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Stop Hiding Your Feelings: These Are 10 Reasons Why Crying Is Beneficial To Your Health

By
Stephanie Reeds

Stop forcing yourself to be heartless. Stop convincing yourself that you have a stone for a heart. Stop pretending that you are strong. You aren’t and that’s fine.

Stop hiding your emotions and accept yourself the way you are. Fragile and beautiful.

We’ve been raised to believe that crying is bad. Ever since we were kids, we’ve been taught that we shouldn’t cry, because crying is a sign of weakness and it is something that we should avoid doing at all cost.

Well, guess what? That’s not true.

There is nothing wrong with crying. In fact, crying is very beneficial for your overall wellbeing. Yep, that’s right. Crying it’s healthy. It is bottling up feelings and putting emotional barriers that usually make people go mad.

Here are 10 reasons why crying is good for you:

1. It improves your mood. Crying is not a depressive thing. It is a self-soothing habit. When you cry, that helps you regulate your own feelings. You let go of all the tension that is accumulated in your body and you release yourself the negativity.

2. It releases your body from stress. When we’re stressed and we start crying, the tears that are produced in that state force our bodies to let go of the chemicals which increase the level of cortisol, the hormone responsible for stress. This process reduces tension. Additionally, it also activates the parasympathetic nervous system which helps us relax.

3. It destroys bacteria. Did you know that your tears contain lysozyme, a very special enzyme that kills any bacteria that is trying to enter our organism? Yes, that’s right. Lysozyme is capable of destroying 90 to 95 % of the bacteria around our eyes in less than 10 minutes.

4. It cleans your body from toxins. Just like urinating, sweating and exhaling help our body to clean itself from toxins, crying also helps us get rid of toxic substances that should not be a part of our body.

5. It increases your pain tolerance. Or in a nutshell, it alleviates the pain, regardless of whether it’s physical or emotional. While crying, our body releases oxytocin and endorphins, two important neurotransmitters that are responsible for our happiness. This helps us cope with the pain much easier.

6. It improves your eyesight. Can you believe that crying is also beneficial to your vision? Tears are made by the lacrimal gland and they clear up our vision by lubricating our eyelids and eyeballs. Shedding a few tears also prevents the dehydration of various mucous membranes.

7. It relaxes your body and helps you sleep better. Crying triggers the release of the two most important hormones that make us instantly feel much better. This process relaxes the body and helps it fall asleep much faster.

8. It helps you handle the grieving process much easier. The more we allow ourselves to feel whatever we are feeling inside, the faster we will heal. It is simple. Crying may seem like a dramatic habit, but it is the most important step to recovery. Accepting our feelings, no matter how irrational, is what matters the most.

9. It brings people closer. This one is a given. There is no doubt that crying in front of everyone increases intimacy. Feeling free to be vulnerable in front of another person shows that you have a strong connection with this person.

10. It shows emotional and mental strength. When we cry, we make the decision to acknowledge our feelings, regardless of how painful they are. We choose to face the issues head-on instead of repressing our emotions. We allow ourselves to grow emotionally and become more aware of our nature.

Enough Is Enough! I Am Done Giving Myself To Men Who Only Want Me When They’re Lonely

By
Stephanie Reeds

I’ve always believed in love. That is something that I’ve been raised to search for. That is why growing up I thought that falling in love and finding your destined person is one of the easiest things in life. But it wasn’t long before life introduced me to the bittersweet reality.

And so, I loved. I decided to share my unconditional love because that was the only way to truly experience the real thing. I loved purely, but I always ended up broken. I loved genuinely, but I was always disappointed. I loved with all of my heart, but I was always taken for granted.

For some reason, I was always the magnet for insecure, afraid men who didn’t know what they wanted from life. For some reason, I always picked the wrong men.

Men who had a thing for games. Men who loved playing hot and cold. Men who only wanted me when they couldn’t have me. Men who only called me when they needed someone to make them feel good about themselves. Men who made me think that I will never be enough for someone.

You are probably wondering how the hell was I so naïve to end up with those kinds of players. I did too. But now I see. For the first time, I see the whole picture clearly. I see how stupid I was for allowing these people to become a part of my life. I see how desperate I was for someone to touch me in a beautiful, meaningful way. I see everything and I forgive myself.

ENOUGH is enough.

