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11 Scientific Reasons Why People Who Are Socially Anxious Are Usually Highly Intelligent

By
Elizabeth Williams

We previously discussed about the positive link between intelligence and anxiety, and it’s truly remarkable that the higher the anxiety, the higher the intelligence of the person is. However, what does this mean for the anxious mind?

Science has been exploring anxiety ever since it was first recognized as a disorder, and their conclusions are mind-blowing.

The fact is that anxious people possess so many traits that others can only wish for, and this gift comes with а price, which is the burden of not being able to cope with anxiety so easily.

For example, did you know that the high level of intelligence that anxious people possess is what creates the troubles in their mind in the first place?

Here are 11 surprising characteristics that anxious people possess:

  1. Sentinel intelligence

Sentinel-related schema are specific cognitive patterns that allow a person to be among the first to detect the presence of a threat. Anxious people possess this ability, and can be real life-savers in such situations.

An example of this intelligence is what a study has shown: anxious people were able to detect the smell of smoke far before anyone else could. This only shows how their hyper sensitivity to threats is more than real. However, it can backfire very easily.

  1. Hyper self-awareness

The fact is that socially anxious people are extremely self-aware. They always watch and control their every move and word, and they are extremely concerned with how their actions could affect those around them.

While this is a positive thing, the problem comes when these people are put at the center of attention. The increased responsibility they feel at that moment can be exhausting and even debilitating, making them want to run away.

  1. Powerful mental processors

The anxious mind is a powerful logical processor. That’s why these people tend to ruminate over just about everything. The anxious mind will be looking at one thing from multiple angles, while expanding the picture to the very ends.

A study has found that anxious people indeed possess this ability to overthink situations, by looking at them from many angles and rationalizing them to a degree of utter madness. The problem is that all of this thinking eventually wears them down.

  1. High verbal intelligence

Anxious people possess an increased ability to perform analyses and solve problems through language-based reasoning. This language-based reasoning involves reading, writing, listening to words, conversing, and even thinking.

In other words, anxious people possess an increased verbal intelligence. This was confirmed by the same study mentioned above, and it is the underlying reason for their excessive thinking.

  1. Mind reading

No matter what you want to show on the outside, anxious people will sniff out your true state of mind and will know what you’re thinking or feeling. Although not mind readers in the literal sense, anxious people have a heightened awareness of other people’s state of mind.

A study showed that anxious people exhibited an increased ability to recognize the cognitive patterns in others, as well as their affective mental state. In other words, they knew what the other person was thinking and feeling.

  1. Empathy

Being able to tell what another person is thinking and feeling has got to do a lot with their powerful logical processors. However, anxious people have been noticed to pick up on other people’s emotional states even without analyzing.

Their empathetic ability is what makes them adopt other people’s problems as their own in many cases; and it is the same ability which makes them experience a great influx of emotions when surrounded by a large group of people.

  1. Down board thinking

Anxious people are masters of down board thinking. They can always predict a few moves ahead, especially in social situations. Their high and quick analytical skills allow them to follow the natural pattern of how things unfold.

Don’t be puzzled if an anxious person ends your sentences, or gets embarrassed before anyone else about an incoming faux pas.

  1. Special bonds

People with social anxiety tend to bond quickly with those with anxiety levels similar to theirs. These friendships form quickly and last for long. They possess the ability to sense and understand people’s minds, so it’s not hard for them to notice someone who is thinking similarly – and it’s mutual.

It’s not that they can’t make friends with others, but a study concluded that the intensity and the rapidity of bonding is increased by far when it comes to those with similar levels of social anxiety.

  1. Empirical conclusions

Their intelligence is unquestionable, so it’s natural to conclude that anxious people base many of their conclusions on empirical evidence. If their stress is showing, that doesn’t make them naïve.

In fact, these people know that history can repeat itself, so they tend to stay away from situations that have caused them to feel negative and stressed out.

  1. Intense sense of reality

Anxious people are not able to dilute the reality they perceive by choosing what to perceive and what to ignore. This keen sense of reality is a result of their constant ‘what if’ tasks in their minds.

While many people tend to ignore many of the possibilities that reality can bring, anxious people are unable to turn a blind eye to the same. This is their gift and curse at the same time.

