When exactly is the best time to introduce a regular skin care routine into your life is a question without any particular right answer. In some Asian cultures it begins in the late teenage years, while in the west we tend to wait until our skin starts to show signs of wear and tear before making a serious commitment to taking care of it in a more organised way.
Either way, whatever stage of life you are in it’s pretty easy to develop a simple skin care routine using only the products you actually need. Here’s how:
Limit your skincare routine to a maximum of five products. More than that means you are adding extra work which is unlikely to be necessary, and if you are busy could lead to you skipping the entire idea. You can always expand things later when you are into the habit of devoting some time to yourself twice a day.
Go for sample, small or even travel sized products where possible so you can be sure they suit your skin before you spend cash on larger sized options.
Commit to cleansing your face twice a day, in the morning and in the evening before you go to bed (at the latest). Choose a gentle cleanser rather than an exfoliating product. If you prefer the feeling of water on your skin there are some excellent foaming cleansers which are applied to damp skin and rinsed off with warm water, before gently patting your face dry.
In the evening, if relevant to you remove makeup with products designed especially for the job. (This may mean using one for eye makeup and another for face makeup), before cleansing as usual.
After cleansing use an alcohol-free toner to tighten pores and leave your skin feeling fresh.
If you are concerned about fine lines or have dry patches apply a serum labelled as containing antioxidants to those areas, otherwise skip this stage.
Moisturiser is the essential third step of a basic skin care routine. If possible look for a gentle product with an SPF of 30+, which will help protect your delicate skin against both UVB and UVA rays.
Older skin benefits from a heavier cream designed as especially for use at night – and labelled as such.
When you have settled into a good routine it’s worth adding in weekly extras such as a face mask or an exfoliating face wash, plus daily evening use of eye cream if the skin around that area is dull, puffy or tired looking.
A final tip: If you prefer to use cloths for cleansing over cotton balls remember to use a clean one each time to avoid exposing your skin to bacteria. Also, pay attention to where your skincare products are stored – keeping them out of direct sunlight is always a good idea. In terms of good hygiene practice liquid products are generally a better bet than thicker products which are sold in tubs, unless you remember not to take the product from the tub directly with your fingers.
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Let’s be real. We all know that special someone who immediately brightens up the room as soon as they leave. Whether it’s a friend, a family member, a colleague or a random person we just met, we’ve all dealt with a toxic person.
They are inconsiderate of other people’s feelings and they are known as the masters of manipulation. These people are really hard to deal with. Unfortunately, not all of us know how to successfully avoid them and deal with them.
So, that’s why I decided to reflect on my experience and the experiences of the people I know and gather up some important pieces of information that will eventually help you spot a toxic person and deal with them effectively:
1. DRAMA IS THEIR MIDDLE NAME
There’s always something wrong with them. Whether it’s some crisis, a problem or some trivial issue, the drama is an inevitable part of their lives. And when you try to help them and offer them a word of advice, they shoot you down and let you know that they’d rather die than accept your help.
2. THEY HAVE A LOT TO SAY, BUT NEVER LISTEN TO OTHERS
Toxic people are the most egocentric human beings. They are convinced that the whole world revolves around them. As a result, they usually have a lot to say, but they never bother to listen. Their whole time and energy must be focused on the most important person in the room – themselves.
3. THEY LIKE TO CONTROL EVERYTHING
Considering that they’re self-absorbed creatures who don’t care about what other’s feel and need, they don’t really hesitate before they make the initial move and grab the things they want. They would walk all over people if they have to, but they will never give up on their goals.
4. THEY ARE JUDGEMENTAL
Their personal experiences dictate how everyone should live and behave. They judge people based on their preferences, their choices, and their looks. They don’t look past the exterior. They don’t bother to read the book and then express their opinion. They would rather judge it by its cover.
5. THEY HAVE NO RESPECT OF YOUR TIME
They have no understanding of your schedule or your life. They enjoy wasting your time, sucking up your energy without giving anything back in return. Toxic people only value their own time, but not that of anyone else in their lives.
6. THEY DISGUISE THEIR NASTY COMMENTS AS HONESTY
Yes, they will admit that they made a harsh comment on your account, but they will never apologize for it. In case you didn’t know, these people are the masters for disguising their lack of common courtesy as honesty. They never attack, they’re just being honest.
7. THEY GOSSIP
The most fulfilling activity for this people is gossiping. They love to talk behind other people’s backs. In other words, it’s more like their hobby. They lift themselves up, building up their own ego and self-esteem by putting everyone else down.
