Everyone wants to win after a breakup. Those who say they don’t are probably lying. It’s only human. Perhaps not our best trait as humans, but what are you going to do, right? I don’t know a person who could go through a breakup gracefully, but maybe we are not even supposed to do that. Maybe we are supposed to be hurt, to be able to move on.
How?
Right, a good question.
For some, winning a breakup means being the one to break up or finding someone to date before their ex does. I understand more than anyone. My last breakup was a breakup after a 6-year long relationship and you know what? It sucked. I stayed the entire day in my room thinking how am I going to get outside of that room and into the real world when I have no one else? I will look like a complete loser. Fragile. Crushed.
I tried dating, but at the time I did not have the emotional capacity for a relationship. All I had were flings. Pointless flings which numbed my pain but did not heal it. In retrospect, that was typical of me. Push the pain away, deal with it after.
Meanwhile, I went on dates meaning I tried everything in my power to not dive my nose into a gigantic box of ice cream i.e. admit defeat. I remember feeling empty despite my busy life and one year after (one year after, really? Whoa!) I realized it was time to burst that bubble. It was time to get real. Running away from your feelings is only hurting you.
I am not proud to admit it, but yes. I cried. I cried like a baby for hours, and then I changed my mindset. You cannot change what you cannot change. You cannot lock some people in your heart and prevent them from going. It was time for a change. But not a change in dating, no. A change in me.
And so, in between jobs, travels, picnics, night outs with friends, reading books, and doing yoga, I regained my old life back. Without that rebound, that makes you deal with breakups easier. On my own. When you are pushed to a wall and you have no other choice, moving on comes naturally and it’s refreshing. It helps you regain control.
Moving on is hard for everyone because it forces you to change habits. It forces you to find a new purpose in life. But the good thing about moving on is that it helps you realize you have to find yourself. You have to redefine, reshape, remold yourself, get better and in doing so, you move on.
Moving on is moving on with your life in a way that isn’t affected by your previous relationship. So, if you are looking for a rebound, you haven’t moved on. You’ve just numbed the pain, repressed it. But everyone heals in their own way. Some deal with the reality in a harsher way. They respond right away. Others deny it and stall it. Nonetheless, that moving on is necessary. It’s an integral part of every single one of us. We just have to go through it to toughen up.
Just know, time is everything. It may look like an insurmountable mountain at the moment, but looking back, you’ll realize it was just a fence you had to jump over. Be patient.
When I first met my husband, we were both working at the same restaurant. He was so charming, his voice so mellow yet so authoritative. His look was so sparkly, yet so distant. At the time I couldn’t explain it, I just knew I was drawn to it.
As we started dating, I started seeing another side of him. A side not necessarily dark, but different. There were times when I felt like I should get out of that relationship, but I never did. I didn’t because (as I’ve realized only after) that’s what narcissists do. You have all these emotional highs with them and it fills like you’ve taken ecstasy. They make you so happy; they are so kind and generous. They spend the whole day with you and they hold your hand so firmly. They are in a good mood; they have no reproaches, and you feel like things are finally starting to fall into place. But that happiness is momentary.
I remember days when my husband would try to be the center of attention by cracking jokes aimed solely to insult me. At first, I said nothing because I thought I was being crazy. Can the man that loves me really mean all those insults? Of course not. He is just making a joke on my account because he is shy and insecure. He wants my friends to like him.
But he would continuously do this to the point where my spirits would crush and I would lock myself in a room crying. Completely void of energy. I started feeling like I wasn’t good enough for him and that feeling, you don’t want to go through it. It eats away at your soul. It makes you doubt all your qualities, all your positive sides of your character.
Did you really mean all that you said yesterday? It hurts, you know. Could you stop using me as the center of your jokes? Because I am really uncomfortable.
What are you talking about? Oh, that! Come on, it was a joke. You can’t take any jokes. God, you are so boring.
This is how all of my pleas for him to stop humiliating me would end. The worst part is that he would convince me he was right, and I would believe that I was the boring one, the insecure one, the snowflake when it was him the whole time.
To feel whole, narcissists have to be at the center. They have this urge to be liked, appreciated, and respected. That urge comes from them not having a happy childhood. They underwent a childhood trauma or their parents were abusive, so they are stuck at that phase – forever trapped as a child. It is so because they could not experience the warmth and the love every child should.
