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The Road To Happiness And Success: Resist Change And Learn How To Live With Yourself

By
Riley Cooper

Are you tired of constantly having to adapt to changes and keeping up with the latest trends in contemporary culture? Do you often wish to just stop right where you are, put down roots, and stand firm, but then again, you’re afraid that if you do that, others will see you as conservative, unadaptable, and reactionary? Well, if your answer is yes then know, you’re not alone.

Many will wonder why would someone rather put down roots and resist change than fit in the accelerating culture we live in? The culture which is characterized by dynamic concepts, such as transformation, development, learning, and innovation. The culture where change is the only constant.

Change. That’s the key concept, but also the reason why most of us lack purpose and direction in life. We’re constantly on a journey looking for the latest recipe for happiness and success. We’re constantly chasing the latest trends and trying to be one step before the others as well. 

And while we’re trying to adapt to our surroundings and self-develop, we’re missing out on the important aspects of life: peace of mind, self-control, dignity, and sense of duty towards others.

So, that’s why the idea of standing firm and resisting change should be given more attention. Because the various problems we’re daily faced with – economic, ecological, psychological, or political are the result of a philosophy of constant change and growth.

Standing firm doesn’t mean you’re conservative or rigid. It simply means you’re able to accept what you are and what you have rather than constantly adapting and developing. Standing firm prepares you to cope with future adversities and enables you to accept your responsibilities, and especially, duties towards others.

I know there are people who simply don’t want to put down roots – they’re doing well in the accelerating culture. And I’m aware, too, that it’s important for children and young people to be able to adapt and develop, but as adults, we should be capable of standing firm.

Because if we’re not, as time passes, we run the risk of losing integrity and missing out on the important aspects of life mentioned previously.

You need to understand that the road to happiness and success is not through self-developing and adapting, but through standing firm on your own ground. It’s not through finding yourself, but through living with yourself.

This leads us to one of the most pervasive concepts in contemporary culture – the concept of finding yourself by listening to your gut feelings.

If you’ve ever doubted anything, (and I’m sure you have), you’ve probably asked your parents, friends, or partner: “What do you think I should do?” and you were likely told: “The answer you’re looking for lies within yourself.” You were told to follow your gut feelings. But the truth is, you won’t find answers by looking inwards.

For example, if someone is in trouble and comes to ask for your help, there’s no point whatsoever basing your reaction on how helping that person would make you feel. 

Instead, you think about the person who needs help and about what they actually say, and not about how their words make you feel.

It’s important to understand that instead of looking inwards you should be open to what surrounds you: other people, nature, and culture.

You need to understand that it isn’t a feeling inside of you that determines whether you’re doing the right thing. That the self does not hold the key to how to live your life.

The concept of finding yourself and self-developing is so pervasive that it’s become a part of all spheres in society. For example, students are expected to look for answers not only in textbooks but by exploring their inner selves. Employers send us on personal development courses so that we can explore our abilities and competencies.

But, the question is: “Has the focus on exploring ourselves and following our gut feelings brought us any good? Have we really found ourselves or is this even possible?”

Well, I don’t think so.

But are your gut feelings really worth listening to? For example, what if they tell you that you should go for your new attractive colleague although he or she already has a partner? Or what if you feel like you could eat a whole bag of peanut butter chips, but you’re allergic to peanuts. Would you still eat it?

Yes, gut feelings are not sensible and reliable. You need to understand that you can’t navigate through life by relying on them. They have no value.

But, what does have inherent value is fulfilling your duty to the people you’re interconnected. Oftentimes, the journey to find yourself leads to others being sacrificed and this makes it impossible for you to fulfill your obligations to others.

And, just to make it clear – I’m not saying that you should never trust your “inner voice”, but you should always take it with a dose of healthy skepticism.

Last words, if we all understand that standing firm in a society that cultivates individuals who are adaptable and constantly focused on self-development and self-realization is not a sin or a tragedy, everyone will see how fulfilling and rewarding this can be.

Because those who reject the whole ideology of finding and developing yourself have more chance of living a life with a certain degree of integrity and sticking to what is important in their life.

