This goes to you – the girl who loved someone more than she loved herself.

First of all, let me tell you that your heart is unique. Your soul is innocent and pure. And you have qualities that not many people possess.

You love in unique ways. You love honestly and deeply. You love wholeheartedly and unconditionally. You love hard. And for that, I salute you.

I salute you for believing him. I salute you for letting him be a part of your life although he never showed he deserved that. Thank you letter closings.

I salute you for letting him consume your time and energy although he didn’t give you anything in return.

I salute you for staying with him although he never made you his priority. Yeah, you were always his option. His favorite pastime. To him, you were nothing else, but a girlfriend of convenience.

I salute you for loving the guy who was fickle. The guy who could act he was interested in you one day and then be indifferent the other. And you deserved much more than his mixed feelings for you. You deserved to know where you stand in his life.

You were brave for putting up with someone who only called you when he needed someone to talk to or just have fun with. Someone who never bothered to ask you how your day went. Someone who never asked you how you felt or why you looked sad.

I salute you for forgiving him for all the bad things he did to you. For giving him thousands of chances although he deserved not even one.

I salute you for having the strength to heal your wounds when you were deeply hurt. For having the strength to smile when you were crying on the inside. I salute you for hiding your sorrow behind a strong, confident face.

I salute you for not losing hope that things would get better. That one day, he’ll realize how important and amazing you are. That he will see your kindness, unselfishness, and efforts. That he would change.

I salute you for loving someone who didn’t love you back. Someone who couldn’t or didn’t want to appreciate you.

I salute you for loving him enough to allow him to break your heart time and time again.

I salute you for always making him a part of your life although he never saw you as a part of his.

And maybe many will judge you for staying with such a guy and allowing him to treat you that way.  They’ll say you were naive and that you should have stood up for yourself. But, don’t let that upset you because they don’t love in the way you do.

They don’t understand that you aren’t afraid to get hurt. You wore your heart on your sleeve and allowed your love for him to break your heart in countless pieces. And yet, you were brave enough to pick them up all by yourself.

You believed that if he felt your true love, this would touch his heart and change him. You chose love over anything else. You were neglected and humiliated, but you still chose to love and never stopped looking for the good in him. You loved the wrong guy but you didn’t allow this to shatter your hope that true love exists.

And I salute you because no matter how many times people have criticized you for loving the wrong guy and your soul was wounded, you always choose LOVE.

Love over anything else. You always choose to love unselfishly, forgive, heal your wounds, overcome your pain, and move on.

You choose to love even when every single part of you is exhausted. And it takes a lot of courage for that.

That’s why I salute and admire you.

Love can be scary, hard, and painful. But, keep loving, Girl, because there’s nothing in the world that the intensity of your love cannot conquer. And I can only hope that one day you’ll find someone who will know how to love and appreciate you. Someone who will be grateful for having such an amazing person in his life – YOU.

You made a terrible mistake: You broke her heart into countless pieces and pushed her into the arms of another guy. You lost the woman who loved you from the bottom of her heart. The woman who wanted to make you the happiest man in the world.

You lost her and it is all your fault.

You lost her because you were never there when she needed someone to rely on. Because you were never there for her when she needed your help, advice, and support.

You lost her because you never gave her what she needed – a guy who would love her honestly and intensely. A guy who would fight for her happiness. A guy who would stick with her through thick and thin.

You pushed her into the arms of another man because you made her think that she was unworthy. That she didn’t deserve your love and attention.

You made her love another man because you always put her last on your list of priorities. Because you always had more important things to do and more interesting places to be at than spend time with her.

Because you always had time to spend the weekends with your friends, but were too busy to even go to the movies with her. You made her love another man because her feelings, needs, and desires didn’t matter to you.

You pushed her into the arms of another man when you failed to see the sparkle in her eyes when she looked at you and feel her heart beating like crazy at your touch.

You pushed her into the arms of another man because you made her cry countless times. Oftentimes, she cried lying next to you in bed at night, but you were too deaf to hear her sobs. You were too blind to see her pain and too insensitive to feel the wounds you engraved in her soul.

