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STOP Doing These 7 Things For Your Teen This Year If You Want To Raise An Adult

Most of today’s parents take it upon themselves to do their children’s chores for them, thinking that this is what good parents are supposed to do.

Stuff like packing school lunches, delivering forgotten school items and doing school projects and homework for your children are generally perceived like things any good parent should for their children, but is this really how you raise competent adults?

Will stripping your children of any sense of responsibility help them become responsible adults, capable of solving any problem that life throws their way? 

Some people have abandoned these practices in favor of more of a ‘military-type approach’ to parenting as they work to build necessary life skills in their children.

Here are 7 things that parents must quit doing for their children if they want to raise a functioning adult:

1.Stop Waking Them Up In the Morning

Your children need to learn to appreciate time for themselves, which is why you need to stop waking them up for school in the morning and let the alarm clock take over.

A few weeks (and possibly several suspensions) later, your kids will learn their lesson and will cease to rely on you to wake them up for school in time.

2. Stop Making and Packing Their Lunch for School

Ms. Carney says her responsibility when it comes to feeding her children in the morning ends with her making sure there is enough food in the fridge for them to fix their own breakfast. 

What is her rationale behind this decision?

‘One friend asked, yeah but how do you know what they’re bringing for school lunch? I don’t. I know what food I have in my pantry and it’s on them to pack up what they feel is a good lunch,” she wrote.

“It will only be a few short years and I will have no idea what they are eating for any of their meals away at college.”

3. Stop Filling Out Their Paperwork For Them

The beginning of the school year is the time when kids are required to submit an extensive paperwork to their schools. In Ms. Carney’s household, her children were expected to fill out all of their paperwork as soon as they became of age. She says this is how children learn responsibility for what’s ahead. After all, they will soon need to fill out job and college applications and they need to learn how to do this on their own.

4. If They Forget Something For School, Leave It

Children, and especially teens, need to be held accountable for their actions. Most parents have found themselves in a situation where they are rushing to deliver a forgotten PE uniform or a cell phone to their children’s school, but is that the right thing to do?

Ms. Carney believes, and we agree on that, that kids need to pay for the consequences stemming from their actions. It is a steep learning curve but one that will definitely instill some sense of responsibility in the young mind!

5. Stop Doing Their School Projects for Them

A typical teen will always postpone doing his/her school project until the very last moment. A typical parent will always come to their rescue and run out to get the materials needed to finish the project.

Parents need to toughen up and stop carrying the burden for their kid who didn’t take the time to properly plan to execute what was his responsibility in the first place. It may sound harsh but this will teach your children to do their chores in a timely and responsible manner, an invaluable lesson for what awaits them ahead.

6. Stop Doing Their Laundry

This is not to say that you should stop doing your children’s laundry altogether, but rather to remind them that you do not work for them and that you are not the only one who can do laundry around the house.

Make your children participate in the process of doing their laundry. For example, you can do the washing and they can fold and put their clothes away. This way they will learn to do the entire process all by themselves when such situation arises.

7. Stop Calling Their Teachers and Coaches

You should stop being the ‘over involved parent’ and let your children settle any problem they may have with their coach or teacher themselves.

If something is important to your child, it is best that you let him/her deal with the issue on their own.

It is one of the best lessons your kid will ever learn – mommy and daddy won’t be here forever to make the problem go away.

 

Source: Amy Carney

This Couple Hiked For 3-Weeks To Get Married A Top Mount Everest. Their Wedding Photos Are Stunning

The wedding day is the happiest day of our lives. However, what that day is going to look like, depends solely on the couple’s wishes.

35-year-old James Sisson and 32-year-old Ashley Schmeider from California decided to go beyond the traditional and have a more authentic wedding which was more characteristic to their personalities.

They planned their wedding for a whole year, just like any other bride and groom would do, and decided to have it 17,000-feet up in the clouds, on top of Mt. Everest.  So they set on the most exciting journey of their lives.

When they landed in Nepal, in early March, they found out that planning the journey was nothing like going through it.  Together with their photographer Charleton Churchill, the couple climbed the 17,000 feet and reached Base Camp. There they exchanged their vows.

The couple travelled three whole weeks in order to reach their destination, meanwhile undergoing cold, harsh and bad weather conditions.                                  

Altitude sickness and freezing temperatures didn’t stop them to continue to the top where they said their “I do’s”.  

