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Doing This 1 Thing That Most Bosses Don’t Do Will Make You A Great Leader

There is a huge difference between being a boss and being a leader. Bosses have the money, own the company, maintain their power, and have people working under them – people who aren’t supposed to question their power or oppose their decisions.

Bosses are the running gears that set the business into motion, and in most cases, their employees are treated as expendable smaller gears that are made of a lower quality and when they start to malfunction are easily replaced with other employees who come for the salary.

Many companies function this way, and while the boss holds the power and maintains their distance, the employees most often than not end up feeling dissatisfied and they tend to stick to doing their job so as not to lose it.

But how much growth is there in a company where the workforce is stimulated by the fear of losing their job? And more importantly, can this growth be really attributed to the efforts of the employees who are just doing their job? – Not much, and not really.

A company that has a leader is one that will always be more successful. The difference between a boss and a leader is one of a fixed mindset and a growth mindset in the individual.

The leader is set for growth, and not only their own, but the growth of every individual in the company, and thus the growth of the company in which people truly care about the jobs they are doing – where people are motivated to do a lot more and collaborate a lot more with their leader.

But what does it take to become a leader and not the regular kind of ‘boss’ who will struggle a lot more on their own and have people do the job they were assigned to do?

There is one simple thing that creates the difference between a good leader and a bad boss: caring about your employees.

We all like to be aware that there is someone who truly cares about us, who doesn’t see us as expendable, and who is ready to step in and support us when we feel like we’re struggling. This is true in any scenario in life, not just our workplaces.

And when this positive attribute of a true leader can be seen among your employees, you will know that they have truly started respecting you as a complete individual – not just as an authority.

Collaboration is based on mutual understanding and support, and when you show care, you will receive that care back. Your employees will know that you don’t treat them as a source of your income, or as a financial burden, but truly as complete individuals who have come to help you achieve the goals of your company.

Nobody is perfect, so neither are you, and showing understanding and care toward your employees will help them see that even your imperfections are human and accept your errors the way you accept theirs.

Working toward a shared goal is the key to success in any company, and this can only be achieved if you start treating your employees as the running gears in the company which contribute to the progress – and not just follow your rules and get money for that.

Turn your company from a place filled with workers who do what they signed up for into a place where everybody is ready to collaborate and give their best, accept changes and contribute to their implementation, and respect you as their leader – not their boss.

Show more care and you will earn the right to be seen as a leader. In the end, you work with live human beings. Start treating them as ones.

 

Inspired by Inc.

Friendship May Be The Truest Form Of Love

When it comes to friends and true friendships, I’ve been thinking ever since I was growing up that this area of my life will always be easy. That I would always be surrounded by true friends no matter what.

However, this is not always how the things turn out to be. While growing up, I have become more reserved and careful with people who I call my friends. It has become much harder for me to begin to trust someone truly and let them in my life.

And I think it is even harder to find people who will never leave your side. But the hardest thing is to have a friend who doesn’t recognize you nor do they respect you. This is the sign that you should leave that friendship because it is a toxic one.

However, if you are among those people who are lucky to have one or two friends that you can count on anytime – consider yourself lucky and thank them for their presence and love.

Because it is always better to have one friend that you know will have your back every time than a bunch of fake friends that are only there when things are rosy but leave as soon as they see the thorns.

The thing is, I don’t think that anyone can be so self-sufficient that they could make all on their own. It is in our nature to be among people, to help each other, to ask for help. Most importantly, you should remember that you are not weak if you ask for guidance and help, but you should know that only those who really care about you will be always there to help you.

It seems like nowadays the hardest thing is to find true friendship. The one that would last until the end. One that is not corrupted by betrayal and lies. A friendship in which both friends have the best interests at heart for one another.

If you are lucky to have found your true friend – cherish them. Thank them for their presence and the love they gave you. Because real friendships are forever indeed, and it may be the truest form of love that there is.

Dear Friends, Please Be More Patient With My Anxiety

Dear friends,

I know I said I was going to go out with you tonight, as I did so many times before. And I know that something is making me change my mind as I am writing this, as it did all those times before.

The thing is, you know that I love you (at least I hope so), and I know that you love me (although currently I just hope you do). I don’t know how much you can love me after all those times I simply disappeared when I was supposed to show up and bond with you.

But because I can’t find a way to explain to you how I feel, it’s best that I wrote it and tell you of that inner voice in my head that says: come up with an excuse – you’re not good enough for that company; they are just being polite; they don’t really want you in their company; they’re just used to you, that’s all.

