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How To Effectively Outsmart A Narcissist And Survive The Relationship

By
Riley Cooper

If you’re a compassionate, loving, and forgiving person, then you’re a perfect target for becoming a narcissistic supply. Yet, if you’re willing enough, you can turn these “weaknesses” into your strengths and successfully outsmart the narcissist when they no longer have control over your emotions.

A narcissistic person gains importance by eliciting reactions from you, and that’s usually anger or sadness. What they actually want in a relationship is to have control over you and to do that, they make you lose your control over your emotions and behavior.

Dating a narcissist is definitely not one of the best relationships you can ever have. Such relationship is poor, tiring, and it can often be painful. Dating a narcissistic person means being with someone who craves your admiration and praise.

It means dating a person who feels entitled to your attention and thinks they have the right and power to influence your thoughts and reactions to them, the relationship, and life, in general.

It means dating a person with whom the only thing you have in common is that you’re both in love with the same person – themselves.

That being said, let’s see what you can do to outsmart your narcissistic partner so as to survive the relationship and save yourself from getting hurt. However, remember that you can never change or “fix” a narcissist.

No matter how bad you want and how hard you try, you can’t change the mindset of a narcissist. And the reason is simple: These people don’t see a problem with their behavior and the way they treat others. In their opinion – they’re the best. They’re perfect.

So, don’t waste your time and energy in vain trying to make them change their opinions, attitudes, and behavior. You have absolutely no control over that. The only person who can “fix” them is themselves. But, what you do have control over is how you react to their words and actions.

Here are two ways in which you can effectively outsmart a narcissist:

Method 1:

Stop reacting to their emotional outbursts. Ignore their drama.

The narcissist can see your tears, vulnerable sides, emotional meltdowns, and the way you react to their behavior. And they see all these emotions as love. They feed off your emotions because they’re simply incapable of producing their own.

The narcissist can act like a poor, hurt puppy just to get your attention and love. They can complain to you that you don’t love them anymore and they’ll keep asking you what they can do to make you love them again.

You should start seeing your narcissistic partner the way they are. You should stop being impressed by their great stories, grandiose promises, and sweet words. You should stop complimenting and flattering them. You should stop feeding their ego.

Stop pleasing them and meeting their expectations. Tell them no when they ask you to do something that they can easily do by themselves. Call them out on their bullsh*t when they say or do something that hurts your feelings or when they don’t keep their promises.

This will undoubtedly throw the narcissist off balance. They’ll then, most probably, try to find another victim because they don’t get enough narcissistic supply. And if they don’t find another prey, they’ll come to you all charming and loving apologizing to you and begging you to give them another chance.

They can come up with plenty of reasons why they’re hurt by your actions and they can repeat a thousand times how “sorry” they are. But, nothing of this is sincere and nothing of this comes from the bottom of their heart. All this is just a part of their plan to lure you back into their life.

So, make sure you don’t fall for their tricks and allow them to make everything about them and play the victim role.

Method 2:

This method is diametrically opposed to the first one. In other words, you should give them the narcissistic supply they need. Praise them. Admire them. Tell them how beautiful, smart, talented, and capable they are.

Tell them how much you admire and how proud you are of their successes. Shower them with compliments and sweet words. Feed their ego.

Do all this while planning your escape in silence, and then bid them farewell when they expect it the least.

I know this method is most likely the most difficult and dangerous for you because it’s in our nature to love, care about, and respect our partner. We want to be honest with them and base our relationship on mutual trust and respect.

And by pretending that you admire them, you’re only going against your moral beliefs and principles. You’re going against yourself. You become a manipulator. A liar. A phony. And this can be greatly damaging to your mental and emotional well-being.

That being said, I think the best solution is to get your life together,  leave  the narcissist and give them time to heal, and find your sense of self again.

An Open Letter To All The Women Who Fall For Potential, Instead Of The Real Image

By
Stephanie Reeds

You meet someone you like, and you immediately fall in love with this person. That honeymoon haze turns your world upside down, it takes you to 7th heaven, it convinces you that they’re everything you’ve ever dreamed of and finally, it makes you blind to everything else around you.

You are so lost in your dream of passionate, wild and endless love that you fail to perceive the real image of this person. After a certain period of time, you notice some things you personally dislike. Yet, you keep going, hoping that if he could only change that part of him he would be the perfect man for you.

We’ve all been here.

But, tell me, why do we keep making the same mistakes over and over again?

I know that you think you can make him better by inspiring him to change. I know that you think that you can fix him and create a version of him that you’d love forever.

But, love doesn’t work that way. And you know that.

