There comes a time in every long-term relationship where you will inevitably find asking yourself whether the woman by your side is really the woman that you should spend the rest of your life with.
Scientists have been researching the matters of love for decades trying to understand what makes people stay together and what qualities a person should have to make their relationship a lasting and happy one.
To help you with your questions, we have compiled 12 qualities approved by scientists that show you have found the one that will make the rest of your life beautiful.
1. SHE HAS A POSITIVE OUTLOOK ON LIFE
Does your girlfriend always see the glass as half full? If she does, you have found yourself a keeper. Because, even if you sometimes can’t stand her naïve optimism, the truth is, negative people are those who are bad and toxic for our well-being, and her positivity can truly enlighten your life.
Moreover, the more you spend time with negative people, the more negative you’ll become. This is according to a research paper written by the psychologist Elaine Hatfield. She finds that the internalized negativity can increase our heart rate, lower our concentration levels, and impede our digestion.
2. SHE IS SMARTER THAN YOU
When you are searching for your dream woman, make sure that she is as smart as you, or ideally look for one that is smarter than you.
Lawrence Whalley, a professor at the University of Aberdeen, who has been analyzing dementia for years, found that having a smart woman by your side can protect you from dementia in the future.
“The thing a boy is never told he needs to do if he wants to live a longer life — but what he should do — is marry an intelligent woman. There is no better buffer than intelligence,” he advises.
This is because a smart woman will always challenge you intellectually, which is excellent for keeping your mental faculties sharp at all time.
3. SHE HAS AN OPEN HEART
Having a woman who shines brightly in the public and easily makes herself being heard in a group will make your life easier.
According to a study from the Westminster’s University, open-hearted people that often reveal personal details about them are perceived as more attractive. Having an open heart is an important quality because people often judge open-hearted people as generally more beautiful and handsome.
4. SHE LAUGHS AT YOUR JOKES
The truth is, we all want someone that will brighten our day with a joke or two and laughs at our jokes. Because life is hard as it is.
A study from 2006 conducted by psychologists from Westfield State University discovered that having someone who can laugh at their jokes and thinks they’re funny is more essential for men than for women.
So, if you already have a woman that laughs with you – never let her go!
5. SHE IS HONEST
As cliché as it is – nobody is perfect. Everyone is guilty of making the wrong decisions sometimes. That’s why it is very important to have someone that will honestly tell you when you’re on the wrong path.
Moreover, studies have proved that men who want to build a long-term committed relationship are looking for an honest partner. If you already have an honest woman in your life, take a good care of her.
6. SHE DOESN’T BEAR GRUDGES
When your woman can easily forgive others, you can be sure that she’ll be with you for a long time. Because being able to forgive is a trait that is crucial for having a healthy relationship.
Moreover, one study conducted at the Luther College, the Duke University, and the Harvard Divinity School proved that people who are able to forgive others unconditionally live longer.
If your woman is forgiving, never let her go because she will make your life better.
7. SHE COMPROMISES
Every relationship has its ups and downs. However, a healthy relationship is a relationship when one or both partners is willing to compromise for the sake of the relationship.
UCLA psychologists who worked with married couples concluded that it is easy to stay committed to your partner when all is going well in your relationship. The key is to be able to make changes and sacrifices, and take the steps needed to make your relationship work when things are bad.
Only those who are willing to make compromises will have a long, happy and healthy relationship.
8. SHE IS KIND AND GENEROUS
Generosity and kindness are the keys for having a healthy and happy relationship. John Gottmann, a psychologist from the University of Washington, has identified 2 types of couples – MASTERS and DISASTERS.
The Disasters, as he calls them, are those couples who break up in the first years of the relationship. The Masters, on the other hand, stay together for a very long time, and they all have one thing in common – they are thankful for everything they have, they respect their partner and show genuine appreciation for them.
9. SHE REMAINS CALM IN FIGHTS AND CALMS YOU DOWN TOO
Fights are something that is happening in every stable and healthy relationship. However, the important thing is how you handle them and what you do to solve the disagreements.
Researchers from the Berkeley and Northwest University in California found that the key to a lasting relationship is the woman’s ability to remain calm during fights. In turn, her emotions will transfer on the man, and he will soon calm himself down too.
This doesn’t work the opposite way – when the man is the first one to calm down.
10. SHE HAS A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH HER PARENTS
If you are curious to know what your relationship with your partner would be like in 20 or 30 years and how they will treat you – observe the relationship they have with their parents.
Researchers from the Alberta University interviewed 2970 people and discovered a clear link between their relationship with their parents in their teenage years and their future love relationships.
However, this doesn’t mean that the relationship that your partner has with their parents has to be perfect. The key here is understanding and being aware of their behavior and their willingness to contribute for bettering the relationship with their parents.
11. SHE DOES FOOLISH THINGS WITH YOU
If you found someone who is willing to stay up late partying and drinking with you – never let her go.
A study of the Michigan University which included 4864 married couples found that the happiest among them were those who regularly drank alcohol together. This doesn’t mean that you should be alcoholics to be happy, but it means that couples who do fun things together – stay together.
12. SHE SUPPORTS YOUR GOALS AND PURSUES HER OWN
There is a myth that men tend to marry weak women because they need to feel stronger and masculine. However, this is not the case. Statistics have proven that well-educated and successful women get married just as much as others.
A study from the University of British Columbia has found that having a smart and strong woman by your side will make you more successful and motivate you to achieve your goals. Plus, she won’t depend on you and she won’t need your constant support and validation.
Mary Wright is a professional writer with more than 10 years of incessant practice. Her topics of interest gravitate around the fields of the human mind and the interpersonal relationships of people.If you have a general question or comment please fill out the form and we will get back to you as soon as possible https://curiousmindmagazine.com/contact-us/ .