I’m gradually learning that the energy it takes to react to every little thing that bothers you sucks your energy. It leaves you mentally and emotionally drained. It robs you of your happiness and peace of mind. It prevents you from seeing the positive things in life.
I’m gradually learning that I don’t have to get even with those who hurt me. I know it can be quite hard to just let the hurtful things others say and do to you slide and not give them a taste of their own medicine.
But I also know that if I lash back at them the same moment they try to bring me down (or later), I’ll feel stronger and relieved, but this will last only for a while. If I start paying back whenever I get hurt, I’ll tire myself. I’ll let their negative energy enter my mind and body.
I’m gradually learning that the best indicator of maturity and independence is walking away instead of wreaking vengeance on those who don’t even deserve a bit of my attention.
I’m gradually learning that not reacting doesn’t mean I’m fine with things. It just means I’m willing and strong enough to move forward. It means that I’m not going to let them destroy my confidence and self-esteem and perceive them as a failure. Instead, I’m going to accept them as a lesson and learn from them.
It means that I’m choosing to be better and do better. I’m choosing my own happiness and peace of mind because that’s what I need.
I don’t need to be surrounded by people who create drama and stress in my life. People who make me feel like nothing I do will ever be good enough. People who undermine the importance of my achievements and tell me that they’re not a result of my efforts and abilities, but sheer luck.
I don’t need people who lie to me and manipulate me to serve their needs. People who pretend to be loyal and good to me, but who wouldn’t hesitate to stab me in the back the moment I turn. People who tell me I’m not worthy and good enough.
And I’m gradually learning that sometimes not reacting at all is much better than arguing with and yelling at someone. Because reacting to every little thing that bothers you gives someone else power over your emotions and reactions.
You can’t control what other people say and do, but you can certainly control the way you react and how you handle it.
I’m gradually learning that the way others treat you says nothing about you and a lot about the other person. And that when others disappoint us, we should not let this shatter our confidence and drive us to despair.
Instead, we should take this as a valuable lesson. A lesson that teaches us how to treat ourselves with love, kindness, and respect. A lesson that teaches us that we should carefully choose whom we’ll trust.
I’m gradually learning that not all people will like me and treat me the way I want and deserve to be treated, and that’s okay. I’ve realized that trying to make someone like you is just a waste of time and energy. You can’t win someone’s love by force.
But most importantly, I’m gradually learning that no matter how hard I try to solve the disagreements I have with other people, this won’t change anything. This won’t make them respect or love me.
I’ve realized that sometimes it’s better not to argue with someone or ask people to give you explanations about the way they treated you. Sometimes it’s better not to explain to people who you are and how you feel. Sometimes it’s just better to let things be.
I’m gradually learning that it’s better to solely concentrate on my own life and how I feel about myself than on what others think about my life.
I’m gradually learning that only when you focus solely on yourself – on your feelings, opinions, needs, desires, and behavior will youhave a happy, peaceful, and meaningful life. There’s no point filling your heart with anger and anguish by worrying about what others think and say about you.
I’m gradually learning that when you work on yourself, do the things that make you feel happy and fulfilled, and try hard to preserve your peace of mind, you don’t feel the intense need to react to all the things that bother you.
Being noisy and talkative might not be the most attractive trait there is. However, regardless of how annoying this kind of personality is to some of us, there’s always a good side to everything in life.
The truth is, women with big mouths are truly underrated. They are often stereotyped as gossipy, intrusive and sometimes even rude. Little do people know that these open and honest human beings are the best people to be around.
Here is why:
1. THEY’LL ALWAYS TELL YOU HOW THEY FEEL
They are not the kind of people who would hide their true colors and hold back their feelings. They will never let their anger fester and make them lash out on everyone. If something is pissing them off, they’ll do their best to try and communicate it with you.
This is truly important because it means that you’ll never have to worry about repressed anger, unsaid things, unresolved issues and built up resentment. Women with big mouths would rather fight with you than pretend like nothing is happening.
2. THEY WILL ALWAYS HAVE YOUR BACK
Women with loud mouths can’t stand injustice. So, you can be sure that you’ll always have 100% support from your girl. It’s simply not in their nature to keep things to themselves. If something is bothering them, or if something simply doesn’t feel right, they will say it. Heck, they would even fight for you if they have to. That’s why they make the best girlfriends ever.
3. THEY KNOW HOW TO HAVE A GREAT TIME
It’s obvious, isn’t it? Loudmouth women are extroverts, which means that they love spending their time out having fun, socializing and simply being around people. They are open for adventures and they just know how to make life more enjoyable. Who can say no to that?
4. THEY PREFER TO BE WELL-INFORMED AND READY
They like to discuss their ideas with others, and they love to hear new and different opinions. Therefore, when they’re interested in a certain field, they try their best to really invest themselves in that area, read and learn as much as they can, which in my opinion is the attractive as hell. Intellect is the new sexy, am I right?