Although all this was challenging for him too, the photographer is really glad for being part of this adventure. He took the most amazing wedding photos. There are no others like them.                                          

Go through some of the photos below and marvel at both the beautiful scenery and beautiful couple.

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12 Reasons Dating A Shy Guy Is The Absolute Best

He is always sweet and adorable. He might seem a bit nervous at times, but his shyness is actually nothing less than adorable.

He is always there to give good advice. It starts with the fact that he is a great listener and a compassionate companion. He will hear out your problem and will offer the best advice, whenever you need it.

He is polite and respectful. Regardless of whom he is dealing with, his boss or the local grocery seller, he will always be well mannered.

He will actually listen to what you have to say. One thing that you will not see from your shy boyfriend is eye-rolling when you start your thorough analysis of Beyoncé’s successes and failures. Surprisingly, he actually cares about what you have to say.

He is happy to take part in activities that most guys would run away from. You need to bake cookies for your best friends surprise birthday party? Call your boyfriend; he will make sure you get things done on time!

He comprehends that expressing your emotions is a normal thing people do. Your shy boyfriend will always be your shoulder to cry on, no matter what you are going through. He will be there for you when your dog dies, or when your favorite TV show ends.

He always finds ways of surprising you and he’s obsessed with it. He will think of a cute present, nice trip or anything that will express his love. Get used to flowers, chocolates, and even letters and poems.

His devotion to detail is outstanding. You will be surprised that he knows the exact way you drink your coffee, your favorite things to wear and your favorite places to eat.

He simply does not know how to brag. He allows his achievements to speak for themselves, and appreciates only modest recognition of his efforts. His humbleness will make you scream out loud how great he is.

He will keep surprising you with his amazing skills and knowledge that he has never mentioned before. Don’t be staggered if in a three-year long relationship, he never mentioned that he is fluent in French.

He does not try to be the dominant voice in every discussion. It’s a great feeling when he actually lets you finish your thought, and express your opinion.

You feel comfortable around him. He is easy to get along with, accepting and not intimidating at all. You will feel comfortable doing, talking and wearing whatever you feel like around this guy, and that’s what matters.

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According To Scientists, This Is What Happens To The Human Body When You Walk Barefoot On Earth

The picture above shows an improvement in facial circulation after 20 minutes of grounding, as observed by a Speckle Contrast Laser Imager. Areas in dark blue are with the lowest and those in dark red are with the highest blood circulation.
Left: Before grounding; Right: After grounding. Image Source: Scientific Research Publishing

If you prefer walking barefoot in your yard, you may be onto something very healthy. And come to think of it, how often do you walk barefoot outside? Today’s society doesn’t really consider the effect Nature can have on us as much as it has been respected back in the past.

And most people will only walk barefoot on the ground outside when they are on holiday at the beach. If you are one of these people, then you should consider the following:

Also known as grounding or earthing, walking barefoot on the ground has long been associated with spiritual practices. However, this technique is much more than just a conviction.

Having been built by Nature’s laws, it’s only logical to assume that our most natural state would be the healthiest one in most respects. And when it comes to the feet, the moment they touch the surface of Earth, its intense negative charge starts affecting the body in a number of positive ways.

The electron-rich surface of the earth starts exchanging these electrons with our body and charges it with their antioxidative and free-radical destroying properties – and according to scientists, this is only the tip of the iceberg.

Degenerative diseases

A team of researchers led by Gaétan Chevalier of the Developmental and Cell Biology Department at the University of California at Irvine have studied the effects of Earth’s surface electrons on the human body and have concluded that the solution to fighting chronic degenerative diseases could be right beneath our feet.

 “Contact with the Earth – whether being outside barefoot or indoors connected to grounded conductive systems – may be a simple, natural, and yet profoundly effective environmental strategy against chronic stress, ANS dysfunction, inflammation, pain, poor sleep, disturbed HRV, hypercoagulable blood, and many common health disorders, including cardiovascular disease.”  
– Gaétan Chevalier et al.

Wounds, immune response, chronic inflammatory and autoimmune diseases

A review done by Nature’s Own Research Association, in collaboration with the University of California at Irvine and the University of Oregon, has found that grounding has a profound effect on our body’s immune response and it serves to reduce and even prevent “the cardinal signs of inflammation following injury.”

The electrons from the Earth which start to circulate our body help in the healing of even the most serious and most persistent open wounds by reducing the inflammation and allowing for the healthy cells to form and the tissue to recover.

