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Here’s What You Need To Know Before Falling For The Girl With An Anxious Mind

By
Stephanie Reeds

If you somehow crossed paths with an emotional, vulnerable woman with a loud, anxious mind, you should know that you’ve just found a special kind of person. A real gem. She’s not the person you think she is. She’s not like anyone else you’ve met.

She has a big heart and she has a lot of love to give, but sometimes it is hard for her to open it to the people around her. You see, most of the time her mind is louder than her than she is. Most of the time anxiety has total control over her emotions.

So, even though you think that you have your way with her, I have to let you know. It will take some time for you to get to know her. Don’t be so sure that you’ve already got her figured out.

Here’s everything you need to understand before falling in love with her:

1. HER ANXIETY SOMETIMES MAKES HER SOUND RUDE

The only thing she wants is to show you just how much she cares for you, but her anxiety is not always in sync with her plans. Trust me when I say this. She cannot sit still without overanalyzing every thought that crosses her mind. So, most of the time she says things that she doesn’t mean. Instead of fighting with her, do your best to understand her pain.

2. BUT IN REALITY, SHE’S VERY FRAGILE

I know that this sounds a bit contradictive, but she has a big heart. A fragile, glass heart full of love. The problem is… she cannot express her feelings like every normal human being. She cannot let you inside the bright chambers of her heart without first facing you with her demons.

3. SHE IS A GIRL WHO GETS ATTACHED VERY QUICKLY

She’s a truly emotional human being. She feels everything at once and she carries all of the happiness and sorrow on her shoulders. If you show her just how much she means to you, she won’t hesitate to give herself to you. She will offer her heart as a shelter for you and she will do everything to make you feel happy.

But if you take her for granted and break her heart, that will be the end of her.

4. SHE CONSTANTLY OVERTHINKS EVERYTHING

Overanalyzing and overthinking everything is her daily routine. No matter how hard she tries to occupy her brain with something else, she is constantly worried about all sorts of things.

A woman with an anxious mind and a fragile heart has the loudest mind. That is why she will need you to make her aware of your honest intentions. She wants to know that the one she loves feels the same way about her.

5. BECAUSE DEEP DOWN SHE IS TERRIFIED

Her cool, calm exterior might not always show how she really feels, but deep down she is really scared. She is convinced that she’s not good enough for this world. She is insecure. She is afraid that you might easily replace her.

6. BUT WHEN SHE LOVES, SHE LOVES FROM THE BOTTOM OF HER HEART

But, despite her insecurities and her fears, her love is bigger and stronger than the universe we exist in. She is a vulnerable, emotional woman who wears her heart on the sleeve and loves unconditionally. Because she doesn’t know any other way.

She is not the kind of woman who lives half-assed. To her, it is all or nothing.

I’m 30, Single, And There’s Nothing Wrong With Me

By
Riley Cooper

When one is in their 20s and single, the most common reaction they get from others when asked about their relationship status is: “Oh, that’s okay. You’re young. You’ll find someone – there’s plenty of time.”

But when one is in their 30s and still single, BOOM, there you go – everything turns into drama: “What’s wrong with you?” “Are you really that repulsive?” “Your clock is ticking, you better find yourself a partner soon!”

It sounds cruel, right?

Well, I am about to turn 31 and I’m still single. And NO!

There’s nothing wrong with me. I’m not repulsive. And, yes, my biological clock is ticking, but what has love got to do with it?

I left my last relationship two years ago and I haven’t been dating since.

Why?

Because I’ve decided to take a break from the dating world.

I’ve decided to take a break from investing myself with all my heart and soul into one-sided, poor relationships.

I’ve decided to take a break from wasting my time and love on people unworthy of them.

And I’m completely fine with it.

I’m completely fine with being single.

Going alone to weddings and family gatherings is not a problem.

The only problem I’m faced with is people’s reactions to my relationship status when they hear that I’m single.

Yes, being single in my 30s sounds scary to them – like it’s the end of the world.