And you surely caught me unprepared so many times, ringing at my doorbell and waiting for me to peek through the blinds to see who the heck could be at my doorbell. And well, I didn’t open the door – I pretended I was sleeping, I hid in the other room, I simply wasn’t there.

And while it tore my heart to see you leave, I also felt relieved (I have to admit), because all those fears of what I was supposed to do were simply leaving with you. And then, other fears came: I know you were mad at me, I know my shitty behavior will simply teach you out of loving me, but what can I do?

I am so happy when I get a call from you and when you tell me that you want me in your company, to share your secrets with me, to giggle about silly stuff – everything that friends do. And then, when the moment comes, I start feeling afraid.

What am I going to say? Am I going to be the boring reclusive wet towel in the company and look my worst because my head is simply cramped with all these worries? How can I relax when I’m not sure if you really wanted me to be part of all that fun or you just felt sorry for me?

It’s so complicated… so debilitating… just too much. Sometimes, I feel better off being on my own doing nothing and listen to my thoughts that are so loud, and so messy – you have no idea.

So, I just remain home and scroll my Facebook timeline, looking at the places you went, and the things you did, feeling guilty that I let you down again and fearing that I have missed so much that I never got to live through those moments with you.

Of course, I have had moments with you when I simply didn’t care so much, when the thoughts didn’t prevail my reasoning… but what about these other moments? And I know how frustrated you are.

You probably don’t pick up the phone right away because you think that I just call when I’m in the mood for you because I’m not always the best at making a good conversation, or because I am sometimes reckless and say things that I shouldn’t.

But I care so much, you should know that. It’s just my anxiety speaking and the harder I fight it, the more I’m afraid. I don’t know what I am… a loner, an introvert, a selfish prick – I could be anything in your eyes right now.

But I know what I am not: I am not someone who doesn’t care about you – I care a lot. And I am not someone who communicates with you when I don’t have a smarter thing to do – I do it when my head is clear and when I can truly be myself.

So, please be patient and try to understand me, but don’t feel sorry for me – that just makes things worse. I suppose I just want you to know that I care about you.

Sincerely,
Your anxious friend

One Simple Sign That Shows You Are In A Happy Relationship

There was a time when writing your name and your partner’s name on MSN with a heart between them meant you were practically engaged.

Nowadays, things got trickier and couples now have to look into the politics of Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and Twitter to see whether they are official or not.

But, if you are among those couples that don’t post anything about your relationship publicly – don’t worry. Because, according to a study, couples who don’t make their relationship public are the happiest.

Don’t get me wrong, it is a normal thing to want to post a picture with your love on Facebook, there is nothing wrong with it. However, there is a correlation between how genuine content you are in the relationship and how often you post about it on social media. The reasons behind this are the following:

First, people who don’t post about their lives on social media are generally happier than those who post daily about what’s going on in their life. Plus, excessive use of social media is linked to depression because people start comparing themselves with others.

Second, not having a need to tell the world how happy you are in your relationships is a sign that you are truly happy in it that you are not even thinking about social media and taking selfies that you can post on Instagram.

However, this doesn’t mean that you have to keep your relationship secret. A study found that those who have updated their relationship status on Facebook were more committed than others who were still ‘single’ or didn’t have a relationship status at all on Facebook.

Generating Motivation When Working From Home

Nobody can deny that there are a lot of benefits associated with working from home. For example, you don’t have to worry about commuting every day between piles and piles of traffic. You also get to wear whatever you like, and you can take a break when you feel like it. There won’t be anybody giving you a hard time when you work from home.

However, working from home also comes with its own set of challenges. And these have varying shapes and sizes. For some, the challenges will come in the form of distractions, while others struggle with the “loneliness”. And without a big boss to keep an eye on you, it requires self-motivation to finish your work even when you don’t feel like it. The truth is if you want to reach success, you need to get keep your head in the game.

Generating Motivation

Unfortunately, there will come a time when you don’t feel motivated enough to work. But this is also when you need to get focused, and you can use the following ideas to get there.

Set Up A Designated Area

This is a basic rule that goes a long way because it creates a barrier between relaxing and working. For instance, you don’t consider the couch a workspace, which is probably why you won’t get anything done. Instead, use a spare room or any other space as a designated work area. In other words, separate the space you use to the relax from the space you use to work.   

Get Into A Routine

Yes, working from home allows you to get up at any time, but is this approach really productive? No, it’s not. What you should do is establish a routine. Set your alarm, get up, wash your face and get dressed. Basically, you want to go through the motions like you would preparing for any other type of job.

