Love is an inexplicable force that can turn your world upside down. It’s a complicated puzzle that people have tried to figure out since the dawn of time. We don’t know what exactly makes us fall in love with someone enough for us to want to spend our lives with them.

When it comes to men, there’s a general opinion that they don’t fall in love the same way women do. I’m sure you’ve often heard things like: “Women are more emotional and affectionate than men”; Men don’t open up about their emotions and seem reserved.” But, of course, these are just some of the common stereotypes about men when it comes to love and dating.

So, what makes a man truly falls in love with a woman? Is it her physical appearance, character, virtues, or maybe the similarities she has with him? There’s certainly more than one answer to this question.

The relationship coach Bobbi Palmer says: “A man falls in love when he feels like he could be a superhero with you in his life. When he feels accepted, appreciated and understood, and knows he can make you happy…he will be yours. Oh…and throw in that he thinks you’re hot!”

Men have the same emotions women do, but they fall head over heels in love in their own special ways.

Here are 6 reasons that make a man falls in love:

1. He’s charmed by her wholeness.

When a man truly falls in love, he’s enchanted by the whole package: her looks, her voice, her personality, her kindness, and warm, affectionate nature. When a man meets a woman who possesses these qualities, he’s instantly mesmerized by her. He may not know why he loves her, but his mind will have already examined every single thing about her in detail.

When men are in a serious, meaningful relationship, they’re in love with their woman’s entirety, not with individual parts of her.

2. He feels that he can make her happy.

When it comes to love, we all want the same. We want someone with whom we’ll feel connected on a deep emotional, mental, and spiritual level. Someone with whom we’ll feel intense passion. Someone who will fill our hearts with peace and make us happy.

When a man is confident that he can make a woman happy, he’ll keep falling for her more and more with each new day. Knowing that he can contribute to her happiness makes him feel happy and fulfilled.

3. When she’s not afraid to love and be loved.

Men fall for women who are open to the idea of love. Women who are sure about what they want in a partner and who know how they behave as lovers. Women who are not afraid to show how they feel about their man and who are not ashamed to show their vulnerable sides in front of him.

The dating coach James Preece says: “The things that make a man fall in love really boil down to a deep emotional connection. When you feel comfortable with being open and vulnerable with someone, you’re likely falling in love. We can only really feel anything, including love, when the walls are down.”

4. When she makes him feel special.

When a man feels accepted, appreciated, and loved by a woman, it’s not difficult for him to deeply fall in love with her. A man falls for a woman who makes him feel cherished, emotionally fulfilled, and warm on the inside. A woman who brings out the positive sides in him and makes him feel comfortable in his own skin. A woman who fills him with peace, happiness, and joy.

A man falls in love with a woman who makes him feel special and like he’s the most important person in her life.

5. When she has the zest for life.

A woman who is willing to explore new things and say yes to whatever life throws her way can make any man fall in love with her. Whether it’s trying some food he likes or sports he plays, a man loves when a woman is willing to gain new experiences and venture into the unknown.

Men want to be with a woman who will accept them as they are and be eager to find out something more about their interests and what makes them happy. They want a woman who is more than willing to embrace life.

6. When she awakens the same purpose and passion in him.

When a woman awakens in a man the purpose and passion for life that she has, that’s it -he knows that’s the woman of his dreams. They have the same vision of the future and motivate each other to work towards their goals and happiness. They feel like they can take over the world because they have each other.

She’s not looking for a relationship because she’s happy with where she is right now. She’s single, and she’s perfectly okay with it.

She’s not looking for a man because she decided that she wants to turn the attention inward. She wants to get to know herself and accept or change the parts that bother her.

She’s not looking for love because love is simply not the journey she chose for herself. She wants to explore the world and learn new things. Her heart craves fresh experiences, it seeks adventure.

She’s not looking for a relationship because she has her old wounds to heal and her broken heart to take care of. She needs time to be on her own and figure out her next steps.

She’s not looking for a man because she’s eager to see what the future has in store for her. She wants to challenge herself to work harder on her goals, reach the highest of highs and follow her own path in life.

She’s not looking for love anymore because she’s determined to let the people who are meant for her to align with her journey and somehow find her.

She’s not looking for a relationship because she’s finally started to live a life that is meaningful to her. She realized that she’s the only creator of her destiny, so she promised herself to never ever follow someone’s rules and ideas about life.

She’s not looking for a man because, after a long time of struggling to accept the reality, she finally felt what it is to be whole on your own. She realized that everything she ever looked for in someone, was already within her heart.

