Psychologists Kristin Joy and Timothy Jay say that people who regularly swear are more likely to be smarter than those who don’t swear. Moreover, they are more honest and more fluent in mundane words.
Ever since we were growing up, we were told that swearing is bad. Swearing is still seen as a rude and inappropriate thing nowadays, and we are taught to be careful to not swear, especially not in public.
There is still a social stereotype that sees those who curse and swear as uneducated and ignorant. However, this is not true according to one psychological study. It seems that potty mouths are a lot smarter than you think.
Many people would listen to a person swearing, and they will assume that he/she doesn’t know how to express properly with words because he/she lacks intelligence and education.
However, psychologists Kristin Joy from Marist College and Timothy Jay from Massachusetts College of Liberal Arts disagree with this assumption.
In their study, they found out that people who use a lot swear words are actually more fluent in neutral, mundane words.
‘People who use taboo words understand their general expressive content as well as nuanced distinctions that must be drawn to use slurs appropriately,’ the researchers wrote. ‘The ability to make nuanced distinction indicates the presence of more rather than less linguistic knowledge.’
Moreover, they conducted a Facebook study in which they analyzed over 1,000 facebook statuses which contained curse words in them. They found a direct correlation between the use of swear words and honesty. Meaning, those who used curse words in their statuses were more honest in expressing their opinions.
Plus, researchers found that people who cursed regularly were more comfortable expressing their feelings and thoughts thus being more genuine as opposed to those who didn’t curse and were seen as reserved.
Even more so, in criminal cases when suspects were interrogated, studies have found that those who were innocent were more likely to curse. Guilty ones, on the other hand, were trying to mask themselves and remain calm.
All in all, swearing is not a bad thing! Next time, when someone accuses you of being inappropriate when slipping some F-words – you tell them that you are not inappropriate but honest and smart! You have the science to back you up.
Rather than dealing exasperating issues of relationships and marriage, women are turning to a new industry of companionship. This industry sells the whole boyfriend experience, and single women are buying it.
Japanese women for the first time in history are rejecting the idea of relationships and marriage. The reason may be that today more than ever women around the world are economically independent, and women from Japan are no exceptions.
Instead of dealing with relationship and marriage problems women decide to turn to new options for companionship. These modern services offer women to hire a man to get the whole relationship experience.
But, what is it missing from women’s life that would make them hire someone to act like their boyfriend? Why would they need him?
The truth is, even the most independent women can get lonely sometimes. Women from Japan now have an opportunity to hire ‘a Host’ and pay him to take them out on romantic dates, to watch movies with them, and cuddle all night long.
“The Host’s job is to make it seem like she is on a normal date. Like she is with a man she is not paying. We provide a dream,” says one such Host.
So, how much it costs to hire a boyfriend in Japan? The prices vary but are usually less than 100,000 yen (approximately $890) for a night.
A Host’s job is to provide women with extraordinary relationship experiences. They go out on a date, they talk, they can touch during the talk – but nothing sexual beyond that.
What are the industry’s strategies? They use the same sales techniques as any other businesses, and hosts are ranked based on sales.
Moreover, hosts are always finding new ways to remain and become more attractive to women. They exercise, often go to hair salons, massages, and things like that. Plus, they always research for new ways to make the women laugh.
One could ask: In a situation like that, who has the most power the woman or the man?
One host says: “Women pay the money. But we, as hosts, sell masculinity. So, we have to be more manly than the standard man. This is the only place where women pay for men, even as expensive as it is. So, the power balance shifts and it depends on the situation.”
And for Japanese women who don’t want a sexual relationship, but aren’t entirely satisfied with just hanging out with a guy and going on a date, there is a new place on the marked known as ‘Sheep boys’ where they can find emotional and physical intimacy.
The term “sheep boys” comes from people having ‘to count sheep’ to fall asleep. So in a way, they are providing women with a sense of comfort and security.
For those women who are willing to pay $100 per hour, they can hire a guy to come to their place and make them dinner, watch a movie with them, talk, and cuddle.
The service ranges from ‘short nap packages’ to ‘overnight sleepovers’ which can cost over a grand.
So, how these sleepovers usually start?
“At first we could relax and have something to drink while we introduce ourselves a little and maybe watch TV or something. Then we could lie down together… is the course of the service.”