8 Common Money Management Mistakes of the Youth

By
Elizabeth Williams

Youth is a period of making merry, socialising, hanging out with friends, paying regular visits to cafes and bars, and most importantly the carefree attitude, for most of us. We live in the present and do not care much about our future, thinking we have ample time to do so.

There are very few people who care to start budgeting and to save for future, in their youth. They generally live happier and relaxed lives in their future lives.

We all make mistakes, and not saving and investing money in our initial years force us to borrow money, putting us under the debts. Our lives revolve around ways to meet the, and we lose all the fun that life has to offer.

There are millennial money mistakes, but we are going to discuss some of them:

Failing to Plan: Young people live for today. They neglect the expenses they make every week to pubs, bars, cafes, parties, and many more. Our money is limited, so we must wisely decide where to spend and where to curtail it. We must balance our needs and wants and save money for emergencies and future use.

Leaning too much on Parents: Some parents are generous enough to provide with all the luxuries to their children, making them dependent on them for their lives. They do not teach them the ways to earn and manage their hard earned money.

Rushing to Pay-Off Student Loan Debt: It is natural trying to shed off debt as soon as possible, but people must balance their approach towards payment of loans. Ending up your obligations in 5 years will leave you with zero savings. A small mishap or an accident can put you back on borrowing money, so effective management of funds is necessary where you keep some amount aside for emergencies.

Giving-Up on a Chosen Career: People who do not get jobs in their fields end up working at unsatisfactory places. Unable to get a professional workforce in the early 20s put your earning potential at stake for a lifetime.

Not Building Credit: Not having a good credit history to your name often acts as a barrier when trying to get loans for housing, car, or any other use.

Postponing Saving for Retirement: It is a major concern as many of us do not think much about our retirement in our 20s and 30s. If we start late, we get less compound interest to reach our goals. It is wise to save at least 5% of our income for retirement.

Not Carrying Health Insurance: It is a common saying ‘Health is Wealth’. If we are healthy, we are in a better position to work and earn. We must try to invest in good health insurance plans and save ourselves from substantial hospital bills.

Rushing to Buy a Home: Owning a home must not be the impulsive decision. We need to wait for the right time and resources.

We’ve seen how mismanagement of money and unplanned decisions can ruin our present lives as well as our future.

5 Negative Communication Signs That Show You’re Dealing With A Toxic Boyfriend

By
Stephanie Reeds

Communication is the most important skill you can possess. It’s an essential part of our lives and our relationships. Nothing ever happens, nor flows without an open and honest communication.

Imagine a well-built, 100-year-old house. A house that had successfully stood the test of time. A house that had survived many hailstorms, many thunderstorms, many hurricanes, many powerful quakes and stayed intact as proof of its endurance.

How is it possible, you may ask? How come it hasn’t crushed by now?

Well, the most important thing about this house is its foundation. The whole structure of the house lies on a rock-hard base.  A substructure that has been made with a significant amount of effort and many hours of hard work.

But, how does this house has anything to do with communication?

Well, it’s pretty much the same when it comes to relationships.

Communication is the most important part of a relationship. A relationship cannot grow if you don’t share your opinions and discuss your issues. It cannot strengthen if you are too afraid to open up and express your true emotions. It cannot possibly survive if you don’t communicate with your partner.

“Communication is the lifeline of any relationship. Without it, the relationship will starve itself to death.” – Elizabeth Bourgeret

Here are 7 negative communication signs that indicate you might be dealing with a toxic boyfriend:

1. HE DOESN’T BOTHER TO LISTEN TO WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY

If your partner doesn’t care about what you have to say and immediately cuts you off as you start to speak, this is a code red situation. The most important thing a relationship needs in order to grow stronger is mutual understanding and honest communication.

If they don’t even try to understand you, if they refuse to communicate or they avoid any kind of direct confrontation, your relationship needs some real work. Try to discuss this with them and point out what you think is a mistake.

2. HE’S PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE

I’ve never understood why people would rather hide their pain away and bottle their feelings instead of opening up and try communicating about the root of their problems.

