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10+ Spooky Facts About The New Nightmare Fuel ‘It’ That Will Make It Even Scarier

By
Elizabeth Williams

Horror movies have its audience, but not everyone likes them. However, occasionally a movie comes out that blows the minds of everybody and it’s a must for everyone. The new horror called It featuring an evil clown is one of those movies that everyone will see.

Some will watch it because of Stephen King, the infamous author of the book that’s the base for the movie and others will be thrilled to see a maniac clown, but many will see it just because everyone talks about it.

It is definitely going to be the horror of the year, and here is what you need to know about this nightmare giving film.

1. There is a reason why it’s being released now

The first filmed version of the book was screened in 1990, i.e. 27 years ago. According to the story, the clown resurfaces every 27 years and this year we mark exactly 27 years since its debut. Amazing, isn’t it?

2. Skarsgård eye trick hasn’t been digitally altered

The director Muschietti probably wasn’t fully aware that he got the perfect actor to play the clown. You know how Bill makes his eyes go in different directions in the movie? Here is a little trivia that will amaze you: he can do this on his own. No special effects were used to get the result. It turns out it was all Bill.

3. Will Poulter was set to be Pennywise first

We can’t imagine anyone else playing Pennywise the clown except for Bill Skarsgård. Apparently, there was someone else taken into consideration for the role of the clown and that’s Will Poulter. Poulter dropped out because of film delays after the first director left.

4. Stephen King liked the movie.

Not only he liked it, he praised it. The author saw the movie months before the premiere and he immediately stated that the movie has “exceeded his expectations”. If you haven’t seen It yet, this should convince you to do it.

5. It has been scary even for the cast.

It gave us nightmares (and it still gives us) and the movie cast aren’t an exception. The leading actor, Bill Skarsgård admitted having nightmares when they were shooting.

6. Bill took his time preparing for the role.

It is exceeding everyone’s expectations. A lot of effort was put in it by the crew in order to live up to the 1990s version. For his role, the main actor spent half of his engagement in preparations only. During the first half of production, the crew was working on perfecting the performance of Bill as Pennywise the clown.

7. Mike Wheeler from Stranger Things is in the movie.

Our beloved Wheeler, whom we are used to see in the Netflix show Stranger Things, is in the movie. He plays a child victim of Pennywise.

8. Bill met the children for the first time having his costume on.

And there is a valid reason for this. The director wanted the children to be genuinely scared of the clown. So, Bill waited to meet the children until the shooting of the scene and they first saw them in his costume.

9. Tim Curry was also present in the movie (in a way)

The movie paid tribute to the original Pennywise, Tim Curry, who played the clown in the 1990 version. In one scene, we can see a doll of the original clown.

10. The movie was being developed for years

The movie took seven years in preparation for filming. IMDb informs that the cast started filming only after this period of development.

11. Channing Tatum almost got the part of Pennywise

Several great actors were considered for the leading role, including Johnny Depp, Jim Carrey, Channing Tatum and even Tilda Swinton. Bill Skarsgård was chosen at the end, and we can see why.

12. The movie takes place in a different time than the book

The original story takes place in 1958, but the action in the movie happens three decades later, in 1989. We don’t know why, but it seems to us that it wouldn’t make much difference as it would have been as scary. Finally, Stephen King himself approved it, and we don’t doubt him.

Image source: IMDb

10+ Signs You Are an Introvert, Even if You Don’t Think You Are One

By
Elizabeth Williams

Do you often feel that your energy comes from within rather than the outside world? If the answer is yes, then you might be an introvert. Read below the 12 indicators that prove you are secretly an introvert.

The existence of different personality types is not something new – they have been studied and defined in the 1920s by the Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung. His study had also been the basis of the Myers-Briggs personality test that you have probably taken at your school’s career center.

Often, people tend to present introversion as a negative trait, because introverts in most situations act shy, thoughtful, and reserved, as opposed to extroverts who are sociable, outgoing and have no problem adjusting to different social situations. 