When I meet some old college friends, most of whom are married and have kids, or some relatives of mine, I’m amazed by the fact that none of them asks me about my education, my career, or about the time I spent living in Europe. Our conversations always start and end with my “single” relationship status.

“How come you’re still single?” “Isn’t there anyone special in your life?” “Is it so difficult for you to fall in love?” “Have you tried some of the dating apps?”

These are just some of the rude questions I’m always bombarded with at every party and social gathering I go to.

And, to be honest, it’s hard hearing those questions and enduring the way people look at me – like there’s something wrong with me.

It’s hard knowing that whenever I answer those rude personal questions, I look like I’m trying to justify myself.  I look like I’m trying to conceal my loneliness.

And I am not. Because I don’t feel lonely or miserable.

I don’t think I’m a failure.

And, okay, there are times when I wish I had someone by my side. Someone to love and share my life with. There are times when I get emotional, like when a photo of someone’s wedding pops on my newsfeed on Facebook. But that’s just a phase that comes and goes. Feeling this way from time to time doesn’t mean I’m desperate to find love.

Being single doesn’t mean I’m incapable of falling in love or committing to someone. It doesn’t mean I’ll stay single forever.

It just means that true love hasn’t happened to me yet and there’s nothing wrong with that. It means that I don’t base my happiness on my relationship status. It means that I have more time to consider my priorities and opportunities and focus on my personal and professional development.

Being single means that I have so much time to work on myself and grow that when the right person for me eventually comes along, I will know how to show up as the best version of myself in that relationship.

And until I find ‘The One,’ I’ll enjoy the love that’s present in my life – the love for my family, close friends, and all the people who truly love me and care about me.

I’ll enjoy my career and my hobbies. I’ll enjoy doing the things that make me happy and give me a sense of fulfillment.

I’ll enjoy my life and be grateful for all the amazing people I have by my side.

I’ll enjoy my life while focusing on my happiness and accepting who I am and where I am.

Stop Doing These 8 Things For Your Teenager If You Want To Raise A Responsible Adult

By
Stephanie Reeds
8 things you should stop doing for your teenager

Pardon my bluntness, but…

Everywhere I look, I see is spoiled youngsters who own the most expensive gadgets, clothes, and cars, but have no idea how to make breakfast for themselves or tie their shoes.

I wish I would have been mistaken, but that is the reality, my fellow readers.

More and more children are raised to believe that the world revolves around them and that they can have everything they wish without putting any effort whatsoever.

As a result, these children develop into entitled human beings who have no sense of responsibility, no will to work on themselves and an inflated self-confidence due to the fact that they’ve been constantly glorified and praised by their parents.

So, the question remains. How can we raise successful and competent adults when we’re constantly spoiling them?

Here are 8 things you should immediately stop doing for your teenager:

1. MAKING THEIR BREAKFAST

Your job as a parent is to make sure that there is food in the fridge. Your children cannot be used to the fact that mommy or daddy will always be here to cook some dinner and pack their lunch for school.

Your kid has to learn what it means to be independent and self-reliant. Failing to provide them with such essential knowledge can result in truly bad outcomes in the long run.

2. WAKING THEM UP FOR SCHOOL

Quit being their alarm clock. If you’re still waking them up in the morning and making sure that they don’t skip class, it’s time to let their clock do it. Your kid should develop a sense of responsibility for their actions and that can be achieved only through their own experiences.

Our goal is to raise well-functioning, responsible and competent adults. Do not take that away from your children by spoiling them.

3. FINDING THEIR LOST OR FORGOTTEN THINGS AROUND THE HOUSE

It is always easier to ask your mom where your missing sock is instead of actually taking the time to look for it yourself. Because mothers know best right? That’s what they’re here for. Well, NO.

Next time your children ask you where you put their sweater, tell them to get up and look for it themselves.

4. FILLING OUT THEIR SCHOOL PAPERWORK

Our children cannot develop into ambitious, resourceful and responsible human beings if we constantly do everything in our power to make them useless. Every single experience in life, even the one that seems like the least important is a lesson.

