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Saying No – The Road To Maintaining Your Integrity

By
Riley Cooper

No is more than just a word. It’s a sign of integrity. And what does exactly integrity mean?

Integrity means that you don’t blindly follow the latest trends. It means that you have an identity which transcends time and any social context. It means that you live in accordance with your beliefs and moral principles and say no when these are threatened.

The opposite of integrity is always saying yes. Saying yes to offers and temptations to which the answer should be no.

The thing is, there’s a general opinion that saying yes conveys creativity, strength, openness to new ideas, and a willingness to accept changes and take risks. There’re many who believe that saying yes is always the right thing to do, but is it?

In fact, it’s more of an absurd than a reasonable thing. It’s rather a sign of conformity than someone’s identity. It makes people dependent rather than free.

And in my opinion – only robots always say yes.

The question is: Why saying yes is so justified and perceived as good and desirable? We can find out the answer if we look more closely at the positive “yes culture” we live in.

We live in a culture in which the pace of everything is constantly accelerating. Being a part of such culture, we focus on self-improvement and transformation. With each new day, more and more expectations are heaped on us. We’re expected to set goals, self-develop, think positively, and keep up with what’s going on, of course, while saying yes.

But, how can you be independent, creative, and live like you want to live, if you’re constantly in a state of dependency on development and adaption?

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that you should not have goals or work on and improve yourself both personally and professionally. But, I want to tell you that saying yes is not the only legitimate option.

“Maybe,” “I doubt that,” “Hmm, let me think,” and especially “No” are all legitimate as well as desirable answers too.  

They show that you’re able to think for yourself. That you know what’s morally right and what’s wrong. That you’re a mature, responsible person who has respect for others and yourself as well.

Saying no shows that you possess integrity and that you want to maintain it. It shows that you’re mature and conscientious enough to turn down offers and reject things that deserve to be renounced.

Saying something like: “I don’t want to do that” to your friend, parent, including your boss, doesn’t mean you’re weak, rigid, unwilling to obey orders, or negative. It simply shows that you have integrity.

It shows that you have the strength and determination to stay loyal to your beliefs and moral values and never conform to those of others. It shows that you stand firm on your own ground.

Saying no shows that you’re capable of controlling your behavior and that you have dignity and a sense of duty towards others. It is these virtues which engender a deep sense of fulfillment and satisfaction, not the willingness to accept changes and all life’s fascinating opportunities.

You need to understand that always saying yes, be that to projects or personal development courses at work or  to something related to your personal life, is not always a good idea. Saying yes doesn’t make you more adaptable, courageous, creative, enterprising, or popular than those who simply say “No, thanks” to things they feel are not the right things to do.

You need to understand, too, that saying yes doesn’t make you more open to things. On the contrary, it’s saying NO, or when you express doubt that makes you open to other ways of behavior and understandings of the world, as well as to other people’s opinions.

It’s saying no that shows you’re aware that your point of view is just one among many, but that you’re able to stand firm on it and accept the fact that others have different worldviews. It shows that you’re tolerant.

You need to understand that by saying yes, just because you fear you won’t be able to keep up, you actually risk losing integrity and missing out on important aspects of life.

One such thing you’re certainly missing out on is the peace of mind. In a culture where the ideal is an adaptable, enterprising individual, only those with peace of mind are able to turn down all unreasonable and morally wrong demands and requirements.

Living in a culture where certainty, self-development, and progress are perceived as the ideal, hesitation, doubt, and worry have become virtues. It is when you show that you have these qualities that you prevent others from telling you what to think and do, where to go, and what decisions to make.

It’s when you show you possess these qualities that you’re able to learn who you really are.

Again, I’m not saying that you should always say no, but if you remember that when you’re in doubt, the answer is usually no and that this is totally legitimate, this will help you stand firm on your own feet, resist all temptations you’re faced with every single day, and be true to the important things in life.

So, go ahead. Say no with a smile. Say no with confidence and determination. Say no to degrading suggestions. Say no to other projects until you have fulfilled all your prior ones. Say no to things you don’t want to do. Say no and preserve your integrity.

Why Falling In Love Is So Damn Tough For Badass Women

By
Riley Cooper

There’s a general misconception that strong women don’t like being in a relationship and that they’d rather be single for the rest of their life than get married.