Narcissists feel empty inside, so they have to compensate by getting all these bits and pieces of attention, they have to humiliate others to feel whole, to feel worthy.
Whenever I tried to be constructive with my husband, it would backfire on me. He would accuse me of being inconsiderate, selfish, and evil.
Oh, and you are so perfect, aren’t you? Have I ever complained of your sulky behavior, your constant reproaching of my jokes, your neediness? You are so insecure, and you know what? You are jealous that I hit it off with your friends right from the start and they like me more than they like you because guess what!? I am fun to be around. Unlike you!
Not only he would not accept constructive criticism (and would instantly start listing all the things he cannot stand about me), but he would also cross boundaries.I would tell him that how he treats me in front of others makes me feel horrible, yet he would still do it. He had no respect for my feelings. It’s because narcissists don’t feel other people’s pain.
They can mimic emotions, care, and affection for some time because they know if they are their true selves 24/7 their masks will fall off, so they have all these days where they treat you like a gem and you forget all the negative. You think it will be better only 3 days after to disappoint yourself when they are back to basics.
My husband was a poor listener. He would speak at me, not to me. He would talk about himself and how his day went, and he would never ask me about my day. He would never so much as to bother asking, and I felt how he wasn’t really listening when I talked because he didn’t care. He would politely wait for me to stop, so he could steer the conversation on to him. Narcissists are so assertive and patronizing, but paradoxically enough they seek validation. They thrive on compliments. If they don’t get them, they shatter. So I always tried to lift my husband up, I tried to tell him how smart he is, how much he’s achieved. I tried to motivate him and he would go, I know, but others should know it too.
Well, honey, you know it and I know it, so what else does it matter?
Yeah, okay.
I guess, to narcissists, it doesn’t matter that the person that loves them knows their worth; they want the whole world to know it; they want to be adored and if that does not happen they become real tyrants. Abusive, patronizing, distant, hurtful. They say spiteful things to bring others down as punishment.
At first, I thought it’s just a phase. He loves me. He has some fear of commitment and he is insecure, but once he realizes my patience, my affection, and care for him, everything will go back to normal. But I was wrong, and it is my fault I dragged my soul through all those emotional bruises and flames because I don’t know how to give up on a person.
A friend of mine gave me this book on psychological abuse, and in the book, there was a sentence that said: You cannot save a person unless they want to save themselves.
And it hit me: I am not a savior, even more, I am a victim that needs saving.
Narcissists cannot form meaningful relationships because it all stems from their childhood abuse. They didn’t receive the love and the care, so they don’t know how to give it now as adults. They had not an example to follow. Many will never recognize that they have this problem, many even enjoy being emotionally condescending in public.
Narcissists enjoy hurting other people so they know how they feel – their behavior is a reflection of their inner thoughts, but I realized it only 11 years after. I hoarded emotional humiliations with years. They drained my energy, and I was constantly wondering why I feel so tired and exhausted after a night out with my husband and my friends or family.
Don’t succumb to the narcissist’s charm. They are so beguiling, manipulative, and toxic, but they inject you with their poison from time to time, so you won’t notice. Don’t cling to the good moments you’ve spent with a narcissist. It is just a temporary show, a mask. They keep you on the verge and when you least expect it, they throw you into that abyss of disillusionment and frustration.
If you are not certain whether or not your partner is a narcissist, ask yourself: Can they accept a critique? Do they always blame you for everything? Are they offensive and emotionally dismissive?
Narcissists have pumped up egos which they protect from bursting up, so no wonder they cannot take criticism or failures well in stride. They are offensive because they project their insecurities, their emptiness on to you and you end up believing those lies because they told them assertively over and over again.
Remember, you are NOT crazy.
You are NOT those ugly names they called you.
You are NOT needy or clingy – they are only they cover it with their condescending behavior.
If you say you are leaving them today, they will look at you in disbelief. Then they will do anything to gain you back, only to leave you two weeks later. They have no values and they choose their victims carefully. They choose people they know are loyal and willing to fight and help others.
Cut all ties – whenever you can. Cleanse your soul from the sorrows and the hurts, but do it in the manner in which you know it’s best for you. Read books and articles that deal with this issue, talk to a professional. Do it when the time is right. Choose your timing.
