Tired Of Everything

You’re tired. I know what it feels like. You are tired but not just physically. The world is a dynamic place to live in, it demands your full attention, energy, and effort, and eventually, you get tired. You become tired of everything: the people who surround you, your job, your boss, your spouse, your kids…the list goes on endlessly. You simply get just tired of everything.

You’ve tried, you’ve tried too much, you put too much effort into being a better person, not only for yourself but to be better for the others around you. The world is cruel and never gives anything back so you get tired of investing in indefinite outcomes.

You haven’t always been this worn out. There was a time in your life when you were pure, full of hope, and very optimistic. You thought that you can give your best and try to make difference in the world.

But the world crushed you, a broken heart from un-kept promises, too many tears, and too much loss made you so tired. You have to play the games, play by the rules, and you never won. Your inspiration to try again is far gone.

I Am Tired Of Everything

The truth is, we are all tired. You are not alone. Every person becomes worn out by a certain age. We join the club of broken hearts and aching souls who are desperately searching for fulfillment. We want more, we are sick of our current position, and yet we are too scared to begin again.

Certain risks need to be taken but the fear of losing it all again makes us too much afraid to start something new, to risk, to try, to change.

Life is a constant battle. We fight against each other and get tired of each other, tired of the games we play, tired of the lies we say and the uncertainties we present to each other.

We don’t want to be the villain and we don’t want to be the fool either, so we put the guards go up. Again and again, we continue playing in the vicious circle because we’re not sure what choice we have left.

The cheerful ideals you were once promised now seem tired and hopeless. It feels impossible to go on trying and giving and becoming when you are exhausted straight through to the soul.

However, there is a point when you get so tired that you feel like you are burning out. And if you cross that line, your mental and emotional well being are in danger and it is difficult to get yourself back on track.

10 Sign That Show That You Are At Risk Of Burning Out:

1. You feel numb

You no longer feel the highs and lows. You no longer feel happiness over the good things that happen to you, nor are you feeling sad or angry over disturbing events. Your main emotion is numbness. You are not in touch with your feelings because you feel exhausted. You are tired of everything. Your heart becoming numb is one of the first signs that you are in deep need of healing and recovering.

2. You no longer feel passionate or excited about things.

Every person can lose motivation and passion from time to time, however, when someone feels deeply exhausted and is burning out; they are in a place of a never-ending cycle of feeling hopeless. Even for things that you once felt very passionate about, like your job or hanging out with your friends and family, you can no longer feel it. It’s like suddenly you can’t find happiness and passion anywhere.

3. You feel as though everyone drains your energy.

You feel emotionally and energetically drained whenever you find yourself around people. You feel as though they are robbing you of your positivity and energy. It is as if no person can make you feel better and get you in a better mood, not even your closest friends and family members. Even though you know it in your heart that those are good people that wish the best for you, you just feel drained and negative around them.

4. You get angry over trivial things.

You feel like you don’t have any control over your emotions. You get angered by unimportant things. You catch yourself raging unexpectedly and without any viable reason. That’s a sign that your emotions are hurt and your energy is depleted. Therefore, you need full emotional recovery.

5. Nothing makes you happy and fulfilled.

Not even your friends. Not your family. Not your hobbies. Not going on a vacation. Nothing makes you feel happy and fulfilled. Nothing satisfies and nourishes your soul. This can be a clear sign of depression and a red flag that you are burning out and you need to help yourself.

6. You can’t think clearly.

When you are in a state of deep exhaustion, your heart can easily mess up your mind and you may lose your ability to think straight and make thoughtful decisions. You can easily make a mistake when you are burning out, so be careful. Don’t rush into doing something you will regret later. Don’t buy that sports car or that luxurious necklace. Don’t undertake any steps until you clear your head without letting your emotions get a hold of you.

7. You are on anti-depressants or other forms of self-medication.

You have turned to self-medication to numb the pain. When you are burning out and your heart is broken, then you may indulge in activities that are not healthy for you, such as drinking, smoking, overeating, impulsive buying, overworking, or even taking drugs and medications on your own. You are choosing self-medication over self-care and that is a sign of deep emotional exhaustion and pain.

8. You stopped laughing

Nothing can make you happy. When you are in a state of burning out, then you won’t laugh anymore. And in the beginning, you may not notice it, but when later, when you think about it, you will realize that months even years have passed by since you laughed from your heart. This is a subtle but very big red flag that you need to work on yourself and your healing.

