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21 Signs He Is Making Love to You

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Love has happened to you after a long long time.

That tingling sensation deprives you of your sleep, it overflows you with a sense of joyous fulfillment.

It’s new, it’s passionate, it’s invigorating.

His honeyed words feel like ecstasy.

Things have been going really well lately and now you are wondering about his feelings towards you.

Is it just some wild sex making powered by a thirsty sex drive or is it passionate, caring, Cloud 9, sense altering love making?

Chill Karen, it’s just the beginning, who cares? We’ll see how it goes – you think to yourself, yet those making love vs. sex thoughts are somehow stronger. They shut every other rational thinking.

You can’t help it. You want to know, meanwhile those thoughts are lingering inside your brain and you are constantly torn between the two extremes:

Is it just some animalistic sex making because your energies seemed to have overlapped or is it that sensual, burning, slow type of making love that exceeds both chemistry and physical attraction?

Everyone knows making love and having sex is not the same thing.

Duuh, right?

Yet, we all somehow struggle with making a clear distinction between the two.

Ever wondered why?

It’s because when love is happening to us, all our discerning powers vanish into thin air!

That’s fine. It happens to all of us.

Sex is…well, just sex. A natural hormone-influenced occurrence that functions like drug to the brain. But that just sex, when mingled with feelings, intimacy and a real connection, can turn into an emotional involvement that goes beyond having sex for the sake of having it.

But men are just about having sex! – you may think to yourself.

Stop right there.

We’ve all been there where making love hasn’t been our priority, but things change when you meet the right person.

We change, our thoughts change, our actions… EVERYTHING changes.

So, what are the signs he is making love to you, and it’s not just about sex?

All matters of the heart pose pondering dilemmas, which is why we’re here to help you identify the signs that prove he is making LOVE to you, not just making sex:

1. He makes eye-contact with you

When a man is making love to you, you will know it because he’ll be making eye-contact. Long, intense, scanner-like eye-contact. He’ll love making love to you – and his eyes will show you that more than his words ever will.

Eye-contact, especially when longer, is so deep and personal, so intimate; it is the internal dialogue of the eyes, that silent click of the senses.

If he is not afraid to dive into your eyes and see you, really see you, it means he is not just having sex. Making love is in question! As Tony Montana puts it, the eyes, chico, they never lie. A true case in point!

2. He goes heavy on the foreplay

We all know that making love is not just about that physical tiredness of the body, those time intervals of pleasure. It’s about the full immersion in a sensual experience.

You’ll know best that he is not just having sex when he takes time to kiss, he touches your body, and notices what particular gesture, touch, or kiss made your heart skip a beat, so he makes sure to repeat it.

You’ll know he is making love to you because he won’t rush the sex act, and he’ll take his time to explore every millimeter of your skin. He’ll simply love making love to you – there’s no other way to put it!

3. He takes your body’s hints

Because satisfying himself is not his priority, he’ll be much more observant. He’ll notice and take hints based on your reactions.

He’ll respond to your movements and gestures, to the hints your body is giving out, and most importantly he’ll be nervous throughout your making love. You can notice this because whenever he’ll recognize you don’t quite enjoy or respond well to something, he’ll either back down or ask you what’s wrong.

4. He is gentle in the bedroom as well

When having sex, he won’t suddenly become Mr. Beast that can’t be tamed. Rather, he’ll maintain the perfect balance between the rough and the tender.

He’ll be considerate of your wants and needs when making love to you, and you won’t feel like you are there just to satisfy a basic need. He’ll be loving, caring and receptive of the queues your body is sending him.

5. He cares about pleasing YOU

 

You’ll know that his making love won, like really won your heart because he puts you first.

Sex won’t be about finishing in a bit and then moving on to the next best thing – he’ll care about fulfilling every caprice, every wild, crazy fantasy of yours even if it takes being all covered up in sweat and literally fighting for breath! He’ll make that extra effort because he cares.

6. He will ask questions about it

He wants to make sure the sex gave you pleasure and satisfaction, and he will ask questions. Whether you enjoyed the act, whether you had an orgasm, or whether it lasted long enough for you to reach that finish line.

He is eager to listen to you, soak in the impressions, and emphasize that you should always communicate with him – he welcomes constructive criticism and is willing to implement it.

Why? Because he is making love to you, of course! He’s caught some feelings and the fact that he cares about your pleasure before his is a CLEAR sign of that.

7. He’ll initiate pillow talk

Does he like talking after just having sex? That’s another sign he’s making love to you! And if the pillow talk is fun, easy, effortless, and endless that you are late for stuff, guess what? You are in it for the real deal.

The sex glow is real, and it just makes you want to cuddle afterwards and talk for hours on end. You talk about silly things, you rewind the sex experience, or you try to find life’s purpose after making love, and this is not only deep, but it’s the perfect proof that you both love making love to each other. 

Otherwise, neither of you would’ve bothered staying in bed, bonding, and cuddling. That’s pure investment, right there.

8. He stops when you tell him to

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This is a great sign that he is making love to you – he respects your boundaries. He wants you to enjoy the sex act because a man who wants more than just sex will treat you right outside of the bedroom and in it.

Whatever your reservations may be when it comes to physical intimacy, he will respect them. If you feel uncomfortable in a certain position or if you are uncomfortable doing something, he’ll understand. He won’t force you into anything and will never stretch your limits because the sex will be about MUTUAL satisfaction. Period.

9. He likes to cuddle after sex

He wants to be intimate long after the sex is over. Making love doesn’t stop when one of you collapses on top of the other in sweat. Instead, you feel happy and fulfilled.

It feels right and there are no cringing moments after the sex because you are both comfortable with your naked bodies, you cuddle and hug for hours, he lies on your chest in attempt to listen to your heartbeat, or he plays with your hair. He wraps his arms around you, soaking every inch of your skin – his hands are practically glued to your body.

It’s how you know making love won! You both have accepted your bodies, so that physical closeness, that comfort, and long-hour cuddling, when coming from the heart, cannot be faked nor mistaken for anything other than love, sweet love!

10. He chooses intimate positions

Face-to-face positions hint that the person you are with is into you. If he only chooses some fancy, twisted sex positions or doggy-style, odds are, you aren’t making love.

Bummer, we know.

But if the positions he uses instigate eye contact, intensity, and intimacy, we have some great news for you – he is making love!

Of course, sex is about experimenting and pleasure, and no one is denying that you should try new things, but if among that sexual rollercoaster intimate positions like missionary or cowgirl aren’t included at all, you may be wasting your time.

11. He goes down on you

A guy would go down on you even if he’s just sexually attracted to you. But when a man does this alongside all these other things, he is in for the long run. He loves your taste. He reciprocates. He pays attention. He hunts your reactions, your breathing, your sweet little moans.

He is romantic AND a giver. At the same time! Ever wondered why?

Well, because nothing matters more to him than pleasing you and satisfying you in bed – even if it means being a bit submissive and following your pace.

12. His personal hygiene will be spotless

You can see he put in some effort to look nice and to smell nice for you. He’ll be shaved, his beard will be in perfect line, and you’ll feel his perfume across 4 rooms.

When you are making love with someone you genuinely care about, you’ll pay attention to the smallest of details.

13. He is not rushing anything

After you finish making love, you don’t have the urge to get up, get your things, and vanish within 5 minutes. You feel good in his arms and you want it to last, but you are afraid he doesn’t feel the same. You are afraid he’ll get up and start to talk about how late he is for a meeting, or that he promised to meet his friends.

But no sir! He offers you lunch or coffee, a cigarette, even a glass of wine. He continues to lie in bed and just soak in your smell. BAM! That’s another sign that he is falling or has fallen for you already.

When he has no plans after the sex act and he is ready to enjoy a couple of peaceful hours with you, know that he is making love to you.

14. He lets himself be vulnerable in front of you

That means all selfishness and egotism aside. He’ll ask questions, he’ll seek affirmations that the sex is going well, and he’ll communicate with you. He won’t be afraid to start up bedroom conversations and ask whether you are enjoying the sexual innuendo and most importantly, he won’t be afraid to communicate his insecurities and imperfections with you.

He’ll be honest about his endurance or preferences, he’ll want to know how synchronized your bodies are, and that’s yet another sign he is making love to you. None of that macho man playing or anything.

15. He holds hands

This is really important. Is he holding your hands when making love or is he holding your neck in a firm grasp? If he is he grasping your neck or hair abort mission, we repeat, ABORT MISSION! Unless you want to get your heart stumbled upon.

To be sure that he is making love and not just satisfying a need in a whim of passion, don’t be the first to touch his hand – wait to see if he is the one initiating the hand holding or those gentle touches that feel warm and fuzzy.

Crude touches feel that way because they are not emotion-inspired; they just help you get a firmer grasp of your partner’s body, and when going for something serious, those are the things you want to avoid.

16. There is some dirty talk, but the sex is not based on it

He compliments you. He wants you to know how you make him feel. He won’t be afraid to whisper something romantic because he wants to be with you. He won’t feel less of a man for being cheesy or romantic or too honest or too loud in front of you.

There will be some dirty talk because hey, you are passionate about each other and you can be your kinky self, but you will also talk about feelings and emotions and when you are together, you’ll know he is making love because you won’t feel like a piece of meat. You’ll feel valued, loved, respected, and appreciated.

17. He waits for you

If he’s not making love but just having sex, he’d end all tired and panting, probably wanting to hit the shower right away – or just put his clothes on. But when a man is making love, he will try to cling closer to you and put his arms tighter around you. He won’t be selfish and self-oriented.

He will ask you if you are close, and he’ll go above and beyond to follow your timing. In case he is faster, he’ll want to continue right away so you can finish as well. After all, there’s two of you, right?  He knows that, and he acts accordingly.

18. He has a favorite night gown or lingerie of yours

Out of all the pieces of erotic clothing you own, he already has picked out his favorite one. He has told you what color he likes most on you or has even bought you some silky nightgown or seductive lingerie in that color.

He wants to spice things up, but always in a way that will make you feel loved and important – always in a way that will make you feel special.

19. You don’t feel lonely as soon as it’s over

He is not making love to you if you get this innate feeling of frustration, sadness, or loneliness. Things might be great during the physical act, he feels present, but as soon as it’s over you get hit by the somber reality: you are not a couple. 

He makes it physical. He makes it only about himself and it shows – that’s why you feel that way.

When a man is serious about you, after the sex is over, he stays in bed to cuddle and talk. That feeling of ecstatic happiness is so mighty that it uplifts your senses and brings joy to every atom inside of you. It feels different because it is different.

20. He wants to do it at home

On a cozy, spacious bed. With clean sheets and candles or dimmed lights. He takes time and plans the act. Sex with you for him is not happening out on a whim, it’s an experience. A journey. He wants you to be comfortable and to feel respected, which is why he is willing to let you enter his private sphere and wear his t-shirts after sex.

If he always initiates doing it in his car or somewhere out in the open for the sake of adrenaline, know that he isn’t quite making love to you. Carnal desire tends to be spontaneous, unplanned, less comfortable.

Making love, on the other hand, touches the private zone of our everyday lives, smashing our boundaries of both privacy and intimacy.

21. He doesn’t expect sex every time

Last but not least – not everything leads to sex! This is perhaps the most important indicator. Your cuddles don’t always end up with sex. That’s the biggest indicator that he is making love to you.

It means he plans a future with you – a bond that’s beyond the physical one; a bond that’s spiritual above all else and transcends the carnal, the animalistic, the hot-blooded… the lustful.

Conclusion

Making love is not cut and dry as it seems. It will never be. It varies for each person, because we all have different ways of connecting and expressing emotions.

The above-mentioned signs will inevitably help you differentiate between making love and having sex, but they are not mutually exclusive and vary from person to person.

One thing is certain though: when he is making love to you, you will be able to feel it. You’ll know it deep down in yourself because everything will feel more intense, cringe-free, and beyond comfortable.

You can mimic passion, but feelings? They are hard to fake, and that’s the beauty of love.

17 Bedroom Plants That Smell Nice, Help You Sleep Better, And Have Health Benefits

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Another sleepless night has passed and you have to get up and go through your busy day giving your best. What’s more difficult than that? Sleeping disorders will drain your energy, reduce your productivity, make you moody and nervous, and in a worst-case scenario cause some difficult health problems.

There’s one easy way how you can improve your sleeping without having to rely on sleeping pills: bedroom plants.

Yes, bring flowers and plants into your home. They will not only spice up the décor, but they will also help you relax and purify your body-eventually leading to better sleep.

Since anxiety and stress are guilty of half of the sleeping disorders, it will certainly do you good if you decorate your house with various plants which have calming effects.  

According to studies, spending time in nature is the best cure for stress and anxiety, but since we are living such a fast-paced life and we can’t afford to go to nature very often, then why not bring nature to us.

Polluted air, molds, bad odor are a few things that affect our breathing, causing insomnia and sleeping disorders. According to a study conducted by NASA, these could be easily solved just by decorating your home with a few plants which can purify the air.

Due to their purifying and calming effects, these are the 12 bedroom plants that will help you sleep better:

Jasmine

Jasmine is an exotic, gentle plant that has many calming effects. According to a study having jasmine in your home will be helpful in reducing anxiety, thus improving the quality of sleep. And not to mention, jasmine plant care is easy and will enrich the appearance of your room. It’ll attract a lot of attention with its ivory or pink blossoms.

In fact, Jasmine can replace chemical air fresheners with its fresh, springy scent. 

Research has also shown that such quality sleeping will increase your readiness and you’ll make the most of your day.   

Lavender

All of us are familiar with the smell of lavender. Lavender is also famous for its calming and relaxing effects which can induce sleep and reduce anxiety and nervousness. Research has confirmed that the smell of lavender slows down the heart rate, lowers blood pressure, and reduces stress.

Another study has shown how lavender scent calmed down crying babies, and at the same time reduced the level of stress in the child and the mother as well. Isn’t this great news for all new mothers?

Lavender scent will increase light sleep in women, and decrease rapid-eye-movement (REM) sleep, and will also decrease the period of time to wake after first you’ve fallen asleep, but it’ll have the opposite effect in men.

Sure there are many alternatives where you can get lavender scent from, like lavender mattresses or scented sleep masks. But a beautiful lavender plant will fill the room with an amazing scent and enrich the décor as well.

Lady Palm (Bamboo Palm)

Lady Palms serve a solely decorative purpose, perhaps unlike many other bedroom plants, but that doesn’t make them any less dandy and beautiful. 

Regardless of your home decor style, the Lady Palm will fit in perfectly with its elegant evergreenish fan pattern. This houseplant is fairly simple to grow and nurture because it doesn’t need excessive watering or direct light. You can put it on one of your shelves or in the corner of your bedroom.

The Bamboo Palm or the Reed Palm is an exotic plant that. In case the leaves lose their authentic green color and start turning yellow, you might need to treat the plant with insecticide.

Fun fact: Lady Palms are ideal for homes with cats as they neutralize litter box smell.

Snake Plant (Mother-in-Law’s Tongue)

The Snake plant is number one plant when it comes to purifying the air. That’s because it takes in the carbon dioxide during the night while at the same time emits oxygen, thus filling the room with clean air, providing us with better sleep.

This plant is also an effective filter for some nasty household toxins from the air, like trichloroethylene, benzene, and formaldehyde.

Another positive side of the Snake plant is that it’s a pretty strong and easy-to-care-for plant. So if you are one of those who want plants but find it difficult to take care of them, the Snake plant is the real choice for you.

You can purchase it in a 6-inch pot from this page on Amazon.

Aloe Vera

The Aloe Vera has the same effect as the Snake plant. It takes in carbon dioxide and emits oxygen. The amazing Aloe is also easy-to-take care for plant, so don’t worry if you forget to water it sometimes.

The Aloe Vera reproduces very fast, so if you have only one plant for now, soon you’ll have enough to decorate every room of your house and even give some as a gift to your friends and family.

Since the Aloe Vera needs a lot of sunlight, the perfect place for this plant would be by the window.

The gel from the Aloe Vera is an excellent healer of insect bites, minor cuts, burns and it’s also good for dry skin and much more. Aren’t these reasons enough for you to have this plant at your home?

Gardenia

These beautiful flowers are another great choice for your bedroom because they can be very helpful in providing you with quality sleep. According to some studies Gardenias are as effective as Valium in reducing anxiety and promoting quality sleep.

But Gardenias can be difficult to take care of because they need constant care in order to maintain the leaves beautiful. Place an indoor Gardenia in a place with enough daylight, but do not expose it to direct sunlight.

The benefits you’ll get from having a Gardenia in your home are worth putting a little effort in trying to take care of it.

Passionflower

Passiflora refers to a genus of about 500 types of flowers from the family Passifloraceae. Passionflowers are another wonderful bedroom plant choice because of their soothing smell, exotic flowers, and distinctive petaloid.

According to folk medicine, passion flowers aid in reducing anxiety and insomnia. 

Bromeliad

Looking like being plucked from a coral reef, Bromeliads are a type of tropical air-cleansing plant that captivates with its vivid colors. The Bromeliads are called air cleansers because they increase oxygen in the evening and absorb carbon dioxide during the day.

This bedroom plant is a family of monocot plants encompassing over 3000 species. The flower is native mainly to the tropical Americas such as Colombia, Paraguay, Brazil, and Bolivia.

To bring a piece of that tropical heat in your home, you should just get a Bromeliad—extravagant, colorful, and ever in full bloom. As for watering, Bromeliads are not very needy—once a week is enough for them.

Spider Plant

The Spider plant is also a very effective air cleanser. According to NASA tests, it’s good in removing 90% of formaldehyde- which is considered a cancer-causing chemical. And formaldehyde is one of the components in many household products so maybe it’s a good idea to have one of these plants around.

Plus the Spider plant will absorb bad smells and fumes and maintain normal level of oxygen in the room, thus improving your sleep.

Valerian

The Valerian is a seasonal flowering plant. Its scented white or pink flowers bloom in summer.

In the 16th century, the blossoms of the Valerian were used as a perfume and its root was the major ingredient of tea or tinctures. The Roman philosopher and physician, Galen prescribed Valerian root as a cure for insomnia.

Recent research proved that Galen was right in his theory- it’s sufficient to only smell the root and you’ll fall asleep fast and sound.

Keep this plant by the window since it needs 6 hours of direct sunlight. You can also add several petals to your bath to help you relax.

Chinese Evergreen

For all those preferring evergreen plants that look lavish yet don’t need much attention, the Chinese Evergreen is a perfect choice. The plant is a powerful air cleanser, much like the Bromeliad. Chinese Evergreens have splendid leaves and thrive in medium to low light or indirect sunlight.

The houseplant is native to tropical and subtropical regions of Asia and apart from being ornamental, it is also considered to be a luck bringer.

English Ivy

English Ivy is an easy-to-take-care-of plant that requires a little direct sunlight exposure and is very effective in cleansing the air.

According to studies the English Ivy is good in fighting allergies and asthma- which can cause many sleeping disorders. In a report from The American College of Allergy, Asthma & Immunology it was said that this plant removed 78% of airborne mold and 94% of airborne feces in a period of 12 hours.

We all know how harmful sleeping in a room filled of mold is, so buying an English Ivy is not a bad idea at all.

The plant will look luxurious in a hanging basket with its leaves trailing down. But you should have in mind that it’s toxic, so make sure it’s out of reach for pets and children.

Peace Lily

The Peace Lily is not only a beautiful plant to look at. It’s also a champion in filtering trichloroethylene, formaldehyde, and benzene from the air.

This bedroom plant can raise the level of moisture in a room by up to 5%, thus suppressing airborne microbes which cause allergies. It also calms down an irritated dry nose and dry throat, which can cause sleeping disorders as well.

Place your Peace Lily in a shady place, keep it away from children and pets, and water it once a week- it doesn’t need much and it’ll provide you with a good night’s sleep.

Lemon Balm

Lemon balm is a perennial herbaceous plant from the mint family, native to south-central Europe and the Mediterranean, Central Asia, and Iran.

The lemon balm bedroom plant is aids anxiety, stress, insomnia, indigestion, and it’s also used as prevention for dementia.

If you cannot fit it into your bedroom or you have enough bedroom plants already, drinking lemon balm tea, using the lemon balm-based essential oil as your air freshener can also have a calming effect on your body.

In fact, many plant-based supplements that treat insomnia use mint and lemon balm as their main solidity.

Bamboo Palm

The Bamboo Palm or the Reed Palm is an exotic plant that will replace the chemical air fresheners.

 Place it in a shady place, water it regularly but be careful not to wet the soil too much, and enjoy clean, fresh air throughout the day and night.

Gerbera Daisies

Yellow, orange, pink, white- the choice is yours. These beautiful flowers will certainly improve your mood. But that’s not all they can do. Gerbera Daisies also purify the air during the night and release oxygen, thus help you breathe easily while you’re sleeping. These daisies will certainly be helpful if you suffer from allergies or apnea.

Have in mind that these Daisies require extra attention since they are easily prone to fungal diseases.

Golden Pothos

NASA names this plant as another excellent air cleanser. The Golden Pothos has heart-shaped leaves and it’s an easy-to-take-care for plant. A few hours of sunlight exposure and weekly watering it’s all this plant needs.

The best place for this plant is in a hanging basket. Keep it out of pets’ and children’s reach because it’s a toxic plant.

Rosemary

Native to the Mediterranean region, the rosemary bedroom plant is an indoor, needle-leaved shrub with pink, purple, blue, or white flowers.

The rosemary plant needs direct sunlight and regular watering, but be careful not to over-water it for the root may start to rot. The plant is used for improving indigestion, memory, and it’s a rich source of antioxidants that have anti-inflammatory properties.

Once in your home, you can use its leaves in your day-to-day cooking as a spice, or make rosemary oil which you can use as a powerful cognitive stimulant.

When Bringing Plants To Your Home:

  • You should make sure that they aren’t toxic to pets and children.
  • Don’t forget to wipe their leaves at least once a week so they can do their job of filtering the air effectively.
  • For better results combine plants that will purify the air and those which will provide you with a good night’s sleep.
  • According to NASA 15-18 air-cleansing plants in an 1800 square foot house will be enough.

12 Year Old Girl Discovers That All But One U.S. President Are Directly Related To Each Other

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BridgeAnne d’Avignon, aged 12, was doing genealogy research on her lineage when she decided to change the course and try to decipher the genealogy of the presidents of the United States.

In her thorough research which involved over 500,000 names through history, her aim was to find the ancestry of all US presidents and see if there was a ‘presidential Adam’ that connected all of them. To everybody’s surprise, she discovered that 42 of 43 US presidents trace back to a single person: John Lackland Plantagenet, King of England (r. 1199-1216).

If you are familiar with the theories about the Illuminati, or the ruling elite families that govern the world, it may not come to a big surprise to find that ALL United States presidents (with the exception of one), including the Bushes, Bill Clinton, Jimmy Carter and even Barack Obama, happen to be cousins and that all of them are descendants of King John of England.

The only president BridgeAnne couldn’t connect in the lineage was Martin Van Buren, the 8th president of the United States. As for the others, this means that they are not only descendants of King John of England, but also distant cousins of Elizabeth, the Queen of England, and the British Royal family.

Who Was King John Plantaganet?

King John Plantaganet was king of England from 1199 to 1216. He was most famous for signing the Magna Carta in 1215, and for losing the Duchy of Normandy to King Philip II of France, thus receiving his nickname Lackland. He was also depicted as the villain in the Robin Hood tales. He was also responsible for the collapse of the Angevin Empire which resulted in the power growth of the French Capetian dynasty during the 13th century.