Create Deadlines

Seeing as you are running the show from home, you should be aware of what your day is going to look like. This is also your cue to start setting up deadlines and following through on getting them done.

Nice Space

A nice space to work in will help you stay motivated. If you have a nice office area with nice lighting, furniture and also even motivational quotes on the walls, like these from Printingjay.com – you can be sure you’ll be more likely to be motivated.

Get Organized

One of the toughest things about working from home alone is tackling big projects. It can be overwhelming, to say the least, which is why you need to get organized. More specifically, take the project and break it into small and manageable sections. Then, work out a schedule for each section.

Stay In Contact With The Outside World

If you are working as part of a team, try to stay in contact with your team members as often as possible. But if you are working solo, take the time to reach out to friends or family. In essence, you want to remind yourself that you are still part of the living world.

Allow Time For Relaxation

Even the boss needs to take a break, and in this case, you are the boss. And for some individuals, it’s hard to switch off from work and just relax, especially if they realize they are in complete control. But take the time to relax and enjoy what you’ve achieved so far.

Reward Yourself

Given that you don’t have a boss to give you a bonus, it is up to you to give yourself a reward. In fact, try doing it at the end of each day or week, because it can really help to keep you motivated.

Working from home isn’t for everyone, and if you know you’re a socialite, it’s definitely not something you should consider. But for those who enjoy the idea of steering their own course, keeping yourself motivated is the key to providing quality work.

Our Eternal Free Will

One time I went to an esoteric fair, and it’s a true story. Went to an esoteric fair and there was a lot of people displaying all kinds of things. You know how, you’ve been to these fairs probably? And there different people representing different philosophies and so on and had their booths and their… you know, their places of, you know, practice and so on. And there was one big setup, you know, and there were people there, many people occupying the booth.

They were affiliated with this and they were inviting people to sit down in the chair and… It was a kundalini thing. And they were, you know, doing this and that and stimulating a few points and everything and they get a little kundalini rush, you know, little something stirring, and, “Oooo!” you know, and they go, “Wow, man. This guy’s heavy. This is really good stuff.” You know?

So I was watching and I was, you know… After a while I could see there was one guy that was obviously the head guy. So I go up to him and I said, “You know, can I talk to you a minute?” He said, “Sure, sure.” I said, “I got a question,” you know. He said, “Alright, what is it?” I said, “If I adopt this teaching that you are offering and I follow this very precisely, where will it take me?” And he changed the subject. He started talking about something else. And I brought him back. I said, “Yeah, I know, but, you know, if I do this and I reach perfection, what will that perfection be?” And he changed the subject.

And I brought him back again. I said, “Come on, man, just tell me. I’m thinking about doing this. Maybe, I don’t know. What will it do for me? Where will it take me? What will be my final destination?” And he finally looked at me and he says, “You know, I don’t know.” I said, “You don’t know? You’re teaching this? You’re getting all these people to come and you say, ‘You should do this,’ and you don’t even know where you’re going to go?” He said, “Well, it’s better to be on some path than no path.” I said, “I don’t know about that.” (Laughs/Laughter) You know? “I’m not so sure!” You know, I was really, really surprised. They don’t even know what they’re doing. They’re just trying to get some experience, “Oh, it felt good!” Or, “Oh I just was spaced out,” or, “I just went and cruised around in the astral dimension,” or whatever, you know?

Hey man, you’re spirit soul. You need to know what is good for your eternal life. It’s not like you’ve just got a little time left. You’ve got eternity. What are you going to do with it, you see?

So the pure teaching of bhakti yoga, coming down through a perfect line of perfect masters gives us this opportunity to know the truth. Then we can make an educated choice. “Okay, no, I’m not interested in that right now. There’s some… I don’t know if I want to do that. I prefer this,” or, “I…” Okay, fine. Beautiful. Because what? We have an eternal free choice. We have an eternal free will. God has given us an eternal free will and minute independence. And He leaves it up to us. He’s in our heart but He doesn’t make us do anything. It’s other people that try to make us do stuff. God doesn’t. You see? He lets us choose. Why? Because ultimately He wants us to love him and love is a choice. You can’t make somebody love you.

There are people all over this planet trying to make somebody else love them. Can’t do it. You might make them cook for you, wash your clothes, satisfy your sexual desires, you might make them do many things. But you cannot make them love you. They have to choose that. So love is very special. That is why we have an eternal free will, you see? And when we choose, God is right there. “Yes, this is for you.” And He gives us this ability to see this. Vision comes from Him.

