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Science Says People Who Swear Are Smarter, Funnier, And Healthier

By
Elizabeth Williams

I f#@^king love swearing – and it’s very difficult being a teacher who loves swearing. You just can’t help blurting out some inappropriate words here and there, even when you should really avoid it.

Luckily (I suppose), I teach adults. There have been many situations where these words have come in handy to loosen up the tension from learning something very complex, or when simply some students need to understand that I’m also a human being.

And which is more, I can freely say that scientists stand behind my choice of words. Several studies explain why swearing is actually good for you, and here are some of the conclusions made on that subject.

‘Swear’ comes hand in hand with ‘smart’

Research has shown that people who swear have a higher verbal intelligence, busting the myth that swearing is an indicator of poor vocabulary. And it’s true: people who know how to come up with the juiciest of words in the right context need to know a lot about their words.

The study showed that higher IQ is usually accompanied by the ability to produce some high-quality cursing.

Swearing helps you maintain your sanity

Nothing takes that stress off your head like generating a few juicy profanities. It’s no wonder that people find shouting and swearing so therapeutic when they’re caught in the poisonous web of stress.

And Richard Stevens of Keele University has confirmed this in his study on how swearing can alleviate stress, elevate endorphin, and help you calm down. The medical world even has a term for this: lalochezia, meaning the “emotional release gained by uttering indecent or filthy words.”

Swearing makes you funnier

Nothing makes a story funny as adding some profanity to it. And in his book Why We Curse, Dr. Timothy Jay explains why we love some obscenity to spice our jokes up.

He explains that by introducing swearing in our stories, we break free from the neurological control, psychological restraints, and socio-cultural restrictions. Swearing makes the story surprisingly clever, and it elicits an emotional response and excitement.

People like working with potty mouths

If you like swearing, your colleagues will like you even more, shows a study from Wrike. While the workplace is not generally considered as the most appropriate place to drop F-bombs, it was discovered that the majority of people deployed them regularly, and a lot prefer working in places where swearing is commonplace.

Swearing instead of a painkiller

Next time you bump your little toe on a corner, don’t be shy to shout out a swear-word. While not exactly a painkiller, research has shown that swearing can raise your tolerance to pain.

Now, don’t imagine a potty-mouth in labor.

Swearing to get the aggression out

Aggression is not the most beautiful of things, but it would be much worse to bash someone’s head in than to yell out a juicy swear-word (or expression). Psychologist Timothy Jay agrees with this in Why We Curse, explaining that swearing replaces the “more primitive physical aggressions.”

And finally, once you’re done with your obscene rant, you do feel some kind of closure, don’t you?

 

So, here’s to all the potty-mouths out there! There’s nothing wrong with you (although you already know that, don’t you?) Of course, some decorum is in order in some situations, so let’s be civilized, right?

Well… maybe not.

10 Signs You’ll Marry Your Boyfriend Someday

By
Mary Wright

They say when it is the right thing you just know. However cliché this may sound, when you are in the right relationship everything feels different. When you have the right man by your side everything feels right and easy.

Below are 10 things you’ll feel when you are with the right man that you may marry someday.

1. YOU’LL FEEL COMPLETELY COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN

Everyone has flaws. Everyone can get cranky from time to time if the things are not working their way, or eat some disgusting food, or be so fiercely independent to a point where they don’t allow anyone to help them.

But, despite all the bad habits that you possess – you must feel completely comfortable with your boyfriend and not be ashamed to show them to him. The boyfriend you should marry is the one who knows all your flaws but accepts them as part of you and loves you for them.  

2. YOU’LL FEEL LIKE YOU CAN TALK ABOUT EVERYTHING

In the right relationship, you will be able to talk with your boyfriend about everything without being ashamed or afraid he’ll judge you.

You can comfortably share your own views on politics, marriage, relationships, parenting… anything. And opening yourself to him would feel like it’s the easiest thing in the world because you know he’s got your back.

3. YOU’LL FEEL LIKE HE TRULY CHERISHES YOU

The guy you should marry is the one who will make you feel like you are the best thing that has ever happened to him.

Because, when you are in a relationship with a guy that is serious about you and intends to marry you someday – he’ll never make you wonder how he feels about you. He will show his love to you every day and he’ll make it clear how much you mean to him.

4. YOU’LL FEEL ATTRACTED TO HIM ALL THE TIME

When you are with a guy that you’ll probably marry, you will both feel like you can’t get enough from each other. You’ll be attracted to one another for plenty of other reasons that go far beyond physical appearance.

Whether you are in your pajamas or sitting on the beach in a bikini, it won’t matter – because the attraction will be there every time.

5. YOU’LL FEEL LIKE HIS LITTLE QUIRKS ARE MORE ADORABLE THAN ANNOYING

If you are like me, and you have a hard time adjusting to having someone in your life because you love your independence – don’t worry. With the right guy, everything will change.

You will find all his irritable habits adorable and you won’t get annoyed when you see his socks laying on the floor, but you’ll have a laugh instead.  