8. THEY ARE ALWAYS RIGHT
Oh, don’t tell me you didn’t know? Toxic people are always right. You can try to win the argument and prove them wrong, but it will be in vain. It doesn’t matter how right you are. Even if you point their face to the sky in an attempt to prove them it’s blue, they will always say it’s pink.
However, after everything’s said and done, the most important thing is how to deal with these people.
Because, regardless of their toxic behavior, these people are still human. Some of them are hurting, and sadly, toxicity is their only way out of the madness.
I’ve always said that everything starts from us and the way we perceive the world around us.
The deeper your present moment peace gets, the easier it will be for you to react non-passionately when confronted with hostility. The more you immune you become, the more you’ll begin to realize just how much someone has to be suffering internally in order to have such harsh reactions.
Therefore, with every insight you gain, you will be more compassionate, and you’ll develop the needed empathy to somehow understand and help these troubled souls.
In the end, it’s hard to continue treating someone harshly when they continue treating you well.
If you’re going to love, love truly. Show the person you’re with that you care about them. Look at their eyes. Hug them warmly and kiss them passionately. Tell them “I love you,” but also prove that you really mean it.
Love them unselfishly and honestly. Love them deeply and unconditionally. Make them feel like they’re the most loved and appreciated person in the world.
If you’re going to love, love like there’s no tomorrow. Love like there’s no tonight, like there’s no next week. Love them like this day is all you have. Love them like they’re the best thing that has ever happened to you.
If you’re going to love, love like you can’t get enough of them. Like you can’t get enough of their smell, their touch, their laughter, their warmth. Love like their presence is what makes you feel like you’re the happiest person in the world. Love like you can’t live without them.
If you’re going to love, love like they’re the only person in the world. Like they’re everything you have. Like they’re an inseparable part of your soul.
If you’re going to love, love openly. Wear your heart on your sleeve. Undress your soul in front of them. Let them get to know you down to the core. Don’t be ashamed to show them your vulnerable sides. Love them the best you can.
Show them that you’re open to the idea of love. That you’re not afraid to love and commit. Love them openly so that they’ll never have to doubt your feelings for them.
If you’re going to love, love through your actions. Be honest with and faithful to them. Do your best to protect them from anyone and anything. Take care of them when they’re tired or sick. Stay by their side when they’re sad and disappointed.
Call them just to check up on them. Show interest in the things they like doing. Admit when you’re wrong and apologize. Fight for their love. Make them happy.
If you’re going to love, love like you’ve never had your heart broken. Love like you’ve never experienced a heartbreak. Like you’ve never been lied to, disrespected, and hurt. Like you don’t know what a one-sided relationship and unrequited love feel like. Like you’ve never seen a relationship break down. Love like all your wounds have been healed.
If you’re going to love, love unselfishly. Show your partner you care about their feelings, needs, opinions, and desires. Show that you’re willing to patiently listen to them because their opinions are important to you. Because you want to understand what they have to say.
Let them know they can always rely on you for your help and support. Let them know they mean the world to you.
If you’re going to love, love fully. Love with your entire heart, mind, and body. Love with every fiber of your being. Make them your choice every single day. Invest time and efforts into the relationship. Be willing to make compromises and sacrifices. Commit yourself fully to that person.
Love them without fearing what tomorrow will bring. Love them even when you feel confused and you’re in doubt. Love them even when problems and challenges start coming your way. Love them always. Love them fully.
All of us dream of living a life where our deepest desires and ambitions would become a reality.
Whether we’re poor, rich, old, young, black, yellow, white, male, female, or simply different, we all have something that guides us in life and motivates us to keep moving forward.
We envision a future in which we actually work the jobs we love the most, we visualize a life where we are the most successful and famous people in a certain field, and we dream of dimensions where we are brave and confident enough to reach the highest of highs.
But, still… rare are the people who actually find the right path and make all of those dreams come true.
Luck vs Hard Work
Tell me, have you ever wondered why certain people like Steve Jobs or Oprah Winfrey, and J.K. Rowling became what they have become?
Do you think it was just a matter of luck, or it was all thanks to their hard work, focus, and their absolute dedication?
What is, in your opinion, the essential key to success in life luck or hard work?
Most people like to use the word ‘luck’. Whenever we look at successful and famous people who according to us hit the jackpot in life, we like to refer to them as ‘lucky’. But, what is luck, really? Is it fate, genes, or a good opportunity?
If you ask me, luck is the first and basic ingredient to the special dish called success. Every part of your personality, from your perseverance to your risk tolerance to your ambition to your intelligence is a product of pure chance. Your genes combined with your experiences and choices in life are what make you the person you are with the opportunities you have.
But, somehow that isn’t enough to make everyone successful.
Opportunities present themselves every day to every person. Right?