Though the distinction between these two types might seem pretty straightforward, it is not really simple to define a person within one of the categories. If you are not sure which category you belong to, take a look at these 12 indicators that will resolve your dilemma.

  1. You appreciate the time you spend with yourself.

Indeed, you would like to spend time with your friends and family, there is no question about it, but at the same time, you feel that you could have a better time being by yourself. Be it reading a book, taking a walk, or just lying in your bed and daydreaming. Simply said, you enjoy spending time with yourself, and engaging in activities that will make you feel relaxed without any social awkwardness.

  1. You are most productive when you work alone.

The teamwork hype often scares you because it involves many meetings with other people and unnecessary talk with colleagues that might not appreciate your approach towards a specific matter. Working the way out of something seems better when you have the time to contemplate every aspect of the problem and get to a really creative solution by yourself.

  1. You are a hidden leader.

Introverts are rarely presented as leaders because of the misconception that they are not good communicators. However, in times of need people can always turn to you for help and you would try to make the most of the situation even if you do not feel comfortable about it. It is not because you do not believe in yourself, but because of the pressure, you might feel under by the rest of the team.

  1. You are not likely to volunteer in public situations.

You were the shy kid in class who would not raise the hand and yet would always know the right answers. Probably you had not been really encouraged to express yourself verbally in the school environment, so teachers were not much aware of your potential. And even though school time is over, you feel like the same applies to any other situation in life.

  1. Your opinion is highly appreciated.

Due to your ability to think things over and analyze every point of the situation, people feel like you could always have an answer. You have an ability to spot on details far better than your extrovert friends, which makes you the right person to have a suggestion for problems that might seem unsolvable at first glance.

  1. Your never leave your house without headphones.

Music helps you escape the outside world; it is your shield. Having headphones signals other people that you are not in the mood for random small talk (regardless if they are strangers or even acquaintances) and helps you get out of an awkward and unnecessary conversation.

  1. You avoid conflicts.

Conflict is another type of social awkwardness that you would rather not get into. Getting into conflict absorbs your energy and peace of mind and might make you feel like you are under threat, especially if it seems that you somehow initiated the conflict. In these situations, you avoid confrontation, and prefer to let it cool down and take a fresh look at the situation afterward.

  1. Small talk is not your thing.

“The weather today is just lovely” is something that you would never say to the stranger sitting next to you on the bus or the person that is walking past you in the park. Initiating small talk is just not your thing. You do not feel comfortable speaking about stuff that seems irrelevant and would not matter eventually to you or to the person you are talking to. That is why you tend to avoid it whenever it seems socially acceptable.

  1. You do not get in touch easily.

It is not that you do not miss your friends, or you do not feel like talking to them; simply you are not the one to call first. Now, this might sound like a negative trait of yours, but you just respect too much their private space and would not want to bother them.

Moreover, you are not the one to reach out to people, so you avoid breaking the ice and rather wait for them to make the first move.

  1. Writing suits your needs.

Writing has always helped you in difficult situations. You probably kept a journal of your thoughts, and it made you feel good about expressing yourself in this manner. That is why you probably opted for a profession where you can write and reflect on your thoughts. Being productive and satisfying your needs at the same time is definitely a plus. I am thinking, journalist, or an author, maybe?

  1. You hang out with people you know.

There is a limited number of people that you feel comfortable around. It is not that you are so selective that you will not spend time with new acquaintances, but you would rather give your attention to the people that already know you and would really engage into a conversation with you. However, after a certain period, you might give a chance to the new colleague at work or your sibling’s friend who were patient enough to get to know you.

  1. Being in a crowd takes all of your energy.

This new band you are listening to is having a gig in the bar near your house, and you would enjoy seeing their live show, yet there is so much to take into consideration. Firstly, you will need to ask somebody to join you which means you have to call them and initiate a talk. Next, even if you make a plan, you will feel bad if you see them not having a good time. Finally, it is so overcrowded that you cannot seem to enjoy as much as you thought. All things considered, you decide to stay at home and have a good read.

So, did you find yourself in any of these situations? Feel free to let us know.

