We’re all on the journey to finding the right person. The person that will show us what pure, deep, genuine, once-in-a-lifetime love feels like.
Some find their meant-to-be person early in their life and others spend a lifetime waiting for them. And maybe, you fit into the second group. Maybe you’ve been hurt and had your heart broken many times. Maybe they made you believe that love is a difficult, painful thing. That true, pure love doesn’t exist. That you weren’t meant to be loved and appreciated. That love was not meant for you.
But, hey, listen to me – that’s not true.
One day you will find someone who will love you like you deserve.
You’re kind, smart, and beautiful. You’re worthy and deserving of all the love and warmth in the world. You are meant to love and be loved as well.
So, don’t despair. Stop worrying and thinking you’ll never find the person who will love and treat you the way you deserve. Stop thinking your heart will never be whole again.
Because one day you’ll find the person that will make your heart skip a beat when you look at them. They’ll make your eyes beam with happiness and your whole body tremble at their touch. They’ll make you melt into their arms.
One day you’ll meet someone with whom you’ll know that there’s no other place you’d rather be than in their arms. You’ll know that they’re your missing half, your perfect match.
One day you’ll meet someone who will show you that love doesn’t have to be painful and hard. They’ll show you that love can make you feel free. That love can give you a strength and make you feel so powerful that you’ll think you can conquer the whole world.
One day you’ll meet the person who will accept and cherish you the way you are.
They’ll have seen you at your worst and they’ll know all your quirks, insecurities, and problems, but they’ll never criticize you for them or make you feel unimportant.
They’ll adore your loud laugh and think you’re cute when you get sulky. They won’t get annoyed when you insist on sleeping with the light on. They’ll even love the things you don’t like about yourself and remind you of your worth. They’ll never try to change you. Instead, they’ll love you unconditionally and embrace every part about you.
Because to this person, you’ll be perfect with all your imperfections. You’ll be perfect just the way you are.
One day you’ll find someone who will never make you wonder whether they show someone the same affection they show you. You’ll never have to worry about whether they’re honest with and faithful to you. (1)
You’ll never have to ask yourself whether you appear too emotional or clingy to them when you shower them with affection and sweet words. You won’t have to pretend to be someone you’re not so as to make them love you.
Instead, you’ll always be yourself because they’ll love you for who you are and make you feel comfortable in your own skin.
One day, you’ll find the person who will love you openly. Freely. Honestly. Deeply. Bravely. Fiercely.
They’ll be willing to undress their soul in front of you. They won’t be afraid to show how they feel about you and how much special you are to them. They won’t be ashamed to show their vulnerabilities and share their fears with you. They’ll never make you wonder if they love you as much as you love them.
One day, you’ll meet someone in whose eyes you’ll be able to see the reflection of your soul. Someone who will look into the deepest parts of your heart and heal your wounds. Someone whose greatest fear will be losing you. Someone whose name sounds magical to you, even if it’s simply Alfred Anglin.
One day you’ll meet someone who will be stable, kind, compassionate, loving, and devoted, and to whom you’ll be more than good enough. (2)
One day, you’ll find the person who will be willing to fully commit to you. They’ll be there when you need them. They’ll have busy days at work, feel tired, and spend time hanging out with their friends, but they’ll never allow themselves to make you feel ignored. (3)
One day you will meet the person who will be your most devoted fan. Your greatest help. Your crying shoulder. Your best friend. Your strength. Your hope. Your everything.
One day you’ll find the person who will be eager to know how you spent your day. They’ll make you feel comfortable to share with them your greatest fears and insecurities. They’ll be willing to listen attentively to you when you’re sharing your problems with them. And one thing’s for sure – they’ll never leave you to deal with them on your own. Instead, they’ll give you advice and all the support and encouragement you need to solve them.
One day you’ll meet the person who won’t leave at the first sign of trouble.
When the first problems and challenges start appearing in your relationship. Because they’ll be willing to fight with every fiber of their being to protect what they have-to protect the relationship, which to them is sacred, and you – their only love.
One day you’ll meet the person who will enjoy planning your future.