So if you’ve heard the philosophy before, if you already are embracing this philosophy that I am God and you are God and we are all God, it is wrong. We are mini-gods. God means dominator. Everybody dominates somebody and in this world the more the better. (Laughs) You see? We’re all little dominators. We’re all little gods, but we are not the Supreme Lord, you see, and we can never become the Supreme Lord. You know.

All these great yogis, so called gurus, “I’m God and you are God but the difference is I know it and you don’t.” No, you don’t know anything, you see? There is only one Supreme Lord, Bhagavan. He has many, many, many names. They all describe Him. And the primary name of all names, the one that describes God in His complete feature is Krishna, the all-attractive. Every amazing feature that the Supreme Person has makes Him that much more attractive and the name that describes the all-attractive nature of Bhagavan is Krishna.

So that is the understanding that I hope you will be interested in, you see? But again, you have the choice. Do your hatha yoga, beautiful, best for the body. Great! No question about that. You see. If you want to do some pranayama to still the mind, whatever. But the mantras given to us by the Supreme Person Himself are the real purifying agent in this age of Kali Yuga, without exception. This is what we are supposed to do in this Kali Yuga to reach this ultimate destination. So that’s what we’re going to do right now. We’re going to have a sankirtan.

Kirtan is the Highest Meditation


I know sankirtan is very popular now in the Western world especially, you know? Sankirtan means congregational chanting. And so we’re going to do that. We’re going to chant these mantras with the accompaniment of some instruments. Guitar and bass guitar and we have a harmonium here, a drum. You see? We have you. Your beautiful voices, you see? So we’re going to combine all that together and chant these names of the Supreme Lord.

So back to our mantra card. We’ve learned Gauranga-Nitai Gaur. There’s also another mantra right below that: Gopala Govinda Rama Madana Mohana. You see? These are also names of the Supreme Person. And on the back we have the one mantra that includes all the other mantras. This is the mahamantra. Maha means great. Mantra means mind deliverer.

This is the greatest mantra of all mantras. If you want one mantra, this is the one. This is the mantra prescribed specifically for this age of chaos, confusion, calamity and suffering aka Kali Yuga that we’re in right now. You see? This is a universal mantra. And then finally we have the mantra Haribol which is a mantra that means chant the holy names, chant the names of God.

So we’re going to use these mantras now in our sankirtan. So there’s a leader, which in this case will be me. I will chant the mantra while you listen, then you chant the mantra while I listen. So it’s back and forth like this. Relax. Let yourself open up. Just let yourself chant. Let it flow through you. Listen to the sound, repeat the sound and you will be engaged in the highest activity of meditation of all meditations, as declared by Krishna Himself. Okay? Alright. Let’s do it.

Archaeologists Discover A 40,000-Year-Old Bracelet That Couldn’t Have Been Made By Humans

We make new discoveries about our past with every new archaeological find, and this one seems so puzzling, that some believe that it can’t have been made by humans.

Siberian Times

A deep-green chlorite bracelet that has been officially recognized as the oldest bracelet ever discovered has been found in a Siberian cave in the Altai region and archaeologists say that it belonged to the Denisovans, a long-extinct human race.

The bracelet was made from chlorite, a mineral that was not present anywhere in the vicinity of the cave, and that can be located 200km away. As the research team which worked on understanding the puzzle of this bracelet says, the fact that the bracelet was made of such material points to a high possibility that it belonged to a member of the higher class, perhaps a princess.

However, the most puzzling thing about the bracelet is the craftsmanship that is involved in it. The bracelet was crafted with such level of skill and expertise which has been accepted to have been present to a much more recent period than that.

Perhaps the most mysterious element of the bracelet is the hole which has been drilled with such precision pointing to advanced technology that can be only found in the high-rotation drills that are used today.

Siberian Times

Anatoly Derevyanko, Director of the Institute of Archaeology and Ethnography in Novosibirsk describes the bracelet as “stunning,” reflecting the sun rays in bright sunlight and casting a deep shade of green at night by the fire.

The bracelet dates back to 40,000 years in the past, and this makes it the “oldest bracelet ever found,” according to Russian experts. The level of craftsmanship suggests that the Denisovans were much more technologically evolved than the Neanderthals, although it is not clear how they could achieve creating such thing bearing in mind how capable humans of that time have been considered.