But, only the ones who recognize them and seize them without a delay get to transform these opportunities into their realities. It’s not rocket science, but still, most ordinary folks are not able to do so.
This leads us to the next ingredient: Good, old hard work.
This is the usual answer when it comes to achieving success in life. And probably the most realistic one. I mean, think about it. What good are books, documentaries, and talk shows about being successful if success is entirely luck?
Hard Work Is The Key To Success
You see, hard work might be the second most important ingredient for achieving success, but it’s definitely what makes the job done. No success is ever achieved without sweat. If you believe that success is purely based on luck, you’re not likely to try as hard as if you believe that success comes from hard work.
No matter how lucky you are or what genes and circumstances you have, history shows us that you still need hard work to pull it off.
Oprah Winfrey was once fired as a news anchor for being “too emotionally invested” in her stories. She was called “unfit for TV news” by her boss. Today, she is the most famous talk show host in America.
J.K. Rowling, the author of the book that completely changed our childhood – The Harry Potter fantasies, went through serious childhood trauma and many difficulties in life. Yet, she made it all the way to the top.
Steve Jobs dropped out of college and started working on his first computer prototype at the age of 21. He faced many failures, and many obstacles, but the reason why he became the father of Apple, the multinational technology company which is now worth $750 billion is his hard, determined work.
These people didn’t blame society, the government, the economy, or their circumstances. They focused on what they had, instead of what they didn’t have, and they worked their way up to the top with nothing but their will and hard work.
Luck is an important part of achieving greatness, but it’s definitely not all there is. You cannot possibly expect that your luck will guide you through life without you doing anything at all. You cannot wait for things to simply fall off the sky. You have to work hard for them. And you have to deserve them.
But, You Need Luck For Success, Too
So, what is the secret behind the success of people who cover the magazines such as Forbes and Entrepreneur, because there is a general assumption that we can learn from them?
It is probably their personal characteristics such as optimism, tenacity, skills, talent, mental toughness, hard work, and emotional intelligence that made them reach the stars and be where they are today, according to research.
A number of studies showed that intellectual curiosity, passion, imagination, and openness to experience are keys to success.
To answer the question of whether the most successful people are the luckiest in our societies, Italian physicists Andrea Raspisarda and Alessandro Pluchino, together with the Italian economist Alessio Biondo, measure the role of luck in people with successful careers. They used a toy model that made a simulation of the evolution of the careers of the collective population over 40 years. All the participants in the study were offered several types of lucky events and several unlucky events. They were all talented ( they were creative thinkers, intelligent, skillful, determined, and had emotional intelligence). (1)
When the simulation was over, they found that success was not normally distributed, and 20 participants that were most successful held 44% of the total amount of success, consistent with the real-world data where 1 in 8 men own the same wealth as the poorest half of the world.
So, the simulation found that talent mattered for real success in life, and those that were average talented had a higher possibility of increasing their success by making use of the possibilities of luck.
But, in general, the talent was not sufficient because participants who were the most talented were not the luckiest ones, and people who had luck and average talent were the luckiest ones.
Luck And Average Talent Are Important For Success – Says Science
In our competitive business world, business people do not accept, in general, the fact that luck is the reason for their success. This makes them hurt because they do believe that their success was a result of hard work and self -determination. So, is it luck or hard work that makes you successful? Luck, or hard work, which one determines your success in your life and career? Let’s see some debate points:
Luck means having the right opportunity at the right time, so there is a high probability that they have the right chance.
We have to accept the fact that in life, there are many things we cannot control, and in our life, things happen without our influence.
One of the biggest and most obvious examples of having good luck in life is having people there to help us and improve our lives at the right time, like the best basketball teacher to make your talent shine or a life partner who is always there to give you support.
According to the American author and financial journalist Michael Lewis, luck makes the difference between successful and non-successful people when they are equally talented and have the same level of confidence. He thinks that not all people have the right chance at the right time, so he does believe that luck has a huge role in life when it comes to success.
Luck is important for your career, because there are 2 important events that are decisive for your career and are associated with luck, and they are:
1. Grabbing the opportunities that are good
All the opportunities in life come only once, so if you are lucky enough, you will recognize them and grab them to move forward and excel in your career.
2. Meeting the right people at the right time
Luck decides who comes into our life, and meeting the right people plays a huge role in the success of our lives. But nevertheless, it is sometimes up to us to take action and go outside and meet new people, who know, they might be the ones who will help you with your career and make you successful!
People Who Think That They Are Lucky Are The Most Successful In Life
According to Professor Richard Wiseman, a public psychologist at the University of Hertfordshire, people who believe that they are lucky are successful in life, and if their work is the best and most effective, that luck will play its role and in this way, success comes.