  1. Piercing perception

Anxious people are able to pierce many of the veils of illusion that others tend to accept and enjoy. Be it an underlying intent, or an effort to hide something from plain sight, the anxious person will always get to the root of it and discover its true nature.

This is what makes them feel pessimistic about their future, especially with the distorted world we live in today. Being aware of how sinister people can be over insignificant things is what eventually pushes them into isolation and depression.

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How Much Do You Think You Are Worth? This Story Might Open Your Eyes

By
Elizabeth Williams

Have you ever felt worthless, rejected, and miserable? That feeling like the whole world is judging your personality and abilities because they feel superior to you. You may have really felt inferior to the walls around you when you think of it.

Feeling worthless is the worst thing you can do to yourself, really. Especially because of other people’s twisted opinions and self-obsession which you then seem to take onto yourself. However, while many would just say that people’s opinions depend on your output, it’s not really like that.

You see, there will always be those who are not as aware as you are; and there will be those more aware. Accepting criticism from someone that doesn’t know you is like getting directions from a first-time tourist to a place you know too well.

The Parable of a Ring’s True Worth

Once, a man came to a wise man and complained that he felt worthless and that he didn’t want to live anymore. He said that everyone around him said that he was a failure and a fool, and he begged the wise man to help him.

After a quick glance, the wise man hurriedly turned down his plea, explaining that he had an urgent matter to take care of. However, he stopped for a moment and suggested that he would gladly help the man, but only if and after the man helped him to get the urgent matter done.

Bitterly noting to himself that his concerns had been again dismissed as unimportant, the man murmured in agreement to help the wise man out.

Satisfied with the man’s response, the wise man took off from his finger a small ring with a beautiful gem.

The wise man explained to the man that he had to sell his ring as soon as possible to pay off a debt, and instructed him to take a horse and go to the market to sell it. He asked the man to try to get as much

“Take a horse and go to the market. I have to sell this as soon as possible to pay off a debt,” said the wise man. He instructed the man to take as much as he could for it, and no matter what, not to agree to anything less than a gold coin.

The man took the ring and rode away. Once at the market, he started offering the ring to every merchant he came across. They were interested in the ring, but as soon as they heard that he offered it for at least a gold coin, they lost all interest in it.

Some simply turned away, and others even laughed in his face. It was only one older merchant who kindly explained to the man that that price is too high for such a ring. He told the man that the ring was simply not worth so much, and that the most he could get for it was a silver coin, or some bronze.

Having heard this, the young man remembered the wise man’s instruction not to give it for anything less than a gold coin. And even after offering it to over a hundred people, nothing changed.

In the end, he rode back to the wise man and told him that he hadn’t been able to sell the ring, as no one was willing to pay so much for it, although he was aware that the ring was not worth a silver coin.

“Now that’s a very important point, my son!” said the wise man. “Before trying to sell a ring, you should find out what it’s worth! And who can know that better than a jeweler?”

The wise man instructed the young man to go to the jeweler this time and ask him what he would offer for the ring. He added that no matter what the jeweler said, he was not to sell the ring, but come back to him right away.

The young man swiftly rode to the jeweler and asked about the ring’s worth. After carefully examining the ring and weighing it on his scale, the jeweler turned to the young man. “Tell your master that right now I can’t give him more than 58 gold coins. But if he gives me some time, I’ll buy it for 70, to compensate for the wait.”

The young man was shocked. 70 gold coins! He laughed, thanked the jeweler, and headed back to the wise man. The wise men listened to the young man describing what had happened and looked him in the eyes.

“Remember this, my son. You are like this ring – precious and unique! And only a real expert can appreciate your true worth. So why are you wasting your time going to random people to find out what it is?”

It is true: We often let those who cannot be aware of our worth to attribute too little worth to something they don’t actually know. Many times, underestimating comes as a result of ignorance. Don’t let someone’s ignorance be your setback. Know your worth!

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How to Understand the Emotions of a Woman

By
Elizabeth Williams

Have you seen the guys at the bar who walk up to a girl and before the end of the evening, she is leaving with him? He has probably used the psychology of women seduction with the added psychology of fractionation which is the “underground” seduction technique that many people say is the most intense and quickest form of seduction that has been developed.

