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She’s Going To Be The Girl You Wish You Married

I saw your pale sad eyes. I felt those invisible tears shattering your whole body and soul. It seemed like all hopes were lost in that one moment. A moment of deep regrets. When you saw her… You looked like a 5-year-old child who lost his favorite toy.

No, it wasn’t about that stunning red piece of clothing covering her tiny gentle silhouette. Neither was about those deep-set blue eyes filled with intense curiosity, red curly hair burning like fire, her perfect smile, nor was about the flower scent of her perfume.

It was about LOVE. REAL LOVE.

SHE LOVED YOU UNCONDITIONALLY.

She was your moon on a dark night. She was your friend, partner, a lending hand when nobody cared, a shelter from cold raining storms.

She was the girl who gave you everything she had, did everything that could be done. Even more than that. Her love was sweet, unselfish, chaotic, infinite. SHE CHOSE TO LOVE ONE MAN. SHE CHOSE YOU.

She gave you the keys to real love. She opened the gates of her sacred heart to you.

What did you do? You played with it and threw it like a plastic bag.

She threw her purely innocent soul under your feet.

What did you do? You stepped on it with dirty shoes.

You…You gave up on love so quickly. You considered love to be nothing but a game. And you played it. Till the end… When you run leaving her scared and alone. So alone and unloved.

Now… She’s no longer the girl who will send you sweet messages for a good night. She’s no longer the girl who’ll wrap her arms around you when you get home tired from work. She’s no longer the girl who’ll care about how your day at work was.

She’ll no longer “bother” you with her witty stories and make you laugh. She’ll no longer cry with you on your favorite romantic movie, the movie you were watching together.

She’ll no longer push you forward so you can fulfill your biggest dreams and achieve your goals. She’s no longer your rainbow of daily inspiration.

She’ll no longer wear that red dress for you. You’ll no longer touch those red soft lips like a wine… You won’t have that chance. No more.

Now… She’s the same beautiful, caring person, but she’s not with you anymore.

She’ll no longer fight for a bit of your love.

She will be with someone who’ll treat her the way you didn’t. She will be loved.

Now… now you know. “Ain’t no sunshine when she’s gone…”

She is not the girl you are going to marry. She is the girl you’ll be thinking of 15 years from now, wishing you would have married. Just because deep inside you, SHE WAS THE REAL ONE.

Image: Jameykay Huffman

This Is How You Will Lose Her Based On Her Love Language

 Dear men,

 I’m writing to remind you of few things about us – women. 

A woman is a gentle human being full of emotions. Even though sometimes complicated, she is always ready to understand, show care, lend you a hand in tough times, and everything she asks for is love. She wants to feel you love her unconditionally just the way she loves you.

That moment she finds you stop treating her the way a woman deserves to be treated by a man, she’ll simply decide to leave.

 This is what you’re doing to lose her.

 COMPROMISE

You’ll lose her if you make all things going your way only. Well, that’s not how things go. Definitely. You can’t always have the last word because relationships don’t function like that.

A woman wants to be asked for an opinion. A woman wants to decide. A woman wants to be heard. She wants to participate as equally as you do. A woman is a part of a relationship in which both sides are ready to give as much as they take. That’s why you are a couple.

A healthy relationship needs to be based on compromise. Compromise is the key.

DO IT.

TIME

You’ll lose her if you don’t make her a priority. You often blame it on time; you complain about not having enough time to go out, meet, see her.

A woman needs to feel as a priority, not an option. She wants to get some attention from you. And she isn’t needy; she just wants to see you by her side.

In a relationship, YOU are the CREATOR OF TIME. If she can, you can do it as well. Take the initiative and set out a date. Finding time is crucial.

DO IT.

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

You don’t treat her like a girlfriend but more like a friend. It’s fine for you to see your best friend in her. Not always though. Please make sure you draw a clear line between a friend a partner.

A woman wants you to communicate and act with her like a man, her partner. She doesn’t like to be in a position in which would ask herself which direction all this goes to.

She wants you to see her as more than a friend. She wants you to do it as a part of your healthy relationship.

DO IT.

EFFORTS

You no longer make efforts to see her happy. A woman deserves to be loved. And cared for. She deserves to have a shoulder where she can lean her head and feel safe. All the time.

She deserves someone who won’t forget to support, understand, respect, hug, kiss, inspire, surprise, and spoil her even after you think you had already conquered her heart. But, can someone conquer a woman’s heart completely? I don’t think so.

Therefore, your efforts on unlocking its gates should never stop. There’s the fun.

MAKE YOUR EFFORTS ON IT.

