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This Is Why Men Who Marry Nurses End Up The Happiest

By
Mary Wright

When you decide to marry a nurse, you will be marrying a woman who is a rare combination of both tough and loving.

Nurses are women who understand and value the important things in life.

They are faced with life-or-death situations every day. They see every difficult situation that people go through. They see married couples who lost their child. They see women who are scared because their pregnancy is at risk. They see sick people struggling and their families praying for their health.

So, nurses know that nothing matters as long as you are healthy.

Nurses are women who are both tough and sensitive.

They see people when they are at their lowest point in life. They see people who are dying. They see people who are in pain. And, it takes a kind-hearted person to listen to their commands and complaints without judging and scorning, but with love and care.

Nurses understand that sick people can be cranky because they are scared for their health. However, nurses are always kind and comforting. They are always willing to listen to the complaints of the patients and they try their best to support them.   

Nurses are patient and respectful women.

They interact with people with different characters daily. They learned to be patient and respectful to everyone. Because when they take care of the sick people, they have to hear their stories and complaints to understand what they go through and offer them the support and care they need.

This is an excellent quality in a woman because in a marriage there would be all kinds of difficult situations, and a nurse can offer love and support to keep the family together.

Nurses are very persistent in everything they do.

They deal with every type of patients. And sometimes, patients can be so stubborn that they refuse to get up from their bed or take their medicine. And nurses are those that do not take “no” for an answer. They have to convince them why it is important to take the medicine and be persistent until they do it.

This has taught them how to handle their husband and their children when they are being stubborn and difficult.

Nurses are brave, confident, knowledgeable, and they offer great advice.

Her confidence and bravery come from her years of experience in dealing with difficult situations. She can stay calm during every situation, and before she makes a decision she evaluates all the aspects of the situation.

When it comes to her family if something bad happens she won’t panic. Instead, she will solve the situation calmly while taking care of her husband and her children. They also care about their family’s health and they teach their kids proper hygiene, proper nutrition, and maintaining good posture.

Nurses are indeed amazing people that can enrich your life and make it better.

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10 Most Bizarre Things Which Were Considered Normal In The Past

By
Elizabeth Williams

The past is riddled with bizarre things that defined our progress of understanding (and lack thereof) and the horrifying aspects of our human nature. It is true that we have come to an age of better understanding and reason, but this was not always the case.

Here are 10 extremely bizarre things which were considered normal in the recent past.

1. Doctors prescribing ‘healthy’ cigarette brands

1930s-1950s. Although there were no actual doctors involved, tobacco brands hired models dressed as “throat doctors” to explain why cigarettes were not the cause of respiratory problems and what brand of cigarettes is the ‘healthiest.’

It was a sinister trick which involved “nationwide surveys” which showed how many doctors smoked a certain brand of cigarettes, and doctors’ advice for people to give their throat “a vacation” by smoking “a fresh cigarette.”

2. Cocaine for a toothache, fatigue, and much more

It may be illegal today, but in the 1880s, cocaine was the rage in the medical world. In fact, by 1885, a record of 183,740 pounds of cocaine was produced for various sorts of medicine.

The medications ranged from anesthetics for eye surgery to Coca Wine “for fatigue of mind and body;” cocaine toothache drops; cocaine, chlorate of potash and borax “tabloids” for respiratory problems, and others.

3. Heroin for coughs

Just like cocaine, heroin received a pharmaceutical recognition as an “effective” cough syrup which reportedly “didn’t cause addiction.” Soon, pharmaceutical companies like Bayer started selling this syrup to unsuspecting customers.

Ascatco sold a syrup for “asthma, bronchitis, hay fever, rose fever, and other diseases of the respiratory organs,” which contained opium, arsenious acid, and alcohol. And mind you, both the heroin and the cocaine products were given to children as well.

4. Radioactive toys

If people wanted their children to become scientists, granted they lived long enough to become scientists after such radiation, they could buy them a radioactive “Atomic Energy Lab” toy. Luckily, the toy was only available for a year (1950-1951), but here’s what it contained:

The lucky children scientists would receive a set containing four types of uranium ore, a beta-alpha source (Pb-210), a pure beta source (Ru-106?), a gamma source (Zn-65), a spinthariscope, a cloud chamber with its own short-lived alpha source (Po-210), an electroscope, a Geiger counter, a manual, a comic book (Dagwood Splits the Atom) and a government manual “Prospecting for Uranium.”