 Inspired by Psychology Today

 

Former Google Career Coach Reveals A Practical Trick For Figuring Out What To Do With Your Life

By
Mary Wright

Do you often ask yourself if you are doing the right things in your life? Do you feel clustered and anxious at times, like you haven’t figured out your stuff yet? If you feel this way, don’t worry. We’ve all been there.

The good thing is that with all the information that internet provides nowadays, it is easy to search for advice that is relevant and useful to you. However, you must be very selective and careful when it comes to choosing the advice that you’ll decide to follow.

In order to help you make this important choice that will serve you to figure out what to do with your life and how to better it, we’ve chosen the valuable advice of Jenny Blake, a former Google Career coach.    

Jenny Blake is a job strategist who has helped thousands of people to find their dream jobs. She says that if you want your life to be exciting – you must design it to be that way.  

She advises drawing a visual map of your goals and interests. This activity is easy and it doesn’t take long to complete, but it will definitely help you in organizing your thoughts and figure out your next activities – be it a career change, or a new hobby.

You can start with writing down the year at the center of your paper. Then, you can draw spokes of all themes that are relevant to you. For instance, your spokes could include personal life, business life, skill building, hobbies, health and fitness, and so on.

Next, you can expand those themes by adding additional spokes with ways of how you want to improve those aspects of your life.

According to Blake, the best way to do this is to ask yourself these questions: “What’s important to me about that? And what does success look like?” 

For example, under personal life, you could write: “Have a dinner date with your friends once a month.” Or, “Take a trip once in every six months.”

In her book “Pivot – The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One”, Blake writes that this visual technique is extremely useful and is definitely working because it makes you think and visualize the things you want to change in your life and how you can improve those things.

“With mind mapping you are taking pen to paper, going old-school,” says Blake.

Besides, if you are like the majority of people who spends too much time sitting and staring at the computer, this drawing activity might be fun for you.

 “The goal is to break out of linear thinking,” Blake continues. “Go broad. Go big. Go sideways, and then experiment to see which of your ideas is most likely to lead to a resonant next step.” 

 

Source: CNBC

Here’s Why You SHOULD Be Friends With People Who Swear A Lot, According To Psychologists

By
Mary Wright

Psychologists Kristin Joy and Timothy Jay say that people who regularly swear are more likely to be smarter than those who don’t swear. Moreover, they are more honest and more fluent in mundane words.

Ever since we were growing up, we were told that swearing is bad. Swearing is still seen as a rude and inappropriate thing nowadays, and we are taught to be careful to not swear, especially not in public.

There is still a social stereotype that sees those who curse and swear as uneducated and ignorant. However, this is not true according to one psychological study. It seems that potty mouths are a lot smarter than you think.

Many people would listen to a person swearing, and they will assume that he/she doesn’t know how to express properly with words because he/she lacks intelligence and education.

However, psychologists Kristin Joy from Marist College and Timothy Jay from Massachusetts College of Liberal Arts disagree with this assumption.

In their study, they found out that people who use a lot swear words are actually more fluent in neutral, mundane words.

‘People who use taboo words understand their general expressive content as well as nuanced distinctions that must be drawn to use slurs appropriately,’ the researchers wrote. ‘The ability to make nuanced distinction indicates the presence of more rather than less linguistic knowledge.’

Moreover, they conducted a Facebook study in which they analyzed over 1,000 facebook statuses which contained curse words in them. They found a direct correlation between the use of swear words and honesty. Meaning, those who used curse words in their statuses were more honest in expressing their opinions.

Plus, researchers found that people who cursed regularly were more comfortable expressing their feelings and thoughts thus being more genuine as opposed to those who didn’t curse and were seen as reserved.

Even more so, in criminal cases when suspects were interrogated, studies have found that those who were innocent were more likely to curse. Guilty ones, on the other hand, were trying to mask themselves and remain calm.

All in all, swearing is not a bad thing! Next time, when someone accuses you of being inappropriate when slipping some F-words – you tell them that you are not inappropriate but honest and smart! You have the science to back you up.

