Everyone knows that the most important thing for our spiritual and emotional growth is being surrounded by a healthy number of great people, or, as we like to call them, friends. 

However, no matter how many people crossed your life for some deep cosmic reason, nothing can beat that one special human who’s been there through your best as well as worst days and loves you every second of your existence.

These weirdos are our life mates and bestest of friends. They are the people we’re most comfortable with doing the following socially awkward but kind of acceptable things:

1. You are brutally honest with each other

You have no problem telling it like it really is. And that’s the most important reason why you love and respect each other the most. Even if it’s a small thing like going shopping and telling your gal pal that the dress she chose makes her thighs look big, being 100% honest is what matters the most. You totally respect each other’s opinions and don’t get offended.

2. You walk into each other’s houses like you’re home

You live in separate houses, but it’s as if you two are practically roomies. You have no problem walking into your bestie’s house like it’s your own. Their parents refer to you as their third daughter and love to have you over.

So, it doesn’t matter if your friend is stuck in traffic trying to get home, you never refuse a friendly gossipy chit-chat with her mother while you wait for her to arrive. It’s like your second home after all.

3. You constantly use each other’s belongings without the need for permission

A very important part of your long-lasting friendship includes borrowing each other’s stuff without asking. Heck, you even bought clothes you’ve agreed to share. What’s mine is yours and what’s yours is mine, am I right?

4. Ugly snaps are your daily routine

Your mornings include coffee first, ugly snapchats second. Is there a better start than that? Between the two of you, you know it all. You’ve seen the ugliest, worst versions of yourselves and wondered how you’ve even got boyfriends.  So, the more googly eyes and double chins, the merrier.

5. You enjoy each other’s company when indulging in fast foods

Because there’s nothing like binge-eating pizza and brownies on a Friday night at home with who else if not your best friend. Sure, once in a while you’ll motivate each other by practicing healthier choices, but there is something magical about indulging in those guilty pleasures with your loved one.

6. You have no problem sharing info about your bodily functions and odd symptoms

Let’s just say that if there was another person listening to your intimate conversations, they’d be totally grossed out. But not you two. When it comes down to sex positions, gyno bits of advice, odd health symptoms and the grossest of facts, you two are the best at it. But then again, that’s what best friends are for.

7. You screenshot the hell out of your social media accounts

As a high-quality bestie, one of your high-priority tasks includes detecting suspicious activities on Facebook or Instagram that might concern your girl, digging up the evidence, documenting them through screenshots and sending them to her ASAP!

 8. You over-analyze each other’s behavior and actions on a daily basis

A best friend is here for the honesty and stability as well as the over-analysis of trivialities on a daily basis. “Do you think I should tell him?”, “What does he mean by that?” are some of those questions that are often subjected to an explicit never-ending elaboration between you two.

9. You’ve been dragging their drunken butt home since middle school

How many times have you walked out of a party feeling totally hammered? I’m guessing too many. Luckily for you, there was ‘Her Highness Bestie’ to save the day and get you all sobered up before she puts you to bed. Partners in crime, always and forever!

 10. You call each other names

…Which most of the time doesn’t include endearing and lovely adjectives, but deep inside your heart you know that they are purely out of love. You really know how to get on your creative side when it comes down to nicknames.

11. You change clothes in front of each other

You have no problem changing in front of her, walking with barely anything on or using the shower without the curtain on. She basically saw you in the nude, so it’s safe to say that she saw even more of you than your current boyfriend.

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There comes a time in every long-term relationship where you will inevitably find asking yourself whether the woman by your side is really the woman that you should spend the rest of your life with.

Scientists have been researching the matters of love for decades trying to understand what makes people stay together and what qualities a person should have to make their relationship a lasting and happy one.

To help you with your questions, we have compiled 12 qualities approved by scientists that show you have found the one that will make the rest of your life beautiful.

1. SHE HAS A POSITIVE OUTLOOK ON LIFE

Does your girlfriend always see the glass as half full? If she does, you have found yourself a keeper. Because, even if you sometimes can’t stand her naïve optimism, the truth is, negative people are those who are bad and toxic for our well-being, and her positivity can truly enlighten your life.