His research showed that there are 4 principles that are important for people who are lucky and they are as follows:
Take planned risks and never step back if you fear failures
People who think that they are lucky constantly work on finding new opportunities
Luck comes from learning from past experiences and working hard to reap a good fortune
They follow their gut feeling when they make their decisions
So, if you are willing to be successful in life, you must believe in yourself and work hard to achieve success.
To Be Successful You Need To Be Lucky, Not Just Skillful
Success is a combination of skill and luck, but sometimes, we confuse them and we do not know which is which.
Skill is the ability or the knowledge we need to execute or perform something, and when we have the ability, we know how to do something, while luck comes suddenly when we have expected something else to happen in life and it can be good or bad.
So, when in a life situation, luck is predominant, we usually do not have control over the situation and the outcome, but when skill is predominant, we should engage in the process carefully and have some coaching and expect feedback.
Skill and luck are on a continuum and there are some extreme cases and situations in life where skill and luck are on both extreme sides of the spectrum. For example, to be successful when you gamble, you need luck, but when you play chess, you do not have the skill to play well and win the game.
Researchers created a model of economic success where participants that had different abilities faced a few random events, either positive or negative.
In the results, it was seen that few participants were more successful than the rest, and they were the lucky ones, not the most skillful ones, so if you see someone next time who is very successful, it does not mean he or she is very skillful, they probably had the best of luck. (2)
6 Effective Ways To Improve Luck In Your Career
Luck might be part of our fate and we cannot force something to happen, but still, sometimes we can do something to bring good fortune in our lives, like:
1. Face fear
If you are scared that you will face failure, do not step back and try to overcome your fear.
2. Pygmalion effect
Be positive! What you expect, it always happens in life! If you think good things will happen to you, keep in mind that positivity is the basic criterion for all good things in life!
3. Be positive
Luck is always on the side of positive people and keeps forward their welfare in life, so stay positive and be active in chasing your dream.
4. Try new things
Never be afraid to embrace changes and try new things in life. They might turn into a life-changing decision.
5. Stay motivated and visualize your luck
Try to be thankful for all good things in life and even in bad times. Think how happy you are to know what is right and what is wrong, and the more motivated you are, the luckier you become.
6. Listen to your heart! Always!
Before making big decisions for your career, believe in your intuition and listen to what your heart says. It might help you to make the right decision!
No is more than just a word. It’s a sign of integrity. And what does exactly integrity mean?
Integrity means that you don’t blindly follow the latest trends. It means that you have an identity which transcends time and any social context. It means that you live in accordance with your beliefs and moral principles and say no when these are threatened.
The opposite of integrity is always saying yes. Saying yes to offers and temptations to which the answer should be no.
The thing is, there’s a general opinion that saying yes conveys creativity, strength, openness to new ideas, and a willingness to accept changes and take risks. There’re many who believe that saying yes is always the right thing to do, but is it?
In fact, it’s more of an absurd than a reasonable thing. It’s rather a sign of conformity than someone’s identity. It makes people dependent rather than free.
And in my opinion – only robots always say yes.
The question is: Why saying yes is so justified and perceived as good and desirable? We can find out the answer if we look more closely at the positive “yes culture” we live in.
We live in a culture in which the pace of everything is constantly accelerating. Being a part of such culture, we focus on self-improvement and transformation. With each new day, more and more expectations are heaped on us. We’re expected to set goals, self-develop, think positively, and keep up with what’s going on, of course, while saying yes.
But, how can you be independent, creative, and live like you want to live, if you’re constantly in a state of dependency on development and adaption?
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that you should not have goals or work on and improve yourself both personally and professionally. But, I want to tell you that saying yes is not the only legitimate option.
“Maybe,” “I doubt that,” “Hmm, let me think,” and especially “No” are all legitimate as well as desirable answers too.
They show that you’re able to think for yourself. That you know what’s morally right and what’s wrong. That you’re a mature, responsible person who has respect for others and yourself as well.
Saying no shows that you possess integrity and that you want to maintain it. It shows that you’re mature and conscientious enough to turn down offers and reject things that deserve to be renounced.
Saying something like: “I don’t want to do that” to your friend, parent, including your boss, doesn’t mean you’re weak, rigid, unwilling to obey orders, or negative. It simply shows that you have integrity.
It shows that you have the strength and determination to stay loyal to your beliefs and moral values and never conform to those of others. It shows that you stand firm on your own ground.
Saying no shows that you’re capable of controlling your behavior and that you have dignity and a sense of duty towards others. It is these virtues which engender a deep sense of fulfillment and satisfaction, not the willingness to accept changes and all life’s fascinating opportunities.