She’s not looking for love because her only focus is her wellbeing and her happiness. She finally stopped searching for a man who would validate her opinions and tell her she’s beautiful. She finally stopped searching for her happiness in all the wrong places.

Because now, she’s completely aware that she can give all of those things to herself and still feel loved. Right now, she’s more confident and wiser than she ever was. She’s learned that she doesn’t need someone to love her.

But, even though she has become the person she was desperately searching for, she has never given up on love.

The fact that she’s not looking for love right now has nothing to do with fear of commitment or general distrust. The fact that she has taken some time to be alone and find herself means that she wants to wait until she finds the real thing.

She’s open to life. She’s willing to let the right person come into her life. She’s open for love to find her. Only, this time, she’s not going to settle down for just about anything. She’s going to wait for something meaningful. Real, all-consuming, out-of-this-world kind of love.

She knows how much she’s worth and she will never again accept anything less than she deserves.

Expressions of love don’t always need to be grand romantic, fairytale-like gestures. In fact, it’s the little things you do for your lady on a daily basis that matter the most to her.

You wonder why this is so? Well, the reason is pretty simple. It’s these seemingly unimportant things that show how much she means to you. They show that you’re willing to put in the effort to keep the connection and romance between you alive.

After all, there are 365 days in a year, which means that you don’t have to wait until Valentine’s Day or her birthday to show how much you love her. There’s a myriad of simple things you can do every day that can help you strengthen the bond and intimacy between you. And undoubtedly, they’ll make her fall in love with you more and more with each new day.

Here are 12 little things which are actually big to every woman:

1. Remember the small details when she talks to you.

Of course, you won’t be able to memorize everything she tells you, but you should put in the effort to remember the most important details. For example, she’s talked about her co-worker Jennifer with whom she gets on really well hundreds of times since you’ve been together. And not referring to her as “That girl with the curly hair called you this morning” will show her that you pay attention when she talks to you.

So, make sure you remember the names of her friends, her favorite type of flowers or chocolate, or any other little detail she’s shared with you. Trust me, it’ll mean a lot to her.

2. Go shopping with her.

Men don’t like shopping, we get that. But imagine how surprised and pleased your woman will be if you offer to take her to the mall and help her choose some fancy clothes.  

But, make sure you’re in a good mood while you’re there because if you start getting grumpy and impatient, this will do more harm than good, and you won’t certainly make the shopping a pleasant experience.

3. Leave her little love notes.

Leave her a cute little love note on her bed so that it’s the first thing she sees in the morning. This will definitively give her a pleasant, warm feeling. And if you want her to know you’re thinking about her during the day, you can leave her a post-it note into her coat pocket or purse. Trust me, this will make you her hero.   

4. Offer her some stress relief.

Did she come home tired and stressed out from work? Well, then, why don’t you suggest ordering in some pizza and save her from making dinner herself. And why stop there? After the dinner, you can prepare a hot relaxing bath for her. Don’t doubt she’ll be especially pleased by your gesture.

5. Clean up after yourself.

Whether you have your own place or share one with her, know that she’ll appreciate if you keep it tidy and clean. Maybe leaving a little bit of mess behind you is not a big thing for you, but, trust me – women hate this. She’ll clean it up, but she definitely won’t feel happy about it.

And let’s be honest, it’s not that hard to clean up after yourself (even kids do that). So make sure you remember next time to clear up all that mess you’ve made in the bathroom and put your clothes where they belong.

6. Listen to her. Just listen.

When she talks to you, she wants to know she’s heard. So, let her know you’re paying attention to her words because you’re interested in what she has to say. Don’t just be physically present and pretend to listen to her while your mind is wandering off who knows where.

But most importantly, don’t listen with the intent to make a suggestion or offer her a solution to whatever is bothering her. She does not need your opinions and solutions. All that she wants is to know that you try and want to understand what she has to share with you.

7. Don’t criticize her choices.

“Are you really going to buy those jeans? Just look at the color.”  Yes, she is. You don’t need to criticize the little choices she makes whenever you disapprove of them. Instead, learn to respect them and let her be.

8. Don’t let her wait long for you to respond to her text messages.

It’s not like you have to text her back the moment you receive her message or leave in the middle of a meeting at work to answer her call. But, when she texts you, don’t let her wait for hours for your replay.

Texting her will only take you a couple of seconds, but it’ll show her that she’s your priority even when you’re up to your neck in work.9. Show interest in the things she likes doing.