 

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Single Japanese Women Are Buying The Boyfriend Experience

By
Mary Wright

Rather than dealing exasperating issues of relationships and marriage, women are turning to a new industry of companionship. This industry sells the whole boyfriend experience, and single women are buying it. 

Japanese women for the first time in history are rejecting the idea of relationships and marriage. The reason may be that today more than ever women around the world are economically independent, and women from Japan are no exceptions.

Instead of dealing with relationship and marriage problems women decide to turn to new options for companionship. These modern services offer women to hire a man to get the whole relationship experience.

But, what is it missing from women’s life that would make them hire someone to act like their boyfriend? Why would they need him?

The truth is, even the most independent women can get lonely sometimes. Women from Japan now have an opportunity to hire ‘a Host’ and pay him to take them out on romantic dates, to watch movies with them, and cuddle all night long.

“The Host’s job is to make it seem like she is on a normal date. Like she is with a man she is not paying. We provide a dream,” says one such Host.

So, how much it costs to hire a boyfriend in Japan? The prices vary but are usually less than 100,000 yen (approximately $890) for a night.

A Host’s job is to provide women with extraordinary relationship experiences. They go out on a date, they talk, they can touch during the talk – but nothing sexual beyond that.

What are the industry’s strategies? They use the same sales techniques as any other businesses, and hosts are ranked based on sales.

Moreover, hosts are always finding new ways to remain and become more attractive to women. They exercise, often go to hair salons, massages, and things like that.  Plus, they always research for new ways to make the women laugh.

One could ask: In a situation like that, who has the most power the woman or the man?

One host says: “Women pay the money. But we, as hosts, sell masculinity. So, we have to be more manly than the standard man. This is the only place where women pay for men, even as expensive as it is. So, the power balance shifts and it depends on the situation.”

And for Japanese women who don’t want a sexual relationship, but aren’t entirely satisfied with just hanging out with a guy and going on a date, there is a new place on the marked known as ‘Sheep boys’ where they can find emotional and physical intimacy.

The term “sheep boys” comes from people having ‘to count sheep’ to fall asleep. So in a way, they are providing women with a sense of comfort and security.

For those women who are willing to pay $100 per hour, they can hire a guy to come to their place and make them dinner, watch a movie with them, talk, and cuddle.

The service ranges from ‘short nap packages’ to ‘overnight sleepovers’ which can cost over a grand.

So, how these sleepovers usually start?

“At first we could relax and have something to drink while we introduce ourselves a little and maybe watch TV or something. Then we could lie down together… is the course of the service.”

Women often talk about the problems and fears they have which they can’t tell to anyone close.

The age of the women varies between 30-50, and they range from students and housewives to working ladies.

Many women nowadays feel like the traditional system of marriage is not for them. Their financial security and their independence further nourish their belief that they do not need a man in their life.

So, they are finding new easy ways to connect with people and fulfill their need for intimacy and connection.

What do you think about this trend in Japan? Do you agree with it?

Watch the full video below.

5 Horror Movies You Can Only Watch Once

By
Mary Wright

These 5 horror movies on Netflix will make your blood run cold, and you probably would not be able to stomach them twice. 

When it comes to horror movies, what really scares you? What makes your heart miss a beat? Perhaps, there are many things that make you cringe, but there are some classics on Netflix that are real gems when it comes to horror movies.   

Some movies have one particular scene that sends shivers down your spine. Maybe it is a frightening jump, or violent death, or gross skin-peeling, you name it.

Here are 5 horror movies which have that terrifying element in them that will stay with you for days. If you are able to watch them more than once – congratulations! You are among the bravest.

1.STARRY EYES (2014)

This is honestly rather underrated film, and it includes all kinds of body horror that you can imagine. From nails and hair falling out to people slipping in blood pools – every gross thing that you can think of. Also, sex, ritual sacrifice, and rotting flesh are included.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WuLNiy7nBCE&feature=youtu.be

2. WE ARE STILL HERE (2015)

This movie is considered as one of the most frightening horror movies of 2015. When you get an insight of the haunted house, you’ll be scared to death. By further leaning into it and a close look, you will realize that there isn’t anything similar that is as scary as this movie.