5. THEY ARE APPRECIATIVE AND THEY’RE NOT AFRAID TO SHOW IT
But, the best thing about these amazing women is the fact that they would never avoid giving you an appreciation for all the amazing things you’ve done. Just like they’ll tell you if something is pissing them off, they will also tell you how much you mean to them and how much they appreciate you for who you are.
6. THEY ARE STRONG AND INDEPENDENT
They’ve been taking care for themselves for years now, which means that they know exactly who they are, where they’re headed and they’re with you because they want you, not because they need you.
7. THEY ARE THE BEST CONVERSATION PARTNERS
An open and a chatty woman will never run out of things to talk about. They enjoy listening to everything you have to say, but they’re also very active when it comes to discussing a subject that they’re passionate about. Loudmouth women are the best conversation partners you’ll ever have.
8. THEY COULDN’T CARE LESS ABOUT WHAT ANYONE THINKS OF THEM
Guess what? Loudmouth women don’t care about what others think or say about them. They are perfectly aware that they’ll always be too much for some people, and that’s fine. The ones who love them for who they are will always stay beside them. The others can just find a way to deal with it.
It’s time for some reality check. There are thousands of people out there who are stuck in harmful and abusive relationships and don’t even know it. People who constantly fail to notice the warning signs that scream ‘RUN’.
This doesn’t sound sane to you, does it?
Of course not, deciding to be around a toxic and abusive person is not something a normal person would do. But, abuse can still happen to just about anyone. The thing is, violent and toxic people are often master manipulators who know exactly what it takes to drive a person mad.
That’s why you need to be very careful before saying yes to any proposal. You’d be surprised, but abusers are everywhere around us.
Here are 6 particular types of violent men you need to stay away from:
1. THE ONE WHO LIKES TO CONTROL AND POSSESS HIS GIRLFRIEND
Stay away from a man who will do everything to keep you imprisoned. If your controlling partner banned you from having any contact whatsoever, you should definitely think about where your relationship is going. A man who likes to order around will eventually try to gain total control of your mind.
2. THE ONE WHO IS OVER THE TOP JEALOUS
Jealousy is an expected thing in every relationship. You cannot possibly be nonchalant about something that concerns the person you love more than anything in the world. However, there’s a healthy dose of jealousy we all need, and then there’s the crazy type of jealousy that can be potentially harmful. If your man cannot control his temper, then you need to stay the hell away from him.
3. THE ONE WHO HAS NO RESPECT FOR WOMEN
Violent and disrespectful men have the same behavior with everyone. You just have to pay attention and notice the way they treat their parents, the random passers-by, the people who cannot do anything for them, even their friends.
4. THE ONE WITH A HISTORY OF FIGHTING
Beware the brutal and aggressive men who have with a huge history of fighting. If a man can easily hurt someone else, believe me, he will eventually try hurt you as well. Recognizing his forms of violence and discussing this issue with him is the first important step you need to take. But, if the man in question avoids talking about it and threatens you instead, that’s a clear sign that you need to leave.
5. THE ONE WHO CANNOT CONTROL HIS RUDE BEHAVIOUR
A man who has no respect for women in general and can’t control his rude behavior around people will never change. No matter how much he promises to do so. The only way you can save yourself from his chauvinistic, violent claws is by leaving him.
6. THE ONE WHO BREAKS THINGS WHEN HE’S ANGRY
A short-tempered man who gets easily physical every time he’s triggered is a truly dangerous man. It’s really terrifying to say this, but with this man, you can literally expect everything. If a man is willing to damage something expensive and smash anything near him, it is clear that he doesn’t care about anything else but himself. He simply doesn’t understand the definition of value.
Life is not a bed of roses. Every one of us goes through a difficult time in our lives when we feel like our world is crumbling in front of our eyes.
Yeah, life can really stink sometimes. And the reason is simple: Life doesn’t always go according to our plans. Things we’ve never expected that will happen and things we’ve prayed that never happen to us somehow always find a way to appear in our lives.
Thus, sometimes our plans fail, we make wrong decisions and choices, and our dreams don’t come true. We feel like nothing we do is good enough and like the whole world has turned against us.
But you need to remember that even in the times when you feel like your problems will never end, you can still keep it together. Whether you’re struggling with an illness, facing setbacks in your career, or struggling to mend a broken heart, there’s no reason why you should let this defeat you. Because you know how they say, the problem is not the problem, but your attitude to the problem.
There’s no person who has achieved great success, be that personal or professional, without bearing pain along the way. Because pain is necessary. Pain is not a sign that you’re weak. Instead, it helps you develop as a person and learn how resilient you are.
When you’re faced with hardship, pain helps you build your character. So, instead of ignoring and resisting pain, look at the lessons that you’re supposed to learn from and that will help you emerge from it stronger and wiser.
2. Nothing lasts forever.
After every storm comes a rainbow, after darkness there’s always light. Nothing is permanent in life.
So, if you are happy now, enjoy that time since it won’t last forever. And if you’re hurt and feel like you’ll be stuck in pain and problems forever, don’t despair because it’ll all pass.
