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Staying In A Toxic Relationship Can Lead To Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

By
Riley Cooper
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

For most of us, romantic relationships are what provide a source of happiness and deep fulfillment. But, the truth is that not all romantic relationships bring joy and fulfillment into our lives. Not all relationships make our lives easier and more exciting. Not all relationships bring out the best in us.

Sometimes we end up with someone that is selfish, inconsiderate, and manipulative. Someone that shows little or no regard for our feelings and needs. Someone that’s not genuinely interested in us, and the only thing they’re interested in is controlling us and taking advantage of us for their personal gain.  Someone that emotionally abuses us and gradually sucks the energy and happiness out of us.

Sadly, many of us fail to identify the warning signs that show we are in a toxic, emotionally abusive relationship when they start appearing. We usually recognize them after our self-esteem has been completely damaged and our hearts broken.

So, why is this so?

Well, the reason is, in fact, quite simple: An emotionally abusive person never shows their true colors at the beginning of the relationship. Instead, they wear masks. They hide their true character and intentions behind the sweet words, compliments, and kind gestures of love they shower you with.

To make you fall in love with them, they first shower you with attention and affection. Then they act like they’re the kindest and most patient and compassionate person you’ve ever met. Next, they do everything in their power to gain your trust and convince you that they’re the right person for you.

And once you begin placing your faith in them and sharing with them your insecurities and fears, the horror begins. They start playing sick mind games with you. They replace the attention and love they showered you with at the beginning of the relationship with manipulation tactics, such as gaslighting, stonewalling, and guilt-tripping.

In no time, they manage to make you doubt your own perceptions and logic. They make you lose track of yourself.

And when you try to complain to them about something bad they said or did to you, it’s all in vain because they are always ready to start bombarding you with all kinds of excuses. They deny telling you harsh words and hurting your feelings. They act as if they don’t know why you’re accusing them of hurting you or betraying your trust because, in their view, they did nothing wrong.

To avoid taking responsibility for their own mistakes, they have no problem laying the blame at your door for their own crappy behavior. They have no problem accusing you of making things up and exaggerating.

And the sad truth is that the longer you stay in the relationship, the more stressed out and anxious you begin to feel. You begin doubting your qualities and strength. You begin doubting your worth.

And the main problem with this is that by the time you realize that you’re in a relationship with an emotionally abusive person, you’ll have fallen so deeply in love with them and lost your self-esteem that it’ll be very hard for you to leave them. 

You’ll feel like your voice is too soft to oppose them when they criticize you and blame you. You’ll feel like you can’t walk out the door and leave them and everything they put you through behind you. You’ll think that if you leave them and continue your life without them, you’ll be nothing.

And if you gather the strength to leave them, you’ll enter a new battle – the battle in which you’ll have to fight with all you’ve got to learn to control and deal with the stress, anxiety, and depression that emotionally abusive relationships unavoidably cause.

But, what you need to remember is that you’re not alone. You don’t have to fight this battle on your own. Whenever you feel like giving up, remind yourself that you have people in your life who truly love and care about you. Remind yourself that you have your family and friends to rely on and ask for their help and support.

Remember that you deserve to be happy and that an emotionally abusive person doesn’t have the power to take your happiness, strength, and worth away.

Inside The Mind Of A Woman Who’s Afraid To Fall In Love Again

By
Sandy White

She radiates warmth and confidence, walking around with her head held high, leaving an impression that she doesn’t need anyone in her life.

People see her smile, but behind that smile, she is falling apart, and behind the beauty of her eyes, there are painful tears at night. Nobody knows that her soul is crushed but she doesn’t give up on love; she’s strong…she still fights.

Nobody knows that deep inside, she wants to trust someone, to love and be loved but is afraid to give her heart away.

Her soft, fragile heart was mercilessly broken in tiny pieces. No matter how much she tried to put the pieces back together, they never fit the same way they did before. That’s why she built high thorny walls around her heart.

This woman loved wholeheartedly. She gave her heart on a silver plate expecting the same from others. She believed that she will be treated the same way: with love and respect.