Women often talk about the problems and fears they have which they can’t tell to anyone close.
The age of the women varies between 30-50, and they range from students and housewives to working ladies.
Many women nowadays feel like the traditional system of marriage is not for them. Their financial security and their independence further nourish their belief that they do not need a man in their life.
So, they are finding new easy ways to connect with people and fulfill their need for intimacy and connection.
What do you think about this trend in Japan? Do you agree with it?
These 5 horror movies on Netflix will make your blood run cold, and you probably would not be able to stomach them twice.
When it comes to horror movies, what really scares you? What makes your heart miss a beat? Perhaps, there are many things that make you cringe, but there are some classics on Netflix that are real gems when it comes to horror movies.
Some movies have one particular scene that sends shivers down your spine. Maybe it is a frightening jump, or violent death, or gross skin-peeling, you name it.
Here are 5 horror movies which have that terrifying element in them that will stay with you for days. If you are able to watch them more than once – congratulations! You are among the bravest.
1.STARRY EYES (2014)
This is honestly rather underrated film, and it includes all kinds of body horror that you can imagine. From nails and hair falling out to people slipping in blood pools – every gross thing that you can think of. Also, sex, ritual sacrifice, and rotting flesh are included.
This movie is considered as one of the most frightening horror movies of 2015. When you get an insight of the haunted house, you’ll be scared to death. By further leaning into it and a close look, you will realize that there isn’t anything similar that is as scary as this movie.
3. HONEYMOON (2015)
This movie comes from Mexico, in its original title as “Luna de Miel.’ In it, a woman is kidnapped by a sadistic doctor who plays tricks on her to make her believe that she is his wife, while also torturing her.
Even though it is not a good movie – it sure is disturbing as hell. And it is guaranteed that you won’t be able to watch it more than once. It is about a doctor who kidnaps people and surgically ties them butt to mouth to make a giant human centipede. Gross!
While “Cujo” is not one of the scariest movies that are out there-there is definitely something terrifying and disturbing, as well as sad, about it. Watching a movie about a lovely family’s dog that loses its mind and starts attacking its owners is not something that you would want to see a second time.
Women know what sacrifice means when it comes to relationships, marriage, family. They simply do not accept the idea that some things need to wait until tomorrow to be finished because they know just how much needs to be done every day.
They do so much that they are ready to take on the world if needed for their family, for the men they love, and for the children they live for. They love fiercely and sacrifice everything they have unconditionally. They are the heroes who quietly run the world.
And if you are one of these women, then we know how every morning feels and how the thoughts of whether you will make it through the day simply tear you apart. We know how little you are appreciated for your daily feats of heroism that so many take for granted.
But how much are you, dear husband, aware of this? And yes, it is very hard to know what you can do to help her out. Perhaps the most important thing you should always bear in mind that the path of living a life together means that everything should be done together to some extent.
Everyone has their own role in the relationship, but what you need each other most for is to help each other when you fall, to support each other and stand tall together, to hold each other and never let go, to give comfort when life is too difficult to bear.
And it is very easy to help your wife out – it is the simple things full of affection that matter the most. All she needs is for you to be more aware of her sacrifices and give her the support to endure all the toils that she is going through.
1. Be mindful of what she does
It does not matter if she goes to work or stays at home. What matters is whether you are aware of what she does during the day, how much her to-do list weighs on her shoulders, and what sacrifices she does for both of you. If you do not know, all you need to do is ask her. She will appreciate your interest in her daily activities and tasks.
2. Offer help BEFORE she burns out
It is a bit too late to get involved in the obligations when she breaks down because you should not allow for her to get to that stage. The best time to help her out is NOW.
3. Participate in your marriage actively
Marriage means that it takes two for everything involved in it. Parenting, running the household, making the marriage work – you should be aware that your involvement in your family life is paramount. Work is only a part of all that, and it is not an excuse to get away from chores, disciplining your children, or planning special nights for the two of you.
4. Let her talk and listen all the way through
Women like to get all their thoughts out to reset. And indeed, for a mind which is so preoccupied, getting one’s thoughts out is the best way to settle it and calm it down. Listen to her carefully, let her speak her problems and express their feelings, show empathy, ask questions. Engage yourself fully in the conversation.
5. You do not have to fix her problems
If she is complaining about her problems, all you need to do is listen. If she wanted solutions, she would ask for it.
