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11 Strong Thoughts That Go Through The Mind Of Socially Anxious People

By
Stephanie Reeds

I believe that most of us understand and maybe even went through the agonizing and disturbing depths social anxiety holds. It is known to be the third largest mental disorder in the world today.

It is the sheer fear of engaging in social interactions with other people. Fear of not being able to fit in. Fear of rejection. Anxiety about the thing you said. Avoidance. Pain. Loneliness.

It’s putting up a wall so big that nobody would be able to cross it and find out the things you hide deep inside. It’s being so self-conscious while walking in public that you feel like people are watching you from their windows. And being so frightened that you start to freak out, but nobody would understand if you tried to explain your agony.

These people struggle hard to go through the day as “normal” as regular people do. If you happen to love a person who suffers from social anxiety and you felt like you don’t really know what goes inside their mind, here are 11 common thoughts that usually haunts their minds:

1. Is that person staring at me? Why?

When you have social anxiety, it seems like the whole world is observing every little move you make. You walk into a room and there’s the sudden pressure that you’re actually the center of attention for 5 seconds (which by the way feels like an eternity) and you get the feeling that everyone is eyeballing you even when they’re not. Scary as hell.

2. I bet they’re talking about me and how weird I am.

Let’s talk some sense here. Chances are they didn’t even notice you. But one of the downsides of having social anxiety is jumping to the worst possible conclusion about every situation. It usually goes like: “I know it’s me, they talk about how strange I am”, “They must be laughing at me!”; “What’s wrong with me? Why am I such a weirdo?”

3. Is there a way I could avoid those people?

One of the biggest problems anxious people face. Walking down the street and noticing a group of people you know coming your way. You suddenly freeze to death. You walk, but it’s like you turned into stone. Of course, there’s always a way you can avoid them. Sadly, you’re usually forced to face the fear and you end up talking to them.

4. I can’t breathe! This crowd is driving me crazy! Is there a way I can just disappear right now?

Most of the time, there are situations where you feel like the air is so polluted by those noisy crowds that your throat feels like it’s swelling, and you need to disappear from the face of the Earth ASAP.

5. Okay, you can do this! Just breathe, everything is fine

There are only two hours left for you to suffer through and then you’re home again under the heavy covers of your bed. Just breathe. It’ll help to calm yourself.

6. I really wish if someone could order my food for me…

Ordering food even at the drive-through can be such a complex and frightening task. You reach out to talk and all of the sudden you feel like you lost your voice.

7. I’m about to make myself look stupid.

Social anxiety makes the person who struggles with it feel insecure about its words and actions. You’re constantly putting yourself down. The fear of being wrong about a certain topic prevents you from thinking clearly and more rational. Feeling awkward is one of your most common feelings.

8. I’m weird, aren’t I?

Rarely anyone in the room knows exactly what you are going through, but you can’t help but feel awkward in front of them. It seems to you that every little thing you do is perceived weird by them. And this daunting sensation drives you crazy even more.

9. Why are there so many people here?

You find it hard to acknowledge how is it that people can coexist in such a tiny place while actually having fun and not feeling like they need to desperately cry and shout for help. On top of this, you wonder how do they even manage to fit in somewhere so pain-free and easy?

10. And how do they even manage to socialize when they have never met before?

You can’t understand how in the world would someone engage in a cheerful and fun conversation with a person whom they’ve met just 5 minutes ago. This definitively has never been your scene; however, you secretly wish you could speak so freely.

11. Can I go home now?

This thought comes to haunt your mind in the middle of every make-believe conversation you try to maintain. Don’t panic. It’s almost over. You are fine. You did great. Just breathe and hold on there.

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Rethinking Infidelity: When Your Partner Cheats Is Because They Love You

By
Mary Wright

Why do people cheat? And most importantly, why do people in happy relationships cheat? Why do we assume that men cheat out of their fear of intimacy and boredom, and women cheat out of their hunger for intimacy and loneliness?

Is an affair the end of the relationship? And what do we exactly mean when we say ‘infidelity’?

The definition of what is considered to be infidelity keeps on expanding from sexting and watching porn to remaining secretly active on dating apps. And because there is no universal definition of what constitutes cheating, the percentage of people who are unfaithful varies from 26 to 75%.

According to Esther Perel, a famous psychiatrist, infidelity is a secretive relationship with an emotional connection to one degree or another, and a sexual alchemy. With alchemy being the core word because the erotic excitement that you will feel just by imagining you are kissing someone is more enchanting and powerful than hours long of lovemaking.

Because it is our imagination that is responsible for our love and not the other person.

Adultery has existed since forever, and so has the taboo against it. And yet, this very common act is little understood even today. So, how can we come to terms with something that is universally forbidden but still universally practiced?  

When we look back in history, men were practically allowed to cheat with the excuse of various evolutionary and biological theories that justified their need to wander. And when it comes to sex, men tend to boast and exaggerate, while women tend to deny, minimize, and hide.

And the definition of monogamy has changed today. In the past monogamy meant one person for a lifetime, and now monogamy means one person at a time.

Yet, monogamy has nothing to do with love.