Yet, you let yourself fall in love with the idea of him, not the real image. You decided that you’re going to avoid the flaws and the imperfections because it seemed much easier for you to dream of him being this ideal, perfect man.

Don’t you realize that you’re hurting yourself?

Can’t you see that there’s nothing you can do to change him?

It’s probably hard to understand this now because you’re too lost in your dreams about him, but you have to realize, he is not the one for you. You have to stop doing this to yourself. You have to stop convincing yourself that you have the power to make him something he’s not.

He doesn’t deserve you. He mistreats you. He takes you for granted. He doesn’t give a damn about showing affection. He doesn’t care about you the way you care about him. But, at the end of the day, that’s just the way he is and probably will be for the rest of his life.

You cannot waste your life hoping that this will eventually change. You cannot live inside your bubble of oblivion hoping that one day he’ll love you the way you deserve. You just can’t keep falling in love with your idea of what he should be. You cannot spend your life teaching him how to love and respect other people. That’s something he needs to learn on his own.

If you are not sure about him right now, what makes you think that you’ll change your opinion 10 years from now?

You cannot allow yourself to be that ignorant. This is about your wellbeing and your life. You cannot throw that away for someone who clearly isn’t ready to be with you. You simply cannot fix someone or mold him into a person you’d fall in love with.

I know that you’re desperate for love. I know that your heart has so much love to give to this world. But you have to stop giving yourself to people who are not worth it. You have to stop waiting for that day when he’ll finally become aware of how amazing you are. You have to stop hoping for something that clearly won’t happen. You owe all of this to yourself.

Understand that it’s not your job to fix this person. It is not your job to change them and mold them into an ideal, flawless, perfect human being. If he truly wants to change he will do it on his own.

So, you make sure to take care of yourself. Let go of everything and everyone that hurts you. Stay exactly who you are. The right people will recognize you and realize that you deserve the whole world.

8 Red Flags You’re Dating An Emotional Psychopath

By
Riley Cooper

Emotional psychopaths don’t come with a label or visible physical appearance. They don’t look like disturbed, unhinged serial killers. Rather than that, they put on a mask of a charming, compassionate, loving person so as to hide their true colors and make you fall in love with them so deeply that it’ll be impossible for you to leave them.

Once you fall in love with them and fall for their devious mind games, the real hell begins. They’ll use all their acting skills and manipulation tactics they know (and they know plenty of them) to control you. They’ll make you think they truly love and care about you.

You may even believe you won’t find anyone better than them and that’s exactly what they want. That’s all a part of their master plan to make you fall madly and blindly in love with them so that it’s easier for them to make you act as it suits them.

They want to make sure they’ll always have someone who will give them the love and attention that they’re incapable of giving anyone, including themselves.

They want to ensure you’ll always be there to boost their ego and make them feel good about themselves because, deep down, these people know that they’re evil, selfish, worthless human beings who are not able to honestly love anyone.

If you’re dating an emotional psychopath and you’re not aware of it, chances are you’ll end up devastated in the end. Your confidence will be ruined as well, and it’ll take you a long time before you’re able to restore it. So, how do you know you’re dating this kind of person?

Well, here are the top 8 warning signs, and if you can relate most of these to your partner, make sure you run away from them and don’t look back.

1. They lack empathy.

Can you remember when the last time was you saw them being emotional or vulnerable or showing any emotions? You can’t, right? Well, that’s because empathy, compassion, and conscience are only abstract terms to them. They can play with your feelings and hurt you without feeling any shame or remorse.

So, don’t expect them to be there for you when you need their help and support to overcome your problems or deal with tough periods because they’ll never be there.

2. They lie incessantly.

They lie the moment they open their mouth. Lying is the way they think and talk. These people tend to lie about everything, from the smallest, most insignificant things to more serious issues. They tell a lie after a lie and end up creating a whole chain of lies.

Never expect such a person to be open and direct with you. Never expect him/her to honestly tell you why they came home late the other night or why they always hide their phone from you. Honesty and trust have no importance to them.

3. They humiliate you in public.

When you truly and deeply love someone, you’re supposed to encourage and build them up. But, this is way too far from the way your “perfect match” treats you.

They often embarrass and humiliate you in public. They crack jokes on you and make you feel uncomfortable and ashamed in front of other people. They might even discuss things related to you that you don’t want others to know.

This only shows that not only do they disrespect your feelings, they also don’t care about them. Staying in such toxic relationship can only make you lose your confidence and sense of self-worth.

4. They seek your attention, but they never give you any.

They want you to devote your time and attention to them and take care of their needs and wishes, but they rarely give you any attention in return. They want you to be there for them all the time and expect you to accept their problems as your own and do your best to help them overcome them.

