Most of us have dated someone for a little bit longer than we should have. If we take into consideration the fact that breakups are quite unpleasant and difficult, and in some cases even traumatic, no one can blame us for wanting to dodge the breakup bullet, right?

However, staying in a poor, unhealthy, unhappy relationship longer than necessary can be even more damaging to you than ending it.  

Of course, saying goodbye to someone who was very important to you is hard and painful. But it’s even more difficult and hurtful staying in a relationship which isn’t meeting your needs. A relationship that doesn’t make you happy and fulfilled.

Yes, breakups suck, but staying with someone who is a constant source of negative feelings, stress, and resentment is even worse.

So, how do you know that your relationship is past its expiration date and that you should get out of it? Well, if most or all of the following 8 things look familiar to you, then you can take this as a huge red flag that it’s time for you to put an end to your relationship.

Here they are:

1. You feel like you’re being pressured to do things that you don’t want to.

Healthy and happy relationships are those where both partners feel free and comfortable being themselves and doing the things they like doing. However, when you’re with a person who is constantly putting you under pressure to do things that are not in accordance with your own beliefs, principles, and values, your relationship begins to become toxic.

Remember – no one has the right to tell you how to behave, control your actions, and try to change you, which brings us to the following point …

2. You feel like you’re not yourself around your partner.

If you don’t feel free and comfortable to show your true self around the person you love, then what’s the point of dating them? When you’re in a healthy, happy, and committed relationship, you’re always yourself. You feel free to show your partner your insecurities and fears. You don’t feel ashamed or afraid to show them your vulnerabilities.

However, if you’re in a relationship with someone who is constantly judging you, criticizing you, and making you feel ashamed of your weaknesses and imperfections, then know that you’re with someone who doesn’t truly love you and care about you.

3. Your partner is constantly making you question their feelings.

What’s the point of being in a relationship in which you’re never sure how your partner feels about you?  What’s the point of being with someone who doesn’t wear their heart on their sleeve and who hides their vulnerable sides and refuses to open up to you? Yes, exactly – there’s no point in staying with this kind of person.

4. Your partner makes you feel unattractive and undesirable.

Being with the right person means being with someone who boosts your confidence. Someone who makes sure you’re always aware of your qualities and strength. Someone who makes sure you never doubt your worth.

So, if you can’t remember when the last time was your partner made you feel pretty and desirable and gave you compliments about the way you look, well, you might want to ask yourself: “Is he/she really into you?”

5. You’re being cruel to your partner.

Okay, we’re all guilty of this. We can be someone’s selfish, mean, horrible ex too.

If you’re already in a relationship with someone and you’re aware that you’re being cruel and inconsiderate to them, then, my dear, this is a huge red flag that you don’t like them as much as you or everyone around you think you do.

So, let go of them and put an end to this agony. Allow them to find someone that will treat them with kindness and compassion and that will love them the way they deserve.

6. Your loved ones don’t like your partner.

If your family and friends don’t like and approve of your partner, then you shouldn’t turn a blind eye to this. After all, your family and friends are the people who truly love and care about you and who want the best for you. So, if you notice that they bear animosity towards your partner, take this as a sign that there’s something wrong with your relationship.

7. You often find yourself apologizing to others for your partner’s behavior.

Do you feel ashamed to talk to your family and friends about your relationship problems? Do you often find yourself justifying your partner’s actions to your loved ones and people you meet for the first time? Do you often find yourself apologizing to other people for your bae’s bullsh*t?

Well, if you answered all of the questions with a yes, then that’s most likely a red flag. You’re in a relationship with the wrong person.

8. Your partner calls you names.

Well, this is certainly not cool. No one has the right to insult you, let alone the person who claims that they truly love you.

So, if your partner has no problem calling you “overly sensitive,” “needy,” “paranoid,” or “crazy” every time you get jealous, emotional, or worried about something, do you really think that they “truly love you and care about your feelings?”

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A kind-hearted, honest woman doesn’t want your money. She doesn’t want you to shower her with lavish gifts. She doesn’t want you to be the richest man alive.

This kind of woman wants your time, attention, respect, and most importantly, love.