He was the youngest of the four surviving sons of King Henry II of England and he became his favorite, which resulted in a revolt against his father, the king, led by his brothers Geoffrey, Richard, and Henry the Young Kind in 1173-1174. John became the Lord of Ireland in 1177 and he had lands in England under his command. However, he attempted to raise a rebellion against the royal administrators of his brother, King Richard who was in the Third Crusade at the time. Even though the rebellion was unsuccessful, he was proclaimed king after Richard’s death in 1199.

King John managed to achieve early victories in the war with France in 1202, however, his empire in northern France collapsed due to a lack of military resources and his treatment of Anjoy, Breton, and Norman nobles. He then spent more than a decade trying to regain these lost lands by rebuilding alliances and reforming his army which resulted in him impacting the English common law system with his judicial reforms.

After John’s attempt to defeat Philip in 1214 failed at the Battle of Bouvines, when he returned to England, he faced a rebellion by his barons because they were angry with his fiscal policies and his treatment of many of England’s nobles. And even though king John together with the nobles signed the Magna Carta peace treaty in 1215, neither side complied with the conditions of it, resulting in the Civil war which broke shortly afterwards. The barons were led by King Louis VIII of France. King John died of dysentery in late 1216.

Many chroniclers have criticized king John’s reign since the 16th century. On the other hand, historian Jim Bradbury, has pointed out his good qualities, saying that he was a hard-working king and an able general. However, modern historians point out his faults as a king saying that he had many distasteful and even dangerous characteristics, such as spitefulness, pettiness, and cruelty. That’s why he was portrayed as the villain in the Robin Hood legends.

Is Trump Related To King John?

Do you remember the news story (you can read above about it) about BridgeAnne d’Avignon, the girl who discovered that all but one president are descendants of the same English king, John Lackland Plantaganet? Well, Donald Trump is ALSO in this group together with Hillary Clinton! In fact, the Dailymail has uncovered that both Trump and Clinton claim lineage to John of Gaunt, 1st Duke of Lancaster and son of King Edward III of England.

As the Dailymail reports, Clinton claims the lineage to her 18th great-grandparents through the Rodham family of her father’s side while Trump is related to her through his mother Mary Anne Macleod, who was born in Scotland.

According to MyHeritage.com, both Hillary Clinton’s and Donald Trump’s lineages trace back to John of Gaunt, the 1st Duke of Lancaster, and his third wife Katherine Swynford. John of Gaunt was one of the sons of King Edward III.

King Edward III of England is in the Plantagenet family tree and is a descendant of King John Lackland Plantagenet, which means that even the newest president of the United States is not different news from the others when it comes to the lineage and their ancestry. This adds Donald Trump to the group of US presidents that share the same ancestor, a discovery made by BridgeAnne d’Avignon.

Obama Related To King John

During the presidential campaign of Barack Obama, there was news that he and Dick Cheney (the 46th vice president of the US) are distant cousins. However, a 12-year-old girl revealed all the family ties of America’s presidents.

This girl is BridgeAnne d’Avignon and she was determined to find the roots of the most prominent politicians of America and therefore, she found that all but one American president have the same ancestor.

The 12-year-old girl found that all US presidents with the exception of Martin Van Buren are related to King John of England. Martin Van Buren’s descendants are Dutch. Moreover, she thinks Obama is her 18th cousin.

BridgeAnne took a trip to the White House and created a poster of the presidential family tree.

U.S Presidents Who Were Related To Each Other

  • George W. Bush (the 43rd president) is the son of George Bush (the 41st president).
  • John Quincy Adams (the 6th president) was the son of John Adams (the 2nd president).
  • Benjamin Harrison (the 23rd president) was the grandson of William Henry Harrison (the 9th president).
  • James Madison (the 4th president) and Zachary Taylor (the 12th president) were second cousins.
  • Franklin Delano Roosevelt (the 32nd president) was a fifth cousin of Theodore Roosevelt (the 26th president). Genealogists have determined that FDR was distantly related to a total of 11 U.S. presidents, 5 by blood and 6 by marriage: Theodore Roosevelt, John Adams, John Quincy Adams, Ulysses Grant, William Henry Harrison, Benjamin Harrison, James Madison, William Taft, Zachary Taylor, Martin Van Buren, and George Washington.

US Presidents Who Are Related To British Royalty

  • George Washington (descendant of Edward III of England)
  • Thomas Jefferson (descendant of Edward III of England)
  • James Madison (descendant of Edward I of England)
  • James Monroe (descendant of Edward III of England)
  • John Quincy Adams (descendant of Edward III of England)
  • William Henry Harrison and his grandson, Benjamin Harrison (descendants of Edward I of England)
  • Zachary Taylor (descendant of Edward I of England)
  • Franklin Pierce (descendant of Henry I of England)
  • Rutherford Hayes (descendant of William I of Scotland)
  • Grover Cleveland (descendant of Edward I of England)
  • Theodore Roosevelt (descendant of James I of Scotland and Edward III of England)
  • William Howard Taft (descendant of Edward III of England)
  • Warren G. Harding (descendant of Henry II of England)
  • Calvin Coolidge (descendant of Edward I of England)
  • Herbert Hoover (descendant of Edward III of England)
  • Franklin D. Roosevelt (descendant of James II of Scotland)
  • Harry S. Truman (descendant of Robert III of Scotland)
  • Richard Nixon (descendant of Henry II of England)
  • Gerald Ford (descendant of Edward I of England)
  • Jimmy Carter (descendant of Henry II of England)
  • George H.W. Bush and his son, George W. Bush (descendants of Edward I of England and Robert II of Scotland)
  • Barack Obama (descendant of Edward I of England and William the Lion of Scotland)
  • Donald Trump (descendant of Edward III of England)

As you can see, all of the people on the list are direct descendants of Alfred the Great. With the exception of Rutherford Hayes, all are descendants from William the Conqueror  as well. And Queen Elizabeth II is considered to be among the closest living relatives of George Washington through their descent from Augustus Warner.

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The Brutal Truth Behind The Toxic Relationship Between A Narcissist And An Empath

The toxic relationship between an empath and narcissist

The Toxic Relationship Between An Empath And Narcissist

Toxic relationships manifest themselves in the form of exhaustion, insecurity, discontent, emotional baggage that reappears in relationships with other people, anxiety, even depression.

The thing about toxic relationships is that they are usually comprised of a narcissist that weighs the other person down and quite frequently, that other person happens to be an empath, or just anyone that’s loving, caring, selfless, and lenient.

Relationship With A Narcissist

The relationship with a narcissist affects all areas of life – from socializing and your ability to focus at work all the way to affecting your mental health.

The tricky part about being stuck in such a relationship is not knowing whether your partner really is a narcissist or just overly confident and if they are, what can you do about it? How can you change that? Or should you just leave that toxic environment and turn a new love page?

Narcissists select people that are vulnerable, either because of their past (their childhood or a past relationship) or because they have high levels of empathy.

At the start of the relationship, narcissists will love bomb their victim, making them feel special and showering them with gifts, compliments, and affection. Then there goes their flip side.

All of a sudden, they turn cold and distant, reproaching, critical, harsh, and patronizing. The victim is suddenly confused: What happened? They were so loving and sweet, but changed overnight. It must be because of something I did!

No one is bad all the time – neither are narcissists. They have this little game they play called hot and cold. Similarly, they alternate between these two phases, to hook their victim.

Hooked on those tender moments of the narcissists, desperate to feel loved and special again, the victim is willing to stand through the darkness, just so they can feel the light again.

The relationship with a narcissist feels like endless spinning in circles, constant spiraling between heaven and hell, affection and detachment.

What happens when a highly empathetic person is in a relationship with a narcissistic person who lacks empathy and has an immense sense of self-importance. The outcome? Toxic and painful (for the empath).

All narcissists have one common thing that you should be aware of – they are emotionally wounded people.

It is usually some childhood trauma that scarred them for life. Probably they have been feeling unappreciated and worthless in one period of their life which made them a constant ‘seekers’ for validation and admiration from others.

Empaths, on the other hand, are the ‘healers’ of society. They are highly sensitive and empathetic that they are even able to feel the emotions of others as their own. They want to help and protect everyone in need, and they will try to eliminate the pain and the emotional damage of the narcissists. However, these virtues that empaths possess may become their downfall if they are not careful enough.

So, when these two opposites meet the attraction is enormous – but toxic. 

This is because the empath fails to see the narcissist’s dark side. A narcissistic person is a person who can suck out the soul from everyone they come in contact with. It is a narcissistic way to feel validated while making others fragile and unbalanced and use them for future needs.  

This situation can be very confusing for an empath. An empath might not even be aware that they are dealing with a narcissist because their sensitive nature makes them see only the good in everyone.

Empaths tend to think that everyone is like them, that people are actually good at heart. This gullibility however admirable can be damaging to them because not everyone is honest and good as they are – and different people have different agendas.

A narcissist’s agenda is to manipulate. They want to be in total control of others and use them as a ‘validation tool’ in their need to rise above them. An empath’s agenda, on the contrary, is one of love, care, and healing.  There can never be balance a between these two contrasting natures.

If, however, they start a relationship, this relationship will soon become a vicious cycle that it will be almost impossible to get out. The more affection and love that the empath gives, the more in control the narcissist would feel, thus making the empath the victim.

The empath will soon become wounded and begin to feel like the victim that in turn may give them some narcissistic traits. When a narcissist sees that the empath is wounded, it may give them a sense of validation. Because the more unhappy the empath is – the happier the narcissist feels.  The unhappy empath will then start seeking for feelings of love and support from the narcissist.

At this point, the empath will focus solely on its feelings of pain and will seek for validation and love, failing to realize that they are not the one to blame for this – the damage is coming from the narcissist. It is essential for the empath to wake-up and realize this before they become self-absorbed and narcissist themselves; because the truth is, everyone who is deeply hurt is vulnerable to become a narcissist.

relationship between an empath and narcissist.

So, how can an empath stop the damage and put an end to this toxic relationship with a narcissist?

Every plan on having a conversation with a narcissist is useless, because the narcissist, while very charismatic, is a very manipulative person too, and will try to blame the empath for his and their pain as well. It will make the empath feel responsible for all the problems in the relationship.

The empath has a choice: they could remain the victim in the narcissist’s game, or they could find the needed strength to walk away and end the relationship.

The empath should accept the fact that the narcissist will never change. And the waiting for a narcissist to change is a waste of a precious time.

In the end, all that matters is that we let others treat us as we think we deserve to be treated. If an empath chooses willingly to stay in this kind of toxic relationship with a narcissist – it is their way of thinking that they do not deserve better than that.

This could not be further from the truth. Empaths have to understand that it is not their job to fix others, especially those who do not want to be fixed, as they are not aware of their disorder.

Empaths should realize that the treatment they get from the narcissists is not a treatment they deserve and must find the courage to utterly walk away.

Toxic Relationship Signs

It’s never easy to leave a relationship that you invested your soul, time, and energy in for years. BUT if you notice the following signs in your partner, it may just be the time for you to take some action and get rid of the narcissist near you:

Your partner is short-tempered and thinks the world revolves around them.

Ever tried to have a conversation with an it’s all about me person? Someone who is all about my way or the highway, only listens to themselves and when the conversation is not about them, they slowly redirect it back?

This stems from the need of the narcissist to be in the spotlight constantly, and if they are not, then they feel irritated and tend to burst out in the heat of their moment.

If you ever wondered why all narcissists are so short-fused and impatient, the answer is quite simple. Narcissists have a sense of entitlement wherein they believe to be entitled or, in other words, that they have the right for constant attention and admiration.

They disregard your feelings.

The narcissist will make decisions based on what will benefit them, not the relationship. They simply don’t care about your feelings as they are preoccupied with their own.

Narcissistic people are often quite like children—you take away their toy and they start crying and sulking. Well, it’s the same with the narcissist. It has to be their way or no way that in attempts to meet their wants and needs they forget yours even exist.

Don’t be such a baby, I was only joking.

God, you are impossible. You act like a baby.

Why are you so needy?

Do any of these phrases ring a bell? It’s what narcissists usually say to justify their dismissively selfish behavior.

empath and narcissist

They are manipulation experts.

Being an adult yourself, you may think it’s easy to spot a manipulator. But not a narcissistic manipulator. They have sly tactics that they employ with their victim, that by the time you become aware, the emotional damage has already been done.

Being in a relationship with a narcissist means having to go through a lot of belittling—whether in private or in public, the narcissist won’t hesitate to put you down and expose your insecurities, especially in front of your friends or coworkers. To cover up for their spitefulness, they will just say something like, Relax, it was just a joke. Jesus, can’t you take a joke?

Narcissists play the victim. They cannot take responsibility for their actions, so they either gaslight you by bending the truth and convincing you that it’s not how it happened or that that’s not what they said.

They will twist all your arguments posing as the victim: I have to go through this nightmare with you every single day. See? You’re always just trying to start an argument with me. Do you even want to be with me? I am telling you, I never said such a thing. Are you crazy?  

They have delusions of grandeur.

These people believe they are superior to everyone else, and they are not afraid to let that vibe float in the air so other people notice it. They want to be feared and admired and believe to be better than other people, so if you notice your narcissistic partner behaving condescendingly towards you and others, know that’s a huge red flag there.

Everything is either black or white.

There is no grey area. There is winning and losing. If the narcissist sees any threat to their ego, they will immediately feel attacked and will fight back.

They will go to lengths to make sure the world doesn’t perceive them as weak, ill, or defeated, even if it means attacking their opponent where they know it would hurt them the most. To them, not everyone can be the lucky winner, and they always make sure it’s them.

They have a split personality.

The narcissist’s charm comes with a twist. Narcissists are usually loving and caring at the start of a relationship and then they just switch to their regular selves once they have you hooked. From that moment on, it feels like you barely know the person you are with.

One minute you feel as though you’ve found the one, and then the next minute you wonder who is that person standing in front of you. The thing is, these changes happen slowly and gradually, so at first, you think you are the one that did something that hurt your partner.

You try to justify their ill-mannered behavior and every time you become aware that it’s not you, it’s them, they show you glimpses of that same old charm that made you fall in love, and continue to have you trapped in their net of lies.  

They have no sense of boundaries.

People in a relationship with a narcissist will do something despite the fact that you’ve told them it makes you uncomfortable. Narcissists overstep boundaries in many ways, including breaking promises or responsibilities, showing little remorse, or blaming the other person for something that’s clearly their fault.

Leaving A Relationship With A Narcissist

empath and narcissist toxic

When you reject a narcissist, their fragile artificially pumped up ego and self-esteem take a plummeting downfall. Because they think they are superior, they can’t understand how someone could no longer want them. They cannot come to terms with rejection. 

And what happens next is they will try to claw their way back into you’re your life to prove to themselves that you cannot live without them, that you need them desperately. To prove to themselves, once again, that they are worthy.

They will beg, sugarcoat you with their tender words, while their same old toxic selves will lurk just below the surface waiting to reappear a few weeks or months after you’ve agreed to give them another chance. It’s just a trap! It’s best to go no contact and detach yourself from their constant injections of toxicity.

Don’t fall for their sweet words and empty promises. Seek expert help if you need to heal after their cruelty and public humiliation, after their unpredictable behavior and their twisted mind games of manipulation.

Take action. All your loved ones can help you. Trained coaches can too. It may be hard, but once you close the door to your narcissist, don’t try to open it ever again.

It’s what would hurt them the most. Absolute detachment. Going cold turkey.

And you?

You will go back to being your old energetic, lively self—the one you used to be before meeting them. Breakups are not easy, I know. But reiterating anxiety and mental torture is way harder.

Absorb all the strength your friends and family can give you.

Absorb all the power you and God will give you and let go.  

Top 10 Piriformis Stretches To Help You Get Rid Of Your Pain – Sciatica Nerve Stretches To Remove Hip And Lower Back Pain

Sciatica Nerve Stretches

Hip and lower back pain can come as a result of an irritation of the sciatic nerve. This pain can spread downwards and can affect the limbs and the feet. It is something many people suffer from, and the pain can affect your daily routine.

The sciatic nerve is located deep in the buttock. Because of its vicinity to the piriformis muscle, constriction or swelling of the muscle may lead to irritation of the nerve and pain.

This muscle connects the top of the femur to the spine, and it’s the main muscle that allows for outward movement of the hip, upper leg, and foot from the body. The sciatic nerve passes beneath the piriformis muscle.

However, in many cases, the sciatic nerve passes right through the muscle and this leads to sciatica symptoms caused by what is known as piriformis syndrome. This leaves them with pain in the lower back and hip region that won’t go away, and this eventually contributes to poor movement and balance.

It is estimated that at some point in life, 4 out of 10 people will get sciatica or irritation of the sciatic nerve.

What is Piriformis Syndrome?

Piriformis Syndrome is a very painful condition that is not so common. It is a neuromuscular disorder that occurs when the sciatic nerve gets compressed by the piriformis muscle and it leads to irritation and extreme pain.

The piriformis muscle is a muscle that is flat and band-like and it is located in a person’s buttocks, near the top of the hip joint. The piriformis muscle is very important for the movement in the lower body because it has a function to stabilize the hip joint and it also rotates the thigh away from the body which makes us able to stand, walk, or run by shifting our weight from one leg to another thus maintaining balance.   

The sciatic nerve, on the other hand, is a long and thick nerve in the human’s body. This nerve goes through or passes alongside the piriformis muscle, then goes down the back of the leg, and then it branches off into smaller nerves that finish in the feet. So, nerve compression can be a result of a spasm of the piriformis muscle, a condition known as piriformis sciatica.

Piriformis Syndrome Symptoms

Piriformis syndrome not always has the same symptoms, however, the most common ones include pain in the buttocks that gets more intense when a person sits, especially when the legs are crossed. Other symptoms are:

  • severe pain while sitting or squatting
  • pain that goes away when you move
  • pain that comes from standing, sitting, or walking for more than half an hour
  • pain in the opposite sacroiliac joint
  • foot numbness
  • pain when standing up from squatting or sitting
  • pain, numbness, tingling, itching, or burning sensations from the sacrum down the back of the things that oftentimes ceases above the knee.

Piriformis Syndrome Causes

The most common causes of piriformis syndrome and sciatica pain are: hip injury, leg-length discrepancy (when one leg is shorter than the other), abnormal location and development of the sciatic nerve or the piriformis muscle, severe and harmful exercise, prolonged periods of sitting, foot problems, such as Morton’s neuroma, and so on.

The leading cause of sciatica is, as mentioned earlier, constriction in the piriformis muscle, or swelling, both caused by an injury or spasm. Consulting your doctor is highly recommended, as there may be other more serious causes.

Sciatica treatment involves sciatica nerve exercises, medications, and can even lead to surgery. The oral over-the-counter medications given to people who suffer from sciatica pain include acetaminophen, aspirin, or NSAIDs (ibuprofen, ketoprofen, or naproxen).

Patients can also be given muscle relaxants, antidepressants for chronic lower back pain, and pain medications for more severe pain.

In other words, if the whole treatment is taken into account, the therapy can last for as long as the nerve is irritated. This means that if you don’t do something extra about your sciatica, you will most likely spend years on medications.

Fast Relieve From Piriformis

Serving as pain relief exercises, there are some piriformis sciatica nerve stretches that you can try. It’s important to note that you must stay within the comfort limits. This means that in this case, no pain IS gain. If you take it even a bit further, you may complicate your condition.

Also, before you stretch you must warm up. You can do this by taking a walk, marching in place, or climbing up and down a flight of stairs slowly. Whatever warm-up activity you choose, you will need to do it a few minutes before starting the stretches.

Here Are The 10 Piriformis Sciatica Nerve Stretches Relief: 

Please note that these exercises must be done within the comfort zone of your body. Any unnecessary pain can lead to complications, so don’t overdo the stretches. 

IMPORTANT: Before starting any type of stretches and exercises, you should always consult your spine specialist first.

Stretches And Exercises For Sciatic (And How Long To Hold A Stretch)

1. Supine Piriformis Stretch

1. Lie down with your knees bent upwards.
2. Cross your affected leg over the other leg, by bending it upwards toward your chest.
3. Grab your knee with one hand and the ankle with the other hand and pull slowly toward the shoulder which is in line with your ankle – until you feel a stretch through the glutes in the buttock.
4. Hold for 30 seconds to a minute and release.

Note that you shouldn’t feel a pinch in the front of your thigh. If you do, you will need to stretch your hip flexors first.

If you don’t feel a stretch in the glutes, you cross your legs as in step 2 and pull the leg which is sitting on the floor by grabbing behind your thigh and pulling the leg toward your chest.

Here’s a video to demonstrate:

2. Standing Piriformis Stretch

Another exercise good for sciatica pain relief is the standing Piriformis stretch.

1. While standing, place the affected leg over the other leg’s knee to get what looks like the number 4.
2. Slowly lower your hips toward the ground at a 45-degree angle, while bending your standing leg’s knee appropriately.
3. Lean forward with your torso and extend your arms parallelly to the ground, while keeping your spine straight at all times.
4. Hold for 30-60 seconds, and switch legs when done.

If you have trouble balancing, you can stand with your back against a wall and distance your feet from the wall by 24 inches. Use the wall as support and follow the steps above.

3. Outer Hip Piriformis Stretch

1. Lie on your back and bend the affected leg upward by placing your foot close to the back of the other leg’s knee.
2. Tuck your foot behind the other leg’s knee and twist your leg to the opposite side with the knee facing or touching the ground.
3. Place the hand which is on the side where the knee is (if you’re stretching your right leg, place the left hand on the knee) and raise the other arm in the air.
4. Slowly start lowering your other arm toward the opposite direction of the knee, with the intent to touch the shoulder to the ground.
5. Stay like that for 20 seconds and switch legs.
6. Return to the lying position and stretch both legs. Bend the two knees together and gently pull them with your hands toward your chest.

You won’t be able to touch your shoulder to the ground at first, and don’t try to achieve that with try 1. The purpose of this exercise is to achieve a stretch in the piriformis muscle, and any stretch that is comfortable is enough.

4. Long Adductor (Groin) Stretch

1. Sit on the floor and stretch your legs straight out and as far apart as you can.
2. Gently tilt your torso forward toward the ground and place your hands on the floor next to each other.
3. Try to touch your elbows to the ground by gently leaning forward. You should tilt forward as long as you feel a comfortable stretch and stop if you feel any pain.
4. Hold for 10 to 20 seconds and release.

If you feel pain in other parts of your legs, such as behind your knees, or your thighs, you should do some other leg stretches before attempting this stretch.

5. Short Adductor (Inner Thigh) Stretch

1. While sitting on the ground, put the soles of your feet together in front of your pelvis.
2. Hold your ankles with the opposite hands (left hand – right ankle and vice versa).
3. Gently push downward with your knees with the effort to touch the ground with them. You need to stop right before any pain occurs, which means that if you feel pain, get back an inch or two and stay there.
4. Hold for 30 seconds, release, and flutter your legs in that position (like a butterfly) for 30 seconds.

If you want a deeper stretch, you can use your elbows to push your knees down, and for an even deeper stretch, you can bend your torso forward while keeping your back straight.

6. Side Lying Clam Exercise

1. Lay on your side, with the affected hip on top.
2. Bend your legs backward to achieve an L shape, while keeping one foot over the other and your legs parallel to each other.
3. Make sure your body and spine are not bent in any way, and that your affected hip is directly on top of the other.
4. Keeping your feet together, raise the top knee upward, while paying attention that the body remains in the original position.
5. Return the knee to the initial position slowly. Repeat 15 times.

7. Hip Extension Exercise

1. Place your hands and knees on the ground (get on the ground on all fours). Your hands need to be in line with your shoulders.
2. Tilt your weight off the affected leg and raise the leg upward (with the knee bent) toward the ceiling.
3. Lower your leg slowly, reaching almost to the starting position. Repeat 15 times.