Maybe you don’t like watching romantic comedies (in fact, I’m sure you don’t), but why not watching one with her on a Sunday afternoon if you know she enjoys them? Or, if she likes jogging or walking in nature, it won’t hurt if you join her, right?

By taking part in her interests, you’ll show that everything related to her means to you. And the more time you spend together, the stronger the bond between you will get.

10. Cook up something nice for her.

It doesn’t matter how good you are at cooking, you should be capable of making her a meal at least once a week. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant and difficult to make because what will really matter to her is your effort. And most women find it sexy when they see their man making some delicious dinner for them.

11. Take her on a date.

Whether you’ve been together for 6 months or 6 years, you should never stop dating. You can take her out to dinner, to the cinema, or just go for a walk. And you don’t need to wait for a special occasion to take her on a date.

It’d really surprise her if you do that when she expects it the least. For example, pick her up from her work and take her to a restaurant or any other place where you’ll spend a good quality time together and have fun.

12. Give her space.

Sometimes women just need to spend time alone. Whether they feel stressed out and want to relax or they just want to watch an episode of their favorite TV show, it’s important for them to have alone time. So, make sure you give her as much alone time as she needs to rest and feel better.

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Every person has a different way of expressing their feelings. Women are considered the gentler gender who is more emotionally expressive. They usually say what they want to hear in return.

Men, on the other side, are known as the gender who is not always that emotionally naked. However, men have a special way of showing their partner how much they love her. When it comes to love, they prefer to let their actions do the talking.

Here are 8 most common signs that a man is actually crazy in love with you, even if he doesn’t say it out loud:

1. HE IS A GOOD LISTENER

When someone focuses on you and pays full attention to your conversation, it means that they care. They care enough to make time for you and they care enough to listen to everything you have to say, whether it’s bad or good. A man who cares about you will express his emotions by being a good supporter and a great listener.

2. HE ISN’T AFRAID TO SACRIFICE HIMSELF FOR YOU

Making sacrifices for other people is not hard when they are made for the people we genuinely love. A man in love will be more than pleased to go out of his way to make you happy. He isn’t afraid to sacrifice his life for you. He’s ready to fight for everything that feels very important in their life.

3. HE SUPPORTS YOU ALL THE WAY

More importantly, a man in love will be your biggest supporter. You will feel his love in his actions, in his constant care, in his unconditional support even he doesn’t say it out loud. The way he praises you and celebrates your achievements will simply be a sign that you’re the most important thing in his life.

4. HE IS VULNERABLE IN FRONT OF YOU

When a man loves you more than words can say, he isn’t afraid to reveal his vulnerable side to you, he shows that he’s more than ready to share his life struggles with you and he trusts you unconditionally. When a man is in love with you, his actions speak louder than his words.

5. HE IS PROUD OF YOU

He knows your struggles, he knows your failures, he knows how hard you work to reach your highest goals, and he’s proud of you. He’s proud of you moving forward because he’s an even better man because of you.

6. HE IS IN LOVE WITH YOUR FLAWS

A man in love will worship every part of you. He will love how you look on the worst days, he will love you without make up, he will love you in a messy bun and he will love your flaws. Everything about you will make him fall in love with you every day all over again.

7. HE TREATS YOUR PEOPLE WITH LOVE AND RESPECT

But probably the clearest sign of his love for you will be the way he treats your people. A man in love will respect your friends and family. He will do everything to fit in and feel comfortable around them.

8. HE ALWAYS GOT YOUR BACK

Most importantly, a man in love will stick with you through thick and thin. Men may not always be vocal when it comes to expressing their emotions, but their actions sometimes say more than their words can.

Men hate conflicts and drama. But, when it comes to you and your wellbeing, he won’t hesitate to stand up for you and protect you from any kind of threat.

I’m sick and tired of people telling me how exhausted and disappointed they are of desperately trying to find someone good for them.

Let me make myself clear. I am not annoyed by the people, I’m disgusted by the world we’re living in.

Everywhere I turn, there are hurt and hopeless people, eager to find love. And yet, this love we’re desperately looking for is nowhere to be found.

The society we live in cares only about pleasure and profit. Most of us are already transformed into heartless human beings.

The world out there is cold and brutal. It has sharp teeth, it is starving, and it is stupid, and it eats and eat mindlessly.  It doesn’t care that some people are just innocent.

Too many heartbreaks, too many disappointments, too many wrong choices, too much sorrow.