It took me 2 years to divorce my husband. Signing those papers was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I felt like a part of me was being amputated, chopped off. I went home and I could not lift a finger. Again, I felt drained and exhausted, clawing at what I knew best. All I could think of were those sparkly eyes and that charming smile. But I knew: I could not let myself fall into that circle again.
Thinking about the future can be equal parts overwhelming and exciting. You may feel overwhelmed when considering how much you may not know about how to achieve the life you want, but it’s exciting to think about doing what you need to for long-term success. Whether you know exactly what you want or are still trying to figure it out, whether you’re close to retirement or have just started seriously thinking about your career, here are five ways you can plan for your future.
Develop an Estate Plan
Many people view estate planning as something you do when you’re closer to retirement age, but really, anybody over the age of 18 can form an estate plan. You don’t have to have a lot of assets for an estate plan to make sense either. An estate plan is official documents that describe what you would like to happen to the assets you do have, such as jewelry, your home, cars, and money, upon your death.
It’s also common for an estate plan to include documents that serve as instructions in the event you are incapacitated and unable to make medical decisions for yourself. In this way, estate planning is sometimes referred to as life planning because you’re planning for the possibility of major unexpected events, and while putting together an estate plan may sound complicated, if you go here you will see that it is easier than you may think.
Purchase Stocks
Investments are an excellent way to either supplement your employer-sponsored retirement plan or provide yourself with extra income. While investing can be intimidating for some, it doesn’t have to be. There are experts who can guide you through purchasing stocks and other investments, including option straddle and OTC stocks. There are a lot of options out there, and as long as you educate yourself and find the best investment opportunities for what you can afford and the amount of risk you’re willing to take on, you can generate extra money that can set you up long term.
Build a Savings Account
A savings account is crucial so you can fund your future. Although that may look different depending on your age, one thing applies no matter where you are in life: Saving money is always an excellent choice. Everyone’s financial situation is unique, but what’s important is that you set aside some money for things like retirement, emergencies, and funding life events like your dream vacation, college, and buying a house. It’s never too late to begin saving.
Open a Business
Opening a business is a strategic step towards planning for your future. It transcends the pursuit of immediate profits and focuses on establishing a sustainable enterprise that can flourish over time, securing your financial future and leaving a lasting legacy.
Whether driven by your passion or a desire to fill a niche in the market, launching your own business sets the stage for a future where you have the reins, guiding your career and financial outcomes with every decision. For instance, in provinces like Alberta, where diverse opportunities abound, exploring businesses for sale Calgary can be a starting point. It offers a glimpse into existing market dynamics, helping to shape your business idea into one that aligns with your vision and meets the community’s needs, steering you towards a more prosperous and secure tomorrow.
Map Out Your Goals
Think about what you would like in your future. It may be a new car, enough money to retire early, the ability to fund your own wedding or put your child through college, or simply to live stress-free as you get older. No matter what you want for your life, it all starts with goals. Mapping out your goals gives you a clearer picture of your direction and the steps you need to take to get there. Write down your goals so you can refer back to them later on to both measures your progress and reevaluate your plan.
Planning for your future doesn’t have to be an overwhelming or difficult process. You can take small, actionable steps today so you can experience a different tomorrow.
They make no efforts to be kind to you.Respect is a two-way street. I cannot tell you how many times I have gone through that one-way street and felt miserable. I have left myself to be in a relationship that was not good for me too long only because I thought things would change. If you are giving respect, you should receive it back. I didn’t. So if you are feeling like you are the only one, please don’t because you are not and it is NOT your fault. Don’t blame yourself for something others are not doing.
You know, the important thing is to speak up and not let it happen again. It’s really important to fight for yourself because you deserve to be treated right, because if you don’t, who else will, darling? If your partner is not being nice to you in any way, if there is no kindness and affection, you shouldn’t continue being in that relationship. I mean, is it really so hard to be nice? At the end of the day, you are not asking for a million dollars; you are just asking for a little care and affection.
They want everything their way. How can you tell the difference between hitting a rough patch in a relationship and a relationship that just isn’t working? Respect, yes. You may be swinging for the fences, but what if your partner isn’t putting in the effort on their side?
What if they behave like a child who has to have the toy they want otherwise they’ll be crying like a baby? What if they only acknowledge their own needs and never compromise? That’s a sign of disrespect right there. For a relationship to thrive, partners should meet halfway. They should listen to each other’s voices and understand that they are not alone in the relationship.