8. Supine Piriformis Side Stretch

1. Lie on the ground with your back straight and your legs flat.
2. Bend the affected leg upward and place the foot on the outer side of the other leg, near the knee.
3. Using the opposite hand, gently pull the knee of the affected leg across the midline of your body until you feel a stretch. If you feel pain, loosen up the stretch.
4. Make sure you don’t lift your shoulders and hips off the ground.
5. Hold for 30 seconds, return to the starting position and switch legs. Repeat the whole process 2-3 times.

9. Buttocks Stretch for the Piriformis Muscle

1. Position your hands and knees on the ground (all fours).
2. Bring the affected leg’s foot underneath your trunk and twist it toward the opposite side, near the hip, while pointing with the knee toward the shoulder.
3. Lower your head, until your forehead touches the ground, and lean your forearms on the ground for support.
3. Slowly stretch the non-affected leg out behind you, while keeping your pelvis straight.
4. Push your hips slightly toward the floor.
5. Hold for 30 seconds and return to the initial position slowly. Repeat 2-3 times.

10. Seated Stretch

1. Sit on a chair and cross the affected leg over your other leg’s knee.
2. Bring your chest forward and bend slightly forward, while keeping your spine straight at all times.
3. Hold for a couple of breaths and try to bend a bit further (if you don’t feel pain).
4. Stay in this position for about 30 seconds and slowly release. Repeat with the other leg.

Piriformis Syndrome VS. Sciatica

Even though these two terms are oftentimes used as synonyms, they are not the same and they are different when it comes to their symptoms, causes, and their treatment. They both inflict pain in your leg, buttock, or lower back, but the underlying cause for the pain is different for piriformis syndrome and sciatica.

  • Piriformis syndrome as I said, is a condition where your sciatic never gets compressed and irritated by your piriformis muscle. The sciatic nerve gets close to this muscle and therefore, the symptoms of piriformis syndrome can transmit to your sciatic nerve by traveling from your hip and buttock towards your leg.
  • Sciatica is caused when spinal stenosis or a herniated disc compresses or irritates one or more nerve roots in your lower spine since these nerve roots are merged together and form the sciatic nerve.

And while piriformis syndrome can be a result of any changes in the anatomy of the piriformis muscle or the sciatic nerve, sitting for a long period of time, or injury of your buttock or hip, sciatica is a result of a series of problems that affect and damage the lower spinal nerve roots, such as spondylolisthesis, spinal stenosis, or herniated discs.

If the cause of the pain is piriformis syndrome, then the hip and buttock pain is more present than pain in the lower back. If the cause is sciatica, however, the pain in the leg is more prominent than the lower back pain. In sciatica, the affected leg also feels heavy. Moreover, in piriformis syndrome, when the person sits for long periods of time, the pain increases. In sciatica, the pain minimizes when the person raises the affected leg while lying down.

Piriformis Muscle Stretch And Physical Therapy

When it comes to stretching as a way of curing piriformis syndrome, there are numerous stretching exercises you can do using hip extensors or hamstring. These tools will help you relieve the pain and better your motion. Here are two simple piriformis stretches you can do:

  1. Lie on your back. Bent your knees while your both feet lie flat on the floor. Then, pull your right knee up to your chest, grasp it with your left hand, and then pull it towards your left shoulder. Hold the stretch for 5 seconds. Repeat with the other leg.
  2. Lie on your back. Bent your knees while your both feet lie flat on the floor. Rest your right leg ankle over your left leg knee. Then, pull your left thigh towards your chest. Hold the stretch for 5 seconds. Repeat with the other leg.

Do these exercises at least 3 times a day.

Hamstring Stretches

It is very important to stretch the hamstrings i.e the large muscle on the back of your thigh, in order to heal any type of sciatic pain. Here are 2 simple exercises that will help you do just that.

  1. Bring two chairs and place them face to face with each other. Then, sit on one chair and put the heel of your leg on the other chair. Then, by leaning forward, bend at your hips until you feel your thigh stretching. Then hold the stretch for 30 seconds. Repeat with the other leg.
  2. Lie on your back. Your legs should be straight. Then pull one leg up and straighten it by holding onto a towel that you have previously wrapped behind your foot. Pull until you feel your thigh stretching. Then, hold the stretch for 30 seconds. Repeat with the other leg.

Repeat these exercises 3 times every day.

Physical Therapy For Piriformis Syndrome

Physical therapy can be of great additional help for curing piriformis syndrome. A chiropractor, physiatrist, a physical therapist, or another qualified health practitioner, will make a program of different motion and stretching exercises designed just for you and your problem in order to help you stretch the muscle and thus decrease spasm.

Passive Techniques For Treating Sciatica

Cold And Hot Packs

Frozen or heated packs containing gels, beads, or granules have proven to be helpful in alleviating pain when you place them over the painful and sore tissue.

The hot packs can relieve the pain by relaxing the stiffness of the muscle by improving blood flow and reducing muscle tension. Cold packs, on the other hand, relieve the pain by producing a numbing effect thus reducing the swelling and the pain. Moreover, cold packs reduce the chemical reaction that causes pain and inflammation.

Apply cold or hot therapy for 15-20 minutes with a 2-hour break in between the applications. Put a towel between your body and the pack to avoid injuring your skin.

Transcutaneous Electric Nerve Stimulation (TENS)

This therapy is applying electric current directly to the sensory nerves by using a transcutaneous electric nerve stimulation unit (TENS) thus creating a tingling sensation that minimizes the pain, mostly in the lower back area.

Neuromuscular Electric Muscle Stimulation

This is a therapeutic method that uses different amplitudes and wavelengths in order to reduce the contraction of the muscle and improve its function and movement.

Finally, stretching together with physical therapy and the other passive techniques can help you get rid of sciatica pain and piriformis syndrome if you are persistent.

12 Warning Signs That You Are Dealing With An Evil Person

signs of an evil person

While we like to think that we know what evil is, true evil is much more intelligent and will often seem like it is not there. People are essentially good – whatever they turn out to be, there will always be some good in them.

And no matter how much we wish to see the good in everyone, there are those who will be ready to use whatever good is left in them for a sinister purpose. These people are genuinely evil, and this is something they enjoy. 

12 Signs Of An Evil Person: 

1. Denying reality

The truth you know it to be as such is not something they will agree upon. These people know a different truth, and they will never agree with the reality that really is. And this is not a difference of subtle differences – this is facts versus their twisted ideals and interpretations.

2. Twisting facts

The secret of their trade lies in their ability to twist any fact that they come across. That is, any fact that does not agree with their goals and the manipulative reality they are trying to impose. They are ready to take things out of context, glue them to other things taken out of context until they create ‘alternative’ facts that align with their purpose.

3. Withholding information

If they believe that something will compromise the identity they are trying to create; they are ready to withhold any relevant information about that. “I didn’t lie! Not saying anything about it isn’t lying.”

Of course, lying or not, they keep this information from the others and use their ignorance of the situation to their ends. And if you find out? Not only will they twist the truth and spice things up, but they will even make you feel guilty of not trusting them.

4. Misleading people

If they find it suitable, they will use some truth to twist it in such a misleading way that you will feel afraid, vulnerable, attacked, hated, or incompetent. They know how to pick the right words to evoke any emotion they intend to create in you.

In the end, you will start believing in the information the way they presented it. They can create enemies in your mind using simple words; they can make you feel like you are doing everything wrong – words are their weapon, and they know how to handle it nicely.

5. Lying constantly

Their form of ‘sincerity’ is one wrapped up in silver-tongued lies. Lying is their way of expressing themselves. They cannot construct a thought in their head without thinking of how something juicy could also be included too.

They lie to gain something out of it, and they lie for the pleasure of fooling those around them. And each time you catch them in a lie, they will tell you a dozen more to cover it up. They will ‘sincerely’ explain to you why they were forced to lie about it, and you might even start feeling sorry for them.

6. Remorselessness

These people will not feel sorry for anyone they have destroyed, are destroying, or plan to destroy. They see people as pawns in their game, and they consider the best people to be the best pawns. If they spot the good in you, they will use that good to work for them, and they will treat you like garbage in the process.

They do not feel sorry for good people, and they see an opportunity in every weakness they expose. It is because they simply enjoy other people’s pain and they do not see a reason why those people should not experience such pain.

7. Avoiding responsibility

Evil people do not have a moral compass. They do as they please and they will never feel responsible for the pain they have caused. If they sense that some sort of blame is going to hit them, they start redirecting it even before it gets to them.

They toss their blame onto others, and they do not know the meaning of an apology. They find apologizing to be a virtue of the weak, and they know how to get an apology from anyone they have harmed. In the end, you apologize for their mistakes. Isn’t that convenient?

8. Manipulating

They are masters of manipulation. They know how to plan ten steps ahead and they always know the purpose of their manipulation.

If they want to, they will make you feel stupid, they will make you do the things they are not competent at doing, and they know how to take all the credit afterward, leaving you feeling that you were not competent enough to do what you did (although you already did it well).

9. Fair-weather friends

If such a person comes to your aid, know that they have done it for a purpose that involves them in the end. In other cases, they will be around when things go well, and they will disappear when things go sour.

You should not expect support from these people. If you get support, know that you are being played and that you will end up being the pawn in their well-devised game. They do not see a reason why they should be there for you if there is nothing in it for them.

10. Stealing your time

If they know that you have some kind of deadline or other important events with close people and family, they will subtly get under your skin and make you lose track of time. They do not want you to be better than them in any way, so do not expect to be good when they are around to ruin that expectation.

They exactly know when to show up and mess up your plans. In the end, they will even put on a concerned face and watch you lose your mind as things start spiraling down. Time is a very important asset, and they are well aware of it.

11. Leading double lives

These people will never reveal their true lives to you. And saying that they lead double lives is an underestimated expression when they come into question. They lead a hundred lives – each life more different than the rest.

They are different with every person, and they have a well-devised history to tell that would accompany the image they are trying to portray. The common thing about all of them is that nobody really knows their true essence or past.

12. Control freaks

Of course, to hold everything together they have to be in complete control over the situation. They will easily get possessive and controlling if they see that someone else is trying to earn your trust and be a genuine friend.

The control they have over others is how they can feed off them. If they lose this control, they lose their precious pawns. It is very simple, really. And it all becomes very evident once they start losing control.

Everybody can possess one or some of these characteristics. However, put them together, and you are dealing with someone who is truly evil. Do not expect from them to change for you, as you mean nothing to them.

And if you love yourself enough, you should definitely break free from their control and manipulation and go on living your life surrounded by genuine and sincere people. Nobody is perfect, and if someone is trying to look perfect, they have something they are hiding beneath.

Signs you should stay away from someone:

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1. You find yourself complaining about them constantly

Complaining about them has become a hobby for you. You find yourself constantly complaining about them and the way they treat you to your family and friends. Well, this is a sign that you may be dealing with a bad person. And even though you can’t stand them, you feel so consumed by them and their toxicity that you can’t get them out of your mind. Stop giving them so much power!

2. You are losing control of your emotions

An evil guy or girl can really make you lose control over yourself and your emotions. And even if you don’t react to their snide comments and ill-treatment of you, you will lose sleep repeating the scene over and over in your head and getting mad at yourself for not saying the things that you wanted to say. You start feeling like you are losing control because you cannot control your emotions of sudden anger, rage, frustration, and sadness.

3. Your self-esteem is ruined

Every person who is dealing with an evil guy or girl has one thing in common – a lowered or ruined self-esteem. Wicked people have the power to make anyone feel bad about themselves. They do that because they want to be in control. They want to be dominant. That’s their food. An evil person will belittle you, call you names, and insult you to lower your confidence and make you feel unworthy of anything because when other people are feeling so low, they feel like a God.

4. You are scared of spending time with them

If the thought of meeting them gives you chills down your spine, or you feel dreadful having to spend time with them, then they are most definitely a bad person. Wicked people make any encounter a traumatic experience. Afterwards, you feel drained and worthless because they have managed to eat away your positivity and self-confidence.

5. You stoop to their toxic level

If you ever felt so drained and exhausted from dealing with a certain person that you even tried stooping to their level of negativity and evilness only to find your peace, you are not alone. Many people have made the mistake of lowering themselves to the level of an evil person. This is a huge red flag that you must stay away from them in order to find the peace you need.

6. You have developed unhealthy habits

Everyone has their own style of dealing with pain. And when someone is constantly putting you down and breaking your heart, then you have probably developed some habits that are bad for you, such as excessive eating or drinking. You may find some relief in those things, but the best medicine for your broken heart is staying away from the evil person that harms you.

7. Your relationships with other people get severely damaged

Have you found yourself in a situation where after spending time with an evil person and absorbing their negativity, you go home and start yelling at your husband and your kids for no reason? Or, you get annoyed at your parents or your close friend and you lash out at them. This misplaced anger will damage the relationships you have with other people who love you and care about you. Stop for a moment and ask yourself: Who really made you angry?

8. You lack healthy boundaries

Wicked people make it extremely hard for us to set healthy boundaries. That’s why our relationship with them is a power struggle and they are always the winner. They will lie to you, manipulate you, belittle you, and take you for granted only to prove to themselves and you that they are better than you, that they have more power over you.

9. You feel guilty of everything bad that happens in the relationship

This is probably the most important sign since it is so commonly used by evil people. If you feel like you are always the one to blame for everything that goes wrong in the relationship, then you are dealing with a manipulative, evil person. When you feel like a scapegoat for all their issues, then you better get out of the relationship fast because your physical, mental, and emotional health is in serious trouble.

10. You feel taken for granted

Wicked people are master manipulators. They only take and take and take without giving anything in return. The word ‘reciprocate’ is not in their vocabulary. They take people for granted and use them for their convenience. And when they no longer have a benefit from them, they toss it away like a piece of garbage. That’s how evil and manipulative these people are.

11. You feel ridiculed and unworthy

An evil person will do everything to belittle you so that they can feel ‘above’ you. They will ridicule your opinions, mock your appearance, and throw insults at you constantly. With time, you will start feeling unworthy of anything good, and you may even start feeling ‘lucky’ that they are putting up with you. How wicked is that?

12. You are not happy with them

If you are not happy when you are with someone, then you know what to do. You should never undermine yourself to the point of sacrificing your happiness and your wellbeing for the sake of staying with someone who mistreats you. You should never accept their toxic treatment of you. You are better by yourself.

Let them go because if you don’t protect yourself, no one else will. If you don’t have boundaries, everyone can hurt you. You deserve better than someone who breaks your heart on a daily basis.

What does evil mean?

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Evil people are ready to walk over corpses with no remorse, and they do not pick favorites. If you get in their path, be ready to be used, manipulated, and thrown away like trash without any second thoughts.

The worst is, our nature to try and see the good in everyone can often make us blind to the evil that permeates from them. So, how to be sure that a person is worth having around? What does it really mean to be evil?

Spot them in someone, and you can be sure that whatever good is left in them, they will use for their ends and if necessary, they will use that good against you. 

How to deal with an evil person?

deal with an evil person1. Get angry

This is probably counter-intuitive but if you want to disarm an evil person – get angry with them. Because anger is a powerful emotion that if it is properly distributed can really change your life for the better. You can use the power of anger to make the changes necessary to walk away from the evil person and drastically improve your life.

2. Distance yourself

Distance yourself from people who are bad for you. Protect your energy because an evil person will try to eat away at your positivity and fill you only with negative thoughts and a bleak vision of reality. Don’t let their toxicity get to you.

3. Don’t try to fight them

Evil people may try to involve you in an unnecessary drama. They may intentionally hurt you only to watch you in pain because that is what satisfies them and strokes their ego. And when you do fight back, to them it means that they have managed to get to you. That’s why you shouldn’t accept their invitation to fighting.

4. Rise above them

Don’t get sucked into their level. Rise above their evil ways. Don’t let their bad treatment of you define you and diminish your self-worth. Get away from them, physically and emotionally. Don’t let them drag you down. Don’t entertain their devilish and immature ways. You are better than that.

5. Stay in control of your emotions

Practice mindfulness. Meditate. Do anything you can to get hold of your feelings because they are your weapon against them. Don’t let them push your buttons and make you angry. Stay in control of yourself and your emotions by rationally dealing with them.

6. Set clear boundaries

If the evil person is your work colleague or a family member, then you can always protect yourself by setting clear boundaries by limiting your contact with them to a minimum.

7. Don’t let anyone steal your happiness

You and only you are responsible for your happiness. No one else. Therefore, don’t allow toxic people to ruin your day. You are in charge of your life and you should make the best of it.

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20 Signs That Show You Are An Empath – A True Healer Of The World

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Empathy is a gift that makes you a special person – one of the true healers of this world, and a part of a much greater whole.

What Is Empathy?

Empathy is the ability to connect with other people on a deep level. To feel their feelings, see what they are seeing, and look at things from their perspective. Empaths can see someone in pain and they can immediately feel their pain as their own. Empaths are also very in touch with their own feelings and they have high emotional intelligence.

Empathy – the ability to feel what others feel, to walk a thousand miles in their shoes, and to understand how they got to where they are. As much as this gift is a blessing, it can also be a curse that can drain you out.

And just like with any other gift, it all depends on how we use it that will make the difference between a blessing and a curse. However, what matters is that empathy is an exceptional ability, and it is the recipe for our future as humankind.

There are people who can see someone suffering and they do nothing about it. They even act hostile and indifferent towards them. Empaths, on the other hand, can never see someone in pain and not do anything about it. On the contrary, they will do anything to help them and heal them, at least minimize their pain.

Empaths are very good listeners and that’s why people open up to them and tell them their problems. They are also thinking about how others are feeling and people feel comfortable in their presence. Others come to the empaths for advice and consoling energy.

Moreover, empaths have a strong gut feeling and their intuition is never wrong. They can spot a liar from miles away and they can always tell whether someone is a good person or not.

Empaths also have a problem with setting boundaries with other people because they care deeply about others and they want to help everyone that is in trouble and suffering. That is why they often get overwhelmed and exhausted.

There Are Three Types Of Empathy That A Person Can Feel:

Somatic empathy

This empathy occurs when the person has a physical reaction as a result of seeing someone in trouble or pain. There are people who can physically experience what others are going through. For instance, if they see someone crying, they can start crying too.

Cognitive empathy

This type of empathy is an ability to understand what a person is going through and their mental state. It is an awareness of someone else’s thinking process in a given situation. This is thinking about what the other person is thinking.

Affective empathy

It is an ability to feel what the other person is feeling. An ability to walk in someone else’s shoes and see things from their perspective, so that you can help them in the right way. It is being genuinely concerned about another human being.

What Does It Mean To Be An Empath?

Empaths are extremely sensitive people, able to feel what other people are feeling and think what the others are thinking. However, they are more than that. They are also very spiritual individuals, with many psychic abilities in hand. They can sense and absorb the energies of others as their own and thus transform their lives and help them on their path.

Empaths are also great friends. They are compassionate listeners and they always, always show for anyone who is in need. Their hearts are golden and big and their soul is generous and pure. Their intuition never fails them. It is always on point and helps them stay on the right track in life. They are also very emotionally intelligent and they always consider the feelings of others before making a decision as they don’t want to hurt anyone.

But, these extraordinary qualities that empaths have, are the same that make them feel exhausted and depleted. Due to the fact that empaths feel everything that other people are feeling, they can oftentimes become overwhelmed with emotions, especially bad emotions, such as anger and pain. And because empaths take the problems of others as their own, their own life can feel difficult to them as well.

Moreover, with their intention to help anyone that needs them, they are not able to set boundaries and say no whenever someone asks too much of them.

How To Know If You Are An Empath

If you are an empath, know that you are not alone – many are being born empaths, and more are becoming powerful empaths with each passing day. Empaths are born healers – they can feel the pain of the world, and they are here to mend it.

The curious thing about empaths is that they have a unique set of characteristics that others do not possess. It may seem strange to those who have not developed their empathetic side, but for empaths, these 11 characteristics are something that comes naturally.

1.You are overly sensitive

If you hear people tell you to ‘toughen up’ because you are ‘too sensitive,’ don’t listen to them. You are sensitive for a reason. Some movies make you cry, the news on TV is something you cannot stand because of all that negativity, seeing pain makes you feel pain.

This is very natural for an empath, and there is nothing wrong with it. No matter how much people tell you that you need to be tougher, they will never understand that your sensitivity is the cure for this world that has become too tough.

2. You absorb the emotions of those around you

Perhaps this is why crowded places may seem too much for you. It is because you tend to absorb people’s emotions like a sponge. You feel what they are feeling, and you cannot control it. Sometimes you may be even confused whether these emotions are yours or theirs.

People feel comfortable speaking to you because you genuinely understand how they feel and what they are thinking. And it is no wonder. If only the world could be more sensitive the way, you are. Wouldn’t it be a much better place?

3. You are an introvert

All the sensitivity to the energies around you makes you want to stay away from many people. It is simply because you do not always have the energy to cope with all those emotions.

Instead, you tend to look for more quiet places, people who you can relate to, or just being by yourself for some time. This loner attitude is something which helps you to recharge and muster your strength for the next emotional challenge.

4. You possess high intuition

Your empathy does not only mean that you can feel people’s emotional energy, it means that you can sense all energy around you. It is just that people’s emotions usually radiate with the strongest intensity.

However, your ability allows you to truly listen to the energy around you, and this activates your intuition. You know how things will turn out; you know if somebody is lying or trying to manipulate you; you know the things your intuition shows you and only you can understand them.

5. Intimate relationships can be overwhelming for you

When you connect to someone on a deeper level, you start absorbing so much of them that you may feel like you are losing touch with your identity. You suddenly see yourself reacting the way they would, feeling the things they feel – and it can all be too much for you.

However, this ability allows you to truly understand your partner and show genuine care and devotion to them. They may not be aware of what you are going through when you are near them, but they know that you understand them perfectly for the people they are.

6. You are a magnet for narcissists (and vice versa)

You are a healer, and the narcissists are one of the most emotionally damaged people out there. It seems like you are the perfect pair that will either succeed together into something much greater or will fail miserably.

Don’t be afraid of the notion that you are drawn to narcissists. You have the ability to spot manipulation from a mile, and you also can peer deep into one’s true nature.

This does not only give you the upper hand with narcissists, but you also have the potential of bringing them back to the genuine and beautiful Self hiding beneath their monstrous mask. Trust yourself and if you love someone, never give up on them.

7. Nature is your cure

If you offer the cure to those who need it, nature provides that cure to you. In fact, when you look at the way you function, you are like nature. You feel unconditionally, you give unconditionally, you understand unconditionally.

That is why your sanctuary is in nature and nature is your best teacher. Do not forget to visit nature regularly and nurture plants in your home. Being in touch with nature means clearing off any negativity that you may have absorbed and learning lessons which only you can understand.

8. You have a heart of gold

If everyone could be named after the strongest characteristic they possess, your name would be ‘Emotion.’ Your emotions are always sincere and pure; you give them unconditionally, and you always try to help people heal.

People will try to take advantage of your golden heart, as many think that this is a weakness. Trust your intuition and your empathy, and you will easily read their intentions like a children’s book. Protect yourself as much as you try to protect others.

9. Sometimes, you cannot tell your feelings from those of others

This can happen especially if you are emotionally drained. You start experiencing the feelings of others, and you think they are your feelings. It takes practice to tell your feelings from those of others, and it takes energy too. So, don’t forget to recharge.

In some cases, empaths are even known to mirror the emotions of others. These empaths are also known as Heyoka empaths, and they are considered to be one of the most powerful empaths out there.

10. When you are in public, sometimes you feel overwhelmed all of a sudden

Whenever you are around a bunch of people, you feel overwhelmed because you sense their energies and you absorb them. You may suddenly feel so overcome with emotions that seem to come out of nowhere.

