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17 Reasons Why Your Mom Is Your Best Friend For Life

By
Mary Wright

If there is one person who has been unconditionally invested in you and your happiness since the first day you were born – it’s your mother.

She played with you when you were a kid, she picked you up from school, she cooked you delicious meals, helped you to write your homework, and made sure to know every little detail that happened to you during the day.

All she ever wants is to take care of you and provide for you. She never forgets to buy you your favorite chocolate when she goes to the store, does she?

Plus, even though she can sometimes be nagging when she keeps reminding you to stop biting your nails, she is the first one to burst into laughter when you tell a joke. Her unconditional love for you is irreplaceable.

Here are 17 reasons which prove your mom is your best friend for life.

1. SHE WATCHED EVERY DISNEY MOVIE WITH YOU JUST TO SEE YOU HAPPY.

She has endured everything – from your meltdown when you saw Bambi’s mother die to the lovey-dovey movies like Cinderella. Moreover, her favorite movie of all times is Beauty and the Beast because you two have watched it sooo many times.

2. SHE ALWAYS DEFENDS YOU

When you were a kid, this meant defending you and fighting with your elementary teacher when they didn’t understand your “creative expression” during class. And now, this means bad-mouthing your boss with you after you’ve had an awful day at work. But, hey! This is what moms are for!

3. SHE CARES ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE MORE THAN YOU DO

She was the first one to tell you not to get that awful piercing or the terrible haircut. But, of course, you didn’t listen to her, so you’ve learned your lesson the hard way that your mom was right – and she indeed knows best. Okay, the hideous Christmas sweaters that she made you wear don’t count.

4. SHE IS THE ONLY PERSON WHO KNOWS YOUR FASHION TASTE

She was the first fashion icon in your eyes. Her closet was the first one you have raided by trying her dresses and heels. Her style influenced yours. This means that your mom always knows what to buy for you even if it’s some plastic Tupperware or extra sponges.

5. SHE HAS SEEN IT ALL

From the times when she changed your diapers and took care of you when you were grossly sick to your embarrassing moments in school when she had to bring you clean underwear. She has literally seen it all.

6. SHE WILL ALWAYS BE THE MOST FUN PERSON TO GET DRUNK WITH

Seeing your mom get drunk is the most hilarious thing you’ll experience. You’ll enjoy hearing her drunk stories, and her, revealing to you all the family secrets. Moreover, you two finally share a hobby that doesn’t include watching “Modern Family.”

7. SHE WILL CELEBRATE YOUR BIRTHDAY MORE THAN HER OWN

Because the day you were born is the best day of her life. So, she will never forget it and also, she will celebrate it and be more excited about your birthday than she is about her own.

8. SHE MAKES YOU FEEL SPECIAL

She has been telling you that you are a princess since kindergarten. She talks on the phone with you for hours just to listen to you complaining about your every-day trivialities. She also stocks up your favorite food when you come home for the weekend.

9. SHE WON’T JUDGE YOU FOR STAYING IN YOUR PAJAMAS ALL DAY

However, she will make sure that you change them with clean ones before you get back to bed.

10. SHE ALWAYS SPLITS HER MEAL WITH YOU

Even if this means she gets to eat less because suddenly she is ‘full.’ This is because she wants only the best for you.

11. SHE ALWAYS GIVES YOU THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT

She ‘believes’ you when you say that that crazy Bloomingdale’s charge came from the early birthday present she got you. Your mom is sooo thoughtful, isn’t she?

12. SHE LISTENS TO YOUR PETTY PROBLEMS AND THEN SHE GIVES IT TO YOU STRAIGHT

She is incredibly patient with everything you do. This includes your obsessive-compulsive behavior over trivialities. When you are being a drama queen, your mom is there to give you free therapy session. Tough love is not excluded. Sorry.

13. SHE IS THE ONLY ONE WHO ACTUALLY CARES IF YOU WORE A SWEATER

Or had enough for dinner, or brought an umbrella, or got sick. She worries about all the little things that may happen in your life that could impact your health and wellbeing.

14. SHE HAS STORIES THAT BEAT YOUR STORIES

You think you are a badass because you ran a marathon? Or because you went to Rihanna’s concert? Nah-ah. Your mom is way more badass than you. Just ask her and hear your badass stories. You’ll be pleasantly surprised.

15. SHE WAS WITH YOU EVERYTIME YOU DID SOMETHING STUPID

Because she is the first person to call when you have an emergency.

16. SHE GENUINELY CARES ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING WITH YOUR LIFE

Even when she is being a pain in the ass, you just know she means well. Plus, she always makes sure to stick to your plans because she has always dreamed big for you.

