The Divine Deliverer of Mercy and Grace) – Number 5
This archangel’s name means “The Mercy of God,” and Archangel Jeremiel is associated with prophetic visions, psychic dreams, and life reviews. This archangel helps the souls of the living and the dead to receive insight into their actions and learn from their mistakes.
Archangel Jeremiel cleanses our souls spiritually through increasing our faith, inspiring us to have mercy, and easing our difficult and troublesome situations.
In human form, this Archangel appears wearing a deep emerald robe with silver and gold ornaments and carrying wings. In animal form, Archangel Jeremiel appears as a puma, leopard, or cheetah i.e someone who protects its territory and accomplishing its goals with great confidence and incredible speed. Archangel Jeremiel may also appear as an owl thus symbolizing wisdom, impeccable hearing and sight, and great attention to detail.
When you call on this Archangel, it will transform your painful and heartbreaking situations into positive events and they will also provide you with all the lessons and knowledge you need to deal with that types of situations in the future.
Archangel Michael (The Great Defender and Protector)– Numbers 6 & 33
This archangel’s name means “Who Is Like God,” and Archangel Michael is the leader of heaven’s army of angels. This archangel is the primary dispeller of evil, negative and life-draining energies and protects the people from evil and misfortune.
Archangel Michael is the great defender and protector of every being and everything that is good on this planet. In human form, Archangel Michael appears dressed in a white robe with wings and this Archangel always carries a sword in its hand. In animal form, Archangel Michael appears as a falcon or a hawk which are birds of prey.
You can call on Archangel Michael whenever you need protection, courage, and strength. Archangel Michael will always have your back. It will always let you know and feel that you are loved, guided, and protected. Their mere presence is always powerful and reassuring, bringing you healing, optimism, and positive energy through love and truth.
Archangel Michael’s healing powers heal the body, mind, and spirit. They also heal a broken heart that is in pain from the loss of a loved one. This Archangel also heals depression, anxiety, physical ailments, addictions, loss of faith, and negative energy by cutting the toxic cords with people who are not good for them.
Archangel Raphael (The Divine Healer of Physical Ailments) – Number 7
This archangel’s name means “God Heals,” and Archangel Raphael is the healer in the angelic realm, helping with physical, mental, and spiritual problems. This archangel is seen as the guardian of humanity and the divine physician.
This Archangel is the main healer of all humankind and every being on this Earth. In human form, this Archangel appears with wings, it is dressed in white with its hands held at his chest level and his palms facing outward in order to bring healing. In animal form, Archangel Raphael appears as a deer or a wolf. The wolf has healing energies as well. The wolf cares for their young and it is fiercely protective of them. The wolf is loyal and it is able to bring healing to others.
The deer, on the other hand, is a gentle animal. Therefore, when Archangel Raphael takes the form of a deer it is a sign of deep healing occurring already, and also it is a reminder to us to be gentle and more loving with ourselves and with others who are going through a healing process.
Call on Archangel Raphael whenever you, or someone close to you, need healing on your physical body as well as your spirit.
Archangel Raziel (The Divine Keeper of Mysteries) – Numbers 8 & 44
This archangel’s name means “The Secret of God,” and Archangel Raziel is considered to be the one who is closest to God. This archangel is the patron of justice and protector of lawmakers, lawyers, and judges. Raziel holds the knowledge of the universe and can help one recall knowledge that has been accumulated over time.
Archangel Raziel is a divine gatekeeper of secret information. This Archangel rules the in-between space between the Earth and Heaven. It also governs dreams, the subconscious mind, visions, the gifts of being a medium, and so on.
In human form, this Archangel appears in a dazzling white light while holding in its hands a blazing ring-shaped in the number eight, commonly known as the symbol of eternity thus representing the infinite life of our souls.
In animal form, Archangel Raziel takes the form of any bird with white feathers symbolizing purity and beauty. Moreover, this Archangel may appear as a fish that symbolizes the world of dreams, and the fluidity of the communication between the Earth and Heaven.
Call on this Archangel whenever you are looking for an answer about a problem you are struggling with or when you need assistance for interpreting your dreams and visions. Archangel Michael will help you every time you are prepared to welcome the higher energies into your life and communicate with the spirit.