You pushed her into the arms of another man because you took her for granted.

You promised that you’d always love her and be there for her. You promised that she’d never miss anything because she had you and you were going to give her the world. Yeah, you created a nice fairytale, I give you that.

But, soon that fairytale turned into her greatest nightmare. She saw you weren’t the person she thought you were. You weren’t a kind, helping, and loving man, but a selfish, flaky, unsupportive, and cruel one. Instead of loving her the most, like you swore, you showed that the only person you were capable of loving was yourself.

Yes, you didn’t pay attention to her. You made her feel invisible. She felt your indifference like a razor cutting through her heart.

You kept her around because you needed someone who would make you feel good about yourself and boost your ego. You never said that aloud, but deep down, you always knew she was way better than you. She was everything you’ve always wanted to be but never was.

You kept her in your life because you needed to have some fun. Because you weren’t the type of man who would be in a serious relationship. It was all about fun, wasn’t it?

And that was what hurt her the most. She was serious about you. She loved you dearly and you meant the world to her. She wasn’t afraid to give you all of herself and she was ready to do anything to make you happy.

How could you not appreciate this? How could you think she was good enough for you only when she killed your boredom and offered you fun? How could you treat her as just one more option in the sea of options you had in front of you? How could you not realize her worth?

And that-that was your biggest mistake. You took her for granted. You thought she’d always be there, waiting for you to come and receive you with her arms open, no matter how many times you lied to and hurt her.

You thought that you could keep her like a helpless bird in a cage and feed her hopes and love for you with lies, grandiose promises, and sweet words. You thought you could clip her wings so as to prevent her from leaving you and flying into the arms of another man.

You thought that she’d always stay by your side. But, you were so wrong.

You got so used to her pleasing you and playing by your rules that you forgot how strong she was. Because the truth is, love can make you blind to the harsh truth that’s staring right at your eyes. The truth that the person you love the most doesn’t feel the same way about you.

Love can make you naïve and act like a fool and take away your ability to think logically, but it can never take your strength away.

And this woman was strong. Your lies, indifference, and all the pain you put her through couldn’t break her-they only made her stronger.

I’m sorry, my friend, but this woman gave you a thousand chances and you blew them all. You failed to make happy the woman who had a heart of gold and truly loved you. She realized you’d never change and be the man you pretended to be when you first met.

She realized it was time for her to stop fighting for you and start fighting for herself. For her happiness. For her opportunity to feel fulfilled and alive again.

She realized you belonged in her past. And no, she’s not mad at you. After all you taught her a valuable lesson. You taught her how to love and appreciate herself more.

Sorry, but this is your loss and it all your fault. You pushed her into the arms of another man – a man that knows how to protect, cherish, and love her. A man who didn’t have to lose her first so as to realize her worth.

When you see a smart, confident, and attractive woman, the first thing that probably pops into your head is that she has a successful career, wonderful friends, a good financial standing, and an amazing dating life. Well, you are right, except for the last thing.

Believe it or not, strong, confident, and fearless alpha ladies suck at dating. They’re irresistible and easy to fall in love with and yet they have trouble finding “The One.”

Are you wondering why this is so?

Here are 7 reasons why alpha women have the worst dating lives:

1. They appear intimidating

Most men feel intimidated by intelligent and successful women. Women who are independent, capable, and know what they want in life. Women who are able to pursue their goals without depending on anyone’s help.

Men avoid dating such women because they feel emasculated and unable to control them. They’d rather be with a woman they feel they have more power over and who would boost their ego.

2. They have big goals and dreams.

Finding love is not their top priority. These incredible women have clear, big goals and dreams and they work hard to fulfill them. When a determined, motivated, driven woman enters a relationship with someone, it doesn’t mean she’ll give up on her ambitions and drop everything and just be with her partner.

This kind of woman has many goals and dreams to achieve in life and she’ll never sacrifice them for anyone. This woman wants to be with a man who will give her space and time and support her as well to pursue her goals.