The researchers explain that “when mobile electrons are not available, the inflammatory process takes an abnormal course. Areas that are electron deficient are vulnerable to further injury – they become positively charged and will have difficulty warding off infections.”

This results in a “constantly activate and eventually exhausted” immune system, which in due course could fail to make a distinction between the body’s diverse chemical structures and the molecules of bacteria, fungi, parasites, and cancer cells.

The outcome could be a devastating attack of the immune system on the body’s own tissues and organs, which in other words is an autoimmune disease. Grounding does not only help in the prevention, but it is also beneficial in the treatment of this.

Cardiovascular diseases

Another study led by Gaétan Chevalier, published in The Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine, shows that grounding works on the cardiovascular system by increasing the surface charge on the red blood cells, thus reducing the viscosity of the blood and clumping.

Blood viscosity is a major factor in cardiovascular diseases and the research team concludes that grounding is “one of the simplest and yet most profound interventions for helping reduce cardiovascular risk and cardiovascular events.”

Facial blood flow

By spending even an hour in touch with the ground, a study has found that the electrons entering the body help to restore blood flow regulation to the face. This means “enhanced skin tissue repair and improved facial appearance with possible implications for overall health,” or in other words, less acne and inflammation and quicker healing of any wounds.

Stress and cortisol levels

Connected to the stress response of your body, and a hormone which helps with the regulation of the blood sugar levels, metabolism, inflammation, and memory formulation, Cortisol is a very important hormone.

When out of balance, this hormone is known to cause major stress, interfere with learning and memory, it can lower the function of the immune system, contribute to weight gain, increased blood pressure, and the list goes on.

A study concluded that grounded people exhibited a reduction in cortisol during sleep and a proper alignment of the same with the natural 24-hour circadian rhythm profile.

The list of the positive effects of grounding can be extended to a lot more than this. In short – grounding rebalances your body with its natural rhythm and helps it to recover and restore its functions quickly and efficiently.

 

HOW TO GET GROUNDED

Grounding doesn’t require a lot of thought. If you have a yard, spending time barefoot on the ground will charge you up with the electrons from Earth’s surface. There are even conductive systems for indoor grounding, which you can use while sleeping, sitting in front of your computer, and you name it.

While we do spend most of our time walking from place to place, and thus being in touch with the Earth’s surface, the problem is that the soles of our shoes insulate us from the negative charge of electrons below.

While leather (and vegan leather) soles allow for some transfer, it’s best to take off your shoes and socks and walk, or just stand on the ground and let your body take what it needs from it.

Most illnesses of the 21st century are connected to the loss of touch with the ground, as our bodies have become more positively charged and with that more susceptible to infections, degenerative diseases, hormonal imbalance, and autoimmune diseases… the list goes on.

We need to reconnect with our true nature and allow our bodies to start healing the way they were built to. Many people are in desperate need of this.

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Crossing Your Legs Is Really Bad For You. Here Is Why:

Crossing the legs is a habit that many of us do without even being aware of doing it. It’s just an impulsive posture whenever we are sitting. And of course, crossing your legs is very feminine and adds elegance and style to your appearance. However, there are some medical concerns which you need to get familiar with.

Here are 5 reasons why you should stop crossing your legs:

  1. Crossing your Legs Causes Numbness in the Muscles

 When your legs are crossed, the peroneal nerve at the back of your knee is under a lot of pressure, preventing the sensation to the lower legs and feet. If you spend a lot of time in that position you’ll feel numbness in your legs and feet. Whenever you get that feeling you need to massage the muscles hard in order to increase circulation in the veins.

  1. Crossing your Legs Causes Peroneal Nerve Palsy

Sitting with your legs crossed for a longer period of time, causes a condition known as peroneal nerve palsy, or foot drop. This results in disability to lift your toes properly. This condition was also tested in a study in South Korea. Many patients were sitting with their legs crossed for hours, and felt numbness and foot drop.

  1. Crossing your Legs Increases Your Blood Pressure

When the doctor is checking your blood pressure, he tells you to relax and sit with uncrossed legs and arms gently placed beside your body. That’s because when you are sitting in a comfortable pose the blood pressure comes to the normal level and can be checked properly.

Crossing your legs regularly can cause increasing of your blood pressure to a certain level. According to several studies conducted by 2010, crossing your legs on a regular basis can cause higher blood pressure.

But another study  has shown that whether you cross your legs or you don’t, that would not make much difference in the level of your blood pressure. However these studies were based on checking the blood pressure only once.