If you think that finishing something for them will help them, think again. You are taking their life away from them. You are creating an incompetent and weak human being.

5. WASHING THEIR CLOTHES

Your children need to understand that you cannot be their maid. They have to realize that it’s not a mother’s job or a woman’s job to do the laundry or wash the dishes. Everyone in the family, no matter how young or old has to have equal responsibilities.

6. HELPING WITH THEIR LAST-MINUTE SCHOOL PROJECTS

This should go without saying. Your children’s homework is something that is supposed to help them learn their subject. It is all a part of their education. And just like everything else in life, if they forget to do it, the consequences will be unpleasant. They will score low. But that will teach them something.

It will introduce them to the concept of responsibility and commitment to work.

7. CALLING THEIR TEACHERS

If your children have certain unresolved issues with a professor, they have to be able to talk about their problem to them. Parents should only be involved in that communication if the situation escalates and the kid is no longer capable of doing anything about it.

Other than that, parents should never meddle in the teacher-pupil bond.

8. POKING YOUR NOSE INTO THEIR COLLEGE PLANS

The worst thing you can do to your kid is poking your nose into their future education plans. It’s one thing to give them advice and completely another to force them to pick a college that you’d love but they would hate.

Let them feel free about choosing their future vocation. Let them find themselves in this world. Let them explore their options. More importantly, let them learn from their own mistakes. That is the only way they will evolve.

How To Take Care Of Your Friendships When You Are In Different Phase In Life

By
Stephanie Reeds

Life is unpredictable. It is a scary rollercoaster ride that takes us high in the clouds and then right out of nowhere drives us down in the gutter. Time passes and it feels like nothing changes, but then you look back and nothing feels the same anymore.

And so, eventually, there comes a time when everything we once dreamed of changes and suddenly, we have no other option but to adjust our sails and keep moving forward.

Whether it’s moving to another country, settling in a marriage, starting a family, focusing on our career, we are following a different road in life. Each an every one of us ends up in very different stages in life.

But even though life can sometimes drive us apart from our friends, that doesn’t mean that our relationship should end.

Here are a few tips on how to take care of your friendships when you are in completely different places:

1. REMEMBER WHY YOU BECAME FRIENDS IN THE FIRST PLACE

Remember how you met, remember everything you’ve been through together and try to reconnect with your friend. Whether it’s a crazy inside joke about something you two did in the past or place where you had the most fun together, make sure to find the time and reflect on these special memories.

2. MAKE MORE TIME FOR FRESH NEW MEMORIES

It is amazing to look back at your beautiful memories and laugh at everything you’ve been through, but your friendships won’t last long if you don’t make time for new memories.

No matter how busy you are, try to find at least two or three hours and spend them with your best friend. Try out a new activity or sit for lunch at the newest hot spot in town. Talk about everything that happened to you, celebrate your victories and share your visions. Be vulnerable in front of them.

3. DON’T BE SO QUICK TO JUDGE WITHOUT KNOWING WHAT THE OTHER PERSON IS GOING THROUGH

When you are in completely different places in life, it is normal to have certain judgements about the other person. You don’t really know what they’re going through, so you make an assumption. But the problem with assumptions is that they’re usually are wrong.

When something like that happens, it often results in mistrust and ultimately, in separation. So, before you jump to a conclusion next time, make sure to call them and ask them what’s going on. Be open about how you feel and listen to their side of the story.

 4. BE OPEN ABOUT YOUR LIMITS

Even though it seems like time is the number one reason for struggling to maintain a friendship, that is not entirely true. There are a lot of other obstacles that sometimes stand in the way. When you’re in a different stage in life, it is more difficult to balance everything that you do.

So, while it is very helpful to be flexible and understanding, it is also truly important to be honest about your possibilities. You have to be realistic about your plans and let your friend know what they can expect from you.

That is the only way your friendship can thrive.