3. They call guys out on their bullshit.

These women know their worth and they’ll never allow anyone to disrespect and fool them. If they sense their man is playing games with them, let alone trying to lie to them, they won’t think twice before they call them out on their BS. These smart, independent women are not afraid to stand up for themselves.

With them, it’s always clear – if their guy screws up, he’s out of the game for good. Period.

4. They’re picky because they’re aware of their worth.

These ladies are not desperate to find a man and they’ll never be in a relationship just for the sake of it. They know what qualities they want in a man and they’ll never settle for anyone that is not worthy of their love and attention.

They want a man who is honest, loyal, committed, independent, supportive, and loving. So, if a guy doesn’t match these criteria, I’m sorry, but he doesn’t stand a chance.

5. They say what they mean.

These women are not afraid to speak their mind. If they’re not interested in someone, they’ll tell them. If they’re already in a relationship and their partner did something they don’t approve of, you can bet they won’t keep their mouth shut.

These women don’t beat about the bush or mince words when they disagree with or want to oppose someone. Instead, they’re always straightforward and direct, which is often overwhelming to guys who are not used to this kind of behavior.

6. They are mature.

The more experience they gain, the wiser they get. They are in control over their lives and they make sure they act thoughtfully. They think carefully before they make important decisions, be that in their career or personal life.

They’re determined and have a strong attitude. They know what’s morally right and what’s wrong. They act in accordance with their beliefs and principles and don’t allow anyone to make them act otherwise.

These women don’t base their worth on other people’s opinions of them. They don’t need guys to give them compliments so as to feel important and desirable.

7. They love the hardest.

Maybe it’s not easy for them to fall in love, but once they do, they love the hardest. They give their guy all the love they have to give and fully invest themselves in the relationship. They’re the most loyal and supportive partners. They’re willing to do everything for their man and expect the same in return.

Unfortunately, not many men can handle this intense, deep, raw kind of love.

Congratulations, you lost a girl who loved you from the bottom of her heart. A girl who loved you selflessly and unconditionally. A girl whom you meant the world to.

How could you allow yourself to lose a girl to whom your happiness mattered more than hers? A girl that was willing to walk through fire to be with you?

This girl only needed one reason to stay. She just needed to know that you felt about her the way she felt about you. She needed to know that she was important to you. She needed to know that she occupied a special place in your heart. She needed to know that you believed you two were meant for each other, just like she did.

You were everything she ever wanted.

She wanted to be a part of your life. She didn’t care about your past or your flaws and failures because she always looked for the good in you.

She wanted to be there for you when times got tough. She wanted to support and lift you up when you were at your lowest. She wanted to make you happy and proud of her. She planned her future with you.

She just wanted to freely love you and be loved by you.

All you had to do was treat her right.

She never asked for something that you couldn’t give her. She never forced you to be someone you were not.

The only thing she needed from you was to love her. You needed to respect and treat her the way she deserved. You needed to show her that she was your greatest priority. Your best choice.

You needed to show her that you cared about how she felt. You needed to let her know that she could always count on you for your help and support. That you’d never leave her deal with her problems alone.

You just needed to show her that she mattered to you and put the smallest amount of effort to make her stay.

Did she ask for too much? No, I don’t think so.

She deserved all this and much more. Because she sincerely and unselfishly loved you. Because she treated you with kindness, respect, and compassion. Because making you feel happy and fulfilled became her main goal.

Because she is like a rarest jewel on the bottom of the ocean that only a few are lucky enough to find it. And you were one of them. Yet, you failed to see the beauty of it.

Because she is ‘once-in-a-lifetime’ girl.

You never made her your choice. She was always one of your options.

You were everything to her. You were her greatest priority, her love, her hope, her best choice.

To you, she was just one of the many options you kept open. You always kept looking around for other possibilities. You believed you deserved better.

The only time she was good enough for you was when she boosted your ego. When she made you feel smart, attractive, important. When she played the role – girlfriend of convenience.