Emotions

A man just can’t walk up to a strange woman and start talking to her and expect to get her emotions going. Before you try fractionation, there are other emotions to work on which are other parts of the psychology of the seduction of a woman. For example:

  • Leadership skills – women love leaders, not followers
  • Special interests – be unique here – what makes you stand-out from the crowd
  • Social skills – how to talk to women; be funny and interesting and not awkward
  • Confidence – this is the #1 most attractive quality for women, no matter what your body type or how handsome you are – be confident

You should be a man that “she” will want to meet! Humans are creatures of emotions and women are more emotional than men. This is the reason that guys wear cologne, wear trendy clothes and have a cute haircut and bring gifts – all to make the woman attracted to you.

Emotional bond

This all adds up to forming some sort typeof an emotional bond between the two of you – without her knowing. Develop the goal of some trust between the two of you. You must know how to talk to women before you attempt fractionation. When you start talking stay confident and ask her lots of questions about herself.

Suspense

Try to build suspense when talking to women – just think how much women love drama! Don’t let her know you are into her right away. Make her want to have your consideration and act somewhat aloof.

Similar to soap operas

Fractionation is like the tactic that soap operas use – the soap opera is first likable, easy to relate to characters, heart-wrenching drama all to get the audience emotionally invested in the characters and watch them every single day. It works – after one- hour people can get hooked. This is the same reasoning that is behind TV series. They hook you after one episode and you can’t wait a week, so they give you the entire season on Netflix as well as all the other seasons. So, before you know it, you go on a binge and end up spending your entire weekend watching all 5 seasons of that show.

Emotions of 5 days into 1

So, fractionation is often described as a blending of “mind control”, tone of voice, body language, and hypnosis. Fractionation is basically containing all the emotions of 5 dates into 1.

Behaviors to avoid

After earning a few dates – the work has just started. There are behaviors to avoid:

  • Lack of manners
  • Talking about other women
  • Telling an angry female to calm down
  • Letting hygiene go south
  • Acting cocky – women see that as lack of loyalty

You might want to investigate more on the psychology of seduction and fractionation before you try this.

 

New Research Says Worry And Anxiety Are Linked To High IQ

By
Elizabeth Williams
Anxiety

Anxiety, though unbearable it may be, is an evolutionary trait that was once essential to the survival of our species. The heightened senses, and the exaggeration of the things that seem like a threat, both point to a special trait that prehistoric humans possessed.

Humans needed this kind of mental state to sense and predict the dangers lurking in the wild. Indeed, life back then was far more dangerous and people needed a mechanism that could potentially save their lives.

However, the level of worry resulting from anxiety is something we don’t really need in today’s ways of living. What is surprising, though, is that scientists have found that the intelligence we praise so much has evolved alongside with worry.

In a research done by SUNY Downstate Medical Center, it has been found that both intelligence and worry correlated with the activity of the brain measured by the reduction in quantity of a nutrient called Choline in the subcortical white matter of the brain.

This correlation has led scientists to conclude that anxiety and intelligence evolved together to help the human race survive to this day. What is more, this conclusion has been reinforced by other studies, which have linked worry with high intelligence.

In a study published on Frontiers in Evolutionary Neuroscience, researchers have concluded that people suffering from anxiety might as well be more intelligent.

The results of the study showed that healthy people with higher IQ had lower worry levels. However, when it came to patients with generalized anxiety disorder, the researchers discovered that the higher the worry levels were in a patient, the higher their intelligence was.

It turns out that the high levels or worry come as a result of a higher intelligence, which creates them through ruminating, or excessive overthinking. Although counterintuitive, people who suffer from anxiety possess a strong mental ability to calculate all the possible risks which their brain interprets as real dangers.

It really does take an intelligent person to think of so many things in such a short time. Although many of those worries are not something a regular person would even consider, anxious people tend to remain attached to the conclusions that their super-computer brains are able to make.

Another study done by researchers from the Department of Psychology, Lakehead University, Canada concluded the same thing. They found that high intelligence positively correlated with the severity of worry and rumination.

It was discovered that the levels of intelligence were more strongly linked to the cognitive processes that underlie emotional disorders, while posing a possible relation to the symptoms of the same.

In other words, the levels of anxiety that a person demonstrated were directly correlated to their level of intelligence.

Anxious people possess so many beneficial traits, when we come to think of it. We have already discussed some of the unique abilities people suffering from anxiety have, and we will pose the same thought to consider:

Is anxiety perhaps not so much a disorder, but rather a different state of mind that people are not used to?