9. You have trouble sleeping.

You are extremely tired but you can’t sleep at night. And even if you manage to fall asleep, you wake up still tired and without energy. This happens because when you are burning out, sleep doesn’t help fuel your batteries. And this is also a big warning sign that you need to recover because you are burning out.

10. Your productivity levels are dropping at a high speed.

Low productivity is another clear sign that you are physically and mentally exhausted. When you are lacking energy, your productivity levels are dropping at a high speed. You lack motivation and energy to do the work you need to do. You can’t think straight and every task may feel like a nightmare to you when before you had been highly productive and a leader in anything that you did.

Are You More Than Just Tired? Are You Burning Out?

If you do, then there are some things that you can do to help yourself out of your situation.

1. Start eating. When you are stressed out, some people lose a lot of weight. Because they are stressed out they lose their appetite. However, if you don’t give your body enough nutrients, you will become even more stressed out and every little thing will get on your nerves. So, eat more! And I don’t mean chocolates and fast food, but try to eat healthy and balanced meals. Your body and your soul will thank you.
2. Get a lot of sleep. Whenever you are tired and exhausted, whether physically, mentally, or emotionally, there is a need to restore yourself and refuel your energy. And what is better than a good night’s sleep for doing that? When you are in a state of burning out, you must sleep as if your life depends on it. And then, you will see that you will start feeling better and more energized.
3. Start exercising. More importantly, try to have fun while doing it. When you are burned out, it is essential for you to work out. I know that it is hard, especially when every fiber of your body wants to rest. But, you must do it if you want to speed up the healing process and get out of the mental prison you are in. If, however, you don’t feel like going to the gym, a walk in the park can do it.
4. Meditate. Practice meditation and mindfulness. Clear your energy by focusing on your breathing and opening your chakras. You will feel peaceful. And as you get in a state of deep calm, your worries and anxieties will start leaving your body. And you will immediately start feeling better and more alive.

Finally, if you feel this close to giving up I beg you to give it one more try, with feeling. I know that you’ve tried so many times and that you’re tired of your attempts.

The thing is, you should never give up. The struggle is what keeps us going on. The more we try the greater the achievement will feel. The truth about that second wind of passion is that you’re never going to realize you have it if you do not keep on running past your first.

We want immediate results and so when we see none, we give up. We don’t walk far enough down our own roads to reach the point where we’re complete our mission. We let the exhaustion stop us and we grow frustrated with the lack of feedback.

Don’t give up, there is always more love that we are capable of giving. There is more hope that we are capable of having. There is more passion that we’re capable of unleashing and flooding out into the world.

None of us are inspired every day. We all get exhausted, we all get discouraged, and we’re allowed to work on those feelings. Just because you’re beaten down and sick and tired of the life that you’re living doesn’t mean you’re not making a change.

Every person you have ever admired has had times where they felt utterly defeated in the pursuit of their dreams, but that didn’t prevent them from reaching them. You’re allowed to stumble slowly towards your biggest transformations-it doesn’t always have to be a blazing, flagrant affair.

Some parts of life happen quietly, they happen slowly. They happen because of the small and careful choices that we make every day. The choices we make turn us into better versions of ourselves. We have to give ourselves time. We have to allow to those alterations happen and to watch them evolve. We should not grow hopelessly frustrated in the in-between.

7 Signs Of Exhaustion

We all feel tired sometimes. It is normal. However, when we are going through long periods of being tired and physically and mentally exhausted, then our health can suffer. Therefore, it is vital for us to be aware of the signs that reveal that we are in a state of deep exhaustion and we need to take care of ourselves and our well-being. Here are the most common signs of being mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausted.

1. Recurring headaches

When you are mentally exhausted, your mind is not the only thing that gets affected. You may also feel pains in your body as a result. For instance, headaches that are recurring and don’t go away may be a sign that something is disturbing your mental peace and harmony. Also, random muscle aches can be another sign that you are mentally exhausted and you need to take a break.

2. Feeling detached

Indifference, apathy, and a strong feeling of detachment are all signs that you are mentally and emotionally depleted. Feeling burnout, or mentally exhausted, can cause you to also feel numb to other people or things that previously interested you. Nothing will excite you anymore and so you may start feeling angry and frustrated as well.

3. Suffering from insomnia

Insomnia is one of the greatest signs of mental exhaustion. This sleep disorder affects the quality of your sleep pattern and leaves you tired and exhausted every day. As a result, you lack energy and it can disturb your efficiency and productivity at work.

