What is meaning of fragile heart?

When you lose a woman with a fragile heart, you lose the most precious gem that is rare to find and everyone wants to have. You lose someone who is not afraid to wear her heart on her sleeve. You lose someone who is irreplaceable. 

But, you didn’t know how to love and appreciate her. She gave you her heart and you took it and broke it into thousands of pieces. You let her slip through your fingers.

And now, she’s no longer a part of your life, and you regret treating her the way you did. But, it’s too late.

This woman gave you many chances and you managed to blow all of them. Now, she’s gone. Now she’s with another man who is perfectly well aware of her worth. A man who makes her his choice and fights for her every single day.

Now that you have lost her, you realize what an amazing person you had in your life.

Now you realize that when you lose a woman with a fragile heart:

1. You lose true, once-in-a-lifetime love.

When you let a woman with a soft heart slip through your fingers, you lose someone who wears her heart on her sleeve. Someone who is not afraid to love and be loved. Someone who loves with every part of her being. Someone who loves honestly. Deeply. Passionately. Unconditionally.

You lose a woman who is willing to do anything to make her man happy.

2. You lose your best friend.

You lose the only opportunity to have the best friend you could ever have. You lose your greatest support and help. You lose someone who will stay by your side through thick and thin. Someone whom you can pour your heart out to.

You lose someone who will do her best to help you overcome your problems and face your deepest fears and insecurities. Someone who lifts you up when you’re down. Someone who tells you the truth even when everyone else would lie to you.

You lose someone who sees, accepts, and cherishes you the way you are.

3. You lose someone who knows your worth.

You lose someone who believes in your abilities and strength. Someone who encourages you to set high goals and chase your wildest dreams because she knows you can achieve anything you set your mind to.

You lose someone who will stay by your side on your bad days. Someone who will stay by your side when you fail or get cranky and anxious, and even when everyone else losses their faith in you.

You lose someone who knows you’re smart and capable and who always looks for the good in you. You lose someone who believes in you.

4. You lose someone who is not afraid to sacrifice for you.

When you lose a woman with a fragile heart, you lose someone who won’t hesitate to sacrifice her temporary needs, wishes, and even happiness if need be for you. You lose someone who  would say something stupid so as to take the attention off you when you find yourself in an embarrassing situation.

You lose someone who puts you on the top on her list of priorities. Someone who won’t hesitate to put her feelings, needs, desires, and problems aside so as to take care of yours and help you when you’re going through tough times.

You lose someone who will walk through fire and fight against every evil in the world just to make you happy and show how much you mean to her.

5. You lose someone who makes you a better version of yourself.

You lose someone who offers you new perspectives of the world. Someone who intellectually challenges you and inspires you to read about things you’ve never even thought about before, visit places you’ve never been before, and gain experiences that make your life meaningful and exciting.

You lose someone who inspires you to work on and improve yourself.  Someone who motivates you to find the strength and courage within yourself to face every obstacle and problem life sends your way. Someone who encourages you to achieve your goals even when you aren’t sure yourself you can do that.

You lose someone who reminds you of your worth every single day and who would never let you give up on yourself.

6. You lose a chance to be happy.

When you lose a woman with a fragile heart, you blow your chance to be happy. You ruin the chance to stand on the other end of the aisle while the most beautiful thing that could’ve ever happened to you is approaching you in a beautiful white dress.

When you lose this kind of woman, you lose the chance to wake up with a smile on your face every morning and go to bed feeling like you’re the most loved person in the world. When you lose her, you feel lost and empty.

When you lose this woman, you lose someone who makes you feel whole and fulfilled.

You lose someone who makes your life meaningful and complete.

A woman who is madly in love would do everything for the people in her life. Believe me when I say this. I’m speaking from my own personal experience and the experiences that other women have shared with me.

A woman who loves from the very bottom of her heart is ready to sacrifice everything for those few, special human beings in her life.

But, keep this in mind. Once a woman realizes she’s being taken for granted, you’ll regret every action of yours that made her feel that way. When she’s finally done with you, there’ll be nothing left for you to do except to accept the bitter reality.

We all have boundaries, you know.

You probably thought that if everyone else has already put up with your bullsh*t, she could do it too. Well, news flash pal.

This woman is not like anyone you’ve met.

