Anxiety plays a huge role in the lives of those who live with it. Relationships are no exception. In fact, when it comes to relationships, you must always take your anxiety into consideration.
However, every person is different, so is their anxiety. Below is a list of 12 things to look for in a partner that are true for most people with anxiety.
1. SOMEONE WHO IS CONSISTENT
Consistency is crucial when you date someone with anxiety. They must trust you enough to open to you. If you say one thing, and do another – this will make your partner with anxiety struggle and become unsure of the relationship.
2. SOMEONE WHO IS OKAY WITH YOUR NEED TO EXPLAIN EVERYTHING
People with anxiety need a partner who can go over the same things with them again and again. Someone who will listen to them while they explain every single detail. People with anxiety have an inner need to delve deep into the details of a situation and they need someone who will be okay with that.
3. SOMEONE WHO IS PATIENT
We can all be hard to tolerate sometimes. And people with anxiety need to go into things at their own pace. So, they need a partner who is patient and who understands that pressuring them or trying to speed things up leads nowhere.
4. SOMEONE WHOSE ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN THEIR WORDS
People with anxiety need a partner whose actions will match their words. They are true to their word, so they expect the same from their partner.
5. SOMEONE WHO WON’T IGNORE THEM
People who struggle with anxiety need a partner by their side who won’t ignore the stressful periods in the relationship. They need to have someone who will be there for them during the hard times. They need someone who will support them and care for them when they feel anxious and stressed.
6. SOMEONE WHO IS SINCERE
No one needs a partner who lies. Sure, everyone is guilty of saying white lies every now and then, but while most people can handle them – people with anxiety cannot.
7. SOMEONE WHO WILL ALWAYS ACCEPT APOLOGIES EVEN FOR THINGS THAT THEY MIGHT NOT EVEN THINK OF
People with anxiety apologize for the smallest things. Sometimes, they even apologize for things they are not even guilty of per se. And they need a partner who will hear their apologies and accept them.
8. SOMEONE FOLLOWS THROUGH WITH PLANS NO MATTER WHAT
People struggling with anxiety need a partner who won’t cancel plans at the last minute. They can deal well with getting their hopes up and then being let down because it only makes the situation with their anxiety worse.
9. SOMEONE WHO IS A GREAT LISTENER
People who have anxiety need to get out whatever is on their mind. So, they need a partner who will sit beside them and listen to all the things that are bothering them. This may be sometimes hard for their partners, but it will tremendously help the person with anxiety.
10. SOMEONE WHO UNDERSTANDS THAT SOMETIMES THEY JUST CAN’T
Sometimes, there will be things that are too much for the person with anxiety to handle. They need a partner who will understand them and who will not force them into anything that they don’t like to do.
11. SOMEONE WHO WILL HOLD THEIR HANDS AND STAND BESIDE THEM DURING STRESSFUL TIMES
It is important for people with anxiety to have a partner who will stand with them during their stressful periods and anxiety attacks. A partner who will hold their hand when they are way too overwhelmed. Just having someone on their side who understands will make them relieved and less anxious.
12. SOMEONE WHO WILL NOT DISMISS THEIR MENTAL CONDITION AND WILL TRY TO LEARN EVERYTHING ABOUT IT
People with anxiety need a partner who will take interest in their condition. A partner who won’t think that anxiety is nothing more than just worrying. A partner who, instead, will try to learn and understand what anxiety is and what it feels like to be able to empathize with them.
Mary Wright is a professional writer with more than 10 years of incessant practice. Her topics of interest gravitate around the fields of the human mind and the interpersonal relationships of people.