You’re not crazy. You’re not going out of your mind. It’s not your fault. This is not happening inside your head. It is real. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.
You, my darling, are stuck in a toxic relationship with an abusive partner. I’m sorry it took you so long to notice those flashing red lights along the way, but I’m glad you’re finally here. It’s a painful reality you’re living in, so I know it won’t be easy for you to accept it.
But, here are 8 signs that will reveal his hidden, toxic intentions and will help you save yourself before everything goes out of control.
1. HE MAKES PROMISES BUT NEVER FULFILLS THEM
He says he wants to move in with you, he says he wants you to meet his parents, he promises the moon and the sky, he says you’re the only person in his life, but then, in blink of an eye, it’s like he transforms into another persona and it’s like the promises were never even made in the first place.
He starts denying he ever said those things and suddenly, you feel like all of it is happening inside your head. You can’t help but feel like you’re going out of your mind.
2. HE BLAMES YOU FOR HIS BEHAVIOR
You don’t deserve to be in a relationship with someone who constantly points the finger at you. A man who doesn’t take responsibility for his actions and avoids admitting his own mistakes is an emotionally unstable and toxic man. Don’t expect compassion or kindness from this person.
3. HE SAYS HE LOVES YOU, BUT HE DOESN’T FULLY COMMIT
One minute, he tells you how much he likes you, but the next minute, he becomes strangely distant and cold. It’s pretty obvious, isn’t it?
This person is trying to get you hooked to himself, so he can have you whenever he pleases. Accepting his game will eventually drive you crazy. You’ll keep hoping that there’s really something, but unfortunately, you’ll always end up pushed away.
4. HE DOESN’T RESPOND TO YOUR CALLS AND TEXTS
Relationships shouldn’t make you wonder whether your partner wants to see you today or not. Relationships shouldn’t make you feel insecure. They’re supposed to bring you love, stability, and calmness.
If this is something your partner is doing, it is more than obvious. He’s toxic and he’s stringing you along. He has it all figured out and he is taking advantage of you. Wake up and stop break this chain.
5. HE MAKES SNIDE COMMENTS ABOUT YOUR INSECURITIES
He knows every little thing about you. All of your fears, your vulnerabilities, the most painful memories, the scariest nightmares. And yet, he behaves completely inconsiderate. He makes bad jokes on your account and he mocks you in front of everyone.
This person is toxic and he’s clearly inconsiderate of your emotions. You deserve more than this. You deserve the world. The sooner you realize this, the better off you’ll be.
6. HE AVOIDS DISCUSSING RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
Whatever it is that you’re going through, he simply ignores it. It’s almost like he’s not a part of the relationship. And when you actually decide to start a conversation in order to make things work, he goes on the offensive and blames you for overwhelming him for nothing. These mind games are slowly eating you up.
7. HE DOESN’T FOCUS ON YOU WHEN YOU’RE TOGETHER
Relationships are two-way streets. They require mutual efforts and mutual understanding. If he cannot even focus on you when you’re together, this person is not emotionally mature to maintain a healthy and loving relationship with.
8. HE WON’T LET YOU LEAVE
But, the most obvious sign that you’re trapped in a vicious web of lies, it’s the fact that he won’t let you leave. He doesn’t want to commit, he doesn’t give you the love and time you deserve, yet he keeps using you as his safe, backup plan. He would do everything to have you by his side and use you however he likes.
If you’ve already noticed this abusive pattern in your partner, you have to make the decision now. Let go of him once and for all and never ever look back. Life has amazing things in store for you. Don’t lose yourself over someone who doesn’t care about you.
A professional writer with many years of experience in the fields of psychology, human relationships, science, and spirituality.