Now, are you ready to lose her? No? You should start acting like that then.

Start speaking her love language.

With love,

Sandy

Image: Guillaume Gaubert

8 Things Strong Women Don’t Give A Damn About

8 Things Strong Women Don’t Give A Damn About

1. They don’t give a damn about haters.

Oh, you’re still talking sh*t about her behind her back? Go on.

A grown ass woman is smart enough to avoid you, and she is strong enough to move on with her life. She values herself highly and doesn’t allow your bad rumors affect her self-image.

You’ll not break her heart by throwing some poisonous words about her. You can’t piss her off. You’re meaningless just like your words and actions are. Accept that.

2. They don’t give a damn about showing their true face.

Let all the masks fall off! Strong women will let you see their true face. No masks, no hidden emotions, no lies. Bloody brilliant! If she is sad, she’ll be sad- if she’s happy, she is; mad? -you’ll see that as well.

They have nothing to hide or be embarrassed about. Strong women accept who they are and enjoy being real in front of everyone.

3. They don’t give a damn about what majority say or do.

A strong woman is the creator of her own rules and she plays by them. She firmly believes in them. Strong women don’t accept what majority impose on them just because they think it’s the right thing.

Strong women have their own bunch of thoughts, opinions, beliefs, and stick to them. Why would someone accept something just because the majority wants that? Gosh. The majority cannot be always right.

4. They don’t give a damn about the past.

Let the past be where it needs to be, just like strong women do, for God’s sake! There is a good reason why the past is there, and every grownup women know that.

That’s why they live in the present moment. Now.

5. They don’t give a damn about fashion trends.

So, you say, high heels are “in” this season? Crap. She’ll wear her sneakers.

In other words, if a strong woman doesn’t like or feel comfortable wearing it, she won’t do it. Period. She won’t let the influence of fashion affect her style and comfort.

She’s not a follower but a creator.

6. They don’t give a damn if they don’t get support.

Strong women are independent. They learned how to trust, lean on, and take care of themselves.

A strong woman will fight her battles and do it graciously. Not expecting anything from anyone.

7. They don’t give a damn about being nice all the time.

She’ll bump straight into your face what you deserve to hear. Don’t mess around with her.

“Thank you”, “Please” and “Sorry” are powerful words. However, a strong woman is aware of their overuse.

8. They don’t give a damn about social networks.

Strong women are aware of their own capabilities. They are not worried why someone might befriend them on Facebook or why that guy didn’t like her photo on Instagram. They don’t wait around like sad lost puppies to get likes on their posts.

They just don’t do it. Instead, they are more connected to their real life.

Strong women are damned alpha-women. Enjoy their presence in your life…and

Let Them Go Wild.

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Tips on Creating a Road Trip Planner with Stops

Things to Consider in Creating a Road Trip Planner with Stops

A road trip is one of the most fulfilling things you can do for vacation and relaxation. Long trips give you a good view of the place you’re in, and they also serve as good bonding time with your family and friends. A great plan, along with good food, company and relaxing long drive music can soothe any tired and stressed mind; but what makes the perfect road trip planner with stops? 

Making a Road Trip Planner with Stops

A road trip is all about the experience, rather than the actual destination. And while the actual venue of arrival matters, the long ride needs preparation in order to make the most pleasant experience possible. Here are a few tips on preparing your road trip planner with stops:

  1. Vehicle preparation. Whether you and your loved ones or friends are renting a car or van, or you’re using one of your own, make sure that the necessary maintenance and preparations are set. Create an ocular and thorough check with the vehicle you’re going to use in order to avoid possible complications on your road trip.
  1. Travel destinations and their locations. Aside from the transportation, where you travel should be taken into consideration. Read more about the area you’re planning to pass by and research about the road tendencies (especially when you’re planning to take trips on mountain areas that are prone to landslides). The best plan is one that not only guarantees fun but also safety.
  1. Go digital. There are a lot of applications available to assist in your journey, and there are also websites like a Limo Find that help you make the right decisions for your vehicle. Make sure your itinerary includes the distances between each travel and estimated length of time it might take you, so that you guys can plan taking turns and making the most of your supplies.
  1. Plan your trip budget. Money is important in making sure that you, and the people you ride with, get to your respective destinations. Aside from gas, include toll fees, food and water supplies in the estimated budget that you’re going to set. Sometimes, you can easily compute estimated gas consumption by adding the miles you’re planning to travel and divide with the current gas consumption rate of your vehicle, adding 5 to 10 percent allowance in case of price differences.For more info you can check CarCareNinja 

Be Ready to Pull Out the Guesstimates

When planning a road trip planner with stops one of the essential things to do is to create guesstimates. There are a lot of tourist spots that look good in the daytime, which would require it to be a “day stop”; while there are also areas that operate 24 hours (like beaches), which would be a good “night stop”.