With each new day and each new moment, you get a new chance to make the best of your life. So, make sure you take it and stop focusing on your pain and wallowing in self-pity.
3. Worrying doesn’t do you any good.
Doing nothing and just fretting about your problems won’t make them go away – it can only make them even worse. Instead of wasting all your energy and time on complaining about whatever is bothering you, use them to find solutions to your problems.
Stop worrying about the things you can’t control in life and focus on what you can control with the resources you already have. Think of ways you can improve your life, both on a personal and professional level, and remove all the obstacles standing in the way to your happiness and success.
4. Your scars are marks of your strength.
Be proud of your scars because they mean your wounds are closed and the pain is gone. Your scars don’t make you a weak person. Instead, they show that you’ve been through the worst and handled it well. They show pain has smacked you on the face many times, but you didn’t fall down, you didn’t let it destroy you.
Instead, you showed that you possess the willingness and strength to recover, stand on your own feet again, and move forward. Why?
Because you’re strong and resilient. Because you’re a fighter who never gives up.
5. Every struggle you endure is a step forward.
The road to your happiness and success is paved with various difficulties, challenges, and tests. And if you’re not able to invest all your time and efforts into making your way through them and keep a positive attitude, then know there’s no point in starting it.
If you really want that bad to achieve your goals and dreams, then make sure you’re ready to face some struggles: leave your comfort zone, experience a little discomfort, endure other people’s criticism, and even sacrifice your relationships.
But, remember that all these struggles bring you one step closer to your desired destination.
6. The negativity of other people is not your problem.
No matter how good you are to other people, there will always be those who will think and say bad things about you. But, their negativity is not your problem.
Don’t ever allow the words of shallow, angry, bitter, jealous, and dishonest people get to you and undermine your worth. Don’t ever let someone’s opinions of you change you.
Instead, change because it’s you who want that. Change if you know this will make you a better person and help you reach your full potential and have a brighter future.
You only live once, so make sure you do what makes you happy and surround yourself with people who truly love you and want the best for you.
7. What’s meant to be will be.
When you feel like everything is going wrong in your life, you need to stop doubting every step you take and every decision you make. You need to stop worrying about whether your prayers will be heard and whether you’ll be happy again. Because what’s meant to be, will be, sooner or later. You don’t have to force it.
You just have to trust. Trust the universe that it’ll get you what you’ve been always searching for. You need to have trust in your own strength and resilience and allow yourself to see the blessings which are hidden in every struggle you face.
8. Keep going no matter what.
When you feel like all the worst things in the world are happening to you and like you’re going to be stuck in this rut for good, remind yourself and don’t fear to get right back up and try again. Try to love and dream again. Try to work harder than ever and even change your career if need be. Find the courage to laugh and be happy again.
And whatever you choose to do always remember to keep going and live life to the fullest!
A lot of people fail in getting through with their diets because they are sick and tired of feeling hungry all the time. Well, if this happened to you, then you must know that you should not feel hungry when dieting. Of course, do make the difference between food cravings and feeling hungry. You should give your body food only when you really feel hungry, not in the mood to just nibble onto something.
So, to check if you really feel hungry, drink a glass of water and if you still feel hungry in a short while after, then you do need food. You see, the brain sometimes mistakes thirst for hunger, so on many occasions when we think that we feel hungry, we are actually thirsty, so drinking water will make the sensation go away. But, getting back to dieting, you need to find a diet that allows you to have healthy meals and not starve day after day.
The dangers of restrictive diets
It may be tempting to follow a diet that promises to make you thin in no time, but are you willing to pay the costs. Before starting a diet, check out the foods you are allowed to eat and their meal plan. If you are just allowed to eat a few foods then there is a high danger to trigger nutrient imbalances in your body and the health problems that come along. (1)
The organism needs a wide range of vitamins, minerals, and nutrients to unroll its process right and maintain a good state of health. Then some of these are missing there are higher risks for you to get sick if the lack is not remediated. Besides this, drastic diets are notorious for their short-lived results.
Because they do not encourage people to develop a healthy lifestyle, as the list of things you can do contains more don’ts and do’s, once the diet is over many people that followed it cave in to their cravings. In other words, they feel so weak and deprived of food that they stop carrying about weight loss and the shape of their body, as all they want is a decent meal. So, it is easier to gain back all the weight you lost on a drastic diet, plus there is the risk to gain more weight than you actually lost.
Diets that keep you nourished
Losing weight is possible while still giving your body proper nutrition. You just need to be careful about what you eat, what food associations you make, and the size of your portion. Also, if you increase the intake of proteins and decrease the presence of carbs in your diet, it will be easier to get rid of excess weight while feeling full most of the time. Foods rich in proteins are assimilated slower by the organism, so you will not feel hungry that often if you want this kind of food.
The boiled egg diet is one of these diets, as the main source of proteins in this diet are boiled eggs. In case you are wondering about the boiled egg diet results, you should know that they are quite promising. Not to mention that eggs are rich not just in proteins, but also in vitamins and minerals, so important for the wellbeing of your body. This diet lasts for 2 weeks only and it can help you lose a considerable number of pounds.