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If You Take A Nap Every Day, THIS Is What Will Happen To Your Body

By
Elizabeth Williams

Many times we forget what a simple nap can do for us after the everyday marathon we do to complete our daily tasks.

If you can find the time for a short nap, you will be pleasantly surprised of what it can do for you. There is a reason why we call it a power nap, after all. It is amazing what it does to your psychological and physical health.

For me, it is important to stay healthy, so I always find the time to close my eyes for a bit and have some rest. To me, small breaks and naps are key to staying in good health. Our body is a very smart system, and it always knows what it needs, which is essentially the reason why we feel sleepy or hungry or thirsty.

Our body knows that it needs energy or water and it sends us signals to give it what it lacks. It is not wise to ignore what our body asks from us, that’s for sure. Next time you feel sleepy or without energy take a quick power nap and that will be enough for you to recuperate.

These are the some of the benefits that you can feel once you start taking a nap every single day. 

  1. It goes together with exercise!

At a first glance, napping might seem like a total opposite of a good workout when it comes to our physical health. You might think that exercise is much better. Note that napping is as good for our physical health, because it restores the lost energy you have already used during the morning and the rest of the day.

Not only you will have more energy for the workout, but you will also have better motor skills reaction and better concentration, which will result in faster and more effective workout.  If you have no energy left in your body, exercise can even be damaging.

In order to have the benefit from exercising we need to do it correctly and for that we need to focus. No better way to get your maximum focus back than taking a small rest and a short nap. A poorly done workout often results in injuries that can have long term effects. Make sure you have enough concentration before you start your workout.

3. Helps you control the appetite

By having a good nap you can even moderate the desire for food that you have throughout the day.  When we are hungry our body, signals that it has a lack of energy. Sometimes it happens even though we have had proper meals during the day.

When we are lacking sleep we often try to find another energy source, such as snacks in order to boost our energy level. But, that’s not good. Your body will waste even more energy to properly digest the extra food. The quick boost you will get will reflect negatively later in the day.

Next time when you feel like you need a snack to stay awake, have a quick power nap instead. Your body will appreciate it.

 

  1. Reduces the Anxiety levels

Napping is the perfect way to reduce anxiety and stress levels. If you don’t give your body enough sleep, your body will release more cortisol in your system which can make you feel a bit on the edge. Never let this happen – we all know how bad stress can be for our health. In fact, stress is the biggest killer of all, according to some doctors. 

Since stress is something we can’t hide from, use every chance you have for a nap. Nothing reduces the level of cortisol like a nap. A nap will make you fill more rested, relaxed, and refreshed. Forget about all that stress that comes from your daily tasks because often, it is only present because of the lack of sleep. 

  1. Improves the hearth condition and health

Finally, the power nap also has a positive impact on your hearth. According to a study conducted at Harvard, a person who has regular naps has much lower risk of developing any kind of hearth condition or disease in near future.

Stress has a big impact on our health. Just remember that your body knows what it needs and it is screaming for it. Do not ignore it!

If you do not practice mid-day napping, then it is time to start to do so. In order for you to feel the benefits from it, here is what you need to do: Take a nap in the middle of the working day, every day if possible. Three or four times a week will also do the job.  Never ignore what your body asks from you, nobody has a spare one.

 

How To Grow Healthy Kids Through Motivation, Fun And Exercise

By
Elizabeth Williams

Raising children may seem easy these days, with everything at the touch of a button. All you need to do is provide them with healthy habits like doing exercise and eating healthy food, protecting them from becoming overweight and from developing diseases.

However, that is not always the case. Today’s parents who are prone to living a healthy lifestyle see it differently. Since there are countless diversities of various foods, especially unhealthy ones, the temptations are skyrocketing. Therefore, what can we do as adults to protect our children and raise them to be healthy?

There are many things we can do, but a few seem to dominate the others.

  • The plainer it is, the better
  • The key is to be included and keep them active
  • Try making it a family activity

Adults usually do not like being told how to raise they kids. However, a little help can go a long way.

Set the Example

Although we may not always be aware, our children look after us as their main role models for most of the things they do.