You could give her all of the expensive gifts and luxurious jewelry which every woman out there wants to have. You could buy her the biggest, the prettiest, and the poshest house that an architect can ever build. You could buy her a mansion. You could buy her the fanciest cars and the most modern gadgets that exist on the market. You could take her to the most luxurious places on this planet.

You could do all of the above-mentioned things so as to show her only how important she is to you, but this woman is not going to like and value them as much as when you choose to give her your attention and love.

A kind-hearted, honest woman won’t care about material things like these as long as she has your attention. She’s the type of woman that would give up all of the lavish gifts if this meant that you could have more free time to spend with her. She wouldn’t accept any of the fancy cars if this meant that you’d have to work all day long only to clear your debts.

Yes, having money and standing high on the social ladder is great, no doubt, but money doesn’t stay forever. They come and go.

On the other hand, time is something that you can’t buy or sell. It’s something that you have to use wisely. Time has value and a kind-hearted, honest woman knows that it’s the most valuable gift that one can give you.

Therefore, she is always going to choose time over money. Since it’s not money that binds two people together, but the time they choose to commit both to each other and the relationship to make it happy, fulfilling, and long-lasting.

You could open her hundreds of bank accounts. You could promise her that she’ll never have to chase financial stability. That she’ll never have to worry about whether she’ll have enough money to pay her bills. You could even promise the brightest future for the kids you might have together one day.

However, in the end, nothing of this will matter to her as your time and attention.

A kind-hearted, honest woman wants you to be the type of man that is able to devote to her the attention she needs, craves, and deserves.

She wants you to be the type of man that is going to stay by her side through both good times and bad times. The type of man who’s never going to leave her to deal with her worries and problems on her own. The type of man who’s going to stick with her through thick and thin.

She is the type of woman that’s going to expect you to offer her a shoulder to cry on and a warm, comforting hug whenever life gets tough for her. She’s the type of woman that’s going to ask for your support and help whenever she is feeling down in the dumps or struggling with problems or low self-esteem.

Because no amount of money and expensive gifts will ever be able to replace the attention, help, and support you can offer her. Nothing will be as valuable to her as your undivided attention, unconditional support, and kind, comforting words. No material thing will ever be as able to make her heart melt as your affection and love.

Because the only thing that matters to her is whether you feel about her the way she feels about you. Whether you love her the way she loves you. Whether she means to you as much as you mean to her.

As long as this kind of woman is with you, it won’t matter to her whether she lives with you in a mansion or in a regular, modest, single-storey house, or whether or not she owns a huge box of expensive jewelry, or how many and what car brands she has.

As long as this type of woman has your time, attention, and love, nothing else will matter to her.

Should you have any questions regarding this topic or one of your own interest, feel free to email me at [email protected]

If you have been in an unhealthy, troubled relationship, then you know exactly what kind of person doesn’t deserve a place in your heart.

If you’ve had this kind of experience, don’t blame yourself. Don’t feel sorry for yourself. Don’t regret wasting your time and feelings on the wrong person. Because you didn’t waste anything. Rather, you were taught a valuable lesson.

The troubled, toxic relationship was a valuable lesson – a lesson that you had to learn the hard way. It was a lesson that taught you what kind of people you need to stay away from in your life. It was a lesson which taught you that not everyone who swears that loves you and cares about you truly means it.

It was a lesson which taught you that your love won’t always be reciprocated. That there are people who don’t deserve your attention and feelings. That there are people who are not worth your sadness and tears. That love can sometimes be hard and painful.

You see, when you end a toxic relationship, you are left doubting your self-worth. You are left thinking that you don’t deserve to love and be loved. You are left thinking that love was never meant for you.

As time passes, you start reconnecting with friends who you may have distanced yourself from or who your ex-partner didn’t think were good enough for you or simply wanted to isolate you from.

So, by reconnecting with your friends, you’re also reconnecting with your old self. You begin to feel livelier and more enthusiastic. You even begin to date again, yet nothing serious. It is a great feeling when you change your hairstyle or just change anything about your appearance and for once,  some guy out there notices that. It is an amazing feeling when a man gives you his attention, tries to flirt with you, and makes you feel desirable.