The person who will enjoy imagining the two of you living together and loving each other even more deeply than you do now.
One day you’ll meet the person who will be everything you’ve ever wanted in your life. The person who will love you even more than their life. The person who will never let you go.
It is perhaps the knowledge that nothing is eternal is what keeps us going, with that hidden fear of losing it. The end of the things we hold dear is what makes them even dearer to us to behold and nurture so that they last a little longer.
That’s why we decide to commemorate them into eternity even before they are gone, through our deeds and actions, which are there with the purpose to fight against the harsh winds of time.
But is entropy the enemy we fight against, or the unfamiliar friend that reminds us of what we truly have and of our ability to cherish and prolong its existence?
Entropy is the gradual decline into chaos, the unknown void, disorder — it’s the destructive side of the fire that burns to keep everything alive. Coming to terms with the destructive side of the fire is a way of greeting its life-giving side. And we equally possess both.
However, we tend to focus on the destructiveness and often come at peace with it, and then, instead of shifting the focus to the creative power and learning to harness it, we often remain there — focused on the end.
As part of nature, we equally possess both order and entropy at our innermost core, and our fight against the decay of all there is, is really our way of preserving the order through the creative force we are so abundant with.
Many people have chosen to burn brightly and give true meaning to their lives through their fight against decay. I choose to do so myself, as I know I can, we all can. The love we are able to give, and with which we are able to create, is bigger than any hate that can destroy.
The greatest struggles we go through are those that lead us against the turbulent flow of the flames of entropy. These are no struggles; this struggle is a charge forward that pierces the thick waves of the destructive nothingness.
Those who choose not to act against the decay of their world, struggle the most. Many people have been brave to defy entropy by standing firm and pressing forward. They have grasped to what they hold dearest and did all they could to hold on.
Ask yourself, what do you hold dear? What would you do to prolong its existence? And most importantly — what are you doing to prolong its existence? Never say “I would die for you” to your loved ones, live for them every day and do everything in your power to never let them fall.
I wouldn’t die for those I love — I never like to hypothesize something that may never be needed. I die for my loved ones every day, and I’m reborn with the thought that I will always be there for them, as they are there for me. I live, create, and nurture the things I hold dear for life.
So, next time you think of the end, make sure you don’t call for it sooner — instead, do everything in your power to not only hold on to the moment but to “extend it forever.” You have the power to do that, and only you can do it.
Special thanks to Jason Silva and his beautiful Existential Bummer.
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There’s something all of us need to comprehend. Life is moving too fast. It doesn’t wait for no one. Sadly, as result, some of us often lose track of where they were initially headed and where they’re right now.
But, the truth is we all get lost every now and then. The only trick is to find your way back. To face the obstacles head-on. To accept the fact that you’re headed towards a destination you dislike, and then to find the strength and courage to implement the essential changes and transform your life from its very core.
Here are 21 small, but powerful steps that will make you a different person in a year from now:
1. Write down your goals at the start of every month.
2. Read at least one new book per month. Make that a habit. Increase your knowledge and let your imagination run wild.
3. Track those envisioned goals and follow your progress throughout the year. Write down what you’ve accomplished, what was easy for you and what was an obstacle. But, be honest with yourself about how far you’ve gotten.
4. Pick one day of the week and dedicate it to a full body detoxication.
5. Focus on the person next to you and put your phone on silent. Let the conversation flow without your phones interrupting it with the unnecessary notifications. Be there. Enjoy the moment.
6. When you’re in pain, or you feel like you’re on the verge of a mental breakdown, don’t hesitate to talk to someone about it. Even if it’s something ‘trivial’, or something ‘small’. Share your fears and pain with your close ones. Don’t hold it in.
7. Do your best to understand other people. Be considerate of their emotions.
8. Be brave and say yes to something you’ve never tried before. Say yes to something that scares you, something that takes you out of your comfort zone and challenges you like a detoxification.
9. Start a diary and write every single thought that flows through your mind. Keep in mind that no one will ever find that and read it. Use it as a safe place where you can get your thoughts out of your head and put them on a piece of paper.