They are poor listeners. There is a difference between actively engaging in a conversation and waiting for the other side to stop talking so you can say what you want. If your partner is not speaking to you, rather at you, my friend, they are being disrespectful. You too have great ideas and opinions, you too want to say how your day went and you DESERVE to be heard.
They are overly critical. Going down that judgment lane is everything but pleasant. I know how you feel, my friend. There are people that will push you against the wall with their reproaching looks and critical words. It sucks bearing that feeling of not being enough on your shoulders. If they constantly mention your wrongdoings, mistakes of the past, or your flaws, that’s not only disrespectful and judgmental, that’s a little toxic too.
They have no sense of privacy or boundaries. Isn’t this annoying? You know, having your partner oblivious of the fact that you too want to be alone sometimes and that you are not up for playing video games or watching a movie because you are tired or you have a splitting headache. What hurts the most is that they don’t bother to ask what is wrong, they just push you to do what pleases them. Or, you clearly said that something bothers you, yet they keep doing it. Disrespect is really that last drop that spills the water out from the glass sometimes, don’t you think? It’s because it hurts and it’s bafflingly annoying at the same time.
They badmouth your friends and family. The respect we have to earn sometimes. If you step up and you set the limits from the start, you clearly show your partner what things are off their grid, what things are within it that you allow. When a person dares to disrespect you or your family or friends, they know they can get away with their behavior, and they will keep doing it. Your partner should accept your circle of people – they are the ones that raise you, the ones you grew up with, and if they don’t like them, too bad! There is nothing you can do about it.
It’s their problem, even more, they should keep it to themselves. Bad-mouthing brings core problems into a relationship, it questions everything. It redefines your opinion of your partner, so the first sign of disrespect towards the other people in your life, stop it. State that you will not tolerate such behavior, which is everything but constructive. If you’ve never said a word against your partner’s family or friends, what gives them the right to say something for your family or friends?
Disrespect is a sign of narcissistic behavior, is a sign of a person who doesn’t love you hard enough. It is a sign that a person is in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship, and you should not take that personally. It’s the other person that has no understanding of core values and principles.
Allowing disrespect, on the other hand, could be a hint you don’t love and respect yourself enough the way you should, so you let such behavior slide. If you don’t respect yourself, if you don’t have a good opinion of yourself, how can you expect others to have it, right?
So work on building that self-esteem and start by listing all the great things about you. If you start, I am sure that list will need a second sheet of paper, so what are you waiting for?
Steroids have these essential chemical compounds that contribute to the overall functioning of the body daily thus they have several benefits. They are good for bodybuilders who are new but want to gain muscle fast and for athletes who need energy.
Anabolic hormones are naturally produced in the body whereas their artificial versions are being created in labs and sold worldwide and even those who want to buy steroids in Canada. Three main hormones are involved in the growth of the muscle tissue and they are; Testosterone, GH (growth hormone), and IGF (insulin-like growth factors). The IGFs are the basic intermediaries of the effects of GH (growth hormone). Growth hormones are created by the pituitary gland which enters the bloodstream and kindles the liver to produce IGF.
Here are some advantages of using steroids as an athlete or fitness lover
Increase in red blood cell production
Buy steroids in Canada as steroids have proven to hasten the production of red blood cells in the body. Red blood cells have the control of carrying oxygen through the body for blood to get to all the tissues. When the body organs and tissues get adequate oxygen, it enables athletes to work out even harder and for longer periods too. This is one factor that makes athletes go for anabolic steroids.
Speeds up recovery time
The possibility of getting an injury especially for those who are always active is high. Anabolic steroid users always help in regulating the body’s production of cortisol especially when the body is under some level of stress. This helps in speeding recovery whenever an injury is sustained. This also helps in strengthening the muscle letting an increase in stamina when one is exercising.
Increase in muscle size
The increase in muscle size is the well-known effect of steroids especially for those who love weight lifting and doing muscle training exercises. Anabolic steroids help to easily increase testosterone levels or create more room for the synthetic version of testosterone to enter the body. For muscle growth to be successful, a high level of testosterone is needed. Some people tend to grow muscles just from consuming steroids alone but those seeking quicker results must include exercise and training.
Reduction in body fat
Another benefit of steroids for athletes and weight trainers is that it can help in reducing body fat due to an increase in the metabolic rate. Some steroids are equally able to oxidize fat which is a process known lipid oxidation which is simply the process of using fatty acids for energy production.