Therefore, it can be a challenge for you to go out in public and be around people. Plus, you will need an extra time recharging and recovering when you come home after being out because of the intensity of the experience that leaves you feeling drained.

11. You understand where other people are coming from

Empaths have the ability to feel what other people are feeling. They have the ability to walk in other people’s shoes and see life from their perspective. That’s why they can understand where they are coming from and why they are doing what they are doing.

Moreover, empaths can also sense intuitively what other people are thinking and so, they can understand them and connect with them on a deeper level which makes empaths one of the best people to be around with.

12. You feel triggered by the “vibes” of a room

You can pick up bad vibes in a room and get immediately triggered. You are extremely sensitive to how you are feeling when you enter a room. Therefore, when you are surrounded with calm and peace, you feel positive and happy. On the other hand, if you start feeling annoyed, negative, and bitter, you know that you need to leave quickly or else you will get disturbed.

That’s the reason why a walk on the part, quiet gardens, warm baths, or rooms that feel peaceful have a transforming effect on you. They recharge you and bring positive energy into your life.

13. People ask you for advice

With your insight, intuition, and your ability to see a situation from every perspective, it is no wonder that people go to you whenever they need advice, support, encouragement, or just a listening ear.

They know that they are safe with you. They know that you will always be honest with them because you always speak from the heart.

14. You not only feel other people’s emotions, but their physical illnesses too

When a person is injured or sick, you can feel it. You can feel the injury as if it is happening to you. And this doesn’t mean that you only show empathy for their pain and what they are going through; it also means that you actually feel the pain as your own. Your body physically hurts.

And you probably don’t see this trait as a ‘gift.’ However, this is the reason why you are such an exceptional caregiver and healer. Without this gift, you wouldn’t be able to connect with others on a deep level and get them what they need to help them ease their pain.

15. Intimate relationships overwhelm you

Relationships can overwhelm you and become a challenge for you because you can sense every change of mood, you can almost hear your partner’s thoughts and you know what they are feeling in any given moment. You also know when your partner is lying.

Moreover, when you start living together, the sharing of the environment can also be a trouble for you. Having another energy to cohabit with can be also overwhelming and challenging for you because your home is your sanctuary from the world, it is your safe place where you recharge and recover. That’s why it is important to find a partner who will respect your boundaries and your need for alone time.

16. You can spot a liar from a mile away

You are a walking lie detector. Of course, there may have been times when someone managed to deceive you, but that happened only because you were ignoring your intuition and your gut instinct that screamed to get away from that person.

You can spot and process even the tiniest social cues and therefore, it is almost impossible for someone to hide their true intentions from you.

17. You have the power to heal people

You have an energy that calms people. People go to you for advice and healing. They sense your aura and they want to be around you because you make them feel good. And it is true that whenever someone is in trouble or in pain, they always go to their most empathic friends for comfort.

You can heal people with your energy and your good heart. You are always there for them when they need you the most, and sometimes it is all it takes to mend their broken heart.

18. You just can’t see a person suffering without wanting to help them

Being an empath, you can’t walk past someone who is in pain and having a problem without trying to help them. There is no way that you can just walk away when you see someone suffering.

And that is why empaths are considered to be the healers of this world. They are the blessing of the human race. They are the brightest star in the sky, always trying to light someone’s way and guide them on the right path.

19. You need your alone time

You can be easily drained and exhausted when you are around other people. That’s why alone time is very important to you. You need to be alone to recharge your batteries and clear and replenish your energy.

20. You are a target for energy vampires

Your sensitivity will often make you a target for energy vampires i.e. people who feed of your energy and leave you feeling depleted.

Empaths are especially targets for narcissists who lack empathy and compassion and they use other people as scapegoats to manipulate them and abuse them in order to feel like they are in power.

What Are The Characteristics Of An Empath?

Empaths are highly sensitive and giving people. They are like sponges, who absorb other people’s emotions. They are highly intuitive and introverted, therefore they need their alone time. They can easily be overwhelmed in romantic relationships due to the extreme emotions they feel. Empaths are targets for energy vampires.

Do Empaths Cry A Lot?

Yes, empaths do cry when they are overwhelmed with emotions. Empaths are extremely sensitive people and they can feel everything so deeply. They can also feel what other people are feeling and it is because they are very compassionate and intuitive.

Therefore, whenever empaths get triggered by bad news, or by weak people who are in deep problems and misfortunes, it can be difficult for them not to cry because they want to help them as quickly as possible.

Are Empaths Born Or Made?

There are factors, like genetics, that can reveal whether a person is an empath and to what degree. Scientists believe that when a person is born, if they are an empath, they will have mirror neurons in their bodies. Plus, they will be highly sensitive to the vibrations around them.

In certain circumstances, empaths can be made from experiencing trauma. Any traumatic experience from childhood through adolescence can make a person highly intuitive and aware of what is going around them. They can also develop deep feelings and they can get in touch with everyone.

Who Are Empaths Attracted To?

Empaths are attracted to narcissists. And this is because they have a lot of empathy and compassion, something that the narcissist lacks, and they feel an immense need to help them and cure them. Narcissists, on the other hand, they want someone to worship and idealize them.

Of course, this is not a good match, because narcissists tend to mercilessly hurt people and empaths tend to forgive them. This is why the empaths keep getting broken and betrayed but the narcissist, but they stay, allowing the narcissist to create even more drama and chaos in their life.

What Empaths Should Avoid?

Empaths should avoid watching violent news on the media, being around narcissistic and critical people, spending time in overcrowded places, and being around negative people. All these things can make an empath feel anxious, depleted, drained, and used.

What Is A Dark Empath?

A dark empath is a person who can be the most emotionally dangerous, even more dangerous than a narcissist. Why? Because a dark empath will draw you close to them and thus be able to inflict more harm as a result. The dark empath can only understand someone’s emotional state without the willingness to help them.

Dark empaths also have dark humor, which means laughing at someone who they think is beneath them. They can be very malicious and conning. They can also inflict guilt on others and guilt-trap them as a powerful manipulation technique.

Can Empaths Sense Evil?

Yes. Empaths can sense evil. They can feel immediately when something feels off or disturbs their energy. They can also sense when someone is angry or upset.

Are Empaths Selfish?

Empaths do prefer their alone time. However, that doesn’t mean that they are selfish and self-absorbed. On the contrary, if the empath feels a need to go silent and remove themselves into a quiet environment, it means that they just need that peace for the sake of their own wellbeing.  

Are Empaths Good In Bed?

Yes. Empaths are known to be good in bed because of their giving qualities. They always tend to put the needs of other people ahead of their own and make everyone happy. Plus, the empaths hypersensitivity is well known. Empaths are extremely sensitive emotionally as well as physically which makes them able to give and receive ultimate pleasure.

What Is Special About Empaths? What Power Do Empaths Have?

Empaths are known for their power to feel what the other people are feeling and to sense what they are thinking at any given time. Moreover, they can put themselves into any person’s situation and see it from their perspective. And that is what makes them so special and unique.

Why Do Empaths Attract Narcissists?

Empaths are seen by narcissists as giving and loving people who are always there whenever they need them. And this trait attracts narcissists because they want people to be obsessed with them. If however, empaths stop doing things their way, the narcissist’s mask of generosity and goodness will fall off and they will get cold, distant, and punishing.

At the beginning, narcissists will get attracted to the empaths and their good qualities. However, once the narcissist finds the empathy has a flaw, they immediately start detesting them because the narcissist hates everything that is not perfect.

And empaths always try to fix them. They try to fix the narcissist by giving them more love and doing more for them. However, the narcissist becomes even more mean towards them. Empaths need to understand that they can’t heal the one who doesn’t want to be healed.

Do Empaths Cheat?

Yes and no. No one could say with certainty that empaths are cheaters or not. They are human beings after all, equally prone to mistakes like other people.

Empathy is a very powerful trait and being an empath is as demanding as it is beautiful. If you are an empath, know that you are doing humanity a great favor by helping it heal from the bitterness and coldness we all learned to love dearly.

Never try to change who you are, as you are highly appreciated among your close friends, and among those who truly understand your role in this world.

Let them know who you are!

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You Deserve To Be With Someone Who Knows Your Worth

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You deserve to be with someone who will know your worth. Someone to whom you’ll be more than good enough.

You deserve to be with someone who will show you the true meaning of love. Someone who will show you that love doesn’t have to be tough and painful. Someone who will show you what raw, genuine, deep love feels like.

You deserve someone who is sure about you.

You deserve someone who will be willing to pull down the walls you’ve built around your heart to protect it. Because your heart got broken too many times. Because your trust was betrayed too many times. Because you committed to people who couldn’t see that you were a person that was the easiest to love. You were a woman with a heart of gold.

You committed to people for whom you were willing to fight with every part of yourself. But, they didn’t care about it.  They didn’t care about you.

That’s why you deserve someone whose biggest fear will be losing you. Someone who will walk through fire and fight demons to make you feel happy and protected.

You deserve to be with someone who won’t be afraid to love and be loved. Someone who won’t be ashamed to express their feelings. Instead, they will wear their heart on their sleeve and they’ll never make you doubt their love for you.

You deserve to be with someone who won’t think that showing their vulnerabilities makes them look weak.

You deserve to be loved by someone who will make sure you know how special you are to them.

You deserve someone who will make your eyes glow with happiness when they’re around. Someone who will make your body tremble and your heart skip a beat at their touch. Someone who will be tender and supportive on your bad days and loving and passionate on your good days.

You deserve someone who will make you feel wanted.

Someone who will shower you with affection, sweet words, and compliments. Someone who you’ll always be able to rely on. Someone who will feel like home.

You deserve someone who will accept and love you for who you are and always let you be yourself.

Someone who will be aware of all your weaknesses and faults and who will have seen you at your worst, and still accept and cherish you the way you are.

You deserve someone who will be aware of your beauty, both outward and inward, and of the purity of your soul. Someone who will know that you’re the best thing that could have ever happened to them. That you’re their strength. Their guiding light. Their blessing.

You deserve to be loved by someone who will be patient with you and who won’t lose their temper and call you “needy,” “clingy,” or “boring” when you get emotional and show your vulnerable sides.

You deserve someone who will show understanding of your problems.

Someone who will patiently listen to you when you complain about what a bad day you had at work or about how much your best friend disappointed you. Someone who won’t leave you to fight your battles on your own.

Instead, they’ll stick with you through thick and thin. They’ll be your crying shoulder and greatest support. They’ll do their best to help you overcome your problems and see that gorgeous smile of yours on your face again.

You deserve someone who will enjoy spending time with you.

Someone to whom it won’t matter whether you spend the Saturday night in the best club in the city or at home, watching your favorite movie and eating pizza.

You deserve to be loved by someone who won’t make you beg for their attention and love.

You deserve someone who will be honest with and loyal to you.

Someone who will be both your best friend and an amazing lover. Someone who will respect your opinions, ideas, and decisions, but also tell you when you say or do something wrong or stupid.

You deserve someone who will show interest in the things you like. Someone who will do the seemingly unimportant things that actually mean a lot to you.

You deserve someone who will send you a bouquet of white roses to your office because they remember they’re your favorite ones. Someone who will leave you cute love notes on your pillow in the morning so that you begin the day knowing how much loved you are.

You deserve to be loved by someone who will tell you to text them when you get home because they want to know you’re safe and okay. Someone who won’t forget to ask you how your day went. Someone who will call you just to hear your voice. Someone who will terribly miss you when you’re not around.

You deserve someone who will be proud of everything you are and everything you do.

Someone who will show the world how grateful they are for having you in their life. Someone to whom you’ll be the most important person in the world.

You deserve to be loved by someone who won’t see you as a burden or just one more obligation they have to fulfill. Instead, you’ll be their strength. Their energy. Their priority.

You deserve to be with someone who will know your worth and remind you of it. Someone who will make you their choice every single day. Someone who will love you unconditionally and never give up on you.

Your “Meanest” Friend Is The One Who Actually Wants The Best For You

If you have a friend you love, but at times can’t stand because their harsh (though true) words can hurt like needles – you can’t help but think that they are just being mean. However, science says this is not the case when it comes to your closest friends. 

In fact, recent findings have shown that your meanest friend is the one who truly loves you and wants the best for you.

According to a research published in Psychological Science, people who tend to make others experience negative emotions believe that the impact of those emotions will be beneficial for them in the long run.

The research was conducted at the University of Plymouth and it included 140 adult participants. The scientists behind the study observed their behavior during hypothetical situations: for instance, by generating the fear of failure to a friend who instead of learning for exams – is procrastinating his studying.

The researchers claimed that asking participants to take another person’s point of view has increased the likelihood of them choosing negative experiences and emotions for the other person if they thought that that experience would be helpful to them.

The findings of the study confirmed what scientists believed – that people indeed may be “cruel to be kind”.

“What was surprising was that affect worsening was not random but emotion-specific,” says López-Pérez, the lead author of the study. “In line with previous research, our results have shown that people hold very specific expectations about the effects that certain emotions may have and about which emotions may be better for achieving different goals.”

In other words, people can sometimes be “mean” to you not because they hate you, or they want to hurt you – but because they care for you and their “meanness” comes out of selflessness and empathy.

So, go ahead! Share this post and tag your “mean” friends and tell them how much you love them for their honesty!

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Neuroscientists Revealed The Number One Exercise For Slowing Down The Aging Process

Number One Exercise For Slowing Down The Aging Process

As we grow old, some of us start developing a rather negative relationship with the mirror because it starts showing off our grey hairs, our body’s saggy parts, and the many lines on our face that come with age.

However, you can improve the relationship you have with your mirror because neuroscientists have finally found an enjoyable way to slow down the aging process.

What is The Number One Exercise For Slowing Down The Aging Process?

According to a study published in Frontiers in Human Neuroscience Journal, people who are physically active can slow down their brain’s aging process. Neuroscientists behind this study say that dancing is the most effective physical activity.

So, why is dancing the most effective exercise for slowing down the aging process of the brain?

According to Dr. Kathrin Rehfeld, the lead author of the study, physical exercise has the effect of slowing down and even preventing the decline in both the mental and physical activity in the brain that comes with its natural aging process.  

In their study, they prove that 2 different types of physical activity – dancing and endurance training – both increase the brain’s area that declines over time as we age. But, only dancing has proved to be effective when it comes to changes in behavior due to the noticeable improvements in balance.

The researchers selected 52 elderly volunteers aged 63-80 years for the purpose of the study. Then, they divided them randomly into two groups, one group was assigned to join dance classes, and the other group joined the sports control group.

The dance group took dance lessons with a constant change of choreography which moves they were asked to memorize. The program for the sports group, on the other hand, consisted of strength training, endurance training, and flexibility training.

The hippocampus area of the brain which is the most susceptible to decline because of the aging processes has increased in both groups. This area of the brain is also responsible for memory, balance, as well as learning.

But, only volunteers in the dance group had an increased volume of other subparts in the left hippocampus. Moreover, only dancing had increased the volume of one part in the right hippocampus called the subiculum.  

This study proved that dancing, especially when followed by a change in choreography, is indeed superior to repetitive physical activities such as walking or cycling.   

Dr. Rehfeld further explains that they provided the participants in the dance group with different music genres. They changed the dance routine every second week and they introduced new arm patterns, formations, steps, rhythms, and different speed levels.

What about those who have two left feet and no sense of rhythm?

Try to lose yourself in the music and don’t think about how awkward and funny you might look. Because music indeed has many therapeutic benefits – it lifts our spirit and increases our happiness levels.

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Anxiety Disorders And Major Depression Are Linked To Narcissistic Abuse

Nowadays considered as a disorder, anxiety has got its evolutionary roots back in the earliest beginnings of human evolution. Humans needed it to survive in the harsh and unpredictable environment they lived in.

Anxiety nowadays is considered to be an inexplicable feeling of unease, nervousness, and worry. It’s true that we have come too far to be affected by the same conditions which gave rise to the protective role of anxiety for our ancestors. So why and how does it occur now?

A lot of literature connects today’s anxiety disorders to some kind of psychological and emotional abuse during the person’s childhood. It has been found that early-life stress has a profound effect on the Central Nervous System (CNS) and that the same effect can occur in adults.

This abuse is now discussed as a major factor contributing to anxiety disorders, major depression, and PTSD. In fact, it has been established that psychological abuse is more detrimental than physical aggression and that it leaves a deep scar in the victim’s mental health.

Children who have been victims of psychological abuse don’t necessarily develop anxiety in their lives, but such traumatic events in times where their brains are still developing contribute to supersensitivity in the neuroendocrine stress response systems.

This means that any additional stress from emotional or psychological abuse later in life bears a high possibility of triggering psychological disorders such as anxiety and major depression.

What Is Narcissistic Abuse?

Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissistic abuse is one of the most harmful types of psychological abuse. It renders the victim unable to think and reason clearly due to the increased stress and the eventual adrenal fatigue.

This, in turn, triggers a number of possible outcomes, among which the most devastating effect could be an anxiety disorder, major depression, or both. This further increases your susceptibility to the narcissistic abuse and your inability to escape it.

That is why some victims tend to remain in the victim-abuser loop until the rest of their lives and are not even aware that their abuser feeds off them with every passing day.

The most common targets for a narcissist are people who are empathetic, compassionate and choose to see the best in others. This sensitive type of people will choose to trust and understand the narcissist.

And this is what they need to start weaving their web around their good-willing victims. In the process of their flawless manipulation, they will use whatever means necessary to make their victim feel smaller and more dependent on them.

They do it by constantly trying to lower their self-confidence and make their victims believe that they are going crazy. If they see themselves caught in the act, they will skillfully get out of the situation by convincing the other person that they are imagining the situation and are psychologically unstable.

While this is not the truth, you know what they say: a lie told a hundred times becomes truth. The more they make their victim question their morality, sanity, and ability to love unconditionally, the more they nail them to their cross and feed off them.

From the victim perspective, this lowered state and constant stress will eventually lead to adrenal fatigue and a constant fear that they may be doing something wrong. In certain cases, the victims start avoiding people, feel unable to function properly, feeling disconnected and are generally in a disabled state.

This process is what will eventually lead the victim to a state of a shattered self-confidence and a completely destroyed mental state, where a lot of mental disorders have a space to start festering.

In this state, the victim is prone to develop extreme social anxiety, illnesses related to pervasive stress, a complete sense of disassociation from the self, and symptoms of major depression.

If you find yourself in such situation, it’s best that you talk to a psychologist and ask for help. While there are people who are able to recognize narcissistic abuse and get out of that relationship before it develops, some people are very much trapped in the cycle and find it impossible to get out.

It’s not that they don’t want to, but the psychological damage they have endured has left them unable to fight off the abuser and has made them shut themselves off from the rest of the world.

Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome

The narcissistic abuse syndrome occurs when a person has been living with or spending a lot of their time with a narcissist.

People with a narcissistic abuse syndrome often question their own self-worth or sanity, always analyzing and overthinking about their flaws and failures. The truth is, these are simply ideas that were planted in their mind by their narcissistic parent or partner.

People victims of narcissistic abuse often have a hard time identifying with reality because their minds are confused from the constant abuse and emotional manipulation they’ve been or still are exposed to.

The narcissistic abuse symptoms may vary, however, in most cases they mimic those of post-traumatic stress disorder or PTSD, a condition that affects people who’ve endured severe traumas in their early childhoods.

Narcissistic Abuse Symptoms Include:

  • Intrusive, invasive, or unwanted thoughts
  • Avoiding people or places associated with the narcissist
  • Triggers, i.e., physical or emotional responses to situations that resemble past traumatic events/experiences
  • Feeling isolated and detached from the world
  • Feeling extremely alert, having a fight or flight response to everything
  • Not feeling important or valued

Narcissistic Abuse Signs

Many victims of a narcissistic abuse tend to approach a counselor in the hopes to improve themselves.

After undergoing a long and traumatic narcissistic abuse, these people tend to perceive themselves as a failure, they are ashamed of who they are, and feel insecure, unworthy, incapable, or delusional. Hence, it’s no wonder if they turn to an expert for help.

They focus so much on fixing everything that’s “wrong” with them, they forget to mention the narcissist in their life, the abuser. Or even if they do, they only say nice things about them, praising them and admiring them.

This is so because the victim has absolute trust in their abuser; they think the narcissist can never hurt them. Even better yet, that they are the only one that loves and appreciates them. 

But how can you recognize narcissists even before they pick you on your radar?

Narcissists are usually charming people who want all the attention on themselves. They are the people that can make an entire room laugh with their dazzling sense of humor, and when they are good with their victim, it may feel like you are on Cloud 9. Unfortunately, it’s their cycle of torture.

They sugarcoat your with love and affection, only to smash you on a wooden floor later on with their dismissive attitude and cold-hearted nature. They are conniving, selfish, self-oriented, critical, and bad at listening.

They never truly listen to other people, they just nod and wait for them to stop talking so they can regain the spotlight.

Now, narcissists usually create codependent relationships because they need someone they can emotionally abuse just so they feel good, much like a leech sucking for blood.

Many have been wondering why are narcissists so toxic and needy of a victim whom they can drain from worth and happiness, and although it’s not always clear why, it is believed that their emotional clinginess and pumped up ego stems either from their overprotective parents or childhood neglect.

Below are the signs that a victim is undergoing narcissistic abuse in their life:

  • Victims say they are losing touch with reality
  • They often question themselves
  • They lose self-control and only do what the narcissist tells them to
  • They feel that the narcissist is the only one who deems them worthy therefore they think highly of them
  • They’re often feeling insecure or ashamed of their work or creativity and experience self-doubt

Note: If you think that you or someone you know and love is struggling with narcissistic abuse syndrome and undergoing a reiterating narcissistic abuse cycle, it’s important that you seek help from a narcissistic abuse therapist.

It’s not just about making an effort to get rid of the toxic claws of the narcissist, it’s also about seeking treatment to regain the control in YOUR life.

Narcissistic Abuse Cycle

The relationship cycle typical of narcissistic abuse follows a pattern, much like any other cycle of abuse.

Victims of emotionally abusive relationships experience a three-stage, vortex-like cycle of idealization, devaluing, and discarding. Yet, they keep coming back to their abuser because they think it’s them who did something wrong, not their toxic parent or partner.

Narcissists first show affection to hook their victim, and later on reveal their true face. They’ve been loving and caring for a few days, and then suddenly, start saying spiteful things or jokes about their partner in social occasions.

They know their victim is going to be hurt or embarrassed for sharing something so private about them, yet they do it anyways, making their victim insecure, ashamed, rejected.

Or they will suddenly detach from their victim, giving them the silent treatment. You really don’t know what you did? I have to tell you? Had you been a little more observant, you would’ve known.

Now the victim is confused. How come he/she was so gentle and loving yesterday? What happened? What did I do?

Naturally, they think it’s their fault and they try to search for ways to improve themselves.

Narcissistic Abuse Examples

Narcissists expect others to behave in certain ways and they have a way of making people do what they want. That way is usually paved with low empathy, belittling, offensive remarks, and criticism when their victims fail to meet their standards.

Here’s What The Abuse Can Look Like Through Examples:

  • Your narcissistic partner said your perfume, your hair or your new piece of clothing look stupid and ugly, so you’ve changed them.
  • Your narcissistic parent told you how you are wasting your time reading books as a kid, so you gave up writing thinking you are not that good either way
  • Your parent or partner control your time and keep you from seeing friends or participating in social activities by yourself.

If you’ve changed your looks and style, your hobbies, or if you’ve lost things you used to like as a result of their narcissistic abuse and manipulation, you might feel as if you no longer know yourself, hence the disconnection from reality, the panic, and the anxious thoughts that feel like they cripple your day to day functioning.