While it’s true that strong, independent, confident women don’t need a man so as to feel happy and emotionally fulfilled, they do want a man who will be as strong as they are and who will be able to keep up with them in every aspect of life.

They want to experience raw, deep, genuine, once-in-a-lifetime kind of love and yet, most of them have a hard time falling in love.

I see myself as a strong woman, and I’ve been in a couple of meaningful, fulfilling relationships. Yet, they all failed. Trying to figure out the reasons for this, I’ve talked to other badass women I know, and we’ve come up with several answers.

Are you ready to hear them? Okay, let’s start.

The main reason why strong, independent women have a tough time falling in love is that we don’t want to compromise our values.

We have strong principles and values and we act in accordance with them. We know what’s morally good and what’s wrong. We don’t let anyone make us change our attitudes and opinions just because they’re different from theirs.

We can’t stand people who have double standards and who pretend to be someone they’re not. We don’t want a guy who hides his true colors behind a charming, kind, loving face so as to make us fall in love with him.

We don’t trust anyone unless they prove they deserve our trust. We want actions, not words.

We don’t want to be with a man who will have the heart to lie and cheat on us. Instead, we want him to be completely honest with and loyal to us. We know how it hurts when someone betrays your trust and therefore we do our best to keep our hearts safe.

We don’t need anyone to lead us through life. We know what we want and how to get it. We have clear goals and dreams and work hard towards them. We’re not afraid to accept the challenges and difficulties life sends our way every single day. We don’t fear risks and failures  because we’ve failed many times, but also got up, and moved on.

We don’t like flaky people. We don’t want a man who will say one thing and do another. A man who will make promises and then fail to keep them. A man who will behave like it suits him.

We don’t want a man who is not open to the idea of love. A man who is afraid to wear his heart on his sleeve and ashamed to show his vulnerable sides. A man who will make us doubt his feelings for us. A man who will be afraid to love and be loved.

But most importantly, we’re not afraid of being single. Let’s say this right here and right now: Being single doesn’t mean being lonely. Being single doesn’t make us feel lonely, depressed, unworthy, miserable. Remember that!

We’re not afraid of being single. We’re afraid of being with a man who won’t accept and cherish us the way we are – confident, strong, resilient, funny. A man who will try to mold us into something he needs. A man who will disrespect our boundaries and criticize our decisions.

We’re not afraid of enjoying our own company. We’re afraid of being with a man who won’t enjoy spending time with us. A man who will see us as just one more obligation he has to fulfill. A man who will date us just for fun.

We’re not afraid of being single, we’re afraid of waking up next to a stranger. We’re afraid of being with someone with whom we’ll have nothing in common.

We’re not afraid of being single, we’re afraid of being with a man who won’t know how to hold intellectually stimulating and interesting conversations. A man who won’t bother to listen to and understand our opinions and ideas and who will act like he’s always right.

We’re not afraid of being single, we’re afraid of making love with someone, but not feel loved and warm on the inside.

We want a man who will want to get to know us down to the core and reach the deepest parts of our soul. A man who will be willing to invest time and effort in the relationship. A man who will treat us with the same amount of love and admiration we treat him.

We’d rather roll solo than be with the wrong guy. The guy that will wonder whether we’re worth settling down with.

8 Types Of Toxic People That Mentally Tough People Should Avoid At All Costs

By
Riley Cooper

In our lives, we meet all kinds of people. Some of them teach us how to be more responsible and confident, encourage us to pursue our goals and passions, and inspire us to become the best versions of ourselves. Others simply stand in the way to our happiness and success. They’re the toxic ones and they should be avoided at all costs.

Toxic people come in all shapes and sizes, and they’re everywhere around you. These people don’t have to spend hours talking to you to fill you with negative energy and make you feel mentally, emotionally, and physically drained – they’re able to do that before you can even blink.

And one thing’s for sure: Mentally strong people don’t have time to deal with negative, difficult people. They know they should ignore and distance themselves from them.

If you’re a mentally tough person, it means you have what it takes to kick toxic people out of your life. You have a high level of mental strength, confidence, and resilience, and you also possess the ability to control your emotions and reactions. However, you can’t distance yourself from this kind of people, unless you first know who they are.