This aspect depends on your organism, as we are all different and have bodies that react in a particular manner to diets. But, the boiled egg diet is a good way to start a weight loss program, starting with this diet that will produce fast weight loss and continuing with a more permissive, long-term diet that will continue what you started, while giving you the chance to create a healthy lifestyle. Of course, you will be able to enjoy other foods besides boiled eggs, although the diet is not that diverse.
How come a diet based on eggs works so well?
The secret behind this diet is that the number of carbs is drastically reduced. Believe it or not, the boiled egg diet will allow a calorie intake that is less than 1000 per day, so you will definitely lose weight this way, as you will eat fewer calories than your body consumes throughout the day.
But, the reduced number of calories is also the reason this diet is made for only 2 weeks, as you can start feeling weakened if you continue following it for more than 14 days. So, don’t do this as it is not recommended. As mentioned before, continue with a diet that allows you to eat more foods, as the secret lies in eating healthy foods and adjusting the portions.
By lowering carbs, your body will have to start using its own energy reserves, which are the fat deposits, as carbs are the fuel used for the making of energy. So, when carbs are unavailable in the diet, your body will start using what it has available. This is how the diet will help you get rid of unwanted body weight. (2)
But, at the same time, this is why you should continue your weight loss plan with a healthy diet and well-established meals per day. You need to show your body that food is available and diverse, so it won’t start making fat reserves again.
This is why it is important to have at least 3 meals, you can have 5 meals as well if you reduce the size of the portions, which should be served at approximately the same hours. Also, adding healthy snacks between the meals is another way to give your body something to work on, keeping the sensation of hunger at bay. So, as you can see, you need to use an adequate strategy if you want to lose weight, stay healthy, and maintain the bodyweight you managed to achieve.
When caring for the elderly, it is important to take into account the different individual care preferences and requirements. If you work as a care worker in the health and social care setting or are volunteering in a similar situation, it is recommended that you take the Health and Social Care (Adults) QCF course.
Person-Centred Care Is A Priority
Each older person must be seen as an individual, and this is how they should be treated – as a person with their own preferences and the right to express their opinions.
Unfortunately, it is not possible to cater to all the unique requirements of each individual person as time is rarely on the side of the care worker. However, it is important that you remember some elderly people, who do not have much to occupy their time, will find the smaller annoyances magnified. In these cases, the smallest thing can make the greatest difference; therefore, if the carer has the time, they should attempt to listen to each person and build a rapport with the one they are caring for.
Dignity Is Essential When Working With The Elderly
Life does not become any easier as a person ages. Many older people experience pain, boredom, loneliness, and sadness. Dignity is easily compromised at this age, particularly if the person requires many personal care needs. For example, the inability to wash yourself and incontinence can be humiliating; therefore, carers should treat the elderly with respect and help them maintain some sense of dignity. It can make a difference if they chat when working to complete tasks as efficiently and quickly as possible. Older individuals tend to appreciate reliability and speed.
Striving To Understand Results In A Better Carer
The most supportive carers in the best senior centers know that an older person can be quite grumpy or forgetful at times, and will expect this. In many cases, the elderly tend to regress and can become childlike when receiving care, especially if they have received support for a long time. It is important to remember that the person may say things that do not necessarily make sense, may express some antiquated views, maybe impatient; however, they all deserve a degree of compassion.
Confidentiality And Privacy Can Be A Problem
Privacy is a significant factor in all types of care settings. The details of an elderly person’s care program, along with information regarding illnesses, must be kept confidential – unless you are concerned about the person’s welfare.
Being a regular confidante for an older individual can present challenges for a carer. You may be asked for advice in specific situations and be expected to provide emotional support. Tensions in families can be challenging to navigate, but a professional career should not become involved in these disputes and remain objective.
Neglect, Abuse, And Poor Care Must Be Reported
In cases where abuse of the elderly is taking place, the carer should be aware of the significance of encouraging the individual to discuss the situation and make a decision regarding what is happening. It is often the case that the individual is reluctant to report a family member being unwilling or unable to offer them the best care possible. If a carer has a concern regarding neglect, abuse or poor care, they can raise the concern with local authorities or the company they work for.
Dependability And Reliability Make A Difference
Elderly individuals can lose their faith in carers or a care company if the care worker does not arrive according to the schedule. It only takes a single mistake on the rota to unsettle an older person. The majority of older people have been independent for their whole lives, and now they need to rely on a person who appears unreliable – no easy feat!
In some cases, individuals will attempt to care for themselves if they believe the care worker is not arriving. This can place them in potentially dangerous scenarios, such as trying to use the stairs without help or attempting to climb into a bath unaided. In fact, climbing out of bed can be dangerous for a person that is unsteady on their feet. A fall can be deadly for an older individual who is already quite weak.
Communication Abilities Vary
Holding a conversation can be challenging for older people. For example, if they have experienced a stroke, their speech could be affected. It is common for older people to struggle with hearing and care workers need to pronounce words clearly. Any person who chooses to work with the elderly must explore different ways of communicating.
