This one is for you.
You, the girl who always cares too much about everyone else but yourself.
You, the girl whose soul is pure and whose heart is so big that it can gather all the love in the world.
You, the girl who knows no other way to live than giving yourself to others.
You wish you wouldn’t care and feel so deeply. You wish you wouldn’t open your heart to everyone who appears in your life.
You wish you wouldn’t get so upset and sad when you see tragic or violent scenes on the TV.
You wish you didn’t have this “weakness”.
But caring deeply is not a weakness. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. So, stop seeing it as a flaw and apologizing for it.
Stop listening to people when they tell you: “You care too much. You worry about everything. You’re too emotional. You need to change”. Because those same people will take advantage of it.
You don’t need to change.
You need to always be yourself.
Maybe you are the girl that thinks twice before she speaks. Maybe you overanalyze every message before you send it, making sure you say exactly what is on your mind.
Maybe you’re the girl that gives her heart away without expecting anything in return. Maybe you spend hours listening to someone vent their feelings even though you’re too tired and have many other tasks to fulfill.
Maybe you are the girl that has always cared too much, putting other people’s feelings, opinions, needs, and wishes before her own. And maybe it’s high time you stopped apologizing for that.
What you need to understand is that there will always be those who will try to change you. But you don’t have to be sorry or apologize for who you are.
You don’t have to apologize for texting your friends first, for calling your boyfriend when you haven’t heard from him for a while and want to ensure he’s okay, for being the girl that is always ready to jump in and spend time with others and help solve other people’s problems.
You don’t have to apologize for giving others your undivided attention when they pour their heart out to you, for wearing your heart on your sleeve, and wanting to be there for others when they need you.
You don’t have to apologize for loving him so deeply, passionately, and unconditionally because you know no other way to love. Because your heart is big and your soul is pure.
You don’t have to apologize for all the great help and support you give others because this is in your nature. Because this is who you are. Because you care.
I know you’re trying hard to make sense of all of this. You’re trying to understand why someone you’ve been so good to and cared so much about would lie to you and cut you out of their life like you were a worn-out puppet.
You’re trying to understand why someone you’ve loved wholeheartedly and unconditionally would take you for granted and break your heart.
You’re trying to understand why despite all the time and effort you put in making others happy, you end up heartbroken every time.
But don’t try to make excuses for them and justify their behavior. The way other people behave towards you doesn’t define who you are. Just because they’re unable to genuinely love and care about someone as you do, it doesn’t mean you’re “too emotional,” or “too sensitive,” or “weak”.
You need to understand that while caring about other people is great, it’s not your responsibility to tend to everyone else’s emotions, needs, and problems. It’s not your job to fix others.
You need to understand that saying NO to things you don’t want to do or choosing to stay at home by yourself instead of going out with your friends doesn’t make you selfish or arrogant.
You need to understand that just because you are the one everyone goes to when they need help, it doesn’t mean you need to help them right away or neglect your own problems. It doesn’t mean you don’t need help as well.
You need to understand that you’re important and that you owe yourself the same amount of kindness, compassion, patience, respect, love, and dignity you give everyone else.
You need to understand that self-care is as important as caring about others.
You need to take care of your own feelings, needs, wishes, and problems. You need to put yourself first on your list of priorities and stop thinking that taking care of yourself is selfish.
You owe it to yourself to take care of your mental, emotional, and physical health and make yourself happy. Because nobody else will do that for you.
You need to devote time to yourself so that you can put your thoughts together, recharge your batteries, and see where you want to be in life.
You need to stop being ashamed of your pure, big heart and find love in it for yourself instead.
You need to stop being everyone’s savior and protector, especially when you have yourself to save.
Riley Cooper is a professional writer who writes informative and creative articles on topics related to various fields of study. Written with love and enthusiasm, her articles inspire readers to broaden their knowledge of the world, think and get ready to act.