The main thing would be to know what the purpose of the trip is, and what your planned destinations are going to accomplish. Whether you’re opting to take photos of beautiful sunsets, sunrises or just bonding with the people you’re travelling with, the perfect road trip planner should put key moments as one of the many considerations.

SHOW YOUR TRUE PERSONALITY THROUGH CLOTHING

Does it fit my personality? What message do I want to send? Am I the best version of myself?

If you always felt “chained” to the society norms and standards to dress up the way you do just to blend in, in a certain dress-code or be acknowledged, when you rather wanted to be different from the crowd and to stand out, now it`s the time to accept yourself, your diversity and personality and to express and expose your true self.

There is nothing better than to be happy and content with your everyday looks, to embrace and to wear maybe different clothes and to wear them with confidence. What`s, even more, you can do all this from the comfort of your own home at very affordable prices.

You can find more than five hundred clothing items for every single one occasion. By discovering clothes that are actually comfortable to wear, we get to feel good in our skin. Everything from the variety of dresses, tops, bottoms, overalls, and accessories.

What never goes out of style is being a modest and honest person, and do you feel like you are lying and you are being dishonest every time you walk out the door? Feeling like you are lying to the people about the person that you are and that you are lying to yourself?

Do that no more, being a modest and sincere person is quality not everybody owns, so your clothes should reflect your morals. Finding the perfect clothes that fit you well, are comfortable, are in your optimal size can be more than a challenge, but your search is finished.

In the same place you can find designed garments that are pleasant, easy to combine, from high-quality materials and skin friendly, flowy- following your body`s moves but on the other hand, they are also stylish, trendy, and fashion-forward. Yes, you can have it all. You don’t have to make compromises anymore.

You’ll love every single piece. Since the most pleasant feel to your skin is accomplished through breathable materials, most of the used fabrics are cotton and linen in vibrant colors, and solid denim, fine cashmere, wool, corduroy etc. At the same time, you can find all the clothing in several sizes, there is no universal size or so-called “one-to fit them all”, there are charts with metrics for every size.

If you had troubles buying clothes online hence of the vague instructions, here you can determine your size in an instant. The sizes are going from petite to 6XL, so the chance of not finding the perfect fit is bare minimum or almost impossible. And if you are worried about finding the perfect piece of clothing to express your true self, don`t even dwell on it. There is a huge number of options.

You can start by deciding the occasion. Is it work? Is it a walk in the park? Is it a date or maybe you are meeting your friends for a cup of coffee? Nevertheless, on the occasion, you can find something that will fit you and make you happy. You can choose from all sorts of maxi dresses, that are generally oversized and with embroidery with colorful flowers, or striped dress or maybe with polka dots.

If you don’t want to wear a dress or if it doesn’t fit the occasion, you can always choose some trousers or harem pants with a blouse, to be business appropriate and elegant. And for walks in the park, you have plenty of options, but probably ultimate favorite is the black denim jumpsuit, that you can combine with all sorts of t-shirts for a more casual look and some good old sneakers, so you can be fully comfortable but yet so trendy.

Fashion is a constant changing trend, we can`t deny that from season to season we see even opposing styles. Sometimes it’s the retro vintage styles making comeback to the scene; sometimes it’s the bohemian style with its patterns, prints, exotic textures between hippy and arty; sometimes it’s the urban slick and chick style that puts accent on the tailored stylish designs and pretty classy combinations that you can find on www.buddhatrends.com but no matter what, one thing that never goes out of style is being confident and being true to yourself.

You must start to think outside of the box, experiment with different colors, patterns, textures forget what you are “supposed” to wear, forget about the stereotypes that make you rethink your choice.

This Academy Brings A Twist To The Outdated Educational System And The Results Are Amazing

A Bradford primary school made it their mission to prove how only six hours of music per week can lead to an overall success, education-wise.

At the Feversham primary academy, things are done differently as far as traditional teaching methods are concerned. In fact, the academy itself caused quite the controversy a couple of years ago, when they realized that music could be used as a successful instrument in modern-day schooling.

Moreover, Naveed Idrees, who works as the head teacher at the Feversham academy, has found that a six-hour music session during school week can drastically enhance the general performance of students.

Take nine-year-old Abiha Nasir for instance. At first glance, Abiha may appear like your ordinary girl. However, this little miracle-worker showed up at the academy’s doorstep when she was five years of age. What took professors aback when it comes to Abiha was her uncanny talent in playing the drums.