We all know how dangerously manipulative narcissists are. We’re all aware of the damage they can cause if they only put their mind to it.
Narcissistic people have a great set of skills that allow them to take total control over someone’s life and make them their victim.
They will use anything and everything to force people to do what they want in order to extract the information they need and live the life they desired.
Not everyone can prevent these people from harming others, but luckily there are some people who know how to deal with them. Strong and confident people have the power to shut down narcissists and beat them in their own wicked game.
1. Narcissists may be good at convincing people that someone else is the problem. They know exactly what to do and how to say it to put the blame on someone without anyone noticing.
They would never accept they did anything wrong, no matter how much you insist. Gaslighting is their most powerful way to control you. Giving that up will only decrease their power over you.
However, the thing is, no matter how hard narcissist try to get inside their minds, strong people will never allow someone to fool them.
The difference between strong, confident people and everyone else is the fact that they’ve already been through a lot in life. They’ve learned their lessons. Nothing and no one can fool them anymore.
2. Narcissists might make unrealistic promises in order to lure their victims into believing that they actually have a bright future together.
That is the most effective way to make their victims put their guards down and become vulnerable. They manipulate people and they are the best at it.
But, the thing about strong people is that they don’t let their guard down so easily. People who’ve already been through the worst in life and still found their way out don’t believe in words. They don’t care for promises. They need to see actions, otherwise, it’s like it the promise doesn’t even exist.
3. Narcissists have a sick need to put everyone down in order to feel superior. When narcissists feel miserable, they’ll do everything to bring other people down with them.
They’ll undermine them, they’ll throw their insecurities in their face, they’ll make fun of their flaws, they’ll put them down in the worst possible way.
Because why would someone else feel better than they’re feeling bad?
Luckily, there are people who cannot be affected by these harmful, manipulative games the narcissists play. Strong people have worked on themselves long enough to become completely aware of their flaws and insecurities.
They’ve accepted who they are by loving every inch of their bodies and every bit of their souls. Something that the narcissist will never fully understand, nor learn to practice it.
4. Narcissists defend by attacking. When you catch a narcissist in a lie or when you reveal their sick games, keep in mind that no matter how hard you try to confront them about their behavior, the reality will always turn out to be much different.
Narcissists are very good at putting the blame on someone else. They are the masters of avoiding responsibility.
The usual scenario goes like this. You fight them for 2 minutes, and then you’re suddenly trying to defend yourself for something you didn’t even do.
Luckily strong people have a very powerful defense mechanism from those kinds of tricks narcissists are usually pulling. Strong people know how to entrap narcissist and beat them at their own game. They won’t allow anyone to take control of their minds or silence their thoughts.
Strong people stand up to their abusers. They don’t tolerate disrespect and they don’t let others use them as their puppets.
Strong people are true to themselves no matter what happens. They are proud and confident with who they are and what they believe in.
Every little stunt narcissists pull, every sick game they try to play doesn’t work with these people, because strong people … they see right through it.
That is why strong and confident people are so intimidating to narcissists.
That is their superpower. That’s how they shut narcissists down.
I know it was painful dear. I can see the sorrow in your eyes. It was wrong of you to trust someone with your heart. It was wrong of you to believe in his words. But, you fell for him anyway. You fell down the rabbit trap. You fell for the wrong person.
Still, no matter how much it hurts, you have to remember that it was just another lesson in life. You have to remind yourself that there’s more to life than that. You have to remember that…
1. People will always leave dear. That doesn’t mean that it will always be your fault. So, let go of your pain. Stop beating yourself up. It’s not that you weren’t good enough. It’s simply not your fault.
2. You have to accept the fact that some things won’t always work to your advantage. You can spend your whole time trying to make it work, but if something isn’t meant to be, it will never happen.
3. Love is not the only thing you need to make a relationship work. If you want a relationship to succeed you need tolerance, patience, trust, mutual understanding and the will to compromise. Without it, you are doomed.
4. And remember. The love you’ve given, is never in vain. It will eventually find its way back to you, I promise.
5. You’re all you’ve got. Don’t forget to spend some time on your own.
6. Remind yourself that every cloud has a silver lining. When one door closes, another one opens. After the rain, comes the sun.
7. Pleasing people won’t get you anywhere. You will never get anyone’s approval by satisfying their wishes. Accept yourself for who you, be your genuine self and keep moving.
8. Let’s be real. Someone who really loves you will do everything to keep you beside them. They will make huge efforts. And you wouldn’t have to remind them. Keep that in mind. Always.
9. Your heart is scarred, and your souls aching, but that is not a reason to give up on love. Don’t let them break you and turn your heart into a stone. What’s left in you will continue loving and hoping that one day you’ll meet the right person.
10. You are not a failure for trusting the wrong people. Accept this and let the truth be your most important life lesson.
11. It’s finally time to focus on yourself and make up for the time you’ve lost on all the wrong people. To make up for the sacrifices you’ve made for other people you believed would do the same in return.