3. HONEYMOON (2015)

This movie comes from Mexico, in its original title as “Luna de Miel.’  In it, a woman is kidnapped by a sadistic doctor who plays tricks on her to make her believe that she is his wife, while also torturing her.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKNmNJUhzis&feature=youtu.be

4. THE HUMAN CENTIPEDE: FIRST SEQUENCE (2009)

Even though it is not a good movie – it sure is disturbing as hell. And it is guaranteed that you won’t be able to watch it more than once. It is about a doctor who kidnaps people and surgically ties them butt to mouth to make a giant human centipede. Gross!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rvuopBG7tBc&feature=youtu.be

5. CUJO (1983)

While “Cujo” is not one of the scariest movies that are out there-there is definitely something terrifying and disturbing, as well as sad, about it. Watching a movie about a lovely family’s dog that loses its mind and starts attacking its owners is not something that you would want to see a second time.

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11 Things To Do To Reset Your Wife When She’s Falling Apart

By
Elizabeth Williams

Women know what sacrifice means when it comes to relationships, marriage, family. They simply do not accept the idea that some things need to wait until tomorrow to be finished because they know just how much needs to be done every day.

They do so much that they are ready to take on the world if needed for their family, for the men they love, and for the children they live for. They love fiercely and sacrifice everything they have unconditionally. They are the heroes who quietly run the world.

And if you are one of these women, then we know how every morning feels and how the thoughts of whether you will make it through the day simply tear you apart. We know how little you are appreciated for your daily feats of heroism that so many take for granted.

But how much are you, dear husband, aware of this? And yes, it is very hard to know what you can do to help her out. Perhaps the most important thing you should always bear in mind that the path of living a life together means that everything should be done together to some extent.

Everyone has their own role in the relationship, but what you need each other most for is to help each other when you fall, to support each other and stand tall together, to hold each other and never let go, to give comfort when life is too difficult to bear.

And it is very easy to help your wife out – it is the simple things full of affection that matter the most. All she needs is for you to be more aware of her sacrifices and give her the support to endure all the toils that she is going through.

1. Be mindful of what she does

It does not matter if she goes to work or stays at home. What matters is whether you are aware of what she does during the day, how much her to-do list weighs on her shoulders, and what sacrifices she does for both of you. If you do not know, all you need to do is ask her. She will appreciate your interest in her daily activities and tasks.

2. Offer help BEFORE she burns out

It is a bit too late to get involved in the obligations when she breaks down because you should not allow for her to get to that stage. The best time to help her out is NOW.

3. Participate in your marriage actively

Marriage means that it takes two for everything involved in it. Parenting, running the household, making the marriage work – you should be aware that your involvement in your family life is paramount. Work is only a part of all that, and it is not an excuse to get away from chores, disciplining your children, or planning special nights for the two of you.

4. Let her talk and listen all the way through

Women like to get all their thoughts out to reset. And indeed, for a mind which is so preoccupied, getting one’s thoughts out is the best way to settle it and calm it down. Listen to her carefully, let her speak her problems and express their feelings, show empathy, ask questions. Engage yourself fully in the conversation.

5. You do not have to fix her problems

If she is complaining about her problems, all you need to do is listen. If she wanted solutions, she would ask for it.

6. Hold her tight

Give your kids some kind of preoccupation and go to your wife. Hold her, tell her how much you love her, give her all the affection you are feeling toward her and let her feel your love. Be her shoulder to cry on and the only comfort she will need in life.

7. Be the partner you were meant to be

Marriage is the moment when two individual lives become one life of two individuals. It means sharing that life together and carrying one another’s burdens. It means the support of one another when things get tough; it means being one another’s friend, confidant, and lover.

You are not roommates, or two random people living together. You are a union of two people who love each other and would do anything to see each other happy.