As a matter of fact, little Abiha soon became the academy’s favorite wunderkind. In 2016, Abiha underwent an audition at the Bradford primary school, in hopes to become a part of the existing talented children program. Interestingly enough, Abiha got accepted to the school as the first Muslim girl to ever attend and soon became the uncovered diamond in the rocks for professors teaching at the school.

In the modern day, where everything develops in a fast-paced manner, the traditional schooling system seems to be falling behind. Schools are still driven by the theory that SATs running records are the yardstick for success and talent. While this may have been the case back in the day, in the contemporary society tests of this sort simply don’t do the trick anymore.

Feversham has long contemplated whether to introduce music as a new teaching technique.  or to eradicate it completely. After suffering harsh criticism over the decades, today, the academy gets a much-deserved praise by Ofsted as well.

What may have seemed like a poor effort in the past, is now a 74% boost in outstanding reading, writing, and math problem-solving skills in students.

The educational evolution is further supported by staggering figures. Namely, out of all students who attend the academy, 99% have adopted English as a second language. Why is this so intriguing? Well, all students enrolled in the academy are entering it with no sound knowledge of the English language. With this in mind, Feversham has become a real-life manual on how to bring outstanding results by simply making music a part of their program.

Due to an instant increase of the refugee population, added to the already existing Muslim community in Bradford, the city council remained adamant in their claim that certain ethnic groups do not get the same appreciation and valorization as others.

From inside the school walls, however, a different tune is sung (no pun intended). Students get acquainted with English literature and music in a total of thirty different languages. Aside from this, youngsters are learning a handful of different games through which they get introduced to both historical events and even aspiring local artists, such as the regional YouTube sensation, Ahmad Hussain.

While there were many suspicions about Muslim children being exposed to Christian customs, the school’s annual concert penetrated and broke the cultural barrier with parents and children of all backgrounds, making this event an academy landmark.

In terms of music and its incorporation in everyday classes, each child gets a 30-minute music lesson daily. In addition, children enjoy a one-hour-long music event comprised of aspiring music groups and artists.

The academy’s head teacher, Naveed Idrees, assures that the technique which was once thought of as skeptical is now widely accepted by other struggling schools, too.

Prior to kicking off the entire teaching process, the school did its homework well and relied on the Kodály approach as inspiration. This method has helped children acquire various different skills, from writing and speaking to singing and solving math problems.

As Idrees explains, this new and inspiring manner of education enables youth development, not just mentally, but socially-speaking as well.

Furthermore, Idrees points out that Feversham’s newfound educational approach encourages the development of children, unlike the SATs method, which was labeled as inefficient. For the first time ever, creativity got the chance to stand out as the leading technique for achieving great results. Of course, this is absolutely not the case with the weak and tiring effect of evaluating students through Sats.

Several years ago, the city of Bradford was hit by shocking story of young Asad Khan, a student at a different school in the region, who committed suicide due to heavy bullying from his peers. Feversham used this case as a trigger to launch a project intended to help children cope with the negative side of life. Basically, the project allows youngsters to learn how to handle pressure, cyberbullying and even society’s unrealistic standards.

Idrees is certain that children are unaware of how to process more complex emotions. This is exactly what the project aims to achieve – taking something as simple as playing a game and turning it into a skill-developing method. Among other things, the project is devoted to improving children’s concentration, memory, and general performance.

Ladies and gentlemеn, it seems that an educational revolution is upon us, and it is high time we embrace it.

Tech Fanatics Suggest That The Human Mind Could Suffer A Smartphone Overuse Apocalypse

Employees at Google, Twitter and Facebook are detaching themselves from the Internet, indicating a possible technology addiction outbreak.  Here is why well-renowned pundits believe lifeloggers are likely to become humanity’s biggest sanity threat.

How much is a ‘Like’ on Facebook worth?

According to the mastermind behind this minimalist Facebook feature, the seemingly innocent button could be the end of the world, as we know it. Justin Rosenstein has cleverly separated his personal life from his private one, by eliminating technology communication platforms altogether. Even more, when Rosenstein purchased his new iPhone, he distinctly asked his assistant to install a PG-13-like feature, making it impossible for him to download any apps whatsoever.

What was known as the ‘awesome’ button a decade ago, is now becoming the criterion for acquiring affection and waiting to be accepted by society. This got not only Rosenstein but other Silicon Valley prodigies on high alert. Just how much organic communication are we willing to sacrifice, just to make ourselves society’s favorites?