5. DON’T GET CAUGHT UP IN SOCIAL COMPARISONS

We’ve all done this to ourselves. We’ve all look at our friend and compared ourselves to them. “Why are she/more successful than me? /
“How can I find happiness in life and be like her/him?”

It seems like somehow it is always important to us to keep track of who is better at the game called life. It is sad, but half of the friendships out there are based on competition.  

That is exactly why I am telling you this. Competing with your friend means that your friendship is not real. Plus, you will never know for sure what they are struggling with. Don’t be so quick to judge.

6. NOURISH YOUR OLD FRIENDSHIPS BUT DON’T BE AFRAID TO MAKE NEW ONES

Last but not least, even though it is important to nourish your old friendships and adjust your sails in order to meet them halfway, you shouldn’t be afraid to get out of your comfort zone and meet new people.

We grow up and we change. As time passes, we realize that even though it is essential to work on our old relationships, we also need new people in our lives.

Despair No More – The Man Who’ll See Your Worth Will Come Along

By
Riley Cooper

I know your heart has been broken many times. I know you’ve been through hell and back.

I know you’ve suffered.

I know you’ve sacrificed yourself to prove to some people how much they mean to you. And I also know that it was all in vain.

Because you loved and trusted men that appreciated neither you nor everything you were doing for them. Men who didn’t care about all the sacrifices you made for the relationship. Men who took you for granted. Men who nonchalantly shattered your heart and left you to pick up the pieces by yourself.

You loved men who instead of seeing your worth only saw the things they didn’t like about you. They saw your weaknesses, insecurities, and fears. They saw your mistakes and failures. They saw your flaws and turned them against you.

They made you feel like you weren’t good enough for them.

For them, you were never smart enough, beautiful enough, attractive enough, interesting enough. Instead, you were naïve, dumb, boring, and full of imperfections.

They diminished your confidence to boost their own ego. They criticized you and made you feel weak and useless to make themselves feel smarter and important.

You gave them your all and they stomped on your heart and shattered your hopes.

You loved and trusted men who tried to make themselves feel and look like they were “machos” by playing with your feelings and manipulating you.

You loved men who made you lose trust in everyone surrounding you.

You gave your heart and soul to men who made you think that love is hard and painful. That it does not exist.

Now, you think that every man out there is planning to fool you and hurt you. You think all men are the same.

But, you’re wrong.

Because the man who will see your worth will come along.

There will come a man who will appreciate every single thing about you and everything you do for him. A man who will see the purity of your soul and your outward and inner beauty the moment he lays his eyes on you.

There will come a man who will accept and cherish you just the way you are. He’ll know all your annoying habits, whims, and insecurities, and he’ll have seen you at your worst, but he won’t criticize you or make you feel bad about it.

He’ll embrace your imperfections because he knows that they’re a part of the person that occupies the most special place in his heart.

There will come a man who will respect you as a person and your feelings, opinions, needs, and wishes as well. He’ll respect you and act maturely and responsibly when you disagree with him and when your opinions are totally opposed to his.

There will come a man who will be your best friend. Your greatest help. Your cheerleader. Your crying shoulder. Your strength. Your companion. Your partner in crime. The most amazing lover.

There will come a man who will know how to treat you – with kindness, compassion, dignity, and lots of affection. A man who will make you feel like you’re the happiest and most loved and important person in the world.

There will come a man who will stick with you through thick and thin. He’ll never leave you to deal with your worries, problems, and pains on your own. He’ll never allow himself to be the reason for your sadness or pain.

There will come a man who will always have your back and who won’t let anyone criticize you or make you feel sad in his presence.

He won’t be hesitant or afraid to sacrifice his own happiness and needs for you because he knows you’re worth every effort. Every struggle. Every pain.

There will come a man who won’t be afraid to walk through fire to defend you from any evil and make you feel safe and protected.

There will come a man who won’t hesitate to go the extra mile to make you happy.

There will come a man who will treat you as his equal and who will never try to make you feel weak and unimportant.

There will come a man who will know that you are more than good enough. When he looks at you, you’ll know he truly loves you. You’ll never have to question his feelings for you or wonder where you stand with him.