They can even pretend to be upset or hurt so as to gain your sympathy. They can even create a drama and tell you that they’re stalked by their abusive ex. Yes, these people are simply prepared to do anything to get your attention.

5. They always put the blame on you.

They didn’t get promoted? It’s your fault. They had a stressful day? It’s your fault too. Some plan of theirs failed? Oh yes, you’re responsible for that as well.

Your partner blames you for anything bad that goes in their life or in the relationship, irrespective of whether it’s your fault or not. They never own up to their mistakes. Instead, they do their best to make you feel guilty and accept responsibility for their own wrongdoings.

6. They isolate you from your loved ones.

They do this for two reasons: a) because they want to ensure you give all your attention only to them, and b) because their greatest fear is that someone might help you discover their true personality and leave them.

These people know that it’s very easy for your family or friends to notice their true intentions and dishonest nature because they’re able to see things objectively compared to you.

So, to prevent your loved ones from revealing the truth to you, they’ll tell you bad things about them and try to poison your mind and turn you against them. They can tell you that your mother is too nosy or that your best friend is jealous of you.

They can even try to assure you that you don’t need anyone else in your life because all you could ever need and want, you can find that in them.

7. They blackmail you.

How can you do this to the person you say you love and respect the most? Well, apparently in the twisted, wicked world of emotional psychopaths, this is perfectly normal.

When you do something that your partner doesn’t like, they rarely confront you in a calm, polite, civilized manner. Instead, they become furious and start judging and belittling you.

Or when you refuse to do something they want you to do, they may even blackmail you by threatening to reveal your secrets and even harm themselves.

8. They’re perfectly charming at times.

I know it sounds ironic, but despite all the negative behaviors they show, these people are extremely charming at times.

When they say bad things to you and disrespect you and see that you’re really mad at them or that maybe you’re even planning to leave them, they put on their charismatic face and do their best to convince you that they didn’t mean what they said to you and that everything will be all right.

During these moments, you need to remember the rest of the story and remind yourself of what kind of person is standing in front of you.

Trust Me, Even The Strongest People Out There Get Tired Of Being Strong

By
Stephanie Reeds

You look at that confident, optimistic and cheerful person next to you and you think they probably have everything going for them. You listen to them speak and you think…

“Oh, boy, I wish I was that brave and confident like that person.”

“I wish I had the guts to put all of my insecurities aside and really grab life by the balls.”

You say that to yourself, but you don’t really know what’s going on inside of that person. You have no idea how they feel. You only see the strong, bullet-proof exterior and nothing else. You don’t see the essence of their soul. You cannot perceive the pain they carry inside their hearts. You cannot see the scars they have on them. You cannot sense their fatigue.

Because they haven’t shown that side to you. It’s just the way they are. Life has taught them to stay strong, be brave and take care of themselves.

But, believe it or not, these people are made of blood and flesh just like us. They have a palpitating heart in their chest and blood in their veins. They feel, and they’re hurting.

And sometimes, they get tired of being strong.

Regardless of how tough and self-dependent these human beings are, they still need a break from reality every once in a while.

Even the strongest people get tired of their responsibilities. They get tired of everyone counting on them. They get tired of always being the one who saves the day. They get tired of being everyone’s favorite “shoulder for crying”. They get tired of people expecting them to always be there for them. They get tired of carrying the world on their shoulders. They get tired of being “fine”.

 Even the strongest ones break down. These people have a limit as well. And when they finally feel like they’ve had enough, they give up. Yes, this may seem like a surprise to you, even the strongest people get tired of fighting. They may look like they have it all going for them, but only they know how difficult it is to go through those agonizing nights when everything they’ve kept hidden comes up to the surface. These people are hurting just as we are. These people are wounded just as we are. They are in need of help just as we are.

So, trust me, even the strongest people need love. They may look strong enough to take care of themselves, but it is not like they don’t need someone to pick up their broken pieces when they’re too tired to do it themselves. They may look like they’re their own heroes, but sometimes even they need someone to hold their hand and tell that everything is going to be fine. They are also vulnerable and fragile like the rest of us.

Being strong doesn’t mean they’re heartless. Being confident doesn’t mean that they have it all. Being brave doesn’t mean that they have no fear inside their souls. No matter how bulletproof their exterior looks, on the inside, they’re just like everyone else.

Soft and emotional. Vulnerable and delicate. Fragile and sometimes even hopeless.

What Is The Difference Between A Psychic And A Medium?

By
Elizabeth Williams

How many times have you wished you had gone with your hunch, gut feeling, or intuition on an issue or even the simplest of decisions? More often than not?