I am done giving myself to men who only want me when they are lonely.

I am done allowing them to play with my emotions.

I am done lying to myself that they ever cared about me.

I am done justifying my stupid and harmful actions.

I am done trying to make people fall in love with me.

I am done loving people who are not capable of loving me the way I deserve to be loved.

I am done giving second chances to men who take me for granted.

I am done believing their empty promises.

I am done wasting my life on trying to fix them.

I am done hurting myself.

I have my whole life ahead of me and I don’t plan to waste it on people who are not worthy. I wasn’t born and brought on this Earth to be treated this way. I am not here for you to manipulate me and use me whenever you feel like it. I deserve more than your half-assed love. I deserve more than just one call on Saturday night. I deserve more than just “I don’t know”.

I deserve real love.

I am done giving myself to men who only want me when they feel lonely.

109-Year-Old Woman Says Avoiding Men Is The Secret To A Long Life

By
Elizabeth Williams

With 109 years of life, Jessie Gallan was officially the oldest woman in Scotland. Recently, she revealed the secret for longevity, which is surprisingly funny and simple.

Namely, if you want to live a long and healthy life, she recommends eating porridge for breakfast every day and, most importantly, start avoiding men.

That’s right. It turns out that the secret to long life has been hiding in men this whole time. Or, to be more precise, it has been hiding away from men.

“They’re just more trouble than they’re worth,” Gallan explains.

The 109-year-old has been independent her whole life. She has worked hard since she has been a teenager. Gallan has left her home when she has been only 13 and she had to earn for living alone. She continued working hard for her living her whole life and she never married.

 “I worked hard and seldom would I ever take a holiday,” Gallan says.

In the interview for Daily Mail she talks about her life before and after turning 100.

“She’s absolutely amazing,” a caregiver at Gallan’s nursing home said.

Unfortunately, Gallan passed away in Scotland soon after giving the interview.

9 Clear Signs You Care Too Much About Other People’s Opinions Of You

By
Riley Cooper

Do you often find yourself hesitating before you post a photo of yourself on your profile on Facebook since you worry about what others will say if you do? Or do you avoid wearing your hair in a certain way since you fear that your family, friends, or partner might criticize you?

Well, if you answered both questions with a yes, know that you’re not alone. In fact, you’d be surprised to know what a great number of people don’t live their lives the way they want because they worry too much about what others will think or say about that.

But, living your life worrying about other people’s opinions of you isn’t truly living, is it?

Remember: What others think of you doesn’t define who you are and it certainly doesn’t determine your worth. Therefore, if you happen to be someone who cares too much about other people’s opinions of you, give up that habit as soon as you can and start living your life fully and truly.

Here are 9 clear signs you care too much about other people’s opinions of you:

1. You put other people’s needs before your own.

And not only their needs, but their feelings, wishes, priorities, and problems as well. You put their happiness before your own.

What you need to understand is that when you live your life this way, you’re actually putting your health and happiness last on your list of priorities. And if you don’t take care of yourself and prioritize your own needs and problems over those of other people, you won’t be able to take care of and help those around you too.

2. You change your personality.

If you tend to change the way you look, your personality, and even your religious or political beliefs every time you’re in a crowd, know that by changing yourself into something only to fit into a social environment and make yourself more likable, you’re actually losing your true self in the process.

3. You’re always trying to please everyone around you.

Individuals who care too much about other people’s opinions of them generally spend a great amount of their time trying to please everyone around them.

But, the problem with this is that when you’re doing everything in your power to win everybody over, you’re actually choosing to prioritize other people’s opinions over your own. In this way, you’re allowing the opinions of others to compromise your truths.

4. You try to read other people’s minds.

One reason why people care too much about what others think of them is that they want to feel approved. They want others to like them and think highly of them. They feel such a strong need to know what other people think of them that they even try to read their minds when they’re around them.

5. You have no problem regularly telling white lies at all.

When you don’t feel that your ideas and opinions are accepted and approved of, you tend to tell others white lies. You do this because you think it’ll help you fit in with the crowd and be accepted. But, what you should know is that when you’re compromising your beliefs and values, you’re compromising your true self as well.

6. You have a hard time saying no.

It’s difficult for you to say no when others expect and want you to do things that you don’t want. But, what you should remember is that by always trying to meet everyone’s expectations and behaving in ways that are not in accordance with your own moral values and principles, you’re actually not living your truth.