A more important study was carried out at a hypertension clinic in Turkey. Their conclusions were based on a few readings with crossed and with uncrossed legs.

It was concluded that blood level was increased while the legs were crossed, but a very important fact is that when the pressure was measured three minutes after uncrossing the legs, the level of the pressure was same as before the measurements. A greatest increase of the blood pressure was noticed in people who already suffer from high blood pressure.

There are two main explanations why crossing your legs can cause temporal higher blood pressure. When one of your knees is crossed over the other, blood is send from your legs to your chest, causing the heart to pump more blood, thus causing increased blood pressure.

The second explanation for increased blood pressure is because of the isometric exercise of leg muscles which increases the resistance to the blood which goes through the vessels. On the other hand, crossing your legs at the ankles is not harmful at all.

A few psychological measurements were taken in Nijmegen, Netherlands in order to find out which of the explanations mentioned above is correct.

The study has shown that resistance in the blood vessels didn’t increase when the heart rate was low and the legs were crossed. However the amount of blood being pumped from the heart did increase, thus showing that the level of the blood pressure rises because crossed legs are pushing blood to the heart.

It was concluded that crossed legs can cause temporal increase in the blood pressure. However, there is no evidence that there are any long-term consequences unless the person is at risk of blood clots. In that case, they shouldn’t sit with crossed legs for longer period of time, because crossed legs prevent the normal flow of blood, thus increasing the risk of vein thrombosis.  

  1. Crossing your Legs Causes Varicose Veins

Sitting with your legs crossed can give you varicose veins. The reasons why some people suffer from varicose veins are still unknown. There are small valves in the blood vessels which prevent blood from going into the wrong direction. But when those valves become weak, loose or stretched the blood can pool thus causing enlarged veins, called varicose veins.

But, crossing the legs is not the only reason for causing varicose veins. The most important reason for varicose veins is due to genetics.

Varicose veins is a bad condition which is worsened during cold days. However, crossing your legs will cause inflammation of the compressed veins. 

  1. Crossing your Legs Leads to Poor Posture

When people spend more than three hours a day sitting with their legs crossed are more likely to lean forward and round their shoulders. This affects your overall body posture and stretches your muscles. Furthermore, lower back pain, neck pain, and discomfort in the hips can occur as well.

Crossing your legs very often and for a longer period of time causes pelvic imbalance which shortens the inner thigh muscles and lengthens the outer thigh muscles. And there is also a risk of joint displacement.

Those are the five reasons why sitting with your legs crossed is bad for you. Now when you’re aware of them, you can try and give up the old habit. But you shouldn’t worry because you can still look feminine and elegant if you sit straight. The most important thing is to keep your feet and knees close to each other.

Improving both your sitting and standing will help you deal with the health issues mentioned before. The way you walk is also connected with your health.

People rarely pay attention to these things. Posture is the last thing on their mind. They consider it unimportant to the overall health. And although that is maybe right at the beginning, bad body posture can cause serious health problems with time.

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It Took 125 Years To Notice Something Extraordinary In A Painting Millions Have Seen

Vincent Van Gogh is a true genius and one of the most remarkable artists in the world. His paintings now hang in world’s most popular museums and take the breath away of millions of viewers around the Globe.

However, he was not appreciated in his time, and committed suicide at 37 having sold just one painting in his life.

 In 2004, a group of scientists using the Hubble space telescope came up with a very interesting finding. They saw that around a star there were eddies of a distant cloud of gas and dust which reminded them of Van Gogh’s painting “The Starry Night”.

This led them to think that maybe Van Gogh has solved one of the greatest mysteries in physics today: fluid turbulence.

In “The Starry Night”, Vincent Van Gogh painted the view from the window of his room just before sunrise in an asylum where he admitted himself after cutting his own ear in a psychotic episode in June 1889.

In this painting Van Gogh’s circular movements with his brush created a night sky filled with eddies of stars among swirling clouds.  

Van Gogh and other Impressionists captured light in a different way than their predecessors: across swirling waters or in starlight that melts and twinkles through Milky Way of blue night sky. They noticed that our brain reacts more to light than to color, so they created this effect by luminance – the intensity of the light in the colors on the canvas.

This is because the primitive part of our brains’ visual cortex sees only light and motion, not color. This cortex blends two areas of different colors together if they have the same luminance.

Contrary, our brain’s primary sub-division sees contrasting colors, but doesn’t blend them. When these two brain interpretations happen together, the light in many works by the Impressionists look like they flicker, pulse, and radiate strangely.