You need to understand that always saying yes, be that to projects or personal development courses at work or to something related to your personal life, is not always a good idea. Saying yes doesn’t make you more adaptable, courageous, creative, enterprising, or popular than those who simply say “No, thanks” to things they feel are not the right things to do.
You need to understand, too, that saying yes doesn’t make you more open to things. On the contrary, it’s saying NO, or when you express doubt that makes you open to other ways of behavior and understandings of the world, as well as to other people’s opinions.
It’s saying no that shows you’re aware that your point of view is just one among many, but that you’re able to stand firm on it and accept the fact that others have different worldviews. It shows that you’re tolerant.
You need to understand that by saying yes, just because you fear you won’t be able to keep up, you actually risk losing integrity and missing out on important aspects of life.
One such thing you’re certainly missing out on is the peace of mind. In a culture where the ideal is an adaptable, enterprising individual, only those with peace of mind are able to turn down all unreasonable and morally wrong demands and requirements.
Living in a culture where certainty, self-development, and progress are perceived as the ideal, hesitation, doubt, and worry have become virtues. It is when you show that you have these qualities that you prevent others from telling you what to think and do, where to go, and what decisions to make.
It’s when you show you possess these qualities that you’re able to learn who you really are.
Again, I’m not saying that you should always say no, but if you remember that when you’re in doubt, the answer is usually no and that this is totally legitimate, this will help you stand firm on your own feet, resist all temptations you’re faced with every single day, and be true to the important things in life.
So, go ahead. Say no with a smile. Say no with confidence and determination. Say no to degrading suggestions. Say no to other projects until you have fulfilled all your prior ones. Say no to things you don’t want to do. Say no and preserve your integrity.
There’s a general misconception that strong women don’t like being in a relationship and that they’d rather be single for the rest of their life than get married.
While it’s true that strong, independent, confident women don’t need a man so as to feel happy and emotionally fulfilled, they do want a man who will be as strong as they are and who will be able to keep up with them in every aspect of life.
They want to experience raw, deep, genuine, once-in-a-lifetime kind of love and yet, most of them have a hard time falling in love.
I see myself as a strong woman, and I’ve been in a couple of meaningful, fulfilling relationships. Yet, they all failed. Trying to figure out the reasons for this, I’ve talked to other badass women I know, and we’ve come up with several answers.
Are you ready to hear them? Okay, let’s start.
The main reason why strong, independent women have a tough time falling in love is that we don’t want to compromise our values.
We have strong principles and values and we act in accordance with them. We know what’s morally good and what’s wrong. We don’t let anyone make us change our attitudes and opinions just because they’re different from theirs.
We can’t stand people who have double standards and who pretend to be someone they’re not. We don’t want a guy who hides his true colors behind a charming, kind, loving face so as to make us fall in love with him.
We don’t trust anyone unless they prove they deserve our trust. We want actions, not words.
We don’t want to be with a man who will have the heart to lie and cheat on us. Instead, we want him to be completely honest with and loyal to us. We know how it hurts when someone betrays your trust and therefore we do our best to keep our hearts safe.
We don’t need anyone to lead us through life. We know what we want and how to get it. We have clear goals and dreams and work hard towards them. We’re not afraid to accept the challenges and difficulties life sends our way every single day. We don’t fear risks and failures because we’ve failed many times, but also got up, and moved on.
We don’t like flaky people. We don’t want a man who will say one thing and do another. A man who will make promises and then fail to keep them. A man who will behave like it suits him.
We don’t want a man who is not open to the idea of love. A man who is afraid to wear his heart on his sleeve and ashamed to show his vulnerable sides. A man who will make us doubt his feelings for us. A man who will be afraid to love and be loved.
But most importantly, we’re not afraid of being single. Let’s say this right here and right now: Being single doesn’t mean being lonely. Being single doesn’t make us feel lonely, depressed, unworthy, miserable. Remember that!
We’re not afraid of being single. We’re afraid of being with a man who won’t accept and cherish us the way we are – confident, strong, resilient, funny. A man who will try to mold us into something he needs. A man who will disrespect our boundaries and criticize our decisions.
We’re not afraid of enjoying our own company. We’re afraid of being with a man who won’t enjoy spending time with us. A man who will see us as just one more obligation he has to fulfill. A man who will date us just for fun.
We’re not afraid of being single, we’re afraid of waking up next to a stranger. We’re afraid of being with someone with whom we’ll have nothing in common.
We’re not afraid of being single, we’re afraid of being with a man who won’t know how to hold intellectually stimulating and interesting conversations. A man who won’t bother to listen to and understand our opinions and ideas and who will act like he’s always right.
