Let’s not mince words here, dating can be fun and amazing. However, more often than not, it is just a waste of time. Can you count all the failed relationships in your life? I’m sure that most of them ended because of a jerk who didn’t call you back or stopped respecting you.
The truth is: You don’t need that!
You don’t need to wait for someone to call you or ask someone to respect you. You don’t need a person who will lie to you or a person who wants you to change.
I know, he is gorgeous and sexy and you know that nobody is perfect so maybe you could just give him one more chance. He’ll change, you say to yourself. But the reality is: he probably won’t! Everyone has flaws, but cheating and lying are choices. Choices that he made consciously. You don’t need that.
Everyone has flaws, but cheating and lying are choices. Choices that he made consciously. You don’t need that.
From my experience, it looks like most of the available good-looking guys are jerks. That’s why I decided not to take the risk and I’m staying single until I’m sure that I’ve found a genuinely great guy. And honestly, I enjoy being single.
It’s great to do whatever you want every single day. Nobody judges me when I spend hours doing my nails or stay at home during the weekend just to watch reality shows.
And another thing – I don’t miss a guy in my life. I realized that looking for the right guy is not so important as it seemed to me before. Now I know that being alone is not the same as feeling lonely. You can feel lonely even if you are in a relationship. Being alone is liberating!
I don’t need another cute guy who will turn out to be a douchebag. I don’t want that! I want to be myself and do the things I like. I feel free to explore and conquer the world!
Nothing can stop me now. After many experiences with douchebags, no guy can fool me into going along that road again. I know that all of them are fun at the beginning, but that doesn’t prove that they are good guys.
That is why I address this text to all the girls who had a jerk in their lives. You don’t deserve that! You are powerful, free-willed and independent and you can be whatever you want in your life.
You don’t need a guy to succeed or travel the world. Especially not an asshole who puts out the fire in you.
Don’t allow to be fooled by the puppy-eye look or the sweet words. You know what he did to you! Don’t let him do it again.
Don’t be afraid to be alone. You don’t need dating to be happy. Happiness is much more than that! It’s feeling comfortable and free.
Even if you choose to date, do it carefully. Do it bearing in mind that you have everything you need – yourself. And don’t forget that all the other guys also seemed perfect at the beginning.
Enjoy living life by yourself. Time goes by very quickly and you don’t want to waste it, do you? At the end, you want to be sure that you’ve had everything you wished for and not feel sorry that you wasted your nerves, energy and time on someone who simply wasn’t worth it.
Always remember that if you don’t love yourself, the others won’t love you either. By loving yourself I mean enjoying life freely and not sacrificing yourself for someone who doesn’t even respect you.
Be strong and fierce, because you have to be, in order to succeed in today’s world. And you don’t need anyone for that.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” – Buddha
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