Sadly, the more she gave, the less she got. She believed in fairytales but was living in a nightmare. People stepped on her pure soul with dirty feet. They took her heart, played with it and throw it away like garbage. Without any mercy.

Now, she feels like she lost control over her life.

Her whole world fell apart, but she still finds the strength to fight. She tries to drown her sorrows, she fights her inner demons that leave her scared and confused. She isn’t sure whether she will win the battle or not. She has faith in love, but she feels her fears are stronger. She doesn’t want to be hurt again.

Now, she thinks she isn’t good enough.

She focuses on her weaknesses and flaws. Even though she fights, deep inside, she keeps torturing herself, thinking about what she did wrong. She believes she isn’t worthy of love.

Now, she blames herself for everything.

Nobody knows how much she blames herself. She blames herself for being good-hearted, kind, generous. She blames herself for trusting people. She blames herself for everything that went wrong in her life.

She is broken but there’s still a spark burning in her eyes. She still has faith in love but is afraid to fall in love again.

She needs someone to remind her that not everyone is good-hearted like her, but also, not everyone will hurt her heart. She needs someone to remind her that a rainbow comes after a storm.

She needs someone to support her in the battle believing that she will come out as a winner. Because she has faith and she hopes for a better tomorrow. Because miracles happen every day.

Tell her that she is an amazing woman worth every bit of effort. Tell her that you will do anything to make her feel safe and break down the walls of her heart. Tell her that above all, she is the heroine of your life and you will give her the world.

Because a woman like her deserves to love and be loved.

Toxic People Have Many Faces, But Recognizing Them Isn’t Impossible

By
Riley Cooper
Toxic People

I guess you’ve already met someone who fits into the category of toxic people because these people literally lurk around every corner.  Although these individuals come in all shapes and sizes, they all have one thing in common: They can drain your energy and suck the life out of you before you can blink.

To save yourself from falling into the trap of a toxic person, you need to know how to recognize them and handle them effectively. In what follows, we’ve presented some valuable pieces of information that can help you identify toxic individuals easily and save yourself from falling victim to their cruelty and lies.

1. They make drama all the time.

They’re highly negative. They’re always going through crises and problems. Nothing ever works well in their lives. They act like they’re helpless and desperate and like other people can’t understand them. And if you try to offer them your advice, it’ll be in vain because they’ll refuse it by telling you they know it won’t help them, so why bother following it.

2. They have a lot to say but don’t bother to listen to others.

Toxic people possess narcissistic characteristics and only focus on themselves. They consider themselves smarter, better, and more successful and important than everyone else. That’s why they never show interest in other people’s opinions and ideas.

They don’t think other people deserve their attention and time. In their view, whatever others think or have to say is either wrong or irrelevant.

3. They like to control everyone and everything.

When these people want something from you, they’ll do whatever it takes to get it. And the easiest way they can do this is by gaining total control over you.

Thus, a toxic person will try to control your thoughts, feelings, and actions. They’ll try to make you act in ways that suit their needs the best. They will hurt your feelings and treat you ruthlessly if they have to, but they’ll never give up on achieving their purpose.

4. They disguise their lack of tact as ‘honesty’.

Of course, they will admit that they insulted you the other day, but they won’t be ashamed to tell you that they didn’t mean to offend you or hurt your feelings and that they were only being honest.

They’ll even say they did that for your own good and that you should be grateful to them for being open with you.

5. Their relationships are only for show.

They don’t bother to form healthy, meaningful, harmonious, lasting relationships with others because they don’t believe they need anyone to be happy and fulfilled. They believe they’re completely self-sufficient.

Their friendships and romantic relationships are not genuine. They can appear to have plenty of friends, but that’s all just a mask. They don’t truly love and care about other people – they just use them to show how popular they are.

6. They lie all the time.

They lie excessively and for various purposes: to take advantage of others, to avoid admitting to and taking responsibility for their own mistakes and wrongdoings, or to cover up a previous lie – to name just a few. They lie so much that it’s impossible to keep track of their lies. Sometimes, even they can’t tell what the last lie they said was.