However, it’s still a very common behavior for most of us. Some people tend to withdraw to avoid conflict by repressing their anger, but then there are some who use their silence as a way to punish their partners. If this is happening to you, don’t hesitate to talk things through. Approach them in a calm manner and try to get to the root of the problem.

3. HE DOESN’T WANT TO EXPRESS HIS EMOTIONS

If you catch yourself that you’re walking on eggshells trying to decipher your partner’s emotions, it is clear that the communication is simply not there. A couple who doesn’t work on their connection and intimacy is doomed from the very start. Love isn’t about wondering whether the person next to you wants you. It is about being completely honest with yourself and them.  

4. HE HAS CONSTANT MOOD SWINGS AND ANGRY OUTBURSTS

If anger has become a part of your relationship, that is the first red flag. The only way this can be eliminated is through communication, but if you two can’t seem to meet each other halfway, then the problem is even bigger than you thought.

Anger can be manifested as sarcasm, and sarcasm can be very harmful to the relationship. Especially if you two have some unresolved issues. If you see that your partner is expressing his anger in unacceptable ways and they have constant mood swings, it’s better for you to rethink where your relationship is going.

5. HE’S HERE, BUT HE MAKES YOU FEEL LONELY

A good, honest and healthy relationship isn’t supposed to make you feel lonely. It’s supposed to lift you up, help you fly even higher and become the best version of yourself. So, if this is how you’re feeling lately, maybe you need to start working on your communication. Does your partner avoid confronting you? And if they do, is there any reason why is that happening to you?

Don’t avoid these questions. You need to work as a team and communicate your problems, differences, and visions in a productive manner. Unresolved issues will never work out on its own, repressed anger will never fade away unless you treat it. Remember that.

A Woman Who Seems Hard To Love Is A Woman Worth Holding Onto – Remember That!

By
Stephanie Reeds

No, she’s not demanding, difficult, mean or overly-attached.

And no, she’s not naive for believing in love.

She might seem like she’s hard to love, but that is only because she’s the type of girl who knows exactly what she needs and never settles for less than the real thing.

No one can ever change that.

You see, for her, love is the only thing worth fighting for. For her, love is everything. It’s what makes this cruel world a better place. It’s what helps us humans become more aware of our existence and kinder to everyone around us.

So, hear me out.

This girl might seem like she’s too difficult to love, she might seem like she’s too complicated and overprotective, but it is her complexity that makes her who she really is. The best thing that ever happened to you.

You may not see it now, but this woman is worth holding onto. Don’t be mistaken by her overprotective behavior. She’s just a vulnerable soul who has already been through a lot. She needs to find a way to protect herself. Otherwise, she’ll suffer again.

She’s terrified of what the world has become today. She’s scared to love again. She’s afraid to open up and reveal her secrets and her deepest emotions to you.

That is why you need to help her. You need to be patient and tolerant with her even if it is too hard. Because it’s exactly those last moments that will reveal to her just how much you’re willing to put up with to keep her.

A woman who seems hard to love is a woman worth holding onto, believe me.

Because this woman will challenge you. She will improve your life and help you rise above the ordinary. She won’t always make life easy for you, but she will help you grow.

This woman will always fight for your love. Once she sees that you’re the one for her and once you’ve earned her trust, she’ll be on your side forever. She will make a promise to be in it for the long run, no matter how hard life gets.

This woman will take her time before she opens up. It will take a while before she’s finally free and comfortable to be who she is in front of you. But, when she finally lets you in, you’ll get to share your whole lives together.

This woman will always be loyal. No matter where life takes you and no matter how difficult it gets, once you show her that all of this is for real, she’ll give her heart and soul to you.

This woman has already dealt with enough bulls*it in life. That is why she’s too cautious. It will be difficult for you to win her affection because she carries her pain deep inside and all she wants from you is your patience.

Once you make her feel like home and give her the time she needs, she’ll inspire such emotional vulnerability in you that you’ll be surprised by your own deep feelings.

She might be tough to love. Breaking the walls around her might be the hardest thing you’ve ever done, but believe me, once you get to her and earn her trust, it will all be worth it.

Hold onto her. I promise you, this decision will be the best thing you’ve ever done for yourself.