Here are 8 types of toxic people that mentally tough people should avoid at all costs:

1. The complainers.

They’re people who are always dissatisfied with and complaining about things, whether they’re related to their own life or someone else’s. They perceive the world as being negative and instead of hoping for the best, they always expect some kind of disappointment. To these people, nothing seems good enough.

They act like they know so much more than everybody else and they can come up with all kinds of complaints so as to convince you how miserable their lives are. It’s like they find more pleasure in their self-absorbed misery and complaining about their life than in taking action to deal with whatever is bothering them.

Trying to remain positive and motivated in their presence is impossible. So, if you already know someone who is a Debbie Downer or may meet one in the future, make sure you distance yourself from them.

2. The Lazy.

We all feel lazy from time to time and that’s normal. But, to these people, laziness is their lifestyle. They lack the motivation to do anything. If they had the chance to spend their lives sitting on the couch, doing nothing, don’t doubt they’d accept it.

The more time you spend with this type of people, the more you run the risk of being lazy yourself. You can start losing motivation and willingness to do tasks and postponing them until later, but that “later” no one knows if it will ever come. So, if you notice someone is a lazybones, well, you know what you need to do.

3. The Showoffs.

Is there anything more irritating and draining than a person who brags about how smart, beautiful, capable, and successful they are from the moment they open their eyes in the morning until they go to sleep? Don’t try to answer, this was a rhetorical question.

This type of people can brag about even the smallest and least important things so as to make themselves look better than you in all aspects of life and downplay the importance of your successes. They’ll exaggerate their achievements (if they have any) so as to be in the spotlight. However, behind all this, there’s usually a person who lacks confidence and is full of insecurities.

Are you wondering whether the Showoffs can make you doubt your abilities? Yes, they can, but only if you allow them to.

4. The Irresponsible.

It’s unbelievable how some people waste their lives waiting for a miracle to happen that will make everything in their lives fall into place without even lifting a finger to achieve the things they want in life. This type of people waits for others to fulfill their responsibilities, solve their problems, create opportunities for them to achieve their goals – live their life.

Additionally, it’s common for them to waste substantial sums of money on unnecessary, stupid things and beg for more. These immature, irresponsible people should never be a part of your life.

5. The Negative Nancies.

These are the people who always complain about you and put you down. They’re extremely negative and unsupportive. This type of person never has anything nice to say about you. Instead, they’re always ready to make you feel bad about yourself and tell you that you’ll never succeed in life and see your dreams come true.

These people are capable of sucking the life out of you, so make sure you stay away from them.

6. The Ignorant.

These people lack knowledge and understanding of different topics. These people lack competencies which are necessary to have a normal, productive life. Moreover, they don’t invest time and effort in learning, gaining new skills, and developing themselves on both personal and professional level.

There’re people who are ignorant and they’re fine with it. On the other hand, there are ignorant people who are unaware of their ignorance. These people falsely believe they’re knowledgeable and smart and they’re real energy drainers.

7. The Ambitionless.

These people lack determination and purpose in life. They don’t bother to reach their full potential. Instead, they’re satisfied (or at least they believe so) with where they’re in life and they don’t bother to set and achieve new, higher goals.  

They’re comfortable doing the everyday, mundane tasks and they don’t tolerate changes and a little discomfort. Maybe they lack confidence or they’re just lazy, but these people never strive to improve themselves, both personally and professionally, and achieve success.

8. The Envious.

These people can’t stand when good things happen to you. Telling this kind of person that you’re in a long-term, successful relationship, or got promoted, or bought the new iPhone will make them green with envy. They simply can’t stand to see you moving forward and doing better in life than them.

That’s why these people will very often make fun of you and criticize you for everything you do. They’ll try to make your achievements look irrelevant and tell you that they’re not a result of your own efforts and abilities, but a mere luck. Such a person definitively doesn’t deserve your time and attention.

Life Is Short – Stay Alone Until You Find Someone Who Actually Cares About You

By
Stephanie Reeds

I’ve seen so many terrified and insecure people settling down. I’ve heard stories about marriages between two mature individuals who cannot stand each other.