Siberian Times

Source: The Siberian Times

Health Experts Explain The Dangers Of Sleeping With Your Pet And How You Can Prevent Them

Why the need for an alarm clock when you are more likely to wake up from the wet licking tongue of your dog or the sudden jump on your face from your cat? And being a pet owner, I know the joy this wake-up brings to me every day.

But, how safe is it to let your pet sleep with you? According to veterinary health expert Dr. Jane Heller (Ph.D.) of Charles Sturt University, NSW, this (and any other form of close contact with your pet) does carry some risk of infection.

As she explains, “pets are not sterile… so there is always some chance of bacterial or parasitic transfer from companion animals to humans. And clearly, those risks are greater if you are sleeping in, or generally closely sharing, the same environment as your animal.”

The good news is, taking proper care of your and your pet’s health and hygiene means that such dangers can be easily avoided, giving them little to no chance to occur.

However, being aware of what dangers close contact can bring is key to preventing them from ever happening in your home.

SO, WHAT ARE THE MAIN DANGERS THAT MAY ARISE?

In terms of bacteria, there are two types of bacteria that you can pick up from your pets: those that your pets have ingested, and those that already live in or on them.

The ingested bacteria can be pretty nasty, including Salmonella and Campylobacter. While they don’t usually make your pets ill, getting in touch with them can cause quite dangerous gastro-type illnesses in humans.

And the easiest way to get in touch with these bacteria is through the feces. In other words, taking your dog for a walk and not wiping their paws when they enter the home, or not washing your hands and making lunch, can easily mean that you will catch some of these bacteria.

Pets ingest these bacteria by eating raw chicken necks and bones, and while this is good for their teeth, the occurrence of the bacteria in their feces is highly likely. If you feed your cat or your dog with raw chicken bones or necks, make sure you wipe their paws clean and wash your hands after taking your dog for a walk or after cleaning your cat’s litter.

The bacteria that are naturally present on your pets can also be problematic, the most famous being Staphylococcus. These bacteria can cause various illnesses to humans, ranging from skin and wound infections to pneumonia and meningitis.

“We know that dogs and cats carry Staphylococcus in their noses and on their coats, and we also know that the incidence in humans of antibiotic-resistant strains [of staph] are on the rise in the community,” explains Heller.

The biggest risk of picking up these bacteria is by letting your pets nuzzle your mouth, nose, and eyes. And, as Heller explains, if your immune system is weak, or you have open wounds, the risk is even more significant.

And then, there is the risk of parasites – namely Toxoplasma gondii, a parasite that can live in warm-blooded animals, especially cats.

This parasite can be dangerous to those with compromised immune system and especially to pregnant women who can transmit it to the developing baby and it can damage the development of their brain and eyes.

However, the potential of contracting this parasite is minimal if the cat litter is cleaned regularly and good hygiene is maintained, explains Heller.

In fact, any parasitic infection, such as roundworm, tapeworm, hookworm, as well as the fungal skin infection ringworm, can be easily controlled and avoided by regularly bathing and worming your pets. And even if they are contracted, they can be easily eradicated in most people.

HOW TO MINIMIZE THE RISK?

Heller explains that the average healthy human has very low chances of getting sick from their pets, even if they sleep with them and are exposed to some of the bacteria or parasites present on the pets.

However, the risk is higher with people with compromised immunity, including the very young, the very old, those who are pregnant, those affected by HIV or who are undergoing chemotherapy.

Heller explains that you should not overstate the risks of illnesses from your pets, taking some easy hygienic steps further reduces the chances of the already low risks.

-Wash your hands after handling your pet, especially before handling food;
-Implements for human and animal food preparation should be kept separate;
-Clean any pet feces from your home or garden quickly and hygienically;
-Deworm and protect your pets from fleas and other parasites regularly;
-Avoid feeding your pets raw meat or offal;
-Take particular care when your children are around young animals;
-Pay special attention when your or someone else’s immune system is weakened.

Even if pets come with risks, never forget the number of positive benefits pets have on our health and wellbeing.

 

Source: ABC Health & Wellbeing

Alpha Personality – 24 Things That Only Alpha Males And Females Would Do

alpha personality type

When it comes to people, however, those who are perceived to have an alpha personality are those who have dominant personalities, just like the first letter of the Greek alphabet, alpha. They are usually outgoing, ambitious, straightforward, highly intelligent, and successful. In fact, 70% of male executives are alpha male types because they are natural leaders and are compatible with this high responsibility, which most people would find overwhelming, so it is even hard to imagine every corporation without these alpha leaders that put complete faith in their instincts and are never wrong. 