17. YOU HAVE INHERITED HALF OF HER GENES

While she is proud to have directly impacted your shining personality and awesomeness, you are utterly terrified of becoming like her. Just kidding, mom. You know we love you. ????

 

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Ladies, You Need To Stop Doing This On Instagram!

By
Stephanie Reeds

I’m getting the feeling this world has gone mad and women need to politely ask for their natural rights to be respected as equal human beings. Our society exists for creating social stereotypes for both men and women that eventually influence our social and physical habits.

One thing is for sure. Social media tends to display women as these objects of men’s perverted sexual desires.  And what have we as women done to prevent that? Let me tell you, not much.

I can’t help but notice and I’m sure you did too – what’s with today’s Insta trends? This self-promoting thing? Totally crossed the fine limit between showing a part of your life and exposing your own intimate body parts.  Young girls, revealing little too much and not being aware they are degrading themselves with their shameful appearance.

I get it. You are a young, sexy 20-something girl and you’re confident about your body, but that is no reason for you to advertise your naughty bits on Home Feed.

The first legit reason behind it?  It’s disrespectful to yourself and makes you look cheap. You may not be conscious of that fact, given the dizzying number of likes on your fresh trending selfie. Put your phone down and stop for a second.

You and yourself only are accountable for the impression you leave to other people. And trust me, this is not the proper way to be happy and confident about yourself. Show a little respect for your body. If you don’t, nobody will.

Let me give you a friendly reminder: You’re not modeling, and this kind of self-promotion will bring you the wrong crowd. The fact that the Internet is known as the Worldwide Web means that you’ll never know what sort of creep or pedophile might be lurking on your profile.

On a different note, besides the fact it’s disrespectful to yourself, showing your half naked body and your peachy sun-tanned butt creates that well-known objectification of women.

Well, I’ll be damned, but I won’t allow you to sell the female gender to the wicked hands of male chauvinism and macho superiority.

My word of advice for you girls. Please stop fooling yourself into thinking that the crazy amount of “likes” and “shares” you get are because they like you. You’re putting a show out there and they fall for it.

They don’t have a clue about your true self – the most important thing to them is whether your boobs show off in that pink tank top.

So please, stop shaking and posting your lady parts for some stalker’s pleasure. Learn to respect your body and soul. Most of all, don’t you ever compromise your integrity for someone’s cheap thrill. 

As long as there are women out there who are perfectly fine with the idea of selling their bodies and identities for a little pinch of affection, we’re not getting anywhere close to our desired direction.

We need to start doing something about it and it better be SOONER!

12 Things Every Woman Wants In A Relationship

By
Mary Wright

Even though every woman is different, I think that when it comes to relationships, we are pretty much the same. Because ladies let’s face it – we can all be a pain in the ass sometimes.  

And gentlemen, pay attention to these 12 things that women want in a relationship but may not tell you.

1. She Wants To Feel Safe By Being Vulnerable With You

No matter how strong or independent a woman might appear – the truth is, we all sometimes want to be taken care of. A woman wants to feel safe around her man, and not just physically safe, but also emotionally safe. She wants to be able to confide in him and show him her vulnerable side without being judged.

2. She Wants You To Be Consistent

Women are tired of dating men who are acting all perfect for the first few months of the relationship, and then suddenly they show their true colors by turning into a whole different person. A woman wants someone who won’t cease courting her even when the initial “honeymoon” phase is over.

3. She Wants To Feel Desired

It is the small things you do that make her feel desirable: the way you seduce her by looking intensely in her eyes, the way you gently touch her knee when you are driving, or the way you rest your hand on her back while introducing her to someone. This means much more to her than compliments ever will.

4. She Wants To Be Strong Without You Feeling Threatened

Many confident and strong women out there sometimes feel like they are intimidating to some men. She wants someone that can make her feel strong without being emasculated by her strength. She wants a man that can be her teammate in life, not her rival.

5. She Wants To Trust You And Be Trusted

A woman wants to feel you trust her especially when she hasn’t done anything to make you suspicious. Moreover, she needs to trust you too because mutual trust is the core of all healthy relationships.

6. She Wants Your Presence – Not Your Presents

It’s not that women don’t appreciate nice presents, they do. But they don’t see them as a substitute for your time, presence, and attention. Make her feel loved by being with her, not by buying her gifts.

7. She Wants More Than 10-Minutes Of Foreplay

Yup, I had to say this.

8. She Wants You To Treat Her As An Equal

Because she is your equal, and because you should respect her as such.