6. Hold her tight
Give your kids some kind of preoccupation and go to your wife. Hold her, tell her how much you love her, give her all the affection you are feeling toward her and let her feel your love. Be her shoulder to cry on and the only comfort she will need in life.
7. Be the partner you were meant to be
Marriage is the moment when two individual lives become one life of two individuals. It means sharing that life together and carrying one another’s burdens. It means the support of one another when things get tough; it means being one another’s friend, confidant, and lover.
You are not roommates, or two random people living together. You are a union of two people who love each other and would do anything to see each other happy.
8. Fill her with hope
Hope is the force that drives us to do the impossible and always strive for a better tomorrow. Be her encouragement and lift her up. Help her to recognize the good in every situation. Do not be negative or critical. And when she hits rock bottom, be the one who will pull her up.
9. Make yourself useful
Instead of waiting to be asked to do something, try and look around the house to spot the things that need to be done. Do the washing up if you spot dirty dishes in the sink, fix whatever is broken. Learn to look around and find things that need to be done.
10. Give her a day all to herself
If she has to do everything she does every day, she will never have some time for herself. Make sure you take over at least one day a week and let her spend that day doing things she would love to do for herself.
She will love going to the beauty salon, getting a haircut, a manicure, pedicure, massage, and perhaps even going shopping for some new clothes. Do not wake her up, fill up the bathtub and add some nice scents; give her some alone time. Make her feel special that day and let her know it is her day.
11. Ask what you can do
If you see her burning out and do not know what to do about it, ask her. She will appreciate it a lot because she knows how much you love her. She loves you as well, and she appreciates every little and big thing you do for her.
Drowning in a submerged car is a nightmare people would like to see only in the movies. However, the reality is much more concerning than that. The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration reports that around 380 people drown each year in submersion type crashes. And if we added floods in this scenario, the number would jump even higher.
The main issue with this kind of accident is that the 911 services cannot respond quickly enough to save you from such scenario, and you need to take things into your hands and save yourself and your children as quickly as possible.
To get out of such situation, you need around 30 seconds, in which you need to react quickly and efficiently. 911’s training service PowerPhone has set out a protocol which every person in such situation should follow:
Seatbelt – Children – Window – OUT
1. Seatbelt
The first moment your car hits the water, unbuckle your seatbelt as quickly as possible.
2. Children
While you unbuckle your seatbelt, tell your older children to do the same. After you have unstrapped, undo your younger children’s seatbelts as quickly as possible.
3. Window
Open the window of the car. If you cannot open it, it is best to have a window-break tool at your side at all times and use it in such situations.
4. OUT
Once your window is open, you have very little time to get out, as water will start rushing in. Get your older children out through the window first, then take your younger ones and evacuate the car last.
All this should be done in under 30 seconds, as usually, the car needs around 30 seconds to sink. Do not go for any other alternative than getting out of the window as soon as possible.
Do not become another of the victims because you did not know what to do. Keep this knowledge in your head, and it may save your life once the inevitable happens.
These last two years have been a total storm for all of us. The news got from bad to worse by the day, and all we could do is read, listen, and weep. The truth is, we all care about the world we live in, and we all wish for a better one.
But how can we wish for a better world when the news is continuously traumatizing our minds with terrifying, tragic, disturbing, or plain brutal events? Like it is not enough that we have to deal with our everyday reality as it is – and then we get bombarded with the worst of the worst the moment we open our newsfeed.
Well, yes, there are so many bad things happening around us, but that does not have to mean that we have to feel destroyed by all that. Author and columnist Ann Douglas has created some powerful guidelines that will help you to avoid the psychological destruction by our newsfeed, and we felt that more people should read about it.
Make a distinction between being immersed and informed
Even if you feel like you need to know everything that is happening in the world, that does not mean that you have to obsess yourself over it 24/7. As Douglas says, “aim for a balanced media diet.” Take a break from all the information and do not forget to focus on the good news as well. In fact, focus more on the good news.
Do not disrupt your daily routines
No matter the reality, your life should not be affected so much that you start disrupting your routines. Habits are essential, as we are creatures that work best in the familiar. Give your body some the needed rest by sleeping adequately, eat healthily, exercise regularly, and do not forget to have fun.