7. You spend a long amount of time thinking about what you say.

There’s nothing wrong with being careful about the way you talk to others, but you’re doing this on a level which is not healthy at all. You stress yourself out thinking about what words to use when talking to others. You also spend a lot of time overanalyzing your conversations and worrying about whether you said the right thing.

8. You have trouble asking for other people’s help.

You tend to think that if you ask for someone’s help, they’ll immediately think that you’re a weak person. But, what you should remember is that asking for someone’s help is not a sign of weakness. Instead, it shows that you’re well aware of your weak sides and limitations and that you’re comfortable with who you are.

9. You feel like it’s your fault when things go wrong.

Even when you didn’t say or do anything bad, you feel like you’re the one to blame when things go wrong. You feel guilty and take responsibility for things that are not your fault. But, know that this kind of behavior can easily make others think that you enjoy being someone’s scapegoat – and this is something that you certainly wouldn’t want to happen.

Dog That Was Abandoned On Camera Beams With Happiness After Being Finally Adopted

By
Riley Cooper

Do you remember Snoop, the dog that was dumped by his owner on the side of the road in England in the middle of the night, and the whole thing was caught on a surveillance camera?

The heartbreaking footage showed a man taking the Staffordshire bull terrier out of his car and dumping him on the side of the road in the dark.  

After letting go of the dog’s leash, the man immediately ran back to his car. Not knowing what was going on, the poor puppy ran after the man and tried to get into the car as well. But, as his owners quickly drove away, the dog started running after them, looking so confused that he was being left all alone in the dark.

Luckily, a few hours later, someone found the poor puppy sleeping by the road and contacted the RSPCA, which immediately came to pick up the dog. The RSPCA posted the video of Snoop’s abandonment in the hope that someone would recognize the dog’s owner.

The heartbreaking video has touched the hearts of thousands of people and since it went viral, the RSCPA staff have received many applications from people who wanted to adopt the dog.

Fortunately, after going through so much, Snoop finally has a reason to be happy again – he’s been adopted. His new owner, Laurence Squire, feels really lucky that he’s now this lovely pup’s new dad. He said:

“One evening I was watching the news when Snoop’s story came on. What happened to him was shocking, and it was clear from the footage — in the way that he tried to get back into the car — that he was a loyal dog.”

And that’s not all – Rachel Butler, a spokesperson of the RSPCA, informed the public that Snoop appeared very comfortable, calm, and settled in his new home when she last visited them.

Snoop is now receiving the attention, care, and love that his previous owner deprived him of. He’s playing and running around energetically. He’s enjoying life with his new caring and loving dad who enjoys seeing him beaming with happiness.

Dog Accidentally Farts While Sleeping And The Cat’s Reaction Is The Most Hilarious Moment

By
Stephanie Reeds

We all know that cats and dogs have a struggle coexisting. It’s been that way since forever. There might be a few exceptions of cats and dogs getting along nicely, but in most cases, they are known to be sworn enemies.

We’ve seen a lot of videos in which the cat is always responsible for the drama. However, believe it or not, there are rare cases in which the cats are actually the victims.

One owner wanted to get to the bottom of this, so he installed a camera and filmed his pets. But what started out as a usual video to see which one of the two rascals is the one to blame for all the drama ended up as the most hilarious clip ever.

The video starts with the cat and the dog peacefully laying next to each other. The dog seems to be enjoying his sleep and then all of a sudden, something funny happens. As the dog is sleeping, he accidentally farts but surprisingly, he doesn’t wake up.

This immediately disturbs the cat. She seems as if she is trying to ignore the whole thing, but then after a few moments, she gives the dog one evil look. And then just when you think that she will contain herself, the poor, annoyed cat lashes out, smacks the sleeping dog on his head and she rudely wakes him up from his sleep.

We are not sure whether this is a real video, or the owner just did a nice job editing this clip, but still, you have to admit that this is a truly hilarious moment.

Whatever happened between those two, we just hope the dog learned his lesson.

Don’t forget to make someone laugh today by sharing this article with them!

 

10 Things You’ve Started Doing Because You Are Hurting And You’re Desperately Trying To Hide It

By
Stephanie Reeds

You have sadness in your eyes, yet you choose to hide it with your surprisingly radiant smile. You have sorrow in your soul, yet you somehow choose to shine with your heart.