9. She Wants To Communicate With You

Active listening and communication are crucial when it comes to building a successful relationship. And you should be able to tell the difference between talking at her and talking with her, as well as hearing her and listening to her.

10. She Wants You To Make Her Laugh

If you look for the recipe for keeping your woman always interested – look no more. It’s humor. Yes, gentlemen. You should be able to make your woman laugh and keep the mood light between you two if you want to have a successful relationship. Just be careful to not make inappropriate jokes.

11. She Wants To Count On You

A woman wants to commit to someone who would not only be there for her when times are good but also when times are bad. She wants to have a partner who will have her back always. Because enduring the difficult times together is what makes the relationship stronger and real.

12. She Wants You To Accept Her As She Is

Nobody is perfect. But the woman you love would be perfect for you with all her imperfections. When it comes to love, you have to see the person next to you for who they are without expecting them to change.

 

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8 Ways Men Who Don’t Cheat Are Different From The Rest

By
Elizabeth Williams
are there men that don't cheat

Are there men that don’t cheat?

Cheating is the eternal pain for many people who want to experience a sincere form of love and some people feel completely destroyed after being cheated on. The truth is, cheating is not limited to men only – everybody does it.

However, most commonly, the label ‘cheater’ falls onto men (for whatever reason) and you can often hear the saying “All men are the same.” But are they? Thank God not.

While there are men who simply don’t know how to remain faithful (and while the reasons for cheating can be many) – one thing is certain: not all men cheat. And those who don’t are indeed different in many ways from those who tend to cheat and scour for excuses afterward.

Here’s how they differ:

1. Evolved way beyond their primal urges

Sexual attraction, the subconscious desire to reproduce, and so on, are primal urges that have been programmed in our brains for the continuation of the human race. And you might even hear that monogamy is not a natural thing for humans.

Whatever the case though, these men have evolved beyond all that and know that sex is basic, while the connection they can create with one person is much, much better. For these men, monogamy is a choice they gladly make.

2. Grown past the need to count their sex encounters

The insecurity that is booming from the men who cheat is the same that makes them think that conquering another girl’s bed will make them manlier. This is childish, though, and men who don’t like cheating know this. They have all the self-esteem they need and they don’t need trivial sex encounters to boost it.

3. Valuing their reputation

While cheaters build their reputation on being the ‘bad boy’ and the ‘object of desire’ of many women, this is actually quite repelling and a thing that good men see as a complete destruction of one’s reputation.

The thing is, integrity is one of the most important traits a person should possess, and these men wouldn’t ruin theirs even if they could get away with it. They will either be with the person they love, or they would openly tell them that it’s not working out.

4. Never taking the easy way out

Men can be real cowards when it comes to simply stating if a relationship is not working or or see how girlfriend or your wife is cheating on you. And some choose to cheat as an easy way out. That way, the other person will have the final say in it, and they will be free to roam.

However, good men will never choose this way – they will try to find a way to discuss the issues that trouble the relationship or simply confess that they don’t feel in love anymore and that it would be better if they went their separate ways. They don’t string their partners and they don’t act single while they’re still in a relationship.

5. Appreciating what they have

Many men take their relationships for granted. Well, not these guys – they appreciate the connection and the person they are with (otherwise, they wouldn’t waste their time on it). Good men know what it means to be with a person who is ready to give their best, and they like to reciprocate.

6. Respecting themselves and their relationship

Cheating on a partner means a lack of respect not only for the partner but for the relationship as a whole. And that, in turn, means a lack of respect for oneself. I mean, why would you get into a thing you are ready to degrade?

Men who don’t like cheating know that cheating is disrespectful to every element of the relationship they chose to be in and shows just how little they appreciate their choice.

7. Valuing love over carnal pleasures

Love is the highest form of connection, and good men know that there is nothing more important than love. Some fleeting experiences that can easily turn into bitter regret for nothing? Why waste your time on trying to feel good with a stranger when you have someone who you can be most comfortable with?

Men who don’t like to cheat will never feel satisfied with a quick and easily forgettable experience, especially if that means sacrificing all the feelings they have for that one special person in their life.

8. Cheating is a waste of time

There are so many ways to spend your time, and these men don’t see cheating as one of the options. The truth is, we are all so very busy – so why waste precious moments of your time doing things that bring no lasting enjoymen?

More Reasons and Signs of a Cheating Boyfriend

Good men like to spend their free time with the person they learned to love and share every experience with. Time is a treasure that we need to spend wisely, not on some pointless activities that lead to nowhere.