10. Don’t run away from your emotions. Identify them in a way you’ve never dared before. Address them and name each and every one of them. This way, you’ll find it easier to handle them every time you feel an emotional outburst coming.
11. Listen more than you talk. No matter how much you fail, never stop trying until you make it work.
12. Consider sleep like an absolute necessity and a number one priority on your list. Don’t be proud of how little you’re getting, but instead do your best to give yourself a break. You deserve it.
13. Pay attention to anything else but your phone before sleep. It doesn’t matter if it’s the ceiling, your pet, the wall or your partner, as long as it’s not your screen.
14. Pay attention to everything that gives you energy and helps you work more effectively. Is it music? Do you need an open window to function? Or is it the smell of a fresh cup of coffee and a bowl of fruits? Find your motivating force you and stick to it.
15. Don’t be embarrassed to talk to strangers. Sometimes the ones who seem like they have nothing to say, turn out to be the ones who awake something in you and change your life from its core.
16. Listen to meditative sounds whenever you need to study or simply take a break from reality.
17. When you finally choose to relax and detach yourself from everything around you, make sure to fully commit yourself to it. Isolate yourself both mentally and emotionally and focus on that peaceful, present moment. Don’t check emails, don’t reply to messages, don’t do anything.
18. Stop following the trends. Wear whatever you like, whatever makes you feel like nice, whatever makes you comfortable and whatever screams “This is ME”. Whatever your style is, don’t be afraid to express it.
19. Open your email once you get it. Go through the messages, answer what needs to be answered and delete what needs to be deleted. Do it right away.
20. Tell the people around you how happy you are to have them in your life. Tell them how much they inspire you. Tell them you’re here for them. Tell them you’re thankful for them. Tell them how proud you are of them. Don’t be shy when it comes to your emotions.
21. Take a look at your past and think about where you were 3 years ago and where you are now. Think about everything you said you’ll achieve and everything you actually did achieve. Let this be an even bigger inspiration for your next journey. Keep moving forward and never stop striving for a better future.
The truth is, we all possess some narcissistic traits, and they are natural, and honestly, they’re necessary. Without them, we’d have self-esteem issues and a poor image of ourselves. However, there are people who are on the other side of the spectrum and they’re extremely difficult to handle.
These people are entitled, self-centered, conceited, and manipulative. They don’t appreciate other people and show tolerance of their opinions. When it comes to their relationships, their inflated self-esteem and lack of concern regarding the effects of their behavior on their partner make narcissists the worst partners.
Narcissists are unable to fully and emotionally connect with someone and establish healthy, meaningful, stable, loving relationships. All they care about is how to gain power over you and control you.
At the beginning of the relationship, they’re kind, compassionate, and loving so as to make you believe they’re good and worthy of your love. Then as time passes and their mask falls down, they begin to reveal their true colors. They start criticizing and manipulating you to the point where you start thinking you’re irrelevant, weak, and unworthy.
Fortunately, you can effectively deal with these manipulative, draining people, but first, you need to be able to recognize the three devious tactics your narcissistic partner will use to gain control over you:
1. They’ll make you think nothing you do will ever be good enough.
No matter how hard you try to please them and how kind you are towards them, they’ll never appreciate your efforts. The reason they do this is obvious – they want to keep you seeking their approval, but of course, you’ll never receive it.
They’ll always find something to complain about. They can call you “too emotional” and “clingy”. They can even criticize your appearance. For example, they won’t be ashamed to tell you something like: “Look at yourself. You’ve gained so much weight, you better do something about it.”
Oh, and yeah, they can even criticize your educational qualifications and profession. It’s simple – nothing you are and nothing you do will ever be good enough for them.
By treating you this way, the narcissist will wreck your confidence and self-esteem and ensure you do whatever they want you to. In order to counteract this devious tactic, stop trying to please them and meet their demands. Take control over your own life.
2. They’ll detect your vulnerabilities.
Narcissists are skilled at detecting other people’s vulnerability like they have a sixth sense. They can simply look at your facial expressions or listen to the tone of your voice and they’ll know you feel insecure and vulnerable. The thing is that when you feel this way, you tend to talk more calmly and quietly and avoid making direct eye contact.