8 Sure Signs That Prove You’re Getting Over Your Narcissistic Ex

By
Riley Cooper

Breakups are an unpleasant and hard experience, but surviving a relationship with a narcissist is even harder. Dating a narcissistic person is draining. It’s painful. It feels like you’re trapped in a huge black hole with no way out.

Besides having a self-inflated image of themselves, narcissists possess highly developed manipulation skills. They’ll put on a pleasant, kind, loving face and shower you with affection and compliments so as to make you fall in love with them. But once they lure you into their trap, their manipulation games won’t stop. In fact, that’s the point where the real nightmare begins.

These emotionally unavailable, inconsiderate, conceited people will make you feel like you’re on an emotional rollercoaster. They’ll make you feel inferior to and less important than them so as to boost their ego. They’ll make you seek their approval and depend on them. They’ll even make you disregard your own feelings and needs and doubt your logic and sanity.

So, if you’ve been in such draining, detrimental, unbearable relationship, but somehow managed to escape their toxic trap, let me congratulate you. You were really lucky.

Here are 8 signs you’re finally out of the toxic relationship and you’re getting over your narcissistic a**hole of an ex:

1. You easily detect false flattery.

You’re no longer fooled by sweet words and compliments. You’re no longer fooled by fake kindness and smile. You don’t allow to be manipulated by false flattery.

Now you’re wiser and aware that fake, dishonest people hide their true colors and wicked intentions behind compliments they don’t mean and grandiose promises they never intend to keep. Now, you’re able to tell when a person is genuine and completely honest with you.

2. You don’t want to contact them anymore.

You’re no longer making excuses for their lies, broken promises, and insults. You’re no longer trying to justify the way they treated you. After the breakup, it was hard for you at the beginning to resist the desire to call or text them, but now you no longer feel the urge to communicate with them. This is a sure sign you’re getting over and leaving them in your past.

3. You ignore their attempts to contact you as well.

When your narcissistic a**hole of an ex tries to crawl back into your life, you don’t feel desperate to accept them with open arms. You’re aware that they’re willing to do anything they can to lure you into their dangerous trap and therefore you maintain distance from them.

Whenever you see their name on your phone screen or their message pops up in your inbox on Facebook, you don’t feel the intense need to respond because they’re history. Yes, you’re definitively over them.

4. You’re flourishing in life without their control.

While you were in the relationship, the only thing you cared about was to take care of their needs and make them happy. But, now that you’re finally out of that vile, toxic cycle, you’re able to regain control over your life.

You make your feelings, needs, and desires your main priority. You don’t modify your decisions and interests according to their preferences. You have a lot of time to focus on improving yourself both personally and professionally and pursuing your goals and dreams.

5. You have even started sharing your experience with others in similar situations.

This is a sure sign that not only have you regained your own sense of self and saved yourself from their wicked claws, but you have also begun helping others with similar experiences.

It’s important to you to help those people through their hard times and inspire them with your own experience to regain control over their life and move on.

6. Your overall health has improved.

While you were in the relationship, you were used to feeling stressed out and anxious all the time. The chances are all this had a detrimental effect on your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. But now that’s all gone.

You feel fresh, calm, and confident. Your mind is no longer struggling with doubts and negative thoughts. You no longer doubt your self-worth. You feel much better and finally, your gorgeous smile is back. Congratulations, you managed to heal on your own.

7. You don’t give a damn if they date someone else.

You don’t care about what’s going on in their life, and you definitely don’t give a damn about their relationship status. Stalking them on the social media is totally out of the question.

If you find out that they’re dating someone else, you won’t feel jealous, sad, or hurt. Hell, no! Instead, you’ll feel sorry for their poor new prey because you know what will happen to them soon. And one thing’s for sure – you’ll never be their victim again.

8. Your life is finally about you.

You know you’re over your narcissistic ex when you have found yourself. You’ve started taking things under your own control. You’re the one who decides how you’re going to spend the day, where you’ll go at the weekend, or whether you’ll eat fruit salad or burger for breakfast. You don’t let anyone dictate the course of your life.

You feel free to express your feelings and share your opinions with others. You’re living your life to the fullest.

