A new story started circling the Internet, which claims of a study proving that men who married chubby women were 10 times happier. Although the study
 itself doesn’t exist, we decided to look into our archive and some other related studies and try to find the connection.

There is definitely something that makes you feel nicer when being around a chubby woman. They always seem more open, affectionate, and relaxed and they shine with positivity which is infectious. Many men do prefer chubby women and can often see them as their potential partners for life.

So, do chubby women really make men feel happier?

An interesting study published in the PLOS one journal, reveals that men under stress prefer chubbier women. A total number for 81 heterosexual men were put through the study, in which 40 of these men took part in a task that increased their stress levels.

When they were given photos of women and they needed to rate their physical appearance, the men who underwent greater stress always chose the chubbier women. Although this has got a lot to do with the subconscious response to reproduction, it consciously reflects as a feeling of greater comfort.

So perhaps it is indeed true that men who marry chubby women feel more comfortable with them in a sea of stress and worries.

Another study revealed that couples who were happy in love tended to gain weight. The justification that comes with this phenomenon has got a lot to do with feeling comfortable with your partner.

So perhaps men who choose chubby women love the way those women feel comfortable around them?

If we take both studies into consideration, we can conclude that both partners in such relationship feel more comfortable with each other. From this, we can definitely conclude that if you feel more comfortable with your partner, you are definitely happier with them.

All in all, even if weight has little to do with the feeling of comfortability with your partner, it is a strong indicator of the same.

Historically speaking, women in ancient Greece and during the Renaissance period who were plump and chubby were considered to be the most attractive ones. There are even countries around the world which still consider overweight women as attractive.

Indeed, wide hips and ample bosoms tend to signify fertility, and this was especially regarded as being true among ancient civilizations. Chubbiness referred to good nutrition and high status.

However, the beauty standards have changed since then. While today many try to argue over the fact that physical appearance has little to do with real beauty, different cultures shape the way physical appearance is perceived and it does have an influence on many others.

Perhaps we are moving toward a different definition of beauty?

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It’s difficult to define leadership but one thing is for sure – it is a skill that you develop every day, a practice that one needs to constantly hone and nurture to get better at it.

This, in short, is Alexa von Tobel’s take on leadership. The founder and CEO of personal finance website LearnVest.com says one is never ‘done growing’ when it comes to leadership.

A successful leader herself, she recently wrote a piece on what it means and what it takes to be one, inspired by a speech from Alibaba’s CEO Jack Ma, one of the most successful businessmen in the world today.

Here are her three takeaways on the matter:

1. You Have to Show Some Love

Being a leader is about creating a positive atmosphere and getting the best of the talent on disposal. Tobel agrees with Ma’s notion that a good leader needs to have bundles of IQ and EQ, but also of what is known as love quotient (LQ).

She says leaders should forge an emotional bond with their team, one that extends beyond their office relationship and one that reflects genuine care for them. A good leader should be looking after his team and be mindful of their wants and needs outside the workplace as well, instead of simply trying to assert his authority by force.

A good leader should be a ‘humble servant’ to the talent, she says, and showing some love is a big part of that.

2. Being a Leader is no Fun and Games

Jack Ma is running a gigantic organization with thousands of employees and, by his own admission, it’s no walk in the park.

A leader never gets a break, he doesn’t have the luxury to go hiding and must take all hits head on.

The second anything goes south, the leader must step up and fix the problem, whether it is after hours, on a sunny Sunday or during their child’s birthday.

It means hard work, dedication and rolling the sleeves up, it means not being afraid of getting your hands dirty.

3. A leader must lead by example

As a leader, one gets to deal with lots of stressful situations all the time. It is in times like these when tensions run high and a leader must push his team to the limits.

When faced with a difficult problem, a leader must persevere and inspire people, to lead them through the rough patches until they all emerge together to the day where things are beautiful again.

The best leaders are those who look at problems from every angle, those that take the time to get to know their people, those that are aware of their shortcomings and are constantly working to better themselves.

A good leader can always become a better leader, it’s a journey that never ends.

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Thanks to their high intelligence, most intelligent people seem to have their lives set to run in a smooth and seemingly satisfactory pace. The truth, though, is that because of their intelligence, these people can’t find happiness easily.

While many people would be satisfied with the life of an intelligent person, and would be happy to possess even a fraction of their fascinating minds, the old saying ‘ignorance is bliss’ is what helps less intelligent people to be much happier than the most intelligent ones.

Perhaps you’re wondering why?

Here are six reasons why highly intelligent people have a hard time finding happiness.

1. Their over-analysis eventually brings them down in the dumps

High intelligence comes with the gift of analysis – and not just any kind of analysis, but that deep one, which can connect everything to everything else. Intelligent people are used to this kind of analysis to such an extent that they tend to over-analyze everything.

While possessing this ability is indeed a gift, it is also a curse at the same time. Being able to see right through people, understand their motives and next moves, and sniff out their true nature usually leads intelligent people to great disappointment.

It is true that we live in a muddy world full of wrong people, not to mention the global affairs which show just how evil this world can be. Having the advantage of perceiving all this is more of a curse than a gift when regarding happiness.

Perhaps taking a lighter approach and understanding that knowing won’t change anything is the key to happiness?

2. Almost everything seems to fall below their high standards

Intelligent people know exactly what they want and anything which falls short of their standards fails to satisfy them. This refers to pretty much everything – from their private relationships, to work and career.

The truth is, in practice, not all expectations are to be met. Creating idealistic views of the world around them is what keeps them dissatisfied with the practical outcomes. This can be easily overcome, though.

