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8 Signs That Your Anxiety, Sleep Problems, And Joint Pain Are Caused By Adrenal Fatigue

By
Elizabeth Williams

Adrenal fatigue is not something you’ll hear as a diagnosis from your doctor, and it is connected to the struggle of your adrenal glands to cope with the stress and strain of our overly busy lives.

It is characterized by feeling dull, burnt out and overworked and it is only diagnosed by doctors when it surpasses the fourth stage, known as adrenal insufficiency. Your job is not to allow your body to suffer to that extent and take appropriate steps to prevent adrenal fatigue as early as possible.

The main culprit behind adrenal fatigue is the constant stress we are experiencing, and if proper steps are not taken to detox that stress, such as following an adrenal fatigue diet, your adrenal glands can do very little in the combat against it.

Here are 8 symptoms you may be experiencing adrenal fatigue and how you can combat them:

1. Inability to sleep

Many of us choose to sacrifice the precious sleep time to finish off some of the things we have on our schedule. However, lack of sleep leads to a disrupted function of the brain and organs, and it leads to the inability to fall or stay asleep.

The stress your body is under when not given enough sleep causes major disruptions and throws us off balance, so introducing a healthy sleeping pattern is paramount for the prevention of adrenal fatigue.

Set a regular wake-up and go-to-bed time and follow it no matter what. The best time to go to bed is before midnight, and being in complete darkness (or in a room that isn’t illuminated by screens that emit blue light) is a way you can trigger your sleeping hormone – melatonin.

If you find it hard to fall asleep, doing some relaxation techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or taking a warm bath with calming essential oils are just some of the things that can help you relax.

2. Feeling exhausted after workouts

Although feeling tired after it may seem like a normal thing, physical exercise should, in fact, make you feel energized. The reason you may be feeling exhausted after exercise is the physical stress you are putting your body through.

No matter what goal you’re trying to achieve, putting your body under increased physical stress will strain your adrenal glands, and you will only achieve the opposite result of what physical exercise is designed to achieve.

If you feel exhausted after workouts, the best thing to do is to switch to a gentler form of exercise, like walking, stretching, or yoga. You should know that exercise is designed to make you feel better and more active, and weight loss is primarily caused by proper nutrition.

3. Hormonal imbalances

When you reach stage 2 adrenal fatigue, your thyroid may start suffering its effects, creating unfavorable symptoms of a hypothyroid, such as weight gain, poor circulation, fatigue, and dry hair and skin.

The hormonal imbalance is due to the overwhelming stress levels with which your adrenal glands cannot keep up, so the precursor material for hormones gets redirected in the production of cortisol.

Long-term stress may also cause delays in the menstrual cycle and an increase in PMS symptoms. In general, hormonal imbalance is an unpleasant experience and it is required that you take on a more nourishing diet, adaptogenic herbs, increased water intake, eliminate caffeine and get some adequate sleep.

4. Anxiety and depression

Adrenal fatigue can lead to increased anxiety and symptoms of depression, as the stress levels become overwhelming not only for the body but for the mind too. The adrenal hormones are involved in the function of our mood, cognitive abilities, and mental states, and the lack thereof causes mental imbalances.

Give yourself a green light to simply take a step back and dedicate more time for yourself, as no matter what you need to do, you won’t be able to do anything if you fall into the abyss of adrenal fatigue.

5. Increased cravings for salt

During adrenal fatigue, the production of aldosterone (the salt-retaining hormone) is decreased, and this causes a mineral deficiency in your body. Your increased craving for salt is a way your body is trying to combat this.

Aldosterone is a hormone that helps regulate blood pressure and fluid balance in the body. Too much aldosterone can lead to high blood pressure, fluid retention, and other problems. Aldosteronism primary is caused by changes in the adrenal glands that lead to the overproduction of aldosterone.

The lack of the necessary minerals is characterized by cravings for salt, low blood pressure, dizziness and lightheadedness upon standing, and heart palpitations. It’s paramount that you increase your mineral intake in your diet during this period.

You can do this by adding mineral drops to your filtered water, adding Himalayan pink salt in your food, and using seaweeds such as nori, dulse, and kelp.

6. Stiffness and soreness

A sign that your body isn’t getting a full recharge because of the increased stress is feeling stiff and sore. The most common places affected by stress are your back, neck, or jaw. To relieve these symptoms, try to optimize your sleep habits and do more stretching or yoga.

Warm baths with anti-inflammatory blends that contain magnesium is also a great way to soothe, detox, and balance your body. Magnesium is one of the best solutions for muscle relaxation, so consider getting a magnesium supplement online to make sure you’re giving your body everything it needs to recover properly.

7. Relying on too much caffeine to get you through the day

It’s important to notice that coffee doesn’t give you energy as much as you are borrowing that energy from it. Having adrenal fatigue makes mornings especially difficult to cope with, but drinking too much coffee results in retaining stress in your body, as the caffeine keeps your body in stress mode and signals the production of stress hormones such as epinephrine and cortisol.

While some would argue that coffee isn’t necessarily bad, relying too much on coffee is harmful, and it’s especially important that you cut down on it during the recharge period. In this period, you should turn to herbal teas, such as mint, dandelion root, or holy basil.

8. Disrupted digestion

Stress doesn’t allow the body to focus on achieving optimal digestion and nutrient absorption, despite how healthy your food is. In adrenal fatigue mode, functions like metabolism and digestion are downregulated, and the likelihood of you being bloated after eating is increased.