Being vulnerable makes you an easy target for them. They’ll manipulate you so as to make you so attached to them and invested in the relationship that it’ll be impossible for you to get out. They’ll make you lose your sense of self.
The only way you can put an end to this torture is by committing to yourself and your recovery.
3. They’ll isolate you from your loved ones and then use the silent treatment on you.
Once the honeymoon phase is over, the narcissist will start blaming your family and friends for all your relationship problems. They’ll blame your mother for giving you bad advice and interfering with the relationship and your best friend for being too nosy. They’ll do anything which is in their power to poison your mind and turn you against the people who are close to you.
Once they cut your loved ones out of your life and ensure you no longer have emotional support, they’ll become overly critical and they’ll regularly give you the silent treatment. This cruel behavior can’t be anything but a damage to your mental and emotional well-being.
To protect yourself, you’re left with only one option – detach yourself completely from them. Get out of there and never look back.
Kratom [Mitragyna Speciosa] is a tropical tree native to Thailand, Malaysia, Africa, and Indonesia. Its leaves have been used for medical purposes because of its morphine-like effects for a very long time. Kratom has been legalized in the U.S. and some parts of Europe. Though there are countries that banned it such as Australia, Malaysia, and Myanmar that is why you are obliged to check the legislations before you travel with kratom.
Because of the many benefits that it offers, Kratom is gaining huge popularity across the globe. You can buy Kratom from the internet or a reputable seller and enjoy the many health benefits that Kratom offers like maeng da kratom.
The following are some of the health benefits of Kratom.
It relieves pain
One of the many reasons that people take Kratom is to relieve pain. The alkaloids in Kratom act on the opiate receptors in the central nervous system to relieve pain. They are effective at relieving joint pain, muscular pain, neurological pain, and headaches caused by tension and stress. Many people have confirmed that they felt relieved from pain after taking Kratom.
Overcomes addictions
Research has shown that Kratom can help in fighting addiction. This is because it activates the opiate receptors in the brain. It can therefore help recovering addicts in curbing cravings for the drugs that they are trying to stop without the risk of long-term dependency.
Kratom also assists in reducing the symptoms of opiate withdrawal like nausea, vomiting, cramps, sleeplessness, etc. Kratom has helped many drug addicts to stop using both the hard and softer drugs.
It boosts energy
Kratom’s metabolic effects are one of the reasons that has made it popular because many laborers in different countries use it to boost their energy level. This product can increase your energy level, by optimizing certain metabolic thus creating an effect in the hormone levels.
This is as a result of increased circulation, combining with increased metabolism to provide you with enough energy.
It lifts mood, relieves anxiety and mental fatigue
Kratom can enhance one’s mood and relieves anxiety. Kratom can make you feel energized, happy, motivated, and optimistic. It can also help with mental fatigue. The Green, Yellow, and White Kratom are generally good for elevating mood.The Red and Yellow Kratom are great for relieving anxiety.
Kratom can reduce stress
It can reduce stress by enhancing your mood. This is possible because it binds with opiate and produces more endorphins and serotonin. That feeling of peace and well-being accompanied by a relaxed physical state can help to reduce stress in any situation. This benefit makes it be widely used because in this day and age where people have a busy lifestyle with demanding jobs, stress is now more prone than ever and everybody wants to reduce their stress level.
Diabetes treatment
Although this is a lesser known benefit of Kratom, it is true that they have an effect on blood sugar level. Research has shown that the alkaloids that is found in the leaves of Kratom can help to regulate the amount of glucose and insulin in the blood, this therefore can prevent the dangerous peaks that diabetics face. This can help diabetics to manage their condition well.
Kratom can improve your sleep
If you have insomnia, then Kratom can assist you to get proper sleep. When taken on a high dose, it can make you feel relaxed and gives the body more time to fall into a deep sleep. Whether you have insomnia or a less serious issue with having an adequate sleep every night, you can try Kratom because it can improve your sleep and your ability to function properly during the day.