Whether you call it intuition, clairvoyance, or sensitivity, Everybody has had that gut feeling, or that strange knowledge deep down that something would happen. We all come into the world with psychic capabilities.

But as we grow up, and especially when we get to school, we begin to learn how to use more of the left side of the brain as opposed to the right side. Before long, we are all stripped off of our psychic abilities and that is the price for a reading done by a spiritual medium.

In the past few years, we have become more sensitive, more intuitive and more attuned to the higher energies and frequencies.We now live in a time when our spiritual lights are increasingly getting turned on and our antennas are becoming more sensitive. These capabilities will generally fall between or on both psychic or medium abilities.

Psychics and mediums are no longer strange in our contemporary society and it is quite easy to get the two kinds of seers all mixed up. While they may seem to have the same kind of supernatural abilities, they are quite distinct.

That said, here are some fundamental differences between a medium and a psychic including the meaning of spiritual medium;

One Needs the Other

We all have the potential to be mediums, which is considered a higher energy or frequency level. Some people are ‘natural’ mediums, in that they get it faster than others after some lessons or practice. Others may still get it, but will probably have to put in more work or take up more lessons.Mediums generally tend to look at themselves as individuals with a gift or love connection and that they are simply embracing their calling to serve as messengers for the spirit world.

Psychics generally operate within our aura of energy and may at timestouch the fringes of the spirit world. However, there’s a famous rule, which is also the rule of thumb, which states that, ‘every medium is a psychic but not every psychic is a medium.’ Every medium needs psychic abilities.

Receive versus perceive

One of the key aspects that differentiate psychics from mediums has to do with the fact that one perceives and one receives. When you engage a psychic, they are usually in your ‘space’. They look at things from your perception, pretty much the same way you are looking at them.Therefore, a psychic perceives while a medium receives from the other side.

Psychics can ‘see’ your past present and even future. They get the information from you based on your own perceptions. The future is of course never set on stone and can be easily influenced. Mediums on the other hand don’t get the information from you, but from another realm, often referred to as ‘the other side.’

Psychics connect with people by tuning into their energy and the aura of their energetic fields. They feel things about them, what is going in their lives and what possible futures they face. Mediums take it a notch higher. They connect with people through the spirit. You may give them some information or tell them about yourself, but they ultimately guide you through spirit. They will, in this case, act like a conduit of a particular message or direction from the other realm. Mediums help to guide us in specific directions or validate who we are.

A medium therefore is more like a translator of special words, feelings, phrases, and impression of things. It is much like watching little clips of videos about a person and, unlike a psychic, has more to do with receiving information rather than retrieving it. Some mediums believe that, to a degree, we even leave our state of consciousness through dreams. Our spirits temporarily leave our bodies when we go to sleep.

Crossing Over

Mediums generally get more attention because of their distinct ability to cross over from the physical world to the spiritual world. They can even communicate with the dead as well as pass some key information or provide imagery that often has personal and special meaning to their clientele. Mediums believe that the dead connect to us and even pass on important messages.

Considering the fact that most religions believe in life after death, these abilities make mediums more acceptable and respected as compared to psychics. Therefore, mediums are often seen in a more positive light and even receive more press coverage than psychics. It even costs more to engage a medium than it does to engage a psychic.

Mediums claim to be act as a bridge between the physical and the spiritual realms of their clients, with the intention to provide healing for both worlds. Spirits impress their minds and bodies with thoughts and feelings, which they proceed to pass on to their clients. Mediums don’t necessarily conjure up spirits that have passed on but rather, they connect us to them.

According to mediums, spirits of our loved ones that have passed on are already here and that it is their job to connect us to them through hearing, seeing, feeling and pretty much all the senses. When human beings pass on, their energy usually resonates at a higher frequency. Since mediums connect at this higher level, they can also connect with our guides.

Predicting the Future

Psychics generally focus on predicting the future and tackling questions about love, health, work, or money. By predicting future events, they generally offer straight-up advice to their clients on such practical areas of life. This kind of information is basically just insight into potential future outcomes based on your current journey, or the road in which you are presently traveling.

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Mediums on the other hand mostly tune into past and present issues. They tend to provide guidance or connection with the spirit. All living things are said to have an aura, mostly made up of energies that surround our human bodies. It holds our thoughts, good or bad, and the interaction of our energy and the energy of our environment.

Therefore, depending on our physical, mental or inner state, the characteristics of this aura may change from time to time. Protecting this nature is also absolutely critical because it is even thought to determine our illness. Some seers believe illness first manifests itself in our aura. Even emerging science now support the mind-body connection and conclude that healing is ‘an inside job.’