12. Maybe it’s finally time for you to learn that you have to find your happiness within you. Maybe it’s time you finally realize that you can be happy and whole without holding someone’s hand.
13. The truth is, if you have to chase someone in order to be with them… Maybe they weren’t even meant to be with you after all.
14. In life, you’ll go through a lot of breakups, a lot of pain, and you’ll always carry everything with you. But, realizing that you are stronger than you thought will be the most important thing you’ll learn about yourself.
15. However, regardless of how painful life sometimes is, you’re now finally brave to fight for what you deserve and embrace the unpredictability in life.
16. Letting go is an important part in life. It’s making way for new, exciting things to enter your world. Don’t resist the changes.
17. Seeking revenge won’t give you the peace and love you desperately crave for. Focus on your wellbeing, and let karma do its work.
18. Stop looking for answers. Learn to rest and just live in the moment.
19. Life itself is a never-ending lesson. Just when you think you got it all figured out, it will strike you with the most unpredictable experience. Don’t run away from it. Do your best to learn something new from it.
20. Don’t waste your time looking for love. Don’t waste your life chasing people. Let love find you.
21. You are an amazing human being. You are a unique combination of traits and because of that, you my friend, are special. Don’t ever let someone convince you otherwise. Know your worth. Stand your ground. And never settle for less than you deserve.
Alpha female – a rare breed of bold, courageous, confident and independent human beings.
If you ask me, alpha women are the modern equivalent of the mythological Nordic female warriors – The Valkyries.
They don’t tolerate injustice. They don’t keep calm. They don’t stay silent. They are born to fight against oppression and enjoy their rights. They are here to earn their place and change this world from its very core.
Alpha women never bow down. They stand up for themselves, but most importantly, they encourage us to take what’s ours and to stand up for ourselves.
Someone once said, “Well-behaved women seldom make history.” I couldn’t agree more with this statement. (1)
So, here are 12 reasons why every fearless, strong, boss lady differs from other women:
1. THEY ARE HAPPY ALONE, BUT OPEN TO LOVE TO FIND THEM
These strong women are fulfilled and happy on their own. They don’t perceive relationships as something that should make them complete. They don’t see love as something that should make them feel better. They are whole on their own but open to true love to eventually find them.
2. THEY LIVE A LIFE THEY ENJOY
Joie de vivre. If there’s one thing they maximize in life, then that is the art of joyous living. Whether they’re single, taken, married, or alone, they live a life they enjoy. They take pleasure in simple things. And they are not afraid to experience everything life has to offer.
3. THEY LEARN FROM THE PAST
Alpha female doesn’t waste their time on past mistakes. They know that once the lessons have been learned, the best thing they can do is put their newfound wisdom to use and improve their lives by embracing any change that comes their way.
4. THEY ALWAYS MAKE THE FIRST MOVE
You’re wrong if you think that an alpha woman will sit around and wait for things to fall out of the sky. These fearless, badass ladies are the ones that always make the first move. It’s just not in their nature to stay silent and let others take the lead.
5. THEY ARE CONFIDENT WITH WHO THEY ARE
Big, small, overweight, thin, yellow, black, different, they’re confident with who they are. They don’t stress their physical appearance and don’t try to change themselves to suit others. Alpha ladies are perfectly comfortable in their skin.
6. THEY DON’T WASTE THEIR LIFE WISHING
Alpha women never wait for fate to determine their path in life. They like to take things into their own hands and choose their own journey. Life is not about secretly wishing for something, it’s about working hard, growing, learning, and evolving.
7. THEY ARE NOT AFRAID TO LEAVE
When something is hurting them, or bothering them in any way, alpha females are not afraid to walk away or say it out loud. They would rather be alone in this world than accept to be around people who mistreat them.
8. THEY HAVE STRICT BOUNDARIES
As said before, strong, alpha women don’t let anyone violate their boundaries. They would rather be alone than be with someone who disrespects them. It’s simple. Do not trespass if you don’t have the authorization to do so!
9. THEY NEVER PLAY THE VICTIM
Alpha women are perfectly aware of their insecurities, emotions, and wounds. They’ve been through all of it in their head. They’ve worked hard on themselves to know exactly where they stand in life. Therefore, they would never let anyone put them in a certain position where they would have to be the victim.
10. THEY DARE TO GO FOR THE THINGS THEY WANT
They do it. Alpha women don’t wait for anyone, whether it’s their goals or a certain duty that needs to be accomplished. They dare to go for everything they want. And if you ask me, that is the only effective way to reach success.
11. THEY HATE DRAMA
Guess why? Because these human beings have nothing but genuine emotion inside their hearts. Drama is not their scene.
12. THEY SEE THEMSELVES AS AN INVESTMENT
They’ve realized that both their body and mind are their temples. The only way for those sacred temples to endure the test of time is to take good care of them. That means working out, nourishing their body and soul, maintaining good mental health, and continuously learning more in order to be happier, healthier, and more successful in life.
What Are Alpha Females Attracted To?