Anxiety and depression are a dangerous abyss if left untreated, but luckily they can be treated and reversed.

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

Toxic relationships are traumatic and leave victims with lingering symptoms of PTSD, anxiety, and panic attacks, which take time and active effort to heal.

Your love for the narcissist can convince you t that everything is your fault – every manipulation, every maltreatment, every spiteful and toxic comment they casually threw at you that further deepened your emotional scars and convinced you of your lack of self-worth.

Breaking off the toxic whirlwind is never easy, but all it takes is deciding you want to get out of the tunnel and break free.

Your narcissistic abuse healing is not a one size fits all nor is it going to be as easy as drinking a pill. It’s journey.

How?

Practice self-compassion. Praise yourself for having the courage to end the narcissistic abuse cycle, for having the courage to end the toxic relationship.

Try to rediscover yourself. Find out what you like doing, rediscover your hobbies and interests.

Don’t undermine the importance of positive reinforcement mantras.

Wake up every day and utter the words:

I am beautiful.

I am strong.

I am loved.

I am enough.

With my personality. With my lifestyle. With my job. With my fashion sense. With my music taste. With my cooking skills. With everything that makes me… ME.

I am enough. I am good. I am safe, and I always will be.

Because I am free from my past. Because I’ve moved on and I’ve left all my burdens behind.

…And most importantly, talk to a narcissistic abuse therapist whenever your emotional well-being gets blurred or distorted by unwanted thoughts.

Psychological abuse is more dangerous than physical abuse. It leaves terrible consequences on the mental health of the victim and it renders them unable to recognize it.

In the case of narcissistic abuse, the victim will be certain that they are the ones who are in the wrong, and they will blame themselves for the dark reality they are in. This, of course, is far from the truth.

If you are or have been a victim of narcissistic abuse, know that it has never been your fault and that you did your best to pull that disturbed soul out of its own darkness. The truth is, most narcissists prefer their darkness, and they want to pull you in it.

Spread the awareness! 

Source: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19297883

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More And More Intelligent And Gorgeous Women Are Rolling Solo

smart attractive women single

Have you ever wondered why so many smart, confident, and attractive women are often single? Well, let’s get this straight – they aren’t single since they think they’re better than the rest, but because they can’t find men who deserve their attention, respect, and love.

It’s not that these women fear that someone might betray their trust and break their hearts. Or that they are solely interested in building a successful career and achieving high social status. The truth is that their high self-esteem and intellectual abilities prevent them from beginning a relationship with someone just for the sake of being in a relationship.

They don’t want to waste their energy and time on a man that can’t keep up with them in all aspects of life. A man that’s afraid to wear his heart on his sleeve. A man that lacks confidence. A man that doesn’t bother to commit.

So, if you’ve been wondering why so many intelligent and gorgeous women are often single, make sure you read the following reasons:

1. They have very high standards.

These women are aware of their worth and they won’t accept to be with someone who isn’t compatible with them. Their partners must possess all the necessary characteristics this type of women are looking for in a man. Being strong, confident, independent, and driven matters a lot.

2. They put in a great deal of effort and energy in becoming accomplished in different spheres.

Super smart and gorgeous women like doing whatever they can to become more independent and improve themselves on a personal and professional level. They don’t wait for things to get done by themselves. On the other hand, it seems that men lack that ambition and commitment to shoot for high goals. This is something these women can’t stand.

3. They already feel complete.

This kind of women doesn’t need a guy to feel emotionally complete and accomplished. They already have amazing friends and careers. They always look for new goals and passions to pursue. If they decide to be with someone, then he must respect and know how to deal with this.

4. They can’t tolerate bulls**t.

Hell yeah! Why would you think otherwise? These women would never allow someone to play little devious mind games with them. They’ll never let anyone juggle with their feelings, cheat on, and lie to them. They’ve had this kind of crappy experiences many times before and now they won’t let be manipulated again.

5. The childish dream of marrying the prince on a white horse does no longer exist.

Hah, they’ve grown up. They don’t believe in these delusions anymore. They don’t need a husband to feel safe and protected. They don’t need someone to watch them while they sleep at night. They even know that they don’t need a guy to have kids. They’re not afraid to be single mothers and pave the path to their happiness on their own.

6. They are never a second option.

These women always come first and will never settle for anything less than that. If most guys are so naïve to believe that they can easily replace these women with the first one they find on the social media, they’re awfully wrong. These women have a sixth sense and if they feel something strange is going on behind their backs, they’ll stop that even before it begins.

7. A lot of guys feel intimidated by smart and attractive women.

This kind of women is aware of their power as well. Yet, they’ll never consent to act as if they’re naïve or stupid so that they don’t diminish the confidence of some guy or make him feel inferior to them. These women know what they deserve and if men can’t deal with it, then I’m sorry, but it’s their loss.

The Yoga Icon Wai Lana Improves People’s Lives Worldwide By Introducing Them To The Positive Benefits Of Yoga

Yoga has been practiced for more than 5,000 years. It is an extremely enduring exercise program that not only burns calories but also tones muscles. Yoga is a complete workout for the mind and the body that involves stretching and strengthening poses with meditation and deep breathing for relaxation. There are various types of yoga to suit every person’s needs by taking a new holistic approach to their mind and body strength.  

Yoga has many positive benefits that include lowering chronic pain, such as lowering back pain, headaches, carpal tunnel syndrome, and arthritis; lowering the blood pressure and reducing insomnia. Yoga also helps with improving the ability to concentrate and solves many addictions including drug abuse by helping individuals develop a more positive outlook on life and better-coping skills.

Wai Lana is a yoga instructor for 40 years that is responsible for introducing innumerable people of all ages to the practice of yoga thus improving their lives and their whole physical, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing. She is the host of her “Wai Lana Yoga” TV series which has a huge audience all over the world.  The show has been airing nationwide for more than 18 years making it the longest fitness series that has ever aired on national television on 5 continents including Europe, Asia, the Middle East, and North and South America.

“Yoga is such a big part of my life that I can’t imagine living without it. In fact, yoga is my life. It keeps me grounded, in good health, and brings me profound inner peace, even amid the chaotic busyness of everyday life,” says global yoga icon Wai Lana. She has experienced all the benefits of yoga and that’s why she is motivated to help others. She says she wants everyone to experience all the amazing things that yoga has to offer.

Along with hosting and directing her TV shows, she is also a designer. She designs all her beautiful, colorful clothes that she wears together with the flower garlands. Her episodes are filmed in places all over the world, in majestic, pristine locations because she wants to inspire her audience by providing breathtaking backgrounds for their eyes.

Wai Lana is not only an amazing yoga teacher, but she is also a mother of three, grandmother of six, author, songwriter, and genuine advocate for inner peace and wellbeing. She has published many books, recorded music, and meditation albums, and produced DVDs for people of all backgrounds so they can all be included. She also developed teacher training programs and designed yoga products for children.

For the International Yoga Day on June 21, 2015, she wrote the famous “Namaste” song to help people remember to always be humble and respectful towards each other. The “Namaste” song was also included in a PBS special called “Wai Lana Yoga for a Better Life & a Better World” and it was also at the headline event hosted by the United Nations at their headquarters in New York City, enabling thousands of yoga lovers to hear the song live at Times Square.

Insights Trailer from Wai Lana Yoga on Vimeo.

Leaf from Wai Lana Yoga on Vimeo.

3 Qualities for Stress-Free Asana Practice from Wai Lana Yoga on Vimeo.

Silence from Wai Lana Yoga on Vimeo.

Today, she is the most famous yoga teacher in the world. You can watch all the episodes of her TV show Wai Lana Insights by ordering it here. In the episodes, she covers a variety of content from relaxation and daily lifestyle to yoga wisdom and higher thinking.

About Wai Lana

Wai Lana is the host of the long-running public television series Wai Lana Yoga, which has aired in the U.S. and internationally for nearly four decades. Wai Lana has produced several yoga DVD series for people of all levels, published books, designed kids’ yoga products, recorded music albums, released a meditation kit, developed a complete line of yoga gear, and even has her own line of all-natural snacks.

Connect with Wai Lana:

Twitter: https://twitter.com/wailanayoga

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wailana

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wai_lana/

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What Is Your Most Powerful Chakra According To Your Zodiac Sign

Chakra According To Zodiac Sign

Speaking from a spiritual perspective, we all come to this world at the exact time and surroundings to learn a lesson and achieve a purpose in our lives. There is no coincidence in anything, even your personality. 

And for the Universe to make sure that you will be striving for the ideals you were born for, the planets’ alignment played a role in enhancing one of the seven chakras in your energetic body that will lead you to the path of the challenges meant for you. 

Depending on your zodiac, you can learn what chakra is your most powerful one and what that means for you and your life. 

ARIES – THE SOLAR PLEXUS CHAKRA 

The solar plexus chakra, or the Manipura (meaning “City of Jewels”), is the chakra of one’s inner treasure and the chakra that allows us to connect with other people. It is a warm, nurturing, and fiery chakra that is yellow in color. 

The solar plexus is the chakra of action, and the main challenge that comes to this chakra is the sense of shame and lowered self-esteem. No wonder Aries are usually those who like to protect their Selves from others and maintain their sense of self-identity. When in disbalance, this chakra will project an aura of laziness and a loss of will power. 

The solar plexus chakra is a chakra that is connected to one’s passions, self-esteem and personal strength. This chakra determines our confidence and our place in the world and also our perception of it. The solar plexus chakra also is a chakra that speaks of balance – a balance in life, a balance of emotions, and a balance between the heart and soul. It is a chakra that brings harmony to all other chakras and also in interpersonal relationships.

The Aries sign which is connected to the solar plexus chakra is a strong sign because this chakra is a force chakra, but it is also a chakra that is very balanced and intellectual, but warm. People born in this sign with this chakra as their ruling chakra, are people who know who they are and are confident in their abilities. Integrity is a trait that is very meaningful to these people. They radiate with confidence and self-assuredness, but not in an arrogant way. And that is the reason why people accept them as leaders.

But, if the solar plexus chakra is not open, Aries people may be shy and passive. They will also become superficial in their emotions because they will have fears of rejection and abandonment issues. That’s why it is essential for these people to meditate or do yoga in order to regain their inner strength.

TAURUS – THE HEART CHAKRA 

THE HEART CHAKRA

Although people in the Taurus sign are usually perceived as emotionless and materialistic beings, the governing heart chakra says something much different about them. The green Anahata (meaning “Unstruck”) stands as a bridge between our spiritual and physical Self and it radiates with empathy, love, and protective instincts. 

The main challenge for a Taurus is grief and romantic disappointment, from which they guard themselves fiercely. People with a governing heart chakra are here to learn to forgive and be more compassionate, and when in disbalance, these people are more prone to showing anger and lust. 

The Heart Chakra is the chakra that symbolizes love and affection. This is a chakra that connects us to our higher self. People born into the sign of Taurus are aware of things that are beyond their perception of the physical world. They are very spiritual and guided. They are also very intuitive and they even have psychic abilities.

People governed by the heart chakra are very friendly, open-minded, and loving people. They are the empaths in this world, always willing to help anyone in need. They are extremely forgiving and compassionate beings with warm hearts.

When the heart chakra is open, these people are very good at stabilizing relationships and bringing harmony to their life in general. If you are a Taurus and your heart chakra is open, then you treat everyone in a loving way. You are very kind and caring towards others and you are also kind towards yourself. You are in touch with yourself and you know what is good for you, so you are not afraid to say no to people and things that don’t serve your highest good.

If, however, your heart chakra is closed, then you are prone to experiencing feelings of emptiness and loneliness. You may also start feeling bitter or angry. People with closed heart chakra are thought to be very closed and distant when it comes to dealing with other people. They have a lot of suppressed emotions that they need to work through. They need to recognize their feelings and make a peace with themselves. They must learn to forgive themselves for what they have been through and remove the blockages that keep them from connecting with people in a real way.

GEMINI – THE THROAT CHAKRA 

THE THROAT CHAKRA

As master of communication, Gemini is clearly under the strong rule of the throat chakra. Vishuddha (meaning “Especially Pure”) is the chakra of communication and the creative identity of the person and its color is blue. 

The main challenge Gemini go through is facing the truth, as lying (even to oneself) is what makes the throat chakra swerve out of balance. The throat chakra serves as a means of expression of all other chakras and it is there to purify them through expression.

The throat chakra is assigned to people born under the zodiac sign of Gemini. This chakra is all about freedom, freedom of expression and freedom of choice. It is a chakra that is associated with properly communicating with others, i.e communicating with truth, honesty, and undertaking moral action. It is also a chakra that is associated with integrity and keeping promises.

When the throat chakra is open, that means that the person is aware of the language they use and the meaning and the impact of their words. A person with an open throat chakra communicates clearly and concisely. They speak in a kind and pleasant way. They communicate their thoughts, feelings, and desires openly and without fear of being misunderstood. They are also not afraid to be vulnerable when it comes to expressing themselves because they know that being able to show vulnerability is a sign of strength, not weakness.

On the other hand, when the throat chakra is closed, then there is a blockage that manifests in people having a hard time expressing themselves and openly communicating their thoughts and wishes. These people may suppress their feelings and avoid communicating with other people. They are not revealing themselves to others and therefore, they can’t form close connections with other people. They need to open their throat chakra if they want to get rid of their superficial way of dealing with people.

CANCER – THE THIRD EYE 

Governed by the Moon, the intuitive and mystical Cancer has their indigo-colored Third Eye as the most active chakra in their system. The Ajna (meaning “Command”) is the chakra of insight and it allows the individual to see the bigger picture and the connection between everything. 

Illusions are the biggest challenge for people who have their Third Eye as a dominant chakra, as they can lead to false perceptions, prejudice, and subjectivism. The Third Eye possesses the power to literally command the energy and reality around you, should you activate it and use it properly. 

The Third Eye Chakra is all about perspective and perception. It is a chakra that deals with judgment and a clear vision of things. This chakra is thought to be connected to the divine and that’s why it is often referred to as the chakra that is the spiritual eye of every human being.

When this chakra is opened, it signifies that the person trusts their gut and they are in touch with their intuition. It also means that they can look at the different sides of a story and see the situation from all of the different angles and empathize with all of them. Therefore, these people don’t make rapid decisions. They are always analyzing a situation before making a final judgment and decision. That’s why these people can accept other people’s opinions and perspectives with an open mind even though their own views may be completely different.

If, however, the forehead chakra is closed, then it is believed that the person has troubles with concentration and also has difficulties seeing things clearly for what they are. These people tend to lose a clear perception of things and therefore start relying on other people’s beliefs. Therefore, they need to distance themselves from other people’s influences and by practicing meditation to begin to regain their concentration and perception of reality.

LEO – THE CROWN CHAKRA 

THE CROWN CHAKRAGoverned by the highest spiritual aspects, the violet Crown Chakra, also known as Sahasrara (meaning “Thousand Petalled”) is the chakra of higher knowledge and learning. It offers divine wisdom, spiritual connection, a sense of oneness, and the ability to tap into the Universal consciousness. 

This chakra’s main challenge is attachment, and when in disbalance, the Leo will turn to their self and become consumed by their ego, as they lose touch with the Universal consciousness and the Oneness. 

The Crown Chakra is associated with a person who is very conscious and aware of the world. They are also very wise and they are in full knowledge of themselves and what is sacred to them. That’s why they form connections with others that are very deep, meaningful, and special. These people are fully knowledgeable of their limitations and their destructive patterns and so, they are constantly working on themselves and their healing.

This chakra is also connected with our limitations and its transcendence, whether the limitations are personal or bound in time and space. It is a transcendental type of awareness that opens all the other chakras and connects us to the Universe. It also makes us feel blissful, enlightened, and ecstatic. It lightens up our inner wisdom and our divine self.

When a person’s crown chakra is imbalanced, they can feel disconnected from their spirit. They can also become very cynical and sarcastic. They can also feel deep disconnection from their body. On the other hand, when the crown chakra is blocked, the person can feel lonely and isolate. They can lack direction in life and have difficulty connecting with people.

The healing of the crown chakra can be done in many ways with meditation being the most effective method of healing and balancing this chakra. It can further help if during your meditation you start visualizing a violet or white lotus flower unfurling because a lotus flower with one thousand petals is the symbol of this chakra.

VIRGO –THE THROAT CHAKRA THE THROAT CHAKRA 

The laborious Virgo is governed by the blue-colored Throat Chakra, just like the Gemini. The Vishuddha (meaning “Especially Pure”) affects Virgo mostly in the purification process of oneself and the healing powers it brings. 

The honest and critic side of Virgo is also an aspect of the throat chakra, and this expression comes from their meticulous analysis. The biggest challenge for those under the influence of the Throat Chakra is lying (to others and to oneself). 

The Throat Chakra, as its name suggests, is the chakra that is responsible for the way we express ourselves. This chakra also represents our growth process, how much we have grown as a person in terms of communication and expression of our thoughts, feelings, and desires.

When the throat chakra is opened, it means that the person is very communicative and expressive. They speak their mind in a clear way. They also talk very kindly and nicely to others, showing their empathic side. People with an open throat chakra are also excellent organizers which makes them perfect for the corporate world. They know what to say and when. Their oratory skills are what will move them forward and up the corporate ladder.

On the other hand, if the throat chakra is closed, that means that the person is an introvert. They have trouble expressing themselves. They are also distant and shy. They often feel helpless and unable to do anything about their problem with expressing themselves. On the flip side, there are also people with an overactive throat chakra. These people speak a lot and tire other people. They are also one of the worst listeners because they only want to talk about themselves and they never stop.

This is the reason why these people should remain calm and truthful in every situation. They should also practice meditation to feel better and also follow the golden rule of communication, i.e. to think twice before they speak.

LIBRA – THE HEART CHAKRA 

THE HEART CHAKRA

Just like the Taurus, Libra are also governed by the green Heart Chakra, also known as Anahata (meaning “Unstruck”). The heart chakra is the bridge between the spiritual and physical Self and is governed by love, compassion, and protective instincts. 

The selfless nature of Libra proves just how loving and caring a person can be, and their endless compassion toward everything and everyone around them is just another sign of how powerful their Heart Chakra is. The main challenge for people under the command of the Heart Chakra is the ability to forgive and overcome grief, which can lead to anger and lust if not handled properly. 

The Heart Chakra is governed by the planet Venus, the planet of love and relationships. It is a planet of being emotionally open and awakened.  People born under the sign of Libra are people who love beauty. They love beautiful things. They love the arts. They love having peace and harmony in their lives. Every Libra radiates with calmness and peaceful energy.

The heart chakra is a balancing chakra between the upper and the lower chakras and therefore, these people also remained balanced through their interactions with other people. They know how to relate to anyone and also, they know how to maintain peace and balance in their life.

 Having an open heart chakra means that you understand the meaning of relationships and you know how to maintain a healthy balance. You know how to create deep connections with others and that’s why you are thought to be the social butterfly. If, on the other hand, your heart chakra is closed, then you may encounter difficulties maintaining healthy relationships. You may feel as if though you can’t stay in a relationship and create a deep bond because you are always fighting due to your closed heart chakra.

SCORPIO – THE SACRAL CHAKRA 

The Sacral Chakra, also known as Svadhisthana (meaning “The Welling Place of the Self”), is the chakra of emotions, feelings, sexuality, creativity, and the inner child and its color is orange. It is the most sensual chakra in the system and the birthplace of creativity and our playful nature. 

People governed by the Sacral Chakra see the world mainly through feelings, and they radiate with and communicate through feelings. The main challenge for these people is the feeling of guilt and the loss of the inner child. 

The Sacral Chakra is the center of sensations, pleasures, emotions, sexuality, nurturance, and movement. Its purpose is to let go of things and emotions and thus to create flow. This chakra is a very sensitive chakra because it is connected to feelings. Every person has a right to feel and no one should say that having feelings is a sign of weakness.

People born under the star sign of Scorpio are in touch with their emotions. They are very conscious and aware of what are feeling and why. They are also great at finding the root of their emotions. When someone challenges their right to feel, they become disconnected and numb. And if they block their feelings for a long time, then they can lose their identity and lose themselves in the process.

When this chakra is open, then the person is emotionally intelligent, nurturing, able to express their emotions, able to experience pleasure, able to change and set clear boundaries, and able to move on and let go of things that don’t serve their highest good. If the sacral chakra is closed, then the person may be experiencing fear of sex, fear of pleasure, rigidity in their attitudes and body image, fear of change, and also a lack of excitement, passion, and desire.

SAGITTARIUS – THE SOLAR PLEXUS CHAKRA 

Like the Aries, Sagittarius is also governed by the yellow-colored Solar Plexus Chakra, also called the Manipura (meaning “City of Jewels”). This chakra is the seat of our personality and our Self, and it serves to connect with other people. This is why Sagittarius people don’t find it hard to connect with anyone they know and reveal the most of their personality in the shortest of time. 

The Solar Plexus is the chakra of action and willpower. The main challenge for people governed by it is the sense of shame and lowered self-esteem, and when in disbalance, they start being lazy and lack the necessary willpower to perform in life. 

The Solar Plexus Chakra is the chakra that is connected with spirituality. Also, it is a chakra of passion and adventure. So, people born under the sign of Sagittarius are very passionate beings. Also, they are very restless and are constantly moving and trying new and exciting things. They are guided by their impulses and live their life recklessly and fiercely.

The solar plexus chakra attracts harmony in our lives and this chakra makes us accept our circumstances no matter how hard they may be. This chakra is also connected with a person’s personal power and strength. It increases one’s self-esteem and makes them aware of their abilities. It also gives them the courage to seek new things that will make them happy.

But, if the solar plexus chakra is closed, then the positive energy that surrounds these people is also off. Therefore, they may feel drained and as if the weight of the world is on their shoulders. They may feel hopeless and lose their zest for life. Their self-esteem and confidence also suffers which further makes them desperate, sad, and hopeless.

If you are experiencing these difficulties, then you need to heal and realign your solar plexus chakra. To do this, you need to do something out of your comfort zone, something courageous that will remind you of the power that is within you. That way you will regain your boldness and your daring energy.

CAPRICORN – THE ROOT CHAKRA 

THE ROOT CHAKRAThe base chakra, also known as Mooladhara (meaning “Root Support”) is the chakra of our physical manifestation and identity and its color is red. People governed by its power are rather materialistic and their primary concern is the material, worldly dimensions, and possessions. 

Which is more, these people are very sensible and grounded, and this allows them to take solid and well-planned steps in their progress while projecting an air of security and stability. The main challenge for people governed by the Root Chakra is fear and lack of essential physical conditions. 

When the root chakra is open, then people follow their instincts with great strength and determination. They feel very confident and secure with their moves. A person with an open root chakra is a person who has a great perception about everything that is going on around them which makes them very insightful and aware. When the root chakra functions well, then the person has great inner strength and they can offer comfort and support to other people who need their guidance.

If, however, the root chakra is closed, then it means that the person is experiencing a great deal of troubling energy. A person with a closed root chakra is nervous and full of fears. They may be shy and feeling lost. They are anxious and insecure. So, they need to heal their root chakra and the best way to do that is by trying to let go of their anxious thoughts and fears by reminding themselves that they do not have control over what will happen tomorrow. They only have control over how they react in the present moment.

AQUARIUS – THE ROOT CHAKRA 

THE ROOT CHAKRA

Just like the Capricorn, Aquarius is ruled by the red Root Chakra – also called the Mooladhara (meaning “Root Support”). This chakra allows them to govern over their territory, maintain control, and project a sense of warmth and security. 

The root chakra is the chakra of our physical manifestation and identity and is the most material chakra of all seven. The balanced Aquarius has the power to maintain a strong connection with every living creature and with nature while living their life with reason, passion, and joy. The main challenge for people ruled by the Root Chakra is fear and poor living conditions. 