Instead of expecting for something to turn out the way you anticipated it should, you could try and work on that same thing and bring it up to the levels of your expectations. If some things are far out of reach, be aware that you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself about things you don’t have control over.

3. They judge themselves too hard

Their high standards also include themselves. This is one of the biggest reasons for their unhappiness. Their ability to analyze everything with a single thought pattern involves them into analyzing themselves too – and they compare the results against the highest of standards.

This is not only about their successes and failures, but pretty much everything about themselves. A simple flashback of a past mistake can haunt them for days. Once their standards are not met, they beat themselves over it and they start seeing themselves as inefficient and as being below what they should be.

The thing is, nobody is perfect and nobody should be perfect – that’s what makes us genuinely US. Instead of going all gloomy about your imperfections, bear in mind that even those ‘imperfections’ are beyond reach for many others. If they pose a problem in your head, work on correcting and improving them.

4. They aim for bigger and bigger things

Highly intelligent people have so much to offer from their minds. This has them always aiming for things greater than the simple feats of life. They always try to aim for a bigger purpose, meaning and patterns. The intellectual power they possess doesn’t allow them to be satisfied with ordinary things.

Their search for exceptionalism in life and in everything they undertake is what can make them feel stressed out and dissatisfied. Not being able to accept the world and their lives as they are, because they can be so much more, is what thrusts them down in the dumps.

The world needs this kind of thinking and this kind of people, but you should know that feeling down because of the place where you are at won’t change anything.

Turn your aims into action and be happy with every new achievement. Your view on a better world is what keeps the world growing, so don’t get disappointed with what is, but be happy with what you know it can be.

5. Very few who can appreciate them or have meaningful conversations with them

Having who you can relate to and who can understand you is a very important thing that can affect your happiness. Unfortunately for highly intelligent people, there are so few who can understand their complex minds.

It’s frustrating to know that you can understand and communicate with anyone about anything, but there are so few who can do the same when your topics of interest are out for discussion. This makes intelligent people feel lonely in a world full of people.

Science has proved that people with high IQ don’t need as much socialization as people with average IQ to be happy. Nonetheless, even people with high IQ want to interact with people and have enjoyable conversations.

It’s true that these people don’t want to engage in small-talk conversations that lead to meaningless or no conclusions at all. That’s why finding likeminded people is their primary focus… which doesn’t always come to satisfactory results. Keep on searching!

6. Intelligent people can often develop psychological issues

Many studies have found a connection between psychological disorders, such as bipolar disorders and social anxiety, and people with high IQ. It’s not that all intelligent people suffer from disorders by default, but even those who don’t are susceptible to depression and isolation because of their over-thinking.

The truth is that their dissatisfaction with almost everything about life, as it can be much better than it is, can lead them to feeling lonely, unsocialized, and eventually depressed. Many of the conclusions they come to are the key to developing different psychological issues that can turn their lives around. 

If you think that this planet is not good enough for you, think again. You are the best thing that can happen to this planet. Even if not many are aware of the things you are aware of, everybody equally needs the same change you crave for.

Use your brilliance to help this world grow and be happy with the gift you possess. There are always those who will appreciate your perfectionism and scrutiny.

And don’t forget that even if you are destined for great things (and you are) happiness lies in the simplest of things, while success in the greatest ones. Combine the two and work on fulfilling your part in the world, as it’s a great one.

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Are you afraid of spiders? Can you think of a solid reason, or experience that made you afraid in the first place? If not, it could mean that you have genetically inherited that phobia from your ancestors, who could have had a traumatic experience with arachnids.

Common knowledge is that memories and learned experiences through one’s lifetime are passed down by teaching future generations or through personal experience. However, new research suggests that certain information may be transferred through the genes.

According to researchers at Emory University School of Medicine, Atlanta, the genetic transfer of memories occurs as a result in change of the chemical makeup of the genes which happens during certain experience. In particular, the results from the study show that traumatic experiences can be genetically passed down to future generations.

In this study, researchers trained mice to fear the smell of cherry blossoms. Before allowing them to reproduce, they conditioned the mice to be traumatized by the smell of cherry blossoms by using electric shocks.

After the mice reproduced, their offspring were exposed to the smell of cherry blossoms, and surprisingly, they showed fearful responses to the smell, although no such experience was actually present in their lifetime. Which is even more curious, the same response could be seen in the following generation too.

During the conditioning process, the brains of the group exposed to the shock showed structural and chemical change in the area that detected the odor, which the offspring and the third generation exhibited as well. Not only did their brain change, but the DNA of the mice had changed too.

To make sure that this phobia was not a social transmission, the scientists inseminated some of the females through IVF. When they saw that the change in the brain structure persisted, they concluded that the brain anatomy was not socially conditioned, but rather inherited.

The resulting phobia in the future generations was inherited through the DNA, which shows how the reactions of these generations were already programmed, perhaps to protect them from the experience which proved to put their ancestors in danger.

The results of the study gave “compelling evidence” that biological transmission of memory is possible, said Professor Marcus Pembrey, a pediatric geneticist at University College London. He added that this addressed constitutional fearfulness that was highly relevant to phobias, anxiety and PTSD, plus the controversial subject of transmission of the ‘memory’ of ancestral experience down the generations.

The implications of the finds can be huge when it comes to human behavior, especially in understanding the rise of neuropsychiatric disorders or obesity, diabetes and metabolic disruptions among humans by taking a multigenerational approach, notes Marcus.

Research like this may prove to be crucial in understanding certain things about the human mind, and what makes us who we are. It could prove beneficial in enhancing treatments for certain illnesses and provide better treatment altogether.

The notion that our DNA could be carrying lessons learned from our ancestors is quite interesting in itself. Perhaps we relive the history of our ancestors without knowing it?

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