There will come a man who will be hopelessly and deeply in love with you. A man who will be sure about you and choose you every day. A man who will know he always needs you by his side and that you’re the best thing that could have ever happened to him.

There will come a man who won’t have to lose you to realize your worth.

10 Brutal Realities That Will Slap You In The Face And Help You Get Your Life Together

By
Stephanie Reeds

I’m sick and tired of reading and listening to these fairytale stories. I mean come on…

I am a very realistic person. Well, okay sometimes I sometimes get a bit pessimistic, but let’s put that aside for now.

The thing that pisses me the most is the fact that there are more and more people that enjoy living in a complete delusion. I can’t seem to understand that.

I know many grown, mature people who are simply unwilling to accept the harsh realities of life. It’s not that they’re not aware of those truths, they simply love living their lives inside their imaginary bubble.  

And then when they finally face some of these inevitable obstacles in life, they are disappointed and broken. The whole world is suddenly conspiring against them.

That is why today I wish to talk about this and challenge you. These are 10 brutal truth you all have to accept in order to get your sh*t together and start living:

1. LIFE WITHOUT GOALS IS POINTLESS

If you are not working hard towards a certain goal that fills your life with meaning and gives you the purpose for your existence, you are walking in the wrong direction.

Trust me on this, we are all here for a certain reason. Stop wasting your time and find out what’s yours.

2. WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOU IS NOT IMPORTANT

I know. This is the biggest cliché a person can say. And I know that you’ve probably heard it a thousand times, but that is only because it is the truth.

Not worrying about what others think about us is a skill we should all master. Because at the end of the day, you know how it is… “What Susie says of Sally says more of Susie than of Sally”.

3. YOU CAN’T HAVE CONTROL OVER EVERYTHING

I know a lot of people who suffer from anxiety as a result of not having control over their lives. I truly understand their pain. I’ve been there myself.

But luckily, I’ve also learned the most valuable lesson in life. You are a human being. Some things will never be in your power. Accept that. Let go. Release the stress.

4.  FAILURE IS A STEPPING STONE TO SUCCESS

Life is full of ups and downs. You cannot avoid those painful moments and failures and make a shortcut right to success. It is unavoidable to fail in life. That is how you learn and become even stronger.

Don’t fear failures. They are just stepping stones to success.

5. YOU ARE NOT WHAT YOU OWN

Cool tech-gadgets, expensive clothes, massive jewelry, cars, bags – they are all just possessions. And they have nothing to do with you. You cannot be defined by what you own.

No matter how much you buy in order to make yourself the person you’ve always wanted to be, these things will never add real value to you. You are what your soul carries.

6. THINK ABOUT SOMETHING AND TAKING ACTION ARE COMPLETELY DIFFERENT THINGS

We are all dreaming about something. Daydreaming it is important. But, the consequences of it really scare me.

Every time you think about your goal and decide to daydream some more instead of actually making the initial step and take action, remember… Success will not knock on your door. It’s your responsibility to chase after it and get it!

7. CHANGE IS INEVITABLE

This is coming from a person who was once too afraid to even change the route from home to work. I hated change. I feared change. I was way too anxious about the fact that everything in life is temporary.

But, here I am. My life has been completely changed since then and I absolutely love it.

You cannot resist change. Whatever you do, you will never stop the natural flow of things. So, you might as well just accept it.

8. THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE WILL DIE

Accept it. We will all face the same destiny. It’s only a matter of time.

That is why it’s so important to be grateful for the people you have in your life. Hug the ones you love and let them know just how much they mean to you. Tomorrow might never come for some of us.

9. WORRYING ABOUT SOMETHING WON’T DO YOU ANY GOOD

Worrying is just a waste of time and it doesn’t do anything useful to actually change the outcome. Stop wasting your energy and time on things that you cannot control. Instead, try to focus your attention on finding a better solution to make things right again.