Conclusion
Apart from aiding in muscle building and making weight lifting effective, steroids are used to treat several medical conditions. Initially, steroids were used basically for patients who were suffering from muscle atrophy due to an illness or for basically for people who needed extra testosterone to enhance their loss of libido or to expedite puberty when an individual faces difficulty in doing so naturally.
Despite the diversity of the metaphysical realm, there are certain unseen threats that we must all prepare for. Evil Eye is one such abomination that is quite frequent as a myth and even as an undeniable reality. From a more simplistic perspective, Evil Eye is synonymous with a negative or rather a malicious gaze, a concept that is predominant across the globe, regardless of the culture.
The History of Evil Eye: How Big a Threat is it?
The legend of the evil eye emanates from a person’s negative energy, with the focus being on ill-thoughts, envy, and jealously. Once individuals start nesting these feelings inside them, they generate negative energy which can be redirected to an unwitting person, with a simple gaze. Often redirected unintentionally, the effects are involuntary and dependent on the extent of negativity proliferating inside.
Understanding the history and meaning of the evil eye is more about deciphering the origin that dates back to the Palaeolithic era. Although the adaption is different is diverse religions, it is the curse that comes with the Evil Eye that needs to be combated. What’s alarming is that the threats associated with Evil Eye aren’t restricted to one continent with different establishments and geographies having different interpretations on the same.
The global consensus, categorize the Evil Eye as a curse, often attracted when an individual is praised excessively or receives fortune or gets hold of anything that is desired yet elusive in nature. While the country-specific representation of Evil Eye might be different, with France tagging it as Mauvais Oeil, Germany naming it as Bose Blick, and Mal De Ojo being the Spanish term for the same, Evil Eye is a genuine problem that must be taken into consideration.
How to Combat the Evil Eye?
A malicious gaze often results in large-scale misfortune, immense physical discomfort, or even mental ailments. Glare-hungry catastrophe isn’t only about financial loss or perpetuating of health issues. Instead, it might have the ability to bring forth years of sheer, ominous bad luck.
However, combating and removing the effects of the Evil Eye is possible. While you can always fight the threats associated with gawking by resorting to aura cleansing or salt cleansing, the most sustainable technique is to rely on the Evil Eye protection symbol, either as an amulet or a talisman of sorts. These amulets or reliable accessories feature beads that have specific reflective properties.
These beads are powerful enough to reflect the threats back to the gawkers and the most credible ones come with a natural, blue hue. However, if you are looking to get one for yourself, only consider genuine stores.
Besides bracelets, necklaces, amulets, or talismans, different cultures have been considering myriad possibilities when protection from the Evil Eye is concerned. These include using incense, carrying a cross, or even burning the bear fur, as the more pronounced, culture-defining strategies. While each one of these techniques works differently, the reflective properties of the jewels are more dependable when it comes to nipping the curse right in the bud, without it even reach the concerned individual.
Everybody and their dog has a handy stress relief remedy. Speaking from experience – as someone who has experienced both heightened levels of stress and sleepless nights (haven’t we all) – I remember once talking to my stress-free father, who suggested “chilling out” and “lying down in a darkened room to sleep it off”. Now, if those vague words of not-wisdom don’t rank among the world’s most pathetic tips on how to lower stress levels, I don’t know what would. Likewise, my grandmother on my mother’s side once said that if you’re having trouble sleeping, just pop the radio on and drift away to some nice music. Hmm. Methinks there’s an element of simpler people from simpler times not knowing what they’re going on about (although I’m sure every generation thinks that way).
In my search for answers, I came across gardening as a potential hobby that can turn a frown upside down and maybe even result in a homegrown handful of something healthy to eat. Both of which sound like my idea of fun. Before we get going, it’s important to mention that some gardening sprays and chemicals may come with health warnings, so you may wish to do your own research (including what illnesses roundup can cause).
“Gentle” exercise
Any gardener will tell you that gardening as a form of exercise is anything but gentle. From bags of soil and pathways made of concrete paving stones, to digging out flower beds and mowing the lawn, maintaining a garden that is the envy of the neighbourhood is going to work up a sweat. This is a good thing when it comes to stress, because burning off stress hormones is preferable to allowing them to linger in the system until the body removes them naturally over many hours. Stress hormones contribute to symptoms of anxiety and high blood pressure, which is why finding ways to reduce the presence of these hormones in the system should be at the top of everyone’s list of ‘things to do today’.