This disrupted digestion and metabolism result in weight gain, indigestion, and constipation or diarrhea. Drinking enough water, lemon water, taking enough minerals and probiotics, and savoring your meals are just some ways you can improve your digestion.

Source: Holisticole

The 12 Components Of Exceptional Emotional Intelligence – Which Do You Need To Work On?

By
Mary Wright

We can all agree that emotional intelligence is something that goes far beyond being likable or having good social skills.

It is also a well-known fact that emotional intelligence is just as important as intellectual intelligence and hard skills when it comes to you – being an exceptional leader in your field. Because designing a better chair will be pointless if you don’t have the skills to convince others why your invention is better and how it can benefit them.

 So, do you know which qualities make someone truly emotionally intelligent?

Richard E. Boyatzis and Daniel Goleman, both business school professors, have been working for decades to find out the true meaning of being emotionally intelligent. This pair revealed the 12 essential components of possessing exceptional people skills.

And being nice is not enough.

When we hear the word emotional intelligence, we often assume that that person is empathetic, pleasant, and flexible to any situation.

However, while these are all attractive qualities – if a person has only them they may be too meek or unskilled to share their vision thus making them bad leaders.

According to Boyatzis and Goleman, there is a complement of dozen skills that stand for complete and exceptional EQ. Here is the list of the 12 components:

1. EMOTIONAL SELF-CONTROL

2. EMOTIONAL SELF-AWARENESS

3. POSITIVE OUTLOOK

4. ADAPTABILITY

5. EMPATHY

6. INFLUENCE

7. ORGANIZATIONAL AWARENESS

8. CONFLICT MANAGEMENT

9. ACHIEVEMENT ORIENTATION

10. MENTOR AND COACH

11. TEAMWORK

12. INSPIRATIONAL LEADERSHIP

Take a minute to review these 12 competencies in your mind, so that you can get a sense of which areas you may need to work on to achieve a perfect emotional intelligence.  

Which are your strongest skills? And in which are you failing?

11 Signs An Employee Is About To Quit

By
Mary Wright

Despite common suppositions and speculations by scholars and managers, we still don’t know very much about the signs which reveal when an employee is about to quit.

Most bosses can be caught off guard when a mass of employees quits, just as it can happen when only one valued employee decides to resign.

So, it is of utmost importance for the managers to look for the symptoms that show someone is about to quit early on because losing a valued employee or several employees would drastically disrupt their business.

 So, here are 11 signs given by psychologists that show when an employee is about to quit.

1. THERE IS A CHANGE IN THEIR APPEARANCE

If your employee changes their dressing style and suddenly they are dressing uncommonly sharp – this may be a sign that they are going to job interviews before or after work. Contrary, if someone starts to dress down may be a sign that they feel unhappy or that no one is paying attention to them, so they stopped caring.

2. THERE IS A SUDDEN DECLINE IN THEIR INTEREST IN WORK

If you notice that your employee has ceased offering new ideas and suggestions at meetings – this is a bad sign. Their lack of interest and input in the new projects may be a sign that they have lost their motivation and they don’t care about the future of the company because they won’t be there.

3. YOU CAN TELL BY THEIR FACIAL EXPRESSIONS AND BODY LANGUAGE

There are subtle shifts in the body language that can give you clues that your employee is about to quit. Look for signs of anger, guilt or shame. They may be disengaged because they are angry, or they may feel guilty if they are job hunting behind your back.

4. THEY START TAKING MORE TIME OFF

Has your employee suddenly started to call in sick more than usual? Or, did they start using up sporadically their vacation days? If yes, these are signs that they are disengaged and unfocused at work, so they use their sick days to find a new job. Plus, their sudden use of vacation days may be a sign that they are about to quit so they want to get all the benefits they can.

5. THEY APPROACH CONFLICT DIFFERENTLY

When someone is about to call it quits, there might be a change in their handling of conflicts. If they tried everything they could to solve a disagreement before, now they no longer do it because they don’t feel like they should bother anymore since they look for a new job.

6. THEY UNDERGO A MAJOR LIFE CHANGE

If they are facing a major disruption or crisis in their family life, they may begin to look for new possibilities due to various reasons – to work closer to home, for instance, for higher incomes, less stressful work environment and so on.

7. THEY LACK A SENSE OF HUMOR

An employee that is about to quit might stop joking around. They are most likely to behave in a straightforward and serious manner. They might also no longer be lighthearted and friendly like they were before because they no longer try to impress anyone or be supportive.

8. THEIR PRODUCTIVITY DROPS

If your employee suddenly gets reports in late, or there is a noticeable fall in their sales – something might be wrong. Any sign that an employee is not fully present at work is a huge red flag.

9. THERE IS A NOTED CHANGE IN THEIR ATTITUDE

If you notice that your employee suddenly makes sarcastic comments more than usual about work issues, or they have become more irritable – it is a sign that they don’t believe in the company and where it is headed. Also, a lack of enthusiasm is a clear sign that you might lose your employee soon.

10. THEY STAY UNDER THE COMMUNICATION RADAR

If your employee is considering resignation, they might try to skip communication at all costs. They might rarely respond to emails, they might be silent in person, or they won’t communicate in general. This is because they don’t want to expose themselves or put themselves at risk having to answer questions that might jeopardize their job.

11. YOU HAVE A GUT FEELING

If you feel there is discomfort among your team, or you get an awkward feeling every time you are at the office – this is a sign that there is a displeasure among one or more of the employees, and they are about to bail. Instincts are important, but most people decide not to trust them. Trust your gut –  the truth is always in you.  