I’ve heard about people who were so pressured by the society that they finally gave in and settled down for just about anyone because they were too afraid that they might end up alone.

And I can’t help but wonder… why would you do this to yourself?

Is a relationship, a comfortable marriage, or a safe future all there is to life?

Are we really that desperate that we’ve suddenly reached the stage of accepting whatever comes our way?

People, being alone is not scary. It’s not a sickness. And it is definitely not a curse. Being alone doesn’t necessarily means that someone is lonely. Stop allowing society’s poor standards affect you. Stop letting other people’s insecurities put you down.

Being alone is the best thing you can do for yourself until you finally cross your paths with the charming knight on a white horse/ the beautiful princess in the magical forest.

Being alone is better than settling for shitty, annoying dates that make you want to vomit for actually agreeing to go out. It’s better than pretending you’re having fun with someone when all you can think about is your warm bed. It’s better than giving yourself to a man who sees you only as a trophy wife and doesn’t give a damn about you.

So, be alone.

Be alone if you have to, but never settle for half-assed love.

Be alone until you find someone who will look at you like you are magic. Someone who will look at you like you are their whole universe. A person who will find shelter in your heart. Someone who will love you endlessly.

Be alone until you meet a person who will actually want to spend all of their free time with you, not someone who will make thousands of foolish excuses just to avoid going out with you. Stay single until you meet someone who won’t stand to be apart from you.

Be alone until you meet someone who will inspire you, motivate you to work on yourself and help you open your wings and fly. Someone who won’t be intimidated by your big dreams, but on the contrary, someone who will celebrate your achievements as they were their own.

Be alone until you find someone who will always be around. Be alone you until you meet a person who will actually give a shit about how you feel. Be alone until you find a person who knows how and when to say, “I’m sorry”.

Be alone until you find someone who won’t ghost on you or abandon you whenever you need their biggest support. Be alone until you find someone who will put you first on his priority list, not someone who will consider you just an option.

I know these people are very rare to find nowadays…

But, life is short. And we only get one.

So, stay alone until you meet someone who is worthy of your love.

If He Truly Loves You, He’ll Make Sure You Know It

By
Riley Cooper

If he truly loves you, he’ll make you feel special. He’ll treat you the way you deserve: with lots of love, respect, admiration, and patience.

If he truly loves you, he will undress his soul in front of you. He’ll wear his heart on his sleeve. He’ll make sure you know how important you are to him.

If he really loves you, he’ll make you feel like you’re the only woman in the world.

When he tells you those three magical words I love you, you’ll know he really means it.

If he truly loves you, he’ll want to know everything about you. He will make you feel free and comfortable to share with him your interests and ideas as well as your insecurities and fears. He’ll want to know you to the core and reach the deepest parts of your soul.

If he really loves you, he’ll accept you the way you are, with all your faults and weaknesses. He’ll even cherish the parts about you that you hate the most. Because to this man, you’ll be perfect with all your imperfections.

If he truly loves you, he’ll protect you from anything and anyone. He won’t let anyone talk bad about you and hurt your feelings in his presence. Because the thought of you being hurt is what scares him the most.

If he really loves you, he’ll be your greatest support and help; your crying shoulder; your best friend; your strength; your guiding light; your hope; a partner for life.

If he really loves you, he’ll be more than willing to make time for you. He’ll make sure to spend some time with you even when he’s busy or stressed out. He’ll squeeze you into his hectic schedule because there’s nothing more important to him in his life than you.

If he truly loves you, he’ll never make you feel neglected or ignored.

If he really loves you, he’ll stick with you through thick and thin. He’ll never let you deal with your problems by yourself. Instead, he’ll do his best to help you solve them and overcome all your insecurities and fears.

If he truly loves you, being with you will be enough for him. As long as he’s with you, it won’t matter to him if you’re at home watching a movie on Netflix together or out in the most popular club in the city.

He’ll have fun with you even during the most ordinary and boring tasks. Whether he’s helping you with your project, watching TV with you, or just helping you clear up the table after lunch, he’ll have fun because he loves spending time with you.

If he truly loves you, he’ll remember the little things about you. He’ll remember the name of your favorite chocolate, song, or movie. When he makes you coffee, he’ll put some cinnamon in it because he knows that’s how you like it.