So, it got me thinking…

Maybe we don’t choose the wrong people, after all… maybe this is the best we can get right now because maybe we’re the ones who are stuck in the wrong era.

I haven’t really thought like this before, but it makes total sense to me right now.

It’s not only the modern dating that is bothering me, it’s the values. Or the lack thereof.

I was born to believe in the good in people. I was raised to be fair and kind to everyone around me. To never take what’s not mine, but to actually work hard to deserve it.

I grew up with the old-school values that taught people what real love is. The values that showed us how important trust and loyalty is.

The same values that helped us learn how to identify our own feelings and never be afraid to express them.

The same values that taught us to treat others the way we want to be treated. To respect everyone. To treat people equally. To be generous and compassionate. To help everyone.

So, excuse me if I don’t fit into your world of manipulation and lies, but I don’t belong there. And never will.

What happened to good old, classic dating? What happened to being honest and kind? Where has romance disappeared?

Chivalry is long gone and forgotten. People don’t bother to impress their partner, nor do they bother to call back. Let’s not forget about smartphones. They have made it a lot easier for people to behave like jerks.

Everything just seems so superficial and fake that even love (the only thing I truly believe in) has finally lost its value.

People don’t meet by chance anymore. They don’t care about making deep and open conversations. They are not interested in keeping the relationship flame alive. They don’t want to fight to make things work.

They simply don’t give a damn about anyone else but themselves.

Well, I’ve had it!

I’ll be damned, but I’ll never settle for something average.

I will wait, I will fight if I have to, but I will never give up on true love.

So, this goes, to all of you out there who is sharing the same struggle. Fight back, be strong my loves, and most importantly stay exactly who you are. This world needs more of you.

True love knows no conditions, limits, and hidden motives.

When two people truly love each other, they evolve into better versions of themselves.

When two people are driven by honest, deep, unconditional love, they accept each other the way they are. They love their significant other for their real self. They’re aware of their virtues, merits, and successes, and they support and motivate them to never stop growing and pursuing their goals.

Yet, they’re also aware of their quirks, weaknesses, fears, and problems, but they don’t shame them for these. They don’t make them feel weak and unworthy. Instead, they accept and cherish all their faults because they make and are an inseparable part of the person they love the most.

Many of us have been in a relationship in which we were not driven by true love, but by other motives. We selfishly loved someone, or I should better say we loved the perfect image of them that we created in our mind, not their real self. We fell for the person we wanted them to be, not the person they really were.

But, thinking that we have the right to control someone’s life and change them so as to fit the ideal is not only an unfair and inconsiderate thing to do, but wrong too.

We all have imperfections and our own gaps to fill. And that’s perfectly normal. So, why then most people feel scared to fall in love with a person’s real self?

There’s more than one answer. For example, maybe we feel insecure about ourselves and we don’t want to admit that. Or maybe we’re afraid that they’ll project their insecurities and fears onto us, and perhaps even hurt us.

However, instead of looking for what needs to be changed about them, just let yourself fall in love with them without focusing on their imperfections.

Because as time goes by, you’ll see that both of you change with each other’s help and support. Because when the love you feel for each other is pure, deep, and unconditional, you motivate each other to work on and improve yourself, reach your full potential, and pave confidently the path to your happiness and success.

When your love is true, you inspire each other to become the best versions of yourselves. You try to be the person your partner deserves and the other way round.

You never try to make each other change and become someone you’re not.

You never judge and criticize each other when your opinions, ideas, and plans differ.

You make a balance between your needs and those of your partner.

You give each other space to pursue your goals and passions.

You’re willing to make compromises and sacrifices if you know this will bring benefit to the other person and the relationship.

You learn to work as a team of two mature, independent grownups.

You love each other wholeheartedly and fiercely. You love each other on your good days and on days when you’re sad, disappointed, cranky, or sick.

You love them when they achieve their goals and make you feel proud of them. But, you also love and are there for them when they fail.

Because you understand that we all fail and have quirks, annoying habits, weaknesses, and fears, and that only by accepting them as a part of us, we’ll be able to accept those of our partner.

Only when you love yourself unconditionally, you’re able to love your beloved unconditionally as well.

I believed in you when no one else did. I stood by your side when everyone told me to run. I chose you when everything else indicated that I should just leave and focus on myself. I trusted you. I even sacrificed my dreams to be there for you.

Because something in that smile of yours told me that there was more to this. Something in those eyes of yours convinced me that you can change. That you want to change.

So, I gave you everything I had and more. But, it wasn’t enough.

It never was enough for you.