 

8 Signs An Introvert Secretly Likes You

By
Elizabeth Williams
signs an introvert loves you

Many picture introverts as shy, closed inside, and anti-social. While they may be true up to a point, it is so because they don’t like socializing with just anyone, and they don’t prefer opening up to people until they have started trusting them.

And when they get to like someone, introverts do things that only they know how to do. If an introvert likes you, you will see some very cute actions, reactions, and a very gentle behavior.

Here are 8 signs an introvert secretly likes you: 

1. Making the first move

Introverts don’t usually like taking the first step when they want to get to know someone. However, if an introvert does make the first move, trying to get your attention and start a conversation, you can be certain that they’re into you.

2. Opening up

It’s really hard for an introvert to open up. They usually prefer to stay in their safe zone and it takes time for them to gather the courage to crack the shell in which their true Self lies. If an introvert starts talking to you about themselves without being forced to, it’s definitely a sign they’re interested in you.

3. Talking about personal topics

Even if introvert talks to people, they usually prefer to stick to general topics and avoid talking about personal topics. However, if one starts revealing their interests, likes, dislikes, and feelings, it means that they find it comfortable to be around you.

4. Revealing their secrets

Having an introvert reveal a secret of theirs is like cracking a high-security safe. However, if they open that safe up for you, it means that they truly see the good in you and aren’t afraid of sharing whatever is lying deep inside.

5. Inviting you to their personal space

The personal space for the introvert is their temple, they like to keep it calm, and never let people intrude it. Well, not never – if they truly enjoy your company, they will be happy to invite you over and they will enjoy sharing that personal space with you.

6. Going the extra mile

Introverts are helpful people, but they don’t usually rush into helping everyone at that same moment – they take their time. If, however, you notice an introvert trying to help you out with things without any request on your behalf, they are definitely into you.

7. Showing extra care

Introverts don’t feel very comfortable showing care about people, as they are usually closed down inside. They only show extra care to people they truly consider close. Then, they become especially attentive and extremely loyal, and this is a sign that they see you as one who is part of their inner circle.

8. Keeping in touch – constantly

An introvert won’t bother keeping in touch with someone they don’t consider close. In fact, it’s an utter nightmare for them to talk with people all the time – except when it comes to people who matter to them. If you see an introvert trying to constantly keep in touch with you, you know they see you as a special person to them.

The Strengths Of Dyslexia Every Parent Should Know About

By
Elizabeth Williams

The other day I heard a parent saying, “My child suffers from dyslexia.”  This absolutely broke my heart, not only with the automatic negative connotation, but I also wondered if the child in question had ever heard her speak about dyslexia in this way. 

Thankfully, the majority of people don’t think this way, but it made me wonder about how much is truly known about this condition. Not just the areas dyslexics may struggle with but, more importantly, the strengths that are associated with dyslexia and how they can be built upon.

It is estimated that 1 in 10 people in the USA have dyslexia and they are only the people who have been diagnosed.  Dyslexia is not just a problem with accurate reading and spelling, its main features are connected with phonological awareness (how we recognize and use heard language). 

This can be even more problematic for non-transparent languages such as English where we have various combinations of letters for the same sound.  Verbal memory and verbal processing speed can also be areas of difficulty.

For example, a person with dyslexia may have difficulty following a long instruction, often forgetting what the speaker has said as they finish their sentence.  Additional difficulties may also be present in skills such as sequencing and understanding numbers, organization, time management and concentration.

This is because dyslexia, as with all specific learning differences, (SpLDs) can often be co-occurring.  For example, a person with dyslexia can also show features of dyscalculia – difficulties in processing mathematical calculations.  Likewise, a person with ADHD can show problems with processing written or verbal information as is common in dyslexia and so on. 

Therefore, care needs to be taken when identifying the learning difficulty.  If your child has been diagnosed as having dyslexia, it is worth further questioning the school or observing for yourself if any other SpLDs may be present.

The most important point to note is that having a learning difference such as dyslexia is not a sign of low intelligence and you do not ‘suffer’ with it.

The good news is that often individuals with a learning difference show many strengths that can and should be capitalized upon in order to raise self-esteem through the empowerment of success in learning. 

Please repeat this as often as is necessary, ‘My child does not learn badly, they learn differently.’ 

I am sure that we’ve all read articles telling us that Einstein may have been dyslexic and reminding us of the success stories of dyslexic entrepreneurs such as Steve Jobs and Sir Richard Branson.  Yes, they certainly may be inspiring, but how does this translate in reality to your child?

A parent’s knowledge of their child is really second to none.  They see the child in a safe and secure environment where they can be themselves, warts and all, where they don’t have to perform for a teacher or fit into a school system. 

They can see perhaps that their child is focused and learns best when spending two hours building Lego.  They may also see the degree of discomfort experienced by their child if they ask them to read a little from their favorite bedtime story. 

The reality is, how can you ask a child to improve their spelling if they hate reading. How can they be expected to write a few sentences for homework if this very act causes distress and anxiety?

We really need to start thinking outside the box and play to the strengths of these children. 

There are now innumerable studies which show that multisensory learning, ie. processing information using the different senses of sight, sound and touch can be of great benefit to those who struggle to retain information because of working memory deficits.

Dyslexics can have a strong tendency towards ‘seeing the bigger picture’ and so are likely to benefit from strong visual images which depict concepts, as opposed to long and wordy texts. 