6. YOU’LL FEEL SURPRISED THAT A GUY LIKE HE EVEN EXISTS

When you meet the man of your life, you’ll feel that instant connection like you have known him for years. You will be shocked to find that he is different from anyone that you’ve met before.

Your souls would recognize each other as well, and you will realize that your previous beliefs about relationships were wrong. You will finally experience what it feels like to be in a right relationship.

7. YOU’LL FEEL LIKE YOU BOTH SHARE THE SAME VISION OF THE FUTURE

Even though you might come from completely different backgrounds, what matters is that you are both heading towards the same destination.

In other words, if you are with a guy with whom you share the same plans about the future, it means you are on the right path with the right guy.

8. YOU’LL FEEL LIKE YOU CAN WORK OUT ANY ISSUE WITHOUT A FIGHT

You probably had relationships with partners in which you were more fighting than loving each other. And, you kept telling yourself that it is because of all the passion you have.

However, in the right relationship, with the right guy, you will be able to talk about every issue like grownups. You won’t feel the need to fight because you will both come from a loving place.

9. YOU’LL FEEL LIKE EVERYTHING JUST FITS INTO PLACE

When you meet the man who is right for you, you will get a feeling that finally, all things fell into its place.

Even if you are not a family oriented person, or being in a relationship is the last thing that pops into your mind, when you meet ‘your guy’ everything will just fit. Suddenly, you will find yourself imagining what it would be like to spend yours forever with him.

10. YOU’LL FEEL LIKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS SACRED

When you have a boyfriend who understands the importance of making your relationship a priority – you are with a guy who truly respects you and wants your relationship to succeed.

You will feel like your relationship is sacred because you will both try to nourish it.

25 Signs There Is A Toxic Person In Your Life

By
Mary Wright
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It is a well-known truth that there are plenty of toxic people out there. And, it is not that the people are toxic per se, but their behavior. However, this doesn’t make them bad people, it just means that they have certain behaviors that are damaging and have a negative impact on our well-being.

How Can You Tell If A Person Is Toxic?

Toxic people are everywhere around you and you may find them in your family members. They are usually unpleasant, draining, and difficult and do not positively impact your life and career. 

You will meet these people at least once during your life, and you probably have a toxic colleague who plays political games at work, a family friend who always drains you out after the conversation you had, or you have dealt with hard-to-please customers. 

They are sometimes hard to spot, but they are the dark personality types such as narcissists, emotional manipulators, sociopaths, and psychopaths. 

Some of them have toxic traits and do not realize they hurt people around them. 

Most toxic people are emotional vampires and will try to drain all the positivity and joy you have in yourself, which may lead to anxiety and depression. 

They can also urge you to make poor choices in life, accommodating to their needs, and this means diminished self–esteem and confidence. 

Below are 25 traits that show a person can be toxic to you.

1. They Are Always The Victim

In their head, no matter what the situation is – they are always right. Any problem that may occur is always because of someone else’s actions. Even when it is their fault, they will never admit it.

When they are late for work, it is the traffic. When they break up, it is because of their partner’s jealousy and evil nature. You get the point. If you have someone in your life that always plays the victim card on you – lose him for good.

2. They Are Constantly Interrupting

These people are so focused on themselves and their ego is so high that they are forgetting their manners (if they have manners) when it comes to holding a proper conversation.

They constantly interrupt others when they are talking – which is really annoying. A normal person would apologize when they interrupt someone, but a toxic one never does. They are rude and clueless.

3. They Can’t Admit When They Are Wrong

A toxic person has to always be right. In their mind, there is nothing wrong with them and they never make mistakes. No matter how much evidence you have to the contrary – they will always find you guilty and they will never admit to their wrongdoings.

They can even become loud and aggressive to win the argument. This is an irritating and undesirable characteristic of a person.

4. They Are Bad Listeners

Even though it is normal to think about what are you going to say while the other one is talking, this is not an effective technique. However, this behavior doesn’t make a person a bad listener.

What makes them bad listeners is plain disinterest and a lack of response and acknowledgment in the conversation. More specifically in what the other person has to say and just continuing to talk about themselves.  

5. They Boost Their Own Ego

Let’s clear something up – an exceptional person doesn’t have to tell the world they are exceptional because their actions speak louder than words. A toxic person, however, is not modest when it comes to naming their qualities.

So, when you hear someone talking about how amazing they are without being asked in the first place, know that you are dealing with someone who may not be that great.

6. They Are Attention Seekers

This one doesn’t require further explanation. These people need to be always the center of attention. They are always interrupting others because they want to dominate the conversation.

They are only happy when they talk about themselves. You can spot them easily because they are always the loudest ones in the group of people.

7. They Are Always Judging Others

You have probably heard someone making a rude comment about a person that they have never even met before on the basis that they can sense when something is wrong with a person. This is a red flag that says a lot about someone’s character.

People who are rude to someone they don’t even know, or worse, start making negative comments on their physical appearance – are toxic people that you don’t need in your life.

8. They Are Still Cliquish

It is not hard to spot people who act like they are still in high school. They tend to look down on others and judge them only by their appearance. They see themselves as the best – others are poorly dressed, dirty, and unworthy if they didn’t have the latest fashion clothes or drive the newest car.