When exactly is the best time to introduce a regular skin care routine into your life is a question without any particular right answer. In some Asian cultures it begins in the late teenage years, while in the west we tend to wait until our skin starts to show signs of wear and tear before making a serious commitment to taking care of it in a more organised way.
Either way, whatever stage of life you are in it’s pretty easy to develop a simple skin care routine using only the products you actually need. Here’s how:
Limit your skincare routine to a maximum of five products. More than that means you are adding extra work which is unlikely to be necessary, and if you are busy could lead to you skipping the entire idea. You can always expand things later when you are into the habit of devoting some time to yourself twice a day.
Go for sample, small or even travel sized products where possible so you can be sure they suit your skin before you spend cash on larger sized options.
Commit to cleansing your face twice a day, in the morning and in the evening before you go to bed (at the latest). Choose a gentle cleanser rather than an exfoliating product. If you prefer the feeling of water on your skin there are some excellent foaming cleansers which are applied to damp skin and rinsed off with warm water, before gently patting your face dry.
In the evening, if relevant to you remove makeup with products designed especially for the job. (This may mean using one for eye makeup and another for face makeup), before cleansing as usual.
After cleansing use an alcohol-free toner to tighten pores and leave your skin feeling fresh.
If you are concerned about fine lines or have dry patches apply a serum labelled as containing antioxidants to those areas, otherwise skip this stage.
Moisturiser is the essential third step of a basic skin care routine. If possible look for a gentle product with an SPF of 30+, which will help protect your delicate skin against both UVB and UVA rays.
Older skin benefits from a heavier cream designed as especially for use at night – and labelled as such.
When you have settled into a good routine it’s worth adding in weekly extras such as a face mask or an exfoliating face wash, plus daily evening use of eye cream if the skin around that area is dull, puffy or tired looking.
A final tip: If you prefer to use cloths for cleansing over cotton balls remember to use a clean one each time to avoid exposing your skin to bacteria. Also, pay attention to where your skincare products are stored – keeping them out of direct sunlight is always a good idea. In terms of good hygiene practice liquid products are generally a better bet than thicker products which are sold in tubs, unless you remember not to take the product from the tub directly with your fingers.
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Let’s be real. We all know that special someone who immediately brightens up the room as soon as they leave. Whether it’s a friend, a family member, a colleague or a random person we just met, we’ve all dealt with a toxic person.
They are inconsiderate of other people’s feelings and they are known as the masters of manipulation. These people are really hard to deal with. Unfortunately, not all of us know how to successfully avoid them and deal with them.
So, that’s why I decided to reflect on my experience and the experiences of the people I know and gather up some important pieces of information that will eventually help you spot a toxic person and deal with them effectively:
1. DRAMA IS THEIR MIDDLE NAME
There’s always something wrong with them. Whether it’s some crisis, a problem or some trivial issue, the drama is an inevitable part of their lives. And when you try to help them and offer them a word of advice, they shoot you down and let you know that they’d rather die than accept your help.
2. THEY HAVE A LOT TO SAY, BUT NEVER LISTEN TO OTHERS
Toxic people are the most egocentric human beings. They are convinced that the whole world revolves around them. As a result, they usually have a lot to say, but they never bother to listen. Their whole time and energy must be focused on the most important person in the room – themselves.
3. THEY LIKE TO CONTROL EVERYTHING
Considering that they’re self-absorbed creatures who don’t care about what other’s feel and need, they don’t really hesitate before they make the initial move and grab the things they want. They would walk all over people if they have to, but they will never give up on their goals.
4. THEY ARE JUDGEMENTAL
Their personal experiences dictate how everyone should live and behave. They judge people based on their preferences, their choices, and their looks. They don’t look past the exterior. They don’t bother to read the book and then express their opinion. They would rather judge it by its cover.
5. THEY HAVE NO RESPECT OF YOUR TIME
They have no understanding of your schedule or your life. They enjoy wasting your time, sucking up your energy without giving anything back in return. Toxic people only value their own time, but not that of anyone else in their lives.