8. Fill her with hope

Hope is the force that drives us to do the impossible and always strive for a better tomorrow. Be her encouragement and lift her up. Help her to recognize the good in every situation. Do not be negative or critical. And when she hits rock bottom, be the one who will pull her up.

9. Make yourself useful

Instead of waiting to be asked to do something, try and look around the house to spot the things that need to be done. Do the washing up if you spot dirty dishes in the sink, fix whatever is broken. Learn to look around and find things that need to be done.

10. Give her a day all to herself

If she has to do everything she does every day, she will never have some time for herself. Make sure you take over at least one day a week and let her spend that day doing things she would love to do for herself.

She will love going to the beauty salon, getting a haircut, a manicure, pedicure, massage, and perhaps even going shopping for some new clothes. Do not wake her up, fill up the bathtub and add some nice scents; give her some alone time. Make her feel special that day and let her know it is her day.

11. Ask what you can do

If you see her burning out and do not know what to do about it, ask her. She will appreciate it a lot because she knows how much you love her. She loves you as well, and she appreciates every little and big thing you do for her.

 

Source: FamilyShare

The 30 Seconds That Can Save You From Drowning In A Sinking Vehicle – What You Need To Do

By
Elizabeth Williams

Drowning in a submerged car is a nightmare people would like to see only in the movies. However, the reality is much more concerning than that. The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration reports that around 380 people drown each year in submersion type crashes. And if we added floods in this scenario, the number would jump even higher.

The main issue with this kind of accident is that the 911 services cannot respond quickly enough to save you from such scenario, and you need to take things into your hands and save yourself and your children as quickly as possible.

To get out of such situation, you need around 30 seconds, in which you need to react quickly and efficiently. 911’s training service PowerPhone has set out a protocol which every person in such situation should follow:

Seatbelt – Children – Window – OUT

1. Seatbelt

The first moment your car hits the water, unbuckle your seatbelt as quickly as possible.

2. Children

While you unbuckle your seatbelt, tell your older children to do the same. After you have unstrapped, undo your younger children’s seatbelts as quickly as possible.

3. Window

Open the window of the car. If you cannot open it, it is best to have a window-break tool at your side at all times and use it in such situations.

4. OUT

Once your window is open, you have very little time to get out, as water will start rushing in. Get your older children out through the window first, then take your younger ones and evacuate the car last.

All this should be done in under 30 seconds, as usually, the car needs around 30 seconds to sink. Do not go for any other alternative than getting out of the window as soon as possible.

Do not become another of the victims because you did not know what to do. Keep this knowledge in your head, and it may save your life once the inevitable happens.

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How To Reverse The Psychological Trauma From Your Newsfeed

By
Elizabeth Williams

These last two years have been a total storm for all of us. The news got from bad to worse by the day, and all we could do is read, listen, and weep. The truth is, we all care about the world we live in, and we all wish for a better one.

But how can we wish for a better world when the news is continuously traumatizing our minds with terrifying, tragic, disturbing, or plain brutal events? Like it is not enough that we have to deal with our everyday reality as it is – and then we get bombarded with the worst of the worst the moment we open our newsfeed.

Well, yes, there are so many bad things happening around us, but that does not have to mean that we have to feel destroyed by all that. Author and columnist Ann Douglas has created some powerful guidelines that will help you to avoid the psychological destruction by our newsfeed, and we felt that more people should read about it.

Make a distinction between being immersed and informed

Even if you feel like you need to know everything that is happening in the world, that does not mean that you have to obsess yourself over it 24/7. As Douglas says, “aim for a balanced media diet.” Take a break from all the information and do not forget to focus on the good news as well. In fact, focus more on the good news.

Do not disrupt your daily routines

No matter the reality, your life should not be affected so much that you start disrupting your routines. Habits are essential, as we are creatures that work best in the familiar. Give your body some the needed rest by sleeping adequately, eat healthily, exercise regularly, and do not forget to have fun.

Do not avoid your feelings and do not dwell on them

Either scenario makes for a devastating result on your psyche. Avoiding the negative emotions that should arise in response to the situation will leave you emotionally “flat,” because you will also shut off the positive feelings. Dwelling on those feelings will tie your mind up, and this will make you less able of solving the problem or connect with others. Instead, acknowledge the feelings that are natural to come and do not stick to them for too long, but act.

