Abuse can come in many ways and forms. It can be physical, sexual, or emotional. And while the first two types of abuse can leave scars on the skin, the last one leaves invisible scars on the soul.
And it can be really hard for us women to spot an emotional abuser, especially when we are in love with him. Because love shatters all logic.
So, here are 5 common things that reveal you are dealing with an emotional manipulator. If your man does some of them – run as fast as you can!
1. HE GASLIGHTS YOU.
Emotional psychopaths or maniacs are masters in the technique of gaslighting. They are so good that they can make you doubt your memory or even your sanity. For instance, if you were to find that he cheated on you, he will immediately make you feel like you are the unethical one for invading his privacy and checking him out because you don’t believe him.
2. WHATEVER HAPPENS, IT’S YOUR MISTAKE.
Maybe this point looks similar to the first one, but they are actually different. This is when the man blames you for whatever happens in his life as well as in your relationship. If he is failing at work, it is because you are stressing him out. If he did something bad, it is because you made him angry.
3. HE MAKES YOU CRY.
An emotional psychopath can ruin your self-esteem and confidence. He can even “hypnotize” you into thinking that you are unworthy of him and that you are the luckiest person alive because he still chooses to love you after all your flaws. This emotional abuse is so subtle that you won’t even notice it until you start feeling so drained and powerless and you are literally depending on him.
4. HE TAKES AWAY EVERYTHING ELSE FROM YOU.
He will slowly start distancing you from people who love you and who want the best for you because he is scared that your friends will see through his mask of a loving boyfriend and his game would be ruined. So, he will emotionally manipulate and blackmail you to believe that he is the one who loves you the most and that you don’t need anyone else as long as you have him.
5. HE SUCCEEDS IN MAKING YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE ALWAYS AT FAULT.
Emotional manipulators are so cunning that they will make you think that it’s your fault even when it is not. He will most likely say something along the lines of “Hey baby, I don’t like it when we fight, so please stop being so emotional and don’t ruin this evening too.” He will always accuse of being selfish, emotional, or jealous to justify himself and his behavior.
Have you been in a relationship with a man like this? How did it turn out? Tell us in the comments.
Mary Wright is a professional writer with more than 10 years of incessant practice. Her topics of interest gravitate around the fields of the human mind and the interpersonal relationships of people.If you have a general question or comment please fill out the form and we will get back to you as soon as possible https://curiousmindmagazine.com/contact-us/ .