Therefore, you can do a few helpful things like:

  • Eating healthy in front of them and making it a primacy to adopt healthy routines
  • Always have them be involved
  • Constantly keep the tone of conversations and discussions polite and optimistic

Children often undertake the phrase “monkey see, monkey do”. Therefore, they mimic the behavior they see and believe to be acceptable. Most of their young life is spent watching how adults act, while copying them. Of course, expect the temper tantrums to erupt, but do not surrender to them. They will raise the white flag eventually. Sit them down calmly and discuss the positive outcomes of eating healthy and doing exercise.

Be You Children’s Encouragement

Of course, we all have our own individual ways of encouraging our children to be more physically active. However, they need to know how supportive the parents are in whatever they choose to pursue.

  • Plan family outdoor activities
  • Enroll them in a sports program
  • Drive them to their practices and events
  • Always be their biggest fan

Choose Games that are Fun and Dynamic

Most kids love to play outdoor games. However, there are always those who would rather stay copped up inside. Try planning more fun and dynamic games, making them want to come outside and play.

It is always a good idea to plan ahead by writing down any fun ideas you come up with that they would enjoy.

  • Start taking strolls
  • Try tickling them
  • Blow fun bubbles with them
  • Jump rope
  • Play Frisbee catch
  • Fly a kite
  • Play with a soccer or volley ball

Swap Watching TV with Physical Activity

Instead of allowing them to spend countless hours in front of the television, make them go outside.

  • Monitor their screen time and try to limit it
  • If they have a television set or laptop in their room, place it somewhere else
  • Make a schedule of when they can and cannot watch TV or use the laptop. Do not give in or negotiate. Studies done by the American Academy of Pediatrics encourage only a maximum of 2 hours screen time.

Try Being Fun with Healthy Eating

If children watch while we are preparing the healthy food, or even better, if they are directly involved in making it themselves, the likelihood of them eating it will dramatically increase. They will feel proud to have been included in the process.

  • Color always adds to a kid’s imagination, therefore use fruits and veggies to make things interesting for them
  • Since they also respond to shapes, try using cookie cutters
  • Plan a family outing to go apple picking and use the apples to make something later
  • Ask them to help you plant a garden in your backyard and then make the ripe fruits and veggies with them

Make Nutritious Food

Nutritious food always demands planned preparation. Therefore, try making a plan beforehand so you don’t have to spend all day in the kitchen cooking and baking.

  • Shop for nutritious and suitable foods
  • Kids respond better to frozen foods, so try keeping some fruits and veggies in the freezer
  • Make some foods beforehand and freeze them for later
  • Try finding recipes of foods that take up to 30 minutes to make

Try Keeping it Cheap

It is a rumor that all healthy foods are expensive. There are nutritious and delicious foods you can cook at an acceptable price.

  • Canned tuna or salmon
  • Lentils, beans or peas
  • Fruits and veggies that are in season
  • Frosted fruits and veggies

Gradually Eliminate the Junk Foods

Do not get rid of all the unhealthy foods at once. Instead, gradually replace them one by one with their healthier counterpart. No need to panic when doing this. The slower, the better.

  • Replace white rice with brown rice
  • Try using olive oil and not butter
  • Go for the non-sugar cereals
  • Eliminate the soda bottles and replace them with juice or water
  • Replace cheese with pureed veggies

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3 Emotions That Psychopaths And Narcissists Use To Manipulate Others

By
Elizabeth Williams

Psychopaths and narcissists are one of the biggest manipulators you can come across. They would use your emotions, feelings and thoughts in order to make sure they look good and benefit from your actions or opinion.

The main purpose of these manipulators is to get what they can from you. If you’re inexperienced with people like this, consider yourself a potential victim. However, nothing is lost just yet. You can take the control over manipulators by taking control over your own emotions.

Specifically, there are 3 emotions that manipulators use to benefit from the others. These emotions are not necessarily bad or negative, but they’re all deep and powerful. We have them only when we truly care for someone and love. Although they’re a result of loving and caring, psychopaths and narcissists often use them for manipulation.

There are still some things you can do to prevent these people from reaching their goals. It takes focus and bravery, but it’s not impossible. Don’t allow manipulators take advantage of your sensitivity for their own benefit.

You will encounter a manipulator at least once in your lifetime, but you can escape from their trap soon enough. If you want to stop them in their plans on time, you need to be careful when expressing the following emotions.

1.Anger

When you’re being angry, you’re also being vulnerable to attacks from manipulators. In this state, they will see a chance to get something from you or use you in some way. When we’re angry, we are unstable and that makes it easy for others to influence us and affect our opinions. It’s important to see that anger is your enemy here. Indeed, anger is your enemy almost everywhere.