Do not be idle – take action

No matter how much the situation is out of your control, you can always act somehow. Anxiety is fueled by feeling powerless, and it is brought down by doing something about the situation. So, do something positive, however small, like writing a letter, making a donation, or attending a get-together in your town. Great change starts with small acts.

Be optimistic

Instead of obsessing yourself over what you cannot control, focus on what you can. You should bear in mind that obsessing over things you cannot control is a poison to the mind. Know that every cloud has a silver lining. Your job is to focus on maintaining positivity in your life. Spend some time with the people you love, do the things you enjoy, and the positivity that comes out of all that will give you the strength to create new possibilities.

Reach out and connect

You are not the only one concerned with whatever is going on. Many people share your concern, and connecting with them will open a window of opportunities in what you could do next. Especially be open to connect with people who may be going through an especially difficult time, like those that come from marginalized or vulnerable communities.

The main idea is that you should try to connect with the people around you and build bridges instead of walls. If you find yourself struggling, it is always good to reach out for support. Taking good care of yourself is especially important now.

Engage your children in discussions

Talk to your children and address their fears. It is also very important to spark their compassion in times like this, as you want them to become caring and compassionate people. Dream together of a better world and support their dreams. They are the future of our world, and instilling a vision of a better tomorrow in them is perhaps the most important factor to a more positive future.

 

Source: Ann Douglas

Introverts May Be Silent – But They Are Not Doormats

By
Mary Wright

Many mistake introverts’ silence as them being shy. However, introverts are quiet not because they are shy, but because they have many thoughts rushing through their heads. And their contemplative nature is actually their strength. 

If there is one thing that is true for all introverts is that they are less wordy when expressing themselves as opposed to extroverts. And their silence in most of the time can be falsely interpreted as them being shy, naïve, or not smart enough to contribute to the conversation.

Introverts can often get so caught up in their thoughts that they do not pay notice to the amount of words they are saying. Everything is perfectly clear in their heads, although they are not aware that oftentimes they do not vocalize their thoughts.

So, why introverts are silent most of the time?

INTROVERTS MAY GO QUIET BECAUSE MANY THINGS ARE ON THEIR MIND.

Because of their quiet nature, introverts are often considered as meek, naïve, and mild-mannered people. However, this is not true. The truth is, introverts have way too many thoughts rushing through their head that they find it impossible to vocalize them all.

So, they would rather just nod along and smile kindly than engaging themselves in a lengthy and energy-consuming explanation.  And therefore, when introverts say something sarcastic that counteracts with the falsely assumed image of their mild and meek nature, other people are left astonished and surprised.

Introverts hate being called sweet and fragile.

Others assume that because of their calm and quiet nature they are not able to defend themselves when someone even slightly teases them.

But, trust me – introverts won’t stay calm, and they would defend themselves when somebody offends them. Even though they don’t like conflicts and arguing, they will call out anyone who hurts their core beliefs and values.

They can stand for themselves and have a warrior side that they show only in certain situations.

It is like introverts have two personas inside them: one is kind and quiet, and the other is brisk and sarcastic, but realistic. Introverts show their real side only to those they are comfortable with.

They haven’t got the time nor the patience to stand idly by when someone is manipulative or wants to take advantage of their ‘meek’ nature. They may be introverts, but they are not doormats!

INTROVERTS’ CONTEMPLATING NATURE IS ACTUALLY THEIR STRENGTH.

No matter what your personality type is, being contemplative is one of the greatest traits that you could possess.

All contemplative people are strong because only strong people can perfectly know themselves and their minds and have a very cultivated sense of self. Those people can never be meek and fragile as they may seem at first sight.

Plus, introverts are just as fun and smart as extroverts! Don’t mistake their silence for being unable to dominate the conversation.

Finally, if you still believe that introverts are meek and mild – you are in for a lot of surprises!

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