This woman is not one of your casual flings, nor one of your one-night stands. You have to respect her and treat her with dignity. She will treat you the same way you treat her. No more, no less.

So, if she decided that it’s time for her to leave, that probably means that she’s truly had enough of your games. It means that she’s strong enough to overcome the pain of abandoning you. It means that she’s actually much stronger than you think.

It means that she would never let someone hold her back. It means that she would never choose to be with a man who takes her for granted. She would never condemn herself to a life she despises.

If you’ve already done everything you could to make her feel this way, I have to tell you, there’s no turning back. It doesn’t matter if you regret your actions, because she will never ever change her mind after this. It doesn’t even matter if you apologize, because it’s too late for that now.

She will never be the one to come back for more.

Her heart will ache, her soul will weep, her body will struggle, but she will never put your happiness before her own. Not in a million years.

If you think there will be a second chance for you, you are terribly wrong, my friend. She knows her worth, she respects her boundaries and she knows just how much she’s willing to put up with. You crossed her line. You invaded her boundaries. And so, she left. For good.

 So, let this be just another warning sign for you.

This world is hard enough as it is. Don’t make it a living hell for some people. Be responsible for your actions and be considerate of other people’s feelings.

Because there won’t always be tomorrow. There won’t always be second chances.

A relationship is a two-way street. You cannot expect it to thrive and grow if one of the partners doesn’t bother to put in their best effort.

So, if you’re willing to make it work, and if you’re inclined to hold their hand in sickness and health, to stay by their side for richer or for poorer, you have to be aware that it is going to take time and a lot of effort.

It won’t always be smooth sailing for you, but one thing I can promise you is that it will all be worth it.

Here are 10 things you need to do if you want your relationship to last forever:

1. FORGIVE

Try to understand the reasons for their mistakes and find a way to forgive them. Let go of the pain that is eating up your soul.

2. FORGET

Holding a grudge is like eating a poisoned apple and waiting for the other person to die. If you’ve decided to forgive, the next step is to forget. Release yourself from the negativity, but, don’t forget to learn the lesson.

3. BE A FAIR TEAMMATE

Life is hard. True empathy and honest generosity are the only things that will help you persevere and overcome life’s challenges. Be a good and fair teammate.

4. GROW

Never stop following your wildest dreams. No matter how crazy their sound. Oh, and never ever resist change. It is the only way you’ll ever grow.

5. RESPECT EACH OTHER

Be kind and considerate to one another and respect your boundaries, opinions, beliefs and preferences. Celebrate your differences.

6. SURPRISE ONE ANOTHER

Never stop surprising one another. It’s the little things in life that put a smile on our faces. Whether it’s a movie ticket, a nice home-cooked dinner, a bottle of wine, a fresh bouget, don’t hesitate to search for ways to surprise your loved one.

7. ADMIT WHEN YOU’RE WRONG

Don’t be a self-centered douchebag. Learn to say I’m sorry when it’s your fault.

8. CELEBRATE YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS

Whether your boss have you a promotion, or you just successfully canceled other plans, so you can be with your partner, always search for reasons to celebrate your accomplishments!

9. FOCUS ON THOSE SMALL THINGS

Plan a movie night, cook for your lover, hold the door for them, surprise them with a breakfast in bed, pay attention to what they’re saying.

10. AVOID THE BAD LITTLE THINGS

Get rid of your nasty habits, stop picking your nose at the table, change your smelly socks, stop spitting, be respectful.

11. WORK ON YOURSELF

Cultivating your qualities and working on yourself should never stop, even after you’ve entered a serious relationship. Never forget who you are and what you strive for in life.

12. ENCOURAGE EACH OTHER

Your relationship should be the place where you can feel free to share every fear and insecurity you have. Share your problems, be an active listener, and never stop encouraging each other.

13. TALK ABOUT SEX

If something doesn’t feel right in that particular department, don’t be afraid to talk about it with your partner.  Sex is a very important part of life. Your relationship will never grow if you make it a taboo topic.

14. TALK ABOUT EVERYTHING THAT SCARES YOU

Be brave to open up and talk to your partner about everything that keeps you awake at night. Whether it’s childhood traumas, insecurities, painful mistakes, unresolved issues, talking about it will help you much more than keeping it hidden.