Consumer Health Digest Review – Insights on Health & Wellness

By
Ana Miller

When you encounter a website review of evaluation, it is always from a professional point of view. However, each website was designed with only one purpose – to serve the visitors. At the end of the day, it is the visitors who determine the quality of a platform and whether it is worth browsing.

Today, we are offering a review of Consumer Health Digest, but in a way that may be a bit different. We put ourselves in the role of a visitor of their website and considered relevant stuff and crucial factors in deciding whether it is worth visiting again.

Homepage Review – The First Things You Notice

Unless a link from another website brought you to a particular page, the chances are that you started your visit from the homepage of the Consumer Health Digest. The first thing that you notice is that the design is simple and navigation is extremely easy. This makes browsing more manageable for those that are not adept at using PCs and the internet, but simplicity is also modern these days in web design, so the creators took the right approach here.

The homepage lists several article categories that we will mention below and provides easy access to the latest articles and chosen health topics. At the top of the page, you have a search bar that enables you to look for particular information while the footer is filled with links to policies and additional information about the authors and the website itself.

Health Center

The first section we visited is the Health Center, which offers various articles on health topics. These articles are written from the perspective of experts. The goal was to gather knowledgeable and experienced people from various industries, such as doctors, nutritionists, psychologists, and fitness coaches, and let them give their insights on a particular topic.

You can choose between the health and wellness category, which offers various sections like dental health, bone health, depression, sex and love, joint pain, and so on, as well as a separate beauty and skincare category and an area completely focused on issues related to men’s and women’s health, such as prostate, menopause, and pregnancy. (1)

Finally, you can also check out the sections with frequently asked questions about some important health issues, such as sexual health, weight loss, and even wrinkle and lash care.

Health Conditions

The next area of the website offers detailed information on particular health conditions and diseases. We haven’t counted, but we believe that there are more than a hundred in-depth articles on various topics. For the purpose of the review, we selected arthritis.

Once we opened the article, we realized that there are tons of information available on this condition. Apart from general information on causes, signs, symptoms, and risk factors, you can also read about various types of the disease, as well as how to prevent, diagnose, and treat it. In short, all relevant information is covered for each condition described and these articles are a real gem for those that want to educate on a particular health topic.

Health News

This section is quite interesting as it contains the latest news in the health industry. The writing and editing team follow all the latest research and events and write intriguing and relevant articles on various topics. You can read some new expert tips and tricks on how to boost your health, but you can also check some interesting statistics and findings of the scientists. The news articles are interesting and that is essential for this type of content.

Health Product Reviews

One of the most comprehensive section is the area with reviews on health supplements and other products. Just like the remainder of the website, the reviews are evidence-based and fact-checked so that the content offered to users has high value. Everything remains unbiased and no one can influence the quality and accuracy of the content published in the reviews.

Consumer Health Digest offers numerous different reviews, which is why they have an easy navigation menu specially designed for this section. Whether you are looking for a product alphabetically or by its intended purpose, you will probably be able to find the desired review or check out the best supplements and products in the area where you could use a health boost.

Not only they extensively cover a vast number of products, but the website ensures to explain the process of reviewing to the visitors, which supports the transparency of the entire platform and their unbiasedness.

Final Verdict

At the end of the day, the visitor can find great value in Consumer Health Digest. As you could see, there are plenty of useful articles, news, and reviews to read. New content is regularly published on the website, which is another reason why this platform is worth visiting regularly. We suggest heading there right away as we have no doubt that you will be thrilled with the quality of the website and soon become one of more than a million of people that visit the platform every month.

8 Clear Signs He’s Completely In Love With You, Even If He Doesn’t Say It Out Loud

By
Riley Cooper

There’s nothing more fulfilling and magical than when you hear those three powerful words I love you, especially when they’re honestly uttered by the person you love the most. Yet, when it comes to men and dating, reading their mind can be a tricky thing. Unlike women, most men aren’t that vocal about their feelings.

That’s why women often feel confused about and may even doubt their guy’s feelings for them. But, just because men don’t talk about love or say I love you as often as we do, it doesn’t mean they’re unable to love. The truth is, to men, it’s actions that matter, not words.