And if you have a man like this, know that you should NEVER think of cheating on him. Not only will this break his trust in you, but he’ll start perceiving you as something he’d never like to turn into (even if he forgave you).

If there is something that’s troubling you, these men are ready to work things out and discuss the issue. These men are mature and sensible, so it’s better that you learn to communicate with them on that level.

19 Things You Should Be Aware Of While Dating A Sarcastic Girl

By
Stephanie Reeds

These days, one thing is sure, sarcasm makes the world go round and it’s a virtue that’s valued the most. So, if you find yourself dating a quick-witted gal keep in mind these 19 simple rules.

1. First of all, whenever I text you, I suggest that you always take it with the grain of skepticism. Chances are, I’m always sarcastic.

2. We have this necessity to be sarcastic at any given time. And sarcasm over text is the perfect way to get people lost in translation. However, we know that sometimes it’s too much to handle for you non-sarcastic mortals. SORRY, but NOT SORRY.

3. Let’s face the truth here, our sarcasm is way funnier than every day’s humdrum humor. The thing is, not all of you get our jokes. No offense though, we’re not laughing at you.

4. We show our feelings in very unique and exclusive ways, so this means you’ll always be surprised. By now you’ve noticed that we’re kind of different from other girls. So, don’t get us wrong. Whenever we ignore you and make faces at you, that’s actually a crazy, stupid, love moment.

5. And when we really like you, the sarcasm is on FIRE. As I already said, we can’t help it, it’s that damn defensive mechanism. It’s just the way we are. But seriously, feel free to bite back. There nothing better than a stimulating conversation with a dash of sarcasm to take the edge off.

6. Bear in mind that if we ever manage to calm our wits around you, we’re making huge sacrifices here. You should be thankful because man… you have no idea how hard is it.

7. Okay, I admit it… we may not be the perfect psychologists when it comes down to letting it all out. We won’t always give you the most rational advice, but you can be sure that will always listen to your problems and provide the best sarcastic feedback. At least we’ll do our best and make you laugh!

8. We’re perfectly normal human beings and aside from the fact that our conversations are solely based on sarcasm, we tend to have honest opinions. So, when we give you a genuine compliment, we really MEAN it! It just doesn’t happen that often… ok?

9. You know we won’t waste a given chance to use our sarcastic wit. After all, it’s our power shield.

10. Don’t worry there are times when you can relax and take a break from us. Maybe when we’re sleeping. But even then, we can’t promise everything. God knows what we’re dreaming about.

11. Since you’re somewhere in between reading these cardinal rules, I’m sure by now you realized whether you’re attracted to a smart-mouthed woman or not. Because the thing is, we’re curiously intrigued by people who understand our sarcastic point of view and fire their own ways back at us. If there’s a bigger turn on than that, let me know.

12. Also, there will be times when we encourage ourselves and say something incredibly heartfelt but the downside here will be that you won’t notice it and mistake it for a sarcasm. And so… we’ll feel pretty silly. I know, we are extremely complicated.

13. Bear in mind that we’re the best influence when it comes down to improving your cognitive functioning. Studies have shown that using sarcasm is good for solving problems more creatively. Think of it as mental gymnastics.

14. Sometimes, not always, our sarcasm pops at probably the least convenient of times… and I’m sorry but you’re just going to have to deal with that.

15. You know, it starts off as a joke, but when we say that we’re kidding, that’s probably not true. Not every person gets that and believe me, not every person needs to understand. It’s easier that way.

16. Some people would say we don’t have feelings. Like we care. We’re not all made of sugar and spice. Some of us are made of sarcasm, wine and everything fine. Cheers!

17. You could say we have a hard time expressing ourselves. I mean, that’s nothing to be ashamed of. If you want to express your feelings directly and forward, go for it, we won’t judge. But for us sarcastic, nightmarish creatures, the only way is through the battle of wits. And we enjoy it!

18. Even though our true affection and feelings are buried somewhere deep down, please have in mind that we’re sensitive and loving just like every other person. We might sound to you like a bunch of bullies, but in reality, we honestly don’t have a clue how to give you the signal we care about you. Don’t you dare tell on us.

19. At the end of the day, our sarcastic behavior means you’re probably going to have a lot of fun being in a relationship with a smart-mouthed girl. Enjoy it while it lasts!

 

Inspired by Thought Catalog

12 Weird Things BFFs Do That Prove They Are Soulmates

By
Stephanie Reeds

Having someone who’ll always be there for you is one of the most important things in life. That’s where our best friends come into the picture. I’m sure you’ve had one of them. Having a best friend is a lot different from having 1000 Facebook “friends”. It’s that person that understands us on a deeper level and loves us unconditionally.