The attention you are receiving is helping you rebuild your confidence. It’s helping you see all those things about yourself that you forgot even existed in your last relationship.

Yet, you still don’t feel like you’re the person you were before the toxic man entered your life. You feel like your past is still haunting you and like you’ll never manage to liberate yourself from the heavy baggage you’re carrying on your shoulders.

And all this prevents you from seeing one important truth – the truth that a man is going to enter your life and accept you and cherish you the way you are. He won’t judge you for your past choices and mistakes. Instead, he’ll understand your pain.

He’ll know that it won’t be easy for him to gain your trust. He’ll know that it’ll take you time before you feel free and comfortable to open up to him. But, he won’t rush you. He’ll give you all the time you need to start trusting him.

This man will show you that you’re more than good enough. He’ll try to erase all the hurtful words you were told in your last relationship. He’ll try to heal all your wounds.

This man will make you feel safe and protected. You won’t have to worry whether he’ll fly off the handle if you say or do something wrong. You won’t have to feel like you’re walking on eggshells around him.

This man will remind you of your strength and qualities. He’ll remind you of your worth and grandeur.

This man will wear his heart on his sleeve. He’ll never make you doubt his love for you or where you stand in his life. He’ll never feed your hope with lies, excuses, and grandiose promises. Instead, he’ll always be honest with you.

This man will love you and care about you in ways no one ever has. He’ll love you deeply, immensely, wholeheartedly, and unconditionally.

This man won’t have to promise that he’ll protect and take care of your heart forever because you’ll already know that – you’ll feel it in the depths of your being.

Should you have any questions regarding this topic or one of your own interest, feel free to email me at [email protected]                     

When you’re with the right person, you get to learn what true, pure, deep, unconditional love is. You get to learn what a healthy, strong, happy, and committed relationship means.

When you’re with the right person, you’re with someone who makes you his/her choice every day. Someone who reciprocates your love. Someone who treats you with kindness, compassion, and dignity. 

When you’re with the right person, you’re with someone who accepts and cherishes you for who you are. Someone who brings out the best in you and inspires you to grow. Someone who believes in you and knows your worth.

When you’re with the right person, you’re with someone who reflects your own beliefs and values. Someone whose soul mirrors your own. Someone who knows you’re special. Someone who feels blessed to be loved by you. Someone who makes you love and appreciate yourself even more than you already do.

But, when you stay in a relationship with the wrong person for longer than you deserve, you gradually turn into someone you can’t stand to look at in the mirror. You turn into someone negative, jealous, and insecure.

Being with the wrong person pollutes your mind and changes the way you perceive dating. Things, such as manipulation, control, arguments, lies, and insults begin to appear normal to you. You forget what a healthy, meaningful, happy relationship is.

When you’re in a relationship with someone that makes you question their love for you, someone that makes you wonder where your relationship is headed, and someone that feeds your hope with lies and false excuses, you turn into a paranoid person.

You begin checking their phone to see if they have some “suspicious” messages. You begin checking their profile on social media to see who they interact with. You begin thinking that every girl/guy they say “Hi” to and smile at is someone they’re cheating on you with. Everyone and everything begin to appear suspicious to you.

When you’re in a relationship with someone with whom you have frequent angry fights, someone that gets angry with you about the simplest mistakes, someone that makes drama out of nothing, and someone who, instead of solving your relationship problems, creates more of them, you begin keeping your doubts, complainings, and problems to yourself.

Instead of telling them interesting, wonderful stories about your family, friendships, and career, you decide not to do this because they might get jealous. Instead of showing them what you bought your best friend for their birthday, you hide the present, although you bought it with your own money, since you fear they might fly off the handle. You simply feel like you’re walking on eggshells when you’re around them.

When you’re in a relationship with someone that thrives on drama, someone that thinks that being jealous 24/7 is romantic, and someone that tries to control you all the time, you begin thinking that “healthy,” “successful” relationships are based on constant arguments, shouts, and drama. You gradually become addicted to tension and constant, furious fights.

When you’re in a relationship with the wrong person, you turn into someone insecure. Someone who doesn’t believe in themselves. Someone who doubts their strength and qualities. Someone who can’t see their worth.