We’re not afraid of being single, we’re afraid of making love with someone, but not feel loved and warm on the inside.
We want a man who will want to get to know us down to the core and reach the deepest parts of our soul. A man who will be willing to invest time and effort in the relationship. A man who will treat us with the same amount of love and admiration we treat him.
We’d rather roll solo than be with the wrong guy. The guy that will wonder whether we’re worth settling down with.
In our lives, we meet all kinds of people. Some of them teach us how to be more responsible and confident, encourage us to pursue our goals and passions, and inspire us to become the best versions of ourselves. Others simply stand in the way to our happiness and success. They’re the toxic ones and they should be avoided at all costs.
Toxic people come in all shapes and sizes, and they’re everywhere around you. These people don’t have to spend hours talking to you to fill you with negative energy and make you feel mentally, emotionally, and physically drained – they’re able to do that before you can even blink.
And one thing’s for sure: Mentally strong people don’t have time to deal with negative, difficult people. They know they should ignore and distance themselves from them.
If you’re a mentally tough person, it means you have what it takes to kick toxic people out of your life. You have a high level of mental strength, confidence, and resilience, and you also possess the ability to control your emotions and reactions. However, you can’t distance yourself from this kind of people, unless you first know who they are.
Here are 8 types of toxic people that mentally tough people should avoid at all costs:
1. The complainers.
They’re people who are always dissatisfied with and complaining about things, whether they’re related to their own life or someone else’s. They perceive the world as being negative and instead of hoping for the best, they always expect some kind of disappointment. To these people, nothing seems good enough.
They act like they know so much more than everybody else and they can come up with all kinds of complaints so as to convince you how miserable their lives are. It’s like they find more pleasure in their self-absorbed misery and complaining about their life than in taking action to deal with whatever is bothering them.
Trying to remain positive and motivated in their presence is impossible. So, if you already know someone who is a Debbie Downer or may meet one in the future, make sure you distance yourself from them.
2. The Lazy.
We all feel lazy from time to time and that’s normal. But, to these people, laziness is their lifestyle. They lack the motivation to do anything. If they had the chance to spend their lives sitting on the couch, doing nothing, don’t doubt they’d accept it.
The more time you spend with this type of people, the more you run the risk of being lazy yourself. You can start losing motivation and willingness to do tasks and postponing them until later, but that “later” no one knows if it will ever come. So, if you notice someone is a lazybones, well, you know what you need to do.
3. The Showoffs.
Is there anything more irritating and draining than a person who brags about how smart, beautiful, capable, and successful they are from the moment they open their eyes in the morning until they go to sleep? Don’t try to answer, this was a rhetorical question.
This type of people can brag about even the smallest and least important things so as to make themselves look better than you in all aspects of life and downplay the importance of your successes. They’ll exaggerate their achievements (if they have any) so as to be in the spotlight. However, behind all this, there’s usually a person who lacks confidence and is full of insecurities.
Are you wondering whether the Showoffs can make you doubt your abilities? Yes, they can, but only if you allow them to.
4. The Irresponsible.
It’s unbelievable how some people waste their lives waiting for a miracle to happen that will make everything in their lives fall into place without even lifting a finger to achieve the things they want in life. This type of people waits for others to fulfill their responsibilities, solve their problems, create opportunities for them to achieve their goals – live their life.
Additionally, it’s common for them to waste substantial sums of money on unnecessary, stupid things and beg for more. These immature, irresponsible people should never be a part of your life.
5. The Negative Nancies.
These are the people who always complain about you and put you down. They’re extremely negative and unsupportive. This type of person never has anything nice to say about you. Instead, they’re always ready to make you feel bad about yourself and tell you that you’ll never succeed in life and see your dreams come true.
These people are capable of sucking the life out of you, so make sure you stay away from them.
6. The Ignorant.
These people lack knowledge and understanding of different topics. These people lack competencies which are necessary to have a normal, productive life. Moreover, they don’t invest time and effort in learning, gaining new skills, and developing themselves on both personal and professional level.
There’re people who are ignorant and they’re fine with it. On the other hand, there are ignorant people who are unaware of their ignorance. These people falsely believe they’re knowledgeable and smart and they’re real energy drainers.
7. The Ambitionless.
These people lack determination and purpose in life. They don’t bother to reach their full potential. Instead, they’re satisfied (or at least they believe so) with where they’re in life and they don’t bother to set and achieve new, higher goals.
They’re comfortable doing the everyday, mundane tasks and they don’t tolerate changes and a little discomfort. Maybe they lack confidence or they’re just lazy, but these people never strive to improve themselves, both personally and professionally, and achieve success.