Moreover, the more you spend time with negative people, the more negative you’ll become. This is according to a research paper written by the psychologist Elaine Hatfield. She finds that the internalized negativity can increase our heart rate, lower our concentration levels, and impede our digestion.

2. SHE IS SMARTER THAN YOU

When you are searching for your dream woman, make sure that she is as smart as you, or ideally look for one that is smarter than you.

Lawrence Whalley, a professor at the University of Aberdeen, who has been analyzing dementia for years, found that having a smart woman by your side can protect you from dementia in the future.

“The thing a boy is never told he needs to do if he wants to live a longer life — but what he should do — is marry an intelligent woman. There is no better buffer than intelligence,” he advises.

This is because a smart woman will always challenge you intellectually, which is excellent for keeping your mental faculties sharp at all time.

3. SHE HAS AN OPEN HEART

Having a woman who shines brightly in the public and easily makes herself being heard in a group will make your life easier.

According to a study from the Westminster’s University, open-hearted people that often reveal personal details about them are perceived as more attractive. Having an open heart is an important quality because people often judge open-hearted people as generally more beautiful and handsome.

4. SHE LAUGHS AT YOUR JOKES

The truth is, we all want someone that will brighten our day with a joke or two and laughs at our jokes. Because life is hard as it is.

A study from 2006 conducted by psychologists from Westfield State University discovered that having someone who can laugh at their jokes and thinks they’re funny is more essential for men than for women.

So, if you already have a woman that laughs with you – never let her go!

5. SHE IS HONEST

As cliché as it is – nobody is perfect. Everyone is guilty of making the wrong decisions sometimes. That’s why it is very important to have someone that will honestly tell you when you’re on the wrong path.

Moreover, studies have proved that men who want to build a long-term committed relationship are looking for an honest partner. If you already have an honest woman in your life, take a good care of her.

6. SHE DOESN’T BEAR GRUDGES

When your woman can easily forgive others, you can be sure that she’ll be with you for a long time. Because being able to forgive is a trait that is crucial for having a healthy relationship.

Moreover, one study conducted at the Luther College, the Duke University, and the Harvard Divinity School proved that people who are able to forgive others unconditionally live longer.

If your woman is forgiving, never let her go because she will make your life better.

7. SHE COMPROMISES

Every relationship has its ups and downs. However, a healthy relationship is a relationship when one or both partners is willing to compromise for the sake of the relationship.

UCLA psychologists who worked with married couples concluded that it is easy to stay committed to your partner when all is going well in your relationship. The key is to be able to make changes and sacrifices, and take the steps needed to make your relationship work when things are bad.

Only those who are willing to make compromises will have a long, happy and healthy relationship.

8. SHE IS KIND AND GENEROUS

Generosity and kindness are the keys for having a healthy and happy relationship. John Gottmann, a psychologist from the University of Washington, has identified 2 types of couples – MASTERS and DISASTERS.

The Disasters, as he calls them, are those couples who break up in the first years of the relationship. The Masters, on the other hand, stay together for a very long time, and they all have one thing in common – they are thankful for everything they have, they respect their partner and show genuine appreciation for them.  

9. SHE REMAINS CALM IN FIGHTS AND CALMS YOU DOWN TOO

Fights are something that is happening in every stable and healthy relationship. However, the important thing is how you handle them and what you do to solve the disagreements.

Researchers from the Berkeley and Northwest University in California found that the key to a lasting relationship is the woman’s ability to remain calm during fights. In turn, her emotions will transfer on the man, and he will soon calm himself down too.

This doesn’t work the opposite way – when the man is the first one to calm down.

10. SHE HAS A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH HER PARENTS

If you are curious to know what your relationship with your partner would be like in 20 or 30 years and how they will treat you – observe the relationship they have with their parents.

Researchers from the Alberta University interviewed 2970 people and discovered a clear link between their relationship with their parents in their teenage years and their future love relationships.