4. Lack of motivation

Exhaustion can definitely suck out the motivation of you. It can leave you tired and uninterested in the important things in your life. You can start losing your passion and energy for doing the things that you were normally doing with a smile on your face. Therefore, when you begin feeling that you are losing the passion and motivation you once had, it is a sign that you are depleted, either mentally, physically, or spiritually.

5. Irritability

You feel lethargic and lazy. You don’t want to be around people because you find yourself getting irritated by everyone or over the littlest things. You have gone into a hermit mode, and you don’t allow anyone to go near you. You have little to no social life because all you want to do is be by yourself, having no one to upset you. This is a sign of deep mental exhaustion.

6. Feeling overwhelmed

When you are exhausted, you are not feeling like yourself. You feel overwhelmed with every little thing. And all you want to do is lie down and make everything stop for a moment. Your body may be aching as well and you feel mentally and emotionally drained. You feel hopeless as if there is nothing you can do to bring back your zest for life.

7. You feel anxious and depressed

Chronic physical and mental exhaustion can lead to stress, anxiety, and even depression. It can deplete your heart, body, and soul. Feeling constantly stressed out, anxious, or even depressed is a sign of mental exhaustion and you need to immediately start with your healing process. Moreover, high levels of anxiety can lead to nausea, diarrhea, nervousness, jitters, or even panic attacks.

So, when you’re tired, go quietly. Go slowly. Go timidly, but do not stop. You have all the right reasons to be tired. You are supposed to be tired because you’re making a change.

You are exhausted for all the right reasons and it’s only an indication to go on, to continue fighting. You are tired because you’re growing, and someday that growth will give way to the exact rejuvenation that you need. Just remember to never ever give up. 

You keep losing keys, constantly forgetting deadlines or appointments or maybe you have problems managing your time and act impulsively in everyday situations.  You probably need a help of a health professional as you may have ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) and need professional treatment. 

Is ADHD Real?

Do you know someone who doubts that ADHD exists? Or do you perhaps, have doubts yourself?

According to all the major medical groups, like the American Medical Association, American Psychiatric Association, National Institutes of Health, and the American Academy of Pediatrics, ADHD is known as attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder and such it is considered a real biological condition that should be treated. (1)

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is one of the many conditions treated by Adderall, a prescription medication. It has also been used to treat related issues and sleep disorders, like narcolepsy or excessive daytime sleepiness. There are also Adderall alternatives that actually work like the ADHD medication

But What Precisely Is Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder?

It is a brain disorder that makes people unable to stay focused, pursue tasks until their very end, and concentrate. In addition, it makes them excessively active, often to the extent of restlessness.

People suffering from the disorder are unable to calmly go through a decision-making process but rather rush into hasty judgments and actions. As a result, of all of the above, they can be a burden to society.

However, many people out there, including researchers, some doctors, and therapists openly disagree. Some of them believe that the problem starts with the way the condition is diagnosed.

Actually, some skeptics believe it is an excuse for bad parenting in children and not being able to take responsibility as a grown-up rather than a real health condition.

These skeptics also question the high number of diagnosed cases in the United States, and the number is much bigger than in European countries.

Some doctors state that children are very often misdiagnosed as the number of diseases and different health conditions that may cause these symptoms are big, and this doesn’t mean that children have ADHD.

So, they think that adult ADHD is not a valid clinical diagnosis. On this end of the spectrum, there are many critics who believe that ADHD is just another social construct. One of them is Jerome Kagan, a renowned Harvard psychologist who has been loud about this subject and has expressed strong doubts about the neurological basis of ADHD in a few interviews. He describes this condition as an invented illness created by the psychiatrist as well as the pharmaceutical companies for their own interest.

Now, while some have openly agreed with him, some out there have completely rejected the idea that ADHD might indeed be just a socially constructed condition.

That is why it is important to focus on context, says Samuel Veissière, Ph.D., an anthropologist, cognitive scientist, and professor at McGill University in his article published in Psychology Today.

“Human realities are too complex to be fitted in extreme biological or social views. While current figures may be overblown, it is likely that a cognitive and mood style that resembles ADHD—impulsivity, high energy, rapid shifts in focus—may be normally distributed in the human population and manifest itself in different ways depending on the context.  Males, for example, are more impulsive than females on average, and are almost three times more likely to be diagnosed with ADHD.”

According to evolutionary scientists, one of the primary reasons for the ADHD epidemic is the highly inflexible and stressful environment in which we live and every day, struggle to adapt to. Let’s think about it. We live in the digital age. As much as the hyper-availability of information at any moment that is mainly provided by constant connection through mobile devices is helpful, it is also harmful. Especially when you take into consideration that the average attention span of 6-year-olds is 12 minutes. Therefore, it is essential that our selective inattention in a world overflown with information is perceived as us doing our best to adapt to it.