The future, as we all know is hardly set in stone. While it may be helpful at times, predicting the future may effectively disempower people. Imagining a certain fate or outcome can have a debilitating effect on you. It is much better to know that you can influence your future and redirect the course of your life using free will.

Finally, it is generally a not a good idea to put labels on people so as to try to understand them or their work. Whether someone is a psychic or a medium, it is much better to try to understand the concept, or the underlying idea, which is the fact that we are innately connected to each other and to the spirit world.

Remember, no one knows you better than yourself. Learning to go within yourself and listening to your own inner voice will help you to gain access to everything you need to know about yourself. After all, self-knowledge is the best kind of knowledge to possess.

 

 

Getting the Most from Your Gym Workouts – Nutrition

By
Elizabeth Williams

Most people are aware of the fact that although they can do as much intense exercise as they want, if they don’t accompany their workout routines with appropriate nutrition, they probably won’t see any improvements in their fitness in the long run.

This is because nutrition is just as important – if not perhaps more important – as the actual exercise you do at the gym. In this article I want to help you get the most from your gym workouts by sharing the best knowledge I have about a healthy diet and nutrition.

I am writing this article for the widest possible audience, which is why I have decided to split it into three separate sections:

1.The first section is for those who are interested in losing weight and decreasing their body fat levels.

2. The second section is for those who are generally interested in becoming more fit.

3. The third and last section is for those explicitly interested in gaining and building muscle.

Nutrition and Weight Loss

As mentioned in the introduction, you can do as much physical exercise as you like, but if it is not coupled with proper nutrition, depending on what your goal is, you likely won’t get very far.

This may be particularly true for people who are trying to lose weight. The first piece of advice I have for people in this category is to increase your daily protein intake.

Some studies have found that by regularly consuming protein-rich foods throughout the day, you may feel more full and will subsequently be less likely to snack on carbohydrates and fats.

Furthermore, by increasing your protein levels you will also boost your metabolism, which will help you burn more calories throughout the day. This is because the body requires more energy to digest protein compared to other nutrients such as fats and carbs.

In terms of possible diets that you can embark on, there are a number of options that you may be interested in:

  • 5:2 diet. This diet is based on the concept of intermittent fasting wherein you eat normally for five days and fast for two days. A 2013 study found that people on the 5:2 diet lost more or less the same amount of weight as those on the Mediterranean diet.

The main benefit of this diet is that the two days of fasting are effective in reducing overall fat levels. The main drawback lies in the fact that fasting, if not done properly, may unbalance your nutrition levels and your daily life may be affected.

  • Dunkan diet. The Dunkan diet is a low carb, high protein diet designed for individuals who intend to lose weight fairly quickly.

It is quite strict and follows different stages, which may require quite a bit of discipline in order to get right.

The main benefit lies in the weight loss; the main drawback is that at the beginning of the diet you may feel unwell following the drastic reduction in carb consumption you will undergo.

Nutrition and Fitness

By now you probably grasped the principle that protein is one of the most essential nutrients for the human body – this applies to everyone, people who want to lose weight, people who want to get ripped, and people who are simply looking to become fit.

So, if your objective is to generally become more fit, the first thing you should do is look at your protein consumption and establish whether you are getting appropriate amounts of this nutrient from healthy food sources.

Besides this, I have three main pieces of nutrition advice for people looking to become more physically fit:

1.Learn how to cook. By learning how to cook your own meals, you will become more disciplined with your eating habits and, over time, will notice that you are heating in a much healthier way.

2. Consume protein-rich food in small amounts throughout the day. This is very useful in relation to the point I made earlier regarding protein and its effects on your appetite and fat loss.

3. Cut back on refined carbohydrates. Unfortunately for our taste buds, not all carbohydrates are created equal. While you don’t necessarily need to completely cut carbs from your diet, cutting the refined version will undoubtedly help you reach your fitness goals.

This is because refined carbohydrates are fundamentally detrimental to your fitness goals: refined carbs have been stripped of almost all vitamins, minerals and fibres, making them essentially empty calories.

Furthermore, they are digested very quickly and cause spikes in blood sugar levels after eating, which is associated with a number of negative health conditions.

Nutrition and Muscle Building

Lastly, let’s turn our attention to nutrition in relation to building muscle. In relation to this group, I have three main pieces of nutrition advice:

1.Protein, protein, protein. Yes, the rule still applies, and perhaps applies most importantly for people who want to build muscle. Protein plays an essential role in muscle-building (your muscles are essentially made of protein) and, perhaps most importantly, in muscle repair.

You may be interested in looking into protein supplements to go hand in hand with your workouts – there are many different types from different food sources and I am confident that you can find something that suits you out there, as protein powders are quickly becoming more and more popular.