However, this doesn’t mean that the relationship that your partner has with their parents has to be perfect. The key here is understanding and being aware of their behavior and their willingness to contribute for bettering the relationship with their parents.

11. SHE DOES FOOLISH THINGS WITH YOU

If you found someone who is willing to stay up late partying and drinking with you – never let her go.

A study of the Michigan University which included 4864 married couples found that the happiest among them were those who regularly drank alcohol together. This doesn’t mean that you should be alcoholics to be happy, but it means that couples who do fun things together – stay together.

12. SHE SUPPORTS YOUR GOALS AND PURSUES HER OWN

There is a myth that men tend to marry weak women because they need to feel stronger and masculine. However, this is not the case. Statistics have proven that well-educated and successful women get married just as much as others.

A study from the University of British Columbia has found that having a smart and strong woman by your side will make you more successful and motivate you to achieve your goals. Plus, she won’t depend on you and she won’t need your constant support and validation.

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1. A real high-quality bestie will never allow themselves to judge you. They’ve known you since you two were building castles in the dirt, they’ve been through thick and thin since day one and will remain your partner in crime for life.

No matter how ‘knee-deep in mud’ you sometimes might end up, they’ll be always there to give you a hand without even questioning how in the world you managed to get there in the first place.

2.They will never get bored of listening to your constant babbling. Actually, there might be times when they’ve had it with your love problems and life hacks about how you’ve planned the perfect revenge on your ex, but a real friend will always be there to listen to your nonsense no matter how irrational you might sometimes sound.  They will always be your ride-or-die partner!

3. You know you’ve got yourself a keeper bestie when they’ve waited for you all night long to come back from the date with your crush and call you at 3 am for you to fill them up on the talk as well as the juicy details.

4. You feel absolutely free asking them extremely personal and intimate questions about their sex life or their waxing techniques only to figure out how ‘normal’ you are. They are here to advise you on every topic that you’re interested in, no matter how ‘icky’ it might be.

5. Whenever you need an honest opinion on some matter, they find a perfect way to express it. Even if you didn’t ask for one, they will always make sure to let you know if you’re right or wrong. A real bestie will tell you nothing but the truth no matter how cruel it is, but at the same time will be highly considerate of your feelings.

6. They know your heart’s desires and know what cheers you up the most. Every time you feel the ‘blues’ they are the first person to come over with a carton of chocolate-chip-cookie flavored ice cream and your favorite hilarious comedy that cracks the two of you up.

7. There’s no such thing as “I don’t feel like celebrating my 20^th this year!” When it comes down to your birthday, it’s parteeey all the way. They would never let your big day pass without first making a big deal out of it. You can just sit and enjoy, they’ve got it all covered, from glittery birthday hats, homemade cake, all to a big surprise party in your honor.

8. You know in your heart that no matter what happens, a best friend will always have your back. They’ll genuinely and sincerely explain to you the things you did wrong but will never stab your back when you least expect it. A real partner-in-crime bestie will never put you down in front of others, on the contrary, they’ll do their best to protect you.

9. You don’t need a permission to borrow their hot new dress, walk in your undies whenever you have the chance, or even use their Facebook to stalk the hell out of everyone.

10. Whatever you two do, or “wherever you may roam”, there’s no way on Earth you’ll end up bored stiff. Even if it’s a pajama-slippers midnight kind of stroll in your neighborhood, you sure know how to make a fun time.

She is your sister, soulmate and a travel buddy all at once and no matter where you’re headed, you know how to always make the best of it!

11. You can cry your heart out in front of them, without feeling embarrassed and pathetic. They’ll be sitting in front of you with a box of hankies and comfort food.

12. One of the most important hallmarks of a lifelong friendship is knowing that our friendship with that significant person makes us bloom and grow in ways we couldn’t imagine.

There’s a saying that goes: “You are who you hang out with”, and taken from personal experience, it’s 100% accurate. Our best friends are our life companions as well as our role models. A high-quality friend is measured by their ability and willingness to bring out the best in us.

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