Your childhood experiences, both positive and negative, have a significant effect on who you become and how you behave later in life. This is especially important for individuals that have experienced emotional abuse in their childhood.
Children who have experienced childhood emotional abuse are scarred for life. Although the pain wanes with time, the effects of childhood emotional abuse are crippling and spill over into adulthood. They affect the child’s emotions and actions. For some children, this means having low self-esteem and being introverted. For other children, it means having trouble building strong and happy relationships with others.
Although not all forms of emotional abuse are easy to recognize, and some are even repressed or forgotten by the victim, individuals that have been emotionally abused in their childhood, most probably share these 7 traits in their adulthood:
1. Lack of self-esteem.
If you think that you’re not good and smart enough, it’s very likely you were constantly told this all your childhood. You lack confidence in your abilities. You doubt your decisions and every move you take. You frequently feel the need to be validated by other people because you feel like nothing you do is ever good enough. And you often try to prove yourself.
You often find yourself thinking that other people don’t deserve your loyalty and kindness. You’re always careful not to openly show your emotions and vulnerability to others because you’re afraid they might think you’re insecure, oversensitive, or clingy, and that they’ll manipulate you. That’s why it’s hard for you to let other people into your life and trust them. You feel the safest when you’re on your own.
3. Bottled up anger.
If you often lash out on people, go crazy when you face any form of injustice, find it very difficult to control your emotions, and feel constant anger that affects the way you think and behave, know that this is due to the anger you bottled up in yourself through the years. The anger inside of you can burst out in the most unpleasant way and often in unexpected situations.
That’s why you need to learn how to keep your unwanted emotions from your childhood under control and prevent them from interfering with your life now and in the future.
4. Conflict avoidance.
If you were a victim of emotional abuse as a child, you got used to your parents’ constant quarrels and shouting. This made you scared at the time and now any shouting, even the littlest arguments trigger a painful memory from your childhood. Oftentimes, when you disagree with someone or want to complain about something, you don’t voice your opinions out of fear that they may fly off the handle. That’s why you do everything you can to avoid any kind of conflict or aggression.
5. Frequent apologies.
Having always been criticized and blamed for something in your childhood, you’re now always taking the blame for everything that happens. You often apologize to others for things that are not even your fault. For example, if you ask someone for something and they get annoyed, you immediately feel the need to say “I’m sorry.” Or if someone doesn’t text you back, you think they’re mad at you for some reason, and you can’t wait to see them to apologize.
6. Having difficulty making eye contact.
You often look away when you talk with other people. And when you try to establish an eye contact, you start feeling uneasy and nervous. You also tend to get shy when you’re around other people and have difficulties expressing your opinions. You worry that others aren’t interested in hearing what you have to say or that they could laugh at you if you say something silly.
7. Having difficulty accepting compliments.
Of course, you don’t know how to accept and react to compliments when you spent your childhood with parents who constantly criticized and belittled you. You were made to feel like nothing you did was ever good enough. Your parents pointed out your mistakes and insecurities all the time and made you feel worthless. That negative image of yourself still lingers in your mind.
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