Here is how your man shows he’s completely in love with you:

1. He accepts you the way you are.

This man loves and cherishes you the way you are. He knows all your quirks, annoying habits, and insecurities, but he never criticizes you for them or makes you feel unimportant. He knows that they make the person you are – the person that means the world to him.

This man makes you feel comfortable in your own skin and reminds you of your worth.

2. He listens to you.

When you talk, he gives your words his full attention. He is not just physically present there, nodding his head, while his mind is wandering off elsewhere. Instead, he patiently listens to you.

Whether you’re complaining about your friend or talk about how stressful your day was at work, he listens to you attentively because your opinions, ideas, and problems matter to him.

3. He’s willing to make sacrifices for you.

You’re the person he loves the most. That’s why he’s more than willing to make sacrifices so as to make you feel happy and show how much you mean to him.  

The thought of you being unhappy terrifies him. And if there’s something he can do to prevent this, he will do it– never doubt that. This man is always ready to sacrifice his time, temporary needs, and even his own happiness if need be so as to make you feel happy and fulfilled.

4. He shows his vulnerable sides.

He doesn’t think that showing his vulnerabilities will make him feel emasculated and look weak.  He’s not ashamed or afraid to show his soft side and feelings for you.

This man lets his guard down in your presence. He talks to you about his weaknesses, insecurities, and deepest fears. This shows that he fully trusts you and feels he can be himself when he’s around you.

5. He loves how you look on your worst days.

 

The man who is completely in love with you will always find you beautiful and sexy. Whether you’re not wearing any make-up, or having an awful hair day, or your shirt is stained, you always look irresistible to him.

He likes it and it flatters him when you make an effort to look your best, but you should know that he loves the woman who is beneath all that make-up, fancy hairstyle, and pretty clothes.

6. He protects you.

This man always has your back. He goes out of his way to make you feel safe and protected and he does everything he can to keep that smile of yours always shine.

He never lets anyone insult and belittle you, and hurt your feelings in his presence. But, most importantly, he’ll never allow himself to be the reason for your sadness.

7. He respects your loved ones.

You know your man truly loves you when he treats your family and friends with respect. He knows how much they are important to you and therefore he treats them with kindness and dignity.

Although he might not really like your nosy cousin, he’ll keep his opinion to himself and he’ll never pick up a fight with or disrespect them. This man does his best to get on well with your friends and family because he knows that means a lot to you and makes you happy.

8. He is proud of you.

He’s proud of everything you are and everything you do. He knows how hard you work to achieve the things you want in life. He’s proud of all your successes, whether they’re related to your career or personal life.

He’s fascinated by your energy and determination to always work on yourself and create a better life for yourself.

And by bettering yourself, you inspire him to believe in himself, pursue his goals and passions, and achieve success in all aspects of life.

This is how the man who is truly and madly in love with you shows his love for you.

This Is Why You Should Embrace Negativity In Life

By
Riley Cooper

My grandma often tells people: “Get on with life.” When we’re faced with a complex, grave problem, she doesn’t think we should try to ‘deal with it’. Do you wonder why she thinks so?

Well, the reason is simple. Dealing with a problem means resolving and removing it completely. Yet, there are many issues that can’t be done away with like that. We are all vulnerable, grow old, fall ill, and eventually die. There’s no way you can just “deal with” these things in that sense of the word.

However, you can certainly get on with life, i.e. accept your problems and learn how to live with them. Because not all problems have solutions. Not all miseries have an end. Not everything can be changed or turned into happiness. Because that’s how things really are.

That’s the reality. And it’s always better and more desirable to face it as it is than “live in a fool’s paradise,” as my grandma says.

I know all this sounds harsh, maybe even pessimistic, but trust me, it’s not my intention to make you feel sad or hopeless.

The thing is, our culture glorifies and embraces positivity. When we’re faced with difficult challenges or problems, be that health, emotional, family, or financial, we’re constantly told to think positively, change our attitudes, and look on the bright side. Sounds familiar, right?

It’s incredible how many motivational coaches and psychologists tell us how and why we should think positively. They advise you to be enthusiastic, visionary, and of course, dream big because all this leads to optimization of life and all sorts of development.

