While narcissism is one of the most common terms used and carelessly thrown around these days, narcissistic behavior exists, and it is considered as a serious mental disorder.
Real narcissists are convinced that the world revolves around them which makes them extremely insensitive to other people’s feelings.
True narcissists believe they’re superior to others and that only by belittling other people, they’ll finally achieve the greatness they yearn for.
They latch onto a particularly chosen victim (preferably a person who is emotionally insecure), make them their own personal slave and they continue by feeding of their infinite empathy and genuine kindness.
The sad truth out there is that almost every one of us had this kind of experience at a certain point in their life. There is no escaping them. So, getting out of a relationship with a narcissist in one piece is an exceptionally difficult challenge.
Studies stated that someday perhaps, with a decent help from certain therapeutic interventions, narcissists might be able to maintain a healthy and prosperous relationship.
However, the ugly truth is here to stay for now. People with narcissistic traits have a serious lack of empathy and extremely manipulative nature, so bellow we’ll review the main reasons why narcissists have a hard time maintaining intimate relationships:
1.THEY ARE IN NEED OF A CONSTANT “SUPPLY”
Narcissists live of other people’s emotions. They will drain you until there is something beneficial for them and after that, they won’t even think twice before they toss you to the garbage like an old, used bag.
The more you let them influence you, the deeper you fall into their trap. They will use you to the very end, up until they’re bored and uninterested and when the lust for fresh pray comes along, you’ll be discarded mercilessly.
2.THEY LIVE IN AN IDEALISTIC WORLD FAR AWAY FROM REALITY
One of the main reasons why a narcissistic person can’t have a real chance at love is having an idealistic state of mind, far, far away from reality.
All of us secretly desire some things, but not everyone is powerful enough to make everything come true. So that is why among us people there’s a thing called acceptance. We see things for the way they truly are and if they can’t be changed, we accept them.
Having a mindset of a narcissist means the complete opposite. Their twisted world nurtures their unrealistic expectations; therefore, they live in a Fantasyland far away from ours.
They are so blinded by their fake superiority, they expect constant glorification from people.
3.NOTHING WILL BE GOOD ENOUGH
If you ever shared a part of your life with a narcissist, you realized the hard way that there is no you, it’s only them in the relationship.
Therefore, no matter how much you try, you will never be able to completely satisfy their perpetual hunger. There will be times when they’ll make you feel like a failure. You’ll feel like you don’t deserve them.
However, you have to remember: This is their most wicked game. The more you give, the deeper you’ll just sink. There won’t be any acknowledgment at the end. Don’t dwell on it.
4.THEY DON’T ACCEPT CRITICISM
No relationship is solely based on rainbows and unicorns. There is no such thing as the perfect relationship and every couple has their own ups and downs. But when a narcissist is put to the ultimate test, you better watch out. Run as far as you can!
A simple disagreement will make all hell break loose. You won’t receive tolerance, and you won’t find compassion there.
It is most likely that in this type of situation, a narcissist will refuse to deal with any type of criticism and will put all the blame on you.
An attack is the best form of defense, right?
5.THEIR TRUE PERSONALITY WILL EASILY FLOAT ON THE SURFACE AND THEIR PARTNER WILL SEE THEM FOR WHO THEY TRULY ARE
If by any chance the relationship is not already ended by the narcissist, their partner will definitely be the one to do it.
A narcissist can come into our lives and hide for some time. But the truth will eventually come out to the surface.
After some time, their partner will be tired of silently suffering from their manipulation tricks and lack of empathy. This is one of the many reasons why a narcissist’s relationship can last for a long time.