This is how Van Gogh with its distinctive way of brush strokes painted something strikingly real about the way in which light moves.

This engaged scientists from England, Mexico, and Spain to study in detail the luminance in Van Gogh’s paintings. They discovered that many Van Gogh’s paintings hold distinct pattern of turbulent fluid structures resembling Kolmogorav’s equation.

They came up with this finding by first digitalizing the paintings and measuring the variation of brightness between any two pixels.

They also concluded that paintings from Van Gogh’s period of psychotic agitation are very similar to fluid turbulence, unlike paintings from his ‘calmer’ period of life. For instance, his “Self-Portrait with Pipe” shows no such correspondence.     

And while it is easy to conclude that his periods of psychotic turbulence and desperation were ‘catalysts’ of his true genius in him, it is not entirely appropriate to just say that Van Gogh’s psychotic episodes solved one of physics most difficult questions.

Still, we can say that the turbulence of his mind enabled him to present the turbulence in nature. Finally, he is the first one to successfully unite his unique mind’s eye with deepest mysteries of movement, fluid, and light in a time of intense suffering and desperation.

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Installation and Home Décor Ideas for Electric Fireplace for Healthy Life in winter

It is true that the sight of a Nostalgia UK fireplace is such a relief in winters. However, its installation can be exorbitant and call for a lot of maintenance. With the advent of different types of fireplaces, people have made a shift from wood-burning or gas fireplaces to electric fireplaces. It a great alternative to customary systems and avoids you the hassle of having a chimney.

Electric fireplaces come in a wide range of styles, however usually, they use mirrors, LED light and Mylar to give a look of the flame. The log of an electric fireplace may be wood, metal or rock.

Electric Fireplace Installation

The installation of electric fireplaces is a lot less bother than those traditional wood-burning or gas fireplace infixes.  Since they require no gas lines, smokestack or other substructure, you can introduce an electric fireplace anyplace you have an electric plug, and in homes where regular fireplaces are not a conceivable option.

There is no requirement of a chimney, venting or the monitors and care needed in a ventless gas fireplace for electric fireplaces. They don’t give out dangerous fumes such as carbon dioxide and carbon monoxide. Also, the task to clean and maintain electric fireplaces is easy as they do not produce any ash or soot.

Add an Electric Fireplace to Your Wall

Many of you will be wondering how difficult it must be to add an electric fireplace to your wall. To your surprise, it is a very easy task and can be done in less than a half hour.

The fixing procedure is simple and it is fundamentally the same as hanging a picture frame or heavy mirror.  Rather than circling wire over screws, you will be inserting a mounting bracket that the firebox will then append to.

What should be kept in consideration is the area of the outlet and cord. Some people may want to move the outlet in the wall so that the cord is holed up behind it. That’s a task beyond the capability of an average home owner and you would want to seek an electrician’s help.

You can use flowers and a little table to camouflage or hide the cord. You can also consider using paintable wire covers which will hide the cord and paint the cover the same shade as your walls. This is an inexpensive and effective solution.

Obviously, each distinct electric fireplace comes with its own unique set of installation instructions. However, in general, the installation approach is quite similar among all of them.

Electric Fireplace Home Decorating Ideas

You will be pleased to see a wide collection of designs in electric fireplaces. They range from modern sleek to a conventional wood look, making them perfect for a great deal of fireplace decorating ideas. You can hang them on a wall, get them in fixed or install them in a cabinet so they look like a part of your household furniture.

You can simply forego modern fireplace installation ideas and resort to installing an electric fireplaced embed in a masonry fireplace or an existing brick opening to make an exceptionally customary atmosphere. This makes all of the appeal of a brick chimney mantel and even a spot to hang the supplying for Santa!

Electric fireplaces come in different shapes and sizes and have a ton of visual choices. They are getting considerably more popular ever since they came up with linear modern models. These adopt the shape of a long narrow fireplace rather than a squared-off conventional fireplace.

Have you installed an electric fireplace to your home or workplace? How was your experience?

10 Steps To Raising Happy Children – Backed By Science (Part I)

Every parent’s main purpose in life is to see their child happy. This idea has lead parents to make immense sacrifices and they are happy about every sacrifice they have made for their children’s happiness.

However, not all steps are positive on the long run. Many parents choose to make huge financial sacrifices with little regard to how this will affect their child in the long run.