7. They enjoy gossiping.

Gossip is malicious and totally meaningless, yet, to a toxic person, it’s something that gives them pleasure and joy. It’s unbelievable, but there are people who enjoy hurting other people’s feelings by talking bad things behind their backs and spreading lies about them.  Are you wondering why?

Well, the answer is pretty simple. Gossip is their way of boosting their own weak ego and self-esteem by tarnishing other people’s reputation.   

What’s the best way to deal with toxic people?

It’s important for you to understand that toxic people hurt other people’s feelings and behave the way they do because they suffer internally. They’re not satisfied with their own lives, so they think that by putting other people down and hurting their feelings, they’ll feel better about themselves.

Trying to ‘give them a taste of their own medicine’ or simply getting into angry arguments with them won’t do you any good. And yes, distancing yourself completely from them would be the easiest way to protect yourself from their negativity.

However, when you can’t do that, because chances are you have to see and interact with such people on a daily basis since they happen to be your family members or coworkers, what you should do to save yourself from their toxic grip is develop empathy and compassion for them and try to remain calm and stable whenever a toxic person tries to provoke you.

You can extinguish their anger and negativity not with harsh reactions, but by treating them with patience and empathy. And chances are when they see that you’re treating them well, they’ll change the way they behave towards you as well.

My Heart Has Been Broken Too Many Times – Here’s What The Next Person Needs To Know

By
Sandy White
Empath

I’ve survived too many crappy relationships. I’ve been hurt too many times. My heart still aches, and I feel broken inside. But, here I’m, stronger than ever. I know, I deserve better and won’t settle for anything less.

I have a lot to offer. I’m worth every bit of effort. I’m worth all the trouble. Here’s what you need to know about loving me.

1. The walls of my heart are high.

I used to think that everyone was good-hearted like me, but I was wrong. I suffered a lot. Now, I’m very cautious of people whose actions don’t match their words. I don’t want to be hurt again; that’s why I’m afraid to give my heart away.

Forgive me if that makes you feel frustrated; I just want to feel safe. Just be patient and treat me right and I will lead you through the thorny path; I’ll give you the keys to my heart.

2. I trust my intuition.

I can sense if your intentions are bad. I can see through all your bulls*it and lies. Life has taught me that. If you want to be with me, just be yourself. No masks. No fakeness. No lies. I deserve to be treated the same way I treat others.

If you can’t accept this, I’ll not be ashamed to show you the door.

3. I notice small things and react accordingly.

If I notice that you want to manipulate me, I won’t stay silent pretending like nothing happened; I’ll react and tell you right away. I don’t want to keep my true feelings inside anymore because I know the outcome of it. On the other side, also, I’ll notice your small acts of kindness and love and appreciate them.

The focus on the good and bad details will give the whole picture whether you truly care about me or not.

4. I truly appreciate kindness.

You may think you are the smartest, most talented person in this world, funny and rich, but I don’t give a damn about that. I’m interested in your character. I’m interested in the way you treat me and other people.

Integrity is everything. I can’t imagine myself being with someone who has no idea what kindness is.

5. Sometimes, my fears are greater than my faith in love.

I want to trust you, believe me. But after all that pain, I’m not able to trust anyone. I can’t believe your sweet words because, in the past, the same words were a poison to my heart. I’m afraid that love is nothing but a game to you.

Don’t give up on me when I fear love. Stay patient and walk beside me holding my hand.

6. When I love, I love wholeheartedly.

With my mind, body, heart, and soul. And I expect the same. I want to be with someone who deserves me. I want to be with someone who will love me as I am and inspires me to be a better person.

I want to be with someone who’ll fight for me with the same passion I fight for them.

7. I always believe in a better tomorrow.

Yes, my heart has been broken too many times, but I still hope for the best. I’ve experienced the worst, but my heart is still full of love. I still dare to take risks in life.

What is life without hope and faith? What is life without love?

8. I’m worth real love.

I’m worth every bit of effort. I know, earning my love won’t be easy, but I’m worth the fight.