The Root Chakra is a chakra that brings stability through responsible actions and hard work. This chakra cuts off everything that doesn’t serve us, thus making us stable and grounded individuals. This chakra also eliminates the fickle energies around us because it doesn’t like irresponsibility.

People born under the star sign of Aquarius have good taste when it comes to how they should be living their life. They are responsible, but they are also fiery and passionate. They are also master manipulators when it comes to creating the life they desire. They know how to turn things in their favor and get what they want using their wit, imagination, and creativity.

PISCES – THE SACRAL CHAKRA 

Like the Scorpio, Pisces are ruled by the orange-colored Sacral Chakra-Pisces chakra, also known as Svadhisthana (meaning “The Dwelling Place of the Self”). This is the most emotional chakra, and it governs over feelings, creativity, the inner child, emotional consciousness, and sexuality. 

This is why the emotional and creative nature of Pisces is their strongest side. When they feel free to express their emotions and creativity, as well as their sexuality, Pisces are most in their element. However, their biggest challenge is the sense of guilt, which can disrupt the Pisces Chakra and cause them to lose their inner child and deny themselves of the pleasures of life. 

The Sacral Chakra is all about spirituality, expansion, faith, philosophy, creativity, and optimism. These people are people who are very sensitive and intuitive. They trust their instincts and they have a very strong sense of intuition. Their gut feeling is powerful and when they follow it, they never make a mistake.

People born under the zodiac sign of Pisces are very social and communicative. However, they prefer deep and long talks over casual and superficial ones. They want intensity more than anything.

If the sacral chakra is open, then these people are able to live their life and enjoy every moment of it. They are open-minded and energetic. They are in touch with their emotions and their inner self which makes them able to connect with other people on a deep level and develop strong relationships with them.

If, on the other hand, the sacral chakra is closed, then the person is a manipulator, playing a lot of mind games. They are jealous and envious of the success of others and they want to bring them down. They have an inferiority complex and that’s why they get frustrated seeing other people win in life.

Use Of Crystals To Boost Your Chakra  

Crystals have healing properties, like black tourmaline meaning getting rid of negative energy. Black tourmaline is a very powerful gemstone, also called as Schrol. The health benefits of wearing black tourmaline include strengthening the immune system, improving blood circulation, good skin health, and better metabolism.  

Below are other crystals and their health benefits: 

  • Rose Quartz: This precious gemstone nurtures emotional health and a great stone commonly used in meditation to boost chakra. It helps slow the aging process and increase fertility. Rose quartz is a perfect gift for anyone and for any occasion. 
  • Green Jade: The benefits of green jade stone include balance and harmony for your heart chakra. Wearing green jade chakra assist in good physical and emotional well-being. By having a healthy heart chakra, yourself and the environment are balanced.  
  • Opal: Opal connects your base to your crown chakra. It stabilizes your mood, enhances meditation, and stimulates connection with the spiritual world. The watery depths of water opal can be used for scrying, assisting transitions out of the body, which is a temporary vehicle for your soul. 

Holistic Medicine To Boost Your Chakra  

Holistic medicine involves using alternative therapies or non-traditional and non-pharmaceutical means to treat signs and symptoms of diseases, such as chronic pain. With holistic medicine, your body and soul can benefit from various therapies, thereby boosting your chakra and your overall health.  

Check out these holistic therapies to help you boost your chakra:  

  • Acupuncture: This holistic therapy can help relieve the signs and symptoms of multiple sclerosis, including pain, muscle spasticity, bladder problems, numbness and tingling, and depression. Acupuncture also provides pain relief among MS patients. However, it is best combined with other pain-relieving therapies for it to be more effective.  
  • Mind-Body Therapy: Choose challenging mind-body exercises, like yoga. This helps condition the mind, thus increasing pain tolerance.  

12 Reasons Why It Is Hard For Female Empaths To Find The Right Man

dating an empath woman

Female empath and relationship.

Female empath are one of the most amazing people out there. And while having an empath for a partner can be one of the most wonderful things that can happen to you, still it can be a challenge for some men to be in a relationship with a female empath.

Why female empaths struggle with romantic relationships?

This is because female empaths are very honest. They don’t play games or date around. They can’t be in a relationship with someone who is not ready for them.

Here are 12 reasons why female empaths struggle to find the right partner:

1. THEY KNOW WHAT THEY WANT

An empath woman doesn’t look for a fling. She knows that she wants a stable relationship filled with love and respect. She wants a partner who can be with her through the hard times. If the man is not serious from the start, she will never begin the relationship in the first place.

2. THEY ARE INTENSE

Empaths are people who want only deep and meaningful connections with others. They are not superficial nor are interested in the ordinary. Some like this intensity of the empaths, and for others, it is too much that they cannot handle being around them for too long.

3. AN EMPATH WOMAN VALUES RELIABILITY

Men who are wishy-washy should never even try to have a relationship with an empathic woman because she needs stability more than anything in her life. She is not interested in someone who doesn’t answer her calls, shows up late, or cancels dates at the last minute.

4. AN EMPATH WOMAN IS TOO SINCERE

An empath is never good when it comes to white lies or sugar coating things. Instead of telling you what you want to hear, this woman will tell you the truth always. And for most people, it is hard having to face the truth every time.

5. AN EMPATH WOMAN NEEDS HER FREEDOM

No one can put an empath woman in a cage. When she senses that a man is trying to restrict her in some way – she will leave him without a single doubt.  

6. AN EMPATH WOMAN IS OFTEN MISUNDERSTOOD

Most men cannot understand what it is really like to be with a woman who is an empath until they get in a relationship with her. She is more complex than most people give her credit for. This woman is a walking mystery and the man will always feel like she hides something from him.  

7. AN EMPATH WOMAN NEEDS EMOTIONAL SATISFACTION

In order for an empathic woman to be completely fulfilled in the relationship, she needs to be satisfied both emotionally and physically. She can’t have the physical without the emotional, or the other way around.

8. SHE DOESN’T DO SHORT-TERM RELATIONSHIPS

She doesn’t involve herself in short-term relationships. Her motto is – all or nothing. She would rather stay single than convince a man who is not ready to be in a relationship with her.

9. SHE ASKS A LOT OF QUESTIONS

An empathic woman wants to be clear to everyone about anything. So, a man can expect to be asked a lot of questions from her because she wants to know everything (not for manipulative reasons mind you, but rather for satisfying their curious nature).  

10. SHE SEES THE BEST AND WORST IN PEOPLE

This woman sees the best and the worst in others. So, this makes her at times hard to read and difficult to follow. When you think that she is going to do one thing, she could completely surprise you by doing just the opposite. Also, dating someone with a bad reputation is not a strange thing for her because she sees the good in him.  

11. SHE TENDS TO TAKE THINGS VERY PERSONALLY

The emotions are running high in the empath woman. She can be hurt even by the smallest thing because of her oversensitive nature. But she doesn’t hold grudges and she is ready to forgive when someone apologizes. Only that not many men can admit their mistakes.  

12. SHE LOVES HARD

An empathic woman loves harder and more intense than any other. She gives her all, but expect the same from the other person. Being with a woman like this is a hard pill to swallow for them.

Being loved by female empaths can be the most wonderful thing that can happen to you. However, many men are just not prepared for this kind of relationship. Most of them realize what they had but they realize it when it is too late.

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21 Revealing Signs That Your Partner Doesn’t Love You Anymore

signs your partner doesn't love you anymore

There is a saying that love is blind. Sometimes, it is hard to pay attention to little details that show that our partner doesn’t love us. Especially when we really love him/her, and we want our relationship to last.

But, you must be aware and pay attention to the little details that your partner does or doesn’t do, so you can get the real picture of your relationship and whether it will, or it won’t work out between you two.

21 Signs Your Partner Doesn’t Love You:

1. Their Mind Starts Wandering

If you start noticing that your partner’s mind wanders often – it is not a good sign. When your partner stops listening to you as attentively as he/she was before, it is a sign that they no longer respect what you have to say, and their love might be fading. Maybe they are thinking about someone else?

2. They Start Blaming You For Everything

When you feel that you can’t confront your partner about anything that goes wrong in your relationship because somehow it all ends up being your fault, guess what? They do not care and love you enough to accept their mistakes and say they are sorry. Rather, they will make it seem like it is your fault than compromising themselves.

3. They No Longer Respect You

When you notice that your partner’s behavior has shifted, and they are even disrespectful toward you-you know that is not a good sign. You can’t love someone who you don’t respect, and vice versa – you love only people you respect. So, when your partner stops respecting you, it is a clear sign that he/she has stopped loving you too.

4. They Always Find Excuses For Not Spending Time With You

When your partner starts spending more time at work and out with their friends, and can’t find time to meet with you-you know that you are no longer a priority to them. They indeed may be busy with work, but if they never make time to see you in their busy schedules, it may be a time for you to leave.

5. They Don’t Show You Any Signs Of Love And Affection

 You notice that your partner is not as loving and attentive as they were in the past. Even though this is a hard pill to swallow and it can hurt like hell, best is to accept the truth that your partner no longer loves you, move on with your life, and focus on yourself.

6. You Lack Conversation Topics

When you notice that you have more and more uncomfortable silences and it seems like you two don’t have anything to talk to, it might be a sign that you both have lost interest in each other. Sometimes, silence speaks louder than words, and when silence occurs usually the love dies.

7. They No Longer Support You

If you notice that your partner no longer seems to agree with you and support you and your plans – it might be a sign that you are no longer important to them. Plus, if you notice that they get annoyed and impatient when they are with you-you get the message.

8. They Stop Giving You Explanations

When you are not an important part of someone’s life, they won’t feel the need to give you explanations for their actions. When your partner no longer gives you any explanations that is because they no longer value you, and you should leave them because you deserve better.

9. They Don’t Consider You In Their Future Plans

You don’t need any further explanations for this. When your partner no longer mentions you in their future plans, you know that your relationship is doomed to end because they no longer see themselves with you.

10. They Start Talking About Other Women/Men

When you notice your partner looking at other people in front of you, or even start talking about how great they are looking – it is a sign that he/she stopped loving you and began looking and considering other options.

11. They Hurt You And Make You Hate Yourself

When your partner is disrespectful to your needs, or even lies to you, and cheats – they no longer care about your feelings and the pain you feel. Plus, you will start to hate yourself for it if you try to forgive them. So, walk away from the relationship before you start to lose yourself in the process of hate, blame, and hurt.

12. They Start A Life On Their Own

You feel as though you don’t exist for them anymore. They ignore you completely and start to live their life as they please, apart from you. In the past, when they still had a love for you, they discussed things with you and made decisions together with you. But right now, they act as they are single.

13. They Start Avoiding You

You no longer see them even though you live together. They are doing that on purpose. They are avoiding you. Knowing your daily routine, they do anything to escape an encounter with you. They do this to make you realize that they no longer love you and want out.

14. They are not involved or even interested in your life

You used to do things together, but not anymore. It’s like they have suddenly lost all interest in you and what you are doing. They suddenly hate everything about you. They don’t respect you or your interests. They are also not interested in going out with you or doing something together.

15. They are rude and condescending towards you

They are very harsh with their words, both in public and in private. They are not choosing their words. They demean you, and they don’t care whether you get hurt or not. Their harshness and rudeness are their way of letting you know they don’t want to be with you anymore.

16. They are secretive, hide their phone, and lie to you

They get ready, look at their phone, smile, and leave without even telling you where they are going and with whom! They stopped informing you where they are and when are coming back. They hide their phone so that you can’t see with whom they are communicating. They even lie to you when you ask them about their whereabouts. These are clear signs that they stopped loving and caring about you.

17. They are hot and cold

One moment they are all over you, the next they are pushing you away. They play the game of hot and cold and that means that even they don’t know what they are feeling. They don’t have love like they had for you, but there may be some feelings left, so they are trying to decide whether to leave you or not.

18. They get angry easily

They get angry at the slightest little thing. It is as if day by day, their tolerance levels are getting lower and their annoyance is getting higher. Your connection is slowly but surely becoming a battlefield. You yell at each other without a reason and that’s because they want to break things with you.

19. They no longer say “I love you”

You stopped acting like two people who love each other. You also stopped saying loving things to one another. Your partner has stopped saying “I love you to you.” Of course, actions speak louder than words, but when there are no loving actions and the loving words are missing as well, this is a big red flag.

20. They stop making you happy

They stopped doing all those things you like and make you happy. They are not even trying to make you happy anymore. They just don’t care. Whether you are happy, angry, or sad – they don’t give a damn. When this kind of indifference is present in your relationships, it is practically over between you because the love is long gone.

21. They avoid having sex with you

If they lose interest in having sex with you, then it is a clear sign that your relationship is in serious trouble. Once your partner loses interest in sharing intimacy with you, then their feelings for you are lost as well. If they never initiate love-making then the truth is, they don’t love you anymore.

What To Do?

If you have noticed this sign in your partner’s behavior towards you, the best thing you can do for yourself is leave. You can stay with someone who doesn’t love you. You cannot do that to yourself. You can’t stay and continue hurting yourself.

Life is hard as it is, and you need to be someone who will make your life better. Someone who will make you happy and fulfilled. Someone who will love you as you are, flaws and all.

Gaslighting Signs-How To Spot Manipulators That Make Their Victims Think That They’re Going Crazy

Gaslighting Abuse

We know what we’ve seen and heard, at least most of the time. This is especially true about things we find important. However, it’s very creepy when you suddenly realize that you might have been imagining some events.

There are always those people who will correct you about a thing they’ve said or done, or even about things you have said or done. And when it comes to this, there are those who will start making you question your own sanity and believe that you might be imagining stuff more than usual.

Have you found yourself questioning or own sanity? If someone led you to this, then you should be very careful. You see, there could be a mind game that is designed to keep you under control. It’s called gaslighting and its purpose is to have you feel so discredited that you may start thinking that you’re going crazy and feel terrible about yourself.

The tactic these people are using is named after a movie from the 50s which is about a man who manages to trick a woman into thinking that she’s going crazy. And this technique is no stuff of films – it’s more real than you can imagine.

What Is Gaslighting?

Gaslighting-mind game is a term that describes emotional abuse

Which, as Rebel Circus describes, will eventually lead you to the point where you question what really happened, how you really feel about things, and whether you should feel angry about things that your partner may have done.

The most common things you may hear from a person who’s trying to gaslight you are “I never said that,” “That’s not what I did,” “You’re so sensitive,” or “I can’t believe you forgot.”

The truth is that they are trying to convince you into disbelieving in something you already know. And it’s true that you can’t always be sure of what you have heard, said, or done, especially in front of someone you feel like you trust.

A person who’s trying to gaslight you will always start slow and small. It could really all start with an insult, for which they will apologize but will also tag you ‘emotional’ and use that tag to manipulate every one of your reactions in the future.

If you have ever been in the search for that gaslighter meaning, there you have it—a person that will twist the reality by bending the truth and denying everything that you begin to question yourself and what really happened.

If left untreated, gaslighting can have severe effects on your emotional well-being

Gaslighting Abuse Can Be Done In Several Different Ways

The manipulator will not let you regain confidence so easily. Denying the truth is only one of the most common steps they will take, but there are some even more devious ways they can manipulate you.

They Will Make You Wonder What’s Wight And What’s Wrong

And they will do this by calling you irrational, delusional, and that you’re the one who’s actually abusing them. They will do everything to make you feel displaced and completely lost.

In fact, they will be ready to extend their technique to your friends and family. They will infiltrate themselves in your closest circles and try to create a gap between you and those you love. In extreme cases, they will do everything to represent you as crazy and unstable in front of the others, and that they are doing everything to help you out.

To wear you down, they will regularly start arguments over things ‘you’ve done wrong or the ‘fact’ that you make them feel bad. You may know that they’re not right, but that’s not the purpose of the fight.

However, at the end of the day, the manipulator will always try to portray oneself as the strong one who was broken by your words or actions, because he/she let you in. And which is more, they will start acting as your ‘defenders’ against the cruel reality you are ‘incapable of facing.’

In this role, they will start diagnosing you and inform you of your feelings, by purposely misinterpreting your behavior. You may hear that ‘you’re depressed or that you are feeling ‘betrayed’ by your friends, and they will exaggerate every one of your reactions to reinforce the ‘diagnosis.’

The Effects Of Gaslighting  Abuse Are Devastating

Nobody is immune to gaslighting, as it’s a subtle technique that allows for a long and uninterrupted exposure. Because of the length of the process, you might not even notice that you are being manipulated, but you will feel more upset and weaker as time goes by.

The victims of gaslighting end up feeling worn down, start questioning themselves, and will generally feel frustrated with their life. They will often feel unable to win arguments and can grow increasingly resentful of their partners.

They also learn to apologize for everything. It’s because they feel like they’re always in the wrong and that they are incapable of doing anything right. This insecurity and stress will eventually lead them to the final stage where:

They no longer feel able to decide for themselves and they lose all touch with the reality they used to perceive. In this final stage, they will just assume that they have really lost their mind and that they can’t remember anything anymore.

This is when the manipulator takes over completely and starts deciding for them, telling them what to do, who to talk to, and who to trust (which would be only them).

If this sounds like you, you need to get away from that person

To deal with gaslighting abuse best is to disengage. If you notice that someone is trying to gaslight you, get away from that person without starting arguments and trying to prove yourself right.

It’s in their nature to deny whatever doesn’t go with their plan, so you will never get the better end of the argument. Because of that, cut every connection you have with that person and inform your closest friends (if you have any left) and family about what that person has been doing.

And when you disengage, don’t allow yourself to get back to that person, because he/she will only escalate the manipulation if you do.

Gaslighting abuse is a tactic that will ultimately have you feeling like it’s your fault that you’ve been gaslight. However, it’s not your fault and you should do everything to toss away all the illusionary blame you have taken on.

Gaslighting In Relationships

While it is likely that politicians, institutions, and public figures sometimes turn to obscuring and hiding the truth from their people, it is more likely that gaslighting is happening a bit closer to home. It’s that most direct type of gaslighting that has the most severe influence on the individual’s life.

Gaslighting occurs somewhat subconsciously, stemming from the need of the gaslighter to hide the embarrassing truth and not lose control over the situation.

For example, if you see clear signs that your partner is spending a lot of money, that they are growing distant, or have started gambling, you might want to confront them. If they refuse to admit the truth and face their guilt, and if they try to toss the blame on your side of the playground, it means you are gaslighted by someone and that someone is only the person you chose to spend your life with.

Your partner denies your facts, calling them proof-free hunches, accuses you of being paranoid, insecure, or a control freak. Does this sound too familiar?

The worst part is, gaslighters are often not even aware that they are gaslighting someone. They are not aware of their little gaslighting abuse technique, but they do it because throughout the years, they learned that lying, denying, and modifying facts and emotions helps. They make their victim doubtful and insecure, so the victim withdraws and starts analyzing every word, every action.

They start questioning themselves: Did I cross a line here? Was I too harsh accusing him/her of something so serious? He/She has every right to be mad, how could I have doubted him/her?

Because the victim withdraws in themselves, they begin to take every word their partner says for granted. They’ve learned to trust their gaslighter’s versions of the truth to avoid belittling, thinking it’s them that has to change for the better. Thinking it’s them that cause all the problems in the relationship, that their partner just has to live with their overbearing self – that it’s them making the sacrifice for love.

Gaslighting Signs In A Relationship

  • You apologize often
  • You feel like everything you do is wrong
  • You feel isolated from friends and family
  • You think it’s your fault when things go wrong
  • Decision-making is puzzling for you
  • You feel hopeless and you take little to no pleasure in activities you used to enjoy
  • You sense that something is wrong, but you are unable to identify what it is
  • You wonder if you are good enough
  • You question whether your response to your partner is appropriate (you wonder if you are too harsh or not loving enough)
  • You feel less confident and you are anxious 
  • You are not happy in the relationship
  • You make excuses for your partner’s behavior
  • You avoid giving information to friends or family members to avoid confrontation with your partner
  • You often feel confused and even crazy in the relationship.

Gaslighting Phrases You Can Hear In A Relationship

  • You’re so sensitive.
  • You are just paranoid.
  • Nobody believes you, why should I?
  • That’s not true, stop acting crazy.
  • Relax, it was just a joke.
  • You know that’s just because you are so insecure.
  • You sound crazy, you know that, right?
  • You just love making me miserable.
  • I was just joking!
  • You are making that up, you are always imagining things that aren’t there.
  • It’s no big deal.
  • There you go again, I am telling you, that’s not what happened!
  • You’re imagining things.
  • You’re overreacting.
  • You are exaggerating, as always.
  • Don’t be so dramatic.
  • Jesus, don’t get so worked up again.
  • That never happened.
  • You know you have the memory of a sieve.
  • You’re hysterical.
  • Nobody believes you, why should I?

Gaslighting By Parents

Parents are sly gaslighters that turn into emotional and psychological abusers for their children.

  • The parent plays the victim
  • The parent makes their child feel worse about themselves
  • The parent denies their child’s subjective feelings and experiences

In these situations, the child is dealing with a gaslighter of a parent that manipulates their child. A gaslighting parent is always right and always harshly critical for the child’s “own good”.

Growing up, maybe you’ve heard these gaslighting phrases uttered by your parents:

  • You are crazy. 
  • I am harsh on you because I care for you.
  • I criticize you because I love you.
  • I am not arguing, I am discussing this with you.
  • You are making a big deal out of nothing.
  • You should have known better.
  • You are so sensitive.
  • You are being too emotional.
  • Stop being dramatic.
  • You’re not cold, you’re tired. Go to sleep.
  • You should have listened to me.

How To Overcome Gaslighting?

Experiencing gaslighting abuse is more harmful in a child’s formative years than later on in adulthood. Becoming aware of the issue, becoming aware that it’s not your fault is the first step towards your healing process.

Seeking support from trusted friends, family members, and expert professionals is the second step in the process.

You can fight gaslighting abuse by checking the facts, remembering (even writing down) the order of events, the exact words your manipulator parent, sibling, friend, or partner told you, and by setting boundaries.

Don’t let their harmful words get to you and talk to a professional to get a firmer grip of reality. It may take some time until you regain your confidence, but it will happen. Things will get back to normal.

Remember, it’s not you. It’s them.

Recheck facts.

Set boundaries.

Seek help.

Now, put down that burden that has been pressing your chest and throw it away. Far, far away.

Making the decision that you want to be free from emotional pushover and gaslighting abuse makes you already… FREE.

Free form the firm grip of your gaslighter… free to live your life however you want to live it.

Strong Women Would Rather Be Alone Than Waste Time With Assholes

Let’s not mince words here, dating can be fun and amazing. However, more often than not, it is just a waste of time. Can you count all the failed relationships in your life? I’m sure that most of them ended because of a jerk who didn’t call you back or stopped respecting you.

The truth is: You don’t need that!

You don’t need to wait for someone to call you or ask someone to respect you. You don’t need a person who will lie to you or a person who wants you to change.

I know, he is gorgeous and sexy and you know that nobody is perfect so maybe you could just give him one more chance. He’ll change, you say to yourself. But the reality is: he probably won’t! Everyone has flaws, but cheating and lying are choices. Choices that he made consciously. You don’t need that.

Everyone has flaws, but cheating and lying are choices. Choices that he made consciously. You don’t need that.

From my experience, it looks like most of the available good-looking guys are jerks. That’s why I decided not to take the risk and I’m staying single until I’m sure that I’ve found a genuinely great guy. And honestly, I enjoy being single.

It’s great to do whatever you want every single day. Nobody judges me when I spend hours doing my nails or stay at home during the weekend just to watch reality shows.