The truth is, we have a romantic ideal in which we expect one person to fulfill an endless list of needs: to be our best friend, our greatest lover, our trusted confidant, our intellectual equal, and the best parent to our children.

And that they chose us because we are special, we are irreplaceable, we are the one. And an affair tells us that we are not. We are not irreplaceable, we are not indispensable, we are not the only one.

It is the ultimate betrayal. It shatters our beliefs in pure love and it threatens our self-worth.

Now, the typical belief is that someone who has everything they need in a relationship has no reason to cheat, and if they cheat it is because something is wrong in the relationship or with their partner.

But, what if passion has an expiration date? What if there are certain things that even a great relationship cannot provide?

Because many people who have cheated are people who deeply believe in monogamy and who said that they are truly happy in their relationship. However, they found themselves struggling with their behavior and their values.

Affairs are the ultimate act of betrayal, but they are also an expression of longing and loss.

At the very heart of an affair, there is an immense longing and yearning for emotional connection, for freedom, for excitement, for novelty, for sexual intensity… A wish for recapturing the lost part of oneself or an attempt to bring back the lost vitality in the face of tragedy and loss.

When a person starts looking for someone else, it is not that they want to turn away from their partner, but they are turning away from the person they themselves have become. They are not looking for another person, they are looking for another self.

Also, mortality and death live in the shadow of an affair because they raise many questions such as: “Is this it? Am I going to live the rest of my life like this? Is there more?”

Almost every person who cheated will tell you that they felt alive during the affair, and the affair usually happened after they experienced a loss – of a friend they have lost, a parent who died, bad news at the doctor…

So, sometimes people cheat as an attempt to beat back deadness.

And contrary to what many people believe, affairs are not much about sex as they are about desire – desire to feel special, desire for attention, desire to feel important and loved.

The positive thing is that in the aftermath of an affair, lots of couples will have deep conversations with openness and honesty that they never had in years. And sexually indifferent partners will suddenly find themselves inexplicably attracted to each other. It has something to do with the fear of loss that rekindles the lost desire.

So, how can we heal from an affair?

The healing process begins when the partner who had an affair acknowledges their wrongdoings, and expresses true remorse and guilt for hurting their partner.

The perpetrator has to become the protector of the boundaries for a while. It is their responsibility to relieve their partner from the obsession and make sure that their partner knows that the affair is not forgotten, and start rebuilding the lost trust step by step.

And the deceived partners must do things that would bring their self-worth back. They should surround themselves with friends and family, and do activities that bring back their happiness and their sense of self.

But the most important thing is to stop yourself from digging into the details of the affair and asking questions like: Where did you do it? How often? Is he/she better than me?

Instead, switch to questions that will give you answers of the meaning and the motives of the affair. Questions like: What did the affair mean to you? What did you experience that you could no longer experience with me? What did you feel when you came home? Are you relieved that this is over?

Finally, things are not just black or white. And betrayal can come in many different forms – as neglect, as contempt, as indifference, or as a violent act. Sexual betrayal is only one way of betrayal.

Thus, the victim of an affair is not always the victim of the relationship.

Betrayals should always be seen from a dual perspective. On one side we have hurt and betrayal, and on the other side we have a chance for growth and self-discovery.

Think of it in this way: Your first relationship between you and your partner is over. Would you want to create a second one together?

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Habits That Say A Lot About Your Life With High-Functioning Anxiety

By
Elizabeth Williams

It gets really hard when anxiety kicks in… and I’m not talking about that regular, healthy kind of anxiety we are all set to experience now and then. I’m talking about that constant, strong, and relentless anxiety which won’t leave you alone and which will come back the moment you think it’s gone.

It’s that anxiety which won’t leave you alone, although nobody seems to be noticing that it’s there, lingering inside your head, and everywhere you look. Yes, your friends may think that it’s just the way you are, being all cautious and alert, but you know that it’s something you don’t want to think about too much.

And you don’t want them to think that you are immersed in all these worries and constant criticism which seems to be taking the best of you in every passing second. It is there, in your chest, in your thoughts, it’s like a rope which tightens whenever you try to loosen up.

So even when your heart is pounding, and your mind is in anguish, you put on that calm face which feels like it’s being drained of the last remaining drops of blood and it starts feeling like it’s made of stone.

And you won’t let it conquer you, even if it’s taken control over most of your thoughts and your actions already. You keep on adding more tasks to your daily routine and accept unnecessary burdens from others because… well, you don’t know why – perhaps it’s better to overload your day with tasks than your mind with thoughts.

And even this seemingly good escape-plan can sometimes backfire, or even more often than just sometimes. Your constant self-criticism doesn’t allow you to think nicely of the things you do for others and you can only see yourself judging your imperfection in doing things because you’re afraid that when it’s not perfect, it’s not worth it.

So, you just keep on being the people-pleaser and your own worst judge because the panic, the worry, the constant headaches and nausea you get by the thought that you’re doing something which may not turn out the best are too much to bear.

Of course, there are these moments when you feel at peace, feeling relieved of all that tension and pressure because even anxiety needs a break from you sometimes. But it’s worse than a curse when it suddenly kicks back in when you least need it.

It may be that you’re out with friends having a blast, and there it is, your arch-nemesis, your constant criticizer, your anxiety that tells you that it’s time to go home and run away because the world has suddenly become a scary place.