There are many free websites such as Spellzone which gamify spelling in a fun way so that the learning taking place is almost disguised. I often use such websites with my 10-year-old son, as he loves to show his mom that he can beat me at the games (as I get the satisfaction that his spelling is improving). We can even laugh if the other makes a mistake.  Calm + happy = a brain open to learning.

Dyslexics can often present strong spoken skills.  Many schools now have assistive technology which can translate spoken words into text.  If this is not available, then most smartphones and computers nowadays contain speech to text apps on them.  Older children preparing essays can be encouraged to dictate their ideas.

Additionally, why not encourage your teens to access free mind-mapping software to help plan a piece of writing? Dyslexics can struggle linking ideas together in written form so, again, if those ideas are represented in a more visual way they are likely to stick in the mind in an easier manner.

If you do not have regular access to a computer and have younger children, then encourage them to spell out letters in sand or try molding letters with play-dough.  Remember when children (or anyone) are encouraged to learn in a multisensory way, the information will stick in their memories for far longer. 

Just think of how a child’s self-esteem could be boosted if they experienced regular success in a skill that they had always failed at. We cannot underestimate how fear of failure can impact on a child’s motivation to attempt skills, such as reading, writing, and spelling.

Finally, I would like to leave you with a quote from Ignacio Estrada from the Gordon and Betty Moore Foundation. “If a child can’t learn the way we teach then maybe we should teach the way they learn.”  This has never been truer for dyslexics and those with a learning difference.

 

This article was written by Suzanne Robertshaw.
Suzanne is a post-graduate certified teacher of Dyslexia and Learning Differences. She is also a teacher trainer who regularly speaks at conferences about supporting students with learning differences. She is passionate about promoting positive and inclusive learning for all and hopes to raise awareness of the many strengths of neuro-diverse learners as well as challenge some of the myths surrounding them. 
You can contact her at [email protected]

 

Originally published on Curious Mind Magazine

Take Advantage of Immigration Solution – Read These 7 Tips

By
Elizabeth Williams

Trying to migrate to another country? Are you looking for a better job overseas? Well, you must know immigration is not easy, and you have to clear a lot of legal formalities before you apply for migration.

Immigration as people say; if luck favors, you will get it. But this is not always the truth. A number of factors determine your chances of success for migrating.

The best and most trusted way to file for immigration is through some agency like immigration solution. Such organizations help you from beginning to end and direct you at each step of the immigration process.

So today I will tell you seven helpful tips that can save your day and help you successfully migrate to the country of your dream.

  1. The best way to approach for migration is through trusted immigration agency that has experience and expertise in providing such services
  2. Such organizations are well acquainted will all the information, immigration procedure, legal formalities and documentation that are required in the process.
  3. There are many stages of immigration, and each stage has different requirements which you cannot understand on your own. These immigration services assist you at each step.
  4. You get consultation and assessment of your eligibility for immigration when you use immigration solution services. It helps in determining your chances of success, if not; it also helps to increase your chances of the successful migration.
  5. The expert counselor in the agency will provide you every minute detail on immigration laws and rule and what you will be required to do ones you get immigration. Along with your rights, legal and fundamental in the country of migration after you get the immigration.
  6. Immigration solutions are best when it comes to documentation. A lot of legal formalities and documents need to be submitted with required fees at each step of filing for immigration. The agency directs you in obtaining all such papers and verifies them before sending it to the department. This helps in increasing your chances of getting the migration.
  7. You will also get expert advice throughout the process, and your chances of getting the migration are higher when applying through immigration solutions.

Now, I guess you will know why applying for immigration through immigration solution is the best way to migrate to another country.

Each country has different immigration norms and every year the government changes such rules. Keeping yourself acquainted with all information is not easy for an individual.

Even if you view the official website of immigration the information presented is in a manner that cannot be easily interpreted or understood. Also, there are different categories under which a migrant can reach out for migration like, work permit, education, professionals expertise, dependent, etc.

A country accepts only a handful of migrants based on these requirements:

  • Age
  • Professional skills
  • Experience
  • High studies
  • Sponsorship

If you satisfy these categories, your chances are higher, but if not then only an expert immigration service provider can guide you for the best possible option to apply for immigration.

Keeping all this in mind, it becomes crucial to undertake the services of immigration agencies.  

Top 9 Early Signs That Your Child May Have Autism

By
Elizabeth Williams

As The Autism Site reports, statistics show that 1 in 68 children are diagnosed with autism, marking a rise in diagnosis. And a professional won’t assess your children until they are over the age of two.

However, there are ways you can find if your child has autism as early as in their sixth month of age. Monitoring your child is important, and if there is anything that may seem concerning, you should consult your doctor.

In the case of autism, you should be aware that your child won’t exhibit any strange behaviors, but will rather show a lack of normal behavior. Read below.

1. Lack of smiling

By the age of six months, your child should start giving you happy expressions and big smiles. Does he or she smile back when you give a joyful, warm smile?

2. Lack of imitation of social cues

By the age of nine months, children start imitating the sounds and movements of others. If your child doesn’t imitate sounds, laughter, smiles, and facial expressions at this age, it may be an early indicator of autism.

3. Delayed babbling and cooing

By the age of twelve months, your baby should start babbling, cooing, and making “baby talk”. Does your child do this frequently? They typically should reach this milestone by this age.

4. Not responding to name

If your baby is increasingly unresponsive to their name from the age of six to twelve months, it is a strong sign of autism. Many parents confuse it with hearing loss, but this indicator means that you should monitor the signs and consult a doctor.