If he really loves you, he’ll notice the way you move your lips when you smile and blush when he gives you compliments. He’ll remember everything about you and your dreams.

If he truly loves you, he’ll share everything that happens to him with you. He’ll talk to you about his wishes, interests, desires, goals, and fears. He’ll share with you both the good and bad moments in his life. There will be no secrets.

If he really loves you, he won’t be afraid to show you his vulnerable sides because when he’s with you, he feels safe and comfortable in his own skin. He knows he can always be himself.

If he truly loves you, he’ll make sure he does those seemingly unimportant things that actually mean a lot to you. He’ll leave you cute, little, love notes on your bed so that you begin your day knowing you’re loved. He’ll send you a nice bouquet of your favorite flowers into your office because he wants you to know he thinks about you during the day.

If he really loves you, you’ll feel that when you look into his eyes. He’ll look at you with admiration, tenderness, affection, and passion. The sparkle in his eyes will make you feel the strong emotional, mental, and spiritual connection that exists between you two.

If he truly loves you, he’ll introduce you to the people he holds dear. He’ll make sure you connect with his friends and family because you’re the most important people in his life.

If he truly loves you, he’ll be proud of you and your successes. Moreover, he’ll motivate you to set new goals and pursue your wildest passions and dreams. He’ll inspire you to be better, do better, and get where you want to be in life.

If he really loves you, he won’t hesitate to give you compliments. He won’t forget to tell you how smart, beautiful, and generous you are. He’ll shower you with affection and sweet words and make sure you know you’re special to him.

If he truly loves you, he’ll commit to you. He’ll plan his future with you. He’ll enjoy talking about the house you’re going to live in, the kids you’re going to have, the places you’re going to visit together.

And you, Girl, if you’re already with this kind of man or will be one day, make sure you keep him because not all men can love this way.

And remember – if he truly loves you, he’ll make sure you know it.

Happy Couples Are Not Born, They Are Made – Learning These Skills Will Put You On The Right Track

By
Stephanie Reeds
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I’ve always believed that when two people genuinely love each other, they go out of their ways to make the relationship work. That is what I was taught to look for in life.

But, the constant rash of breakups everywhere around me got me thinking… Can romantic love last forever? Or people are simply giving up without a fight?

If you ask me, the key to a healthy and sustainable relationship is hard work. You see, happy couples are not born. Relationships don’t just happen overnight. You try your best to make them work, and if that doesn’t work, you try some more.

But, you don’t give up!

The happiest couples out there are made. It’s neither magic, nor a rocket science. You just need to understand that if this is what you want, you have to be ready to compromise. You have to try to make things work, even if it takes a lifetime.

Here are 3 essential rules that will put you on the right track:

KNOW WHEN TO SAY, ‘I’M SORRY’

Nobody is perfect. Perfection is simply an illusion. Whether we like it or not, eventually all of us will mess up more than once in our life. We are going to make mistakes, we’re going to regret them, we’re going to them and there’s no escaping from that. It’s life.

So, the real question here is not whether we can avoid hurting the people we love, but whether or not we’re empathic and considerate enough to know when to say, ‘I’m sorry’ and make things right.

The most sustainable relationships and the happiest couples we know are people who have learned how important it is to be aware of your flaws and humble towards other in order for a relationship to thrive.

I’m not saying that it is easy to compromise. Most people would rather hold on to their pride and defend themselves when they’re wrong instead of admitting their mistakes and working things out.

According to marriage researcher and author Dr. John Gottman, defensiveness, or blaming the other person, is one of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. It is the most toxic self-defense mechanism.

ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT

According to Zach Brittle, Co-founder of ForBetter.com, learning to ask for what you want in the relationship is the most important skill for newlyweds to learn.

You’d assume that most of us have no problem asking for what they need, but you’d be wrong. You see, sometimes we think we already know the answer to our question, and sometimes we’re just afraid of how our partner will react. This is the point where most relationships hit a dead end.

The biggest mistake we make is expressing our wants with demands, rather than desires. And according to Brittle, “Demand is rigid. Self-centered. Unforgiving. Demand takes your partnership out of the equation.” 

Desires gravitate around things that both partners value. For example, equality, freedom, trust, joy, peace.