Toxic people consider themselves to be higher in class than everyone and that others should admire them.

9. They Are Disrespectful Of Everyone

Toxic people have no manners. They still cut people off in traffic, litter, don’t say ‘I am sorry’ or ‘thank you’, and so on. They have such disturbing social behavior that you can’t help but ask yourself how can anyone not be ashamed of themselves and what kind of parents raised these people.

10. They Are Physically Or Emotionally Abusive

This one is self-explaining. Any person who is abusive towards others can’t be a good person. Full stop. And, if we find ourselves being abused be it physically or emotionally, or if we discover that another person or animal is being abused – we should immediately report the case to authorities.

11. They Don’t Take Any Responsibility For Their Actions

This behavior goes hand in hand with #3, but it is much worse. These people cannot take responsibility for their actions because they don’t see a fault in them. They can often be found arguing with an authority figure and aggressively stating their illogical explanations.

12. They Have No Compassion

The most humane trait that a person possesses is their ability to feel empathy and compassion for others. However, these traits are missing from a toxic person. A toxic person is unable to empathize with others nor be compassionate towards someone.

If they show some compassion, it is usually fake and done in order to get something out of you.

13. They Can’t Let Go Of The Past 

They will hold a grudge against you for a long time if you have done something in the past to hurt their feelings. If you try to draw their attention and tell them their behavior is unacceptable and not right, they will bring up everything you have done wrong for them in the past to get revenged.

Even though you will say sorry and apologize for all things you have done wrong, toxic people will continue to hold a grudge against you and use the wrong things you have done as a weapon against you. 

14. They Lie To Your Face  

Toxic people can make up unreliable stories and insist that they are true. The made-up story is usually twisted. They will retell it very convincingly because they usually believe their own nonsense and can easily make you believe it as well.

If you caught them lying, they would tell you that you are a bad friend and you will feel like it is your fault that you caught them lying.

What is more, they never apologize for their lies, and if you argue with them, you will see that there is no point in arguing, so all you need to do is move forward and realize that for them being happy is more important than being right.

15. They Can Hurt Your Self-esteem

Toxic people always leave us feeling worse than we were before. They constantly create negativity, and you can immediately define them as toxic.  However, for some people, it takes years to recognize them as toxic.

When they see that you feel beautiful and confident, they will think that they can’t control you and will constantly point out your flaws and criticize almost everything about you, starting from your appearance to your thoughts and beliefs. This can prevent your spiritual growth and lower your self–esteem, and confidence in time.

16. They Expect That You Focus Only On Them

 Toxic people will try to distance you from other people and like friends and family, so after some period, you will end up being alone…with just…them. That is because they need all of your attention and want to protect you from others who want to warn you that they manipulate and control your life, so they will try as much as they can to push people out of your life.

17. They Are Hypocrites

Toxic people always make scenes and usually say one thing while doing something opposite. Hypocrisy is just another word for injustice, so toxic people make scenes when you do something that they don’t approve of and accuse you of not being a good friend, but if they do something you do not approve of, but would say that you are oversensitive and you get upset easily. For example, if they are 20 minutes late and you start complaining, they say you get upset so easily, but if you are 2 minutes late, they make huge scenes and say you do not respect them.

18. They Put You On Test

When toxic people put you on a test, it means that they want to control you. They are very suspicious about everything.

They know that they have bad feelings and want to project them to people around them, so it is very likely that they will put you on some sort of test to check your loyalty. If you pass this test, they will try to praise you, but if you fail, you will feel bad and you will need to prove better next time you are on the test.

This way, they know that they have power over you.

19. They Think That Everyone Else In Their Life Is Problematic

Toxic people usually always turn their stories quickly to other ways and always blame others for their life and problems. They always tell different stories about crazy ex-girlfriends, boyfriends, or friends. When you see that the number of their crazy and weird friends and negative relationships is going higher and higher, it means that something is wrong and the red flag should start to show up. This means that they are probably problematic, not the friends and friendships they had.

20. They Gaslight You

Toxic people are usually manipulative and make you feel doubt about your own thoughts and actions. This can lead to doubting even your beliefs, perceptions, and judgments about things you have made and you have in your own life.

This is just another example of psychological abuse and they just want to confuse and disorient you so they can easily gain control over you and dictate your liking.

This can easily degrade your personality and your ability to challenge and confront your abuser. When you confront them, they would usually say that you imagine things and that you are too sensitive.

21. They Invade Your Personal Space And Ignore Your Set Boundaries

If you have set boundaries, toxic people won’t respect them, and they might show up at your home although you didn’t invite them, make some decisions without your consent, take some personal things without asking, and can even try to control your time and people you spend your free time with.

They might touch you without asking permission, may physically block you when you want to leave, and sometimes get angry if you try to react.

22. They Do Not Respect Your Time

This is another way toxic people can show that they do not respect you. They never show up on time, you always wait for them in the shopping mall, and you call them they are unreachable, they are always late when going to pick them up for a date, and they say they need five minutes to prepare themselves, and you wait for them for an hour.