8. The Envious.
These people can’t stand when good things happen to you. Telling this kind of person that you’re in a long-term, successful relationship, or got promoted, or bought the new iPhone will make them green with envy. They simply can’t stand to see you moving forward and doing better in life than them.
That’s why these people will very often make fun of you and criticize you for everything you do. They’ll try to make your achievements look irrelevant and tell you that they’re not a result of your own efforts and abilities, but a mere luck. Such a person definitively doesn’t deserve your time and attention.
I’ve seen so many terrified and insecure people settling down. I’ve heard stories about marriages between two mature individuals who cannot stand each other.
I’ve heard about people who were so pressured by the society that they finally gave in and settled down for just about anyone because they were too afraid that they might end up alone.
And I can’t help but wonder… why would you do this to yourself?
Is a relationship, a comfortable marriage, or a safe future all there is to life?
Are we really that desperate that we’ve suddenly reached the stage of accepting whatever comes our way?
People, being alone is not scary. It’s not a sickness. And it is definitely not a curse. Being alone doesn’t necessarily means that someone is lonely. Stop allowing society’s poor standards affect you. Stop letting other people’s insecurities put you down.
Being alone is the best thing you can do for yourself until you finally cross your paths with the charming knight on a white horse/ the beautiful princess in the magical forest.
Being alone is better than settling for shitty, annoying dates that make you want to vomit for actually agreeing to go out. It’s better than pretending you’re having fun with someone when all you can think about is your warm bed. It’s better than giving yourself to a man who sees you only as a trophy wife and doesn’t give a damn about you.
So, be alone.
Be alone if you have to, but never settle for half-assed love.
Be alone until you find someone who will look at you like you are magic. Someone who will look at you like you are their whole universe. A person who will find shelter in your heart. Someone who will love you endlessly.
Be alone until you meet a person who will actually want to spend all of their free time with you, not someone who will make thousands of foolish excuses just to avoid going out with you. Stay single until you meet someone who won’t stand to be apart from you.
Be alone until you meet someone who will inspire you, motivate you to work on yourself and help you open your wings and fly. Someone who won’t be intimidated by your big dreams, but on the contrary, someone who will celebrate your achievements as they were their own.
Be alone until you find someone who will always be around. Be alone you until you meet a person who will actually give a shit about how you feel. Be alone until you find a person who knows how and when to say, “I’m sorry”.
Be alone until you find someone who won’t ghost on you or abandon you whenever you need their biggest support. Be alone until you find someone who will put you first on his priority list, not someone who will consider you just an option.
I know these people are very rare to find nowadays…
But, life is short. And we only get one.
So, stay alone until you meet someone who is worthy of your love.
If he truly loves you, he’ll make you feel special. He’ll treat you the way you deserve: with lots of love, respect, admiration, and patience.
If he truly loves you, he will undress his soul in front of you. He’ll wear his heart on his sleeve. He’ll make sure you know how important you are to him.
If he really loves you, he’ll make you feel like you’re the only woman in the world.
When he tells you those three magical words I love you, you’ll know he really means it.
If he truly loves you, he’ll want to know everything about you. He will make you feel free and comfortable to share with him your interests and ideas as well as your insecurities and fears. He’ll want to know you to the core and reach the deepest parts of your soul.
If he really loves you, he’ll accept you the way you are, with all your faults and weaknesses. He’ll even cherish the parts about you that you hate the most. Because to this man, you’ll be perfect with all your imperfections.
If he truly loves you, he’ll protect you from anything and anyone. He won’t let anyone talk bad about you and hurt your feelings in his presence. Because the thought of you being hurt is what scares him the most.
If he really loves you, he’ll be your greatest support and help; your crying shoulder; your best friend; your strength; your guiding light; your hope; a partner for life.
If he really loves you, he’ll be more than willing to make time for you. He’ll make sure to spend some time with you even when he’s busy or stressed out. He’ll squeeze you into his hectic schedule because there’s nothing more important to him in his life than you.
If he truly loves you, he’ll never make you feel neglected or ignored.
If he really loves you, he’ll stick with you through thick and thin. He’ll never let you deal with your problems by yourself. Instead, he’ll do his best to help you solve them and overcome all your insecurities and fears.
If he truly loves you, being with you will be enough for him. As long as he’s with you, it won’t matter to him if you’re at home watching a movie on Netflix together or out in the most popular club in the city.
He’ll have fun with you even during the most ordinary and boring tasks. Whether he’s helping you with your project, watching TV with you, or just helping you clear up the table after lunch, he’ll have fun because he loves spending time with you.