Archangel Ariel (The Great Earth Mother) – Number 9
This archangel’s name means “The Lion of God,” and Archangel Ariel is the patron of nature and all living beings in it, and the elements (fire, earth, water, air). This archangel is the protector and healer of the natural world and helps people to get closer to nature without destroying it.
Archangel Ariel watches over our planet and all its living beings. This Archangel’s divine healing powers embrace the natural world and heal it thus healing us as human species since the Earth provides us with all the things we need for our survival. This Archangel has the power for restoration and helps us to accept the cycles of love and loss, life and death while at the same time bringing great amounts of positive energy and balance to our lives.
In human form, this Archangel appears with wings, dressed in earth colors, and they always appear by animals and trees surrounding them. In animal form, Archangel Ariel appears in the form of ducks, geese, and swans which are all symbols of the soul’s emotional nature and the peace and serenity that can only be gained by having faith in the path we have chosen for ourselves.
Call on this Archangel when you need assistance with the healing and recovery from natural disasters. Archangel Ariel will always heal the plants and the animals and bring health and growth to every living being on Earth.
How To Call Upon Your Guardian Archangel?
You can always call your Archangel by a formal prayer, however, that isn’t necessary. You can speak with your Archangel as you speak with your best friend. You can be relaxed and use a conversational tone. However, it is worth noting that Archangels appear differently to different people because every person has a different energy and the Archangels appear to them following the color of the person’s energy.
Therefore, every person will have a different and unique experience when connecting with their Archangel. They can take a male or a female form because they are spiritual beings and they don’t have gender. That’s why they will take the form you are more comfortable with.
Now, if you’ve been wondering who your catholic guardian angel by birth date is, here’s some great news: We’ve got that covered in this article too.
There are 72 guardian angels in total for the 12 months of the year, and each one of them is characterized by various qualities. Also, there’s only one angel chosen by God for each of us to protect us and guide our steps in this life. The name of your guardian angel is determined by the date you were born.
So, without further ado, let’s answer this frequently asked question…
Who Is My Catholic Guardian Angel By Birth Date?
January 1 and 5: Nemamiah
Nemamiah is perceived as the symbol of general prosperity and good luck. This guardian angel is known for her generosity, determination, and kind-hearted nature. So, whenever you’re struggling to make a tough decision or wondering what direction to take in life, know she’ll be there to help you make the right decision and guide you in the right direction.
January 6 and 10: Yeialel
Yeialel is the symbol of honesty, patience, bravery, and mental strength. Having Yeialel as a guardian angel, people born between January 6th and January 10th will never lack mental clarity, mental strength, courage, and integrity.
January 11 and 15: Harael
This angel symbolizes wisdom. So, whether it’s practical knowledge, intellectual creativity, inspiration, or motivation, he’ll make sure you’re equipped with plenty of it to be productive in all areas of your life and accomplish your goals.
January 16 and 20: Mitzrael
This male angel is perceived as the symbol of freedom and change. He helps people born under his influence recognize and correct their mistakes so as to learn how to think and act better in the future.
January 21 and 25: Umabel
Having Umabel as a guardian angel can be very comforting. From providing support, guidance, and inner peace when you’re going through rough times in life to serving as a reminder of who your true friends are, he’ll always be there to guide every step you take.
January 26 and 30: Iah Hel
This male guardian angel brings a sense of fulfillment, happiness, and harmony in the relationships of those born between January 26th and January 30th. He also encourages them to engage in deep introspection, make wise decisions, and enjoy tranquility and solitude.
January 31 and February 4: Anauel
In addition to symbolizing health and courage, this guardian angel helps people born between January 31st and February 4th to build deep, honest, and successful relationships with others. Being distinguished with his intelligence and logic, Anauel is also great at helping people better understand and communicate with those who have different opinions and perspectives on life from them.
February 5 and 9: Mehiel
This guardian angel is the symbol of creativity. So, whether you feel like you lack motivation, inspiration, or imagination, be it in writing, painting, creating music, or editing, call upon this angel to provide you with it and any other artistic skill you may need to show your creativity.
