How can you know that marrying your boyfriend is a decision worth making?
Well, you couldn’t really know and be 100% sure in the beginning, of course, but as time passes and you both are deep into the relationship – an undeniable feeling of destiny will inevitably begin to grow in you, giving you the prospect of a joyful reality and future.
Because saying ‘I do’ to someone you love should be the easiest thing to do.
Here are 5 telltale clues that will tell you if your boyfriend is a husband material.
1. YOU ARE GREAT FRIENDS AT THE CORE
Many marriage experts agree that one of the most important things in a marriage is friendship among partners. It is not that you should have to be best friends, but you do need a partnership based on mutual respect, playfulness, caring, companionship, and shared life goals – which are all qualities of a true friendship.
2. YOU LEARN FROM EACH OTHER
Dr. John Gottman, a psychologist and a marriage researcher, advises that couples that want to have healthy and positive relationships need to allow their partner to influence them. This means that they respect each other and value the other person’s beliefs and the unique qualities that they bring to the table.
3. YOU HANDLE PROBLEMS WELL
According to Dr. Gottman, it is not whether the couple has problems or not that determines the future of their relationship, but how they handle and respond to their problems is the key factor for a successful relationship.
They should avoid criticism and putting the blame on the other person. When a couple looks at problems constructively and they see them as challenges that they need to overcome – their relationship will grow and will become healthier in turn.
4. YOU REALLY WANT IT TO WORK
Even though it may sound silly to say that wanting your relationship to turn into marriage is a sign, but when you think about it – it is! People often get married because they feel that that’s the next step they should do, or they find themselves doubting whether their partner is the right one or not.
However, the only question you should be asking yourself is do you really want to marry your partner and why. Because, at the end of the day, it all boils down to whether you truly want to marry and not just because you think it is the right thing to do.
5. YOU CAN VISUALIZE (LITERALLY) YOUR FUTURE TOGETHER
A great test to see if your boyfriend should be your future husband is whether or not you think he will be a good father. Also, you should also be able to visualize what parenting would look like for both of you – how will you function together as a family. Do you see you and your partner as team players?
Because, parenthood is hard. You need to have someone at your side when stress and unpredictability enter your relationship. And when it comes to deciding how you will parent your child, you both need to have shared values and make the needed sacrifices and compromises for the sake of your marriage.
Finally, at the end of the day, you can have all these boxes checked but you can still be unhappy if you are not sure that you want to marry your partner from the bottom of your heart.
Mary Wright is a professional writer with more than 10 years of incessant practice. Her topics of interest gravitate around the fields of the human mind and the interpersonal relationships of people.If you have a general question or comment please fill out the form and we will get back to you as soon as possible https://curiousmindmagazine.com/contact-us/ .