Boost your immune system
This takes a little lateral thinking, but a worn-down body with a weakened immune system is going to find it difficult to keep up with day to day physical and mental activities. Gardening exposes the body to microbes from the soil (and from simply breathing the outdoors air), boosting the immune system. When mixed with the exercise element of gardening, the body will be more prepared to deal with stress and avoid prolonged periods of symptoms related to anxiety.
The final point to mention is that where you choose to grow fruits and veg, your diet will benefit, further increasing your health and building your strength to deal with any stressful situations that may come your way.
Microsoft announced that it was going to discontinue SharePoint 2007 in 2019. It also announced the release of the latest version in the same year. A significant number of companies and government affiliations are now forced to migrate to a later version of SharePoint. This entails the process of conducting a content audit so that they can leave behind any content that they might not need in the decade-plus use of the platform. It is very important to be thorough with the process as it can reduce the chances of errors in the SharePoint Migration process. The versatility of the platform is such that it continues to be the preferred solution for even Fortune 500 companies. It significantly aids in collaboration between teams and developing workflows that can be standardized especially for managing files and documents.
What Are the Different SharePoint Migration Methods?
Broadly, 4 different types of solutions can be used for migrating from a legacy version of the platform.
Performing In-Place SharePoint Upgrade
Strictly speaking, the in-place upgrade is not technically a migration at all. A newer version of SharePoint is installed on the existing hardware. Note that SharePoint On Premises migration to SharePoint Onlineis not an in-place SharePoint migration as it does not involve any installation. The advantage of this type of migration is that it is fast. However, the biggest limitation is that you can only upgrade to the next version.
Doing a Manual Transfer
In the case of performing a manual data transfer from one version of SharePoint to another, you still have to install the newer version. The difference is that you will be doing this on a new set of hardware. The data transfer will be a manual process. You will have to copy the data from the old environment and move it to the new one. This is easily the most time-consuming method of performing SharePoint migration. It is also probably the least used method by experts. This solution is ideal in scenarios that involve SharePoint development wherein there is a high probability of issues that are hard to fix.
Content Database Movement
This method also goes by the alternate name of the detach database method. After you have configured a new set of hardware, you will remove the existing content database from the current SharePoint version. This will then be attached to the latest environment of SharePoint that you have created.
Third-Party Tool Based SharePoint Migration
This method involves the purchase of licenses for appropriate SharePoint migration tools. Often, these tools can also be used for other purposes such as Office 365 tenant to tenant migration. This is the most flexible method that is available for SharePoint migration. Not only does it simplify the process, it significantly speeds it up while reducing manual intervention.
Assisted SharePoint Migration
As an experienced MSP with over 15 years of SharePoint migration experience, Apps4Rent can provide white-gloved SharePoint migration services with 24/7 phone, chat, and email support. Along with promotional Azure Windows Virtual Desktop pricingfor enhanced business productivity.
Speech Anxiety Does Not Have To Be A Lifelong Affliction
According to studies, public speaking is the number one fear for most Americans–even surpassing death! It is safe to say that anxiety concerning speech is a huge problem in this country. While most Americans have fears concerning public speaking, there are many Americans who are afraid to speak in any capacity, even one-on-one interactions. That is the bad news. The good news is that this does not have to be the case: these anxieties can be overcome.
Finding The Right Support
Anxiety feeds on loneliness. Speech anxiety is no different. This can be a vicious cycle, as the anxiety leads to loneliness, which in turn feeds the anxiety. Turning to others for support can help break the cycle. “Support” can mean different things to different people. Here are some ways that people who suffer from speech anxieties find support:
● Confiding in close friends and family members
● Joining support groups
● Joining advocacy organizations
Many Americans who suffer anxiety (including speech-related anxiety) feel that they must suffer alone–that no one shares their particular anxieties or traumas. This could not be further from the truth: there are millions of Americans who suffer from speech anxieties and probably several thousand in your particular town. A support group can connect you to others who are going through the same thing. Members of a support group listen to each other, encourage each other, and keep each other accountable. A support group is also a safe space where you can practice speaking without fear of judgment. This brings us to our next point: practice.