When you’re in a relationship with the wrong person, you start thinking that love is hard and painful. That you aren’t meant to be loved. That feeling cherished and appreciated by someone you love with all your heart is something you’ll never experience. That you’re unworthy of love.

But, that’s not true. You are worthy of love.

You deserve to be with someone who will reciprocate your love. Someone who will prove to you that love doesn’t always have to be hard and painful. Someone whom you’ll mean the world to. Someone who will fight for your happiness. Someone who will show you that you didn’t make a mistake choosing them. Someone who will be the right person for you.

Therefore, if you’re with the wrong person, know that you’re allowed to let go of them. You’re allowed to forgive yourself and search for true love and happiness elsewhere.

Should you have any questions regarding this topic or one of your own interest, feel free to email me at [email protected]

Life is not a smooth journey, neither a bed of roses. Life can throw our way tough, life-changing challenges and obstacles when we expect it the least. It can throw our way pains that will knock us down and break our heart – pains that will scar us for life.

But out of all pains that one can experience, the most intense, difficult, and heart-wrenching is a breakup. And not any kind of breakup – but the one in which someone decides that you aren’t the right person for them. That you aren’t their perfect match. That you aren’t their soulmate. That you aren’t ‘The One.’

Yes, there’s nothing more heart-breaking than realizing that the person you loved with every fiber of your being doesn’t feel the same way about you. There’s nothing more painful than ending a relationship that you thought was going to last forever. There’s nothing more hurtful than realizing that you aren’t ‘The One.’

But, when someone heartlessly decides to break up with you and cut you out of their life, don’t let them make you question yourself. Don’t let them make you doubt your qualities and strength. Don’t let them make you doubt your worth and grandeur.

When a person decides that you aren’t the right person for them, respect yourself enough to back off and focus on yourself. Don’t start an argument with them. Don’t hang on to them. Don’t beg for their attention and love. Don’t try to convince them that they’re wrong. Don’t search for reasons as to why they broke up with you. Instead, try to find a way to understand their decision and that it was never about you.

When someone tells you that they don’t love you anymore, don’t blame yourself. Don’t feel sorry for yourself. Instead, accept their decision the way it is and tell yourself that it is fine not to be someone’s choice. It is fine to make a mistake when it comes to choosing your partner. It is fine to fail at love time and time again.

When a person decides that you aren’t ‘The One,’ don’t let the sorrow break you. Don’t let the despair shatter your hope. Don’t dwell on the pain, but don’t ignore it either. Just allow yourself to feel the sadness and bitterness that move through every part of you. Cry if you want to, shout if you want to, just don’t allow the pain to take you down the gutter.

When a person decides to break up with you and remove you from their life, don’t let this shatter your self-esteem. Instead, accept the fact that this is their decision. It’s a decision they base on their own perspective and beliefs, and nothing else. It’s a decision that is solely about them and that doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with you or that you are unlovable.

I know it hurts, but when someone tells you that you aren’t ‘The One,’ you don’t let this break you. Instead, you do your best to find a way to focus on your own happiness and inner peace and let go of them. You try to remember who you were before they entered your life. You remind yourself of all the moments you felt fulfilled, confident, strong, happy, and free.

I know that letting go of someone that you loved wholeheartedly and unconditionally is hard and painful. But, what you should remember is that your happiness and peace don’t and can’t depend on anyone. You’re the only one who is responsible for them. You’re the only one who gets to direct the course of your life.

Therefore, when someone tells you that you aren’t the right person for them, give yourself some time to grieve, cry, and process the grief. But, after a while, do your best to pick yourself up, shake the pain, and move on. Find the strength to focus on your own needs, priorities, and desires. Pluck up the courage to resist calling them or texting them. Show the willingness to protect your dignity. Practice self-love and self-respect.

When someone tells you that they no longer want you to be a part of their life, do the same – remove them from your life. Let go of them. Thank them for setting you free. Choose a new direction in life. Look for genuine love and happiness elsewhere. Live your life feeling comfortable in your own skin. Don’t rush things – just let them be.

And remember – your relationship status doesn’t define your happiness and worth.

Should you have any questions regarding this topic or one of your own interest, feel free to email me at [email protected]