Research Proved That ADHD Is A Real Health Condition

There are some studies that suggest that ADHD is a real disease and it is related to changes in the production of the chemical dopamine in the brain.

One study found that one form of the dopamine receptor gene may increase the chances of this behavioral condition, and it can also improve its end result in the long run.

So, according to studies, this condition runs in the family, and if you have this gene, you may have an increased risk of getting ADHD. The researchers said that children who had this gene usually normalize as they get older and tend to be more intelligent. (2) 

One other study from 2008 found that ADHD can be related to the lower production of dopamine. The researchers studied children of 10 years of age, studied their MRI scans and their DNA, and found that the dopamine D4 receptor gene (DRD4) is related to ADHD, and this gene is linked with some parts of the brain that control the attention. 

Researchers have studied the children over the course of 6 years, and children with this gene had better results and improved their behavior in their teen period and can recover from ADHD more quickly. 

So this study also noted that ADHD is a hereditary disease with some predetermined genes and often can require medical and psychological treatment. (3) 

What Causes ADHD In Children?

Modern Lifestyle

Most researchers found that ADHD is an epidemic of modernity and the modern way of life. The modern lifestyle has an impact on the brain and having in mind that children today are dependent on instant messaging, TV shows, and video games, have busy lives, and it is very hard for them to accustom to the slow pace of the classroom and want to transfer the urgency they have at home to their scholarly endeavors. 

But, playing video games can also have positive effects and increase brain efficacy. It just needs to be played for 60 to 90 minutes per day, so most children reap all the benefits from it. 

Hereditary Factor

Another factor is the hereditary factor, already mentioned above in the article, but more research is needed to prove this as young brains are very supple and brain cells constantly make new connections, a process is known as ‘arborizing, according to health professionals. 

Still, it is very likely that it runs in families since: 

• A child has an increased chance of getting ADHD if some of their family members have it by 4 times. 
• 1/3 of the fathers who had ADHD when they were young have kids with ADHD. 
• Most of the twins shared the ADHD trait. 

So, to prevent your child from ADHD, limit the children’s stay in front of the TV and in front of screens and do some low – pace activities such as gardening and cooking. 

Alcohol And Drugs During Pregnancy

Professional healthcare practitioners also advise mothers to have a healthy pregnancy and not to indulge in alcohol, drugs, or cigarettes when pregnant since this can also increase the risk of having ADHD. 

What Causes ADHD In Adults?

It is very important to recognize the symptoms of ADHD and treat this condition if you have it. In addition, it is also important to recognize what causes it and make some necessary lifestyles if needed: 

Lack of sleep 

Lack of sleep may lead to poor concentration, reaction time, and comprehension in adults and children and can also make a child hyperactive. 

Food and additives 

Some types of food may worsen the symptoms of ADHD, so you can pay attention to the foods to the food you take as some foods such as sugars and fat may worsen the symptoms, while protein, calcium, magnesium, and vitamin B may alleviate the symptoms. 

Stress

Too much stress may affect your daily life activities, and you may find it difficult to focus a person with ADHD who is under stress will even have more difficulty focusing and filtering out the excess stimuli.

Overstimulation

If you are bombarded with overwhelming sounds and voices from crowded venues and amusement parks, this may trigger ADHD symptoms.

10 Most Common ADHD Symptoms

Almost everyone may have ADHD symptoms at some point during their life, but if the symptoms are persistent or cause you problems with your everyday activities, it is best to trace them in childhood.

Actually, ADHD symptoms may appear in childhood and continue to adulthood and even in some cases, this condition can be diagnosed just in adults when the hyperactivity may decrease, but difficulty with paying little attention and impulsiveness continue to appear.

So, in adults, the main symptoms would be restlessness and impulsiveness, which will range from mild to severe. However, many adults aren’t aware of this condition, and they just find everyday life challenging and may have some of the following symptoms:

• Difficulty in focusing on a task
• Making impulsive decisions
• Problems with finishing tasks on time and meeting deadlines
• Mood swings and anxiety
• Problems with planning and coping with stress
• Organization problems and low time management skills
• Hot temper
• Impatience and inability to control impulses
• Feeling restless and uneasy
• Having chaotic environments

How Does ADHD Affect Person’s Everyday Life?