Anxiety is that lump in your throat when you know what you want to say but you can’t see yourself saying it. It’s the buzzing static in your head when you finally start talking but you can’t seem to be following your speech – you are out of your body, watching yourself mumble things you can’t understand, and it’s a nightmare. You just want to run away from yourself.

It’s not that you’re saying silly things, but whatever you say, you will always criticize yourself for not saying something better. For not leaving that perfect impression which you cannot even imagine because you think that you don’t possess the ability to portray such perfection in your mind.

So, you stay pent up inside, biting your nails, or plucking your eyebrows, or just completely losing touch with yourself and trying to turn your focus away from your mind because it’s too much to bear.

You can’t help procrastinating everything you’re supposed to do because even the tiniest of things can sometimes seem so monumental and far away. Not to mention doing something which involves other people, like texting, calling, or emailing someone.

This may all seem hard to understand for many, but you are not alone in this. Maybe the easiest thing to remember is that you should forgive yourself more and allow yourself to make mistakes because they are natural and normal. You are doing things more perfectly than anyone would bother to.

Because your definition of perfection exceeds the mere idea of perfection of many by far. Even if you reach half the goal you have set for yourself, know that you have done at least a half more than those you like to perceive as ‘better’ than you.

You are much stronger than your fears and much more powerful than your worries. I believe in you; your loved ones believe in you. Just relax and love yourself more. You deserve it.

You are stronger than your anxiety.

11 Signs That Indicate You Might Be A Naturally Powerful White Witch

By
Stephanie Reeds

Energy is everywhere around us, and while someone might not feel it, there are people who’ve been dealing with higher, more profound frequencies of energy.

For those who haven’t already heard of them, white witches are the good kind of witches who make this world a better place and are often mistaken for earth angels.

The essential difference between them is that witches have a deeper connection to nature and the Earth, whereas the angels are beings who came from “above”. 

While angels maintain the balance between heaven and Earth, witches are beings of Earth and are known to be mediators between humans and elemental beings. However, they both serve the greater good in everything they do.

If you are feeling out of this world, it’s maybe because you haven’t already tapped into the power source within the level that you should be in. Check these 11 signs that explain the term “white witch” to see if it describes your nature as well:

1.YOU ARE A SENSITIVE SOUL

You have a highly developed empathetic side and you easily feel other people’s pain, both mental and physical. People feel comfortable confiding in you and talking about what bothers them. You see and feel their fears and emotions just like they’re made of concrete.

2.YOU OFTEN HAVE PROPHETIC DREAMS WITH A DEEPER MEANING

Have you ever dreamt of your reality? Have you had a terrible nightmare only to wake up at the sight of your dream happening in front of your eyes?

Your have dreams much more intense and vivid than the average ones. In the process of dreaming you receive important messages and when you follow those voices inside, these messages become instantly clear.

3.YOU WANT TO HELP THIS PLANET GROW

You aspire to make this planet a better place for yourself and for everyone else. And while there are a lot of people who haven’t already raised their consciousness to this level, it’s always better if we choose to start with ourselves and make the change towards collective growth.

4.YOU ARE CURIOUSLY DRAWN TO ANIMALS

You are considered what’s called an animal/ fauna empath. You love animals and find yourself to be more often around them than around people. Most of the time you feel like you could understand the animal’s soul and influence their behavior by interacting with it. You feel the special connection with their world and as a result, you’re capable of sensing every vibration that is sent off by animals.

5.YOU NOTICE AND FEEL THE THINGS MOST OF THE PEOPLE DON’T

You possess a highly developed intuitive ability. You sense things that others can’t even imagine. You are aware of a certain situation that will most likely occur in the future and this helps you cope with every state you’re in. You understand other people’s difficulties and easily reveal the source of it all.

6.YOU ARE INTERESTED IN THE ETERNAL SECRETS OUR UNIVERSE HOLDS

You enjoy discovering the secrets of the Universe so it’s most likely for you to spend a whole evening with books and documentaries on the same subject. You truly believe there is different life out there and you know that everything is connected. You are aware that every alignment and planet movement affects human beings. Also, you firmly believe in astrology.

7.YOU BELIEVE IN THE GREATER GOOD

Despite the low-frequency vibration in some people and all the negativity they cause, you truly believe that there’s good in this world. It’s up to us to find it. There are inspiring people who do wonderful things. And it just takes a bit effort from every one of us in order to benefit the bigger picture. Together we can achieve wonders.

8.YOU LIKE MAKING AND USING NATURAL ALTERNATIVES/ REMEDIES

You are fascinated by homeopathy and like to rely on the good old, homemade, traditional remedies instead of the usual addictive drugs.

White witches were considered to be great healers and apothecaries. They were healers long before there were actual doctors.

Do you also use a lavender to help you sleep or some homegrown mint tea to calm your stomach?

9.YOU FEEL AT ONE WITH NATURE

You enjoy your time by spending most of it outdoors. In fact, you feel even more alive when you come out of your house. You need to smell and feel the morning rain, the freshly cut grass or the crisp air, the winter holds. You are at one with nature.