15. HAVE YOUR OWN PERSONAL SPACE

Respect each other’s personal space and your own separate lives. What you do in your alone time shouldn’t always be shared with other people.

16. DON’T CRITICIZE

Stop blaming your partner for everything and stop criticizing their behavior. Anyone can do that. Try finding an optimal solution for a change.

17. COMPLIMENT EACH OTHER

Do it often. But, most importantly do it sincerely, from the heart. Everyone wants to hear a few nice words every once in a while.

18. KNOW WHEN TO SPEAK AND WHEN TO KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT

Know when it is expected of you to share an opinion, but more importantly, know when you need to keep your mouth shut.

19. GET RID OF THE DOUBLE STANDARDS

Relationship rules should be equally respected by the partners in the relationship. If a rule doesn’t apply to a man, then it is clear that it shouldn’t be applied to a woman as well.

20. TAKE CARE OF YOUR APPEARANCE

Being married or in a long relationship shouldn’t give you the idea that you can spend the rest of your life in greasy sweat pants and pajamas. Learn to take care of your own style.

21. MAINTAIN GOOD HYGIENE

Is your breath so stinky that it could literally put a person in a coma? Be aware of these things and maintain a good hygiene. No one wants to see your dirty, big toenail, or your hairy chest. Take good care of it.

22. DON’T THROW THINGS AWAY WITHOUT ASKING

Don’t you dare throw that broken vase away without asking. I will get to it as soon as I find the time. I’m dead serious.

23. BE SELF-SUFFICIENT

Learn to take care of yourself even if they’re not around to help you. Stop treating your partner as your personal butler. Cook yourself food. Unclog the toilet. Buy groceries. Wash the dishes. Take the dog for a walk. Be a responsible human being.

24. HAVE GOOD MANNERS

Don’t be an arrogant, insufferable prick. Be kind. Help your partner. Open the door. Be present. Listen to what they have to say.

25. LEARN TO BE MUCH MORE RESPONSIBLE WITH YOUR FINANCES

Your hard-earned money is your source of existence. Manage them wisely.

26. ADAPT

Regardless of where you are, or what you’re plans are, have in mind that if you stagnate, the other person shouldn’t follow the same way. So, don’t resist their transformation. Don’t discourage them from following their own path. Learn to adapt.

27. MAINTAIN EQUALITY

You are equal human beings, regardless of how much money you make, how successful you are or how many friends you have or how many cars you own.

28. RESPECT EACH OTHER’S FRIENDS

Even if they’re annoying as hell. Find a way to be around them without engaging in a never-ending debate that will eventually end up with a fight.

29. LISTEN TO WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY

Be present. Be their support. Listen actively to everything your partner has to say and then try to find a reasonable solution for their problem.

30. STOP ROMANTICIZING PAST RELATIONSHIPS

No one wants to listen to you over-romanticizing your old relationships, and especially not your current partner. Trust me. You will be misunderstood.

Have you ever fallen for a man who never intended to catch you? Have you ever given your heart to a man who acted like he couldn’t care less about it?

Have you ever prioritized a man who treated you like a girlfriend of convenience? Have you ever loved a man so deeply, fiercely, and unconditionally that you lost yourself to him?

Well, if you have, then you know how deeply this can hurt. You know how being in a relationship with this kind of man can make you doubt your self-worth and rack your brains wondering why he doesn’t love you the way you love him.

You know how being with this kind of person can make you feel betrayed, humiliated, and desperate. But most importantly, you know how an experience like this can leave deep scars on your heart and mind.

The truth is that this guy took advantage of all the love you were showering him with. He took advantage of your kindness.

But let me tell you something: You don’t deserve to be in one-sided relationships. You don’t deserve to suffer from unrequited love.

You are better than that.

Don’t be someone’s option.

Don’t let them consume your energy and love. Don’t allow yourself to think about why they’re not responding to your calls and messages. Don’t allow yourself to worry about where they might  be when they don’t come home to you.

Don’t allow yourself to fall in love with a man who doesn’t care about you.

A man who always has more important things to do than be with you.

Don’t allow yourself to be there for a man who is only good to you when he needs something from you. When he needs you to make him feel good about himself. When he needs your help to deal with his insecurities and fragile ego. When he needs to have fun.