February 10 and 14: Damabiah
Damabiah has feminine energy and helps those born between February 10th and February 14th find the source of their strength within themselves. This guardian angel also encourages them to cherish certain virtues, such as generosity, kindness, love, and altruism.
February 15 and 19: Manakel
Manakel symbolizes kindness, courage, relief, and altruism. He provides those born between February 15th and February 19th with the courage, willingness, and mental strength to conquer their fears and make wise decisions when faced with difficult choices.
February 20 and 24: Eyael
Eyael is the symbol of understanding and enlightenment. He provides those born between February 20th and February 24th with divine insight, a deeper understanding of their insecurities, fears, and problems, and inner healing so as to embark on a journey of personal enlightenment and achieve personal growth.
February 25 and 29: Habuhiah
Habuhiah is a powerful symbol of healing, fertility, and growth. This angel has a feminine energy and brings healing to those she protects no matter what illness they’re suffering from. She’s cherished for her ability to offer people good health and help them achieve emotional balance.
March 1 and 5: Rahel
Rahel, or Rochel, symbolizes justice and righteousness. People born under the protection of this male angel are sharp-minded and highly intuitive.
Additionally, Angel Rahel is known for his ability to help people find lost or stolen objects and modify negative energy.
March 6 and 10: Jabamiah
This angel has feminine energy and symbolizes regeneration. Jabamiah inspires transformation in those born under her protection and empowers them to control their instincts. She also helps them develop their emotional and artistic capabilities.
March 11 and 15: Haiaiel
This powerful angel symbolizes peace, courage, and victory. He helps those born under his protection overcome problems and adversities that life might throw at them, whether they be deep inner fears or physical threats. Additionally, Haiaiel is known for his ability to improve your decision-making and leadership skills.
March 16-20: Mumiah
This angel has feminine energy and symbolizes determination, perseverance, and success. She empowers those born under her protection to complete difficult tasks and push through rough times.
March 21 and 25: Vehuiah
If you were born under the influence of this guardian angel, you’re intelligent and have a passion for sciences and arts. Also, know that Vehuiah guides you through life by giving you the means to free yourself from limiting beliefs, deal with confusing situations, as well as carry out your projects or start working on new ones.
March 26 and 30: Jeliel
This angel symbolizes faithfulness and fertility. His presence in the life of those born under his protection is believed to bring joy, wisdom, serenity, love in all forms, and appreciation of pleasures.
March 31 and April 4: Sitael
Sitael symbolizes achievement and responsibility. He provides those born between March 31st and April 4th with the willingness and courage to face adversity and difficulties. He also empowers them to make choices on their own and take on more responsibility.
April 5 and 9: Elemiah
Elemiah is the symbol of protection. This angel has feminine energy and is known for her curiosity.
Elemiah helps people born under her protection identify their main career goals and be committed to those, and she also provides them with a sense of initiative.
April 10 and 14: Mahasiah
Mahasiah is the symbol of peace and harmony. Those born under the protection of this female angel enjoy the simple pleasures of life. Also, by allowing her guidance in their lives, they are able to find inner strength, peace, and tolerance.
April 15 and 20: Lelahel
Lelahel is the symbol of health and healing. In addition to looking after the health of those born under his protection, this guardian angel brings harmony, balance, and spiritual enlightenment to the lives of those who call upon him.
April 21 and 26: Achaiah
Achaiah symbolizes patience, wisdom, and humility. She encourages those who call upon her to be modest, calm, and gentle to others.
April 27 and 30: Cafetel
Cafetel, or Cahetel, symbolizes abundance and is known for providing divine blessings. He teaches us to be happy and satisfied with what we have. Also, people born under his protection appreciate nature and agricultural work.
May 1 and 5: Haziel
Haziel symbolizes forgiveness. He is the angel of unconditional love and compassion. He offers those who call upon him his forgiveness for all of their mistakes through the divine mercy. This male angel also teaches us that life is meaningless if we don’t share it with other people and treat others with compassion, love, and a pure heart.
May 6 and 10: Aladiah
This female angel symbolizes justice, forgiveness, and remorse. If you’ve done wrong, call upon Aladiah for forgiveness. She’ll help you recognize your mistakes and provide understanding and mercy.