10.T HE REASON FOR YOUR PAIN ARE YOUR FLEETING FEELINGS

So many of us think that our temporary feelings like excitement and joy are happiness. We fail to realize that all of these emotions are fleeting. They only exist in the heat of the moment, they give us this natural high and make us feel blessed.

That is not real happiness. True happiness comes from our inner equilibrium. When we are at peace with ourselves, we shine with happiness.

Why Empaths Are Like Magnets For Toxic People And How To Break The Vicious Cycle

By
Riley Cooper

Empaths are these kind, compassionate, tender, incredible human beings. With their unique personality and sweet, compassionate, intuitive nature, they’re like sent on a mission from the Universe to help and save others.

These people possess the gift to feel other people’s feelings and energy. They intuitively know the state of mind, tastes, and yearnings of the people they are around. Therefore, they understand everyone.

Empaths enjoy helping others. When they notice someone is struggling with problems or pain, they can’t resist helping them. It’s no wonder they are called “the healers of society.”

Empaths make a special, meaningful connection with other people. They connect with others on a deep emotional, mental, and spiritual level.

These sensitive, compassionate, caring human beings can’t stand seeing other people suffer and therefore they’d never allow themselves to be the reason behind someone’s sadness, pain, or suffering.

One more quality that makes empaths so unique is that they’re sincere, trustworthy, and principled. They take responsibility for their own actions, and they’re not ashamed or afraid to admit when they’ve made a mistake and apologize if they’ve hurt someone’s feelings unintentionally.

Empaths try to see only the good in people and they tend to think that other people are decent, honest, unselfish, and genuinely good as they are. But they’re wrong about this and they pay the price for it.

Because this is exactly what makes them magnets for manipulative, lying, inconsiderate, negative people.

Toxic people use the kindness, softness, and compassionate nature of empaths as a means to satisfy their own selfish needs.

Empaths are unable to understand that not everyone is honest and caring as they are and that not everyone takes responsibility for their actions as they do.

They can’t understand that unlike them, who are driven by the need to help and make others happy, there are people who are driven by a need for power and attention.

There are people who place their opinions, needs, priorities, and wishes above everyone else’s. There are people who don’t apologize for their mistakes and wrongdoings because they don’t think they ever do anything bad.

There’re people who are ready to do anything to satisfy their own needs, even if that means hurting others and wreaking havoc on someone’s life.

Therefore, all empaths need to be extremely careful about who they let into their lives and who they put their faith into.

Empaths need to remember that if they’re involved with a toxic person, be it a family member, friend, coworker, or partner, they are setting themselves up to be manipulated and mentally and emotionally abused.

And most importantly, this unique kind of people needs to always keep in mind that it’s not their duty to always try to help and take away the pain of other people.

It’s not their duty to fix their relationships, whether romantic or otherwise.

It’s not their duty to be emotional sponges or someone’s punching bag.

It’s not their duty to take responsibility for other people’s actions and mistakes.

It’s not their duty to internalize other people’s feelings and feel angry, afraid, sad, or depressed when someone around them is feeling that way. Because in this way, they only exhaust themselves and ruin their mental, emotional, and physical health.

Empaths need to establish firm boundaries and honor them. They need to stop trying to help and heal everyone around them. They need to take a break and let go of all people that take advantage of them and treat them badly.

Because once they decide that they don’t need to carry all the pain in the world on their shoulders, they’ll regain control over their lives and stop attracting toxic people.

Is vaping healthier than smoking?

By
Elizabeth Williams
vaping

Smoking is dangerous.  Point blank, studies have proven time and again the detrimental health effects of smoking.  Vaping is a rising alternative to the bad habit that is sweeping the nation.  The question remains though, is vaping healthier than smoking?  Long story short, the answer is yes, absolutely.  However, there are some factors to keep in mind.  Take note, that it says healthier, not that it is healthy.  If you do not smoke, do not vape.