Do not avoid your feelings and do not dwell on them
Either scenario makes for a devastating result on your psyche. Avoiding the negative emotions that should arise in response to the situation will leave you emotionally “flat,” because you will also shut off the positive feelings. Dwelling on those feelings will tie your mind up, and this will make you less able of solving the problem or connect with others. Instead, acknowledge the feelings that are natural to come and do not stick to them for too long, but act.
Do not be idle – take action
No matter how much the situation is out of your control, you can always act somehow. Anxiety is fueled by feeling powerless, and it is brought down by doing something about the situation. So, do something positive, however small, like writing a letter, making a donation, or attending a get-together in your town. Great change starts with small acts.
Be optimistic
Instead of obsessing yourself over what you cannot control, focus on what you can. You should bear in mind that obsessing over things you cannot control is a poison to the mind. Know that every cloud has a silver lining. Your job is to focus on maintaining positivity in your life. Spend some time with the people you love, do the things you enjoy, and the positivity that comes out of all that will give you the strength to create new possibilities.
Reach out and connect
You are not the only one concerned with whatever is going on. Many people share your concern, and connecting with them will open a window of opportunities in what you could do next. Especially be open to connect with people who may be going through an especially difficult time, like those that come from marginalized or vulnerable communities.
The main idea is that you should try to connect with the people around you and build bridges instead of walls. If you find yourself struggling, it is always good to reach out for support. Taking good care of yourself is especially important now.
Engage your children in discussions
Talk to your children and address their fears. It is also very important to spark their compassion in times like this, as you want them to become caring and compassionate people. Dream together of a better world and support their dreams. They are the future of our world, and instilling a vision of a better tomorrow in them is perhaps the most important factor to a more positive future.
Many mistake introverts’ silence as them being shy. However, introverts are quiet not because they are shy, but because they have many thoughts rushing through their heads. And their contemplative nature is actually their strength.
If there is one thing that is true for all introverts is that they are less wordy when expressing themselves as opposed to extroverts. And their silence in most of the time can be falsely interpreted as them being shy, naïve, or not smart enough to contribute to the conversation.
Introverts can often get so caught up in their thoughts that they do not pay notice to the amount of words they are saying. Everything is perfectly clear in their heads, although they are not aware that oftentimes they do not vocalize their thoughts.
So, why introverts are silent most of the time?
INTROVERTS MAY GO QUIET BECAUSE MANY THINGS ARE ON THEIR MIND.
Because of their quiet nature, introverts are often considered as meek, naïve, and mild-mannered people. However, this is not true. The truth is, introverts have way too many thoughts rushing through their head that they find it impossible to vocalize them all.
So, they would rather just nod along and smile kindly than engaging themselves in a lengthy and energy-consuming explanation. And therefore, when introverts say something sarcastic that counteracts with the falsely assumed image of their mild and meek nature, other people are left astonished and surprised.
Introverts hate being called sweet and fragile.
Others assume that because of their calm and quiet nature they are not able to defend themselves when someone even slightly teases them.
But, trust me – introverts won’t stay calm, and they would defend themselves when somebody offends them. Even though they don’t like conflicts and arguing, they will call out anyone who hurts their core beliefs and values.
They can stand for themselves and have a warrior side that they show only in certain situations.
It is like introverts have two personas inside them: one is kind and quiet, and the other is brisk and sarcastic, but realistic. Introverts show their real side only to those they are comfortable with.
They haven’t got the time nor the patience to stand idly by when someone is manipulative or wants to take advantage of their ‘meek’ nature. They may be introverts, but they are not doormats!
INTROVERTS’ CONTEMPLATING NATURE IS ACTUALLY THEIR STRENGTH.
No matter what your personality type is, being contemplative is one of the greatest traits that you could possess.
All contemplative people are strong because only strong people can perfectly know themselves and their minds and have a very cultivated sense of self. Those people can never be meek and fragile as they may seem at first sight.
Plus, introverts are just as fun and smart as extroverts! Don’t mistake their silence for being unable to dominate the conversation.
Finally, if you still believe that introverts are meek and mild – you are in for a lot of surprises!
Everyone is intelligent in their own way. And, of course, we all find ourselves to be intelligent because it is difficult to tell how smart we really are without being subjective to the matter. After all, we all sound smart in our own heads.
And we can all agree that intelligence is a fundamental trait in all areas of a person’s life; be it in a career, romantic relationships, friends, family matters, financial security, and so on – a smart and bright mind can be your greatest strength.