5. Explosive toys

The radioactive set was quickly replaced with the trusty Gilbert Chemistry Set, which contained highly volatile substances like potassium permanganate and ammonium nitrate, used to make home-made bombs.

If radiation is too much for a young scientist, a little KABOOM won’t harm them in the long run, right? It’s amazing if these kids survived these crazy-scientist toys.

6. Mailing children

If your child gets too naughty from playing with their radioactive (or explosive) toys, you can send them to their grandmother through the mail. At least this is what Americans did in the early 20th century when the Post Office’s Parcel Post launched in 1913.

It was cheaper to ship your child via mail than to buy them a train ticket, so the parents would send them to their grandmothers for only 15 cents. This fad lasted for about 6 months when the postmaster decided that no children would be sent anymore.

7. Baby cages

Instead of storing birds on the window, some parents had the idea to store babies hanging from the window in cages. So, the little birdie would cry their little song if hungry while hanging a few stories above the ground.

Putting the baby in the window-hanging cage was justified with the child’s need for fresh air and sunshine. As well as some healthy fumes from the traffic.

8. Ornamental hermits

People’s fascination for the bizarre has made them do some very bizarre things themselves. While we are accustomed to some garden gnomes nowadays, the rich in the past liked to have their own garden hermit – a person they paid to dress like a druid and live in the garden of the land-owner.

They were the main show of the garden, living in hermitages, grottoes, follies, or rockeries, and they would read poetry and entertain the guests. The land-owners would sometimes even go to such extent as not to allow them to clip their nails and even not wear shoes.

9. Human zoos

Westerners had some very strange ways of ‘getting to know cultures’ in the 1900s. Human zoos were the main attraction for many, and in these zoos, you could see indigenous people from all around the world put in their ‘natural habitats.’

The zoos contained Native Americans, Africans, Asians, and even Eskimos, who were forced to live behind fences in makeshift environments that resembled their indigenous cultures.

10. Mental asylum zoos

And if your craving for the bizarre hasn’t been satisfied enough, you could go for a mental asylum tour and view the ‘incurable’ exhibits that were chained up to the walls or locked away in their chambers.

Mental asylum tourism brought in a large part of the revenue for the hospital, and the tourists could see all sorts of disturbing scenes just for the thrill.

This Is Why You Should NEVER Lie To A Smart Woman

By
Mary Wright

Women know everything. They have an intuition so strong that they can detect every lie. Men don’t always understand how the women’s intuition functions, so, we advise all men that they should never lie to their women.

Read this short and funny story that proves why you cannot lie to a woman ever. The man in the story learned this truth the hard way.

A husband told his wife one day that he has to go on a fishing trip in China for a week with his boss if she wants to finally get the promotion he hoped for. So, he asked his wife to pack him enough clothes for a week along with his fishing box. And, he asked her to pack his new blue silk pajamas as well.

His wife immediately sensed that something was wrong, but she decided not to say anything to her husband. She did what he told her to, and waited for him to return from the fishing trip.

Her husband returned home after a week and said that even though he was exhausted, the fishing trip was a success and he had a great time.

The wife started asking him details about his trip. He said that they caught lots of fish: Bluegill, Salmon, and some Swordfish. Then, he turned to his wife and asked her why she didn’t pack his blue silk pajamas.

His wife then replied: “I did. They are in your fishing box.”

Harvard Researchers Suggest That This The Best Way To Master Small Talk

By
Elizabeth Williams

Small talk can be a real challenge – especially for introverts. Many people consider it an utter nightmare when they reach a point where they don’t know what to continue speaking and the awkward silence starts creeping.

While it’s not always the most preferred activity for people who like some deeper topics, these topics can’t just come out of nowhere, and you do need small talk to introduce yourself and get to know the other person better.

You simply can’t start talking about the fate of humanity or the burdens of life if you haven’t learned a bit more about the other person, can you? And for that, you need small talk.

So, researchers from the Harvard Business School decided to analyze what makes a small talk successful by analyzing 300 conversations (online and face-to-face) between people who were getting to know each other.

The research, divided into two studies, focused on what makes a person likable in small talk. What they found was that the participants who asked more questions, especially follow-up questions, were perceived as more likable by the people they communicated with.

The study concluded that when people ask more questions, they are seen as “higher in responsiveness, an interpersonal construct that captures listening, understanding, validation, and care,” adding special emphasis on follow-up questions.

Follow-up questions show genuine interest in what the other person is speaking, and the focus shifts from you to the person you are trying to get to know better.