Moreover, our culture’s fascination with positivity has even reached the point where people who suffer from serious illnesses are expected to “learn from their condition” and come out of all this stronger.

This idea is discussed in innumerable self-help books and memoirs by people with both mental and physical illness, especially famous ones, that talk about how glad they are they went through a crisis since they learned so much from it.

But, do things really function in the real world as it is presented in all these self-help books and memoirs? Is it really possible to see problems and illnesses as just “interesting challenges”?

Hm, I find that hard to believe. Frankly, it seems to me that this is actually avoiding reality.

The truth is, telling a seriously ill person to look on the bright side is the most insensitive and offensive thing you can ever say to them. I mean, it’s not like this person doesn’t want to be happy and put an end to their misery. Most probably, they’re struggling to find something worthy to live for that will give them the hope to get out of bed in the morning.

It’s true, too, that only a few people would admit and say out loud that their illness has been terrible from start to finish and they’d rather not have had to deal with it.

I’m sure many will agree that the phenomenon of positivity seems delusional and illogical. That’s why this ‘tyranny of the positive’ should be eliminated completely and we should embrace the negative instead.

But, don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that you should have a pessimistic attitude towards life and lose hope, but if you focus on the negative in your life, this will make you better prepared to stand firm right where you are.

Embracing the negative aspects of life has multiple advantages. First of all, it enables you to think and speak freely. In fact, many people like a good moan. “The taxes have been upped again,” or “Oh, no, is that a grey hair?” are just some of the innumerable things we complain about.

Of course, complaining about anything and anyone won’t help you solve your problems or bring any positive change, but it certainly makes life more manageable. And if you’re not allowed to vent, can you imagine how frustrating this would be?

Secondly, by focusing on the negative, you start the first phase in dealing with problems. Perhaps you can’t do a lot to improve the weather on Sunday afternoon, but if you only focus on the positive things, let’s say at your work, and never have the chance to talk about the bad conditions and collaboration you have to endure every day, you’ll end up feeling angry and frustrated.

Thirdly, thinking about the negative things that may happen to you, and will inevitably happen to you, will make you appreciate more the life you’re living now, including in times of crisis.

For example, death is a concept that terrifies most of us and we rarely talk about it. We tend to think about it as something that will happen in the distant future. But, if you come to terms with the fact that fortune can take away the people you love the most without a warning, this will undoubtedly make you love what you have in the short time you have it.

The point is, focusing on the negative doesn’t mean that you have to have a pessimistic attitude to the world. Instead, it means that you’re able to accept reality.

Because you may be able to make some positive changes, but you will never eliminate the negative aspects of your life. Because they’re not always a product of your own personal inadequacies, lack of motivation, or pessimistic attitude, but of external circumstances over which you don’t have control.

You need to understand that you have the right to and you should criticize and complain about the bad things that happen in your life or in the life of others. Because if you’re always optimistic and positive, imagine how shocked and disappointed you’d be when things go wrong for you.

Last but not the least, you need to understand that embracing the negative enables you to face future adversities more prepared, but most importantly, it helps you face reality and stand firm on your own ground.

This Is The Real Reason Why More And More Women Don’t Want To Settle And Get Married

By
Stephanie Reeds

Marriage is an important and a big step in anyone’s life, but it seems that nowadays, the reality is completely different. Women are getting married less and less. More and more people refuse to settle down simply because that’s ‘the right thing to do’ and they continue their journey on their own.

As years go by, and society changes, not all women dream of getting married and settling down. Not all of them see marriage as the final destination in life. Most of them out there have realized that getting married isn’t a bare necessity after all. They’ve realized that chasing their dreams and waiting for the real thing is the best thing you can do for yourself.

There are many reasons behind this.

Here are some of them:

1. IT’S VERY HARD TO FIND MEN WHO ARE WORTH THEIR TIME

There just aren’t as many worthwhile guys anymore. Men of high caliber are no longer real. Their time has passed, and the few of them left are very hard to find. With the increased joblessness and the lack of real values, there are far more immature deadbeats than actual men worth giving a shot.