On the other hand, people who lack intelligence are more prone to have certain habits that out them and can be fatal for them in certain situations.
5 Habits That Differentiate Stupid People From Smart People:
1. Only Stupid People Have To Be Right All The Time
When it comes to dealing with conflict, intelligent people are able to empathize with their opposing partner and look at the situation from their point of view. They listen to their partner’s arguments and are open to changing their own opinion if needed.
Contrary, stupid people can argue forever and will not change their opinion even if the other person has very valid arguments. Plus, stupid people cannot notice when the other person happens to be more competent and more intelligent than them.
It happens when less competent people overestimate themselves and their abilities while underestimating the skills and the intelligence of others. This term was coined by the psychologists David Dunning and Justin Kruger in 1999. They noticed in their research studies that ignorance leads to confidence more than knowledge does.
According to Dunning: “If you’re incompetent, you can’t know you’re incompetent.… [T]he skills you need to produce a right answer are exactly the skills you need to recognize what a right answer is.”
However, this does not mean that intelligent people assume that everyone else is right. Intelligent people analyze the arguments first and try to be objective before deciding what is right and what is wrong.
2. Stupid People Blame Others For Their Own Mistakes
A smart, professional, and genuine person would never cast blame on somebody else for their own mistakes. A truly intelligent person is one who is responsible and takes their mistakes seriously.
Stupid people, on the other hand, are not able to take the blame for their mistakes. They prefer others to pity them rather than admit they made a mistake. And they would cast the responsibility for their mistakes to others whenever possible.
“It’s never a good idea to cast blame. Be accountable. If you had any role — no matter how small — in whatever went wrong, own it. The moment you start pointing fingers is the moment people start seeing you as someone who lacks accountability for his or her actions,” said Travis Bradberry, the author of the bestseller “Emotional Intelligence 2.0.”
Moreover, a neurological study conducted by Jason S. Moser found that the brain of intelligent people responds differently when dealing with mistakes. In other words, smart people tend to accept and learn from their mistakes which is not the case of less intelligent people.
3. Stupid People Ignore The Feelings And Needs Of Others
Intelligent people are empaths at heart. They do not dismiss the feelings and opinions of other people. This quality makes smart people able to understand different points of view and look at a situation from different angles.
Russel James, a professor at Texas Tech University, analyzed over 1,000 Americans and found out that smarter people were more likely to give something without expecting anything in return as opposed to less intelligent people. It turns out that intelligent people, indeed have a stronger understanding of the needs and emotions of other people and are more inclined to help them.
Less intelligent people, on the contrary, cannot imagine that anyone could have a different opinion than them – and they dismiss it instantly. Plus, the concept of giving without expecting something in return is foreign to them.
Let’s be honest: Everyone is selfish from time to time. However, the important thing is that we try to find a balance between following our pursuits and remaining considerate to other people’s emotions and needs.
4. Stupid People Are Aggressive When Dealing With Conflict
It is human to get angry from time to time. Even the intelligent people are not immune to anger. But, they’ve learned how to control their emotions and accept them – even the negative ones. Even if they experience a negative emotion, they won’t let that emotion to get the best of them.
Less intelligent people, however, get angry and aggressive every time when things are not going their way. They use aggression and anger to secure themselves and their position every time when they feel like they are not in control over a situation or a person.
Researchers from Michigan’s University found that aggressive behavior is directly correlated with lower IQ.
“We hypothesized that low intelligence makes the learning of aggressive responses more likely at an early age, and this aggressive behavior makes continued intellectual development more difficult,” they wrote in their paper.
5. Stupid People Think They Are Better Than Anyone Else
Smart people are not afraid of competition. They try to help others and inspire them to be the best versions of themselves. Intelligent people have high levels of self-esteem, and they share their knowledge with others selflessly.
Stupid people, on the other hand, try to look better than others. They would even try to manipulate and badmouth other people for their selfish purposes. They are judgmental people, full of prejudices, and they think they are better than anyone else.
One Canadian study found that people with low IQ are more likely to be homophobic, racist, and prejudiced.
Moreover, many biologists share the idea that the ability for cooperation and mutual understanding is the most vital one for our human development. In fact, a sign of high intelligence is being able to be a good team player.