10.YOU CAN EASILY PICK UP ON ATMOSPHERE

Have you ever walked into a room and sensed all of the other people’s emotions? You feel when someone is your friend or foe and you can instantly tell when something is not right. White witches are known to be clairsentient which means having the ability to sense deeply. Therefore, they feel every emotion humans have.

11.YOU CAN SENSE SOMETHING DEEP WITHIN YOU

You just feel the fire deep inside of you. A power within you that only the rare ones possess it. You know you’re different because there’s something inexplicable about your personality. It can’t be rationally explained to a person who hasn’t experienced it.

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This Is How You Will Learn To Love Yourself, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

By
Mary Wright

Let’s face it, 2017 was not a pleasant year for many of us. It was a year that brought insecurity, difficulties, and pain to our lives.

If you are wondering how you can make 2018 better for yourself, the first key to look for is learning how to take care of yourself more on a daily basis.

Below there are tips for every sign on how they can learn to love themselves better in the year to come.

EARTH SIGNS: BREAK THE RULES!

Taurus, Capricorn, and Virgo are the earth signs. Because of their symbol, they are very grounded. They follow their dreams step by step without any rush. They are hard workers who proudly present their accomplishments to others. And when it comes to relationships, these signs are very loyal, and when they are in love, they love deeply.

The earth signs should break their rules in 2018 for they have been grounded a long time. They should bring more excitement in their lives. After all, there is nothing wrong with being a little drunk and partying more often, right?

Taurus – Do a juice cleanse from time to time!

Taurus is known for their passion for enjoying in the physical pleasures of life, this includes eating, drinking, and being lazy. So, in 2018 you should try indulging yourself in a healthier lifestyle. Take the time to cook yourself a healthy meal. Also, you should try practicing gardening, knitting, and cooking. Your body will be grateful, and you will enjoy your new activities. You will connect with yourself and your symbol – the earth.

Virgo – Take a day off from work!

Virgo, you are guilty of having the greatest work ethic of all signs. You work hard, and you follow rules diligently, so next year you should give yourself a break. You tend to put your work ahead of everything else in your life. So, try relaxing more in 2018. Take some days off from work and do something that you love doing. Maybe go for a manicure and a haircut. Whatever you choose to do, it will teach you that work isn’t everything in life.

Capricorn – Meditate and practice mindfulness.

Capricorn, you tend to notice every little detail! From a chipped nail polish to your hair not falling the same way on both sides, you notice everything about you as well as others. You should try to eliminate you nitpicking nature in 2018 by practicing mindfulness and meditating. Even if this sounds hippie to you, believe me, it will help you truly reconnect with yourself and become more calm and peaceful.

WATER SIGNS: LEARN TO DEAL WITH YOUR INTENSE EMOTIONS!

Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces are the water signs. They are known for the intensity of their emotions, their flexibility, and their ability to go with the flow. They see the world in a different way than others because emotions play a huge role in their life. So, it is essential for them to learn how to control them.

2018 should be a year in which water signs must find ways to get in tune with their feelings and not let their feelings to overrule them. Emotions are there to inspire you, and not leave you feeling drained. You should find the strength, the kindness, and the creativity you need from your emotions in 2018.

Cancer – Practice affirmations daily.

Cancer, you are a very loyal and lovable sign. You can connect not only with your emotions but to the emotions of others as well. However, your sensitive nature can sometimes make you feel insecure and moody. So, to deal with your internalized fears and insecurities, you can start by adding affirmations to your daily routine. It doesn’t matter if your affirmations are only 3 words that you say in front of the mirror, or a 30-minute-long motivational speech – they will help you become more positive and confident.

Scorpio – Start listening to podcasts!

Scorpio, you are a deep and passionate human being both in your personal relationships as well as in your career. When you care, you care a lot. You also want to know the truth at all costs. And because of all this, you should try to add in podcasts to your day in 2018. This will help you stay informed while also enjoying your so much needed privacy.

Pisces – Start writing a journal.

Pisces, you are an artistic and intuitive sign as well as delicate and gentle. Your vivid emotional world can sometimes be shattered by the cruelty in this world. So, you have an inner need to escape from reality whether it is by watching a TV show or losing yourself in a good book, or in any way that works for you.  However, a piece of advice for 2018 would be to start your own story by writing in your journal. You don’t have to be a professional writer for this, you need to speak only through your heart.

AIR SIGNS: FIND A WAY TO BECOME MORE GROUNDED.

Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius are the air signs. If there is one word that can describe them is FREEDOM. Also, they are very easy to adapt to any new situation that presents in their way.

New people, places, or situations don’t scare them. They are always looking for something new and exciting. In 2018, they should try to stay more grounded and have more consistency in their life. They can do this by adding more routines in their life.

Gemini – Buy a cookbook and cook yourself delicious meals!

Gemini, your dual personality can really get in your head, and because of that, you are very flighty and curious individual. You can make yourself crazy if you have to stay in for 2 nights in a row. You want variety and excitement more than anything. So, in order for you to become more grounded in the year to come, buy a cookbook and indulge your curious nature in learning new cooking skills. This can make you feel grounded and at the same time, it will satisfy your need for variety because you can cook different meals every day.

 Libra – Take some me-time in the bathtub.