You don’t deserve to be with a man who only comes to you when he feels lonely. Instead, you deserve a man who will enjoy spending every moment with you and who will terribly miss you when you’re not around.

You deserve a man who is going to stay by your side on your bad days. A man who will be there for you when times get rough for you. A man who will hold your hand and tell you: “Don’t worry, honey, everything will be all right. I’m with you.”

You deserve a man who will know what to say when you feel sad and disappointed to make you laugh and cheer you up.

You deserve a man who will make your heart skip a beat and make you feel warm on the inside. A man who won’t forget to ask you how your day went. A man who will tell you to call him when you get home because he wants to know you’re safe.

You deserve a man who is going to give you all of himself and enjoy waking up next to you in the morning.

You deserve a man who won’t leave you to deal with your problems on your own. A man who will do his best to help you overcome your deepest fears and insecurities. A man whose main priority will be to make you happy every single day.

You deserve a man who won’t try to fix you or lose his temper when your anxious thoughts, faults, quirks, and annoying habits come to the surface. Instead, he’ll be supportive and patient with you.

You deserve a man who is going to support you and tell you he believes in you when you talk to him about the highest goals and wildest dreams you want to fulfill.

You’re not an option.

You’re not a second choice. You’re not a pastime.

You’re an amazing, kind-hearted woman and you deserve a man who will be aware of and appreciate that.

You’re not “too emotional,” or “clingy,” or “needy.” You don’t love too much – you love in unique ways. You love hard. Honestly. Deeply. Passionately. Wholeheartedly.

You don’t need to change anything about yourself to make someone like you. Because the person who knows who you really are will love you even more.

You’re perfect just the way you are.

So, don’t allow yourself to fight for a man who is not willing to put even the slightest effort in the relationship.

Don’t allow yourself to waste your time and energy on a man who doesn’t deserve a bit of your attention. Because you can love and care about someone so much, but if they always play hot and cold and treat you like an option, then it means it’s time for you to let go of them.

Since holding on to them is preventing yourself from finding someone who will know how to love and cherish you the way you deserve.

Someone who will love you with the same intensity and passion as you do. Someone who will make you feel like you’re the most loved, appreciated, and important person in the world. Someone who will go out of his way to make you feel safe and protected. Someone who will make you feel special every single day.

You deserve a man who will be aware of your worth and put you on the top of his list of priorities. A man who will be ready to catch you when you fall for him.

A woman like this has been through hell and back. She was a victim of mental, emotional, and physical abuse. Her world was wrapped in nothing else but fear, sadness, tears, and darkness.

That’s why this kind of woman deserves a man who will know how to love and take care of her. A man who will always be there for her. A man who will prove his love, respect, and loyalty to her every single day.

She deserves a man who will fight for her and not with her.

This woman has been through the worst and it’ll take her a while before she is able to trust and love again.

So if you’re feeling like you’re falling in love with a woman who has experienced domestic violence and want to date her, know that there are some things you should know so as to build and maintain a healthy, meaningful, successful relationship.

First of all, physical contact is hard for her.

She was with a partner who was physically violent and who made her suffer a lot. She was with a monster of a partner who neither saw nor treated her like a human being. He abused her in any way you can imagine – physically, mentally, and emotionally. With every hurtful word he said to her and every degrading thing he did to her, he made her feel unworthy and week.

That’s why it’ll take her more time before she starts feeling comfortable to let you touch her. It’s not that she doesn’t want you to hug and kiss her, but she wants to feel that when she’s ready.

So, don’t rush things, but be patient with her. Give her as much time and space as she needs so as to start to trust you and feel comfortable with you.

She feels empty.

Although she escaped the abusive relationship, she still feels lost and finds it hard to trust anyone. That’s why she needs a man who will make her feel safe and protected. A man whom she’ll know she can always rely on for his help and support. A man who will make her feel free and comfortable to talk to him about the awful things she went through. 

She needs to know that you won’t let her fight her battles alone. She needs to be sure that you’ll be more than willing to help her overcome all her insecurities and fears. That you’ll do your best to help her heal her wounds and pick up the broken pieces of her heart.

She needs you to be patient with her.

Only the person who has experienced domestic violence knows how it feels when the person you love and trust the most hits you and humiliates you in every possible way. She understands that you want to know everything that happened to her, but she also needs time to open her heart to you.