What Are Alpha Male Traits?

Alpha males are very confident and intelligent, prefer to be in a position of power, and have great self-control. As a result, they are the ones men show respect and women want them as long-life partners and want to date.   

The main traits all alpha males would have are as follows: 

  • They are always in the center of attention and are the most impressive of all people in the room 
  • They can influence other’s people opinions and have the ability to draw them 
  • They can easily handle high levels of responsibility
  • They are almost always in a position of power
  • They take the initiative and are not afraid of risks

Traditionally they are regarded as unemotional and too analytical because they rely on exhaustive data and can be sometimes judgmental of colleagues who can’t control their emotions. 

Some of the negative traits they might have are that they can be stubborn and resistant to feedback and other people’s influence, and they do not listen.

So, if you are wondering whether you are an alpha person or not, below are 24 things that only people who have alpha personalities do.

1. They Love Being Alone

People with alpha personalities need their alone time to unwind and recharge from their busy day. They cherish the time they are alone because they use this time to focus on themselves and do the things they love.

2. They Say What’s On Their Mind Without Holding Back

Alpha people are blunt and honest. They always speak their mind and don’t hold back. However, this doesn’t mean that they don’t care about other people’s feelings – they do. But they choose honesty over compassion always.

3. They Don’t Care What Others Think Of Them

People with alpha personalities are strong-willed and they know themselves so well that they do not pay attention to what others think of them. And, they certainly don’t allow other people to affect their opinions.

4. They Are Not Pushovers

 Alpha people respect other people. But, when they see that someone is using or manipulating them – they won’t allow it. They don’t allow others to take advantage and step over them.

5. They Speak With Actions, Not With Words

When an alpha person says he/she will do something – they will. They always make their actions count. But, they also expect the same from others. They cannot understand how someone can say they will do something and then they won’t stay true to their word.

6. They Are Protective

Alpha people are overly protective of their belongings, their surroundings, and of people, they care about. And, they won’t keep their calm if they see someone trying to take away something from them.

7. Their Passion Is Often Seen As Bossiness

Alpha personality is often misinterpreted as bossy. Because, when alphas try to get everyone to be more effective and passionate about some task, others may not see it in the same way. So, they label them as demanding and bossy.

8. They Have Strong Beliefs

They have integrated strong belief systems, be it political, social, or philosophical, you name it. They stand by their beliefs and values firmly and defend them strongly and openly. (1)

9. They Are Perfectionists

People with alpha personalities are perfectionists. When they undertake a task, they complete it perfectly and thoroughly. They don’t do this to undermine the effort of others, but because it is their nature to always do their best in whatever it is that they are doing.

10. They Are Hard-Workers

Alpha people are often seen as workaholics. They bury themselves deep into their work even if that means sacrificing themselves. They believe that hard work always pays off.

11. They Only Do The Things They Love

Even though their career is of utmost importance, alpha people find time for their hobbies too. They are just as much passionate about the things they love as they are about their work.

12. They Can Control Their Emotions

In our lives, it is very important not to react emotionally in unfavorable situations. Alpha males would just take a few deep breaths and evaluate what is the best action to take next to survive and overcome all difficulties with an “I can do it” attitude. They are always committed to motivating themselves and others and know how to do it.

13. They Can Make Big Decisions

They are courageous and this helps them to make big decisions and are not afraid of the consequences of making a bad decision, such as investing in a bad company, and this identifies them as leaders.

Can Introverts And Loners Be Alphas Males?

Even though you cannot imagine an alpha male as an introvert, because introverts like peace and quiet, they are deep and thoughtful, and are genuine and mysterious, which can sometimes be opposite to the great self-confidence alpha males possess. An introvert alpha? It sounds like an oxymoron.

But, being quiet and having big confidence can go hand in hand quite easily and it can be an attractive combination, especially for women!

Women love alpha males because they are types of men that have strong direction in life and as a plus, introverted males are quiet and mysterious, which makes them attractive.

Here are the characteristics of introverted alpha males:

1. They have characteristics of both introverts and alpha males

They sometimes act as introverts and tend to make deep introspection of themselves, think before they say something, and look into all sides of a problem before they act. They are quiet and have a definite allure around them, but this doesn’t mean that they are shy and feel discomfort out of their comfort zone.

They always leave something for imagination and this makes women start to deep even more and analyze to learn their unique personalities.

As alphas, they know who they are and what they want in life, honor and respect other people, and learn new things in life continuously. They have a good heart, inner strength, and integrity.