Now, Silicon Valley chiefs are indicating that the so-called ‘attention economy’ could be a road to hell paved with good intentions. While every technological accomplishment was intended to boost humanity and alleviate its everyday life, what has happened is a general dystopia, ultimately raising concerns regarding the future of genuine human connection.

Through a staggering statistical report, Rosenstein learned that people look in their phones 2,617 times daily. This has turned the ongoing technological competition into a massive epidemic.

Consequently, the existing IQ in humans is dropping at an alarming rate. As per a recent study, Smartphones have become beyond dangerous for the humankind, ultimately resulting in cognitive irregularities, even with the gadget turned off.

However, in a society where social media have become the main modus operandi, it is difficult to steer clear of all sorts of ‘smart’ devices.

The fanaticism caused by the ever-plain ‘Like’ button, soon infected almost every other social platforms, such as Twitter and Instagram.

What is more intriguing is that, while all these technological brainiacs have helped humanity get addicted to their ‘helpful’ products, they choose to send their children to private Silicon Valley schools, where respective ‘intelligent’ devices are strictly banned.

Things got even more hypocritical when all programmers and geeks recently attended a tech conference in San Francisco. What they did was, they paid $1,700 each, only to get educated on how to get more customers ‘hooked’ on their booming businesses.

Heck, the face behind this conference, Nir Eyal, has even made a whole career out of it.

Eyal assures that people’s online activity is under no circumstance coincidental, but is a well-contemplated marketing strategy designed by social media heads.

Still, at the 2017 Habit Summit, Eyal offered an eye-opening approach to the issue for the first time ever, talking about the way social media has pushed people into a sociological oblivion. Nonetheless, he noted social media designers are not to be blamed for the way people abuse these Internet privileges.

By the end of his speech, Eyal pointed out that he is using a Chrome extension, also referred to as DF YouTube, as well as an app called Pocket Points, both of which are intended to control and monitor your online activity.

Eyal does not support the general opinion that technology is intentionally toxic. To remedy the problem, he urges all Internet users to install an outlet timer connected to a router, which prevents Internet access at a particular time during the day. By doing so, Eyal believes we can remain in control of our lives.

Tristan Harris, a former employee at Google, is certain that the human mind can easily be hijacked, meaning people are deprived of their free will, regardless of their intentions to act otherwise.

Harris is also convinced that people are generally unaware of just how much impact Silicon Valley designers and technological pros have on humanity and their day-to-day online presence.

Furthermore, Harris stands against the tide of technology companies, laying out the basic and ugly truth of modern-day living, saying it is directly dependent on our basic way of thinking and processing information. In other words, Harris warns we have unwillingly become prisoners of a virtual society created by some of the greatest technology engineers. 

As Harris further explains, each and every online platform, from LinkedIn to YouTube and Netflix, turns customers into downright Internet slaves. In such way, we become deprived of the opportunity to carry out our free will to choose.

Moreover, by accidentally submitting ourselves to the Internet, we have become masters of own destruction. Without being allowed to have a say-so in our Internet preferences, we have set ourselves up for failure. Think of it this way: People are getting obsessed with the ‘Like’ button, ultimately seeking approval of others. When this approval is lacking, we become desperate and even more determined to seek public affection. Ultimately, this never-ending need to be appreciated online is poisoning our overall, organic existence.

Harris is certain, though, that companies did not purposefully cause such an addictive online podium. However, the curious nature of humans might be the triggering our own collapse as a society, the repercussions of which we are just beginning to experience firsthand.

Even though there is a general necessity to restrain the manner in which Google and Facebook affect us as a society, we cannot be as delusional as to expect this to actually happen. It goes without saying, humanity has proved itself to be the weakest link in this whole equation.

Eventually, what is most likely to happen is for us to become unable to take charge of our own minds, thus allowing social media outlets to grow into the ultimate masters of puppets.

Sleep Deprivation Comes At a High Cost, Experts Suggest

Renowned neuroscientist and sleep expert Matthew Walker thoroughly describes how sleep deprivation can easily lead to cancer, heart attacks, and Alzheimer’s disease, and how we can amend this.

Meet Matthew Walker. If there ever was a competition to win the ‘World’s Oddest Job’ title, we could guarantee Walker’s name would come up as the winner. The man behind the curtain is an extraordinary prodigy in his field and works as a sleep scientist. Moreover, he is the directing face behind the Center for Human Sleep Science at the University of California, Berkeley.

Throughout the decades, this institute had dedicated its best efforts to uncovering and studying each of the sleeping process’ characteristics. Interestingly enough, researchers were hoping to unfold how sleep has such a huge impact on the basic human processes. Despite our every effort to unravel one of the universe’s biggest secrets, we still remain laymen.