You may be the one who will break the walls of my heart, and it will be a new, fresh start. I promise I’ll be only yours. You’ll always be in my heart.

Empaths Easily Detect A Person’s Real Nature, So Never Ever Mess With Them!

By
Riley Cooper
Empaths Easily Detect A Person’s Real Nature

Empaths are excellent at detecting a person’s true colors. They can easily sense your feelings, thoughts, and energy. They can determine whether you’re a genuine, good person only by looking at you. This ability enables them to protect themselves from deceitful, phony, and manipulative individuals, that these days, literally lurk around every corner.

So, what you should always remember is that regardless of how hard you try to hide your feelings and intentions from an empath, you will never succeed in it. And if by any chance you ever think about manipulating an empath, lying to them, or cheating on them, know that you’re going to get busted before you can blink.

Here are 7 reasons why you should never mess with an empath:

1. They know when you’re acting around them.

Empaths can’t stand when a person is pretending to be someone they’re not. When these people truly care about and respect someone, they accept them as they are – with all their flaws and weaknesses.

So, if you already know someone who is an empath and want to keep them in your life, then make sure you are always yourself. Always show your real feelings, opinions, and intentions, and you can be sure that the empath will appreciate this a lot and make you feel comfortable in your own skin even more.

2. They’re the best human lie detectors.

Empaths possess this unique gift to detect lies from a mile. They don’t need to learn specific tactics so as to identify when someone is lying to or trying to manipulate them.

All they have to do is just look at a person and their gut will tell them whether they’re liars, hypocrites, or manipulators.

3. They can tell when you’re jealous.

Empaths can easily sense when you are jealous, no matter how hard you try to hide this from them. However, in order not to make you feel uncomfortable, they’ll pretend like they don’t notice it and they’ll even try not to do anything that could arouse jealousy in you.

4. They can tell when you hate them too.

If you don’t like them, empaths don’t have to wait for you to tell them that – they can sense that themselves. So, if an empath notices that this is how you feel about them, this time they won’t pretend that they don’t notice it. Instead, they’ll distance themselves completely from you.

5. They can’t stand fake flattery.

Empaths can spot flatterers from a mile. They find them so irritating, negative, and insufferable.

So, if by any chance you think that if you shower them with compliments and sweet words, you’ll take advantage of their kindness and compassionate nature and get what you want from them, know that you’re awfully wrong. They’ll notice your true intentions right away.

6. They can tell if you have prejudices.

An empath can easily see if you hold prejudices towards a certain race, religious group, gender, or someone’s sexual orientation.

Empaths can’t stand shallow, judgmental people who have negative, unjustified opinions and attitudes towards people who are different from them. And they never hesitate to show that.

7. They can sense when you’re not okay.

If an empath sees that something is weighing you down, they won’t hesitate to ask you if you’re okay and if they can help you in any way.

And if you attempt to hide your real feelings and state of mind when you’re going through a rough time, know that the empath won’t fall for this.

So, instead of telling them something like: “I’m fine” when you’re actually really worried or sad, tell them how you really feel and accept their help.

An Apology Is Not Going To Make Up For Everything You Did To Me

By
Mary Wright

Stop saying you are sorry because your sorry won’t take back everything you did to me. It won’t compensate for all the nights I spent crying in my bed, waiting for you.

Your sorry won’t make all the lies you’ve told me right to my face disappear. It won’t take away all the baggage you’ve brought into my life and make it easier to carry.

I appreciate your desire to change. I am happy to see you finally empathizing and realizing all the pain you’ve caused me.

However, your apology won’t make everything okay. It won’t erase all the hurt and pain you’ve put me through. It won’t replace and stop all the flashbacks, the nightmares, and the never-ending fear.

I accept your apology, but that doesn’t mean that you are allowed back in my life. It doesn’t mean that I’ve forgotten all you did to me.

Because it is really insulting to me that you could believe that a simple apology can make up for all the trauma I’ve experienced for years because of you.

I am sorry that you feel guilty. I am sorry that you are losing sleep. I am sorry because now you want to get me back. But, if I am being honest, you deserve it. And yes, you should feel terrible and guilty for your actions.