Don’t doubt she’ll share with you the bad, humiliating, embarrassing things that her ex did to her, but she’ll do that when she feels ready. And until that happens, don’t force her to tell you anything. Instead, be supportive and patient with her.

She needs you to support her.

This woman wasn’t guilty of anything that happened to her. Yet, this doesn’t mean that you should see and treat her like a victim. In fact, this is something she’d hate the most.

What she needs and wants from you is to see her as a normal person. She needs to know you believe in her strength. She wants to hear from your lips that she’s strong, brave, smart, and beautiful. She needs to know that you’re aware of and embrace all her imperfections. That you accept and love her just the way she is.

This woman needs to know that you won’t lose your temper and take out your anger on her when she gets emotional and the memories of her past start flooding back to her. She needs to know that you’ll always be gentle, kind, compassionate, and full of understanding of her condition.

This woman needs to know that you’ll never betray her trust and hurt her feelings. And most importantly, she needs to feel that you love her truly, deeply, and unconditionally.

She can’t escape her past.

No matter how hard she tries to forget about the hell she went through, she can’t. Her painful past engraved itself deep down in her soul and it affects her in all parts of  her life.

Instead of being showered with love and attention like she deserves, she was showered with insults and bitter reproaches. She had to endure such awful things that no person ever should.

She deserves the best and she knows it.

This woman knows the best what it feels like to touch the bottom and lose the purpose of life. Yet, her awful past was just a lesson she had to learn the hard way. A lesson that taught her how to love and appreciate herself. 

All the bad things her ex put her through have made the person she is today. Today, she’s stronger, braver, and more resilient than ever.

She’s found the purpose of her life and she’s able to smile again. She’s surrounded by people who make her feel happy and fulfilled. Today, she’s able to find meaning and joy in everything that surrounds her.

Today, she’s more than ever aware of her worth and knows how she deserves to be treated: with lot of kindness, compassion, dignity, and love. And she’ll never ever settle for anything less than that.

So, if you truly love and care about her, make sure you’re the person she’s always wanted and deserved to be with.

I’m sick and tired of living in a society that doesn’t know how to express a pure emotion.

We all deserve to experience the feeling of true love. We all deserve to be loved, you know?

Every single one of us deserves to feel wanted, respected, needed and treasured.

We all deserve to find that special person in life and give ourselves completely. We deserve to feel free to open our hearts to the possibility of love, instead of feeling terrified that some inconsiderate asshole might break our heart into million pieces and leave us hopeless.

We all deserve love as soft as rose petals, but at the same time as strong as steel.

We all deserve someone who will think of us. All day, every day… Until eternity.

We all deserve to be in the arms of a person who will hold us and caress our head while we’re at our most vulnerable state. Someone who will hug us and kiss our forehead until we fall asleep. Someone who will look at us while we sleep and feel at peace by simply laying next to us.

We all deserve to be loved with all intensity, and we all deserve to experience love through all its glorious dimensions.

We all deserve to know how others truly feel about us. None of those ‘modern-dating’, ‘hard-to-get’ games people are playing these days.

We all deserve to be with someone who will challenge us and help us overcome the dangerous obstacles along the way. 

We all deserve a person who will stand right next to us, hold our hand and fight against everything that terrifies and threatens us.

We all deserve someone who will be brave for us when we don’t have the strength to pick ourselves up and move on. Someone who will find all the missing pieces of our heart, glue them up together and make us believe in love once again.

We all deserve the kind of love that will welcome all our emotional baggage, help us with the heavy load, alleviate us and grow us the pair of wings we desperately needed. We all deserve the kind of love that will push us forward, not put us down.

We all deserve that stupid, crazy, magical, mad, passionate, wild, all-consuming, deep, ‘they-give-me-butterflies kind of love. We deserve to be happy. And we deserve to be with someone who will make us feel special. Like maybe we’re magic.

We all deserve a person’s full attention. We all deserve someone who will really see our true beauty inside our hearts and accept us for who we are. Someone who will make us their first choice. Their best bud. Their family. Their soulmate. Their whole world. Their future. Their eternity.

We all deserve to experience this kind of love.

So, please… don’t ever give up until you find it.