Once you hear Walker discuss the art of a solid sleep, you’ll understand why he refers to today’s way of living as a “catastrophic sleep-loss epidemic.” The only logical way to amend this, in Walker’s mind, is to get the government educated and involved in the process itself.

The project

In his detailed book, Walker tries to educate the crowd about the chain that links sleep deprivation and serious health issues, including Alzheimer’s disease, cancer, diabetes, weight gain, and mental illnesses.

Walker did not stop there, making it his mission to get governmental branches to partake in his project of awareness.

The root of exhaustion

In a matter of decades, the sleeping pattern got impaired so much that people across the globe couldn’t even conceptualize the true form of a good night’s sleep.

Why? Walker believes that stress, work, and even lights during the night, can all hurt the sleeping process tremendously.

Walker goes on to assure us that sleep is not given a proper credit, meaning it is often underrated in comparison to being proactive. In today’s world, Walker notes people wrongfully claim ‘being tired’ as a trophy label of hard work.

Actually, experts back Walker on this one. Namely, it has been registered that sleeping less than five hours a day for longer periods of time is bound to come at a certain price, meaning health issues are likely to occur now more than ever before.

Nowadays, we rarely see the lack of sleep as the leading culprit for our stress, anxiety and weak performance.

The latest technological discoveries allowed experts to acquire easier, more thorough access to the brain.

The Liverpool-born specialist has worked on the issue for over two decades. A virtuoso in neuroscience and holder of a Ph.D. Degree in neurophysiology, Walker set the bar for any researcher analyzing the sleeping process and the lack thereof. Soon enough, Walker learned that sleeplessness can cause an outbreak of dementia.

With this realization, he began working harder but found this to be a much more challenging task than initially believed.  As a professor at the University of California, Walker figured that his self-treatment works better than any other available method. This means he rests for eight hours during the night, finding it super helpful for both his body and mind.

Walker does mention that sleeping deprivation used to make a ‘nutty’ out of him. Once, he even found himself awake at 2 a.m. in a hotel room, pumping with adrenaline.

Miraculously, Walker did what anyone else would do by this time – he lied down in his bed and picked up on some reading.

Documented proof and consequences

As concluded by numerous studies, individuals aged 45 or older who are trained to sleep for six hours or less have 200% more odds of suffering a heart failure.

Furthermore, sleep deprivation can trigger blood sugar escalations, ultimately leading to weak insulin responsiveness. As a result, individuals could find themselves diagnosed with a pre-diabetic state, also known as hyperglycemia. Among other side-effects, insomnia can easily cause obesity. This occurs due to reduced levels of leptin in the body, a hormone responsible for keeping the organism full. Sadly, the lack of leptin encourages the production of ghrelin, a hormone tightly related to hunger.

Additionally, there is a secret co-relation between sleep and immune-threatening illnesses, such as the flu. This why we urge ourselves to bed whenever we feel unwell, but it seems experts have never examined this particular bond, until now.

Walker insists that insufficient sleep can trigger the growth of cancerous cells – a conclusion confirmed by a handful of studies as well.

That aside, a solid sleep provides us with the ability to store new memories as well as preserve the old ones. Sleep deprivation can affect the mental health as well, with Walker elaborating how the human creative mindset is directly dependent on our dreams.

Walker performed many brain scans in sleep-deprived people, ultimately reporting a 60% increase of the amygdala – a familiar stimulator of anger and rage. As far as children and adolescents are concerned, lack of sleep can result in an aggressive behavior, bullying, or even suicidal thoughts.

Finally, Walker pays special attention to the close bond between a quality sleep and Alzheimer’s disease. Unofficially, it is said that elevated amyloid levels in the body can affect the brain long enough to kill its most active cells. In case of Alzheimer’s disease, the brain becomes unable to protect its own cells by flushing the toxin out.

Prevention and precaution

According to Walker, detecting a sleep-related issue is often quite personal and based on each individual’s intuition. Usually, people who cannot wake up, even with an alarm clock are sleep deprived. The same goes for people who are addicted to caffeine.

First thing is first, stop forcing your body to work overtime. Imagine you are awake and mobile for over 19 hours – this means your body has the exhaustion level equal to that of an inebriated person.

Next, it is crucial that you begin treating sleep as any other daily activity.

Walker makes sure to put a special emphasis on the

Nowadays, even in business, sleep needs to get more credit by both employees and employers. Currently, an array of US accompanies have already developed sleep-measuring devices to examine the process. Keep in mind that sleep-provoking meds are not to be considered for use, as these are known to weaken the process of memorizing.