If you could treat me like crap for so long, I can block your number and ignore your texts. After you’ve treated me like I was disposable, you don’t exist for me.

And I don’t care if your words are really true this time. Sincere or not, they are way too late.

You can go on saying that you’ve never wanted to do and say all those nasty things to me. You can go on saying that you’ve never meant to break my heart. But you did. You can continue trying to justify yourself and your actions, but it won’t make any difference to me now.

Enough with the drama. Enough with the fights. I don’t want to have any more of it. I am done. I am done talking. I am done explaining. I am done listening.

I moved on. I’ve put behind everything you and I have gone through. That’s why now, I am telling you – stop bothering me and leave me alone.

I forgive you if that’s what you need to calm your guilty conscience, but I don’t want to see you ever again.

You’ve made your bed, now go lie in it.

Letting Go Of Him Is Difficult, But Sometimes It’s The Right Thing To Do

By
Riley Cooper
Letting Go Of Him Is Difficult, But Sometimes It’s The Right Thing To Do

The saying “All good things come to an end” may sound like a cliché to you, but it isn’t far from the truth. It can sometimes be very hard, especially when it is the most important relationship in your life that’s come to an end.

Indeed, letting go of the person who was once everything to you is difficult and painful, but sometimes that’s the only way you can save yourself from pain.

And I know how you feel. I know what you’re going through.

You deeply fell in love with him. You let him into your heart and devoted every single part of you to him.  He was the reason behind all your smiles and moments of happiness. He was the one that made your heart beat like crazy. You had a great time together, but you also went through many problems and tests. You fought hard to preserve your relationship but somehow things got out of control.

Many times, you heard that little voice in your head telling you: “You need to let him go.” It sounded awful. Unbearable. You couldn’t stand listening to it, so you tried to keep it quiet.

You never thought that you would have to tell him goodbye. You believed you were meant to be together. You believed he was your soulmate.

You couldn’t accept the reality that many things changed in your relationship. You couldn’t accept the fact that the love you once felt for each other faded away.

And don’t try to think of the reasons why things ended between you the way they did. Maybe your characters didn’t match any longer. Maybe the chemistry and connection faded away over time. Maybe you started having too many problems and fights. Maybe you learned that you were headed in different directions. Or maybe you realized that you weren’t right for each other and that the universe had different plans for you.

But, that’s how things work. Life is not perfect. Love is not perfect too. Relationships are supposed to make you feel happy and emotionally fulfilled. Yet, if they only worry you and make you feel sad and heavy, it means it’s time for you to let go.

It’s time you let go of the person who doesn’t bring the best out of you anymore. The person who no longer pays attention to you. The person whose feelings for you have cooled down a long time ago.

I know it’s painful to let go of the person who was once everything to you. The person you loved unconditionally. But sometimes that’s the best thing you can do for yourself.

And no! I’m not trying to say that you should give up without a fight. You let go of someone only after you’ve exhausted all your means to save your relationship. Only after you’ve given your best to make things work.

After all, there’s no use fighting for someone who doesn’t bother losing you. Someone who has given up on you a long time ago. Someone who has given up without a fight.

There’s no use staying in a relationship that drains you emotionally and physically. A relationship that makes you feel weak, confused, empty, and lost.

You can’t expect to change someone into the person you think you want them to be. You can’t change someone who does not want to be changed. You can’t make someone love you. Love is never forced.

You owe it to yourself to accept the truth. The truth that he’s not the right for you and that you can’t allow yourself to hold on to something that is no longer there. You can’t hope that some miracle will happen and save your relationship.

You need to know when it’s time to walk away.

You need to know that letting someone go is not a failure. It is a loss and it is painful, but it’s not a failure. As a matter of fact – it’s one of the greatest lessons life can teach you.

It teaches you that love doesn’t always look and feel like you thought it would. It teaches you that sometimes love doesn’t last forever. That soulmates aren’t dropped aside your door. They are found after you face many challenges, ups and downs, and struggles in your relationships.

It teaches you that true love can strike you when you least expect it.