The reasons that vaping is healthier far outweigh the reasons it is not.  First and foremost, when you smoke traditional cigarettes, you are inhaling trace amounts of thousands of chemicals that really hurt your lungs.  This does not mean vape juice is without chemicals.  The truth is that vaping is a non-regulated industry.  While most vaping liquids are simple flavor and nicotine mixed with polyglycerol, there have been studies finding trace chemicals inside vape juices.

The most dangerous of which is mentioned by name, nicotine.  This substance is highly addictive, restricts blood flow, is a mood and appetite suppressor, and can cause multiple health issues.  While cigarettes and vaping can hold relatively the same amount of nicotine, there is an inherent danger of nicotine poisoning by too much vaping.  Remember moderation is the key, just like chain smoking leads to early demise, chain vaping is not great for you.

The last major worry to keep in mind with vaping is the infancy of the industry.  The technology has not been around long enough to know the long-term effects of smart vapes to use.  When compared to smoking, there are very few definitive studies that show results.  Smoking has been studied for decades and proven to show how bad it can be.  While vaping may not be mapped out yet, scientists do know the long term effects of some of the chemicals and nicotine found in vaping. 

Other than these factors, smoking is by far unhealthier than vaping.  This compares across the board with the amount of chemicals found, the nicotine levels, and the long term.   When marketed as a safer alternative to smoking, they are not exactly lying.  Just do not fall into the common trap that many teens and others are falling into by thinking that if it is healthier than smoking that it is healthy.  It truly is not, especially when it comes to teens.  Countless studies have shown the negative impacts among young people with nicotine usage.

The bottom line is that if you have never smoked or used tobacco products, vaping is a bad idea.  It is taking dangerous and addictive chemicals into your body that could lead to health detriments.  If you are a smoker, than switching to vaping can prove to be a smart, healthier choice.  Ultimately, the goal should be to wean off nicotine and vaping entirely.  However, this works well as an intermediate step.  TL: DR, vaping is much healthier versus smoking, if you currently smoke.  If you do not smoke, do not vape. 

How to Satisfy your Lover (Just Two Powerful Steps)

By
Elizabeth Williams

You need to satisfy your lover or else.

So let’s get down to business an stop looking the other way, pretending there isn’t a problem.

You have a lover. Could be a romantic partner, spouse, or live-in. I don’t care, as long as you’re lovers.

This lover should not be a figment of your imagination or the one you’d like to hook up with. No, this is for your actual romantic partner, a real person with whom you relate consistently. You need to keep him/her satisfied, right?

Warning: You simply must find a way to satisfy your lover, even if the tips in this post turn out to be bunk in your case. Don’t give up. Unsatisfied lovers have a way of turning into ex-lovers sooner or later.

If you DON’T KNOW how satisfied your lover is with you, beware. If they were over-the-moon satisfied, you’d know it. You can always ask. In fact, I dare you to ask. “On a scale of 1-10, how satisfied are you with me as your lover?”

Do you want to know? You should! I just asked my lover that very question. The answer was, “Super satisfied. An 11 on a 1-10 scale.” I guess that qualifies me to write this post. No kidding. I really did ask my lover. Whew. I’m good!

The Formula for Satisfying your Lover. Are you Ready?

It’s a fair question. You may NOT be ready to satisfy your lover after all. When you do, you’ll suddenly be on the receiving end of a highly happy person. A satisfied lover who sees YOU as the source of the greatest goodies in life.

You might not be ready for the sheer bliss of a mutual love-fest. You may be a massive self-sabotager who cannot get out of your own way to save your very life. If that’s the case, you’re not going to benefit by the following the steps here. Overcome the self-sabotage first. Just sayin’:)

Without further ado:

  1. Put your EGO Aside to Satisfy your Lover

Good god if only the world’s inhabitants could drop the ego like a hot potato. EGO = I am only in this for myself.

Nope, you’re in a two-way relationship, my friend. And it’s not all about you. You’d be best served by forgetting all about yourself in this case. Forget. Your. Self.

Mind you, I’m not suggesting there are no benefits for you in this charade. Are you kidding? The benefits of having a satisfied lover are out of this world! When you keep your mate happy – really happy – the bennies coming your way multiply 10-fold.