23. They May Shift Personalities

They may act as a chameleon and change their personality depending on the people they are surrounded with. They can suddenly change their thoughts, beliefs, and values, depending on the company. For example, they do not eat meat, but suddenly in someone else’s company, they love to eat barbeque.

They probably want to please other people, but you can easily notice that they are not honest and play games.

24. They Abuse Substances

Toxic people usually have toxic and negative personalities and feelings, so they might try to cope with this by abusing substances and having bad habits such as gambling or gossiping, eating or drinking too much, and they want you to involve others in their habits and bring them down.

25. They Bring You Down When You Are Happy

When they see that you are happy, they will try to make you feel unhappy. They can easily make you feel unhappy by giving negative compliments, belittling your successes, and concentrating and speaking only about their own. They are emotional vampires who want to criticize you constantly, so stay away from people who can’t rejoice in your accomplishment and are envious of your success.

7 Signs Of A Toxic Woman

You may feel stuck in your relationship, and it feels like a one-way street and a draining experience. In some cases, the fault may be in your partner, and you should look for some signs and anomalies that may seem to be harmless but can indicate that you are dealing with a toxic girlfriend.

So, the first step is identifying these signs of toxic people, and you can keep an eye on the following ones in case you feel that you are feeling with a toxic person: 

1. She Drains You Out 

If you feel like you constantly give and she constantly takes, you can ask yourself does my girlfriend or wife reciprocate your efforts. This is one of the first signs your relationship goes in the wrong direction and signs that someone is toxic. 

She obviously has some high expectations from you, but she doesn’t meet the standards she has set for you. This can make you feel unpleasant and your relationship unstable.

2. She Never Admits Her Mistakes

She always finds a way to justify her actions and never says “I am sorry “for her wrong actions.

You can simply not make her apologize for the mistakes made. This is the real sign of a toxic relationship. Anyway, you shouldn’t give up, and if you think that you are right, you should stand your ground and try one another exhaustive fight to give another chance to your relationship and keep it alive.

3. She Controls Every Aspect Of Your Life

You are constantly controlled by your girlfriend or partner about the clothes you wear, the people you are friends with, and sometimes even the career you pursue in your life. Everything must be approved by her. So, if you are in a situation where you must always get approval from your girlfriend for the actions you take, you are undoubtedly in a toxic relationship. 

4. She Is Not Completely Transparent

Being honest is one of the most important aspects of a healthy relationship. But your toxic girlfriend will use these toxic lies that will soon erase your confidence. Sometimes you can not fix something that is so much broken, although she finds excuses and says that she lied because she did not want to fight. You should always know when something is enough and not let yourself be hurt in the future. Maybe the worst lie is cheating, and this is one of the best signs you are in a toxic relationship.

5. She Is Constantly Criticizing You

Constructive criticism is regarded as healthy, but if you have a constant fault, sometimes found with no grounds, it is probably designed to turn you down and make you feel bad about yourself.

You should always notice what your girlfriend thinks about the negative sides of your personality. If you see that she is persistent in criticizing your weaknesses and all this is spiced with bitterness and scorn, there is no mistake that you are dealing with a toxic person.

6. Your Life Is Just About Your Relationship

Toxic girlfriends can be really clingy and demand the constant attention of their partners. So, your toxic girlfriend will act manipulatively. She will blackmail you and use all kinds of coaxing and fights to stop you from doing things you like and be at every step you take. If you want to go out with friends, she will sulk endlessly. If you spend time with family, prepare for endless tears and emotional blackmail.

Toxic women will do everything to control your life, so you should start noticing how much autonomy and space you have in your relationship.

7. She Doesn’t Appreciate You

A healthy relationship involves two partners who constantly cherish and appreciate each other, are comfortable with each other, and take little everyday things for granted. But, if your girlfriend feels very special and whatever you make is never pleased and not convinced that you offer her the treatment she needs.

One research has found that one of the leading causes of divorce is the unappreciation of unmet emotional needs. (1)  

If you feel that your girlfriend doesn’t appreciate you, you will start to feel aversion and resentment toward her.

A Dog Is Your Heart’s Best Friend, Suggests Harvard

By
Elizabeth Williams

We all know the famous ‘A dog is man’s best friend.’ Now, several studies show that dogs can also be the heart’s best friend. Cardiovascular disease is the leading cause of death in the United States, and the main culprits behind it, obesity and inactivity, are prevalent among Americans.

But, as Daniel DeNoon, Executive Editor of Harvard Heart Letter, writes, the new findings will put some extra spring in your steps when you’re walking your dog, as having a canine companion can help lower the risk of heart disease.

The report that comes from the American Heart Association shows that dog owners have lower blood pressure, a better cholesterol profile, are less vulnerable to the physical effects of stress, are more active, and are more likely to survive a heart attack.

As the report states, owning a pet, particularly dogs, may be “reasonable for reduction in cardiovascular disease risk.”

However, DeNoon points out to the fact that simply owning a dog may not be enough, citing a 2008 study which has found that people who owned dogs but didn’t walk them, were actually more likely to be obese than those who didn’t own a dog.

However, the positive effects of owning a dog don’t come only from walking it. He cites another study which has shown that owning a pet (dog or cat) had a significantly positive impact on the owners’ blood pressure when under stress.