5. Limited eye contact

Eye contact is a form of comprehension and communication. If your baby shows sever lack of eye contact, making poor eye contact with you and other loved ones, and if he/she doesn’t follow objects visually, it might be an early indicator.

6. Not seeking enough attention

If your child is not interested in seeking attention from you, it might be a sign of autism, as this kind of disinterest in bonding and attention indicates trouble of relating to others, and this can be a struggle for children on the spectrum as they grow up. Cuddling, making noises to get your attention, reaching up toward you to be picked up – these are all healthy signs your child should be exhibiting.

7. Lack of gesturing

By the age of nine to ten months, your child should start gesturing at people or objects to communicate, wave goodbye, reach for things, and point. If he/she is not doing this, they may be showing signs of autism.

8. Repetitive behaviors

Sitting or standing in uncommon postures, making unusual body movements, like rotating the wrists or hands, and repetitively stiffening the legs, hands, or arms, are early signs of autism. Does your child do any of this?

9. Delayed motor development

Does your child show significant delays in motor development, such as crawling, rolling over, and pushing themselves up?

If any of these signs seem to be noticeable in your child, it’s best that you consult your doctor and ask advice on what steps you need to take to help your child out.

 

Source: The Autism Site

9 Revealing Signs He’ll Love You No Matter What

By
Mary Wright

Whether you think of yourself as high maintenance or not, or you think you are just not the goofy romantic type – it doesn’t matter. Nothing will matter with the right guy because he will love the real you despite your flaws.

The truth is, sometimes we all feel a little lost and insecure, and the world just seems like a scary place to live in. So, when you find a guy who is there for you through your storms – keep him.

Here is a list of 13 revealing signs that your boyfriend is definitely a keeper.

1. HE FINDS YOU BEAUTIFUL WITH OR WITHOUT MAKE-UP

Everyone can be beautiful with the right make-up. Every flaw we have can be easily brushed off with just a single stroke of a brush. However, the man who really loves you will love you without make-up.

Even though he finds you attractive with your make-up on, he will find you the most beautiful when you are all natural because he is in love with all your little imperfections and flaws that you hate.

2. YOUR WEIGHT IS JUST A NUMBER TO HIM

They say that true beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. So, when your guy loves you truly, he doesn’t care whether you are overweight or underweight. He finds you attractive in any shape.

He sees only the beauty of your heart, your charisma, and the clarity of your mind – and these are the things that he is interested in and he respects you for.

3. HE ALWAYS HAS YOUR BACK EVEN WHEN YOU ARE UNEMPLOYED

Having to share your life with someone is not an easy task, especially when the raising of kids is involved. The situation becomes much more difficult when the woman happens to be unemployed for various reasons.

However, no matter what your reasons are, you are not scared because you know you can always count on your loving boyfriend for support.

4. YOU AGING DOESN’T BOTHER HIM

 Even if you start to wrinkle up, or you have deep scars on your skin that you consider your weaknesses – they won’t matter to the right guy.

The right guy will love your skin imperfections because he will see them as symbols of all the hard times you’ve endured that made you the person you are today. And this is the person he loves. After all, age is just a number: it doesn’t matter to him, so it shouldn’t bother you.  

5. HE DOESN’T LEAVE YOU WHEN YOU ARE FEELING DOWN

The right guy will sense when you are feeling down. And, he will not dismiss your feelings. Rather, he would cook you a nice dinner and will try his best to calm you down. Because, the truth is, it is not easy to handle someone who is at their worst.

But the guy who loves you unconditionally will put up with you and instead of leaving, he will stay and will do everything to make you feel better.

6. HE FORGIVES YOUR MISTAKES

Whether intentionally or unintentionally – we all make mistakes. Sometimes we even find it difficult to forgive ourselves, let expect someone else to forgive us.

However, the right guy knows that everyone is guilty of making mistakes, and no one is perfect. So, he will forgive your mistakes and make you forgive yourself too.

7. HE GIVES YOU SPACE FOR YOURSELF

Sometimes we all find ourselves overwhelmed by everyday casualties that we need to take a break and distance ourselves from people altogether.

Your partner will not judge you for your isolation – rather, he will support you and encourage you to take all the time you need to decompress. You, distancing yourself from him won’t make his feelings any less intense.

8. HE HELPS YOU TO DEAL WITH YOUR PAST

Having a guy who fights your demons from the past with you is not an everyday occurrence. It is a sign that he really loves you and he sees his future with you in it.

Moreover, he will help you to overcome your issues from your troubled past without judging. He will listen to you, and he will make you see your scars as signs of immense strength.

9. HE DOESN’T MIND YOUR ATTITUDE AND CHANGE OF MOODS

No matter how tolerant and laid-back you are, sometimes people can really get on your nerves. Sometimes, you can get on their nerves because you can’t control your temper.

However, your changing moods will not have an impact on your guy – because he will (or he will try) to understand you every time. He will love you even in times when you are not so lovable. And that’s a guy you should keep.   

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12 Things To Remember When You Feel Like Your World Has Been Shattered

By
Elizabeth Williams

We all have those moments when things start falling apart; when everything is going from bad to worse, and we simply don’t know if it could get any worse. And in these dire moments, we start questioning our existence and the purpose of our life.

The truth is, we’ve all had moments like this – I might say that I am experiencing one such period myself as well. But life is a heartbeat, not a flat line. There are ups and downs, and they remind us that we are alive and kicking. A flat line means death.

So, here’s something to remember when you feel like you’ve reached the bottom.