2. They own a unique type of intelligence

As introverts, they introspect themselves often, which makes them uniquely intelligent and attracts other people. They can easily engage and initiate serious and intellectual conversations and bring different points of view on various subjects.

3. They take into consideration the feelings and thoughts of others

They always think before starting a conversation and saying something, which gives them time to consider what to say and not hurt someone’s feelings or thoughts.

4. They have a unique point of view on life

Alpha introverts usually have enough time to spend on analyzing and forming their opinions and thoughts, which makes them form unique points of view about something and makes them attractive.

5. They are great friends and partners

They tend to feel and understand others when in a relationship because you have sensitive nature and you can sense how things can get improved. You grow as a person continuously and this is a great contribution to all relationships you have with friends or partners.

What Personality Type Is An Alpha Female?

Similar to alpha males, the alpha female is self-confident, courageous, highly motivated, and has leadership abilities. She is self-aware that she is strong and she has enough confidence to help others and their confidence is contagious.  

She is diligent and has a strong sense of self and its purpose. Some of her character characteristics include: 

1. Alpha females have strong emotional intelligence

They can recognize and manage their emotions and help others to recognize and manage theirs. They are aware that emotions can really impact other people positively or negatively and can inspire others and bring social ease to a group. They can start conversations and introduce people and resolve business disagreements.

2. Alpha females are powerful leaders

Alpha female is a natural leader because she possesses a high level of confidence and always takes the initiative. She knows what she wants and knows that with hard work, she can get it.

They have high authority and most female CEO figures have alpha personalities.

3. Alpha Females Learn Continuously In Life

One study that was conducted by Walden University showed that alpha veteran female leaders that took part in it said that continuous learning is very important for new experiences and facing challenges more easily, deep more in their expertise, and learning new topics and research. That is why they constantly read books on different subjects that are new to them. (2

4. Alpha Females Are Strong

Alpha females are strong mentally and physically and enjoy physical activities. They have a strong, resilient attitude and they continue with life although life might have kicked them several times and maintain their sense of purpose and know how to deal with problems in life like injustice, illness, poverty, etc…

5. Alpha Females Are Loyal

Alpha females always keep their promises and are always there when things go wrong. They show respect and courtesy to others and take loyalty seriously.

However, it is difficult to earn her trust and it will take time to trust someone.

She is very responsible and will always check on her safety and the safety of the people she loves and respects.

6. Alpha Females Have Self-Respect And Dignity

It is impossible to comprise with dignity and self-respect of alpha females. She has set principles and it is not possible to break them, there is no compromise about it. She always gets attention from others, because she always puts herself first regardless of what others think.

7. Alpha Females Are Social Conductors

All women have a natural gift of keeping harmony in a group and reading others’ emotions. But, alpha females can really help the interaction in a female group because they are born leaders. They can set the tone and balance the power struggle inside the group, so in some way, they are social conductors.

8. Alpha Females Do Not Fear To Walk Away

If she feels that she is not respected and needed, it is very easy for her to leave and no matter what happens, she won’t come back. She has the power to continue alone because she is independent and won’t ask for help. But, she is not cruel, demanding, or domineering in a relationship.

9. Alpha Females Put Their Career On The First Place

They are very ambitious and have big dreams about their lives. If they choose to pursue their dreams, they won’t hesitate to put aside their romantic relationship, which can sometimes cause problems.

What Type Of Woman Do Alpha Males Like?

Alpha males are hard to catch and are on the top of the pecking order. So, maybe you are attracted to an alpha male and wonder what type of woman they are attracted to? They like challenges in life, and they would love a woman who can challenge their power and may be really picky when choosing a partner.

So, here are some types of women alpha males would like:

1. They like a career-oriented woman

The carrier is most important for alphas and they are successful in what they do. They like someone who has goals in life and plans for the future and knows what it wants from life, so they would fall for someone who is career-oriented just like they are.

They would love someone to help them to grow in their career as well and strives to grow emotionally and financially.

2. They like a woman who knows what she wants

Alpha males know what they want in life, so they like women who know what they want in life as well. They like a woman who takes commands, is shrewd, and gives them compliments for their over-ambitious attitude.

So, if you want an alpha male, be ready to conquer the world and put on your high-heel shoes!

3. They love an unpredictable and unique woman

If alpha males see that you are unpredictable and mysterious and they will see you as unique and attractive and they will start chasing you and take you on dates and treat you like a queen.

4. They like an adventurous woman

Alpha males are adventurous and like women who will join their adventures and love trills and challenges.

