We exist in an egoistic society, where people are encouraged to maintain a strong ‘ME’ approach to life. Manipulation is just another effective way for one to fulfill their needs seeing as we are more and more used to live with the cold-hearted truth that hypocrisy actually makes the world go round.
It’s a fact, narcissists are everywhere around us. Those are the people that rule the ultimate mind games by firstly creating an attractive, enchanting personality that empowers them to seduce their victims with their fake persona.
And right before you know it, their real vile personality takes over. Cold-hearted, two-faced, manipulative and lacking empathy, their wicked nature can have an extremely negative influence on people.
The numbers are rising by the day as studies found that narcissists in the United States are up to 30%. So, considering their highly manipulative nature we can’t always avoid falling into the narcissist trap. However, there are effective ways to disarm them by shutting them down in order to protect ourselves.
If you’re already knee deep in mud with a narcissist, try these 8 effective methods to deal with them by putting them right where they belong:
1.DETERMINE THE TYPE OF NARCISSIST YOU ARE DEALING WITH
First things first. In order to find a suitable way to deceive the narcissist’s intention to rule you over, you need to determine which kind of narcissist you are dealing with. Observe their behavior and notice the hints.
Is your partner trying to manipulate sexually? You might have a problem with an amorous narcissist.
2.DON’T BE AFRAID TO SAY ‘NO’
It is one of the simplest ways of dealing with a toxic person and it is right there in front of us, yet we ignore it the most. Learning to simply say NO when something is hurting you or even making you uncomfortable.
Don’t be afraid to tell it like it is, and stick to your guns! It’s your own personal life and you choose who you let in it.
3.DON’T BE AFRAID, PERIOD!
A narcissist ultimate weapon against you is your insecurity. That is why their victims are carefully chosen, all of them characterized by lack of confidence.
It is as they have a heightened sense and they can actually smell your fear. The next step is tricking you into thinking you deserve even less than you have just, so they can exploit your insecurity for their personal benefit.
The only way to help yourself is to show them you don’t care. Show them they have no power over you. You are fearless.
4.DON’T ALLOW THEM TO CHANGE YOUR SUBJECT
When you gain the courage to step up and call a narcissist on their behavior, be fully prepared for the mind tricks that will follow.
They’ll do anything in their power to defend themselves from the ugly truth by changing the subject and attacking you.
Don’t let their dirty tricks get to you. The second you notice they are trying to change your subject, stand up for yourself and make them realize you won’t allow them to project their manipulation games ever again.
5.REMIND THEM OF THEIR PROMISES
Narcissists are known to be the ultimate players when it comes to promising. They’ll say anything that can be convenient for them in the long run. However, when the time arrives, don’t expect them to deliver.
They’ll fail to give you what was promised and what’s worse, they will leave you begging for more.
However, if you want to face a narcissist, you need to be brave. The next time you hear them promising you the world, simply reply that you ’ll only believe it when you see it.
6.AND STOP THEIR MANIPULATION FOR ONCE
The minute you sense they’re up for another game of lies and manipulation, confront them and speak up. Tell them that you’ll never allow it to mess you up again. Shut them down by telling them the truth and strongly refuse to be their poor victim.
7.SHOW THEM THAT THEY ARE NOT THE CENTER OF THE UNIVERSE
Constantly seeking for other’s people attention and appraisal, narcissists are strongly convinced that the world is there to serve them. They lure their way into people’s lives making them feel worthless and miserable while feeding on their energy.
Throw them off balance and put them in their place. Knock them down with a sincere and straight-forward talk, and let them know this time will be different. There won’t the usual, same end to this story.
8.PROVE YOU ARE STRONGER THAN THEM
Once you engage with them, a narcissist will make their best to trick you into thinking you are worthless and you deserve nothing in this world.
They’ll get you hooked on their games and make your addiction grow even stronger. You’ll give and give, but there will be nothing in return.
However, all is not lost. You can still save yourself. Have the courage to step up and show them you are not the victim who they thought you were.
Stay strong, show they you’ve grown, became independent and shut down their attempts to make you feel otherwise.
At last, they’ve lost their power over you. You are free.
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