Also, this angel is known for her healing powers. Namely, she can help us restore our physical and mental health.
May 11 and 15: Lauvuel
The name of this powerful angel means “Praised or Exalted God.” Lauvuel is the symbol of victory and wisdom. He teaches us about the importance of spiritual awakening, which also includes discovering and recognizing the special, hidden gifts we have inside.
May 16 and 21: Hahaiah
This female angel is the symbol of refuge and protection. She offers protection against adversities and other people’s negative attitudes and lies.
She encourages everyone to live a humble life and be wise, honest, loyal, and kind to others. Only in this way you’ll become a purer person.
May 22 and 26: Yezalel
This angel symbolizes unity. So, if you have problems in your relationships, whether romantic or otherwise, turn to Yezalel for help, as he brings affinity, harmony, and reconciliation.
He also teaches us the importance of having open communication with others so as to overcome difficult circumstances and avoid or resolve conflict.
May 27 and 31: Mebahel
This angel symbolizes justice and righteousness. He helps those born under his protection live freely, truthfully, and justly. He also encourages us to love unconditionally and always be there for those who may need our help.
June 1 and 5: Hariel
This male angel is the symbol of liberation and purity. He helps those born under his protection get rid of addictions, vices, and bad habits. He also brings spiritual awakening and peace and helps people transform mentally.
June 6 and 10: Hekamiah
Hekamiah is the symbol of loyalty and friendship. This female angel helps those born under her protection develop and maintain their relationships. She also offers mental and emotional support to you as a way to guide you through rough times in life.
June 11 and 15: Luaviah
This angel is the symbol of premonition. He empowers those born under his protection to understand things as well as worlds higher than this one by following their intuition, premonitions, and dreams. He also offers you revelations based on your dreams.
June 16 and 21: Caliel
This female angel symbolizes honesty and equality. She helps people born under her protection differentiate between good and evil and have impeccable judgment.
June 22 and 26: Leuviah
This angel is linked to blessings. He offers those born under his protection great powers of intelligence and memory. He also helps them control their emotions by being perseverant and reasonable.
June 27 and July 1: Pahaliah
This angel encourages people born under his protection to lead a harmonious spiritual life by focusing on morality, virtues, religion, and faith.
July 2 and 6: Nelchaël
Nelchael is the symbol of knowledge and victory. He helps those born under his protection conquer oppression, imbalances, and negative forces in their lives. He also makes studying sciences easier for them.
July 7 and 11: Yeiayel
This angel is the symbol of respect, glory, and renown. He protects those born under his protection during their journeys – be they voyages or life’s curves, turns, bumps, and twists.
July 12 and 16: Melahel
This angel symbolizes balance and healing. Melahel brings those born under his protection health and helps them control their emotions and connect with nature.
July 17 and 23: Haheuiah
This angel symbolizes everyday protection. People born under this angel’s protection are sincere and always look for the truth. They also let their intuition guide them through life.
July 24 and 27: Nithaiah
This angel has feminine energy and is considered the symbol of tranquility and tolerance. She also offers wisdom to those who call upon her help and helps them find appropriate answers to nearly all of their questions.
July 28 and August 1: Haaiah
This guardian angel symbolizes discernment and wisdom. He’s great at helping you find the real path in life – the one that is the most appropriate for you.
August 2 and 6: Yeratel
Yeratel is linked with justice and safety. He offers protection from adversaries, dangers, and evil forces. He also brings confidence and positive energy to those who call upon him.
August 7 and 12: Seheiah
This powerful angel is linked with health and longevity. He makes those born under his protection more resistant in dealing with misfortune. It’s also believed that the more you’re aware of this angel’s spirit, the stronger your relationships with your loved ones will be and the more peaceful life you’ll live.
August 13 and 17: Reiyel
This male angel is linked with divine love, liberation, truth, and inspiration. While each of us has to discover our own path in life, letting this angel guide you can help you learn who you’re meant to be.
August 18 and 23: Omael
Omael is linked with faith, fertility, and patience. With his guidance, people have achieved great success in different areas of life, from prospering in their career to reconnecting with family members and finding true love.