Whenever you’re angry, you need to concentrate and focus in order to make sure you’re not doing something you would regret. Avoid conversations and social situations when you’re angry. Don’t argue with people and don’t go around people who have tried to manipulate you in this state.

2. Happiness

Manipulators can take control over you even when you have a positive attitude. Joy and happiness are two emotions that can be easily used for manipulation. For instance, if you’re in a close relationship with a psychopath or narcissist, they might use the happiness you express against you when they need something. I know many cases where one of the partners threatens to leave if they don’t get something.

In these cases, you have to be brave and strong. You don’t need a manipulator beside you. Don’t allow them to use your joy to control you. Nobody has the right to do that. Be strong and leave as soon as you notice this.

3. Jealousy

The third emotion that manipulators use to take control is jealousy. This emotion makes you feel bad, but it also serves as an opportunity for the manipulator. How exactly does it work?

People feel jealousy when they care for someone. These feelings are so strong that they make us lose the control over our actions and thoughts. Manipulators use this state to blame the other side for their “bad and unreasonable” actions in order to make you do things their way.

The more jealous you feel, the lower the control you have over your actions. Once you lose the control, it’s much easier for the manipulator to take over.

Whenever you feel jealousy, relax and stay calm without overthinking about the situation. Be honest and listen to the included parties before you start making conclusions. Don’t let manipulators use your feelings as your weakness and start fights that will lead to the realization of their plans at the end.

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Modern Educayshun: Brilliant Short Film Takes Cheeky Swipe At Political Correctness In Schools

By
Elizabeth Williams

We can all agree on one thing: Society’s insistence on political correctness has absolutely gone too far. There is no denying that over the last few decades, the concept has gradually taken hold of our educational system, creating an environment where mediocrity and the policy of absolute tolerance stifle any glimmer of progress and brilliance. However bitter and unbecoming it might seem, it is the naked truth.

Recognizing the crippling blow that political correctness has dealt on academia, Australian filmmaker Neel Kolhatkar recently created a masterful short movie called ‘Modern Educayshun’ that addresses this issue. The short film received over 3,000,000 hits on YouTube in just a week.

A powerful and straightforward piece of work, this satirical short film pulls no punches when it comes to criticizing political correctness and the detrimental effects it has on our education.

Just take a few minutes and see for yourself.

According To Buddha, These Are The Four Elements Of “True Love”

By
Elizabeth Williams

Some people say true love happens only once in a lifetime. But, not many people have actually been able to describe the meaning of “true love”. Is it the same feeling you have when you have a crush on someone at high school?

Or is it similar to close friendships, where you care for the person as a human being at first, and even afterwards you leave space for passion?

One way we can get closer to understanding the meaning of “true love” is actually talking to someone who has already felt it. But even then, we might find it difficult to understand it before experiencing it first.

It seems that there are lessons that can be learnt only through experience. But in order to help us grasp the notion of the term, Buddha has spoken about few components of “true love” that he has realized through his journey through the emotions, experiences and events happening in the world.

These four components Buddha has spoken of are what makes true love different than any other similar feeling. In order to understand the meaning, you need to practice certain things.

  1. Give without expecting to receive

True love is definitely not about being selfish and greedy. It’s the complete opposite of that. When you love someone truly, you give and don’t expect anything in return.

You want the other person to be happy and to benefit, so you are ready to give selflessly. If you’re not able to do this for someone you care, you might not be ready to understand the meaning of true love yet.

Giving is a feature of people with big hearts who are ready to experience true love. Start practicing this sooner and you will understand its importance and significance, just as Buddha did.

  1. Happiness

Happiness is inimitable feature of good life, just as true love is. These two come together. Positive energy can do wonders and joy is the greatest emotion you can transfer to someone.

The best thing is that anyone can do it. Everyone has the potential to become a source of positive energy and inspiration. Buddha himself has practiced happiness and joy even while doing the most boring routines.

Apart from the positive effect it can have on the others, joy is a key component of the meaning of “true love”. Negative attitude towards life and people will only get you more isolated in your negative thoughts and far from true love.

  1. Have passion

Many great thinkers have said that no matter what your job is, you have to give your best every day. Having passion for something you do daily is crucial for living a fulfilling life and loving someone.