1. Nothing lasts forever

You may have had a thrill before this all happened, and you saw that it didn’t last forever, or you may have got out from a bad period and you also understood that it didn’t last forever.

The truth is, nothing lasts forever – and this will also end. Your job is to endure and continue kicking.

2. There is always a tomorrow

Today may be rainy, but tomorrow will bring in some sunshine (or at least clean fresh breathable air). There’s a rainbow after every storm, and there’s a silver lining to every cloud.

Tomorrow is a new hope and a new kick – never lose your optimism.

3. There’s no point in obsessing over things

Ask yourself – do you have any say in what’s happening to you? Can you control the situation? What can you do about it? And then start doing it.

If it’s out of your control, there’s no point in obsessing over it too much. Just accept the reality and do whatever is in your power. Thoughts are nothing without action – obsessing is the key which locks the door of opportunity through action.

4. You are not alone

We all have ups and downs – nobody’s life is perfect. Some people just choose to act with a more positive outlook and do everything it takes to make their happiness a thing they truly deserve.

But even these people have struggles. We all do.

5. Good things are on their way

Life is filled with surprises, positive ones just as much as the negative. If you are willing to accept them, good things will come to you. The wheel is turning, never forget that.

6. If you are afraid of it, face it

Fear is our worst enemy – because it makes us stop where we are strong enough to overcome. It’s an illusion, however. If you are afraid of something you need to do, face your fears and take bold steps.

7. There’s no such thing as ‘free’

Nothing in life comes for free – the events that take place in your life are there to balance things out. Your actions call for your happiness, or lack thereof. Whatever brought you here is a challenge that you need to face, and once you truly understand its lesson, there is a reward.

8. If it affects your happiness negatively, don’t do it

Our sole purpose in life is to be true to ourselves and to love ourselves. We contribute to our happiness, and we contribute to our misery. If something makes you feel unhappy, simply say no and do the things that bring joy and fulfillment to your life.

9. Your situation won’t stop the world

And therefore, you shouldn’t think that anybody owes you anything because you’re feeling down. Instead, focus on your challenge and face it. Help is always welcome, but you already have all the strength within.

10. There’s a reason for everything

Don’t be afraid of where you are, as there’s a strong reason for that. Nothing is coincidental, and there is a lesson to be learned of all that. Sometimes, when a tree grows a branch in the shade, that branch dies because it cannot thrive there. Allow to grow again from where you’ve fallen, there’s a better path you’ll be walking.

11. The good days are more worth it when you see the bad ones

If it weren’t for the downs, you’d never truly understand how beautiful the ups look. If you don’t see the bad, you’ll never appreciate the good. The negative periods in life only give more strength to the positive ones, and the ability to learn how to preserve your happiness throughout all of them.

12. Your story doesn’t end here

Turning a page in your life will make the previous ones dark and closed. Don’t allow yourself to be stuck between the closed pages – your story doesn’t end there. Every new chapter in life has its own fresh beginning that holds the wisdom from the previous ones and the opportunities of the next ones.

 

Never feel down because you’re down. Accept your current situation and be a fighter. You are not only alive, you are also kicking – and you should never be afraid to do everything it takes to understand yourself better and to grow from the depths you have reached.

“No tree, it is said, can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell.” – C.G. Jung

 

Source: Awareness Act

12 Signs You Are A Genuine And Sincere Person With High Moral Values

By
Mary Wright
genuine and sincere

Unfortunately, nowadays, not many people have the virtue of sincerity. A lot of people live their lives pretending to be someone they are not. They don’t act according to their own values and principles. Instead, they act in ways others expect and want them to act.

People who have the virtue of sincerity, or genuineness, are a rare treasure in this cruel world where most people have forgotten how to nurture kindness and authenticity in themselves.

Genuine people are truthful and open. They think and speak justly. They express themselves without pretense and deceitfulness. They act according to their feelings, thoughts, beliefs, standards, and desires. Indeed, however rare, genuine people make the world a better place.

So, if you’re tired of pretending to be someone you are not and want to be more sincere in your communications and conduct, in this article, you’re about to find out how you can do that. Here, we’ll present 6 ways you can be sincere in life and explain what personality traits all sincere people possess. We’ll also explain how you can be sincere in a relationship, how to offer a sincere apology, and how to know if a man is sincere. So, without further ado, let’s get to it.

How To Be Sincere In Life?

1. Be True To Yourself

Being true to yourself means you’re entirely honest with what you value, feel, and desire. It means you recognize your qualities and weaknesses and accept and love yourself the way you are. It means you live your life in accordance with your own standards, values, and principles. It means you express your feelings and opinions freely, openly, and wholeheartedly without worrying about what other people might think or say about you. It means you don’t worry about pleasing others or meeting their expectations.

2. Always Speak The Truth

Be honest even when you have to share an unpleasant or cruel truth with someone. Tell it like it is without being condescending or mean toward others or insulting them. The more honest you are, the more other people will respect and appreciate you.

3. Be Genuine

You can’t be genuine if you praise someone, but you can’t stand them deep inside. You can’t be genuine if you say you love pasta when, in fact, you hate it.

Therefore, always speak from the heart. Say what you mean and mean what you say without sugarcoating things, mincing your words, or being rude to others.  

4. Understand Other People’s Point Of View

The only way to have an honest conversation with someone is to think about why they feel or think the way they do. Understanding someone else’s point of view doesn’t mean that you should give up on your own perspective. It simply means that you should try to understand where the other person is coming from and what experiences they have gone through that might have shaped their point of view.