Here are the reasons why these genius weirdos are our so-called soulmates…

1. A true soulmate is measured in the ability to cope with your not-so-fine days. Whenever you feel the blues, they are the first person to turn up and brighten your day. A good friend will always make sure to be a shoulder to cry on, even if it’s 4 am in the morning.

2. You can tell a best friend anything without having to say “Don’t judge me, but…”. Believe me, they won’t. Chances are they’ve already done the same stupid thing or maybe even worse. And you’re still there for each other. What was that saying? “I’m the kind of friend who will help you hide a dead body”. Yup, that’s the one.

3. Best friends are needy. We love that form of affection even if it’s wrapped up in jealousy when we’re out spending time with some other friends.

4. They are brutally honest and realistic to the point of criticism. And of course, by criticism I mean constructive. There’s no such thing that can be harmful to our relationship. Again, thank you for this. If it weren’t for you, who knows how many drunken ex-boyfriend calls there would be.

5. Best friends are 24/7 together. Even when they’re not with each other, you can find them on the phone, reviving just another regular mini-drama one of them had or binge gossiping that stuck-up girl from last Friday’s party. They are basically the perfect package.

6. There’s this weird, but amazing connection between best friends that includes magically hating the same people. When it comes down to your circles, it’s safe to say that you like and dislike the same types of people. Bonding time goals!

7. On top of it, you have special code names for these people, hand signals, heck; some of you creative besties have even a secret alphabet. However, you couldn’t care less if you are subtle or not, so your conversations mostly sound “CRAY-ZAY”.

8. Best friends are those magical people who you can call at any time and tell them all of the dumb and meaningless things that happened to you just for the sake of doing it. Because somehow when you are together everything has a meaning, and for some reason, it’s a thrill discussing every little detail of your lives.

9. Soulmates share all of the gross and extremely intimate information with each other. Whether it’s the horror of the first-time sex-act or the results of her routine gyno-visit, you name it. The list goes on.

10. True soul mates have absolutely no problem staying naked or undressing in front of each other, as weird as it sounds. Parteey!

11. A best friend knows all of your social media accounts and digital passwords, just in case they need to log in instead of you and stalk the hell out of their ex who blocked them a few days ago. Friends in need are friends indeed right?

12. If this isn’t enough for you… Here comes another one. They are faithful as they come, will help you unravel every mystery and go through every theory on the subject “Why didn’t he call me?” After carefully examining the evidence you two gathered from Facebook, they’ll come up with the perfect explanation.

All of these reasons are simply not enough to justify their holiness. Shout out to all of our besties! We love you beyond words.

Source: Thought Catalog

12 Ways To Boost The Serotonin In Your Brain

By
Elizabeth Williams

Serotonin is one of the most important neurotransmitters in our body. It contributes to a general sense of mental well-being and happiness, quality of sleep, learning ability, memory, libido, and appetite.

Lacking a healthy production of it can lead to depression, and one of the ways it can be boosted is through prescription anti-depressants. However, there are natural ways you can boost your serotonin as well, and you should start doing them regardless of whether you are taking anti-depressants or not.

Anti-depressants are sometimes needed for us to take solid ground and start working on ourselves. So here’s how you can do that and improve your general sense of happiness and well-being.

1. Cut down on sugar

Sugar cravings are usually a sign of lowered serotonin, as the body needs the insulin produced in response to sugar as a building block for serotonin. However, in the long run, sugar creates a complete mess in your body and you are simply better off without it.

2. Eat more protein

Foods high in protein introduce more tryptophan in your body – the building block for serotonin. Introduce more lean meats, cheese, eggs, and any other protein-rich food you can think of.

3. Take more B Vitamins

Especially Vitamin B6. The B Vitamins contribute to a better brain function and serve to protect it and boost its performance. You need that a lot if you want more serotonin.

4. Introduce more nuts and seeds into your diet

Nuts and seeds are an excellent source of tryptophan as well, and you should definitely eat as much as you can get your hands on. They are also rich in some very healthy fatty acids, many of which contribute to a better brain function.

5. Fermented foods and drinks

Fermented foods and drinks boost your digestion and help your body to better assimilate the nutrients that are used for the creation of serotonin. Which is more, they boost the nutrients you intake by a hundredfold and the yeast contains the essential B Vitamins.

6. Get more sunshine

Sunlight triggers the brain to produce more serotonin. So, pull your curtains away and get out in the sun every day for at least 10-20 minutes.