While spoiling your child with all the material goods they wish for can cheat a smile on their faces, this can by far create a negative ripple effect on their personality. However, going the other way may also hurt your child in the long run too.

Other parents disregard happiness, with the thought that happiness comes from success and being smart. For this purpose, they become over-controlling and too obsessed with their grades, school activities and what not.

Happiness is however the number 1 thing that every kid should have. Kids who are happier are more likely to grow into successful and accomplished adults. Really, a happy child is a motivated child. Without genuine happiness, would you be motivated for great things?

But it’s such an elusive term, that doesn’t really show in itself how it can be genuinely achieved. Or is it?

In her book Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents, Christine Carter, Ph.D. points to what science has shown to really work in the process of raising a happy kid.

Carter is a sociologist and happiness expert at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, and in her book, she looks into these dilemmas that we mentioned above, and much more. For your convenience, we have tried to sum up the best ideas in this article – step by step.

            Step 1: Make sure you are happy

Yes, the first step to providing a happy childhood to your child is you. Children are really affected by the way their parents feel. Carter notes that this fact is backed by extensive research, which has shown that there is a substantial link between the emotions of the parents to those of their children.

Carter notes that “parental depression actually seems to cause behavioral problems in kids; it also makes our parenting less effective.”

This effect has little to do with genetics. In fact, the effects of the state of mind of the parents did not come as a result of genetics, according to the studies she had cited in her book.

What to do: Laughter

Spending time with your friends, at least once a week, is an important thing. If you have a family, and having a family is a full-time job, you need some time off too. Hang out with friends and family who love a good laugh.

Even if you are not in the mood to laugh, neuroscientists have found that hearing someone laughing triggers mirror neurons in the brain that make you feel as though you are laughing yourself. And we all know that laughter is the best medicine!

We have also written an article about how you could feel happier and more empowered every day. You can read it here.

Step 2: Teaching your children to build relationships

There’s no denying that relationships are important, and every parent feels that too. But how often do you spend time teaching your children to build them?

Yes, your children have learned to bond with you and close family members, you do encourage them to stick to their friends, and you disapprove of any aggressive behavior. But this won’t lead them far into what it takes to build the essential people skills.

What to do: Kindness and empathy

Encourage your children to perform small acts of kindness and work with them on building empathy. The best way to do this is by showing just how beautiful it looks when you do that.

Allow them to see the joy in the others when they are caring and kind, and work things out when they need to consider how they affect others with their actions. Allow them to walk a mile in other people’s shoes (figuratively) before deciding what to do next.

Step 3: Celebrate effort, not perfection

Praising your child for their intelligence, abilities, and successes can have adversely negative effects on their mental health and their future efforts.

Carter notes that “parents who overemphasize achievement are more likely to have kids with high levels of depression, anxiety, and substance abuse compared to other kids.”

In fact, Carter explains that children who have been praised for their intelligence show a lack of courage when it comes to taking on more difficult challenges, and prefer those that seem easier so as not to lose their status as “smart”.

This, however is not the case with children who have been appreciated and encouraged to put effort in whatever they do, regardless of the outcome.

What to do: Encourage, don’t brag

You may be very proud of your child’s intelligence and achievements, but bragging in front of them for this and labeling them as ‘the talk of the town’, won’t help much.

Instead, encourage them and praise them for the effort and hard work that will eventually bring them to achievement. Having healthy expectations from them means focusing on their efforts toward a good result, rather than the result itself.

Step 4: Teach them to look on the bright side

Happiness has got everything to do with optimism. Carter notes that “optimism is so closely related to happiness that the two can practically be equated.”

When she compared pessimists to optimists, she found that optimists are healthier and live a longer life; they are more successful in the academic and working environment; they are more satisfied with their marriages; and are less likely to have depression and anxiety issues.

What to do: Find the silver lining

Every cloud has a silver lining, and after every rain comes a rainbow. This is what you should always teach your children. Avoid being negative about situations in life, especially in front of them.

Life has its ups and downs, and your children should know that. Instead of focusing on the negative side of it, work with them to find the positive lesson out of it, help them look on a positive outcome, and always encourage them to be satisfied with what they have and look forward to better things.

Step 5: Help them raise their emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence is something we learn – it’s a skill. This kind of intelligence comes with a specter of understanding of one’s own emotions, as well as those of the others. This introspection is very important for everyone.

When you see your child expressing emotions actively (sadness, anger), relate to them. Help them to identify the feelings they are experiencing and make sure they understand that every emotion is normal and natural.