So, should you get yourself a dog for your heart?

The American Heart Association says no. Adopting, rescuing, or purchasing a pet should not be done “to achieve a reduction in cardiovascular risk.” If you want to take a pet for the love and bonding, go ahead, but otherwise, there’s no point.

It’s because getting a dog is no substitute for taking care of your health by exercising regularly, getting appropriate medical care, and eating heart-healthy food. Owning a dog is just a plus that can encourage you to be more active and help you calm down.

Dr. Lee, a cardiologist and a professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School, notes: “Loneliness can’t be a good thing, either from a cardiovascular or a psychological perspective. I am not going to be prescribing dogs for patients with heart disease, but I certainly won’t discourage them—even if they consider themselves fairly limited by their medical problems.”

So, if you’ve always wanted a dog but always had some excuse to dissuade yourself from getting one, here’s a good reason that could persuade you. But please, do it out of love and take proper care of your pet.

 

Source: Harvard Health Publishing

To My Friends Who Still Love Me Even If We Don’t Talk Every Day

By
Elizabeth Williams

To all my friends with whom I know I share a special bond that time and space can’t weaken or break – thank you for being a part of my life.

Because I know that you think about me as much as I think about you, no matter how far we are or how long we haven’t heard from each other – thank you for that special connection.

Because no matter how many times I was in the shittiest mood, you were there to cheer me up, even if it wasn’t your day – thank you for your selflessness.

Because whatever I wanted to do, you encouraged me, even if it was the silliest thing imaginable – thank you for your endless support.

Because you never wanted me to change and accepted me as I am, just as I accept you for every perfections and flaws – thank you for being true and accepting.

Because you never let the negative moments ruin our friendship and we always fought together to make things right again – thank you for your persistence.

Because you were never there only when the weather was fair, and stayed next to me through all of my storms – thank you for the beautiful journey.

Because you trusted me even when I didn’t have a way to explain why you should – thank you for understanding me.

Because every time I thought of you, you would call and say hello – thank you for that crazy telepathy.

Because I was never perfect, and you always knew how to forgive me and help me grow – thank you for being gentle with me.

Because whenever I wanted to give up, you never allowed me to and made me realize that I could do it – thank you for the strength you gave me.

You made me grow and become someone better, and we grew together but never grew out of each other.

And I know that no matter how far we might be from one another, no matter how much time we don’t hear from each other – we will always pick up from where we left off with the same love and intensity.

Thank you for being you.

This Is How Every Zodiac Sign Manages Their Anger

By
Mary Wright

We’ve all been guilty of losing our temper from time to time. However, the way we choose to deal with our anger say a lot about us as individuals.

This is also true about Zodiac signs. Each sign has a specific way of dealing with their anger. Find in the text below how every sign expresses and manages their anger.

ARIES

Aries is a fire sign and that says it all. They can erupt like a volcano and set you ablaze if you anger them. Often, others feel like they have to be really careful around an Aries so as not to cross them because no one wants to be around when an Aries loses its temper. Aries can easily ‘burn’ others with their words only. With an Aries, there is no middle ground. Their emotions are always high, and they usually get the best of them.

TAURUS

Even though it is not easy for Taurus to get mad, when they get mad they will give you the silent treatment and distance themselves from you. They don’t show their emotions, and when someone hurts them they won’t show their anger, but they will hold the grudge inside them. If you want to know whether they are angry or not, you have to ask them because they have a lot of pride and don’t open up easily to others.

GEMINI

Geminis are not known for their bad temper. However, if you manage to anger them – they will definitely let you know. A Gemini will most likely be passive-aggressive with you if they are mad at you. And, you will have to approach them first if you want a reconciliation because Gemini tends to just write off those that wronged them.

CANCER

Being a water sign, a Cancer is extremely caring and sensitive. These qualities of their personality make them easily wounded and hurt. When a Cancer is angry, they will hide inside their shell and hide their feelings of anger and hurt. So, if you want to reconcile with them you have to really chase them only to give you a response.

LEO

As a fire sign, Leo’s got quite the hot temper. But, they forget all about their anger just as fast as they got angry over it because they have an attention span of a kid. They can be mad one minute about something you did and then the next minute you can see them admiring and chasing after a beautiful butterfly they noticed behind you. Leo is able to manage their anger well and not allow it to damage their zest for life.   

VIRGO

Virgo is one of the calmest signs of the Zodiac, so they don’t anger easily. They are very logical and analytical when it comes to approaching their emotions and they don’t allow their emotions to get the best of them. Moreover, a Virgo will not show their emotions and they hide their feelings because they don’t want to be perceived as a burden to others.

LIBRA

Libra is known to be the peacekeeper of all Zodiac. So, they will try to keep their calm and won’t let the negative emotions to overrule them. They would rather just distance themselves from the subject of their anger, but this leads to bottled up feelings. They hold grudges, so don’t be surprised when they use all your past mistakes against you in an argument.  