If he truly loves you, he’ll remember the little things about you. He’ll remember the name of your favorite chocolate, song, or movie. When he makes you coffee, he’ll put some cinnamon in it because he knows that’s how you like it.
If he really loves you, he’ll notice the way you move your lips when you smile and blush when he gives you compliments. He’ll remember everything about you and your dreams.
If he truly loves you, he’ll share everything that happens to him with you. He’ll talk to you about his wishes, interests, desires, goals, and fears. He’ll share with you both the good and bad moments in his life. There will be no secrets.
If he really loves you, he won’t be afraid to show you his vulnerable sides because when he’s with you, he feels safe and comfortable in his own skin. He knows he can always be himself.
If he truly loves you, he’ll make sure he does those seemingly unimportant things that actually mean a lot to you. He’ll leave you cute, little, love notes on your bed so that you begin your day knowing you’re loved. He’ll send you a nice bouquet of your favorite flowers into your office because he wants you to know he thinks about you during the day.
If he really loves you, you’ll feel that when you look into his eyes. He’ll look at you with admiration, tenderness, affection, and passion. The sparkle in his eyes will make you feel the strong emotional, mental, and spiritual connection that exists between you two.
If he truly loves you, he’ll introduce you to the people he holds dear. He’ll make sure you connect with his friends and family because you’re the most important people in his life.
If he truly loves you, he’ll be proud of you and your successes. Moreover, he’ll motivate you to set new goals and pursue your wildest passions and dreams. He’ll inspire you to be better, do better, and get where you want to be in life.
If he really loves you, he won’t hesitate to give you compliments. He won’t forget to tell you how smart, beautiful, and generous you are. He’ll shower you with affection and sweet words and make sure you know you’re special to him.
If he truly loves you, he’ll commit to you. He’ll plan his future with you. He’ll enjoy talking about the house you’re going to live in, the kids you’re going to have, the places you’re going to visit together.
And you, Girl, if you’re already with this kind of man or will be one day, make sure you keep him because not all men can love this way.
And remember – if he truly loves you, he’ll make sure you know it.
I’ve always believed that when two people genuinely love each other, they go out of their ways to make the relationship work. That is what I was taught to look for in life.
But, the constant rash of breakups everywhere around me got me thinking… Can romantic love last forever? Or people are simply giving up without a fight?
If you ask me, the key to a healthy and sustainable relationship is hard work. You see, happy couples are not born. Relationships don’t just happen overnight. You try your best to make them work, and if that doesn’t work, you try some more.
But, you don’t give up!
The happiest couples out there are made. It’s neither magic, nor a rocket science. You just need to understand that if this is what you want, you have to be ready to compromise. You have to try to make things work, even if it takes a lifetime.
Here are 3 essential rules that will put you on the right track:
KNOW WHEN TO SAY, ‘I’M SORRY’
Nobody is perfect. Perfection is simply an illusion. Whether we like it or not, eventually all of us will mess up more than once in our life. We are going to make mistakes, we’re going to regret them, we’re going to them and there’s no escaping from that. It’s life.
So, the real question here is not whether we can avoid hurting the people we love, but whether or not we’re empathic and considerate enough to know when to say, ‘I’m sorry’ and make things right.
The most sustainable relationships and the happiest couples we know are people who have learned how important it is to be aware of your flaws and humble towards other in order for a relationship to thrive.
I’m not saying that it is easy to compromise. Most people would rather hold on to their pride and defend themselves when they’re wrong instead of admitting their mistakes and working things out.
According to marriage researcher and author Dr. John Gottman, defensiveness, or blaming the other person, is one of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. It is the most toxic self-defense mechanism.
ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT
According to Zach Brittle, Co-founder of ForBetter.com, learning to ask for what you want in the relationship is the most important skill for newlyweds to learn.
You’d assume that most of us have no problem asking for what they need, but you’d be wrong. You see, sometimes we think we already know the answer to our question, and sometimes we’re just afraid of how our partner will react. This is the point where most relationships hit a dead end.
The biggest mistake we make is expressing our wants with demands, rather than desires. And according to Brittle, “Demand is rigid. Self-centered. Unforgiving. Demand takes your partnership out of the equation.”
Desires gravitate around things that both partners value. For example, equality, freedom, trust, joy, peace.
BE A GOOD LISTENER
Almost everyone can nod their head and silently disagree while listening, but being an active listener means much more than that. It is a really challenging skill, and it is the only way for a relationship to last.
Active listening is not waiting for your partner to finish, just so you could share your perfect counter-argument. It’s staying quiet and empathizing with your partner’s feelings. It’s putting yourself in their skin and imagining what is like to right where they are.
It’s a skill that has the power to build love, trust, and true intimacy.
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