Libra, you are a social butterfly. You get along with everyone and people love your friendly nature. However, social situations no matter how energizing can sometimes be draining too. So, for you to rediscover the balance in your life you need to spend more time alone. Take some time to relax in your bathtub and enjoy a nice hot bubble bath. Pampering yourself can feel really good, but be careful, you might get used to it (which is not a bad thing.)

Aquarius – Read a book on psychology, spirituality, or wine!

Aquarius, you love knowledge! There is not a thing that entertains you more than learning a new thing. Your topics of interest are abstract things like religion and psychology. So, in the following year, instead of reading articles, go to the local bookstore and grab an old book and learn something valuable that will satisfy your expensive taste and also learn more about yourself.

FIRE SIGNS: CUT YOURSELF SOME SLACK!

Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius are the fire signs. These signs are all about ACTION. They have an impulsive and ambitious nature, and they are always on the move. Also, they tend to set impossible standards for themselves and get disappointed when they fail to meet them.

So, the next year, they really need to take a time-out and start relaxing more. They should try to travel more, and find activities that keep the child in them alive. They should do things that make their heart joyous and happy.

Aries – Take a class that is completely out of your comfort zone!

Aries, being the first zodiac sign you have accustomed to being number 1 anytime. Your competitive nature makes your true essence, but your obsession with winning can sometimes be bad for you. So, next year try something which is outside of your comfort zone. Take a sushi or a yoga class. Anything that is unusual for you. This will widen your skills and you will embrace the fact that you can’t be number 1 every time.

Leo – Spend a whole day completely alone.

Leo, you are a warm and charismatic person. You are the center of attention everywhere you go. And, you really ENJOY the attention. However, being always in the spotlight can make you measure your self-worth through the validation you get from others. So, it is crucial for you to give yourself some time alone and reconnect with your true nature. You can spend a whole day pampering yourself all you want, but you should do it alone!

Sagittarius – Add a weekly hike to your schedule!

Sagittarius, you are the optimist of all Zodiac! You value your freedom and your independence, so the thing you hate the most is when you feel like you are stuck when it comes to your living situation. You love adventures and traveling and meeting other people and different cultures. So, add hiking to your weekly agenda. It can help you to reconnect with yourself and your thoughts.

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12 Types of Men You’re Attracted To According to Your Zodiac Sign

By
Stephanie Reeds

Have you ever looked back at your love life through a detailed analysis of your ex-boyfriends or ex-lovers and you came up with the conclusion that they have a lot of things in common?

Yup, we all have a type of person who attracts us. Whether if it’s the same specific physical appearance like for example tough bearded guys, or it’s the personality of a man that seduces you, there’s a reason you’re attracted to a specific type of man.

So, whether you religiously read your horoscope, or you’re just mildly interested in the potential influence the alignment of the stars has over your personality and preferences in life, it’s interesting to consider that your attractions for a certain ideal man may have been predestined in the stars.

Read on, as we reveal to you the 12 types of man you’re most drawn to based on your Zodiac sign.

Aries (March 21-April 19)

Aries girls are considered pretty impulsive and stubborn. Things better end up their way, because there’s no compromise with Aries about their independence, and especially not for romance.

Having this though personality, you definitely need a guy who’ll  handle your fiery nature without trying to put it out. This explains your natural magnetism to macho “bad boys” who like to show off in public-while showing yourself as well.

You don’t want a cuddly sensitive “Netflix and chill” type of guy. You want a man who can have the most fun with you outside before he drives you crazy in the bedroom.

Taurus (April 20-May 20)

These ladies are the absolute hedonists when it comes to almost everything. They are sensual, yet fierce women who have big appetites that can’t be easily satisfied.

You enjoy being treated like a fairy princess by your Prince Charming, which is why you’re into the type of guy who’ll worship you like crazy. Taurus ladies are in for the pleasure and that’s exactly what they search for in relationships.

You are most drawn to a guy who oozes with mysterious sex appeal. Your Taurian sensibility and intense sexual energy will blow his mind off and capture his heart. And while as a stubborn bull you’re most probably busy indulging in your own whims, he’ll be more than happy to join the ride.

The perfect guy for a Taurus girl is determined and sexually aggressive, and every moment you spend together will feel like the most beautiful guilty pleasure.

Gemini (May 21-June 20)

The twin sign is as lively and sociable as they can get. Gemini gals have a strong lust for life, like to play around and be silly, which is the reason why they’re more into guys with whom they’ll have a fun time.

The thing that turns you on is good, clever humor because if there’s something that you’re the most turned off by, it’s a boring, serious conversation with the guy you date.

Instead, you search for the perfect man whose wit and intellect will stimulate your creative thinking and most definitely sweep you off your feet. However, despite the fact that Gemini girls are fascinated with your “brains,” they’re usually not satisfied with only one guy.

Cancer (June 21-July 22)

Cancer ladies are known to be among the most sensitive signs and because of that, they’re often misunderstood. They have the need to engage in deep and meaningful relationships with a person who’ll provide them stability and a loving shelter.

Ultimately, what they look for in life is a healthy, long-lasting relationship, which is why they are drawn to more mature, stable guys. Sensitivity and stability are their biggest turn-ons because they can allow themselves to be vulnerable in front of the partner – which equals some seriously intense bedroom time.