And another thing – I don’t miss a guy in my life. I realized that looking for the right guy is not so important as it seemed to me before. Now I know that being alone is not the same as feeling lonely. You can feel lonely even if you are in a relationship. Being alone is liberating!

I don’t need another cute guy who will turn out to be a douchebag. I don’t want that! I want to be myself and do the things I like. I feel free to explore and conquer the world!

Nothing can stop me now. After many experiences with douchebags, no guy can fool me into going along that road again. I know that all of them are fun at the beginning, but that doesn’t prove that they are good guys.

That is why I address this text to all the girls who had a jerk in their lives. You don’t deserve that! You are powerful, free-willed and independent and you can be whatever you want in your life.

You don’t need a guy to succeed or travel the world. Especially not an asshole who puts out the fire in you.

Don’t allow to be fooled by the puppy-eye look or the sweet words. You know what he did to you! Don’t let him do it again.

Don’t be afraid to be alone. You don’t need dating to be happy. Happiness is much more than that! It’s feeling comfortable and free.

Even if you choose to date, do it carefully. Do it bearing in mind that you have everything you need – yourself. And don’t forget that all the other guys also seemed perfect at the beginning.

Enjoy living life by yourself. Time goes by very quickly and you don’t want to waste it, do you? At the end, you want to be sure that you’ve had everything you wished for and not feel sorry that you wasted your nerves, energy and time on someone who simply wasn’t worth it.

Always remember that if you don’t love yourself, the others won’t love you either. By loving yourself I mean enjoying life freely and not sacrificing yourself for someone who doesn’t even respect you.

Be strong and fierce, because you have to be, in order to succeed in today’s world. And you don’t need anyone for that.

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” – Buddha

 

Parents Who Raise Good Kids Do These 5 Things

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Times have changed greatly and with new times come new habits, sets of behavior and attitudes that seem very different from the ones we were used to when we were kids.

Today’s generations are all geared up with the newest technology that seems to distract them from the need to go out and play, socialize in the ways we used to or just spend time having fun. 

The challenges vary in many ways, but the main things is that today’s parents raise their children way more differently than they were raised and the outcome of those parents’ care is the greatest challenge.

Will my kid learn to be a complete person, the one who pushes forward and a person with good manners, who can bond and communicate with others freely and openly?

Every parent asks the same questions: Am I missing something? Am I doing everything right? Will my child succeed in life?

Am I Good Parent For My Child?

All these questions linger inside the head of every parent, no matter how old their child is. Parenting tips are literally never enough, so having a parenting guide by your night stand is always gonna come in handy.

You can never say you’ve read too many parenting guides and you know everything there is to know because parenting is art on its own. It changes and fluctuates. It’s never fixed, and perhaps, that’s the beauty of it.
Amid all those question marks and doubtful thinking, the ultimate question remains: How to raise good kids? Even better yet, how to be a good parent?

You are trying so hard, yet feel like you could still learn a secret or two. Knowledge never hurt nobody, right?

To find answers to your questions as well as the ultimate parenting tips you need, just scroll down. 

How To Raise Good Kids? 

Psychologists at Harvard University have thought of the same questions and have found that there are several elements that are still very important and basic for every kid’s childhood. The key to upbringing a well-adjusted child in these changing times is not as complicated as you may think.

5 Secret Parenting Tips To Raising Good Kids, According to Harvard Psychologists:

1. SPENDING QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR CHILDREN

It’s not enough just to be physically around your kid – you need to be with them completely. This means that no Xbox console or new iPhone can replace the bonding that the child truly needs. By communicating with them openly, listening carefully and doing the things they like together, your child will not only love you more, but will also learn how to be a considerate and caring person, and remember their childhood a positive experience.

This is the foundation of it all. Your kid would very much prefer (above everything else) having a real person to talk to and to share ideas and experiences with, even if they may not seem aware of it.

Being a good parent means asking your kid how their day went, listening carefully, and discussing the dilemmas they may have in their head – be careful not to ‘dogmatize’ lessons from your experiences though, they need to experience these things through their own perspective. We’ll talk about this later in this article.

See what their favorite things are and try to learn from them how to play the games they like – they would enjoy sharing their ‘fun’ with you!

Read them a book before bed (or do it together during the day if they are in the mood for it). Just be around them completely and acknowledge their emotions.

Practically speaking:

Devote some time of your day to play their favorite games with them;
Read them a bedtime story and enjoy the whole story with them;
Ask them questions about their day, include questions like:         What was the best part of your day? The hardest part? What’s something nice someone did for you today? What’s something nice you did?  What’s something you learned today – in school or outside school?

2. LET YOUR KIDS SEE A STRONG MORAL ROLE MODEL AND MENTOR IN YOU

Children learn the most from their surroundings, especially at a younger age. What you do is what they will become. This is why you should always pay close attention to your manners and actions and be ready to admit faults and mistakes. Show your child that you care and that you are ready to accept your faults and work on them.

The result you wish to see in your child comes from the effort you put into yourself on this one. Practice fairness, honesty, and care for yourself. This picture will teach your kid to do the same habits. The key to all this is to talk these things through with your child.

Acknowledging your mistakes, especially those that involve your kid in them, and speak openly about these things.

The aim is to show your child good manners, humility, and honesty. With that, they will feel a lot more comforted and encouraged to look to a positive outcome in their problems.

Your child will look up to you only if you earn their trust and respect. Achieving this is showing your child that you are as human as you can be, and that comes with faults too.

Practically speaking:

Admit your mistakes, apologize and show that you wish to make up for them and plan to avoid it next time.
Tell your child how you plan to avoid that mistake and what you learned from it.
Make time for yourself and re-energize yourself during that time. You will need that energy to be more attentive to and caring with others.

3. TEACH YOUR CHILD TO CARE FOR OTHERS AND SET HIGH ETHICAL EXPECTATIONS

Your child needs to socialize and bond with others in the right way. Caring for others’ happiness and avoiding selfishness can bring a lot of benefits to your child’s future.

As the findings from Harvard say, “It’s very important that children hear from their parents and caretakers that caring about others is a top priority and that it is just as important as their own happiness.

Even though most parents and caretakers say that their children being caring is a top priority, often children aren’t hearing that message.”

This comes with holding your children to high ethical expectations. Be ready to honor their commitments. Teach them to do the right thing even when it’s hard and be a role model for this. It’s simple: you need to justify whatever you say to them with your actions.

Responsibilities and obligations are something you always need to remind your child of. They come in every shape even from early age: chores, school responsibilities, manners, friends, and promises.

Be sure to remind them that they are not alone and that others have expectations from them that they need to be ready to fulfill because they can.

Practically speaking:

Change the message you send them on a daily basis from “The most important thing is that you are happy” to “The most important thing is that you’re kind and you’re happy.”
Encourage your kid to ‘work it out’ before deciding whether they should quit a sports team, band or friendship. Ask them to consider the consequences their action may have on the others and encourage them to work the problem out before abandoning it.

4. ENCOURAGE KIDS TO PRACTICE APPRECIATION AND GRATITUDE

Our 4th of the parenting tips states: A child that’s not spoiled is a child that acknowledges the roles of others in their life in a healthy way. This acknowledgment comes with appreciation for the people who contribute to their lives.

Gratitude is a two-way road with wonderful effects. People who practice gratitude on a regular basis are more likely to be helpful, generous, compassionate and forgiving. They are also more likely to be happy and healthy.

Let their habit start by learning from your actions. Be ready to show gratitude for something nice they do for you – but be careful!

Showing a lot of gratitude for things they are supposed to do will spoil them! As the Harvard psychologists say, “real responsibilities.”

“Expect children to routinely help, for example, with household chores and siblings, and only praise uncommon acts of kindness. When these kinds of routine actions are simply expected and not rewarded, they’re more likely to become ingrained in everyday actions.”

Practically speaking:

Encourage your child to be grateful on a regular basis. Be ready to receive gratitude for your extraordinary acts of kindness and generosity towards them.
Encourage to express appreciation towards family members, teachers, or others who contribute to their lives.
Be grateful.

5. TEACH THEM TO SEE THE BIG PICTURE

A common fact is that children empathize with and care about a small circle of families and friends. This is a very normal thing, of course, but the real challenge is to teach kids to start thinking about people outside that circle.

This larger circle could include a new kid in class, other people who work in his/her school, a person who doesn’t speak your language or anyone who lives in a distant country. Children need to know how their thoughts and actions can impact a community.

As the study shows, “It is important that children learn to zoom in, listening closely and attending to those in their immediate circle, and to zoom out, taking in the big picture and considering the range of people they interact with every day.”

 Practically speaking:

Encourage your child to consider the perspectives and feelings of others, especially those who may be vulnerable. Give them simple ideas for taking action, such as comforting a kid who was teased or reaching out to the new kid in class.
Discuss engaging topics about some people’s hardships, like different experiences of children in other countries or communities.
Childhood is the period of life when most of our personality is shaped. That’s why you should start paying attention to their development, the best way you possibly can – by helping them understand the main things that make them complete persons.

BONUS PARENTING TIPS:

DON’T MAKE YOUR CHILD EXCEPTION TO EVERY RULE

Perhaps you have stumbled upon the expression raising conscientious children in literature, but you may have dished out that helpful reminder thinking that’s up to your child to learn and practice through life, but that’s where you are wrong.

Conscientiousness is up to you a great deal – especially during a child’s teenage years. What does this mean? Not defending or justifying your child when they’ve done something morally or ethically wrong, otherwise, you are feeding their ego and sense of self-righteousness, which can lead to crippling setbacks later on in their life.

Conscientious children tend to cope well in adulthood, for they are more aware of how the real world works. They haven’t been justified whenever they did something bad and they are aware that actions have consequences. Overprotected children, in turn, may grow up having a distorted moral compass and common sense, and will chose shortcuts and short-term payoffs over honest work and long-term gratifications.

As a parent, avoid bending the rules so they serve your child, thinking that with that you are protecting their future and well-being because adult happiness doesn’t arise from overprotection. Rather, it comes from children learning the rules and conforming to them so they grow into well-formed, down-to-earth adults who don’t think the world owes them a living.

RESIST DOING FOR THEM WHAT THEY CAN DO FOR THEMSELVES

While parental participation and involvement can increase goodwill, achievement, communication and help develop a sense of community for the child, you always need to have a balance. How much involvement is too involvement?

You cannot be doing every tiny easy little chore for the child nor redo everything they’ve done because a) you will make your child lazy and spoiled or b) you will suffocate their confidence and they’ll end up thinking nothing they do is ever good enough (which then lingers form their early, formative years all the way through adulthood).

PARENTING GUIDE FOR EFFECTIVE PRESCHOOL PARENTING

Develop routines

Steel is shaped while hot. Mark this rule as important in your parenting tips genesis because for your kid to grow into a responsible and diligent person, you need to teach them core values and combine them with a daily routine, so they don’t start procrastinating or slacking off.

That means personal hygiene, getting dressed independently, picking up after themselves, limited time spent online, some sports activities after screen time, and so on. Routines and adhering to a schedule are good for building discipline. 

Bully proof  your child

A whopping 49.9% of children aged 9-12 have reported bullying at school, so to prevent that from happening you need to armor your child long before they start going to school.

Raise your child’s awareness about bullying and prevent them from becoming a victim or a bully from an early age because bullying does not stop at school only. Online bullying and after-school bullying are still a reality.

Assign chores

Make your child feel important and capable. Assign them simple chores to activate them; chores like pouring their own milk, putting their toys back in the box, washing their teeth, etc.

Encourage cooperation and teamwork

You don’t want your child riding solo and going against the world, do you? Teach them from a preschool age the importance of collaboration and team spirit.

Make everyday fun

Whenever you are doing something together, play some music in the background. Make your own music band and rock together. Be messy when you draw, draw yourselves as mighty superheroes,  make the most delicious Halloween cookies together… have your own inner jokes or awards after completing every milestone.  

That way, your child can have a good example to learn from when they become a parent. Showing love, care, and dedication will free your child from depressive episodes, frustrations, and self-destructive behavior. A happy child is a happy adult, remember!

PARENTING TIPS FOR TEENAGE CHILDREN

You are a parent AND a friend

Curfews, tyrant parents that say no to everything and restrict everything are the death of a thriving, meaningful child-parent relationship.

Be understanding. Let your child express their opinion. Let them have their voice in the family. Let them be heard. Let them make their choices. A child that trusts you, your reactions, and understanding, will have the confidence to tell you anything.

Similarly, a child that has freedom will never violate it, but to be a good parent, you need to show that you can hear first, react, or make assumptions second.

Make eating one meal together a rule

This is perhaps one of the most important parenting tips that gets swayed under the carpet. No matter how busy you all are during the day ALWAYS make sure you have at least one mean together. Around the table, chit-chatting.

Ask questions and show interest

As grown-ups, we tend to lose our energy; it gets sucked from poor working conditions, biased bosses, and average salaries. It gets lost amidst the everyday, so much that we forget we are… PARENTS!

A good parent shows curiosity, asks questions, and shows that they really care. Don’t go asking the same routine questions because teenagers can small fake miles away. Listen. Really listen because teenagers will sense when you are drifting off in your thoughts.

Try to notice the authenticity in your child, try to spark their joy with your affection and dedication, and you are 5 steps ahead in the game!

Parenting tips are there to be shared. And sharing is caring!

Source:
Making Caring Common Project – Harvard University

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Is Chesterfield Sofa Old Fashioned?

Chesterfield sofas have been around for quite some time. They’ve been seen in many beautiful homes and setting throughout the years. The Chesterfield sofa was named after Phillip Stanhope, the fourth Earl of Chesterfield, and what makes it unique is that it improves with age. Its elegance and dignity improve with age, much like wine, making it a very worthwhile investment. Is a Chesterfield sofa, on the other hand, considered vintage? So let’s go right to the point and address that question!

Are Chesterfield sofas going to go old-fashioned?

Chesterfield is not going out of style, and here’s why: since they’re appealing and elegant, sofa Chesterfield styles will remain a classic that can be adapted to the modern home and institution décor. They are unique in that they work well with a variety of themes and home designs. Whether you have a traditionally themed house or a home with a modern design, a Chesterfield item will undoubtedly complement it because of its versatility.

Genuine Chesterfield sofas have a distinct, distinctive look that distinguishes them from other pieces of furniture in any environment. If you want a room or area to seem more trendy, it may serve as a focal point, contributing to the character and individuality of any place. You can now get a Chesterfield sofa in various sizes, whether you want to put it in a huge room or a tiny one.

You may also choose from various types such as Chesterfield wing back chairs, tub chairs, sofa beds, chaise longues, office chairs, and even coffee tables and footstools if you don’t like the classic Chesterfield sofa. Its style and design distinguish chesterfield furniture. For example, a classic Chesterfield sofa has deep buttons and low seating and is constructed of high-quality leather that is quilted over the seat and back.

A Chesterfield sofa’s arms and backs will be the same height as well. The Chesterfield sofa became synonymous with excellence and the most acceptable standards in the United Kingdom in the 1930s, making it even more robust, comfy, and dependable. Even though Chesterfield furniture is considered historically English in design, it has become a popular style in various nations across the world.

A Chesterfield sofa’s arms and backs will be the same height as well. The Chesterfield sofa became synonymous with excellence and the most exemplary standards in the United Kingdom in the 1930s, making it even more robust, comfy, and dependable. Despite the fact that Chesterfield furniture is considered to be historically English in design, it has become a popular style in various nations across the world.

Each handcrafted Chesterfield item should have a solid wooden frame and fine-grained leather upholstery. Another advantage of leather Chesterfield furniture is that spills on the leather may be wiped up with a moist, soft cloth. A Chesterfield item will always be a good choice if you want a classic piece that is ageless and exquisite and will be able to withstand wear and tear for a long time.

There’s the answer to your question! Chesterfield sofas will never become old-fashioned because of their unique style and elegant design. Even if this generation will get used to Chesterfield sofas and won’t buy them anymore, the new generation will eventually discover the aesthetic and vintage beauty of a Chesterfield sofa again.

Five All-Natural Sex Tips for Men

Sometimes it is hard to maintain a healthy lifestyle. There are just too many demands for men to accomplish that they need help to get the proper nutrients and vitamins they need to stay healthy. Men can live a healthier, happier life with these natural remedies and tips. Men should take care of their bodies and embrace their sexual potential.

They should also be aware of the consequences of staying up too late or drinking too much alcohol. Here are some natural tips for men on how to improve their sex lives, keep their overall health in check, and live a happier life.

Get Moving

The benefits of regular exercise are clear, but it can be hard to get started. Regular exercise can help improve your overall health and give you a better sex life – both things that we’re all looking for! The key takeaway is that if you don’t like working out or not getting enough time for it, just enough exercise done regularly is a natural solution that will help enhance your overall health and improve your sex life. Just like exercising your body, regularly using a Proextender is a natural way to enlarge your penis.

Eat Right

Eating healthy is without a doubt one of the best and proven natural solutions that can help enhance your overall health. The first thing you should do is to cut out sugar and processed foods from your diet. These can be found in most meals and snacks today, so it is important to be conscious about what you are eating as well as what you are avoiding.

Sugar comes in many forms such as honey, agave nectar, brown sugar, white sugar, and even high fructose corn syrup. Limit yourself from these products or just avoid them completely to reduce the amount of sugars in your diet and hopefully see a change in the way you feel overall.

Food nutrition has a direct impact in your sex life, with many foods affecting your erection and overall performance in bed. You want to increase your Vitamin D intake, found in foods like tuna, cheese, eggs, yogurt, and milk.

Vascular Health

As many as one of five people will die from cardiovascular disease (CVD) each year, according to the American Heart Association. If you’re not sure how to check for your vascular health or whether you have any risk factors, there are a few ways. One way is to check for carotid artery thickening, which is the first step of atherosclerosis.

To do so, gently press on your neck where the Adam’s apple is found right below the jaw on each side of the neck with two fingers and look at them under a strong light source. If there is any thickening that’s more than 3mm thick in either carotid artery, it indicates that you’re at risk for CVD. Checking your vascular health includes checking your penis, brain, and heart with a professional health doctor.

Slim Down

Losing weight can improve your overall health and sex life. It is important to maintain a healthy weight in relation to your height. To lose weight, it is important to plan ahead and be consistent with your diet, activity, and fitness routine. You can also use appetite suppressants or weight loss supplements to help you lose the pounds more quickly. Obesity is one of the leading causes of erectile disfunction, where access fat complicates vital hormones for good sex drive.

What is Faith-Based Counseling

Most of you probably heard “faith-based counseling” but don’t know what it means. Christian counseling and faith-based counseling are used interchangeably to define one meaning. Faith-based counselling refers to the counseling that uses behavioral science and practices found in the Bible. It helps people find peace and heal themselves with the help of the Lord instead of another individual.

Faith-based counseling not only helps people improve their mental health but also their spiritual health. Faithfully Guided is a good agency that provides faith-based counseling services. Their services include the combination of strategies, sciences, and scripture that give hope to people. They help an individual to strengthen their relationship and find their true self. Beyond that, faith-based counseling also facilitates and increases a person’s relationship between him and the Healer.

Faithfully Guided provides faith-based and collaborative counseling. A person may experience problems from a traumatic event or conflict between other individuals. These problems may lead to trembled personality.

The main goal of Faithfully Guided is to help you find peace in your life by providing you with reliable and safe strategies. They would help you to bring back your hope and character despite the situation you are in. It is their mission to be your light during the dark times of your life.

They will lead you to have an abundant life by teaching you how to manage stress. Their services also help to improve your brain health. This allows you to make better and healthier decisions to adapt and cope up with unexpected situations.

Certification

At Faithfully Guided, you can ensure their reliability. The Christian and pastoral counselors are NCCA (National Christian Counselors Association) certified. Beyond that, they are also certified through the AACC (American Association of Christian Counselors). Considering all these certifications, it only shows that the counselors have completed their education courses and offer only the best pastoral counseling services.

Both AACC and NCCA do not only perform their research for agencies that provide faith-based counseling. They also follow instructions for offering counseling to individuals according to the teachings of God. At Faithfully Guided, they also offer counseling services to boost a person’s mental health with specifications in play and trauma therapies.

Different Types of Faith-Based Counseling Interventions

Faith-based counseling has different types of interventions. These include sacred rituals, mindfulness, forgiveness, meditation, prayer, and more.

Meditation or Prayer

Through a prayer, an individual or group of persons talk to a spiritual entity. The prime purpose of praying is to express adoration or gratitude and ask for direct assistance, strength, and guidance. Meditation is another type of communication that requires a person to focus their mind and soul on something. Through meditation, a person may ask for insight, spiritual connection, understanding, and enlightenment.

Sacred Rituals

Sacred rituals include smudging, repentance, and fasting. All these are practiced in faith-based counseling to heal, purify, and strengthen one’s spiritual connection.

Mindfulness

Mindfulness defines as the way of giving one’s full attention to the current situation. Mostly, this intervention is practiced in Buddhism. Being mindful means that you notice and accept the circumstances happening in your life without any judgment.

Forgiveness

Different religions have different perceptions about forgiveness. Saying sorry to either a person or spiritual entity you have done wrong is an essential act according to a person’s spiritual belief or religious values. Also, there are possible steps that a person should face when making amends or repentance for the person he/she has done wrong.

Problems that Faith-Based Counseling can Fix

Faith-based and traditional counseling have some similarities. Both of them can help a person with the following:

  • Family and marriage
  • Coping skills
  • Compulsive behaviors
  • Codependency
  • Self-Harm
  • Loneliness
  • Depression
  • Trauma
  • Grief
  • Anxiety
  • Stress
  • Pain
  • Fear
  • Anger
  • Identity

In addition, faith-based counseling does not only help one persona but also families and couples. A Christian counselor will communicate with you thoroughly to assess your struggles and relate them to the foundational teachings available in the Bible.

Three Counseling Options at Faithfully Guided

At Faithfully Guided, they offer three counseling options. These are the individual counseling, marriage counseling, and family counseling. Each option is thoroughly discussed below.

Individual Counseling

Individual counseling includes an in-person conversation and meeting with one credentialed and trained Christian counselor. All the meetings between you and the counselor will be done in a safe environment. Don’t worry since all your personal information will remain confidential. Each counseling appointment can last for around an hour.

The following are the topics that may be discussed during individual counseling:

  • Coaching
  • Communication and boundaries
  • Grief
  • Anxiety
  • Coping skills
  • Compulsive behavior
  • Pain
  • Codependency
  • Fear
  • Self-harm
  • Loneliness
  • Anger
  • Depression
  • Spiritual and Identity development

Marriage Counseling

Marriage counseling is all about strengthening your relationship with your partner. There are multiple benefits you can get from each session of individual counseling. These include good communication, self-regulation skills, and a lot more.

Each session for marital counseling may last for an hour or two. It would be better if you and your spouse will go through individual counseling to get yourselves ready.

The following are the possible topics that may be discussed during marriage counseling:

  • Divorce
  • Identity and life roles
  • Finances
  • Premarital counseling
  • Sexual dysfunction
  • Communication and boundaries
  • Unforgiveness
  • Conflict resolution
  • Betrayal
  • Abuse
  • Abandonment

Family Counseling

The primary goal of family counseling is to empower the development, changes, and roles of each member. Depending on your needs, counselors may recommend you to go through individual counseling first. Just like the other forms of counseling mentioned above, family counseling is done in a confidential and secure environment.

The topics covered in each family discussion include the following:

  • Communication and boundaries
  • Parenting
  • Conflict resolution
  • Discipline
  • Coping skills
  • Punishment
  • Blended and stepfamilies
  • Unhealthy relationships
  • Technology
  • Cutting and bullying
  • Teen issues
  • Adolescents
  • Children

Faithfully Guided for Your Counselling Needs

To sum it up, Faithfully Guided counselling services are available for all people. It helps to restore your spiritual and mental health and guides you to a healthier and happier life. Each counselling service they have is unique as they work together with other health professionals to ensure the healing of a person. Faith-based counselling is made to help individuals recompose their body, mind, and spirit.