What to do: Listen, empathize, show

Instead of dismissing their emotional reactions, especially if it’s anger or sadness, sit down and listen to them. Make sure they are aware you’re listening carefully and are genuinely interested in their side of the story.

You should understand why those emotions are there, and really feel their side of the story – empathize.

No matter if you’re doing the right thing, which they don’t understand, you should never dismiss their feelings that come as a result of your choice. Remain adamant with your choice, but show that you understand their feelings and show your empathy with it.

This is the first part of the 10 Steps to Raising Happy Children. Stay tuned for a second part and in the meanwhile: 

If you want to buy Carter’s book Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents, it’s available on Amazon at an affordable price.

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This Is Why Osho Called Mother Teresa A Deceiver, Charlatan And Hypocrite

Osho for decades have criticized Mother Teresa’s work and the ideology behind her work. He said that under the cover of “serving the poor” there is an agenda of religious conversion and child indoctrination through religious conversion and teaching that is socially unacceptable.

Osho believes that there is a deep conspiracy between politicians and priests. Politicians rule us from the outside, priests rule us from the inside. There is no escape from the influence they have on us although this might be totally unconscious.

Osho received a letter from Mother Teresa as a response to his commentaries against her work. In the letter she wrote: 

Osho says that he does not doubt the sincerity in her letter. However, he feels that whatever she wrote is mechanical and unconscious; almost robot-like. She does not know what she is writing, nor does she understand the adjectives he had called her: the adjectives being deceiver, charlatan, and hypocrite.

On deception…

Osho believes that deception is a double-edged sword because the deceiver by deceiving other is also deceiving himself. He says that Mother Teresa is a deceiver on both sides. Yes, she has been serving with good intentions those in need, but the final results are not based just on good intentions. You may plant seeds for flowers but wind up with thorns no matter how much effort you put on planting them.

“She feeds seven thousand poor people every day. From where does this money come? Who donates this money?”

This is indeed something to think about. The poor have been served for centuries, but there is still poverty in the world. There will always be poverty because the whole society functions by helping the poor. It is society’s way of controlling the masses. Otherwise, they may become murderous and revengeful. By this logic, the same people who donate money to help the poor are the ones exploiting them on the first place. It is a vicious cycle.

So, from where does Mother Teresa get the money?

In 1974, the Pope himself gave her a Cadillac which she sold right away and donated the money to the poor. But the question remains: from where does the Pope got the money to buy the Cadillac in the first place? We all know that the Pope is one of the richest men in the world, and yet not even one percent of this fortune goes to these missionaries of Charity.

This capitalistic machinery exists only for serving the rich by masking this fact so that it looks like they are serving the poor. They make the poor feel that they help them, so they are not revolting against the society. These missions of charity exist only to deceive the poor, to give them hope. If they abandoned them there would be revolution and rebellion out of hopelessness.

“On the surface they serve the poor – but fundamentally, basically, indirectly they serve the rich.”

Osho said that Mother Teresa shouldn’t have won the Nobel Prize, and she felt offended by it.

Nobel, the founder of the Nobel Prize, was one of the greatest criminals in the world; he manufactured weapons resulting with the death of millions of people during the First World War. He accumulated his money from the blood of people. Each year there are dozens of Nobel Prizes given by his money filled with blood.

And now, this money that comes from wars and murder is given to the Missionaries of Charity for serving the poor. By this logic it takes millions of dead people to feed seven thousand people, and to raise a few orphans by making millions of orphans. What a strange world!

Mother Teresa accepted the Nobel Prize out of vanity. She wanted to be admired and respected. On the other hand, Jean Paul Sartre refused the Nobel Prize. He didn’t want money that comes from wrong sources, nor could he accept any respect from an insane society. This man is far more religious than Mother Teresa on this matter.

On charlatanism…

Osho calls these people charlatans because in his belief, a truly religious person could not get a Nobel Prize. Just try to imagine Jesus getting a Nobel Prize, or Socrates. Unbelievable! And these are people who were truly religious by heart.

However, these religious people are often condemned by society because of their rebellious nature. Think about this for a moment: Mother Teresa is praised and considered a saint, while Jesus was condemned like the worst criminal.

If you can’t agree that Mother Teresa is right and Jesus is a criminal, then it must be the other way around – that Jesus is right and Mother Teresa is a charlatan.

On hypocrisy…

Osho calls Mother Teresa a hypocrite because she says one thing and does another. For example, she has rejected a Protestant family that wanted a child with the excuse that they have run out of orphans.

