He’s Everything You Want But Also The Last Thing You Need

When the man you’re with is everything you want, you’ll overlook all his bad habits, whims, and mistakes, and only focus on his positive sides.

You’ll ignore all his lies and false promises.

You’ll turn a blind eye to every sign that you’re in a toxic relationship.

You’ll make irrational, wrong choices and decisions.

You’ll give your best to fix your relationship, even though those who truly love and care about you will tell you that he’s just making a fool of you.

When he is everything you want, you’ll let him know it.

You’ll let him know that by the way you treat him – with kindness, affection, respect, and dignity. You’ll let him know that by the way you look at him – with eyes full of warmth, love, and passion.

When he is everything you want, you’ll put his feelings, opinions, needs, desires, and problems first, and you’ll forget about your own. You’ll forget to take care of your priorities and problems.  You’ll forget to follow your goals and dreams.

You’ll be more interested in making him feel happy and fulfilled than yourself.

When he is everything you want, you’ll believe that you’ve finally found the love of your life. You’ll believe that he’s your missing half. Your soulmate.

You’ll fight for his happiness at the cost of your own.

You’ll forget about your needs, desires, and priorities so as to take care of his.

You’ll boost his ego while bringing yourself down and wrecking your confidence.

You’ll constantly tear yourself into pieces in order to keep him whole and complete.

You’ll forget loving yourself.

When he is everything you want, you’ll fight for him.

You will care about him too much. You will love him hard and unconditionally.

You’ll unselfishly give him your love and support even though he doesn’t even deserve a second of your time.

You’ll be satisfied with the small amount of time you spend with him and the crumbs of love you receive. You’ll be satisfied with less than what you deserve.

When he is everything you need, you will allow him to have control over you.

You’ll let his charm, compliments, sweet words, and great stories deceive you. You’ll think your life is a fairy tale because that’s what he wants you to believe.

You’ll turn a blind eye to his lies and lame excuses. You’ll believe his promises and accept his apologies.

You’ll let him involve you in his devious, little mind games and play with your feelings.

But sometimes the person who is everything you want is the last thing you need.

And when he is the last thing that you need in your life, you’ll feel broken, empty, and lost. You’ll feel hurt and hopeless.

You’ll feel confused because you can’t believe that the person you loved with every part of you and to whom you gave everything you’ve ever had could hurt you in such a way.

You can’t believe that the person you fought for with every fiber of your being has never loved you.

When he is the last thing you need, you’ll think you’re less smart and important than him. You’ll think you’re not good enough for him and that he deserves to be with someone better than you.

When he is the last thing you need, you’ll spend many sleepless nights wondering why he hasn’t still responded to your messages and calls.

When he is the last thing you need, you’ll feel responsible for all your relationship problems. You’ll feel guilty and take the blame for things that are not your fault, but his.

When he is the last thing you need, he’ll drain your energy and slowly kill your happiness.

He’ll make you doubt your own logic, perception, judgment, and sense of reality.

He’ll hurt your feelings.

He’ll break your heart.

And the sad thing is that you won’t be aware of anything of this. Everyone will notice it, but you.

Everyone will watch as your smile turns into a frown, the light in your eyes turns into darkness, and your joy becomes sadness.

They’ll feel angry when they see you give him a chance over and over again. Their hearts will break to watch you destruct yourself with his help.

They’ll tell you to leave him and move on. But nothing of this will change your feelings for him.

They’ll tell you he’s toxic and that you deserve someone way better than him, but you won’t listen to them.

But let me tell you something: This isn’t love.

Because love is not control. It’s not manipulation. It’s not lies and broken promises.

Love is not stringing someone along and playing with their feelings.

Love is not taking someone for granted. Love is not feeling the need to put someone down to increase your confidence.

Love is not feeling the need to see someone hurt to feel stronger and better about yourself.

Love should not make you feel weak, hurt, empty and hopeless, but strong, fulfilled, and complete.

Love should not exhaust or suffocate you.

Love should not make you tear yourself apart. Instead, it should make you feel whole and fulfilled, and help you grow and become the best version of yourself.