SCORPIO

Scorpio can get hot-headed very quickly and easily, but instead of showing their anger, they will start plotting a revenge in their head because no one can toy with a Scorpio’s heart and get out of it alive. If you want to make amends with a Scorpio, you have to wait for them to cool off before you try to approach them again.

SAGITTARIUS

Being a fire sign, a Sagittarius will definitely put you in your place if you anger them in some way. They are not capable of controlling their emotions well, so they tend to express them as strongly and as much as possible. When they are mad they are likely to explode and bowl over everyone who gets in their way.

CAPRICORN

Capricorn is an Earth sign and they are not prone to become angered easily. But, they tent to hide and bottle up their feelings which can lead to an explosion later on. They get frustrated easily over small things, but they don’t show their frustration because they don’t want to be perceived as being childish.

AQUARIUS

Aquarius don’t mind debating, but they hate conflicts especially when they have to argue passionately about something. They can’t stand being around someone who is mad at them, so they would rather just walk away. They like to keep their composition intact, so they will avoid rather than dealing with the problem and their anger.

PISCES

Emotions run deep in this water sign. So, their anger can really get them off balance and even hurt them, but they won’t show it under any circumstances. They will instead deal with their anger in the comfort of their home, and will only talk to you when they are feeling calmed down a little. They also hold grudges, but if you are someone who is special to them, they will try to get over it and work things out.

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How To Use Your Empathy To Stop Absorbing Negative Energy And Start Healing It

By
Elizabeth Williams

Empathy is a gift, and a curse only by choice. Giving in to the negative emotions that are vibrating is not something we cannot fight as empaths. Our gift is one that enables us to become more powerful than you can imagine, and as such, it can be used to heal and transform the negative energy within and around us.

Empathy means sensing the energy that is vibrating from the people around you and recognizing it. It is a gift that allows the empath to truly know the meaning of that energy and truly see beneath its surface.

It is your choice as an empath whether you like to explore this energy by becoming engulfed in it or to overpower its frequency and transmute it into a vibration of light and positivity.

Many empaths simply feel weakened by staying too long in the negative vibrations, because they are usually more prevalent and most often stronger than the positive vibrations. And through this experience, they are forced to avoid crowds where (more often than not) there will be people who bring the stench of negativity.

However, the knowledge that empathy can bring power more than it can take your power away is the turning point for many empaths who are struggling to hide from people’s negativity.

Being more aware of the vibration of each emotion, as an empath, you can start cultivating and nurturing your own vibration until it becomes strong enough.

Being an empath, you will always be the one who senses the vibrations of others, but going out in the world with a shield of positivity and self-confidence will help you transmute those vibrations into positive ones and help the people around you heal.

Really, the strength of being an empath is that of being a healer. We are healers, and you should never forget that.

We have the power to transmute the vibrations because we have the power to sense them and recognize their nature. It’s true that it can often be very difficult to cope with the negativity, but that’s because we stop trusting our positivity when we encounter the negative.

Start believing more in yourself and know that your empathy comes from an innate state of goodness. Use this goodness inside you to become a beacon of positivity and make the low vibrations fall under the influence of your positive nature.

You should never think that the negative vibrations are stronger than you because the very fact you can sense them makes you more powerful than those who are not always aware that they are engulfed by them.

So, trust yourself more and when you recognize negativity, don’t be afraid of it. You have that innate strength that can help you transmute and heal the negativity that is leaving a stain on humanity.

You are a healer. You are an empath. Never forget that.

 

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Dog Skіn Allеrgіеѕ and Tоxіnѕ

By
Elizabeth Williams

Mаnу dоgѕ nоwаdауѕ, especially рuрріеѕ, аrе bесоmіng more and more ѕеnѕіtіvе tо thеіr ѕurrоundіng environment and соmіng dоwn with severe dog skin allergies. Allеrgіеѕ аrе one of the most соmmоn соmрlаіntѕ among dоg owners. Hоnеѕtlу, nоt too mаnу puppies hаvе аllеrgіеѕ thеіr fіrѕt year, but many аrе аlrеаdу bесоmіng ѕеnѕіtіzеd tо things іn thеіr еnvіrоnmеnt. If уоur рuрру аlrеаdу ѕhоwѕ signs of аllеrgіеѕ and some dо, don’t hesitate tо gеt it trеаtеd. You mау hеаd off a lіfеtіmе оf trоublе if уоu gеt a handle on it еаrlу. Allergies gеt wоrѕе еvеrу уеаr іf lеft untrеаtеd.

Allergies uѕuаllу mаtеrіаlіzе іn the fоrm of small skin еruрtіоnѕ, rashes, hair loss, іtсhіng, moist оr ооzіng dеrmаtіtіѕ, and ear infections. Dоgѕ wіll оvеr wash, сhеw, scratch, аnd rub tо аllеvіаtе thе sensations which іn turn mаkеѕ them wоrѕе. If you ѕее аnу ѕуmрtоmѕ suggesting allergies іn уоur dоgѕ, уоu should gеt уоur dog сhесkеd out rіght аwау. Some symptoms оf dоg allergies аrе: Rashes throughout thе ѕkіn, frеquеnt іtсhіng, Common еаr іnfесtіоnѕ, dog scratching but no fleas, severe hair lоѕѕ, еtс

Allеrgіеѕ fоrm іn thе sense thаt уоur dоg mау соmе into contact with ѕоmеоnе one time, and nоt have аnу rеасtіоn that оnе tіmе. Thе next time уоur dоg comes into соntасt with thе same thing hе mау hаvе a аllеrgіс rеасtіоn, bесоmіng mоrе аnd mоrе severe еасh tіmе your dоg comes into соntасt with thе object or ѕubѕtаnсе. Allеrgіеѕ can come frоm thе most random things аt tіmеѕ, аnd уоu саn never аntісіраtе whеn іt wіll hарреn оr wіth what.