Instead of the ‘me, myself, and I’ mistake that many people make during small talk, asking questions allows for a better communication where if both participants ask just the right amount of questions, there is healthy communication and a better mutual impression.

The authors confirm that follow-up questions are crucial to creating a good impression about yourself in the eyes of the other person. By analyzing speed-dating face-to-face conversations, they discovered that this element increased the likeliness of the success of speed dates that led to a second date.

Debra Fine, a nationally recognized communication expert and author of The Fine Art of Small Talk, explains the importance of follow-up questions opposed to asking different questions that jump from topic to topic as a crucial element to a good conversation.

As she tells the HuffPost, follow-up questions eliminate the awkward jumping from one question to another unrelated question which may seem more like an interrogation than a dialogue.

Which is more, this kind of questions creates a greater depth to the conversation and make it more real. She also suggests some questions that can help you to achieve a better small talk with acquaintances and strangers.

1. “What do you do for fun?” or “What keeps you busy outside for work or school?”

Fine says that she uses these questions in business interactions, as they foster a business friendship. “You learn something about the person beyond what they do for work,” she explains.

2. “Where are you from?”

Even if that person is from where you are, she assures that this question works like a charm. Especially because you have so many options for follow-up questions, such as “Have you ever considered living in another place?” or “What do you like best about living here?”

If they are from somewhere else, you can ask them what they miss most about their home, she adds.

3. “How’s work/family or that one hobby I know you’re interested in?”

If you have already met someone, you should prepare yourself by thinking what you already know about that person. Fine’s advice is that you should always think about what to talk about before you start the conversation. “The worst time to think of something to talk about is when there is nothing to talk about.”

So, don’t be afraid to ask questions and make sure you show some interest and ask more about what they are talking about. This advice is extremely beneficial to those who can’t find their way around small talk, but it’s also very useful even for those who are good at communicating. We all tend to lose our way sometimes, won’t you agree?

 

Source: HuffPost

13-Year-Old Boy Builds A $1500 House – It Has Everything In It And One Detail Will Blow Your Mind

By
Mary Wright

Luke Till, a 13-year-old boy, built a $1500 house in his parents’ backyard because he wanted to have a private little space only for himself. 

Luke’s tiny house has a living room, kitchen, and a bedroom. He started building it when he was 12 years old. He writes his homework there and invites friends over for pancakes that he makes in his little kitchen.

As the boy describes it, it is 10 feet long, 100 feet wide, the tallest point of the house is 10 feet tall, the lowest point is 8 feet tall, with a total of 89 square feet.

He says that the main reason he wanted to build a tiny house was that he was getting bored during the summer and he wanted to do something. Meanwhile, he got fascinated watching tiny houses, so he decided that if he worked towards it, and made enough money from cutting lawns, that he could build a tiny house for himself.

He began learning how to do that. He learned a lot about wiring, carpeting, and simple framing techniques. He didn’t have trouble using tools because his dad taught him how to use them from a very young age. And his father’s friend who is electrician taught him how to wire the house.

The total cost of his house is $1500. Most of the money he paid himself, and the rest was donated from people through a GoFundMe page and with a help of his parents.

Luke says he doesn’t live full-time in the house, but he does spend a couple of nights every other week sleeping in it. He calls it his ‘homework center’ because that’s where he does his homework.

He is thankful for having a great family that supported him through the process. He especially thanks his dad who helped him in building the house even though he had a lot of things to do himself. But, the time they spent together while building it brought them closer.

He says he was in the papers, and also he’s gotten lots of emails from TV producers. He plans to hold a tiny open house and invite everyone who donated money and helped him to achieve his dream.

Go watch the tour of his house in the video below. 

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200-Year-Old Mummified Buddhist Monk Reportedly “Still Alive And Meditating”

By
Elizabeth Williams

A withered monk sitting in the lotus meditative position was found in the Songinokhairkhan province of Mongolia in January 2016, who according to Dalai Lama’s physician and well-known Buddhist monk Dr. Barry Kerzin was still alive when he was uncovered.

Dr. Kerzin explained that the monk was in an intensely deep spiritual meditative state known as ‘tukdam,’ through which the meditators can achieve the Buddha state, and the community where he was found claimed that he was still alive and just a step before becoming a Buddha until he was disturbed by a thief.

If they succeed in remaining in this state for longer than three weeks, their bodies shrink and, as Dr. Kerzin explains, “all that remains from the person is his hair, nails, and clothes.”

Once the meditator achieves the Buddha state, Dr. Kerzin explains that the people who live next to the monk can see a rainbow in the sky for several days.