August 24 and 28: Lecabel
Lecabel helps those who call for his help have an open mind and create a life that’s filled with happiness, positivity, and plenty of opportunities. Whether it’s your relationships, health, or career life, this angel watches over you and is there every step of the way.
August 29 and September 2: Vasariah
This angel is considered the symbol of generosity, support, and justice. Whether you’re going through rough times in life or just dealing with confusing circumstances and situations, Vasariah is always there to provide you with clarity and wisdom and remind you that compassion is the most important virtue in life.
BridgeAnne d’Avignon, aged 12, was doing genealogy research on her lineage when she decided to change the course and try to decipher the genealogy of the presidents of the United States. She discovers all presidents are related!
In her thorough research which involved over 500,000 names through history, her aim was to find the ancestry of all US presidents and see if there was a ‘presidential Adam’ that connected all of them. To everybody’s surprise, she discovered that 42 of 43 US presidents trace back to a single person: John Lackland Plantagenet, King of England (r. 1199-1216).
If you are familiar with the theories about the Illuminati, or the ruling elite families that govern the world, it may not come to a big surprise to find that ALL United States presidents (with the exception of one), including the Bushes, Bill Clinton, Jimmy Carter and even Barack Obama, happen to be cousins and that all of them are descendants of King John of England. (1)
The only president BridgeAnne couldn’t connect in the lineage was Martin Van Buren, the 8th president of the United States. As for the others, this means that they are not only descendants of King John of England, but also distant cousins of Elizabeth, the Queen of England, and the British Royal family.
Who Was King John Plantaganet?
King John Plantaganet was king of England from 1199 to 1216. He was most famous for signing the Magna Carta in 1215, and for losing the Duchy of Normandy to King Philip II of France, thus receiving his nickname Lackland. He was also depicted as the villain in the Robin Hood tales. He was also responsible for the collapse of the Angevin Empire which resulted in the power growth of the French Capetian dynasty during the 13th century. (2)
He was the youngest of the four surviving sons of King Henry II of England and he became his favorite, which resulted in a revolt against his father, the king, led by his brothers Geoffrey, Richard, and Henry the Young Kind in 1173-1174. John became the Lord of Ireland in 1177 and he had lands in England under his command. However, he attempted to raise a rebellion against the royal administrators of his brother, King Richard who was in the Third Crusade at the time. Even though the rebellion was unsuccessful, he was proclaimed king after Richard’s death in 1199.
King John managed to achieve early victories in the war with France in 1202, however, his empire in northern France collapsed due to a lack of military resources and his treatment of Anjoy, Breton, and Norman nobles. He then spent more than a decade trying to regain these lost lands by rebuilding alliances and reforming his army which resulted in him impacting the English common law system with his judicial reforms.
After John’s attempt to defeat Philip in 1214 failed at the Battle of Bouvines, when he returned to England, he faced a rebellion by his barons because they were angry with his fiscal policies and his treatment of many of England’s nobles. And even though king John together with the nobles signed the Magna Carta peace treaty in 1215, neither side complied with the conditions of it, resulting in the Civil war which broke shortly afterwards. The barons were led by King Louis VIII of France. King John died of dysentery in late 1216.
Many chroniclers have criticized king John’s reign since the 16th century. On the other hand, historian Jim Bradbury, has pointed out his good qualities, saying that he was a hard-working king and an able general. However, modern historians point out his faults as a king saying that he had many distasteful and even dangerous characteristics, such as spitefulness, pettiness, and cruelty. That’s why he was portrayed as the villain in the Robin Hood legends.
Is Trump Related To King John?
Do you remember the news story (you can read above about it) about BridgeAnne d’Avignon, the girl who discovered that all but one president are descendants of the same English king, John Lackland Plantaganet? Well, Donald Trump is ALSO in this group together with Hillary Clinton! In fact, the Dailymail has uncovered that both Trump and Clinton claim lineage to John of Gaunt, 1st Duke of Lancaster and son of King Edward III of England.