Osho argues how she suddenly ran out of orphans when there are thousands of orphans in the houses she helps and thousands more on the streets of Calcutta.

Moreover, if there weren’t any orphans there, then what was she doing with seven hundred nuns? To whom are these seven hundred nuns mothering?

However, the family was not refused immediately. At first, they were told that they would get an orphan. They just needed to fill a form. So, when they came to the point where they said they are Protestants… Mother Teresa ran out of orphans! If this is not hypocrisy then what is?

“Had they written ‘Catholic’ they would have immediately been given the child.”

This family had even chosen the child, but Mother Teresa rejected them on the premise that they were raised Catholics and it would be bad for the psychological well-being of the child if a Protestant family were to raise it.

On conversion…

The main thing is that these children are all Hindu. If Mother Teresa is so worried about their psychological state then why would she raise them as Catholics? How can their psychology not be disturbed if they were raised as Catholics, but when there is another religion in question there is a problem? If she so believes in her theory then she shouldn’t have converted any child into Catholic religion.

“She is very enthusiastic about converting people. If people were not converted, then who would the Christians in the world have been?”

The fact that Christianity has existed only two thousand years and has the biggest number of believers speaks for itself. And it all comes from conversion. They bribed people by giving them food, military and hospital services.

However, they could never convert a rich Hindu – they can’t bribe the rich, only the poor beggars.

On anger and forgiveness…

In her letter she writes, “For the adjectives you add to my name I forgive you with great love.”

To this Osho says that if you forgive somebody then you must have been angry first. Love does not need forgiveness.

“I don’t forgive Mother Teresa, because I am not angry at all. Why should I forgive her? She must have been angry.”

This is why he said that she was not aware what she was writing.

On choice…

Osho adds yet more attributes to her name: stupid, mediocre, idiotic! He says that she is the one that needs to be forgiven because she writes in her letter that she is “fighting through adoption the sin of abortion”.

“Abortion is not a sin – in this overpopulated world, abortion is virtue.”

If abortion is indeed a sin, then she herself along with the Pope are responsible for it because they were against all birth controlling methods.

It is unforgivable to be against the pill in this time. This pill could make the Earth a paradise if all of us used it wisely when planning our families. But what would Mother Teresa and the Pope do if there were no orphans? This type of paradise most certainly didn’t appeal to them.

In conclusion…

We are not condemning Mother Teresa’s work. She most certainly did a great job helping the poor, but we had the need to present to you a new perspective on her work. I am not sure you agree with this critic, but I am sure that he raises a lot of questions to think about.

Source: www.huffingtonpost.in

If Your Body Suddenly Jerks While You’re Falling Asleep, THIS Is What It Means

Drained and exhausted, you are finally in bed sinking into what will be a deep sleep, when your body starts ‘falling’ and it suddenly jerks to stop that ‘fall’. You will of course wake up immediately and wonder where it came from.

And no matter how many times happens, you never get used to it, it never feels less abrupt, and it never gets any better. The falling sensation can even be terrifying, which ends with an involuntary, sudden, and shocking jump.

If this has happened to you at least once, you are not alone. In fact, up to 70% of people experience this phenomenon, also known as hypnic jerks (or sleep starts). Nobody really knows what causes these sudden jerks for sure.

The science behind hypnic jerks

Although a solid explanation for how and why hypnic jerks happen hasn’t been offered, there are two theories that suggest some reasons for this. One states that the hypnic jerks happen as a result of the natural downshifting of the nervous system as you’re falling asleep.

It owes its explanation to the shifts of the muscle tone, which happen as a result of the slowing down of your breathing and heart rate, and the natural drop of your body temperature. In this transition, the theory suggests that the twitches come as a response to this downshifting.

The other theory suggests that it happens as a result of the rapid relaxation of your muscles, which your brain interprets as if you are actually falling. In response, it signals the muscles to tense up, so that you could protect yourself.

External factors and possible prevention

Whatever the case, researchers think that this response of the body comes under the influence of external factors, such as caffeine, tobacco, sleep deprivation, and it’s even associated with the intake of medications like Adderall and Ritalin, which can have similar effects.

If you experience these twitches often, try cutting back on caffeine and avoid it at least two hours before sleep; use some relaxation techniques, and practice better sleep hygiene.

If you can’t fall asleep because of these jerks, or your anxiety about having them, talk to your doctor.

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Source: Sleep.org