Your perfect guy will open his soul to you and let you open up to him as well, and you’ll be able to enjoy that deep connection that satisfies your emotional and sexual needs.

Leo (July 23-August 22)

One word. POWER. Not only are they known as the most powerful being among the signs, Leo girls are quite the lionesses in bed. You have an ego that needs to be handled, that is why you’re always out searching for that perfect guy who’ll be comfortable with your spotlight.

Your relationships are usually very passionate and fiery, and you prefer a man who’ll admire and worship you, take you on fun adventures, but will still let you make the rules. You have a thing for charming, flirtatious guys who’ll be into that smooth-talking and will make you feel all puffed up.

While Leo girls enjoy being in the center of attention, they are also very generous with their affections, and that’s why they need a man who will give as much as they get.

Virgo (August 23-September 22)

This sign often gets a bad rep for keeping their feelings closeted and being more stable as well as practical. It can be pretty hard for a Virgo to loosen up and open to the possibility of a new relationship.

That’s exactly why they need a partner who’ll be very patient with them and of great support in their process of getting out of their shell. They are most attracted to guys who have a quiet determination rather than those who need to be applauded for every little achievement.

Virgos are the type of people who can easily get wrapped up in anxiety, and that’s the exact moment when they need their partners to calm them and be there for them. While a Virgo is considered as more closeted and serene sign, they actually can get pretty bouncy and fun once they feel comfortable around someone.

Libra (September 23-October 22)

If there’s one thing about Libra, it’s their alluring charm and ability to socialize on a higher level. If you know a girl at whom all eyes glance whenever they pass, or they’re an excellent party planner, she’s definitely a Libra. Their major turn-ons include loyalty and being romantic.

Guys, read carefully: This sign needs a man who’ll be a perfect match with their personality and someone who is outgoing, the very life of the party, which is why they often end up with other Libras.

With great education background and their constant lookout for the next trending thing, Libras are extremely drawn to people who’ll keep up with their unique charming nature and will bring even more people into their vibrant social circle. You’ll also find them falling head over heels over thoughtful romantic gestures, like public proposals or declarations of love.

Scorpio (October 23-November 21)

Mysterious and sexy creatures, Scorpio ladies are one of the most challenging signs because of their fiery nature and their obsessive behavior. Instead of finding a person who can distinguish that fire, they search for someone who can match their own madness.

They need a guy who’ll be able to deal with their crazy temper and at the same time a man who’ll spar them in the bedroom as well as their office. Their biggest turn-ons include men with remarkable wits and sharp tongues that can be used in -oh so many places (you get what I’m trying to say).

Sagittarius (November 22-December 21)

Sagittarius girls are known to be the major adventure junkies and freedom seekers. They want a guy who’ll be in for the ride, which is why Sagittarius ladies are mostly drawn to a man who’ll possess the same adventurous spirit and will join her in getting high on life.

These women are more into finding a steady, mature partner as they tend to engage in deep relationships rather than meaningless flings. They need someone who’ll lift their spirits and will bring fun into their world but won’t have the need to be the center of attention.

Their biggest turn-ons are exploring and traveling the world, so that might explain their attraction to men with foreign accents.

Capricorn (December 22-January 19)

As a result of their “work hard-play hard” ethic, Capricorn women are considered as the most ambitious of the zodiac signs. These girls are determined and focused on their career goals, so you can assume that’s the same thing they look for in a man.

There’s nothing sexier than a hard-working stud who takes pride in the work he does. That’s why they often end up falling for older men, but minus the daddy issues – it’s actually the power and goals that turn them on.

Aquarius (January 20 to February 18)

Aquarians equal unpredictability and freedom. These girls are known to be the most spontaneous among the zodiac signs, and that’s the reason they fall head over heels over guys who are rebellious. They’re usually drawn to free spirits like artists, musicians because of their well-known alluring charisma and sense of creativity.

Aquarius ladies tend to experiment in their lives as well as bedrooms, which is why it’s crucial for them to find that perfectly unconventional guy that will match their curious mind.

Pisces (February 19 to March 20)

Oh, the dreamers. Pisces are often with their heads up in the clouds and prefer guys with the same romantic needs as them. The thing is, the sensitive Pisces are usually drawn to people better known as fixer-uppers because they like to be the women who save them.

However, they also dream about having their knight on a white horse, sweeping them off their feet. The most important thing about Pisces is mutual respect and love. They look for a person who’ll take care of them, and who they can take care of. Romantic gestures are number one turn-on for the loveable, sensitive Pisces.

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Personality Test: Which Face Is Happier?

By
Mary Wright

I am sure that everyone is familiar with the theory of the right-brain or left-brain dominance – that every person’s brain is designed to work differently using one side more than the other.

In turn, people who use the left side of their brain more are said to be more rational and practical with a more objective approach to things.

Contrary to them, people whose right side of their brain is more dominant tend to be intuitive and emotional with a subjective outlook on things.

So, if you want to find out quickly which side of your brain is more dominant, look at the picture below and decide which face seems happier.