Many health groups controversially reported that LED-emitting devices boost the production of melatonin, the hormone responsible for sleep. Walker is a firm believer in everything related to technology, insisting it will help solve the sleep deprivation issue.

As far as ambitions go, Walker would like to begin researching how dreams affect the physical and emotional aspects of the body.

In the most passionate of approaches, Walker exudes the need to dig deep into the sleeping cycle, trying to reveal whether sleep ever evolved as a pattern.

21 Songs That Have Made A Difference To People With Anxiety And Depression At Night

We all know how powerful music can be when it comes to its ability to help us face and cope with our emotions. In fact, music can be the cure in so many situations, and people have known this since forever.

Simply said, music can heal what the tongue can’t say, and the thoughts can’t explain. To see what music has helped people fighting with anxiety and depression The Mighty has asked people in their mental health community to share their experiences and the songs which make them feel at peace.

Here are some of their answers:

1. Imagine Dragons – Demons

Melissa F. finds the lyrics of this song to relate to the way she feels with her anxiety and depression and with how she wants to help her children relate to theirs.

“‘Your eyes, they shine so bright / I wanna save that light / I can’t escape this now / Unless you show me how’ — To me, it says I want to help you and in turn you end up helping me,” she writes.

2. Twenty One Pilots – Guns for Hands

Ashley A. finds this song as one that is very personal about depression and suicidal thoughts. “Its message is acceptance from others and learning to overcome it; turn your gun into a fist,” she says.

3. Bring Me The Horizon – Sleepwalking

“When my anxiety was at its worst, I felt grey; the world was a monstrous grey mess. I was afraid, I wanted to scream. And then their music happened,” explains Gianluca P. She felt whole again in the violence, power, and all the emotion in the song, as well as the rest of the band’s songs. “I wasn’t the only one suffering. I was not alone,” she says.

4. Bill Evans – Peace Piece

“If serenity has a soundtrack, this is it,” says Matt L., explaining that Bill Evans’ song has given him much strength and support.

5. Kesha – Praying

Rebecca S. explains that this song brings her a peace of mind and soul regardless of when she hears it. “Every time I listen to it I feel like I am in control of my existence and I am worthy, which is one of the hardest things to accept when you are in that dark place. I let the tears flow and I am safe inside myself again.”

6. Demi Lovato – Skyscraper

Shanelle M. finds this song powerful and full of hope. “It really speaks to me and comforts me on those types of nights,” she says.

7. Green Day – 21 Guns

Myriah T. has found the juxtaposition of soft and loud as the perfect validation of the way she was feeling and how it sounded inside her head. “In the months leading up to my hospitalization for suicidal thoughts and actions back in late 2009 and 2010, I would listen to it on repeat to fall asleep…”

8. Coldplay – Us Against the World

Millie M. says that this song takes her away from her situation and gives her a break from all the stress and negative thoughts. “No matter what time it was, when I needed a break, I hit play and it just takes me to what feels like another world.”

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9. Joywave – Anemone

Wendy M. describes this song as one that cycles from a “suffocating, inescapable anxiety” into a “warm and comforting embrace.” In her struggles, she found this song as especially helpful to escape the difficult place in her mind. She not only finds the calming tune as something she immediately latched onto, but she also says that the lyrics resonated with her as well.

10. Rita Ora – Grateful

This song reminds Taylor S. to be grateful for all the bad as well as the good, explaining that it puts the things she’s been through and the way to where she currently is into perspective. “And that’s something I need a constant reminder of — that I wouldn’t be the person I am today without my anxiety and depression.”

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11. Tool – Reflection

Jayson H. says that this song has always helped him. “The lyrics actually reflect my experience coming out of depressive episodes; it is at first a song about despair, but it becomes a spiritual awakening.” He hopes that everyone can find the strength and awakening the way he did.

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12. Christina Perri – The Lonely

“I find myself laying in bed, crying and contemplating whether to continue to fight or not. I’ll listen to this song on repeat and just get out of that dark emotional state,” explains Sara E., who has found this song as one that speaks to her depression perfectly.

13. Casting Crowns – Oh My Soul

In a dark fight with her depression and anxiety, Morissa S. has discovered this song which helped her realize that “one more day” was all she needed “over and over no matter how many times it was needed.” She sends a strong message she learned from this song: “I just needed to get through this one day at a time and that I was not alone.”

14. Red Hot Chili Peppers – Under the Bridge

Rianna J. loves the feeling that this song gives her. “It really relieves my anxiety. Many Red Hot Chili Peppers songs help me tremendously,” she says.