5. Offer A Sincere Apology

When you know you said or did something that hurt another person’s feelings or made them feel bad, you acknowledge your mistake and then say you’re sorry. Put yourself in their shoes and try to think about how what you said or did might have affected them. Only then will the other person know that you know you’ve hurt them and that your “I’m sorry” comes right from your heart. In addition, if there’s any way you can repair the mistake, make sure you do so.

6. Do Good Without Expecting Anything In Return

Be there for people who need emotional support or help. Be other people’s cheerleader and safe haven when they’re feeling sad, struggling with a problem, or going through a tough time in life. Learn to be good and kind to others without expecting anything in return.

If you possess these 12 characteristics – you are one of the truly moral and genuine people.  (1)

1. You Treat Everyone With Respect, And People Respect You Too

You understand that we are all equal and that everyone deserves to be treated with respect. So, you respect everyone, and in turn, people respect you too. This is a wonderful quality for a person to have, but not many can say they have it.

2. You Are Sincere Even In The Worst Situations

A sincere person never lies. Even if you find yourself in a situation where your honesty can cause pain to others, you choose to tell the truth anyway. That’s why people trust you and they never doubt your words.

3. You Are Kind Toward Everyone You Meet

As a sincere person, you treat everyone you meet with kindness. Your smile is infectious, and you share it unsparingly. You are a genuine person who offers to help anyone who needs help. You have a heart of gold.  

4. You Are Patient

Waiting in lines doesn’t make you nervous. You know that patience is very important, and being able to remain calm during stressful situations is a rare but admirable trait.

5. People Can Trust You

Others feel they can count on you because they know they can trust you and you won’t disappoint them. You are the kind of a person who would never intentionally hurt the people that are close to you. (2)

6. You Always Finish Your Work

Even when you lack motivation, you push yourself harder to finish your work no matter what. You never leave everything unfinished. You are a responsible and hard worker that is a treasure for every company and employer.

7. Your Actions Speak Louder Than Your Words

A sincere person does not make promises they know they can’t keep. You are a person who is true to their word, and you only promise something that you are sure you can fulfill. You speak volumes by your deeds, not your words.

8. You Don’t Dramatize

There is no place for drama in your life. You tend to solve your problems like an adult, and you don’t leave any problem unresolved. If someone wants to bring drama into your life – you’ll show them the door.

9. You Fight For Justice

You know that we all need to fight for our purposes in life. You also know that you can succeed in achieving your purpose and meaning only by fighting for yourself as well as for those that are not able to fight themselves. You want justice and equal rights for everyone.

10. You Treat Everyone Right

You don’t pick favorites, and you don’t judge others. You treat everyone equally and with respect. When you meet new people, you don’t notice their appearance – you are interested only in their true character.

11. You Give Without Expecting Anything In Return

You are selflessly giving others everything you have. The world needs more people like you.  

12. You Know Your Limits

You know what you can and what you can’t do. You understand that life is too short to be spent worrying about something that might not even happen. You have firmly set limits, and you are careful not to pass them. You follow your dreams only, without trying to hurt anyone who gets in your way.

How To Be Sincere In A Relationship

Any healthy, meaningful, and successful relationship is built upon the virtue of sincerity. By being sincere in a relationship, you show your partner that you’re honest about your feelings for them and that they can always trust and rely on you.

In case you have trouble being genuine in your relationship, we’ve presented 7 ways how you can be sincere in your relationship so that you can make the bond between you and your partner even deeper and stronger.

1. Be Honest With Yourself

Being honest with yourself means being aware of the reasons why you feel or think the way you do. It means always being aware of your behavior, too, and why you behave the way you do. 

For instance, if you were mad at your partner for canceling your weekend trip, you might feel you have the right to accuse them and that this behavior is justifiable instead of calmly asking them why they canceled the trip. You might also think that you’re being sincere with them because you’re showing how you’re feeling. However, sincerity that is not based on reality can only harm a relationship. You need to be honest with yourself about your feelings and thoughts first so that you can nurture sincerity in your relationship.

2. Let Your Partner See Your Weaknesses And Imperfections

One of the reasons many people have trouble being sincere in a relationship is that they’re afraid or ashamed to expose their insecurities and flaws. But in order to let your partner accept and love you for who you are, you need to let them see all of your weaknesses, fears, vulnerable sides, annoying habits, quirks, and whims. But, more importantly, you need to show them that you consider yourself worthy and that you know you have a lot to offer.

3. Stay True To Your Words

If you want your partner to trust you, you always need to keep your promises. But, of course, unexpected things can happen, and sometimes you might unintentionally break a promise. But if you allow this to happen often, you’ll break your partner’s trust in you and make them perceive you as an irresponsible and untruthful person.

4. When You Say, “I Love You,” Show You Really Mean It

You may tell your partner “I love you” a thousand times a day and add all kinds of flowery and colorful adjectives to this sentence, but unless you show your partner that you truly love them with your actions, it’s all in vain. 

5. Be Who You Are

Don’t pretend to be someone you are not just because you think this will make your partner accept or love you more. Instead, always be yourself around them. Behave according to your own standards, principles, and values. Show your partner you are aware of and embrace your flaws and that you accept and love yourself just the way you are. Believe in the things you’ve always believed in, no matter how different these might be from the things your partner believes in. Also, in your conversations, no matter how your opinions might be different from your partner’s, express them freely and openly.

6. If You Don’t Like Something, Let Your Partner Know That

If you don’t like something, don’t be hesitant to say it. For instance, if your partner said or did something that hurt your feelings, call them out on their behavior. Being honest about what makes you feel uncomfortable, upset, or angry is an important prerequisite for building a healthy, happy, and long-lasting relationship.

