Every parent wants to see their child grow into a successful and complete person. This is why parents never spare time, money and effort on their kids continually.

For many parents, this means investing in their children’s education from early age, but the question is: Is good education really a pledge for a bright future?

Despite the fact that diplomas and achievements are required from a person to be able to advance in their career, certain skills determine the success of that same person in achieving any goal they set their minds on.

These skills are learned from young age and they are one of the key factors for a successful future.

1. THE ABILITY TO TAKE A STAND

Having their back is not enough. Helping your kids to learn how to take a stand even when nobody is around them to save the day is one of the most important skills a person can possess.

To start nurturing this skill in your child, you need to show your child that their opinion matters within the family.

Your child needs to know that you hear and understand them, so never be too short on time or words when it comes to listening to them and showing that you understand them and that you acknowledge their opinion.

Express genuine interest and encourage them to give reasons and examples when stating their opinion. Always be ready to discuss their ideas in a curious and calm manner, use words of approval more often and don’t be sarcastic or adamant when answering their questions.

2. CONCENTRATION

Children prefer to focus on what they are interested in at the moment. This trait is a great advantage when it comes to encouraging concentration and focus.

Of course, children see a role model in their parents subconsciously, which means that you need to show your focus and concentration when communicating with them.

When teaching them something or just having a simple conversation with them, remember to pay them a few minutes of your attention entirely, without any distractions.

Certain activities will help your child to learn to be more concentrated and focused. For example, when teaching them writing, ask them to draw letters on 3rd & 4th grade writing worksheets, on a whiteboard, the pavement or sculpt them out of Plasticine.

Playing board games, puzzles or drawing are also very good techniques which can improve their concentration.

In addition to all this, ask your child to notice interesting details during walks, on their way to school or just about anywhere. Tell them to look for interesting signs, cars of a certain color or model, or for different shapes, colors, and textures.

2. 2. 3. SELF-RELIANCE

It’s very important that your child learns to do things by themselves.The sooner they learn this, the more confident they will be in the future. This skill will help them cope with obligations even from an early age (for example, at school).

Think of the things that your child can do for himself/herself, such as tieing their own shoelaces, dressing themselves up, putting their toys in their places or cleaning up after themselves.

Don’t scold your children for their mistakes! Skip that part and show understanding, but also ask for a responsible behavior in return.

Tell them to think of a way they can correct that ‘mistake’ and don’t forget to be patient and encouraging. Most of all, don’t forget to praise them (the higher the difficulty, the bigger the praise).

2. 2. 4. BEING A TEAM PLAYER

There are things that a person cannot do on their own. This is why you should teach your child of the importance of building good relationships with others, showing respect and being ready to collaborate with others.

You can start this in your home, with your child contributing to the greater good of the family (of course, in ways that are appropriate for their age and abilities).

When teaching your child to work in a team, you should NEVER compare them to other kids. This can be very damaging to their self-esteem. Instead, emphasize the importance of each individual and their role in the team.

2. 2. 5. COMMAND OF FOREIGN LANGUAGES

The saying ‘The more languages you know, the more people you are worth’ is not there in vain. A command of at least two languages is a very good key to success, not only because of the knowledge of a language, but also because of the expanded horizons your child will have because of knowing a second language.

Young age is the best time to start learning a new language, as children possess the ability to absorb every new word on a subconscious level and produce the language they are learning with greater ease and confidence. So, if you haven’t already, give your child the opportunity to learn a new language as soon as possible.

2. 2. 6. SELF-ORGANIZATION

Self-organization is very important in the daily life of every person. This means better chances of success in everything they undertake, as there would be no dead weight being dragged behind from all the overdue activities.

The basis of self-organization lies in a well organized schedule. Plan a daily and weekly schedule with your children, while gradually reducing your involvement in the planning as your children mature and learn to manage their time by themselves.

It’s very important to strike a balance between your child’s responsibilities and leisure time. This means setting the basis of the work-life balance from an early age. A child should have enough time for games, hobbies and other desired activities and this should go hand to hand with their chores, obligations and responsibilities.

Build this balance from early age, when the ‘hard part’ is not present too much, so they can gradually understand the need for that balance.