You failed to realize that the best thing that could ever happen to you was right there – right next to you.

How could you possibly think that you could find someone better than her, than the ‘once-in-a-lifetime’ girl?

You didn’t value her.

You didn’t appreciate her fight for you.You didn’t value her efforts to make you happy. You expected her to love you unconditionally while you didn’t give her anything in return. You took her for granted. You thought no matter what you said or did, she’d always stay by your side. But, you were wrong. So wrong.

She got tired of fighting for someone who didn’t care about losing her.

She got tired of fighting for someone who gave up on her long time ago. Someone who didn’t deserve her attention and love. Someone who didn’t know how or didn’t want to appreciate her.

She got tired of being hurt by the man who was supposed to love her. She got tired of healing her wounds every time you made her feel unworthy. She got tired of enduring your indifference which felt like a razor knife cutting her heart open.

She let you into her life and you destroyed her.

She wanted to stay but you made her go.

You played hot and cold. You showered her with kindness, warmth, and love one moment and froze her out and left her wondering what happened the next.

Did she do anything wrong? Did you lose interest in her? Did you ever really love her?

You made her question her own logic and sanity. You left her wondering if all that was only in her head. You left her no other choice but to think that all those “kind and romantic” acts you did for her were nothing else but an act.

Congratulations, you lost a ‘once-in-a-lifetime’ girl!

You lost a girl who loved you unconditionally. A girl who was not afraid of letting her love for you destroy her.

You lost a girl who would’ve made you the happiest person in the world if you had just let her.

You lost your biggest support, your best friend. Your missing half.

You lost a girl that any other man would be the happiest to have. A girl you’ll never ever find again.

You lost her when you showed you couldn’t care less about her. When you put the blame on her for all your misfortunes. When you made her feel guilty of things that were never her fault. When you didn’t pay attention to her. When you made her feel invisible like a ghost.

But, wait! After all, there is one good thing you did for her. You let her go and now she feels free. Now, she’s herself again. Now, she can find someone who will be able to realize her worth the moment he meets her, not only after losing her. And for that – congratulations!

In this day and age, it’s much harder for people to find their soul mates. We no longer tend to meet our partners like we used to – through our friends, through our family, or through a real-life encounter. Nowadays we are turning to online dating sites to find the love of our life.

Online dating has massively increased in popularity over the past few years. 50 million people are now on Tinder, 20 million are known to be on eHarmony, and 15 million are currently on Match. These are just three of the big sites currently operating. This shows us that there has been a huge shift in the way people are meeting their partners.

Internet dating can provide you with a wider variety of potential partners, but it also makes it easier for you to become involved with someone who is dangerous – especially with the increase in catfish scams, where users post incorrect information to trick others into a relationship in order to humiliate them, get money, or just because they can.  This has led to many people performing online dating background checks in order to keep themselves safe. 29% of online daters now look for information about their potential partner before they agree to meet them.

If you’re wanting to get into internet dating, or already have a date lined up, then continue reading below to find out how you can perform a background check on your potential partner.

Why People Choose Online Dating

For many years, there was a stigma attached to meeting a new partner online. However, this has changed since the increase in social networking. When used correctly, online dating can be a brilliant way to meet your partner. Some of the reasons to consider online dating include:

• You are short on time
• You are nervous about meeting someone new and need a little bit of help
• You are struggling to find someone you connect with that lives locally
• On a dating site everyone is looking for the same thing – a partner
• You can choose who you want to meet up with

There can be lots of reasons why people choose to use online dating sites, but it’s important to do your research on a potential partner before agreeing to meet up with them.

Check Their Criminal History

As many as 1 in 5 people in this country have a criminal record. Before you start settling down with your partner, it’s a great idea to check if they have a criminal record. You can do this by running a background check on them. If your partner has had any previous convictions (whether serious or not) this website can find them for you. PublicRecordsReviews will help you quickly access any records that are held and give you the information you are looking for. They will search for things such as birth records, misdemeanors and any sexual offenses they may have committed. It’s a great way to keep yourself safe.