Practice Helps Overcome Anxiety
Support helps to overcome anxiety. Practice also helps overcome anxiety, specifically speech anxiety. The more you practice, the easier speech will become and the less intimidating it will be. One of the best ways to overcome anxieties is to face them head-on. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to sign up to give a lecture to a room full of people, though with enough help and practice you might get to the point where you are comfortable doing exactly that. The key is to start small and set manageable goals that you can meet each week. For example, if you are a student who is terrified of speaking in class, set a goal to make one comment each class session, or even each week. If you hate the thought of speaking up at a work meeting, set a goal of offering feedback at your next meeting. You may be surprised at how rewarding it feels to achieve such a goal.
Finding The Right Resources
Professional help cannot be discounted when it comes to overcoming speech-related anxiety. There are many experts and educators who have built careers out of helping people conquer speech anxiety and give the tools to acquire public speaking skills. Connecting to these resources can change your life for the better. Seeking professional help also means not facing anxiety alone. Having an expert in your corner can help you make great strides toward improving your speech and confidence.
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As your parents age, they may need more help with basic day-to-day tasks in order to continue leading the lifestyle they want (even if they may not want to admit it). Being able to help them begins with open, honest communication that creates the space needed for tougher conversations. As their child, they need to know that you do not judge them for any of the difficulties they may face and that you are there to help them. However, they may not know exactly what they need or want as they move forward.
If you want to help your aging parents, but neither of you knows where to begin, here are five things you can do for them now to get started.
Helping Aging Parents
1. Work on improving their home and making it safer for them
Most people want to be able to stay in their homes as they age. The problem? Not all homes are necessarily safe for your parents to live in as they grow older. Some areas of the home that may have been safe to navigate when they were younger may pose a potential safety risk, such as slippery surfaces and areas where it is possible for them to lose their balance. Additionally, homes must change in order to accommodate any possible health changes, such as if your parent must use a wheelchair to navigate their home. Making sure to tackle target areas like the bathroom and the kitchen and work on making their home more accessible to them is one great way to help them enjoy their golden years.
In the meantime, they can also benefit from other minor home repairs that need to be taken care of. For example, if their house becomes unbearably hot during the summer, pitching in by helping them get an AC replacement is something that they will really appreciate. If you’re considering getting them a new A/C, make sure to reach out to a reputable company that can replace older systems with high-quality products designed to give your parents the best experience possible.
2. Help them create a financial plan for the future
While there are some older individuals who work, others may be on fixed incomes, which can cause further stress if they find themselves faced with serious health problems. Sitting down with them to talk about their current budget, their savings, their investments, and their debts is vital to prevent them from getting behind on their bills. If they are faced with severe health issues like a terminal illness and find that they are having trouble dealing with their finances, you may also want to draw their attention to resources like the American Life Fund. The American Life Fund offers viatical settlements to those who are terminally ill. Put simply, they will purchase unneeded life insurance plans from those who are faced with late-stage cancer so that those individuals can access the funds needed to pay for necessary expenses. Having these kinds of potential options can help you parent cope with any financial stress they may encounter in the future.
3. Encourage them to pay closer attention to their mental health and well-being
As we age, it can become harder to engage in the same type of activities we previously enjoyed. Additionally, finding friends with whom we share things in common can be equally challenging. While your parents may not think about it as being important, make sure that you encourage them to look for more opportunities to socialize and find ways that they can be more active. Helping them take care of their emotional and physical health now will help them build habits that will allow them to better support themselves in the future.
4. Spend more time with them (and have other family members join in on the support)
For most parents, seeing their child can bring a smile to their face, especially if they do not have that many opportunities to socialize with others. Make it a priority to check in on them regularly to ensure their physical safety and to provide them with the company and emotional support. While you’re at it, now is also the time to encourage your family to do the same. This way, they will always be able to look forward to seeing their loved ones on a regular basis.
5. Seek out resources that can help you care for your parents
If your parents’ health is on the decline, trying to care for them can be a full-time job. Unfortunately, not everyone is financially, emotionally, or physically prepared for this type of challenge. If you know that a parent will require more care and help as they age, look for healthcare resources like in-home care or assisted living facilities that can properly support them. Although this can be a difficult topic to discuss with your parents, it is a conversation that needs to be had that will provide everyone with the best outcome possible.
Learning how to help your parents as they age will provide them with the support they need to move forward more successfully. If you are looking for ways to get started, use the five tips provided above to gain more insight into where they may need the most support.
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