However, in the case of the meditating monk who was found, his meditation had been disturbed by someone who snatched his body and stored him in his basement to sell him on the black market.

So, was the monk really alive for all those years? It sounds impossible, because, as the National Centre of Forensic Expertise at Ulaanbaatar (Mongolia’s capital) explains, it is impossible.

After completing the forensic examinations on the monk, the Centre has found that the monk was well dead for quite a long time. They found that he died at around the age of 70 and that he had been dead for 130 years.

He was identified as Tsorzh Sanzhzhav, a disciple of Ovgon Geser Lama, who was a highly revered Buddhist teacher in the region. Tsorzh had been buried alongside his master in a grave in a mountain cave and his body was stolen from there.

Geser Lama had also died meditating in the lotus position in 1890 and his body was cleaned and embalmed. The resting place of the mummified meditators has become a shrine since.

As for the meditating monk, Tsorzh’s remains were returned to the grave where they belonged, and measures are being taken to ensure that no further thefts occur.

Source: Express.co.uk

How You Can Become More Present And Peaceful When You Can’t Handle Your Thoughts

By
Elizabeth Williams

Meditation is the ability to maintain your focus and not get carried away in your thoughts. There is no rule that says that you have to sit down and close your eyes to meditate – that’s only the beginner’s phase which allows you to be able to achieve better focus.

However, remaining in the present moment and achieving mental peace is something we need to be able to do throughout the whole day. And this is meditation in movement. The ability to steer clear of intrusive thoughts that ruin our focus and make us feel miserable when we want to remain calm and peaceful.

Many would tell you that you should ‘stop thinking’ while meditating, or that you should ‘stop thinking’ when you feel overwhelmed, and this is something that many try to achieve while going about with their days. However, the more you try to stop thinking, the worse your state of mind becomes.

The moment you focus on your thoughts and try to stop them, they become louder and messier, until you get carried away and scattered throughout the present, future, and past. The technique which we direly need in order to achieve a peace of mind and a mindful state has been long associated with the ‘ability not to think anything at all.’

While the final result is indeed not holding on to your thoughts (and thus not think), eradicating thought from your mind is simply impossible. So, many fail to perceive the steps to becoming more focused and try to jump to the final state of ‘not thinking.’

In short, this effort is a living hell, and you will know it if you have tried it. So, here are some tips that will help you to achieve this state of being in the present moment and being at peace.

Accept that thought is as natural as sight and hearing

You can’t make your mind stop thinking. That’s like making your ears stop listening, or your eyes stop seeing. Your brain is an organ which is designed to generate thoughts, so if you want to stop thinking, you should perhaps remove it.

In other words, you should accept that thoughts are natural and important. Achieving mindfulness doesn’t mean that you should stop thinking – it’s completely different. So, accept your thoughts and appreciate your ability to think.

Embrace your thoughts, don’t judge them

Reaching the state of a quiet mind doesn’t mean that you have stopped thinking. It means you have truly learned to accept and embrace your thoughts as a part of you. Once you have learned to accept them, your mind will ironically quiet down.

What I have used as an analogy which helped me to achieve mental clarity is that of the running river. Imagine that your thoughts are a river in your mind. You can sit next to it and observe its beauty, or you can jump in it and fight the current.

Not being able to accept that your thoughts are a part of you means that you are jumping in the river, fighting the current, and trying to build a dam with your bare hands. Instead, observe your thoughts and allow them to pass by. You can’t fight them, but you can make them go on their way.

Act more than you analyze

Analysis involves a lot of thought, and sometimes we simply don’t need so much of it. Once you have decided to do something, start focusing on the action rather than on analyzing every single bit of what you’re doing.

When you start analyzing, your mind starts jumping from the future to the past and it tends not to stay too much in the present. The thing is, that much analysis doesn’t allow you to tackle the challenges that are tightly related to the present.

So, define a purpose in your actions and act toward that purpose without putting too much thought into things that are out of the present moment. This way, you will steer clear of worries, stress, and unwanted scenarios. The present is what matters, so focus on it.

Focus on what you’re doing

Just like in meditation, everything you do revolves around a primary action. In meditation, that’s the focus on your breath or on saying a mantra. The thing you need to do is to direct your attention to the thing you are doing and get your focus back there whenever it tries to drift away in the river of thoughts.

Achieving focus may prove especially difficult when you are doing things that are habitual and automated, like taking a shower, using the bathroom, eating, walking, you name it. It’s because your mind has accepted these things to follow a pattern that is recurring every time you do them – so it has the space to throw in random thoughts and babble until you have lost the energy to think clearly.