6. THEY DISGUISE THEIR NASTY COMMENTS AS HONESTY
Yes, they will admit that they made a harsh comment on your account, but they will never apologize for it. In case you didn’t know, these people are the masters for disguising their lack of common courtesy as honesty. They never attack, they’re just being honest.
7. THEY GOSSIP
The most fulfilling activity for this people is gossiping. They love to talk behind other people’s backs. In other words, it’s more like their hobby. They lift themselves up, building up their own ego and self-esteem by putting everyone else down.
8. THEY ARE ALWAYS RIGHT
Oh, don’t tell me you didn’t know? Toxic people are always right. You can try to win the argument and prove them wrong, but it will be in vain. It doesn’t matter how right you are. Even if you point their face to the sky in an attempt to prove them it’s blue, they will always say it’s pink.
However, after everything’s said and done, the most important thing is how to deal with these people.
Because, regardless of their toxic behavior, these people are still human. Some of them are hurting, and sadly, toxicity is their only way out of the madness.
I’ve always said that everything starts from us and the way we perceive the world around us.
The deeper your present moment peace gets, the easier it will be for you to react non-passionately when confronted with hostility. The more you immune you become, the more you’ll begin to realize just how much someone has to be suffering internally in order to have such harsh reactions.
Therefore, with every insight you gain, you will be more compassionate, and you’ll develop the needed empathy to somehow understand and help these troubled souls.
In the end, it’s hard to continue treating someone harshly when they continue treating you well.
If you’re going to love, love truly. Show the person you’re with that you care about them. Look at their eyes. Hug them warmly and kiss them passionately. Tell them “I love you,” but also prove that you really mean it.
Love them unselfishly and honestly. Love them deeply and unconditionally. Make them feel like they’re the most loved and appreciated person in the world.
If you’re going to love, love like there’s no tomorrow. Love like there’s no tonight, like there’s no next week. Love them like this day is all you have. Love them like they’re the best thing that has ever happened to you.
If you’re going to love, love like you can’t get enough of them. Like you can’t get enough of their smell, their touch, their laughter, their warmth. Love like their presence is what makes you feel like you’re the happiest person in the world. Love like you can’t live without them.
If you’re going to love, love like they’re the only person in the world. Like they’re everything you have. Like they’re an inseparable part of your soul.
If you’re going to love, love openly. Wear your heart on your sleeve. Undress your soul in front of them. Let them get to know you down to the core. Don’t be ashamed to show them your vulnerable sides. Love them the best you can.
Show them that you’re open to the idea of love. That you’re not afraid to love and commit. Love them openly so that they’ll never have to doubt your feelings for them.
If you’re going to love, love through your actions. Be honest with and faithful to them. Do your best to protect them from anyone and anything. Take care of them when they’re tired or sick. Stay by their side when they’re sad and disappointed.
Call them just to check up on them. Show interest in the things they like doing. Admit when you’re wrong and apologize. Fight for their love. Make them happy.
If you’re going to love, love like you’ve never had your heart broken. Love like you’ve never experienced a heartbreak. Like you’ve never been lied to, disrespected, and hurt. Like you don’t know what a one-sided relationship and unrequited love feel like. Like you’ve never seen a relationship break down. Love like all your wounds have been healed.
If you’re going to love, love unselfishly. Show your partner you care about their feelings, needs, opinions, and desires. Show that you’re willing to patiently listen to them because their opinions are important to you. Because you want to understand what they have to say.
Let them know they can always rely on you for your help and support. Let them know they mean the world to you.
If you’re going to love, love fully. Love with your entire heart, mind, and body. Love with every fiber of your being. Make them your choice every single day. Invest time and efforts into the relationship. Be willing to make compromises and sacrifices. Commit yourself fully to that person.
Love them without fearing what tomorrow will bring. Love them even when you feel confused and you’re in doubt. Love them even when problems and challenges start coming your way. Love them always. Love them fully.
All of us dream of living a life where our deepest desires and ambitions would become a reality.
Whether we’re poor, rich, old, young, black, yellow, white, male, female, or simply different, we all have something that guides us in life and motivates us to keep moving forward.