And that’s why parting ways is sometimes the most reasonable thing to do. You’ll lose one person but this will open other paths for you. Paths that will lead you towards your happiness, towards your peace.

Paths that will take you to the man who will realize both your outside and inner beauty and worth the moment he sees you. The man who will be more than willing to put in the effort with you. The man who will know how to love, respect, and value you the best because you deserve nothing less than that. The man who will know that you’re worth every effort.

A Woman’s Physical Appearance Isn’t The Only Thing Guys Find Attractive

By
Riley Cooper
A Woman’s Physical Appearance

Yes, most guys would agree that a woman who has long legs, long hair, voluptuous lips, big boobs, or a fine bottom, or who wears trendy clothes is irresistibly attractive. But, the truth is that a woman’s physical appearance is not the only thing guys find attractive in her.

In what follows, we’ve presented a list of 8 qualities that guys find even more attractive than good looks in women, and trust us, some of them may really surprise you.

Here they are: the other things guys find attractive as well:

1. Intelligence.

This may come as a surprise to those who conform to the “men like sexy, dumb blondes” stereotype. Yes, there are men who feel “threatened” by intelligent women, but that doesn’t mean you should play dumb.

And, of course, it’s not like you need to have an extremely high IQ or be able to tell the whole history of your country. This is more about the ability to show awareness, wisdom, and ambition and have worldly knowledge and a good sense of humor.

2. Genuineness.

In an era of social media, it’s easy to show how perfect our life is on Facebook and Instagram, but this is not what turns men on. A real man is interested in a woman who is honest and reliable. A woman who doesn’t wear masks in public and who doesn’t pretend to be someone she’s not. A woman who shows her true colors. A woman that is genuine.

3. Optimism.

A cheerful, energetic, positive woman is the kind of woman that everyone wants to be around. It’s like she possesses magnetic energy that draws everybody’s attention. A woman who always looks on the brighter side of life has the power to seduce any man.

4. Calmness.

A calm, collected, relaxed woman is a real turn-on. Dating this kind of woman means being with someone who is in total control over her emotions and actions.

On the other hand, dating a drama queen means being with someone who has frequent outbursts, enjoys gossiping, and makes impetuous decisions and dramatic scenes. (1)

Having said that – who do you think men find more attractive?

5. Loyalty.

No one on earth wants to be lied to and betrayed. When a guy meets a woman, he notices the way she behaves and respects her loved ones.

If he notices that she talks behind her friends’ backs or declines their invitation to go out with them on the pretext of being tired so that she can do something else, he won’t think she’s the right one for him.

6. Respect.

There’s nothing more appealing than a person who treats themselves and others as well with respect and dignity. And the lady who possesses this trait is something all men are searching for and find irresistible. (2)

7. Punctuality.

Most guys get that women need more time to get ready when going out. But no one likes to stick around. And a lady who is always punctual shows that she values everyone else’s time.

8. Friendliness.

Ask a man why he adores his lady, and besides the other reasons, he’ll tell you how easily she makes friends with everybody and how she treats everybody with kindness, respect, and dignity.

There’s nothing that’s more appealing and seductive than a woman who is kind, respectful, and friendly. Don’t you agree?

The Day I Stopped Caring Is The Day I Started Living My Best Life

By
Stephanie Reeds

A few years ago, I stopped caring. All together. 

Yes, just like that. 

It’s absolutely crazy how it all became instantly trivial to me, but it just happened. And I felt like someone had lifted a big weight off my shoulders.

My life changed drastically and I changed for the better.

I stopped giving a damn.

I stopped worrying about things that are out of my control. I stopped caring about how my actions make me look. I stopped giving a damn about what others think about me. My opinions. My preferences. My ideals. My thoughts. My insecurities. What I think of myself is now more important than what others think of me. Most importantly I stopped giving a damn about how all of that makes me feel. Now, I am myself. And I am not afraid to show everyone that I am truly comfortable in my own skin.