A dоg whоѕе dіеt соntаіnѕ a lоt оf mеаt саn nаturаllу соnѕumе tоxіс mаtеrіаl; іf thіѕ іѕ not rеgulаtеd further соmрlісаtіоnѕ саn manifest itself іn thе ѕhаре оf hеаrt аnd lung dіѕеаѕе. Thеrеfоrе thіѕ соnfіrmѕ a сеrtаіn аmоunt of аll nаturаl dоg fооd helps kеер thе metabolic ѕуѕtеm wоrkіng well. Thе соmmоn allergies faced bу dоgѕ аrе related to ѕkіn and ear соndіtіоnѕ.

If untreated thеѕе соndіtіоnѕ саn bесоmе ѕеvеrе аnd cause thе dоg’ѕ grеаt discomfort, itchy spots may арреаr оn thе ѕkіn thrоugh rереаtеd ѕсrаtсhіng, worst саѕе ѕсеnаrіоѕ аn element оf self-mutilation саn occur. If аllеrgіеѕ bесоmе арраrеnt a ѕуѕtеmаtіс approach muѕt bе аdорtеd tо рrоvіdе a сurе whісh саn be as simple аѕ rеmоvіng the оffеndіng рrоduсt.  

Dоgѕ gеnеrаllу become close family mеmbеrѕ, and we do nееd tо monitor their hеаlth conditions for сhаngеѕ gооd оr bаd, the dоg’ѕ dіеt can bе thе source оf mаnу рrоblеmѕ. Thеrе are mаnу conditions thаt are caused duе to іrrеgulаr оr poor dіеtѕ ѕuсh аѕ sensitivity and intestine рrоblеmѕ. A naturally bаlаnсеd dіеt іѕ раrаmоunt fоr thе dоg’ѕ hеаlth, аnd thіѕ wіll help keep роtеntіаl allergies аt bay.

A аddіtіоnаl vіtаmіn E ѕuррlеmеntѕ hеlр keep ѕkіn in gооd соndіtіоn. This is ѕіmіlаr to supplements wе may tаkе оurѕеlvеѕ. Other anti-itch medicine for dogs that are hеlрful includes Dеtоxареt whісh аѕѕіѕtѕ in rеmоvіng toxins from the body.

Fіnаllу, аllеrgіеѕ іn dоgѕ can bе serious problems if nоt trеаtеd but cures are fairly ѕtrаіghtfоrwаrd. Tо аvоіd аllеrgіеѕ аnd dіѕеаѕе, one ѕhоuld trу to fееd уоur реtѕ wіth nаturаl bаlаnсе dоg fооd аnd fооd аllеrgіеѕ wіll nоt bе a рrоblеm.

5 Rare Personality Types – Find If You Are One Of Them

By
Mary Wright

Every person is different with a unique personality. And even though there are no two personalities that are the entirely the same, some of them are more common than others.

While you can almost immediately tell whether someone is an extrovert or an introvert, some personality types are so rare that you can’t easily find them among people.

Below is a list of 5 such rare personalities. Find if you are among the rarest people who possess them:

1. LIFE LEARNERS

While it is true that we never stop learning until we die, not many of us can say they learn with the same passion and vigor as they did while they were growing up. Most of us stop learning willingly when we get in our 30s because we feel that we are established enough. It is true, we have our careers, families, and enough knowledge to know how to handle our day-to-day challenges.

However, life learners are people who never stop learning. They learn passionately, with a great amount of energy and enthusiasm. They are curious about the world around them, keeping themselves informed about different topics. Because of this, many call them ‘geeks.’  These masters never lost their childlike curious nature and excitement about learning new things.

The life learners are rare for many reasons. One is that they are not afraid to make a mistake. They are not afraid of failure or making a wrong decision. They can pick themselves up quickly, learning valuable lessons from every mistake they make. The second reason they are rare is that they don’t fear the unknown. They prefer more the excitement from experiencing the unknown than the stability a (mediocre) life offers.

2. BALANCED AND HARMONIZED PEOPLE

A balanced or harmonized person is not someone who is in a Zen state, but a person who always falls in the middle when it comes to personality tests. This means that they are in the middle of both extremes, they have the qualities of both, but they are balanced. For instance, if they take a test to find whether they are an introvert or an extrovert – they would be somewhere in the middle because they have the characteristics of both introverts and extroverts.