2. 2. 7. QUIET ATTITUDE TO FAILURES

Your child’s attitude towards failures and victories will inevitably shape their self-esteem and define their relationships with other people. This means that your child needs to learn to approach both failures and victories soberly and responsibly.

Think of the way a child’s play is followed: someone loses, throws a tantrum, and the parents take the child home. This kind of behavior can have a negative impact on your child’s ability to face the difficulties of life.

While praising your kid’s successes, don’t ignore their failures. Failures are a very important element of life and you should teach them to approach them with scrutiny.

Try to discuss the failure and find the reasons that lie behind it. Of course, first let them express their emotions (to an acceptable level which would not bother other people), and then have a talk about it.

And most importantly, always let your children know that you love them and believe in them no matter what.

SHARING IS CARING!

Have you ever noticed how some people have a tendency to ‘start a conversation’ with themselves every now and then?

If you’ve had such public ‘outburst’ yourself, then you certainly remember the reaction of those who overheard your little ‘dialog’, clearly thinking you are a ‘nut job’.

Hold your horses – there is no need to be alarmed. It is true that this behavioral trait can be associated with lunacy, but science says it can also be regarded as a hallmark of a genius.

Numerous studies have explored this phenomenon and found that talking to yourself can actually boost your ability to process and store information. In other worlds, talking to yourself will not only help you learn more quickly and efficiently, but it will also improve your long-term memory.

These findings were recently backed by a study that was published in the Quarterly Journal of Experimental Psychology, which found that ‘verbal stimulation’ positively influences our perceptual processing abilities.

The study asked participants to repeat the name of certain objects aloud and concluded that such verbal stimulation helped them become more receptive to these objects, allowing them to locate the objects much easier.

Scientists are adamant that talking to ourselves is actually useful in more than one way. 

1. Talking to Yourself Boosts Your Brain Power

A recent experiment that was conducted by Live Science found that subjects who repeated names of objects were not only able to find these objects in question much quicker, but also exhibited an improved ability to memorize.

In laymen’s terms, this means that talking to yourself will prepare your body for the task ahead, allowing it to complete the job more easily.

2. It Helps Children Learn Better

Children, especially toddlers and babies, greatly benefit from the so called ‘self-directed speech’.

Scientists believe that it helps guide children’s behavior, claiming that vocalizing directions allows them to approach a problem more methodically while also making them more adept at following them later in life.

3. It Will Help You Make Better Choices and Organize Your Thoughts
   

Psychologist Linda Sapadin claims that talking to yourself can help you make better decisions. According to her, this vocal ‘exercise’ not only helps de-clutter the mind, but also validates important decisions and calms the nerves.

It also helps prioritize tasks and improves our decision making.

4. It Will Make You More Ambitious

Repeating your goals and ambitions aloud will reinforce your determination to achieve them and rid your mind from unnecessary distractions.

In doing so, you basically break down your goal into a series of individual, clear steps that you will be able to tackle much more easily than approaching the problem head on. This will stimulate your brain to work harder to achieve the end goal.

So, next time you feel weird or out of place for “thinking out loud” or debating with yourself, don’t dwell on it. Turns out, it’s a good thing.

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Sources:
http://elitedaily.com
Self-directed speech affects visual search performance, The Quarterly Journal of Experimental Psychology,DOI:10.1080/17470218.2011.647039

An empath is a person who is able to feel (in great detail) what the other person is feeling. Empaths sense your emotions and can easily detect them no matter how hard you are trying to hide them.

In fact, these people sometimes are really having a hard time coping with all the emotions they are able to sense.

Empaths are able to sense your sorrow, happiness, hate, love, and just about any kind of feeling you may be experiencing. 

The hardest part for them is to distinguish between their own feelings and those which are coming from others. It’s in an empath’s nature to absorb the emotional vibrations that others emanate.

Empathy is a great gift with a great burden and here are 10 things empaths are able to tell by just looking at you. If you’re an empath, we’re sure you’ll agree.

1. Empaths are the best lie detectors

When you lie to an empath, your basic emotions that come with it will give you away. Empaths are able to sense discomfort and dishonesty. This is why they will most certainly that there is something wrong with what you are saying if you are lying.