As the Dailymail reports, Clinton claims the lineage to her 18th great-grandparents through the Rodham family of her father’s side while Trump is related to her through his mother Mary Anne Macleod, who was born in Scotland.
According to MyHeritage.com, both Hillary Clinton’s and Donald Trump’s lineages trace back to John of Gaunt, the 1st Duke of Lancaster, and his third wife Katherine Swynford. John of Gaunt was one of the sons of King Edward III.
King Edward III of England is in the Plantagenet family tree and is a descendant of King John Lackland Plantagenet, which means that even the newest president of the United States is not different news from the others when it comes to the lineage and their ancestry. This adds Donald Trump to the group of US presidents that share the same ancestor, a discovery made by BridgeAnne d’Avignon.
Obama Related To King John
During the presidential campaign of Barack Obama, there was news that he and Dick Cheney (the 46th vice president of the US) are distant cousins. However, a 12-year-old girl revealed all the family ties of America’s presidents.
This girl is BridgeAnne d’Avignon and she was determined to find the roots of the most prominent politicians of America and therefore, she found that all but one American president have the same ancestor.
The 12-year-old girl found that all US presidents with the exception of Martin Van Buren are related to King John of England. Martin Van Buren’s descendants are Dutch. Moreover, she thinks Obama is her 18th cousin.
BridgeAnne took a trip to the White House and created a poster of the presidential family tree.
U.S. Presidents Who Were Related To Each Other
George W. Bush (the 43rd president) is the son of George Bush (the 41st president).
John Quincy Adams (the 6th president) was the son of John Adams (the 2nd president).
Benjamin Harrison (the 23rd president) was the grandson of William Henry Harrison (the 9th president).
James Madison (the 4th president) and Zachary Taylor (the 12th president) were second cousins.
Franklin Delano Roosevelt (the 32nd president) was a fifth cousin of Theodore Roosevelt (the 26th president). Genealogists have determined that FDR was distantly related to a total of 11 U.S. presidents, 5 by blood and 6 by marriage: Theodore Roosevelt, John Adams, John Quincy Adams, Ulysses Grant, William Henry Harrison, Benjamin Harrison, James Madison, William Taft, Zachary Taylor, Martin Van Buren, and George Washington.
U.S. Presidents Who Are Related To British Royalty
George Washington (descendant of Edward III of England)
Thomas Jefferson (descendant of Edward III of England)
James Madison (descendant of Edward I of England)
James Monroe (descendant of Edward III of England)
John Quincy Adams (descendant of Edward III of England)
William Henry Harrison and his grandson, Benjamin Harrison (descendants of Edward I of England)
Zachary Taylor (descendant of Edward I of England)
Franklin Pierce (descendant of Henry I of England)
Rutherford Hayes (descendant of William I of Scotland)
Grover Cleveland (descendant of Edward I of England)
Theodore Roosevelt (descendant of James I of Scotland and Edward III of England)
William Howard Taft (descendant of Edward III of England)
Warren G. Harding (descendant of Henry II of England)
Calvin Coolidge (descendant of Edward I of England)
Herbert Hoover (descendant of Edward III of England)
Franklin D. Roosevelt (descendant of James II of Scotland)
Harry S. Truman (descendant of Robert III of Scotland)
Richard Nixon (descendant of Henry II of England)
Gerald Ford (descendant of Edward I of England)
Jimmy Carter (descendant of Henry II of England)
George H.W. Bush and his son, George W. Bush (descendants of Edward I of England and Robert II of Scotland)
Barack Obama (descendant of Edward I of England and William the Lion of Scotland)
Donald Trump (descendant of Edward III of England)
As you can see, all of the people on the list are direct descendants of Alfred the Great. With the exception of Rutherford Hayes, all are descendants of William the Conqueror as well. And Queen Elizabeth II is considered to be among the closest living relatives of George Washington through their descent from Augustus Warner. (3, 4, 5 )
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1. Get Angry
You can always call your Archangel by a formal prayer, however, that isn’t necessary. You can speak with your Archangel as you speak with your best friend. You can be relaxed and use a conversational tone. However, it is worth noting that Archangels appear differently to different people because every person has a different energy and the Archangels appear to them following the color of the person’s energy.