We envision a future in which we actually work the jobs we love the most, we visualize a life where we are the most successful and famous people in a certain field, and we dream of dimensions where we are brave and confident enough to reach the highest of highs.
But, still… rare are the people who actually find the right path and make all of those dreams come true.
Luck vs Hard Work
Tell me, have you ever wondered why certain people like Steve Jobs or Oprah Winfrey, and J.K. Rowling became what they have become?
Do you think it was just a matter of luck, or it was all thanks to their hard work, focus, and their absolute dedication?
What is, in your opinion, the essential key to success in life luck or hard work?
Most people like to use the word ‘luck’. Whenever we look at successful and famous people who according to us hit the jackpot in life, we like to refer to them as ‘lucky’. But, what is luck, really? Is it fate, genes, or a good opportunity?
If you ask me, luck is the first and basic ingredient to the special dish called success. Every part of your personality, from your perseverance to your risk tolerance to your ambition to your intelligence is a product of pure chance. Your genes combined with your experiences and choices in life are what make you the person you are with the opportunities you have.
But, somehow that isn’t enough to make everyone successful.
Opportunities present themselves every day to every person. Right?
But, only the ones who recognize them and seize them without a delay get to transform these opportunities into their realities. It’s not rocket science, but still, most ordinary folks are not able to do so.
This leads us to the next ingredient: Good, old hard work.
This is the usual answer when it comes to achieving success in life. And probably the most realistic one. I mean, think about it. What good are books, documentaries, and talk shows about being successful if success is entirely luck?
Hard Work Is The Key To Success
You see, hard work might be the second most important ingredient for achieving success, but it’s definitely what makes the job done. No success is ever achieved without sweat. If you believe that success is purely based on luck, you’re not likely to try as hard as if you believe that success comes from hard work.
No matter how lucky you are or what genes and circumstances you have, history shows us that you still need hard work to pull it off.
Oprah Winfrey was once fired as a news anchor for being “too emotionally invested” in her stories. She was called “unfit for TV news” by her boss. Today, she is the most famous talk show host in America.
J.K. Rowling, the author of the book that completely changed our childhood – The Harry Potter fantasies, went through serious childhood trauma and many difficulties in life. Yet, she made it all the way to the top.
Steve Jobs dropped out of college and started working on his first computer prototype at the age of 21. He faced many failures, and many obstacles, but the reason why he became the father of Apple, the multinational technology company which is now worth $750 billion is his hard, determined work.
These people didn’t blame society, the government, the economy, or their circumstances. They focused on what they had, instead of what they didn’t have, and they worked their way up to the top with nothing but their will and hard work.
Luck is an important part of achieving greatness, but it’s definitely not all there is. You cannot possibly expect that your luck will guide you through life without you doing anything at all. You cannot wait for things to simply fall off the sky. You have to work hard for them. And you have to deserve them.
But, You Need Luck For Success, Too
So, what is the secret behind the success of people who cover the magazines such as Forbes and Entrepreneur, because there is a general assumption that we can learn from them?
It is probably their personal characteristics such as optimism, tenacity, skills, talent, mental toughness, hard work, and emotional intelligence that made them reach the stars and be where they are today, according to research.
A number of studies showed that intellectual curiosity, passion, imagination, and openness to experience are keys to success.
To answer the question of whether the most successful people are the luckiest in our societies, Italian physicists Andrea Raspisarda and Alessandro Pluchino, together with the Italian economist Alessio Biondo, measure the role of luck in people with successful careers. They used a toy model that made a simulation of the evolution of the careers of the collective population over 40 years. All the participants in the study were offered several types of lucky events and several unlucky events. They were all talented ( they were creative thinkers, intelligent, skillful, determined, and had emotional intelligence). (1)
When the simulation was over, they found that success was not normally distributed, and 20 participants that were most successful held 44% of the total amount of success, consistent with the real-world data where 1 in 8 men own the same wealth as the poorest half of the world.
So, the simulation found that talent mattered for real success in life, and those that were average talented had a higher possibility of increasing their success by making use of the possibilities of luck.