When you have ADHD, you will probably have problems limiting your behavior. ADHD will affect your life in the following way:

1. Most people with ADHD also have an anxiety disorder and worry too much. So when you treat your ADHD symptoms, you will also treat your anxiety disorder.
2. Disrupt your internal clock, called the circadian rhythm and you will struggle with falling asleep or getting out of bed regularly.
3. You will be very distracted and forget things and have problems with focus, and this may lead to missed deadlines at work, and school, and losing some personal objects.
4. You will become a screen addict – you will have difficulties focusing, but when it comes to screens, the constant change of graphics and images will get your attention.
5. Hard to control emotions and becoming tactless and interrupt other people’s conversation,
6. Poor listening and comprehensive skills, which leads to misunderstanding and missed appointments, and problems with organizing and dealing with adulthood problems.
7. Compulsive eating and the inability to control your behavior by excessive eating ( this is an example of raising your dopamine level).
8. Alcohol and drug misuse and overuse
9. Felling constantly under stress may lead to heart and other health problems like diabetes and muscle tension
10. Employment and school problems are caused by disorganization, not being able to focus and be attentive.

7  Types Of ADHD

Treatment of ADHD depends on the diagnosis and diagnosis techniques that sometimes include scans of the blood flow and brain activity patterns. 

In fact, diagnosis of ADHD can be sometimes difficult as there 7 ADHD types: 

1. Classic ADD ( caused by dopamine deficiency and medically treated with stimulating medications like Ritalin and supplements such as Fish Oil, Green tea, Ginseng, and other supplements).
2. Inattentive ADD ( caused by low activity in the prefrontal cortex and dopamine deficiency, treated with stimulant medications like Concerta and a lower-carbohydrate diet; regular exercise and other stimulating exercises and medications).
3. Limbic ADD (caused by increased activity in the limbic part of the brain and decreased activity in the prefrontal cortex and treated with antidepressants such as Imipramine, fish oil, special diet, etc.). 
4. Ring of Fire ADD (“ADD plus”) (in this case, the entire brain is hyperactive and stimulants are not recommended and for the medications, anticonvulsants, and the blood pressure drugs guanfacine and clonidine are recommended).
5. Temporal Lobe ADD ( caused by abnormalities in the temporal lobe, which can be treated with Amino acid GABA to calm the brain activity, magnesium, and anticonvulsant medications to help with anxiety and irritability).
6. Anxious ADD (caused by increased activity in the basal ganglia treated with calming supplements such as relora, magnesium, holy basil s L-theanine, and antidepressants.
7. Over-focused ADD ( caused by serotonin and dopamine deficiency, treated with supplements such as 5 – HTP and L-tryptophan, and antidepressants like Cymbalta).

Three Subtypes Of ADHD

There are 3 subtypes of ADHD that should be properly diagnosed :

ADHD – hyperactive & impulsive

7 % of adults have this type of ADHD. The main symptoms are:

• Hyperactivity
• Impulsivity 

Sometimes people diagnosed with this type of ADHD can also have problems with inattention. 

ADHD – inattentive

33% of adults have this type of ADHD. The main symptoms include:

• Difficulties to stay focused
• Difficulties in finishing the daily activities
• Easily distracted by sounds and sights

ADHD –combined 

About 60 % of adults have this type of ADHD, and it is a combination of both types of ADHD, as the name suggests. 

So, What Is The Solution To The ADHD Problem?

According to many researchers, including Kagan, the process of concluding if someone is mentally ill should be more thorough and precise.  Instead of putting a child or a young person on drugs; psychologists should work on defining the reasons that cause sadness and anxiety. This practice of diagnosing someone only on the basis of symptoms opens the door for many new illnesses, such as bipolar disorder.

That is why today we have more than a million Americans under the age of 19 defined as bipolar. Psychologists have started classifying every child with changes in temper as mentally ill, and again, pharmaceutical companies immediately accept the novelty and new drugs are on the way.

So, as Kegan advises, instead of putting a child on drugs, find him a tutor to help him in school and spend time with him/her to help them overcome their obstacles since their earliest appearance.

Below are 5 simple tips that professor Samuel Paul Veissière Ph.D. have found effective in helping children and highly suggests:

1. Shift attention and expectations toward strengths and growth.

2. Use peer mentoring to increase pride and confidence.

3. Be consistent in enforcing consequences.

4. Limit time with electronics to a minimal, predictable schedule.

5. Spend time outdoors, and allow for unstructured, resilience-building play.

Source: WebMD / Psychology Today