15. Oasis – Wonderwall

Lizzie W. explains how depression and anxiety are hard enough to cope with through a day, let alone a night. “…One night, my husband sang it to me and told me when I’m feeling down to listen to it. It’s very calming. He said it will be like he’s there being my rock,” she says.

16. Jack Johnson – Breakdown

“Aside from being very upbeat, this song reminds me to let go of the unnecessary stress in my life. Even if it’s for just a moment. Life can spin out of control in an instant and sometimes, the only thing you can do is breakdown,” says Dania F., adding that this song reminds her that whenever she experiences a breakdown she only needs look around and see the beauty this world is abundant with.

17. Sia – Breathe Me

Rebecca H. says that this song describes and embodies the feelings of loneliness, anxiety, tortured thoughts, depression, relapse. “Being overwhelmed by your own inner demons and pain, having a breakdown and feeling suicidal, begging for help and hoping someone will listen.”

18. Colbie Caillat – Try

This song helps Sara K. realize that she doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful. “It helps control the thoughts in my head saying, ‘You’re too fat. No one likes you. You never do anything right. You’re ugly. You only look good with a bunch of makeup on,’” she explains, adding that many of Colbie’s songs seem to be very helpful for her depression and anxiety.

19. Van Morrison – Days Like This

Shane E. says that this song helps him come to terms with the fact that days like that happen and will pass. “Sometimes it’s a real struggle and other means are necessary to cope, but sometime this song can lift the darkening veil over my mind.”

20. Alessia Cara – How Far I’ll Go from Moana

Even if it’s a Disney song, Megan A says that it reminds her of how much more is out there and that her life doesn’t have to be ruled by her mental health.

21. Lord Huron – The Night We Met

This song takes G.J C. to another place, away from the chaos in the head. ““It just reminds me of good times and good feelings, like I’m floating in space or under a thousand stars. I feel ‘not in this world’ and just in a place where I feel only the good.”

 

Is there a song that lifts you up and calms you down, taking you away to another place? Which of these songs did you like the most?

Solo for the Holidays: Here’s How You Can Stay Connected

Some people choose to spend the holiday season with family even if that means spending hard-earned vacation days traveling to and from a remote part of the country. To others, home is a primary address around which they have built their life. Though your perspective may have changed, expectations tend to be heightened at this time of year. Regardless of the circumstances in which you find yourself, holiday cheer often relies on maintaining a sense of connection.

If you’re on your own this season because of work, weather, distance or the drama of family gatherings, here’s few tips what you can do to stay connected from Alex Wise – a relationship coach, TV & radio relationship expert of Loveawake.com an Australian-based dating site:  

  1.       Don’t Neglect Tradition

Failure to keep old rituals alive is what keeps many individuals feeling disconnected at holiday time. If you are one of many who keep putting traditions on hold until you meet “the one” and have a family, you are doing yourself a disservice. Think about how you spent the holidays growing up. Perhaps it was a movie marathon on Christmas Eve or new pajamas for everyone the morning after. Then make a list of your favorite holiday traditions and try recreating them on your own turf and terms; doing so will remind you where you came from and reinforce your feelings of belonging.

  1.       Be Sure to Build Customs of Your Own

If you are ready to cut the umbilical cord, then it’s time to create traditions of your own. Consider activities that make you feel close to yourself, the people around you and the community at large and build them into your holiday agenda. If you love to cook, perhaps holiday brunch at your home becomes the place to be from this year forward. Whatever you choose to do, by carving out new traditions you are assigning your own meaning to the holidays, which will make it feel more right to you.

  1.       Share Moments Virtually

These days there is more than one-way to “reach out and touch someone,” so don’t sit back and wait for the phone to ring. Respond to the deluge of season’s greetings cards by sending out funny e cards or emails to catch people up on your life, or sign on to Skype and video conference nieces and nephews as they open up their gifts from you. The holidays are a time to reconnect with loved ones, so take advantage of the technology that’s right in front of you even if that means some time on Facebook.

  1.       Give in to Nostalgic Moments

Good memories are a source of comfort if you take the time to reflect. Digging into the past can help you feel connected to those who have passed, moved on or are far away for this year’s holidays, which is why time spent savoring old letters, photos and souvenirs can be uplifting.   Allowing yourself this guilty pleasure will free your mind to escape to a happy place.

  1.       Appeal to the Senses

Scents evoke memories, sounds move the spirits, tasting gives pleasure and touch makes us feel alive. Consider preparing fresh baked cookies, savoring a food that’s rich and festive, downloading holiday music or indulging in a deep tissue massage. These are a few of the things you can do to charm your senses into an elevated state this season.