Being an introvert is something not many are able to understand. And this inability to truly grasp the world of the introverts is what makes them create different misconceptions and judgments based on your behavior.
If you are an introvert, you will agree that most people simply cannot understand your reality and while it does take some effort to explain it properly, your introverted state does not urge you to do that, so they stick to the reality they have learned to perceive about you.
Here are 17 things you tend to do because you are an introvert that others tend to misinterpret:
1. You decline invitations to parties or events because you need to recharge
This habit is not something others will understand. They will most probably see you as anti-social and it will make them think whether you really like them.
However, your reality is different. It has nothing to do with them, actually. You just need to recharge your batteries because you have had enough of social interactions for one day, and you would rather stay home and watch movies, read books, or just relax.
2. When at parties or get-togethers, you check your phone to avoid conversations
Yes, you get into conversations, but then you need some alone time, even if that means that you will isolate yourself in the middle of a crowd. One way is to check your phone and do whatever just to avoid talking for some time.
3. You tend to hang out in the bathroom longer than needed for some peace and quiet
Whether it is parties, or at work, if you need some quiet, you will spend more time than you really need in the bathroom, because it is the quietest place there.
4. You literally freeze when someone asks you to tell them about yourself
You hate that question – it is out of the blue, and you have to shoot straight away. So, because you have no time to articulate your deeper thoughts, you mumble some generic sentences, and it ends up the wrong way.
5. When at parties, you end up talking to just one person the whole night
That is, the person who you feel most comfortable around. And you usually speak about deeper topics, not some shallow ones.
6. You easily get tired of being around a lot of people, so you leave early
Crowds are literally not your thing. You sometimes get so tired of being around people that you just want to go home and be with yourself. It is not that you are actually going to bed, but you would like some rest and alone time, doing whatever you find interesting – alone.
7. You often have ‘things to do’ when someone calls you over to hang out
It is not that you do not like your friends, but your plans for the night are already arranged. You just want to stay home and watch movies, chill, read something, do nothing – everything which does not involve other people.
8. You sometimes like staring out the window, daydreaming, and not being bothered by anything
You just want to shut yourself off from the world, not to be bothered by anything.
9. You have trouble articulating your feelings or thoughts, even when everything makes so much sense in your head
And then you get stuck between your thoughts and your tongue, while those around you are looking at you and waiting for you to spit it out. It often feels like they are pulling teeth out of your mouth.
10. When you speak your mind, others tend to get offended
It is because you skip the whole small talk that is supposed to warm them up, so they find your words as really blunt. But you are aware that no matter how you put it, it is the truth.
11. You are terrible at making small talk, because you really hate it
Small talk is not your thing at all. So, you get straight to the point before others had the time to wrap their heads around the idea. Do not be surprised if they get confused and ask where that came from.
12. You sometimes drift away in your thoughts instead of paying attention
Be it in class, at work, or with your friends, you sometimes dive deep into your thoughts and you stop paying attention to whatever is going on outside. Instead, you start thinking about the universe, the fate of humanity, or time travel – really whatever deep topic is occupying your mind.
13. You prefer working alone to working in a group
Working with others in a team is a draining experience for you. That is why you will often try to get a job done by yourself, even if it means working more that way.
14. You like to keep your birthday celebrations as low-key as possible
Birthdays are a personal and private thing, and you want to celebrate them with your closest of friends. There is nothing strange in celebrating your birthday with two friends, somewhere in a nice and quiet restaurant.
15. Instead of calling back, you send text messages
Even if someone told you to call them back, you will most probably text them instead. It is because you have more space to articulate the right words and stick to the point easily.
16. You like wearing your headphones to avoid talking to people
Be it on the bus, or in the taxi, you prefer not talking to others. And the best way to do that is to put on your headphones. If you cannot hear them, you do not have to reply.
17. You sometimes get so burnt out, that you just want to eliminate all sounds
Sometimes, noises, talking, music, or other activities that involve people burn you out so much that when you get alone you turn off every sound source and enjoy the silence, at least for a few minutes.
The world of the introvert is a world of its own that many cannot understand. And it is a tough job for an introvert to go out in the open and do shallow socialization because ‘that is what people do.’
If you are an introvert, we are sure that you will agree with this!
Being a highly sensitive person means that the intensity of your emotions is very high. Often you have your heart on your sleeve, and you find yourself easily overwhelmed, and at times it is hard for you to control your intense emotions.
