Narcissists are those sneaky monsters who won’t ask for a permission to get under your skin and suck all your blood leaving an empty dark space… And they’ll do it until you stop them.
People who suffer from Narcissism are self-centered, manipulative and selfish, with no sense of empathy. They use you as a pawn to win the game. They use your energy to conquer the world.
Narcissists make you believe them. You trust all the sweet lies they tell you. You become their victim quickly because they know how to play their game. And they play it well. Very well. While you’re opening your eyes to see them better, they hurt you.
Here are 7 things narcissists will do to take advantage of you.
1. THEY WILL MASK THEIR TRUE NATURE.
Narcissists are like chameleons. Chameleons change their color and adapt to the surrounding-narcissists change their emotions. They never show their true face.
All their emotions are hidden behind their masks: a mask for crying when they are not sad; another one for laughing when there’s no reason for that.
A narcissist will be careful their masks not to fail because the last thing they want is you to see what dangerous creatures they are.
2. THEY WILL MAKE YOU COMPETE FOR THEIR AFFECTION.
A narcissist knows how to make you sweat for their attention. They mastered the art of playing with people’s emotions a long time ago.
When there is a problem and you point that they’re wrong, a narcissist will involve a third person between the two of you, to receive their support.
They will compare you to the other person. While this person is admired and put in the best lights, you’re the bad guy, put in the worst.
In this way, narcissists manipulate with your sense of worth and make you fight to get their attention. This is known as triangulation.
3. THEY WILL BLAME YOU.
Narcissists are perfect. Narcissists are never wrong. They never do bad things. Who would believe that… more than narcissists themselves?
They are so convinced in their fakeness that will blame you for everything. You will be the reason for their bad mood, their words, and reactions. It will always be your fault.
A narcissist will never accept a responsibility for what they do to you, even when they know they did something wrong.
4. THEY WILL MAKE YOU FEEL ASHAMED.
A narcissist will do everything to get under your skin. Once you open your heart to them and share your fears, weaknesses, secrets, insecurities, they will use them…against you.
Narcissists won’t be able to shut their mouth. They will talk and spread rumors about everything you told them because they enjoy scandals.
In the end, you will end up creating a negative picture of yourself; you’ll start asking yourself what’s wrong with you.
5. THEY WILL USE GASLIGHTING.
This is where you start doubting yourself as well as narcissists’ abuse. This is where all the confusion begins.
A narcissist will use gaslighting to make you unable to trust your own beliefs and judgments. Therefore, you will feel empty: with lost self-worth and identity.
They will manipulate you emotionally because of their constant need to control your thoughts, behavior, feelings…A narcissist will brainwash you; they want to control you.
6. THEY WILL IDEALIZE, DEVALUE, AND DISCARD YOU.
In the idealization phase, known as love-bombing, narcissists will put you on the pedestal; they will tell you sweet words, they will flatter, praise, admire you. You’ll get their whole attention.
In the devalue phase, narcissists will show their true face. They will criticize, compare you with others, play hot’ n cold. This will drain you physically, emotionally as well.
In the discard phase, a narcissist will leave you. Finally, you can breathe… Well, not yet, my friend. A narcissist will want to leave their trail in your life forever.
Therefore, before they go, they will make sure to do everything for you to remember them forever; a narcissist will ignore, leave you for another person, blame you for the breakup, humiliate and lie about you in front of others… They’ll enjoy the whole drama in it.
7. THEY WILL CONTINUE THEIR MANIPULATIVE GAME.
A narcissist will never change. They can’t.
After they hurt you, they’ll move on to find another victim. And they will not care if they ruin their life too, simply because narcissists enjoy the pleasure of destroying everything that doesn’t belong in their narcissistic world.
Don’t let them take advantage of you.
Sandy White is a creative writer with a vivid imagination. The power of curiosity leads her to explore people’s inner world which is portrayed in her articles.