If your choice is Face A:

Choosing the picture A means that you are left-brained. You have a very practical and systematic approach to everything in your life. You follow your brain, and not your heart. You believe in logic and you are very pragmatic about things in general. Also, you are an excellent critic. You see things from a different angle than others and tend to overanalyze situations until you are sure your judgment is right.

If your choice is Face B:

If you choose the picture B, this means that you have a very creative side in you. You approach everything in your life subjectively and you don’t exclude your emotions when you make decisions and judgments. You love to express yourself in different ways because you have a very vivid inner world and a wild imagination. Your mind is always trying to create new things.

Which one did you get? Are you using the left or the right side of your brain? Tell us in the comments.

There’s Nothing More Beautiful Than Being Crazy In A Sick Society

By
Elizabeth Williams

The word ‘normal’ gives me the shivers whenever I hear it. I chose not to be normal a long time ago. And if you ask why, the answer lies in the word itself: Who set the norm for being normal, and how come their perception of what things should be is more accurate than mine?

Our society has become a hive of mindless bodies and soulless shells that are literally born to die. They make sure they destroy themselves well enough so as to be happy when they finally go away. I don’t choose this fate for myself.

I don’t see why I should restrain myself from feeling happy and why I shouldn’t be open and sincere about the things that bring genuine and unconditional happiness to my life. I don’t see why I should go about with my day doing things I would never do simply because they are perceived as ‘normal.’

Who set that ludicrous norm?

Hey, did you know that what’s normal over there is not normal over here? Did you know that NORMAL doesn’t exist?

Then why follow such norm? Why allow yourself to become part of a wasted generation of what used to be people? Your ‘crazy’ is your freedom – the one that many are going to try to deny you from.

It’s simple: If you are free, then how will the dumbing educational system be able to teach you to conform? How will the greedy corporations teach you what’s good for you and how ‘imperfect’ you are? How will the elite be able to thrive off your wage-slaving back if you decided to simply become the person you were always meant to be?

The answer is simple: It has become normal for people to feel alienated from themselves, always craving for some kind of recognition by the herd and feeling accepted in the things they wouldn’t really do. We are a paradox – and we allow this. Well, I don’t because I’m crazy.

Many of the people I know try to ‘set me on the right path’ of being ‘normal’ and ‘acceptable’. But you know what? I feel more accepted than ever knowing that I have fully accepted myself before anyone else could think they had some kind of choice in it. Freedom comes from within, and you have wings that only you can soar with or break in half.

Happiness doesn’t depend on the things the advertisements tell you to buy; love doesn’t depend on the idea that you should smear your beautiful face in tons of toxic makeup so that you’d look ‘perfect’; joy never required money.

We were taught to feel unhappy with ourselves, we were taught of how ‘stupid’ we are because someone decided to measure our endless possibilities with limited marks and numbers.

You are all that you can dream of becoming – the only obstacle is your effort to be ‘normal’ in a society that is everything but normal.

Don’t be afraid of the awkward looks by people who are afraid to be as free as they should be. Don’t be afraid of the obstacles you’ll face. It’s a fact that the greatest things in life require a lot of effort and involve big challenges. The only thing you need to be afraid of is losing yourself.

We are all born perfect and then we become ‘normal’ under the influence of the narrow-minded and arbitrary definitions set by society. Don’t be a part of this dysfunctional society – be a part of the new horizons and the freedom we were all born to experience.

You are not crazy; I’m not crazy; Nobody’s crazy. We all allow ourselves to become crazy the moment we step into the iron shoes that society has carefully crafted for us. Why endure such unnecessary gravity that pulls you toward the grey?

Be creative, be free, laugh as loud as you can, cry as much as you need to, celebrate the life you’ve been given and never let yourself down. Be daring enough to be crazy in a society that has become profoundly sick.

You should rule over your life, and nobody should have a say in it.

Be your perfect crazy self and love yourself!

You live this life once – don’t waste it.

 

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6 Zodiac Pairs That Have The Deepest Connection Of All

By
Mary Wright

Aries + Sagittarius

When an Aries and a Sagittarius are in a relationship there is only one word for it: ADVENTURE! They adore traveling, planning trips, and discussing any weird thing that comes to their mind. These two intellectuals will have great respect for one another while also having the time of their lives.

Aries and Sagittarius are both individual thinkers, strong-willed, and independent. Also, they both admire these qualities in a partner, so when they get together they build their relationship on the equal-power ground. Plus, they are best friends first.

Taurus + Virgo

This is a heavenly match. Taurus and Virgo are both earth signs, so they balance each other’s desires that are always idealistic. They are excellent business partners and great friends. And as romantic partners, there are no two people that can understand each other more than a Taurus and a Virgo can.

Taurus’ impeccable taste and their confidence inspire the Virgo who desires to be with someone that they can admire. On the other hand, the Virgo will remind the Taurus of the importance of being grounded and of what matters the most in life.

Cancer + Pisces

Cancer and Pisces are known to be the most intuitive and emotional signs of all Zodiac, so this pair understands each other like no one else. When they are together they lose themselves in their own little world and find their serenity and happiness just by understanding each other. Also, there is an undeniable attraction between them that everyone can see.