You can choose to run a search either within the county or state you live or check their national record. County records will list any crimes that have been committed while the person was living in that county. In most cases, crimes are prosecuted at the county level, so it’s a good idea to run a county check if you are wanting a detailed report.

You may come up against some challenges when trying to check a person’s record including:

• You will need to know where the person has spent most of their time.
• You (or someone you choose) will need to go to the courthouse in order to obtain the records.

If you aren’t sure where your potential partner originally comes from, or where they have lived in the past, then it would be advisable to run a state record check instead. State record checks aren’t always the best option because not all states keep all of the county records on their files.

There is no national criminal database available to the public, many of the national background checks will search through each state’s online database individually in order to get their information. If your potential partner has lived in many locations, or if you are worried that something has happened in their past that they are not telling you about, then these checks are probably advisable for you.

It’s important to remember that only 46 states currently have electronic databases, so if you choose to run a national background check, it will only provide you with information from these states. The four states that currently do not have electronic databases are:

• Massachusetts
• South Dakota
• Delaware
• Wyoming

You will need to run separate county background checks if your potential partner has lived here.  Whichever background checks you choose to use, you will gain valuable information about the following:

• Any convictions your partner may have had
• Any arrests that may have been made
• And felonies or misdemeanors
• If they have any court records
• Any sex offenses they have committed
• Any warrants for their arrest
• If they have been incarcerated and why

The criminal background checks that you choose will depend on the amount of information you know about your potential partner.

Are They a Convicted Sex Offender?

One of the first things you should do when you start dating someone is take a look at their sex offender’s status. There is a sex offender registry available to the public within every US state. A national sex offender registry is also available. This includes all tribal, state and territorial registries.

Look at Their Social Media Profiles

Normal criminal background checks will only give you information about what your potential partner has been legally convicted of or charged with. The internet and social media platforms can often give you a lot more information. It may not be able to tell you about things such as if they’ve ever been evicted from a property or if they’ve been arrested, but it may be able to give you some information that you will find useful.

It’s simple to get started. All you need to do is type your potential partner’s name and the city they live in into a search engine and have a look to see what comes up (it’s a good idea to turn off any of your browser personalization settings first). Social media platforms they use are usually the first things to appear.

Some of the social media platforms you might want to take a look at include:

• Facebook – Facebook is still the most used social media platform in the U.S. If your potential date has a public profile, you’ll be able to find it. You’ll be able to search through their photos and look at any interests and hobbies they may have.
• Twitter – Twitter might not reveal as much personal information as the other social media platforms, but it’s still a good place to start. You may be able to find out information such as their beliefs, interests and their perspectives.
• LinkedIn – This may not give you much personal information, but it may be able to give you an insight into your potential partner’s work history. This will help you verify who the person is that you are talking to and whether they are telling the truth or not.
• Instagram – Instagram is quickly becoming one of the most popular platforms. If you are wanting to see what your potential partner does for fun, you will usually be able to find out here.

By looking through these, you may be able to get a clearer understanding of the type of person they are. Make sure you look at:

• Their hobbies
• Their friends
• Their posts
• Their timelines
• Any groups they are in
• If they have any interests

You should look to see if any of the posts show you traits that you are not keen on. For example, they may have a sexist attitude, or they may have views that you don’t agree with.

Is it Easy to Run a Dating Background Check?

It can be really easy to run a check on your potential partner, especially if you have information about where they have lived in the past. The three steps are simple:

1. Run a criminal background check. You can choose to run a county, state or multi-state level check.
2. Have a look to see if they are on the sex offender registry
3. View all of their social media profiles and have a look at their online footprint.

The information you gather from these places will definitely make your online dating experience a lot safer.

Online dating is continuing to increase in popularity – in fact, it is now a billion-dollar industry. According to research, it is now the second most common way to meet your partner with more than 1/3^rd of U.S. marriages having started on the internet. It’s a great way to meet a new partner, just remember to stay safe!