When people are not passionate about their job or their actions, it might be a sign that they have made a mistake in the choice of occupation. On the other side, people who have passion for their job, even if that’s an occupation that might seem less important to the others, will achieve great success in life.

With great success comes big happiness, and this results in understanding the meaning of true love.

Whatever you do, be an expert at it!

  1. Be kind

Buddha has taught us a great lesson about kindness. From him, we learned that it’s important to be kind to others and to yourself. Practicing kindness is the last key component of true love which Buddha lists for people who haven’t understood the meaning of true love.

Only by being kind we can be loved by someone and only by being kind to ourselves we can appreciate ourselves. Satisfaction comes from ourselves. If we are not able to appreciate ourselves, then how can we expect someone else to appreciate us?

Practicing kindness will show you how beautiful people can be. It will show you that everyone is special and has a different role in the world. Finally, it will help you to grow and become a better person, thus motivating others to improve.

Understanding true love is about understanding these four components. Buddha has many other lessons for personal growth and taking control over one’s own emotions. The meaning of true love is just the start of a greater and more powerful spiritual journey.

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Do You Lose Friends As You Get Older?-5 Reasons Why Losing Friends As You Get Older Is Actually A Good Thing

By
Elizabeth Williams
losing friends as you get older

If you are at a point of life where you are losing friends as you are getting older, and feel scared about it, there is no need to worry. In fact, losing friends with age is quite normal and happens to everyone.

Let me tell you the good news first. The positive aspect in this is that you will become a completely different individual with entirely new way of living. Changing anything can be a chance for a fresh start. You will meet new friends and travel to new destinations that you will grow fond of.

Of course, there is bad news, as well. That’s the letting go of some things. The hardest thing is letting go of close friendships, especially best friends. But sometimes, this is necessary for new positive changes to take place. Changes often bring new opportunities for you and you should try to get a hold of them.  At the end, it is a good thing to be an opportunist. 

Why do we lose friends as we get older? 

1. Safe zone

The older we get the more we realize how protective we are over things that hold value for us. You will start building a safe zone and protect your standards and principles you set.

You will notice that you will respect more new friends you will make with time as you grow older and more mature and never take for granted the things you say and the things you do.

You will find new people that have similar interests and you will develop meaningful relationships with these people. At the end you choose these friends at a more mature age, therefore they will probably be a better choice than before.

2. See the world

As you grow older you also become more experienced with the world around you. You start to rely on the things you’ve learnt and also you begin to cherish the friends that you can really rely on for important things.

With time you will learn to recognize that some things and people aren’t really needed in your life and you may have to let those people go in order to move on with things that matter in your life. 

3. Relationships that matter

With time, you may lose some of the oldest and best friends as you gain age, but that doesn’t mean that you will never have good friends and close relationships that matter again.

That is completely opposite of the truth. In fact, now you make friends who know themselves better and have discovered their passions, which makes them happier.

As time goes on and on, you will find new things that attract you and new things that you want to talk about, new places that you want to visit.  You will find friends with similar interests and you will enjoy spending time talking about these new stuff. 

4. Less and less Time

The older we get the more obligations we have. Therefore, we realize we have less and less time to spare on things that does not matter to us.

The time line in our life will move faster, and eventually it will become a race track. We no longer have time for everyone. But we also need more time for ourselves.

You will learn to cherish time and preserve it for your own needs. You will see that the only option is the wise use of time. Therefore you will learn to give priority to some things and avoid other.

This goes to people in our life too. Soon you will have to decide who is worth spending your time with and who is not. Do not let unimportant people waste your time, because we all know that time moves in one direction only.

5. Dishonesty detector

When we are younger we have a habit of being a bit of dishonest at some times. Let’s be honest here, we have all lied to our parents and teachers, even friends at least couple of times, right? The bad thing is that lies are getting bigger and worse over time and age. So we grow to dislike them.

As we grow older we grow to have no tolerance for dishonesty. We no longer tolerate this and therefore we want to be the voice of reason when it comes to arguing with a dishonest person.

You will find yourself willing for an honest conversation, often trying to avoid conversations which have no real value or purpose. The good thing is that over time we learn how to detect people who are dishonest and we start to avoid them.

Hopefully this article helped you come over your fears of becoming older. Just remember every part of life has its own beauty, so don’t try to resist time, but embrace it.

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