An alpha female knows exactly what qualities she’s looking for in a man. She’s attracted to a man who is independent, strong, confident, and ambitious as she is. She is attracted to a man who knows what his main priorities in life are and who is not afraid to pursue his goals.
But, most importantly, an alpha female is attracted to a man who is not afraid to commit. A man who values relationships and has no time to blow hot and cold about her.
There’s one type of man an alpha female would never allow herself to be in a relationship with – the beta male. An alpha female and a beta male are incompatible. A confident, brave, and direct woman, just like the alpha female, can’t stand to be with someone who is not assertive with her, dependent, meek, and reserved, and who can’t keep up with her in every aspect of life.
In what follows, we’ve presented the five most common qualities the men alpha females are attracted to possess:
1. HE RESPECTS HER
What an alpha female values most in a relationship is respect. She treats her partner with respect and dignity and she wants to be treated the same way.
The man an alpha woman is attracted to knows her worth. He knows the challenges and struggles she’s gone through to become the woman she is today, and he never underestimates her importance.
2. HE CHALLENGES HER
She’s smart and fierce, but he knows she can be and do better. So he challenges her to learn new things, broaden her knowledge, and be more resilient.
3. HE KEEPS HIS PROMISES
When he promises to do something, he keeps his word. He doesn’t make promises he knows he can’t keep. He is responsible and stable, just like an alpha woman is.
4. HE IS HONEST
He doesn’t beat around the bush, he always tells it like it is. He doesn’t like keeping secrets from his partner, and he always tells the truth, no matter how harsh it is.
5. HE IS AMBITIOUS
He knows his priorities, has clear goals, and does everything in his power to achieve them. More importantly, he is not afraid of failure. He sees failures as valuable lessons and an opportunity to invest more effort in pursuing his goals and fulfilling his dreams.
What Is An Alpha Female In A Relationship?
Just because alpha women are independent, confident, and strong, many people think that they don’t like being in a relationship or that they’re unfair and bossy when they’re in a relationship. But, nothing could be further from the truth.
An alpha woman can be an amazing partner, and she highly values relationships.
Being in a relationship with an alpha female can be the most extraordinary and wonderful experience anyone can have. In what follows, we’ve presented eight reasons why this is so.
1. SHE IS LOYAL
An alpha female is fiercely loyal to her partner. Infidelity is what she hates the most. When she is in a relationship, she utterly commits to her man.
2. SHE IS INDEPENDENT
An alpha female is a highly independent person, and she doesn’t let anyone compromise that. When an important decision has to be made, she doesn’t wait for her partner to say the final word. She’s smart enough to make her own decisions. And when it comes to romantic dinners, trips, and holidays, she doesn’t wait for her partner to organize every event. She’s resourceful enough to organize everything by herself.
3. SHE EXPRESSES HER FEELINGS OPENLY
An alpha female may appear reserved, but she is the opposite of that. She’s not ashamed or afraid to show her feelings and be vulnerable around her partner. When she’s happy, she laughs and spreads positivity everywhere around her. When she’s sad, she cries without trying to hide her tears. She showers her partner with love and affection when she is in love. And more importantly, she’s aware of her weaknesses, and she’s not ashamed to show them to her man.
4. SHE TREATS HER PARTNER WITH RESPECT
As we already said, alpha females, value mutual respect in a relationship. An alpha woman respects her partner’s feelings, decisions, boundaries, and opinions no matter how different they are from her own. She also treats his friends and family with respect and dignity. In her opinion, respect is the foundation upon which any healthy and strong relationship is built.
5. SHE IS SUPPORTIVE AND COMPASSIONATE
Yes, you read that right. She never lets her partner deal with his problems on his own. She’s there to offer him help and support whenever he’s struggling with a problem or having trouble making an important decision.
She is also there to encourage her partner to keep pursuing his goals and work on becoming the best version of himself.
6. SHE HAS A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR
You may think alpha females are serious and don’t like sharing jokes, but they’re one of the wittiest people. They know how to make you laugh, even when you’re in a bad mood, and they enjoy telling good, funny jokes.
7. SHE TAKES RESPONSIBILITY
When an alpha female makes a mistake, she admits it and does everything in her power to correct it. She doesn’t hold other people accountable for her own failures and mistakes. Such behavior can never be shown by someone who is mature and responsible. (2)
8. SHE DEALS WITH PROBLEMS CALMLY AND MATURELY
Every couple faces problems in their relationship, and alpha females are well aware of this. An alpha woman doesn’t have time for drama and bitter arguments. She’s not the type of person who would sweep problems under the carpet to avoid dealing with them openly. Instead, whenever a problem occurs in her relationship or when she disagrees with her partner over something, she lays her cards on the table and does her best to overcome it.
How Do You Deal With An Alpha Female In A Relationship?
1. ALWAYS BE YOUR TRUE SELF WITH HER
An alpha female has no time to play little mind games. That’s why you always need to be genuine with her. Show her your feelings openly. Share your fears, insecurities, weaknesses, failures, priorities, and goals with her. Let her know who you are without hiding anything about yourself.