You are more sensitive to certain situations, and you notice every single detail that other people don’t notice. Your high sensitivity is responsible for your vivid inner life, your creativity, and your kind and nurturing nature.
Even though your sensitive nature can be your greatest strength, sometimes you do things to protect yourself that other people who are not as sensitive as you cannot understand.
Below are 21 things that other people don’t realize you are doing because you are a highly sensitive person. These things are based on a research by Dr. Elaine N. Aron, the author of the book “The Highly Sensitive Person.”
1. You love routine. You find your comfort in doing things a certain way, and you don’t make exceptions. That is why you have a morning and a bedtime routine that you follow every day. You don’t like to change things since chaos and the unknown scare you.
2. You prefer silence over loud noise. That is why when you go out in a loud place, and you find yourself surrounded by a bunch of people you tend to shut down from time to time and tune off any external noise because your sensitive sensory system gets overwhelmed.
3. You become overly sensitive when you deal with a conflicting situation. When your partner, friend, or a coworker raises his voice, you become anxious. Moreover, when you feel a tension in your romantic relationship, your friendship, or with a family member, you have trouble sleeping and you may even start feeling physically unwell.
4. You are highly sensitive to pressure too. When you find in a situation where you have to follow a deadline, and you must finish a project at an expected time, you feel overly stressed, and all you can think about is that task that you need to complete.
5. When you have a busy day at work, and you are so exhausted that all you can do is to lay down in your quiet place at home and relax and not think about anyone or anything. You need your alone time to calm your highly active senses.
6. You often find yourself turning off the TV or covering your eyes with your hands when you see violence in a movie because you cannot stand watching the cruelty and the blood makes you sick. Likewise, you cannot watch a sad scene because your highly sensitive nature can make you burst into tears.
7. In school, when your teacher scolds another student, even though it hasn’t got anything to do with you, you become stressed and anxious too. It is because your highly sensitive nature cannot stand stressful situations.
8. When you fall in love, you fall in deep. It can be at times very overwhelming for you because even though the feeling is wonderful and exhilarating, it is still a significant change in your life that you are not accustomed to.
9. You tend to become scared easily due to your overly sensitive nature. When someone walks behind you quietly and you don’t notice them, you will jump off immediately when you see them because your nervous system is so sensitive that you get startled often.
10. Your highly sensitive nature is like a sponge that absorbs the energies and the moods from other people that you interact with. This can be very overwhelming for you, and that is why you find yourself often wanting to be alone. You distance yourself from everything because that way you can follow your feelings only.
11. You rarely drink coffee because caffeine has a very strong effect on you. Alcohol also has a heightened impact on you. This is because your highly sensitive nature emphasizes any effect that drinks or food have.
12. Highly sensitive people have a lower tolerance for pain. Therefore, when you are in pain, you are feeling it more intensely than others.
13. Being a highly sensitive person, you can get easily uncomfortable when you walk into a room that has something in it which makes you feel overwhelmed. You can tell immediately what it is that is causing you discomfort, be it fluorescent lighting, or a piece of furniture.
14. You need to distance yourself from anyone who wears a strong perfume because your smell sense is very sensitive to smells and any overpowering fragrance can make you dizzy and sick to your stomach.
15. You avoid entering stores that are full of people and noisy. It is an activity that can be too much overwhelming for your sensitive system.
16. Being a highly sensitive person, you can notice every little detail that may escape others. You can even spot a shift in the mood of a person and how they react to different topics and situations.
17. You have a vivid inner world that goes hand in hand with your increased sensitivity. Therefore, you tend to experience very real and intense dreams and nightmares. Similarly, your rich inner world makes you a very intuitive and creative person.
18. You are sensitive to loud music, and you find yourself constantly grabbing the remote to lower the volume to a point to which it sounds soothing.
19. For any highly sensitive person, the mere presence of another person watching them do something is overstimulating. That is why when you are at work, and your manager observes you, you tend to make mistakes and not do your best.
20. You have strong reactions to anything from your surroundings. Art, music, poetry are things that especially move you. When you see or read something beautiful, you put yourself in a trance state.
21. You seek a meaning in everything that is going on in your life, from the career path you chose to your friends and your romantic partner. You ask yourself the reason why you chose them and what meaning they bring into your life.
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