You are strong. You’ve been through hell, but somehow you are holding on just fine. I have no idea where you get your strength from, but I just want you to know that it is fine to break down if you feel like it.

I know that you’d never show your weakness, but still. I need you to understand that there is nothing wrong with being vulnerable. You are a human being with a beating heart between your chest. Don’t be afraid to allow yourself to feel whatever it is that you are going through.

Here are 10 signs that you are hurting but you are desperately trying to hide that from everyone:

1. You try to be as busy as you can. Whether it is work or a new hobby, you always do your best to stay distracted from your pain.

2. You gladly focus on solving other people’s problems than your own. You avoid getting into your personal issues, because every time you do it, it gets very messy. As a result, instead of solving your own problems, you gladly solve other people’s issues. You know that this is not helping you, but you are too afraid to face your demons.

3. You drown yourself in music. Your music is your safe place. There are a few songs that you can relate to and listening to them sets your mind free. It almost feels like the author knows exactly what you are going through. That is your only escape.  

4. You avoid having eye contact with certain people. Those are the ones who know exactly how your heart beats. Those are the ones who can see through your soul and feel the pain inside of you.

5. You barely say no to people. You are always available to hang out with people or lend them a helping hand. Your answer is always yes. The more you do other stuff, the less you will have to think about your problems.

6. You are not honest when people ask you how you are feeling. You are always smiling and saying that you are fine. But deep down you are not. The smile on your face may convince everyone that you are happy, but that doesn’t change the fact that your heart is full of sorrow.

7. You fall apart every time you are on your own. That is when all the masks fall down. That is when your shield is down. That is when you are the real you. And that is the only moment when you can truly be yourself.

8. You are constantly overthinking everything. Even though you know that dwelling on the past and regretting your choice won’t change a thing, you still do it. Your mind is full of harmful thoughts and you can’t seem to stop them.

9. You indulge in vices to get your mind off your pain. You go out, drink until you no longer feel a thing. You go to bed in the morning. You get up late at night. You are basically trying everything that will help you get your mind off your pain.

This is no way to help yourself. You are only repressing your emotions.

10. You think making jokes on your account in front of others will alleviate your pain. And it seems like it really does the trick. But most of the time you end up even more depressed. That is because you are not working on yourself.

10 Horrible Ways A Toxic Relationship Can Impact Your Life And Scar You Forever

By
Stephanie Reeds

As we go through life, we meet a lot of different people. Some of them kind and loving human beings and some of them manipulative and toxic individuals hidden behind their fake smile.

And somewhere down the line, we fall for them. We fall for their nice gestures, kind words, sweet kisses, and bright smiles. We fall for them thinking that they are the right ones for us. But it is only after we’ve fallen deeply in love with them that we finally see their real face.

Whatever it is that you are going through, just remember. Recognizing that you are in a toxic relationship is the first step towards freedom.

Not being able to see the mess you are in may cost you your life. These are 1o signs that a toxic relationship is destroying your life:

1. Your sense of self is slowly fading away. Your self-esteem is decreasing and as days pass you by, you feel like you have no voice. It almost feels like they are taking away your freedom. You no longer feel powerful enough to stand up for your rights and defend yourself.

2. You are scared about your future. You may have loved this person but now your relationship is making you feel afraid for yourself. It is clear that the whole thing has taken a wrong turn. And you are not sure that you can handle it on your own.

 

3. You feel isolated from everyone you love. You no longer share the same connection with the people you love. As time passes by, you feel more and more isolated. It is most likely that your partner has already ruined everything for you and did everything they could to take you away from everyone you love.

4. You catch yourself behaving rudely to people who don’t deserve that treatment. You are so full of anxiety and anger that you cannot contain yourself before other people. As a result, you often find yourself lashing out on people for no reason.

5. You are constantly exhausted. You feel like you are losing control over everything. You are not only physically exhausted; you are also mentally drained. There is no energy left in that soul of yours.

6. You don’t want to share your opinion on any subject. Every suggestion you make is often discarded by them. Every opinion you have is usually ignored. So, as a result, you’ve gotten used to staying quiet. This a major red flag that just shows how toxic your surrounding is. You mustn’t ignore it.