These two individuals are amazing together because they can balance out one another’s depths – the Pisces being the creative and intuitive individual, and the Cancer being the grounder and the feeler. Their sensitive natures find each other and that’s why this pair has an immensely strong connection.

Libra + Cancer

These two zodiac signs are true soulmates. The Cancer is the emotional one, and the Libra is the level-headed one. Together they are perfect because when the Libra is acting needy, the Cancer is there to give them all their affection and love they need. Both are emotionally very deep, so they find comfort in each other’s company and this is why this pair is unstoppable.

Moreover, when they get together in a romantic relationship, they are very likely to make things official and get married very quickly because they both want to settle with the right partner and can’t wait to start a life together.

Scorpio + Libra

A Scorpio and a Libra can be great friends and romantic partners because they are both very intense. A Libra wants to feel wanted, and a Scorpio always obsesses over the special people in their life. A Libra is an amazing counselor, and a Scorpio loves that. This duo is so powerful because they compliment each other’s needs.

Even though at first, they may seem so different and impossible to be together, when they do spend a quality time together they will soon realize that they have a special bond and connection that is impossible to shake.

Aquarius + Gemini

These signs are both extreme and they balance each other. When the Gemini is scattered and indecisive, the Aquarius is the one who has tunnel-vision and is determined. They need each other. The Aquarius provides the Gemini with a direction in life, and the Gemini lights up Aquarius’ world.

Their connection is enormous because underneath their surface they both have similar goals. What an Aquarius really wants is to live a quality and balanced life, and a Gemini wants exactly that.

The 11 Stages Of Spiritual Awakening We All Go Through

By
Elizabeth Williams

Spiritual awakening comes in its own perfect timing and with the purpose to help us advance to the next level of consciousness that will allow us to face new challenges and grow even bigger.

The truth is, everyone wakes up at their own given time, in the right moment, and under the right circumstances. This means that you can’t force someone out of the ‘sleep’ of this dimension unless they are ready to move on to the next level of understanding.

In fact, we never sleep – we are just facing the appropriate reality which vibrates with our consciousness in such a way that we will come across the challenges we need to face. Spiritual awakening just opens up a door to new possibilities and a complete change of the perception we have been used to so far.

So, what are the stages of awakening that we all go through once it starts its course?

1. Realization

The first stage of spiritual awakening comes with our sudden realization that our life is not complete. Although you may not be able to put your finger on what’s missing, you will just know that there is so much more to life than what you’re experiencing. It’s like a door being opened just enough to see the light shining through the opening, and you know that this light promises something bigger than anything you’ve experienced so far.

2. Questioning

When you get to the point of realization, you will definitely start questioning everything about your existence. Your mind will start challenging your beliefs, your perceptions, your ideas, and your experiences. It’s completely natural for this to happen and it will bring insights that will lead you to the next stages.

3. Change

Only the purest of things can pass through the sift of the awakened mind, and this information will become the basis of your new and improved Self. You will experience changes in your attitude, your beliefs, and your perception of things.

4. Growth

In the ever-improving version of yourself, you will see yourself growing in a way that you haven’t been growing so far. You will start seeing the connection between everything and you will become bigger with every passing day. Perhaps your greatest understanding in this stage will be the fact that everything IS growing constantly.

5. Purpose

And in the connection of things, you will eventually start finding yourself and your role in the Web of existence. You will start rediscovering your purpose and your true potentials that were meant for you to express and share with this world. Simply said, you will rediscover yourself.

6. Cleansing

Once your mind has been freed from the illusions you perceived to be very important and real, you will experience a period of cleansing of the old and the things that don’t align with your purpose. You might change your whole surroundings, or you might simply let go of everything that has been holding you back. The lessons you are going to realize are going to help you start a self-healing process that will be very intense.

7. Self-healing

In the process of self-healing, you will experience things with such intensity that it may even feel overwhelming. Your emotions will skyrocket, your sensitivity will triple, and your awareness of things can even seem alarmingly high. This is your healing process. Enjoy the ride (although nobody said it’s going to be a smooth one).

8. Acceptance

Perhaps the greatest reason why the self-healing process is so intense is because your growth comes with the challenges of self-acceptance. You will learn that the roller coaster you’ve been riding has been so rough because some aspects of yourself aren’t easy to accept for you. Whatever the case, you will definitely learn to accept your whole being as it is, and you will embrace growth for what it really means.

9. Self-care

Once you accept every positive and negative aspect of yourself, you will become able to direct a more sincere and pure care toward yourself. Accepting and embracing yourself means that you have finally come to terms with the meaning of what it truly means to be a soul incarnated in this dimension. You are your greatest challenge, and you will start facing it with great care.

10. Insight

Your journey will start making sense to you, and you will finally start feeling awakened. You might reconnect with nature, choose to meditate, become more spiritual, or simply a better person. Whatever the case, the insight you will receive from your growth is one that will allow you to grow even further. You are latching onto the channel of the Universal Wisdom and it’s a beautiful experience.

11. A piece of the Unconditional and the Infinite

Many things are Unconditional and Infinite – love, wisdom, happiness… You will finally feel a portion of what they really mean. While this definitely is only the first step to a thousand-mile journey, it is one that promises growth to heights you could have never imagined before. Enjoy your growth!

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