2. Get enough calories. If you want to build muscle, you are going to be gaining weight; and if you want to gain weight you are going to have to consume more calories than you burn daily!

You should generally aim to consume a minimum of 20 calories per pound of your body weight.

Many people don’t think about this and worry about gaining ‘fat weight’ – but if you are putting in the exercise, this should not worry you!

3. Fat is not necessarily bad. You probably heard the myth that fat is unequivocally bad for you a number of times. Fat is actually a considerably important part of our diet – particularly when wanting to build muscle – and should make up about 30% of your daily calorie intake.

The best types of fats are polyunsaturated and monosaturated!

Ultimately, nutrition is just as important as exercise when it comes to getting fit – whether you want to lose weight, become fitter or be a body builder, you simply cannot ignore what goes into your body – you are what you eat, after all! I hope this article was useful and that you can use this information to reach your fitness goals.

References:

  • https://www.nutrition.gov/weight-management/strategies-success/interested-losing-weight
  • https://www.menshealth.com/nutrition/a19515619/workout-nutrition-for-muscle-building/
  • https://www.webmd.com/men/features/benefits-protein
  • https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/26-muscle-building-foods
  • https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/healthy-weight/top-diets-review/
  • https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/how-to-lose-weight-as-fast-as-possible

8 Unexpected Traits Only Highly Intelligent People Possess

By
Riley Cooper

How can you tell whether a person is intelligent?  This is certainly not an easy question and everyone has a different opinion.

Thus, some may say that intelligence means being knowledgeable about everything. Others may say that intelligence is an ability you’re born with. And there are others who think that you can “increase” your IQ levels over time and that intelligence is usually measured by how creative you are.

But, intelligence doesn’t always show itself in these ways. Sometimes it manifests itself in unexpected manners – ones that we almost never associate with someone who is bright.

Oftentimes, those people who are proficient in one form of intelligence are lacking in others. For example, a brilliant mathematician may not be so good at literature or art while a distinguished artist may possess great knowledge in science.

However, there are few lucky people around the world who have somehow tapped into many or all realms of intelligence. These people possess certain characteristics that others almost never relate to their intellectual abilities.

Here are 8 unexpected traits only highly intelligent people have:

1. They’re open-minded.

People who possess high IQ levels understand that to hold firm to their beliefs means to limit their thoughts and abilities. Therefore, they’re prone to changing their thoughts and opinions.

They’re known to form strong beliefs, yet they always make sure they stay away from rigidity and stay open to new ideas and possibilities.

2. They never hurry.

When they have to make a decision or solve a problem, highly intelligent people take as much time as they need to sort things out in their heads first.

Before saying something, they think deeply and take into account whether it’s morally and socially acceptable, whether it’s important and it’ll contribute in some way to the conversation, and whether or not they feel ready to deal with other people’s reaction to it.

3. They don’t care about fitting in with the crowd.

Highly intelligent people base their opinions and decisions on information and fact and not on what the crowd thinks because they know the crowd can often be wrong.

This doesn’t mean they don’t take other people’s opinions into consideration, but they’ll never allow what others think and say interfere with their beliefs, attitudes, decisions, and actions.

4. They participate only in meaningful conversations.

People with high IQ don’t waste time on small talk and gossip. They simply don’t feel the need to speak or do things just to get other people’s attention or fill the awkward silence. Therefore, unless they have something good, meaningful, and helpful to say, they won’t participate in a conversation.

They want their words to benefit and help others, but if they don’t have anything helpful and important to say, they’ll be happy in silence.

5. They know everyone makes mistakes.

A truly intelligent person understands that no one is flawless and that even the best of us can sometimes make a mistake. Therefore, they never act like their opinion or attitude is always the right one. Instead, they admit when they’ve made a mistake or they’re wrong.

In addition, they’re not ashamed to apologize to the person to whom they did wrong. They understand that owning up to your mistakes and wrongdoings is an important step to becoming a mature, responsible, wise person.

6. They trust their gut.

Truly intelligent people understand that our instincts exist for a good reason. They can provide us with great, useful hints for life. Therefore, they often rely on their intuition. They base their decisions and actions on their gut feelings, and they’re rarely wrong about this.

7. They know actions are more important than words.

Instead of wasting their time overanalyzing their problems and doing nothing, truly intelligent people make sure they take action to overcome them. They focus their energy on making plans and looking for solutions to whatever is bothering them.

They understand, too, that if they want to see some progress, they’ll often have to leave their comfort zone, take risks, and react.

They never wait for someone else to solve their problems, fulfill their tasks, or chase their dreams.