7. Do more exercise

Doing physical exercise makes the body produce endorphins which make you feel in better spirits immediately. During workout, your serotonin levels also change. You could do some workout in the sun, or if it’s cold outside, do some workout after the walk in the sun.

8. Get a massage

It does feel good on tired and tense muscles and, what’s even better, it has a direct impact on your serotonin levels. Massages reduce the cortisol levels in the body (the stress hormone that blocks the production of serotonin) and this allows the brain to boost the serotonin production.

9. Meditate

Workouts are good for the body and trigger the serotonin response; meditation is good for the mind and it also triggers an increased production of serotonin. It also helps the mind to stop wandering and ruminating, thus contributing to a better mental well-being.

10. Spend more time in nature

Nature offers a peace of mind and large amounts of oxygen that can help your brain to clear the rubble out and reboot. Hiking in nature is a very effective way of boosting your serotonin.

11. Get rid of toxic people

You should never forget that sometimes assholes can make you more depressed than anything else. Get rid of them and surround yourself with positive people who share your vibration.

12. Keep out of stressful situations

If you are struggling with depression, it’s best that you stay away from situations that cause unnecessary stress. Focus on your well-being and simply say NO to these scenarios (at least for now).

 

Your lifestyle is the best anti-depressant you can get and it doesn’t cost anything extra. If you are taking anti-depressants, you should be aware that it’s probably for the best – although introducing a better lifestyle is paramount in this period.

However, should you decide that you don’t need them anymore, we urge you not to stop taking them before consulting your doctor. Some anti-depressants can be dangerous if cut out instantly.

 

Sources:
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The Law Of Attraction

7 Ridiculous And Silly Signs That Show You’re In Love

By
Mary Wright

Love is a divine force that can be manifested in many ways. Some are old-fashioned and romantic, some are unexpected and surprising, and some are weird and ridiculous.

And I am sure you can all agree that love makes you do crazy things. But how crazy? Read on to find out!

1. You Can Talk About Your Bodily Functions With Them

Some people are incredibly shy and would never dare to mention farts or poop around others especially if they are not related to them in some way. We were told from a young age that we (especially girls) are not supposed to do these things or talk about them. 

However, when you are around someone you truly love, all these things won’t matter. You won’t be ashamed to fart in front of them, or use the bathroom and do the number two when they’re in the house.

You are so comfortable around each other that you even pee when the other one is in the shower. You don’t see your bodily functions as something to be ashamed of, but rather as a thing that serves to provoke hysterical laughter.

2. They Frustrate The Living Hell Out Of You, But You Tolerate Them Anyway

Even when your partner is being a pain in the ass, you still want to be around them. Your partner might not have realized that you are ALWAYS right, so whenever they do something dumb, you just put a great effort not to put their big stupid head through the wall.

And even though half of the time you are both yelling at each other, this never makes you question your relationship. Because even when you feel like you ‘hate’ them, love and hate are very similar emotions when it comes to their intensity.

So, when you say to them ‘I hate you’ you actually mean ‘I love you,’ don’t you?

3. You Are Willing To Run Errands With Them

They make mundane everyday things a whole different level of fun. When your partner asks you to help them do the laundry, or go with them to the grocery store – you never say no.  

Moreover, that might even turn out to be your best day ever because you and your partner know how to have a blast every time, even when you are running these boring annoying errands.

4. You Will Make Your Life Harder For Them

It can be hard sometimes to manage your time and make time for each other, especially when you both have busy lives. It can take a lot of advance-planning, scheduling and rescheduling to see this person.

However, you are willing to do all that planning. Better yet, you are ready to sacrifice yourself and go to great lengths to see them. You don’t mind if you have to call in sick at work, grab a taxi, hop on a train, and make a hotel reservation in their town in order to see them.

5. They Make You Want To Scream A Lot

Everything gets louder when you are together, even your laughs. You both get passionate when discussing even the most trivial matters.

Moreover, when you are fighting you scream not because of hate or anger, but because you want to be clear and make a point because your partner means a lot to you.

6. You Ask Them A Lot Of Questions

When you truly love someone, it comes naturally to you to ask them a lot of questions: What should we order for dinner? Have you been to Italy? Do you know how taxes work? What are your dreams? What moves you? Where should we go tonight?

Every question you have you direct it to them. It can be rather frustrating for them, but who cares?

7. They Scare The Crap Out Of You

Love can indeed be terrifying. Especially when you start overthinking. Because when you get really close to someone you know deep down that you are headed for a possible hurt. You look at them and you see a person who can hurt you like no one else before. And this scares the shit out of you.