What you should look out for before hiring a medical malpractice lawyer

No doubt, medical professionals play a huge role in societies, and they always make sure that people have healthy lives. Unfortunately, like any other professional, they sometimes make mistakes when doing their work. Regardless of whether or not this happens by accident, it can lead to significant damage. 

And, when you have been injured by a nurse, doctor, or any other medical professional, you can get compensation for the damages incurred. Therefore, it’s a good idea to find a medical malpractice attorney near me for good results. This page discusses what you should look out for before hiring a medical malpractice lawyer. 

Good qualifications

When it comes to hiring any professional, it’s important to find someone who is well-qualified, and this is not different with medical malpractice attorneys. The right medical malpractice attorney goes through the proper training before they start practicing. Simply put, they complete several education sessions so that they get the right legal knowledge needed to represent their clients.

Therefore, when searching for a medical malpractice attorney, you should check where they did their studies and their professional development. Remember that law is a huge field, so attorneys usually specialize in specific areas. For medical malpractice, make sure that the potential attorney practices in this field. Some lawyers also receive awards to show that they are good in their field of practice. So make sure that you find these types of attorneys for the best results. 

An outstanding track record

Besides the proper training and qualifications, a good attorney must also have a great track record. It’s also a good idea to check out their previous medical malpractice cases and their outcomes. A good place you can check all these is through their websites. 

In most cases, their websites can reveal the success rate of the cases they handled. You can also see the level of compensation they received on behalf of their clients. Also, you can check if they have handled similar medical malpractice cases. 

It’s also important to check customer reviews to see if the previous clients were happy with the services offered by the attorney. Remember that people who hired the attorney before you can have their experiences, so they are in a better situation of revealing more information about the attorney. Therefore, make sure you read the testimonials on the attorney’s website. Even better, you can check the independent reviews on some reputable sites. 

Excellent communication skills

Many good lawyers are known for their good communication skills. Your attorney needs to communicate with you timely and effectively. If you have any questions or concerns about your medical malpractice case, they need to address them within a couple of days. Also, they need to tell you of some new developments in the case quickly. 

Some of the things that show that the potential attorney has good communication channels include the presence of their contact details on their websites. When you contact the lawyer, they should also get back to you quickly.

How To Relax Your Body and Mind From Anxiety

Having anxiety is a normal part of life that can be brought on by stress or worrying, but it can be manageable. Over time, people have discovered many tips on improving stress and worrying.

This blog is solely based on learning how to relax your mind and body from anxiety. This should not be taken as medical advice. If you believe you deal with an abnormal amount of anxiety, you should contact a physician or counselor to get the help you need.

Meditation

Meditation has been practiced worldwide and continues to help people relieve stress, anxiety, and worry from their lives. You can find meditation classes online or in your app store. If you are new to meditating, start with a short session of ten minutes. If this seems too short, adjust the duration as needed.

Exercise

Exercising can improve your mood, relieve stress, and may help you sleep better at night. If you aren’t used to exercising but are looking for ways to reduce stress, start by going for a 20-minute walk each day. You may find physical activity to be the outlet you have been missing in your life.

Limit Caffeine

You should limit your caffeine. As tiring as life can be, you should not drink more than four cups of coffee per day or 400 milligrams of caffeine. Caffeine can cause jittery effects and can stimulate your “fight or flight” response, which can potentially trigger anxiety. Overall, if you are having a stressful day, it may be best to take a day off from caffeine.

Cannabinoids

Since the 2018 Farm bill was passed, cannabinoids have become accessible, as most states have legalized hemp. Some popular hemp-derived cannabinoids that have been reported to encourage a calming effect are Delta 8 oil and CBD. Although we cannot guarantee you will have the same experience, it may be worth looking into.

Count To Ten and Breathe

Anxiety can come out of nowhere, which can throw you off guard. When you feel anxiety creeping up and don’t have anywhere to retreat to, the best thing you can do is count to ten and take slow controlled breaths. This will encourage your body to remain calm and prevent your mind from entering a negative state.

Once you have your breathing mastered, you will be able to calm your mind and body from almost any situation.

A Hot Bath

Give yourself some love and have a relaxing evening to unwind with light music, candles, and a nice hot bath. Sometimes, life can be hectic, and we forget how glorious it can feel to submerge ourselves in warm water. But hot baths do much more than alleviate anxiety—they can also relax the muscles, lower stress and have been known to aid in digestive problems.

In Conclusion

By no means should this information be taken as medical advice. These are just suggestions that may help common anxiety and stress. If you feel that your anxiety is uncontrollable, reach out to your physician or a mental health specialist.

8 Powerful Mantras to Help You Quiet Anxiety

Did you know that over 40 million people in the US suffer from anxiety disorders? With that number climbing every year, especially with the COVID-19 pandemic’s seemingly never-ending presence, we should all do our best to relieve stress and anxiety before it blows up into a long-term problem.

Practicing yoga is an excellent way to increase awareness—not to mention relieve stress and anxiety—but achieving peace of mind through this ancient practice is no mean feat. One helpful way to reduce anxiety through yoga is by choosing a mantra for anxiety.

 What Is a Yoga Mantra?

To put it simply, a mantra is a word or phrase—traditionally in Sanskrit—that allegedly assists the yoga practitioner in transforming their body, mind, and spirit. You chant the sacred syllables aloud in a loud whisper or silently in your mind while meditating to increase your awareness of your intent.

 Can a Yoga Mantra Really Relieve Anxiety?

Before we move on, it’s important to note that yoga mantras are not a foolproof way of curing anxiety, and their effects may vary from person to person. The purpose of the mantra is to establish a healthy foundation for helping yoga practitioners cope, process, and move forward with their lives with a clearer mind, better self-awareness, and reduced negative energies weighing them down.

If you’re not a total believer of the benefits of chanting the same word over and over again, we don’t blame you. However, the proof doesn’t lie. One study has discovered a direct correlation between repeating a chant for extended periods of time and significant changes in brain activity.

8 Powerful Mantras to Help You Quiet Anxiety

Below, we’ll go over eight powerful mantras that many people say have worked for them to reduce anxiety. Take whatever from this least speaks loudest to you. If done properly and with an open mind, you might even notice feelings of instant stress relief, especially when you repeat them consistently and frequently.

 1 | Om

You’ve undoubtedly heard this chant everywhere you see someone meditating on TV or in movies. It’s a simple yet powerful mantra that has a grounding effect like no other. It’s also the oldest mantra that can help us into ourselves and slowly chip away at stress, anxiety, and even depression.

 2 | This Will Pass

Like many other things in this world, including certain health and mind conditions, anxiety, too, will pass. Use this chant to remind yourself over and over again that anxiety doesn’t last forever and that with sheer willpower, sooner or later, this plague of the mind has an end.

 3 | Sat Nam

The Sat Nam mantra is a simple yet effective chant that can mean “I am truth,” “Truth is my essence,” or “My name is truth.” Whichever way you take it to mean, chanting Sat and Nam with each inhale and exhale repeatedly can reduce negative emotions in your mind that stem from “coiled” negative energy found at the stem of your spine.

 4 | All Is Well

Sometimes, we all need a friendly reminder, even if it comes from within, that all is well. Slowly chanting this phrase while working on your breathing patterns has helped some practitioners not only reduce stress but also strengthen self-awareness and intent.

 5 | Calm Down

Telling someone else to calm down is rarely effective, but you can command yourself to do it simply by chanting this phrase over and over again. You can either say the words “calm” and “down” with each inhale and exhale, or you can slowly spell the words out.

 6 | It’s Not About You

When people become frustrated with you at the workplace, just know that it’s not personal. Some yoga practitioners rely on this simple chant to remind them that everything that happens at work is professional and not to be taken personally.

 7 | Soham

Soham, which simply means “I am that” or “I am the universe,” can help broaden your sense of self. This chant helps to remind you that you’re not just a particle in the expanding universe; you have a role in something greater, even if you don’t realize it yet. This two-syllable word can be said with an entire breath (one inhale and exhale).

 8 | Om Shanti Om

Om Shanti Om is the go-to mantra to invoke inner peace. In English, it’s understood to mean “peace in body,” and it can even be used as a form of greeting among practitioners. Om Shanti Om has helped countless people achieve a state of peace and tranquility with almost immediate effects.

 Try These Mantras Out or Come Up with Your Own

Once again, anxiety-relieving mantras are not 100% foolproof, and it takes an open mind and constant repetition to achieve a state of tranquility and mindfulness. Have you tried any of these mantras without beneficial results? Please feel free to come up with your own mantra. Find whatever helps find a positive affirmation for anxiety, whether it’s in English or another language. 

Parents: How To Talk About Mental Health With Your Family

Thankfully, conversations about mental health are becoming more and more mainstream. One of the many misconceptions surrounding mental health is that it’s an adult topic when this is not the case in reality. We all have mental health, and people of all ages can struggle with mental health, whether or not they have a diagnosable mental health condition. So, as a parent, how do you start talking about mental health with your family?

Kids And Mental Health

Mental health is broader than one might think, and it consists of three main components or areas of wellbeing. Those components are emotional, psychological, and social health. It’s important for all of us to take care of our mental health as well as our physical health, and the two are deeply connected.

There are many reasons why it’s important to talk about mental health with kids. When we do, it’s more likely that they will have the tools to express their own emotions, extend empathy to others, talk about what they need when they’re struggling, learn coping skills, and more. Even the youngest of kids can experience strong emotions, and knowing how to express, explore, and navigate those feelings in a healthy way matters.

Depending on what comes up, talking about mental health can also decrease the stigma surrounding mental health conditions. After all, according to the CDC, 17.4% of children between the ages of 2 and 8 live with a mental, behavioral, or developmental disorder. Many mental health concerns and conditions are treatable, and early detection can be advantageous in many cases.

How To Start Talking About Mental Health With Kids

For many parents, the tough part is knowing how and when to start talking about mental health with kids. First, know that it’s never too soon to start talking about mental health. Using age-appropriate language that your child understands is the best way to go. You don’t need to necessarily open up a conversation with, “let’s talk about mental health,” either. While learning opportunities are near endless, here are some examples of scenarios that may prompt a natural conversation about mental health:

  • When they’re sad, overwhelmed, or are experiencing another strong emotion.
  • When your child’s friend goes through a tough time or has a hard day.
  • When a character in a movie, book, or TV show experiences a strong emotion, has a tough conversation, or has a mental health condition.
  • When you’re doing something for your own mental health.

There are a ton of organic opportunities to talk about mental health as it relates to daily life. It can be as simple as saying, “What are you feeling right now?” and validating your child’s emotions, providing real-life examples of empathy and compassion, or asking questions about how a favorite television character felt during a particular scene. If you’re struggling with your own mental health, it can be more challenging to open up – even to those closest to you, such as a partner or spouse. If you’re struggling with your own mental health or simply need a place to talk about life stress or something else that’s on your mind, a therapist or counselor can help.

Find A Therapist

Sometimes, the hard part isn’t wanting support but knowing where to look. There are a number of different ways to find a therapist who meets your needs. You can ask your doctor for a referral, contact your insurance company to see who they cover, search the web, or sign up for a reputable online therapy platform with licensed providers like BetterHelp. Online therapy is often more affordable than traditional in-person services are without insurance, and it’s an excellent way for busy parents to get quality care without taking the time to commute to a therapy center or private practice office. Regardless of how you find a therapist or counselor, you deserve to thrive. Don’t hesitate to take the first step and start your search today.

Marie Miguel Biography

Marie Miguel has been a writing and research expert for nearly a decade, covering a variety of health- related topics. Currently, she is contributing to the expansion and growth of a free online mental health resource with BetterHelp.com. With an interest and dedication to addressing stigmas associated with mental health, she continues to specifically target subjects related to anxiety and depression.

Exploring The Link Between Loneliness and Mental Health

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As human beings, we are wired for connection. We possess a deep need to feel seen, cared for and understood by others. If this need goes unmet, a person may experience feelings of loneliness. Since the start of the COVID-19 pandemic, many individuals have reported increased levels of loneliness and social isolation.

Throughout this article we will explore the potential causes of loneliness, how feeling lonely can impact our mental health, and strategies for managing loneliness. 

What is Loneliness? 

‘Loneliness’ can mean different things to different individuals. For some, it may indicate a lack of social interaction or feeling isolated from others. Some individuals may feel lonely even if they are surrounded by other people. It is important to acknowledge that each unique individual has different needs for connection. Some individuals find themselves perfectly content spending most of their days at home by themselves, while others would find this extremely distressing.

There are various potential reasons a person may feel lonely. Significant life transitions, such as the loss of a relationship, going away to college, moving to a new area, changing jobs, or retirement can contribute to feelings of loneliness. Certain groups are thought to be at a higher risk of experiencing loneliness, such as those who belong to minority groups, or face discrimination due to their race, sexual orientation, or a long-term health problem or disability.

Individuals who have a lack of social support from friends and/or family members are more likely to feel lonely. However, some individuals may feel lonely even if they are surrounded by people who care for them. They may feel like they have to ‘wear a mask’ to present a certain image to others, or are otherwise unable to be seen as their authentic selves. Some individuals may feel lonely and not be able to fully pinpoint why.

For more information about loneliness, visit BetterHelp.

How Does Loneliness Impact Mental Health? 

Loneliness can significantly impact an individual’s mental health. Over time, feelings of loneliness can increase one’s risk of developing depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem.

At the same time, living with a mental health condition can enhance an individual’s feelings of loneliness. It is common for people with a mental health disorder to isolate themselves due to the severity of their symptoms, or to experience challenges with carrying out every-day activities. This may interfere with a person’s ability to form and maintain meaningful social connections. In addition, some individuals living with a mental health condition may feel as though no one can truly understand what they are going through. They may feel hesitant to open up to others about their experiences due to fear of judgment. Feeling like they need to hide certain parts of themselves can certainly contribute to loneliness. 

Strategies for Managing Loneliness 

  1. If you are feeling socially isolated, you might think about potential opportunities for forming new social connections. You might look into community groups based on your hobbies and interests. This might look like joining a group fitness class, or trying a board game Meetup group. Volunteering can also provide an excellent avenue for meeting others who also value contributing to the community in positive ways. If you are specifically looking to find others who might be able to relate to current challenges you are facing, consider joining a peer support group to be able to talk with others who understand.
  1. If you are surrounded by people yet still find yourself feeling lonely, think about one step you could take towards sharing yourself more fully. Maybe this is taking a risk and opening up with a friend or family member about your feelings of loneliness, or something else you have been going through. Being able to share openly and authentically with others may help to provide more of the meaningful connection you are craving.
  1. If you continue to experience feelings of loneliness that are causing distress and impacting your mental health, consider seeking out further support from a mental health professional. Working with a therapist can help you to process your emotions and determine what could be contributing to feelings of loneliness. From there, you can establish goals and develop strategies to move towards more fulfilling connections with others.

Marie Miguel Biography

Marie Miguel has been a writing and research expert for nearly a decade, covering a variety of health- related topics. Currently, she is contributing to the expansion and growth of a free online mental health resource with BetterHelp.com. With an interest and dedication to addressing stigmas associated with mental health, she continues to specifically target subjects related to anxiety and depression.

Transitioning From Monogamy To Non-Monogamy With An Existing Partner

Some people determine that monogamy isn’t right for them early in their dating life, while others find non-monogamy later on. Similarly, some people start to identify with polyamory or non-monogamy when they’re single, whereas others make this discovery when they’re in an existing relationship with a partner. If you’re moving from monogamy to nonmonogamy together, there will be a period of transition. So, how do you navigate it?

Monogamy Vs. Non-Monogamy

First, let’s discuss the definition of monogamy and non-monogamy. Monogamy refers to having one partner at a time, where non-monogamy is an umbrella term that encompasses any relationship types that are not considered monogamous, including but not limited to polyamory. Non-monogamy is not the same as cheating. Like in any other relationship, there should be consent and awareness among all parties involved. Non-monogamy and monogamy are both ethical, valid forms of commitment, and one is not better than the other.

Transitioning From Monogamy To Non-Monogamy With A Partner

  • Discuss what you want (and be specific).

There are many different styles of non-monogamy and polyamory. With this in mind, it’s essential to specify the kind of dynamic you’re looking for. Are you looking primarily for sexual connections, or are you looking for emotional involvement? Ideally, are you wanting to date people together and form a triad, a quad, or a kitchen table-style dynamic? Are you going to date people separately? Is one member of the couple going to date or form intimate connections with other people, where the other is going to remain monogamous? Once you know what kind of dynamic you’re interested in, what are your boundaries? These are all important things to talk about. Non-monogamy is known for an emphasis on communication, and you have to be ready to be vulnerable and discuss what you want in-depth so that you and your partner or partners feel secure, heard, and loved.

  • Do your research.

Especially if you, your partner, or both you and your partner are relatively new to the concept of non-monogamy or polyamory, you’ve got to do your research. The best way to do this is to learn from other people within the community who are willing to share their words of wisdom. You might learn through social media accounts centered around polyamory, blogs, videos, books, or people you meet personally. Listen to what people have to say, and if you come across any information that’s meant to inform people who are new to non-monogamous dynamics, take it in. There are a lot of potential misunderstandings and blunders you can avoid if you learn from other people.

  • Meet other non-monogamous people.

Similar to the importance of learning from other people within the community, it can be helpful to make non-monogamous friends. Join a group or meetup, whether that’s online or in person. Since monogamy tends to be seen as the “standard” or “default” relationship style, it may be the case that not everyone around you understands. Meeting other people can be comforting and can provide a sense of community. It can also give you exposure to different non-monogamous partnerships and how they work. Find people who are welcoming and kind to newcomers. They’re out there. Be respectful and humble. Don’t be afraid to take it slow in your relationships and make friends with people first as you learn.

  • Keep an open dialogue.

It’s essential to not just talk about what you want in the beginning but to make sure that you keep an open dialogue moving forward, too. If feelings or concerns that you didn’t think of initially start to arise, you can and should discuss them. When you first bring up non-monogamy, it can be advantageous to have a conversation with your partner about how you want to check in with each other and maintain communication on an ongoing basis. Troubleshoot possible concerns and talk about how to bring up potential concerns with one another. If you need help at any point in time, don’t be afraid to reach out for the support of a therapist. There are therapists who specify on their website or in their biography that they work with polyamorous individuals and couples, so if you’re nervous about bringing it up with a therapist, you might look for one who makes it known that they understand polyamory.

Find A Therapist

Whether you’re facing concerns related to relationships or something else that’s on your mind, a therapist or counselor can help. There are a number of different ways to find a therapist. You can contact your insurance company to see what they cover, utilize an employee assistance program, ask your doctor for a referral, search the web, or sign up for a reputable online therapy platform like BetterHelp. BetterHelp offers both individual and couples counseling, and all of the providers on the platform are licensed. Regardless of how you find a therapist, you deserve to have healthy relationships and thrive, so don’t hesitate to take the first step toward finding care today.

Marie Miguel Biography

Marie Miguel has been a writing and research expert for nearly a decade, covering a variety of health- related topics. Currently, she is contributing to the expansion and growth of a free online mental health resource with BetterHelp.com. With an interest and dedication to addressing stigmas associated with mental health, she continues to specifically target subjects related to anxiety and depression.

Should You Get a Job Under Someone You’re Dating?

Sometimes you’re lucky enough to have the upper hand over other candidates when applying for a job; especially if the interviewer is a friend or family member. But is getting a job working under someone you’re dating appropriate in the workplace? Read on to find out more…

Relationships in the workplace are far more frequent than suspected. Usually, the personal relationship develops alongside a professional relationship, and while the two can co-exist, workplace relationships are renowned for being tricky to navigate.

Dating someone and applying to work under them might be a cause for concern, especially in the eyes of the business and its employees. No matter your personal relationship, problems regarding job satisfaction, salary expectations and contract disputes, can arise and negatively impact your relationship.

Juggling a personal and work relationship can be difficult, particularly if your partner treats you differently when you are at work. Both individuals must endeavour to remain professional throughout their working day and switch off before and after work to maintain a healthy balance.

In this article, we’ll discuss the pros and cons of dating someone at work and how you tread carefully if a relationship with a co-worker is on the cards. So, let’s take a closer look at whether being employed under someone you’re dating is a wise idea…

What Are the Benefits of Getting a Job Under Someone You’re Dating?

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You might be able to source business opportunities than if you weren’t dating someone in an established position within the company. They might put you forward for a promotion because they’ve got to know you on a personal level and can see your potential. Despite us listing this as potentially being a benefit, we have also listed this as a drawback down below, where we further explain our reasoning.  

Spend More Time with Them

A certain benefit that you’ll be able to have, is the ability to spend more time with the person you’re dating. You’ll most likely see them at work every day, on top of the time you spend outside together. It might develop your relationship at a quicker pace and bring you closer together as a couple.

What Are The Drawbacks Of Getting A Job Under Someone You’re Dating?

No Separate Lives

Your personal and work relationship won’t be separate. Couples that work in different jobs from each other have the ability to separate their lives. They get the opportunity to miss their significant other because they’ve been apart all day. They can discuss their day because the other person wasn’t there and isn’t aware of what happened. But if you work together, you can’t do this.

Contract Disputes

Some businesses aren’t keen on their employees having romantic relationships together as they don’t believe it’s appropriate or professional in the workplace. An example of this is the big fast-food chain McDonald’s, which in 2019 fired its chief executive due to his relationship with another employee.

If you don’t follow or aren’t aware of the rules stated in your contract and you break them, both of you could be liable to contract disputes. This could potentially leave you vulnerable to having both of your contracts terminated. Not only can it affect your future employment opportunities, but it could also be a costly process for both of you especially if you need to hire a solicitor.

Unable To Say How You Feel

Most employees have a mumble and grumble about their bosses every so often, especially if something has happened that they don’t agree with. But if your boss is your significant other, you might feel like you can’t express your unhappiness about something. Instead, you might feel obliged to accept it and move on, even if it’s not right or you’re unhappy with it.

If they weren’t your partner, you might be able to talk to them in a professional manner. Or if it can’t be resolved with them, talk to someone higher up. You might feel like you can’t do this if you’re dating, particularly if you’re worried that it would affect your job.

Difficult To Leave Relationship Problems at Home

If you have problems with your significant other, it is likely that those problems will follow you to work. This could lead to you discussing them whilst at work, which wouldn’t be considered professional, especially if it is in front or discussed with other colleagues.

Treated Differently  

Although we listed this as a benefit, it could also be considered as a drawback. This is because being treated differently in the workplace can be interpreted in two different ways:

1.You get treated well, but this might only make your co-workers resent you because they could feel that it is due to favouritism rather than your actual professional skills.

2. You won’t get treated fairly. Your significant other might feel that they can’t promote you or reward you because of what people might presume if they do.

Think First Before Jumping into A Job Under Someone You’re Dating

The final decision is ultimately down to you. Dating a boss has worked out for some people, and it might work for you too. It’s important to remember that everyone is different and what works for one couple, might not work for another. So long as you communicate properly and have a healthy, respectful relationship, working with someone you’re dating can be fun and beneficial.

But that’s not always the case, and after weighing up the pros and cons, it might be wiser to steer clear of working under someone you’re dating. If you’re finding it difficult to work alongside your partner, try to find a different role in another company and make your own mark on the business, away from your significant other. Who knows, this might help you succeed and avoid a potential contract dispute.

Sometimes it’s better to keep your personal and work lives separate rather than joining the two . Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!