Here are some tips that could help you maintain your focus:

-Remind yourself of what you’re doing. For example, if you’re washing your hands, you could repeat in your head that you’re washing your hands.
-Take your focus out of your head and turn it on your senses. Become aware of how your skin feels, the warmth, the sounds, the smells. Become aware of everything.
-Try to do things differently. Zen masters have a technique of doing things in slow motion. While it sounds easy, you might have a hard time doing it the way you want to do it and you will have to focus on your actions more carefully.

Help your focus return when it drifts away

Your focus will not be able to stay solid for a very long time at the beginning. This is true for any kind of focused-attention activity. So, allow it to drift away and then gently return it to whatever you were focusing on.

If you look at it through the running water analogy, imagine that you took a sip from the river of thoughts and now you are getting back to your peaceful state. Don’t allow yourself to fight the current of thoughts. Instead, observe it and let it pass while you focus on the thing you need to be doing.

You need to accept yourself fully to become bigger than you are. That goes for anything, any emotion, any habit, any thought that seems to be working against you. The truth is, none of these things are working against you – when you accept them and stop fighting the current, you will learn that these things are natural and normal.

Here’s Why The Older You Get The Less You Can Stand Others, And Why It’s Okay

By
Mary Wright

I am sure everyone has gotten to a point when they say they hate everyone, and that people are not good anymore. And, the older we get, the more this statement is true for us.

As we get older, we start choosing our friends more carefully. Sometimes, it can even feel like we don’t have friends anymore, but this is because we are perfectly fine having one or two close friends in addition to our family.

As for myself, while I was growing up I had a lot of friends. And I was quite the social butterfly during my high school years, so making new friends was always easy for me.

I had two best friends that I told everything to. We were always together, and we even planned to marry at the same age, and have kids that would be best friends too. I truly believed this. I was sure that they will always be by my side, and that we will always be best friends because I considered them as part of my family.

How wrong was I… By the time I graduated from college and when I got a job my best friends were nowhere to be found. All the close friends that I had, walked away and focused on their lives and their priorities. Friendship, somehow, wasn’t on their list of priorities. And, it hurts to see your friends, who you thought you couldn’t live without, are now a couple of strangers.

You see, that’s the thing about people – they always leave. But this is natural, and it is okay really.

Because, as you mature and get older, you are less willing to put up with any kind of bulls*it.

When we are young, we are worried about what other people think about us. We desperately try to impress everyone and get everyone to like us. We validate ourselves by our circle of friends, and we live by the premise – the more, the merrier. And, we are unskilled to recognize any toxic behavior coming from our friends because we are young and immature.

As we grow older and mature, we don’t care about those things. For me, I stopped caring what others think of me. I live my life the way I want, and I certainly do not tolerate any kind of shitty behavior from anyone.

If someone is not investing in our friendship, I don’t care. I don’t have time for any nonsense, and if this means losing friends – it is okay. I don’t value myself on the account of how much friends I have anymore.  I would rather spend quality time alone, than with uninspiring people who make me feel alone.

Because, the thing is, as you mature, you stop worrying about losing friends and making new friends.

You don’t have time nor energy to go out and make new friends. You don’t want to be involved in that stuff again because you learned the hard way how cruel people can be.

For me, I am satisfied to have my family and one close friend that I can count on for now. And I am okay with that. I don’t feel like I need new friends in my life.

Don’t get me wrong, I still go out and hang out with people, but I don’t trust them so easily. I am not naïve and vulnerable like I had been in the past. I don’t open up and share my secrets to them. And I know that I haven’t turned bitter – I love people. I am just aware that some things are not meant to be shared with everybody.

Because, as you get older, you decide to always put yourself first.

When you decide to focus on yourself, on your needs and priorities, and when you start to really love yourself – something wonderful will happen. You will notice that things are finally changing for the better in your life, and your life is almost stress-free.

However, when you start pleasing yourself and stop pleasing others, you will notice that you can lose friends along the way. Because, once you decide that you won’t tolerate anyone who treats you like garbage, people who don’t see a benefit from you will inevitably walk away.

And that would be the best thing that could happen to you.

After all, friends will leave you sooner or later. You will never leave yourself. So, make the relationship with yourself the best one.

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A Mom’s Secret To A Successful Marriage Is Going Viral Because It Is So Honest

By
Mary Wright

Nikki Pennington, the blogger of “Grief to Hope” and a mom of three, reveals her secret for a happy and successful marriage on a viral Facebook post.