But, in general, the talent was not sufficient because participants who were the most talented were not the luckiest ones, and people who had luck and average talent were the luckiest ones.
Luck And Average Talent Are Important For Success – Says Science
In our competitive business world, business people do not accept, in general, the fact that luck is the reason for their success. This makes them hurt because they do believe that their success was a result of hard work and self -determination. So, is it luck or hard work that makes you successful? Luck, or hard work, which one determines your success in your life and career? Let’s see some debate points:
Luck means having the right opportunity at the right time, so there is a high probability that they have the right chance.
We have to accept the fact that in life, there are many things we cannot control, and in our life, things happen without our influence.
One of the biggest and most obvious examples of having good luck in life is having people there to help us and improve our lives at the right time, like the best basketball teacher to make your talent shine or a life partner who is always there to give you support.
According to the American author and financial journalist Michael Lewis, luck makes the difference between successful and non-successful people when they are equally talented and have the same level of confidence. He thinks that not all people have the right chance at the right time, so he does believe that luck has a huge role in life when it comes to success.
Luck is important for your career, because there are 2 important events that are decisive for your career and are associated with luck, and they are:
1. Grabbing the opportunities that are good
All the opportunities in life come only once, so if you are lucky enough, you will recognize them and grab them to move forward and excel in your career.
2. Meeting the right people at the right time
Luck decides who comes into our life, and meeting the right people plays a huge role in the success of our lives. But nevertheless, it is sometimes up to us to take action and go outside and meet new people, who know, they might be the ones who will help you with your career and make you successful!
People Who Think That They Are Lucky Are The Most Successful In Life
According to Professor Richard Wiseman, a public psychologist at the University of Hertfordshire, people who believe that they are lucky are successful in life, and if their work is the best and most effective, that luck will play its role and in this way, success comes.
His research showed that there are 4 principles that are important for people who are lucky and they are as follows:
Take planned risks and never step back if you fear failures
People who think that they are lucky constantly work on finding new opportunities
Luck comes from learning from past experiences and working hard to reap a good fortune
They follow their gut feeling when they make their decisions
So, if you are willing to be successful in life, you must believe in yourself and work hard to achieve success.
To Be Successful You Need To Be Lucky, Not Just Skillful
Success is a combination of skill and luck, but sometimes, we confuse them and we do not know which is which.
Skill is the ability or the knowledge we need to execute or perform something, and when we have the ability, we know how to do something, while luck comes suddenly when we have expected something else to happen in life and it can be good or bad.
So, when in a life situation, luck is predominant, we usually do not have control over the situation and the outcome, but when skill is predominant, we should engage in the process carefully and have some coaching and expect feedback.
Skill and luck are on a continuum and there are some extreme cases and situations in life where skill and luck are on both extreme sides of the spectrum. For example, to be successful when you gamble, you need luck, but when you play chess, you do not have the skill to play well and win the game.
Researchers created a model of economic success where participants that had different abilities faced a few random events, either positive or negative.
In the results, it was seen that few participants were more successful than the rest, and they were the lucky ones, not the most skillful ones, so if you see someone next time who is very successful, it does not mean he or she is very skillful, they probably had the best of luck. (2)
6 Effective Ways To Improve Luck In Your Career
Luck might be part of our fate and we cannot force something to happen, but still, sometimes we can do something to bring good fortune in our lives, like:
1. Face fear
If you are scared that you will face failure, do not step back and try to overcome your fear.
2. Pygmalion effect
Be positive! What you expect, it always happens in life! If you think good things will happen to you, keep in mind that positivity is the basic criterion for all good things in life!
3. Be positive
Luck is always on the side of positive people and keeps forward their welfare in life, so stay positive and be active in chasing your dream.
4. Try new things
Never be afraid to embrace changes and try new things in life. They might turn into a life-changing decision.
5. Stay motivated and visualize your luck
Try to be thankful for all good things in life and even in bad times. Think how happy you are to know what is right and what is wrong, and the more motivated you are, the luckier you become.
6. Listen to your heart! Always!
Before making big decisions for your career, believe in your intuition and listen to what your heart says. It might help you to make the right decision!
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