This personality type is rare because these people are in the middle in terms of ‘feeling’ and ‘thinking’. Many people are more one than the other. For instance, when faced with making an important decision, those people who are more ‘feeling’ than ‘thinking’ will decide to follow their gut feeling. Contrary, people who are more ‘thinking’ than ‘feeling’ will make a logical decision. Balanced and harmonized people are able to do both things because they don’t have a dominant side.

3. CONSISTENT PEOPLE

Consistency in people is a rare quality nowadays. Moreover, those people who are consistent are considered to be among the rarest personality types. Because the truth is, we are all sometimes ego-driven and prone to change.

Consistent people are a type of their own because they can maintain their personality intact. For example, if the person is generous they will stay generous their whole life no matter what happens to them. Their personality is not affected by the change of circumstances or social norms.

4. FOCUSED PEOPLE

The majority of people cannot stay focused or concentrated for longer periods of time. An average person’s brain will usually begin to tune out after 60 minutes of collecting new information.

Focused people, however, can stay fully concentrated for even more than 8 hours reading or focusing on completing a single task. For example, when reading, they are not just reading for the pleasure of it, but they are actively engaged in processing the text.  

5. ORDINARY PEOPLE

Ordinary here doesn’t mean that the person is ordinary, but they have a laid-back view of life and are okay with everything that happens to them. This quality is rare because not everyone can be happy to be living an ‘ordinary’ life. Most of us want to be special and recognized.

While many reading this article will start looking for specific things that make them rare, ordinary people don’t care about that. They don’t care about being recognized or being considered special. They are truly content with their lives and this is what makes them rare. Many people nowadays are always looking for ways to change their lives because somehow, they are not entirely satisfied.

Ordinary people are completely satisfied with the way their life is – this is what makes them extraordinary.

11 Habits Of Confident People That Make Them Highly Lovable

By
Mary Wright

Confidence is the belief in one’s ability to succeed in any area of their life. However, finding a healthy balance can be tricky. If you have too much confidence, you might come off as arrogant, but if you have too little, it can be a barrier for you to take risks and seize opportunities.

I am sure you have met someone that captivated you with their presence. Be it the way they talked, walked, their manners… you name it. Some people just radiate and are like walking magnets attracting people wherever they go.

You can call this charisma, charm, magnetism, allure, confidence, whatever you like – the fact is some people have this “IT” factor that others admire.  

Below are 11 habits that almost all confident and charismatic people possess.

1. They have the right body language.

Highly confident people cannot hide their confidence. It is shown in the way they carry themselves. However, that doesn’t mean that they always feel confident, but they have the right body language and posture and they know how to appear confident even when they are not feeling that way.

2. They are active listeners.

According to one study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, people who show interest and ask questions, make their partner feel more secure and more likely to open up. Plus, because people love talking about themselves, the person who actively listens to them will be instantly perceived as more likable.

3. They are curious.

Just as they are curious about the world around them, they are curious about other people’s lives too. They want to know their story and what made them be the person they are today. This is a very attractive quality in a person and taking interest in someone’s story makes a person look more appealing.

4. They start the day with a positive mindset.  

Confident people know that starting the day with positive thoughts will make their lives more enjoyable and easier. All further conversations and interactions with others will be more positive and filled with enthusiasm. This makes others be more sincere and respectful themselves. And, we can agree that everyone loves a positive person.

5. They don’t have a need to be right.

The brain’s primitive response of “fight or flight” is activated based on their interest in the topic of the conversation, according to a study from Emory University. Or, in other words, we have an ingrained need in our brain to be right all the time, especially when it involves our passions as well. Confident people, however, are able to suppress these primitive emotions and they can hold a proper conversation with someone even if their views are opposing.

6. They smile a lot.

It is a fact that a smile can do a lot about how a person is perceived by others. Sometimes it only takes a slight smile for people to lower their guards and hear what you have to say. Plus, happier people are perceived as more confident and are more likable to others.

7. They share the spotlight.

Confident people don’t care about being at the center of attention. They are also one of the most selfless people and they try to praise and lift the spirits of others worthy individuals. This generous quality makes them liked by everyone.

8. They show their vulnerable side.

Vulnerability is no longer considered a weakness. In fact, not everyone is able to show their vulnerability – it takes a strong person to be vulnerable. Plus, it is a human trait that is both compelling and charming. It also sends a powerful message that we are not perfect and that we needn’t try to be.

9. They compete with themselves.

Confident people always set new challenges for themselves and work hard to accomplish them. They can do that because of their many life experiences and learning. Contrary, people who are insecure always compare themselves with others. People love to be around a confident person who doesn’t challenge others but inspires them with their enthusiasm and hard work to be more enthusiastic and risk-takers themselves.  

10. They find happiness within themselves.

Only insecure people need a constant praise and validation from others to feel good about themselves. And, if they don’t get the attention they need they feel even more insecure. Confident people, on the other hand, find their happiness and joy within them. They are perfectly happy on their own because they do only the things they love without caring about what others think of them.

11. They have a powerful message.

Being able to inspire someone with your story is a marvelous thing. People who are confident and loved by others almost all have a powerful message that they share with the world about what caused them to be the way they are today. So, don’t be ashamed to tell your story and inspire someone with it!

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