5. They would fall for a classy woman

They usually are part of famous and influential people and high society circles, so you need to know how to behave at big social events and always look classy.

6. They like a mature and loyal woman

Alpha males are surrounded by many women, so they do not know if someone loves them just for their successful social life, good looks, or just for their strong personality.

They commit in their relationships, so they would like, in turn, their partners to commit as well and be loyal and do not play with them as non–mature women would do.

7. They like a woman who takes care of her appearance

They like a woman who is physically attractive to impress others and proudly show them in public. So, they would not fall for someone who is not presentable.

8. They like an intelligent woman who works hard to achieve her dreams

Alpha males are intelligent and want to be with someone who is intelligent as well to speak about intelligent topics like politics, economy, business, and all smart talks. They love hard-working women who achieve their goals in life.  

If You Want To Raise Successful Kids, Nurturing This Mindset In Them Is Essential, Scientists Find

As a teacher, I can assure you one thing: every child is smart. They possess such intellectual capacities that simply amazed me every single day. Children are full of surprises, and the biggest surprise for me was how smart they really are.

And somehow, I could see some children becoming smarter, and some remaining within some kind of comfort zone that didn’t allow them to grow as the other ones. As time passed, the gap in intellectual performance was so big, that I had to dedicate individual time to those who seemed to be falling behind.

Of course, I felt that I must have had a part in it, but when I started analyzing this division more deeply, I noticed a pattern which was always there: the ‘smarter’ were the ones who were trying hard, while those who were falling behind were the ones who were afraid to try, or who thought that their achievements were somehow still relevant.

And now it’s all become very clear: their mindsets were different by far. As Carol Dweck, a professor of psychology at Stanford University says, the achievers had the ‘growth’ mindset, while those falling behind had a ‘fixed’ mindset, which rooted them somewhere back and didn’t allow them to be courageous of growth.

I have always strived to praise growth and not focus on how ‘intelligent’ a student was because I knew that they were all very intelligent. But it seems that as a teacher, I could do very little during that limited time I had with them.

In this game, a lot more is required than the way we teachers interact with the children. Not trying to toss any kind of blame here, the parents were the main influencers in the way their children saw themselves in the world:

The born-to-be-smart children, and those who were born to grow. These two very different approaches to our abilities are what makes the difference between success and ultimate failure.

The fixed mindset, which is the result of the praise of one child’s intelligence and capabilities, made these children fear failure and stick to what they can do, instead of trying to do what seems impossible.

These children were taught to stick to their innate ‘achievement’ of being smart and capable, and they are afraid of ruining that image they were so praised for. And of course, if you don’t live up to the ideal that you are perfect (by making a mistake), then the praise would diminish and disappear.

So, these children have grown into being adults full of anxiety and fear of failure, because they wouldn’t be called ‘smart’ then, would they? Simply, praising your child for the intelligence they possess is encouraging them to stay within the comfort zone that calls for that praise – and they will never try to creatively combine their knowledge of success and failure to become even more successful.

They will become adults who think that they should be still praised because they were born smart – which in reality is never the case. Even the greatest minds in the world would have been nobody if they had not failed a thousand times and succeeded in the end. They would have not even emerged to be recognized (because they were born smart).

Growth through trial and error, the ability to combine your capabilities and intelligence – this is what makes a person truly successful. This has made the greatest minds of all time truly greatest.

And this is something every child can become through the growth mindset. Through the praise of their effort, and not of how ‘smart’ they are (because, one way or another, they are all smart)!

So, next time, if you see that a certain task for your child is easy to achieve, don’t praise them on how smart they were – give them something more challenging, something they can truly learn from.

Praise them for their efforts and don’t focus too much on whether they’re going to succeed every time. Instead, focus on how much effort they put into it and what led them to fail, so that they can learn from their experience and improve.

Intelligence is the basis upon which we grow – the tool we use for growth. It’s simple: don’t praise the computer because it’s a computer – praise it because it can do so many things.

Our minds are computers, full of potentials that can be developed and built upon. If you praise your child’s mind because they were born with such wonderful complexity, you are not encouraging them to put it to good use.

So, they’ll just hug their brain and make sure that it is praiseworthy because of its processing abilities, and they will always try to stick to keeping that ‘good image’ by not spoiling it with mistakes.

Do you want your child to grow into a successful person, or do you want someone who sticks to the vanity of possessing a tool which mustn’t show any flaws? Praise them for the effort and challenge them with every new task.

 

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