7. You begin to question your sanity. After so much time spent with that person, you slowly start to lose your mind. You no longer know whether you are right, or you are wrong. In your mind, you are always the one responsible for every issue. Just remember, that is exactly what they want you to think.

8. You begin to lie to yourself and what’s worse, you are aware of it. You actually convince yourself that things might get better when deep down you know that you must find a way to get out of this relationship.

9. You have no control over your finances. It is not enough that they possess both your body and your soul, but they also possess your material belongings. It’s like you suddenly have no say in anything. They use your source of income to control your life.

10. You look in the mirror, but you cannot recognize the person you’ve become. It’s the final straw. You no longer know who you are. You are trying to get back on your feet, but they keep pushing you down. You feel like you no longer have the strength to fight.

There is a way out of this. It is up to you whether you will search for the exit, or you will stay trapped forever.

Can You Spot The Missing Number? Some People Need More Than 20 Seconds To See It

By
Stephanie Reeds

We think we are smart enough but sometimes our brains outsmart us. This is usually the case when we look at large groups of numbers. Naturally, we assume that if the numbers are in series, they must be in consecutive order. And that is exactly why we make the mistake!

Want to test your eyes and your brains?

Here’s a riddle for you.

Are you paying attention? Okay, fine. Now, which number is missing from the below series?

Did you see it? I bet it was much much harder than you actually thought. If you ask me, I needed less than 5 seconds to spot the missing number. Are you still looking?

Okay, stop. Here’s the solution:

Hey, hey I know that you are proud of finding that missing number in less than a few seconds, but did your brain stopped working after that? 

Here’s another one!

Don’t forget to share this riddle with your friends.

What It’s Like To Be A Cold-Hearted Person With A Soft, Sensitive Soul

By
Riley Cooper

No matter how contradictory the phrase a cold-hearted person with a soft, sensitive soul may sound to you, the truth is that many people who outwardly appear unemotional and distant have a soft, vulnerable nature.

Having a sensitive nature doesn’t necessarily mean that it should be expressed with emotional breakdowns and tears. Some people simply prefer to bottle things up and keep their emotions to themselves instead of dealing with emotional or angry outbursts and creating drama.

Unfortunately, since these people outwardly appear cold, others perceive them as unfriendly, insensitive, and even rude when in reality, all they truly want is to protect themselves from feeling stressed out and stay emotionally strong. And this is something that’s not easy to do at all.

Here’s what it’s like to be a cold-hearted person with a soft, sensitive soul:

1. You can’t stand to be seen being vulnerable and emotional.

You tend to consider strong, negative emotions as a sign of weakness. Therefore, you don’t like to show your vulnerable, sensitive self even to your family, close friends, and partner. No matter how worried, angry, or sad you feel, you do everything in your power to hide your emotions and appear calm and relaxed in all situations.

2. Sometimes you want to express how you feel, but you can’t.

Sometimes you truly want your friends and family to know how you feel and how much you love and care about them, but you can’t express your feelings. It’s like there’s some invisible force that’s preventing you from showing your feelings and being tender towards your loved ones.

3. You’re very vulnerable, but no one knows that.

A little, silly argument with a friend or co-worker or a critical comment from your parents can ruin your mood for the entire day. Fights, criticism, and all types of intense, negative conversations unsettle you and stress you out.

But, people around you are unaware of how you’re feeling. They don’t know that you can get disappointed about a petty thing and overthink it all day long.

4. Other people think you’re insensitive and heartless.

Others perceive you as a heartless person since you rarely express your emotions. People think you don’t care at all about the way others feel and their problems or pain.

It’s easy for people to judge your character based on your appearance, but little do they know that there’s a soft, tender soul behind that façade of insensitivity and detachment.

5. You avoid making a lot of friendships.

You’d rather have one real friend than a bunch of fake ones. You generally find only one person, okay maybe two, that you feel like you can actually be vulnerable and emotional around. When you’re in the company of this person, you feel comfortable showing them your feelings and sharing with them your worries and problems. And it’s usually these people who get to see your soft, sensitive, sweet side.

6. Sometimes people think you’re introverted.

Since you tend to be private about your emotions, others sometimes think you’re timid, introverted, or not interested in making friendships and hanging out with other people.

But, just because you don’t like goofing around and mingling with huge crowds, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re introverted. It just means you’re extremely careful about who you choose to spend your time with.

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