8. They don’t let their emotions affect their actions.

A highly intelligent person doesn’t let their strong, negative emotions get the best of them. They do whatever they can to stay calm and collected in emotional situations. They understand that if you allow your strong emotions to affect your thoughts and behavior, other people can get upset, angry, and hurt.

Therefore, when you get worried or angry, make sure you stay relaxed and don’t take anything personally. Instead, rely on logic and facts. This is how you’ll avoid hurting other people and making the situation worse.

Stop Making Him A Priority When He’s Only Stringing You Along

By
Riley Cooper

There is nothing as hurtful as having that feeling that your significant other doesn’t see you as a priority. And being in a relationship where you have to struggle with this kind of feeling is extremely painful. It makes you doubt your sanity. It destroys your self-worth. It kills your happiness. It makes you feel betrayed, weak, and hurt.

When you’re with the person you love and care about the most and who stands on the top of your priority list, it’s not too much to ask from them to treat you in the same manner.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that you or your partner should forget about your needs, goals, and desires and only focus on those of the other person. It doesn’t mean you should completely forget about your life. 

Whether it’s family, friends, health, or work, these are all important, inseparable parts of your life and you should never neglect them.

However, you still deserve to feel and know you’re important to your partner.

So, how do you know your guy doesn’t see you as a priority and he’s only stringing you along? Well, here are some pretty simple questions that can help you find that out:

Does he ignore you for hours and then just starts talking to you like nothing happened? Does he enjoy hanging out with his friends more than spending time with you? Does he rarely express his love for you publicly? Is he still “single” on his profile on Facebook? Is he still not committed to you and avoids subjects related to that matter?

Well, if you answered yes to all of the questions above, then I’m sorry, but you’re only a girlfriend of convenience for him. Nothing else.

You’re not a priority because your guy isn’t putting enough effort into the relationship. Because he doesn’t treat you the way you treat the person you love the most and means the world to you.

By the way he treats you, he makes you feel like you’re more alone than “together” with someone.

Instead of feeling complete and fulfilled, you feel empty. You feel like you’re someone’s favorite pastime or last-minute arrangement.

You start racking your brains with questions, such as: “What am I doing wrong?” or “Why doesn’t he make me his priority?” or “Am I not good enough for him?”

And to make yourself “good enough” for him you start pleasing him and doing your best to meet his expectations. Thus, you try to be the most committed partner; the perfect lover; great in bed; the most loyal friend; his greatest support and help.

But, you’re missing an important point here. By treating him that way, you let him know that he’s going to get all those things no matter what. Therefore, he doesn’t feel the need to put the same amount of effort and time in the relationship and please you the way you please him.

You need to know that by prioritizing him and his feelings, opinions, needs, and wishes while neglecting your own, you’re not going to get the attention and love you want and deserve to be given.

You’re not going to get the harmonious, meaningful, deep, successful relationship you want. You’re not going to get the happiness, peace, and warmth that you expect your man to provide you with.

What you’re going to get, instead, is crumbs of attention when he needs something from you. When he needs your advice, help, or support. When he needs you to boost his fragile ego. When he needs someone who will patiently listen to him while he’s venting his frustrations and anger. When he needs to have fun and satisfy his needs, be that in bed or otherwise.

What you’re going to get is a man who will be charming and kind whenever he has to justify his bad behavior and lies. A man who will make you feel like you’re his priority, but you’re not and you’ll never be.

But, you, Girl, are better than this. This is not what you signed up for.

You deserve someone who will be aware of your worth and know how to appreciate you.

You deserve someone who will make you his priority every single day because you’re worth it.

So, stop prioritizing the man who only sees you as an option. Stop hoping that your love for him will change him. Stop believing that if you change your habits or hairstyle and the way you dress, or put your needs and goals on hold, all this will make him like you more. Stop trying to be the person he wants you to be.

Because if he truly loves you, he’ll accept and cherish you the way you are. If he truly and unconditionally loves you, he’ll want to be with you and make you his priority, and not because he has to, but because he wants to.

Stop letting him break your heart and shatter your hopes. Instead, start valuing your time, energy, effort, and feelings. Learn how to love and value yourself more. Learn how to protect yourself from people who don’t deserve to be a part of your life. Because if you don’t love and appreciate yourself, no one else will.

And if your man is too stupid to see the value you possess, he is not worth your love and attention.

If he doesn’t make you his priority, there’s absolutely no reason why you should make him your own. Period.

Don’t Settle For A Person Who Comes Back – You Deserve To Be With Someone Who Never Leaves

By
Stephanie Reeds

I used to be the kind of person who is happy about welcoming people back in their life. I used to wait for the day they realize they are miserable without me. I used to be so kind and loving, even to people who clearly didn’t deserve my love.