Think of the poor self-centered bastard who only cares about his own satisfaction. No one wants to do anything for him. Nobody respects him. He’s a loser, schmuck; someone all alone in this world. And he’s miserable.

Contrast that with the lover who makes his partner’s needs a priority….and you’ve got a night/day scenario. The selfless lover is a magnet for personal satisfaction. Let it go! Put your ego aside in this case and know that the more you satisfy your lover  – without concern for yourself – the more YOU will be satisfied.

If you don’t get this, click away. Buh-bye.

  1. Get Deviously Specific (Seeing, Hearing, Feeling)

(Hello NLP )

Satisfying your lover becomes abundantly clear when you understand how s/he receives love. You might say this is the NLP (much simpler and easier) version of love languages.

Does your lover receive love by seeing, hearing or feeling? In other words, do you need to:

  • show your lover
  • tell your lover
  • or touch your lover? (hugs work)

Most people have a preferred way to receive love. Tragically, most of us give love through the same channel (see, hear, feel) that we like to receive it. If your lover isn’t a match, you won’t get credit for the giving and s/he won’t feel loved!

Ask your partner the best way for you to give love!

3 Ingenious Tips to Enhance your Brain Health

By
Elizabeth Williams

There are numerous crazy myths and misconceptions out there about ways to become smarter or train your mind to be more intelligent or healthier. However, what most people may not know is that most of these claims have been scientifically tested, and some rather compelling evidence exists to support many of them. So if you are looking for techniques to boost your mental prowess, here are some tested and proven ways to sharpen your brain.

Perform Some Brain Training Exercises

Psychologists have acknowledged for quite some time that basic cognitive skills, like a person’s information processing speed, are quite stable throughout an individual’s life. Until recently, psychologists have also known that while a person can usually perform more with the skills he/she already possesses, it is fairly difficult to improve his/her basic cognitive skill levels. Currently, the latest trend on self-improvement is brain training, including all its seriousness and pledges of real improvements to a person’s basic cognitive skills, like decision making and working memory speed.

Most brain training exercises are performed through entertaining games or activities designed to stimulate some important parts of the brain linked to basic cognitive activity. Regular practice at these activities leads to actual changes in the cell density of those parts. The fundamental premise is that people can literally improve their mental capabilities with the appropriate types of mental exercises. For instance, a recently published high-profile research led to a high level of confidence among psychologists that an activity referred to as the dual N-back task can actually increase at least one essential aspect of intelligence, fluid intelligence – substantially and in the long-term. Other studies have reported IQ increases of up to 13 points in children exposed to behavior analytic kind of intellectual skills training known as relational skills training.

Stay Away from Drugs

The other sure way to improve and maintain your brain health is to avoid substance and drug abuse. This is due to the simple fact that drugs can have severe adverse effects on the human brain. Whenever you introduce drugs into your body, either through smoking, eating, inhaling, or injecting them, the drugs tap into your brain’s communication system and interfere with how nerve cells normally transmit, receive, and process information or stimuli. Different drugs will work on the brain differently because of their different chemical structures. Drugs work in the brain in two main ways:

  • Imitating the natural chemical messengers in the brain
  • Over stimulating the “reward circuit” system of the brain

Consequently, drugs can ultimately lead to drastic changes in brain circuits and neurons. These changes can persist even after a drug user has stopped using or abusing the drugs and it is more likely to occur when a particular drug is abused over and over.You can learn more here on how to reverse this.

Maintain a High Degree of Mental Activities

Research has shown that the more conversations a parent engages with their child, the more intelligent the child will be. For instance, simple games that involve naming objects or solving simple puzzles together helps to make learning a social and educational activity, as well as improves the child’s IQ. Furthermore, talking to a child boosts their vocabulary, which is extremely important for the child’s general intelligence levels.

In summary, improving your brain’s health is not as difficult as some people may want to imagine. With the right timing, the right habits, and proper timing, you can increase and maintain you brain’s thinking ability in a remarkable way.

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