2. DON’T COMPETE WITH HER
Don’t try to show her that you’re more independent, smarter, more confident, and more assertive than she is.
Never allow yourself to make her think that you can’t handle being in a relationship with a fierce, bold, and driven woman.
If she is more successful and has greater achievements than you, show her that you’re proud of her. Show her that you want her to be even better in every aspect of life. And more importantly, show her that you’ll always be there to support her.
3. RESPECT HER INDIVIDUALITY
Alpha females don’t run in packs. They are not like the women you’ve met in your life. They live their life in accordance with their own beliefs, values, and rules. They don’t follow the herd. Instead, they make their own judgments as individuals.
4. TREAT HER WITH KINDNESS
Don’t lie to her. Don’t treat her like she is inferior to you. Do not prioritize your opinions, priorities, and goals over her own. Don’t be impatient with her. Instead, treat her with patience and kindness.
Respect her feelings, needs, and opinions. Be always there for her. Support her. Believe in her. And show her that you’re aware of her worth.
5. RESPECT HER BOUNDARIES
Never expect an alpha woman to be clingy or too emotional. She’s nothing like the women from your past relationships.
When you notice she’s worrying about something or trying to solve a problem, give her space to think things through.
When she says ‘no,’ she means ‘no’ – don’t try to change her opinion.
And most importantly, respect her time, freedom, independence, and need for boundaries.
6. DON’T BE SUSPICIOUS OF HER
Perhaps you’ve been in relationships in which you were lied to or cheated on. But don’t think you’ll have to go through the same things in this new relationship. An alpha female has no time for such games.
So, if she has a solid group of friends and likes to often hang out with them, or if she comes home late from work several times, don’t take this as a sign that she’s cheating on you. And if you want to keep her, make sure you never accuse her of being unfaithful.
7. LISTEN TO HER ATTENTIVELY
Don’t ever think that you can read her mind. You can never know what she is thinking. When an alpha female talks, that’s because she has something smart to say. So, always listen to her carefully. Don’t respond to her without listening to her. And allow her to express her opinions openly.
How Do You Know If You Are The Alpha Female?
If you possess the following traits, this is a sure sign that you belong to the category of alpha females.
You are confident in yourself.
You are strong and bold.
You know what you want in life and how to get it.
You live your life in accordance with your own values, beliefs, and rules.
You’re ambitious.
You inspire other people around you.
You’re well respected.
You encourage others to be their true and best selves.
You have strong leadership skills.
You always find a way to achieve your goals.
You admit your mistakes and take responsibility for your actions.
You can’t tolerate negative, irresponsible, selfish, and envious people.
You’re not afraid of failures.
You work on yourself and want to become a better version of yourself.
Let’s make things clear and let everything out in the open.
There’s a huge difference between a man who has just discovered the rules of dating and has no experiences and a man who’s been through a lot and still chose to follow the ‘douchebag’ road in life.
I mean come on… what good can come of dating someone who doesn’t bother to date you properly?
What good can come of being with a man who doesn’t seem to care about you the way you care about him?
Hanging out is not dating, people. Seeing someone once in a week and wondering whether they’re interested in you because they haven’t called you back, isn’t a relationship. If you ask for my opinion, it’s bulls*it.
If a man is too afraid to take you out in public and hold your hand, then maybe, he’s not the one for you. The real person won’t be terrified of hearing the word commitment. He won’t run for the hills once you show your first sign of affection.
On the contrary, he will do everything he can to let you know how special and loved he feels. He won’t hesitate to open his heart to you, and he won’t be embarrassed to share every secret, every thought and every opinion with you because he will finally feel comfortable in its own skin.
You deserve more.
You are worth more than gold, darling.
You are worth more than you actually accept.
You shouldn’t be waiting for all eternity for him to answer. You shouldn’t accept his manipulative, immature games. You shouldn’t settle for less. You shouldn’t believe him just because he swears what he’s saying it’s true. You shouldn’t let him force you to do anything you don’t want. You shouldn’t pretend there’s something between you, when there clearly isn’t.
You deserve to be appreciated and loved for who you are. You deserve to be with a man who treats you with respect and kindness. You deserve to be with someone who is thrilled about spending time with you.
I know that modern dating is really tough nowadays, but you have to believe me, good guys aren’t a myth. They are real, only they’re the rarest of the rare species these days.
I’m not saying it will be easy to find this person, but once you do, every struggle and every tear you shed will be worth it. I promise.
Because… The right guy… He will know how to love you. The love you desperately craved for will finally wrap its hands around you and it will alleviate you. It will change everything you once believed was true.
So, if he ignores your concerns, if he doesn’t bother to date you properly, and he avoids revealing his true emotions about where is your relationship going, maybe after all, he’s not the one for you. Don’t try to justify his behavior, don’t even try to look for a hidden message behind his actions.
The sooner you realize that some things are not worth fighting for, the better off you’ll be.
Life is too short, my dear. Real love is totally worth waiting for.
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