Yet, I still decided to cling on to my foolish hopes that you are willing to make this work. I wonder if that was just genuine optimism or simply an extremely high level of masochism.

I know it took me a lot to save my soul from that victim identity. It took a lot of frustration and confusion to finally realize that we’ll never be the couple I dreamed we could be.

But, I am finally here. After a long time of fighting with myself, after a long time of hoping in vain, after many tears, wasted years and regrets, I have finally made my decision.

I’m leaving you and nothing you say or do about it that will change my mind.

In those last moments, when everything I wanted to see was your determination to save this relationship, you betrayed me.

You were quick to fall for another woman.

It was the final straw. I overlooked so many things through the years, hoping that somehow everything will fall into its place, but this… this was it.

We all have a certain breaking point, so I guess that was mine.

Right then and there, you broke me. You showed me that I was just a fool in love. You showed me that there was nothing left for me to fight for out there. You made it clear that you never cared for me as much as I cared for you.

So, this is me. And this is my final message for you.

Enough is enough.

I cannot put myself through more suffering and trauma because of you. I cannot sacrifice my life for this. It’s just not worth it.

I’ll admit it. It wasn’t all your fault. Part of it was me hurting myself trying to understand the reason for your actions. But, I was blind. I was trapped in the darkness of my oblivion. I could not see reality for what it was.

Luckily, I somehow find my way out.

So, this is me after a long, painful and gut-wrenching struggle. I accept my past. I admit my mistakes. And I forgive you.

But, I’m leaving and I’m never looking back. It’s so over that I need a new word for over. We were never meant to be, and as much it was hard for me to comprehend that I’ve finally come to terms with myself.

You were not the person for me. And I was not the one for you.

Thank you for those good moments, but most importantly, thank you for the bad moments. If it weren’t for them, I wouldn’t have been the person I am today.

I know that being single means depending completely on yourself and having no one to share your secrets with. There are times when it gets lonely, and there are times when the only thing you need to feel is the warmth of another person’s hand on you.

But, let me tell you something. Settling down for a shitty relationship instead of waiting for the real deal is even sadder than being lonely on your own.

Being lonely is not that bad as being around people who make you feel alone. That is exactly why the strongest people out there are those who don’t let their loneliness force them to settle for something less then they deserve.

1. THEY DON’T NEED A PARTNER TO FEEL COMPLETE – THEY ARE WHOLE ON THEIR OWN

They believe that if a person wants to experience true love, they must first learn to love themselves. Strong people know that being complete and happy on their own is the most important thing in life. Self-love is the first lesson in life. They don’t need a person to feel happier, stronger or complete. They are already whole on their own.

2. THEY AREN’T AFRAID OF BEING ALONE

Strong people know that there are so much more important things in life than their relationship status. So, the thought of being alone doesn’t scare them. If feeling lonely is the price they need to pay to meet the love of their life, then so be it. Settling down for less is out of the question.

3. THEY KNOW THEIR WORTH

People who refuse to settle down know they are worth so much more than that. They simply cannot pretend to be in love. They cannot throw their hopes and dreams away. They’ve worked hard to get right where they are, so they are not going to waste it all on someone who isn’t worthy of their love.

4. THEY ARE AWARE THAT SETTLING DOWN WILL NEVER MAKE THEM HAPPY

Some people are so needy that they’d rather be with just about anyone than wait for the real thing. And then there are others who need passion, fireworks and real love in order to be with someone. People who would never be happy with a half-assed love. People who want it all or nothing.

5. THEY KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THEY WANT

Settling down is hard for people who know what they deserve and go after the things they want in life. They’ve worked hard to get where they are, so they’re not going give up on their life for the first guy who seems interested in them. They are strong enough to wait for the right person.

6. THEY DON’T LET SOCIETY’S EXPECTATIONS AFFECT THEM

They are not afraid to stand for what they believe in even when everyone around them is either marrying or asking them why are they still single. Because the strongest people believe in their choices. They won’t let society’s expectations break them and they won’t let other people judge them.

7. THEY DON’T WANT TO WASTE ANYONE’S TIME ASWELL

Since they have no intention of settling down for the first person they meet, they know that stringing someone along is simply not fair. They would never waste someone’s time without revealing their true intentions. Everyone deserves a fair chance at love. Everyone deserves to be happy.

8. THEY DON’T CHASE PEOPLE

Strong people know that they cannot force someone to love them. In fact, they are completely aware that the right people will stay in their life forever. The ones who left were simply not meant to be with them.