However, this doesn’t stop you from choosing to be with them every day. You learn to live with this fear because you can’t seem to let this person go. They mean so much to you, and you hope that they won’t inflict you pain ever.

 

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12 Old-Fashioned Dating Habits We Should Definitely Bring Back

By
Stephanie Reeds

Have you ever felt like you don’t belong in this century? I sure have. Some of you out there might be too young to get the clue but just ask your parents and grandparents. I’m sure you’ve heard all about that charming black’n’white era. Those old and faded photographs with your grandpa being quite the perfect gentleman and granny as this alluring vintage beauty.  Ahh.. Those were some days. If you ask me, I’d definitely trade some of 2019 for the golden 70’s. At least for a day. If there’s something significant about these old times is their true authenticity. People valued sincerity and honesty, their music remained a brilliant classic up until today and will stay forever, but most importantly dating was a special event and included some fine, sophisticated methods. So, what if there’s a way to try and change today’s monotonous dating habits? I’m thinking more affection and attention, classy gentlemen, doors held open, some flowers maybe? If I managed to pique your interest by now, it’s because there are some old dating habits I believe we need to bring back.   Let’s do this!

1. Go up and ask her out on a date

Once and for all let’s put a stop to “hanging out”. Boys, if you want to go out on a date with that special girl, just ask her out directly. Being upfront about your feelings and affections reduces the chance of you ending up in that awful place. Friendzone, was it?

2. Dress up nicely What’s with modern trends? For the love of God, people, put some effort into your look. Believe me, clothing style speaks so much about you. I’m not saying be 100% formal and sharp-dressed, but occasionally wear that special t-shirt or dress that you’ve been saving for special moments.  Trust me, you won’t go unnoticed. Check this website if you are looking for fancy shoes such as platform mary janes.

3. Bring a small gift or flowers It’s really not the gift that matters, but the thought that you actually cared enough to do something meaningful.  Whether if its flowers carefully picked up from your mom’s garden or her favorite chocolate, it’s the ultimate romantic gesture.

4. Go dancing instead of raving I don’t know about you, but there’s something about these modern-day mainstream clubs that sickens me. People seem like they are not enjoying themselves. Luckily, there are still some rare gems that can be found where you can have some FUN. Pick a special night to go out dancing. Let’s bring retro back and do dancing a thing again!

5. Put away your phone First of all, it’s very disrespectful to the person sitting next to you. I’ve seen those tedious couples constantly staring at their cell phones while having a “romantic” dinner. Please don’t EVER turn into them!

6. Open the car door for her Of course, this isn’t a MUST, but it shows a great deal of respect.

7. Be honest about your intentions Going through that talk about where your relationship is headed can be a bit awkward, especially if you are in the early phases. Word of advice: never avoid it. It’s always wise to be clear about your intentions. Are we onto something or this is just another meaningless fling?

8. Take her on a romantic night out I’m guessing you already have your dating routine by now. Why not try and mix things a little bit? Make a reservation at that fancy new restaurant she likes and surprise her.

9. Don’t expect sex on the first date Analyze carefully before you make this move. The thing is, you’ll sometimes come across some easy prey, but when there’s a lady in the picture, please, take it slow. Every step counts, so be a gentleman and don’t rush her on this.

10. Say “I love you” only when you mean it People nowadays don’t care about your feelings. Don’t go around and scatter these words like they’re some kind of a trash. Let’s bring back the true meaning of words. Say them only when you feel that way. That’s when their power is revealed.

11. Remember the things that make her happy The small things that make her truly happy. Like going to the premiere of her favorite movie, remembering what kind of drink she orders, listening to that special song she’s been humming the past week, respecting and actually enjoying her music preference. I could go on like this forever… Don’t forget these things.

12. Always be on time Last but not least. It’s rude and disrespectful to be late, especially on one of the first dates. Be the perfect gent and arrive even 10 minutes earlier.

7 Ways To Eliminate Overthinking And Start Living Life To The Fullest

By
Elizabeth Williams

Thinking is both a gift and a curse and humanity’s number one challenge.  It’s what makes us different from the rest of the animal kingdom and it is our gift of thinking that has helped us advance in every field we are aware of.

However, when thinking becomes overthinking, it is the number one factor that prevents us from living our lives to the fullest. If a person gets caught in the loop of endless thoughts that make other smaller thoughts become bigger and bigger, we quickly start losing touch with the rather simple reality we should be facing. (1)

Overthinking is the root of suffering for many, and it leads us to a debilitating and paralyzing state that doesn’t allow us to take any action. And thought is useless without action, really.  

So, how to eliminate this toxic mental pattern in your head? Here are 11 things you should know.