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Nikki has been in love with her husband Jerred since they were teenagers. And, they are still in love. So, it is only natural for people to keep asking the 32-year-old mom of 3 kids – what’s her secret?

She shared her response in a Facebook post that has gone viral. The mom of Dylan (7), Cohen (5), and Neil (3), begins her post by saying that she always laughs when someone asks her about marriage advice. She laughs because she knows the typical answers to this question are something like “Don’t go to bed angry,” or “Always say I love you before you leave the house.”

She says that in reality – none of it matters. Nikki reveals that she and her husband have broken every marriage advice that they knew.

“You guys, do you know how many times in eleven years Jer has taken residency on the couch prior to us having kids because we were mad? Do you know how many times he’s left without us saying “I love you” because kids and life. His way of saying “I love you” some mornings is letting me sleep in when he leaves and everyone is still asleep. All the ‘secrets’ we’ve broken them. The secret to a long-lasting marriage is there is no secret at all,” she writes.

The real secret is in trying every single day. It is in holding on together and not giving up. It is in eating frozen dinners together because that’s what you can afford. It is in both of you losing sleep over your newborn crying baby even though you are both tired, overwhelmed, and scared. You are in all together.

The secret is in counting pennies when you both are young so that you can build a future together. It is the realization that no marriage is perfect and learning how to be okay with it. It is in overcoming every obstacle together. It is about being best friends.  

The mom emphasizes that there are dark times in every marriage because there are dark times in life too. But, when you have a loving partner that is also your best friend – you endure the dark times together.

“Just try every single day, in the trenches and on top of the mountains don’t ever stop. Because stopping, that’s one thing that isn’t a secret, it will make you fail,” she finishes her post.

She is not surprised that her post is viral now, having been shared for more than 130k times. She says that this is because she was honest and wrote from the heart. That’s what many people recognized.

She thinks that many married people nowadays are ashamed to share that they are having difficulties in their marriage because they think that they are failing and others will judge them. The reality is everyone has difficulties in their marriages – the key is in trying to make it work every single day.

Don’t Tell Women They Are Lucky To Have Good Husbands

By
Mary Wright

When we see a man taking his kids to school we couldn’t help but think that he must be a good husband. Somehow, we praise this activity and we attribute him as being a good husband and a person judging by an activity that should be considered natural – finally, they are his kids. And yet, I hear women say how they cannot get their husbands to take their kids to school and they envy those women who have ‘great’ husbands that are willing to do that.

There are those moms who will tell you that you are lucky to have a good husband. A husband who loves to be with his kids and enjoys doing interesting activities with them that do not include the mom. A husband that is supportive of his wife’s career and takes days off from work to take care of their children when she has a meeting or has to travel from work.

Basically, a woman can be told that she is lucky for having a husband that is willing to do exactly what a husband or a wife is supposed to do for their partner in a marriage.

And yet, why no one tells a man that he is lucky to have a woman who is a good mother when they see her doing exactly the same things?

Don’t tell a woman that she is lucky to have a good husband. That she had luck on her side to pick a good husband like she won a ‘husband lottery.’ No. She worked hard for the relationship and her marriage.

And, any woman who has a great marriage and a great husband will tell you that it wasn’t that she was lucky, but she really put a great effort into the relationship.

However, it all comes down to who you choose to be your husband in the first place. Are you willing to stay single until you find the right man for you? And, when you do find him, the trick is to work out the issues that you both might have together.

The truth is, no man is a perfect dad and husband from the beginning. Nor are you. We are all works in progress. You need to learn and grow together. You need to be willing to accept yours and your partner’s mistakes and shortcomings and find ways to correct them. Being supportive of each other is essential.

So, maybe the correct comment should be that a woman should be thankful to have a good man in her life instead of considering her lucky to have him.

Because no one tells a man that he is lucky to have a woman that is a good wife and mother. It is assumed that a woman’s role is to be all that. And men, on the other hand, can decide in which activities they will be involved, as if fatherhood is a disposable activity that a man chooses to do when he is not at work, or when he is not busy doing something else.  

Stop praising men who are doing things that are normal in a marriage. Don’t say a man who is doing the bare minimum is doing the best he can, and the woman is lucky if she gets any help at all.

A man is a good man and a good husband because he wants to be and because he values his wife’s needs and requirements. Raising children is not a women’s job only. And a woman is not lucky to have a man who knows that. Parenting is a men’s job too and they don’t need additional praising.

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