Although they may not be 100% sure that you are lying, they are able to notice the alarm signals that indicate to the possibility.

From there, anything you do further is going to be just another clue to what you are feeling. Anywhere from small to big lies – empaths will spot them and know them.

2. They can spot a wolf in sheep’s clothing

Whatever you do, be true to who you are in front of an empath, because masks don’t work with them.

People who try to propagate good intentions and try to convince them how well they mean, while hiding darker desires and hidden agendas – they can’t pass the empath’s test.

The empath sees right through any kind of disguise, and this is why they will immediately smell the rot that others try to hide beneath their silver-tongued expressions and wondrous manners.

If your emotions are genuine and true to what you say, you will be their favorite.

3. Empaths can read lackeys like a book

Sycophancy is something that doesn’t work with empaths. They will immediately be able to tell from what you really intend to achieve with your flattering and praising. If you do this to get into their good book, you are on the wrong track.

The greatest ability of an empath is to sense one’s intentions and their true thoughts behind their actions. Be sure you praise an empath only if they have really achieved something to be praised about. Otherwise, boot licking is something that would only deter them from you.

4. Empaths can sense jealousy and hatred

In fact, they see this from first glance. It’s something you may think you are able to hide, but for them it’s as clear as day.

Empaths are able to see this in your eyes without any kind of effort and they are able to sense all the hatred you think you can hide.

Sometimes having an empath around to tell you if you have faced these negative feelings is a very useful thing if you are trying to get over them.

Other times, if these feelings are directed toward an empath, be sure to stay out of their way, or they will eventually remove you from it.

5. Empaths know your prejudices

One of the things they can’t stand is bigotry. You can act as if you don’t have any kind of prejudice, but the moment it starts spinning in your head, they will notice it.

Empaths are people free of prejudice, as they see people on a deeper level, and they can teach you a lot about that.

However, if an empath is a part of the group you tend to stigmatize in your mind, you can either try to work it out in your head and face the false perception you have created in your prejudice or you can walk away. In the end, if you don’t walk away, the empath will.

6. They can sense if you’re not ‘fine’

Being able to penetrate any kind of mask you are trying to portray, empaths will know when you are trying to hide your emotions. An empath will know you’re not ‘fine’ even if you do everything to convince everybody else that you are.

It’s your choice whether you want to discuss your emotions or not. But when you are tense, uncomfortable, scared or annoyed with something, the empath will easily read through any kind of ‘calm’ or ‘composed’ appearance.

7. They know when you’re not applying yourself fully

Sometimes people act fake because they don’t feel fully comfortable with themselves. It’s not that they have any kind of hidden agenda or malicious wish behind it and empaths know that.

However, they also know your maximum potential and what you are hiding.

The empath will sense any hidden emotion you are experiencing and can even help you out if you ask for help – because they can feel your essence in a way that others are not able to.

The empath will feel less comfortable feeling your discomfort with yourself and they will notice your deviation from your true self.

8. Empaths know when you are being self-destructive

Whether you are having self-destructive tendencies, you enjoy playing victim, or you play the tough guy, the empath will sense your mechanics behind all of it and they will easily spot the emotions you involve.

You can create drama around you, but the empath will know whether you are truly experiencing the life you are trying to portray or you are just looking for attention.

Sometimes they can even get frustrated from all that and they will even tell you to stop it – openly.

9. They know when you’re playing someone you aren’t

There are those people who chose to play a role of someone who isn’t them. It may be because they want to show-off and look interesting, or they are insecure with themselves and think that they would never be accepted for who they really are.

The empaths can sense this kind of behavior and they will know that you are not genuine. It’s best to be yourself when having an empath around. Otherwise, they will start avoiding you if they find your false behavior irritating.

10. Empaths know if you’re trying to be exploitative

Most of the time, empaths will be able to understand when you try to get the better of them or to use their kindness for your own selfish ends. They are able to see clearly when someone is trying to exploit them and they abhor such intentions.

Empaths will always give the best to those who are in need, both emotionally and materially. But if you try to use their generosity to your own ends, they will spot you and they will decide to put you on their black list.