2. MARRIAGE IS SIMPLY OUTDATED

On the other hand, marriage is an old concept. For thousands of years, marriage was a tradition that was followed for economical and pragmatic reasons instead of love. It was the best way for people to settle down, find a rich partner, procreate and exist in that unity until they die. It was the most important milestone in a person’s life.

However, nowadays that’s no longer the case. Marriage is outdated, and most women are not afraid to acknowledge that.

3. MEN ARE OFTEN INTIMIDATED BY SUCCESSFUL AND STRONG WOMEN

You have to admit it, especially if you’re a man who respects and empowers women’s movement. Most men don’t like it when they feel that their masculinity and their dominant patriarch position is threatened in any way. They simply cannot handle being with a woman who is stronger and more successful than them. Therefore, you can imagine why it is hard for women to find someone who isn’t afraid of being around a self-confident and self-sufficient woman.

4. HOOKING UP IS BECOMING A TREND

Let’s get real folks. Romance has gone to hell. Modern dating is practically based on Facebook notifications and direct messages. Apps like Tinder are uncontrollably spreading like a virus. No one has the time to focus and commit to a serious relationship, because casual hanging is becoming a trend.

5. MARRIAGE ISN’T NECESSARY FOR WOMEN TO BECOME MOTHERS

Forty percent of babies are born to single moms. On the other hand, with technology rising and science making its breakthroughs, you don’t even need a man to have a baby. Marriage is no longer necessary for women to have children. As a result, the stigma of being a single mom slowly decreases.

6. WOMEN HAVE BECOME THE PERSON THEY EVENTUALLY WANT TO MARRY

Women are no longer the fairer, weaker gender. They don’t need saving, nor protecting. They don’t need a knight in a shining armor, and they don’t want a prince charming. They’ve risen above the stereotype and they will continue to rise.

7. THEIR DREAMS BECAME THEIR PRIORITY

It’s simple, most of the women out there finally realized that they should always value themselves before others. Some of them realized that chasing their dreams and working hard on themselves will always be a priority in their lives. Marriage is not their goal. Their career and their deepest dreams come above everything else.

I’m Not Looking For A Knight On A White Horse – I Want A Man Who Will Love Me

By
Stephanie Reeds

I feel like if one more person says that my knight in silver armor will eventually find me, I’m going to lose it.

Look, it’s truly nice to fantasize about your Prince Charming, but reality doesn’t work that way. No one is going to come to your bed, give you a kiss and suddenly wake you up from your misery. No one is going to knock on your door and immediately make you the happiest person alive.

I’m pretty sure life doesn’t work that way. I’m sorry Disney. You were the most favorite part of my childhood, you taught me to always believe in love, but those unrealistic presentations of how our dream person should look like are simply too much.

I don’t want a knight in a shining armor, I’m not even looking for a Prince Charming that will sweep me off my feet and take me to Neverland.

I just want a guy who won’t be afraid to love me. Someone who would feel free to open his heart and let me love him with all of my being. Someone who will reveal to me every little secret that his mind carries. Someone who won’t make me wonder whether he’s into me or not. Someone who will be clear about his intentions.

I want a guy who will be 100% honest. A man who will be comfortable and confident enough to tell me the truth, even if it hurts too f*cking much. Someone who won’t let me waste my time on something that’s going nowhere. Someone who will never dare to sugarcoat the truth for me. Someone who would rather make me cry by telling me the truth than keep lying to my face.

I want a man who will care for me more than the physical stuff. Someone who will appreciate chemistry as much as I do. Someone who will keep those sparks alive. Someone who will make sure the fire between us burns brighter and brighter each day. More importantly, I want someone who will love me more than anything even after those butterflies are long gone.

I want a man who will know exactly where he stands. Someone who has a clear vision of where he’s headed in life. Someone who will motivate me to work even harder. A person who will inspire me to grow. A man who will support me every step of the way.

I want a man who will simply want to be with me, someone who will actually want me. I don’t need a make-believe relationship. I don’t want to settle. I want to grow and challenge myself. I want to be chosen each and every day all over again. I want to be loved completely, intensely, madly, fiercely.

So, tell me… Is that too much to ask?

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