1. NO INSIGHT HAS EVER COME OUT OF OVERTHINKING

The only thing that overthinking will bring you is the drive to give up doing the thing you wanted to do. Why? If you start imagining every outcome of every possible scenario, you will not only end up in a dead-end, but you might even consider giving up on whatever you were thinking of because of the possible negative scenarios.

The truth is, no matter how much you think you can know, life’s surprises and outcomes are not based on your knowledge and your logic. You will never know how something is going to turn out until you experience it. And even then, you won’t know if you’ll have the same outcome if that thing happens again.

In other words, if you want to do it, simply go for it. Be more spontaneous and trust your instinct.

2. NO DECISIONS ARE FINAL

Even if you make a decision, it doesn’t mean that this decision is final. In fact, overthinking gives us the illusion that our decisions can’t be changed or readjusted later on and that they have to be 100% correct.

The truth is, the decision is simply the starting step of the journey you are preparing yourself to take and it is one that will involve a series of other decisions based on the moment.

You should be comfortable with being wrong because in the end, even the seemingly ‘worst’ decision leads to some very good insights and revelations that can help you to perfect yourself. Knowing the outcome of everything simply makes life feel dull and uninteresting.

Pave your way one step at a time and don’t think too much about what will happen. When it does, take the challenge and tackle it.

3. BE MORE PHYSICALLY ACTIVE TO TIRE YOUR BODY OUT

When given all the time in the world, one can’t help but start overthinking. It’s simple really – when you don’t do something that engages you, you naturally start drifting away in thoughts.

So, why not set some goals you wish to achieve for the day? Engage yourself in some physically stimulating activities and turn your focus from thinking to doing something that will expend your body’s energy in a healthy way.

Simply stand up and go jogging, do yoga, play with your pet, whatever makes you feel positive and engaged. Give your mind a break and start reaching tangible goals.

It’s much more rewarding to use up the time that has been given to you and achieve something out of it than to waste it on thoughts that lead nowhere.

4. KNOW THAT YOU CAN’T KNOW EVERYTHING

You should be skeptical toward your thoughts – especially when they lead to some conclusions that aren’t based on enough evidence and proper context. Simply ask yourself, ‘Can I be 100% sure about this?’

You never can, really. Not until you see and experience it. There’s a difference between beliefs and facts. You may feel like something is like that, but never underestimate the power of our mind to create illusions and misconceptions.

Wait for it and explore the facts in a more tangible manner. Until you reach the information you need, there’s no point in thinking too much about what it could be.

5. PLAN FOR CONSCIOUS DISTRACTION

Overthinking gets intense at certain times of the day – just ask yourself: when do you get caught up in rumination the most? Whatever time of the day it happens to you most intensely, make a plan to create a distraction set exactly for that time. (2)

Simply do something that will keep you busy during that spare time and direct your thoughts toward the activity. It could be playing board games with your family, going out for a meal, playing Sudoku, doing yoga, or whatever you find interesting.

Whatever you choose to do, make sure it’s going to turn into a healthy habit that doesn’t harm you in the long run and that makes you feel fulfilled, positive, and relaxed.

It’s better to do something interesting than go down the rabbit hole and end up feeling disturbed, stressed, and bad.

6. SERVE FIRST, SEEK SECOND: HELP SOMEONE ELSE TO GAIN PERSPECTIVE

We all have problems, and usually, problems lead us to overthink. However, being consumed by the thoughts that revolve around these problems not only leads you away from gaining perspective, but you also lose touch with the reality you should be perceiving.

A good way to gain perspective on your issues is to try and help someone else out with their problems. The act of helping serves to remind us that problems go hand in hand with life and that we are not the only ones that are being affected by them.

It’s not that you’ll get any discount on your struggles, but the mere act of helping will help you understand so many things about tackling problems in a way that your overthinking doesn’t allow you to.

Helping others is a reward in itself. It mind-liberating and offers insights in ways that you can’t imagine.

7. THE BEST MOVES ARE THOSE THAT ARE IN COORDINANCE WITH YOUR TRUE SELF

The decisions you make, no matter how they turn out to be, are the things that define you. So, act in accordance with your true self and trust your gut. Thoughts can distract you from the best of solutions and experiences.

The most important thing is to act with confidence and stand up for the things you believe in, always being true to yourself. You can’t avoid challenges, and you shouldn’t. People usually overthink because they are afraid to step out of the neat comfort zone they have created.

But don’t forget – a comfort zone offers no pulse, no movement, and no change. Comfort zones equal death, challenges make life.

Source: Tiny Buddha

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