I used to give second chances for free.  

But it wasn’t until I got hurt that I realized the bitter truth.

You shouldn’t settle for a person who comes back. You shouldn’t welcome those who’ve left you broken. You shouldn’t bring back those old, painful memories. You shouldn’t open that book. There’s a reason why you closed it. Leave it that way.

Don’t you think that instead of waiting for them to come back after everything they’ve done to you, you should just close that chapter and move on with your life?

It is the best thing you can do for yourself.

Waiting for someone to change and come back to you is simply not worth it. I’ve made that mistake more than once.

And if there’s something I learned about people is that if they do it once, they will definitely do it again. You cannot change someone who doesn’t want to be changed.

So, please. Don’t make the same mistakes. Don’t settle for someone who comes back.

You deserve so much more than you think. You deserve the whole wide world. You deserve to feel real love in all its intensity. You deserve to be loved genuinely and passionately.

You deserve to be with someone who won’t run for the hills whenever you display your love and express your deepest emotions. Someone who won’t be afraid of the way you love them. Someone who won’t be terrified of committing. Someone who will love you with every bit of their heart.

You deserve someone who won’t leave you at the first sign of weakness. Someone who won’t give up on you the minute they see your flaws. Someone who won’t avoid your tears, but rather a person who will be happy to be there for you and reveal every secret part of your soul. Someone who will be brave to explore your world, no matter how dark it gets.

 

You deserve to be with someone who will get out of their way to make things work between you two. Someone who will put their best efforts to keep the spark alive forever. Someone who will keep choosing you, every day all over again. Someone who will stay by your side even if it gets too hard and stormy to move forward.

You deserve to be with someone who won’t be discouraged by those obstacles along the way. Someone who won’t let life overwhelm them. Someone who won’t let others meddle with their life. Someone who will take your hand and walk confidently through the hailstorm, no matter how much the hail hurts.

You, my darling, deserve someone who will be ready and willing to give themselves to you. A person who will believe in you regardless of what others say. A person who will remind you of your strengths when you’re too weak to carry on. A genuine human being who will love you like you’ve never been loved before. A person who will show you that unconditional, pure love is real.

How Your Quality of Sleep Affects Your Health and Wellbeing

By
Elizabeth Williams

Do you realize just how important sleep is for your overall health? Apparently lack of sleep can affects us quite dramatically. Studies have proven that people who are sleep deprived generally function poorly in comparison to their well-snoozed counterparts.

And it’s not only how we function but also how our moods are likely to be. Nowadays, sleep deprivation is at an all time high due to the busy lives we lead and the increased amount of technology we consume. Our cell phones and tablets play a huge part in our quality of sleep, yet so many people refuse to put them down and get a good night’s rest!

In this article we look at a few ways in which sleep affects our health and wellbeing to give you a better idea of how important a good sleep schedule is.

Sleep Affects Our Thinking

Have you ever struggled or had trouble making simple decisions? This can be linked to your lack of sleep. Whenever we sleep less, our thinking ability decreases and we are less on the ball than when we have had a quality night’s sleep. Our ability to process information is also affected, and even the more simplest things seem to be difficult to process.

Poor Sleep Affects Your Mood

This is probably one of the most known disadvantages of lack of sleep. Your mood is likely to turn to feelings of irritation, even at the smallest things. This is dangerous as you are more likely to get into conflicts with coworkers or friends and family. So it is crucial that you remember this in order to keep your sleep at a reasonable amount in order to stay sane!

Alertness is Reduced

When you haven’t slept well your alertness is also affected. This means if you work in a job where you must be constantly alert, it could be a problem. Similarly, if you are busy during the day, your lack of sleep may interfere and could actually get you into an accident as you are not as aware as you should be. Sleep deprivation has actually implicated many accidents in the past involving airplanes, trains and more often cars and vehicles. This is why it is so important to get enough hours.

How to Improve Your Sleep Quality?

Often people are not aware that their sleeping environment might not be helping the matter. Your bedroom should be as sleep inviting as possible in order to allow for sleep to happen naturally. This means your bed should be as comfortable as possible. Using a foam mattress or king single mattress can be beneficial, both to your sleep quality and health at the same time as they are comfortable on the body as it rests, improving circulation and muscle pain.

As well as your actual bed, the things and activities you do before winding down in the evening can also play a big part in the quality of sleep you will receive. This means technology, your tv, tablet, laptop and phone are all key players here.

Most people have a little scroll before going to bed on social media or perhaps even reading. However, it is recommended that half an hour before bed, all led lights should be removed from the bedroom altogether as these actually stop us from sleeping well, and are big distractors during the night.

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