7. Always Do Everything Out Of Love

Whatever you do for your partner or your relationship, always do it out of love. If you look at the things you do for your relationship as something you’re obliged to do, this means you aren’t sincere either to yourself or your partner anymore.

How To Offer A Sincere Apology

Whether it’s a family member, friend, co-worker, or acquaintance, no matter how hard you try to be good and kind to them, sometimes you might say or do something that hurts their feelings. Knowing when to apologize and how to do that sincerely can effectively repair damage in a relationship. So, in what follows, we’ve presented 7 ways you can apologize sincerely and effectively.

1. Consider The Reasons Why You Need To Apologize

This is the first thing you need to do when apologizing to someone. By recognizing the reasons why you need to apologize to someone, you’ll be able to own up to and learn from your mistake, express your remorse and Regret, and find new ways of handling tough situations.

2. Know When To Apologize

When you know you said or did something that caused someone else hard feelings, don’t wait for days, weeks, or months to pass to apologize to them for your behavior. Instead, once you realize you did something that hurt the other person’s feelings you should apologize to them right away. Admit your mistake, express your Regret, and try to find a way to make it up to them.

3. Name What You Said Or Did Wrong

When apologizing to someone for something you said or did that upset them, don’t just say, “I’m sorry I made you feel bad.” Instead, say, “I’m sorry I lied to you” or “I’m sorry I called you a drama queen.” Make sure you’re specific about what you said or did and why you’re apologizing for your actions.

4. Be Empathic

When you know you said or did something that hurt another person’s feelings, try to put yourself in their shoes and let them know you know they’re hurt and why they’re feeling that way. By letting them know you understand their feelings are legitimate, they’ll know your apology is sincere.

5. Take Responsibility For Your Actions

When apologizing to someone for a mistake you made that hurt their feelings, you need to let them know that you admit it. For example, instead of offering a vague apology, such as “I apologize if you were hurt by something I said,” be specific about why you’re apologizing and say something like, “When I said you were naïve, I wasn’t thinking. I didn’t mean it. I know that made you feel bad, and I’m sorry.”

6. Express Regret

In order to apologize effectively, you need to express Regret. It’s important for the other person to know that you regret hurting their feelings and you wish you hadn’t. So, when apologizing to someone, in addition to stating the reason why you’re apologizing, it’s good to add something like, “I wish I had been more considerate” or “I wish I could take it back.”

7. Make Amends

There has to be something you can do to make things better. For instance, if you said something rude or offensive to someone, you can apologize by saying, “I know what I said made you feel bad. I should have never told you those things. I’ll try my best to think of your feelings in the future.” Or, if you broke someone’s trust in you, you can say, “Is there anything I can do to make you believe in me again and show you that I deserve your trust?”

How To Tell If A Guy Is Sincere

One of the most difficult parts about being in a relationship is determining if your partner is sincere. Luckily, if you look close enough, there are telltale signs that show a guy is sincere, and you can trust him about anything. In what follows, we’ve presented 7 clear signs that the man you’re in a relationship with is sincere.

1. He Keeps His Promises

When a guy isn’t genuinely in love with you, he might not bother if he doesn’t fulfill his promises. But when you’re in a relationship with a man who truly loves you and cares about you, he’ll go out of his way to honor his promises. So, if your partner is someone who always keeps his promises, take this as a sign that both he and his love are sincere.

2. He Always Speaks The Truth

You know you’re in a relationship with a sincere guy if he tells you the truth, no matter how unpleasant or harsh it might be. So, if your partner always tells you the truth, even when he knows that this might make you feel uncomfortable or hurt your feelings, take this as a sign he’s entirely sincere.

3. He Expresses His Feelings Openly

If your partner isn’t closed-off when it comes to expressing his feelings for you, know you’ve found yourself a sincere man. Being in a relationship with this type of man means being with someone who is not ashamed or afraid to wear his heart on his sleeve. It means being with a man who is affectionate, tender, and thoughtful when the two of you are alone and in front of your friends or family. It means being with a man who expresses his love unambiguously because he knows how much you mean to him, and he wants you to know that too.

4. He Makes You A Priority

When a man puts you first, it means he’s sincere about his feelings toward you. So, if the guy you’re in a relationship with tends to put your feelings, needs, and desires ahead of his own, take this as a sign he’s a sincere person who truly loves and cares about you.

5. He Tells You What He Wants Out Of The Relationship

Most guys don’t really like talking about what they’re looking for in a relationship. But this is not true for your partner. Instead, he’s openly told you what he wants out of the relationship and what behaviors he can and can’t tolerate in a relationship. Being in a relationship with a man who is sincere about his expectations can make the relationship a smooth journey.

6. He Wants You To Meet His Family And Friends

Meeting someone’s friends and family is an important step in any meaningful and long-lasting relationship. So, if your partner was eager to introduce you to his loved ones at the beginning of your relationship, this is a clear sign he’s sincere about his feelings for you. Remember that when a guy doesn’t think that a relationship can last that long or when he’s not sure about his feelings for you, he won’t bother to introduce you to his family and friends.

7. He’s Proud Of You

You know a guy is sincere about his feelings for you if he is not hesitant to show everyone how proud he is for having you in his life. So, if your partner enjoys talking about you, your achievements, and how much he loves you when he is with his friends or family, you can take this as a sure sign that you’re in a relationship with a genuine man who truly loves you.

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