I stopped giving a damn about reaching milestones. Chasing certain goals. Running and rushing in life. Worrying about deadlines. Obsessing about strict plans. Exhausting myself over a job that makes me miserable. I am now done with all of it. I am done pretending that I like what I do when what I do actually sucks the soul out of me. It doesn’t matter what it’s socially accepted. Because my life is about me and myself alone. No one else.

I stopped caring about being okay with everyone. I stopped giving a damn whether they like me, love me, respect me, or hate me. I gave up trying to be the perfect human being who everyone adores. I stopped fulfilling everyone’s wishes. I stopped making everyone happy. I stopped prioritizing their needs. I am not a puppet and I am not a robot. I am a human being and I have emotions, just like you. I cannot spend my life putting up with people who pretend to be my friends. I deserve better.

I stopped giving a damn about making the most of my life. They say the time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time and that is the biggest truth you need to learn about life. So, I will no longer overwork myself up to the point of total collapse.  I will no longer risk my health for things that don’t matter. I will no longer feel bad about taking the time off to relax and recharge. I will no longer punish myself for not being capable to finish a task. Instead, I will learn to forgive myself and accept myself just the way I am.

I’ve realized that I’ve wasted a lot of my time, nerves and energy worrying about everything else but myself. Luckily, that’s over now. I turned over another leaf. In fact, I opened a whole new book. And that book is about me, myself and I.

The day I stopped caring about everything is officially the day I started living my life.

You should try it too. I HIGHLY recommend it.

A Toxic Relationship Will Destroy Your Life And Mess Up Your Mind For Good

By
Stephanie Reeds

I see you trying to justify his actions when it is clear as a day that he’s hurting you. I see you putting up with his insufferable behavior, all because deep down you believe in him.

You believe he can change. You believe he can become the man that you desperately need. You believe he can give you the love that you crave.

And for what? He’s still the same man that he’s always been. He disrespects you. He puts you down in front of everyone. He manipulates you. He gaslights you. He blames you for every little thing that you go through.

He controls your whole goddamn life and you do nothing to stop him…

Wake up!

Welcoming toxicity in your life will destroy your world. And it will definitely mess up your mind for good.

When you let a toxic person into your life, fall in love with them, and stay with them longer than they deserve, they become a part of you. Slowly, but surely, you become a part of them as well. They start to bring out the worst in you. And it is not until someone close to you brings it up that you realize how much you’ve changed. For the worse.

It is true what people say. You are who you hang out with. You are who you spend your mornings with. You are who you drink your coffee with. You are who you choose to give your time to. You are who you let inside your life.

So, why would you let someone that toxic take up such a big part of your life?

Dating a toxic person who cheats on you, someone you can’t trust or confide in, someone who doesn’t care about anything else but themselves, someone who is the reason for your tears every night will make you a paranoid mess.

Being with a person who constantly turns every conversation into an argument, someone who constantly puts the blame on you, someone who gets mad at you for even breathing around them, someone who cannot control themselves, will change your life and transform you into a bitter, hateful and miserable human being.

Is that what you really want out of life?

Is that what you’ve always dreamed of?

I don’t think so.

Dating a toxic individual who is obsessed with creating drama, someone who is pathologically jealous of you, someone who takes away your freedom and isolates you from all of your friends, someone who makes fun of your insecurities and criticizes you every time you make a mistake… is the biggest worst thing you can do to yourself.

A person like that is not capable of loving you. Don’t let their shallow words fool you. Don’t let their sudden mood swings convince you that they care for you. They don’t.

And most importantly, don’t ever mistake aggression for passion.

One wrong turn in life, one toxic relationship and one toxic partner can cost you your life. It can turn you into someone you won’t be able to recognize. Someone you’ll be ashamed of, someone you’ll deeply despise, someone you will hate for the rest of your life.

Luckily, you have a choice. It’s your own decision whether you will keep punishing yourself by staying in that relationship or you will finally free yourself from the nasty claws of your toxic partner and start living your life the way you deserve.

Staying in a toxic relationship and calling that fighting for love is the worst thing that you can do for yourself.

Stop hurting yourself and just leave until you have time.

It’s not too late, I swear.

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