BE A GOOD LISTENER

Almost everyone can nod their head and silently disagree while listening, but being an active listener means much more than that. It is a really challenging skill, and it is the only way for a relationship to last.

Active listening is not waiting for your partner to finish, just so you could share your perfect counter-argument. It’s staying quiet and empathizing with your partner’s feelings. It’s putting yourself in their skin and imagining what is like to right where they are.

It’s a skill that has the power to build love, trust, and true intimacy.

6 Reasons Why Men Fall In Love, According To Researchers

By
Riley Cooper

Love is an inexplicable force that can turn your world upside down. It’s a complicated puzzle that people have tried to figure out since the dawn of time. We don’t know what exactly makes us fall in love with someone enough for us to want to spend our lives with them.

When it comes to men, there’s a general opinion that they don’t fall in love the same way women do. I’m sure you’ve often heard things like: “Women are more emotional and affectionate than men”; Men don’t open up about their emotions and seem reserved.” But, of course, these are just some of the common stereotypes about men when it comes to love and dating.

So, what makes a man truly falls in love with a woman? Is it her physical appearance, character, virtues, or maybe the similarities she has with him? There’s certainly more than one answer to this question.

The relationship coach Bobbi Palmer says: “A man falls in love when he feels like he could be a superhero with you in his life. When he feels accepted, appreciated and understood, and knows he can make you happy…he will be yours. Oh…and throw in that he thinks you’re hot!”

Men have the same emotions women do, but they fall head over heels in love in their own special ways.

Here are 6 reasons that make a man falls in love:

1. He’s charmed by her wholeness.

When a man truly falls in love, he’s enchanted by the whole package: her looks, her voice, her personality, her kindness, and warm, affectionate nature. When a man meets a woman who possesses these qualities, he’s instantly mesmerized by her. He may not know why he loves her, but his mind will have already examined every single thing about her in detail.

When men are in a serious, meaningful relationship, they’re in love with their woman’s entirety, not with individual parts of her.

2. He feels that he can make her happy.

When it comes to love, we all want the same. We want someone with whom we’ll feel connected on a deep emotional, mental, and spiritual level. Someone with whom we’ll feel intense passion. Someone who will fill our hearts with peace and make us happy.

When a man is confident that he can make a woman happy, he’ll keep falling for her more and more with each new day. Knowing that he can contribute to her happiness makes him feel happy and fulfilled.

3. When she’s not afraid to love and be loved.

Men fall for women who are open to the idea of love. Women who are sure about what they want in a partner and who know how they behave as lovers. Women who are not afraid to show how they feel about their man and who are not ashamed to show their vulnerable sides in front of him.

The dating coach James Preece says: “The things that make a man fall in love really boil down to a deep emotional connection. When you feel comfortable with being open and vulnerable with someone, you’re likely falling in love. We can only really feel anything, including love, when the walls are down.”

4. When she makes him feel special.

When a man feels accepted, appreciated, and loved by a woman, it’s not difficult for him to deeply fall in love with her. A man falls for a woman who makes him feel cherished, emotionally fulfilled, and warm on the inside. A woman who brings out the positive sides in him and makes him feel comfortable in his own skin. A woman who fills him with peace, happiness, and joy.

A man falls in love with a woman who makes him feel special and like he’s the most important person in her life.

5. When she has the zest for life.

A woman who is willing to explore new things and say yes to whatever life throws her way can make any man fall in love with her. Whether it’s trying some food he likes or sports he plays, a man loves when a woman is willing to gain new experiences and venture into the unknown.

Men want to be with a woman who will accept them as they are and be eager to find out something more about their interests and what makes them happy. They want a woman who is more than willing to embrace life.

6. When she awakens the same purpose and passion in him.

When a woman awakens in a man the purpose and passion for life that she has, that’s it -he knows that’s the woman of his dreams. They have the same vision of the future and motivate each other to work towards their goals and happiness. They feel like they can take over the world because they have each other.

She Not Looking For A Relationship, But She’s Open For Love To Find Her

By
Stephanie Reeds

She’s not looking for a relationship because she’s happy with where she is right now. She’s single, and she’s perfectly okay with it.

She’s not looking for a man because she decided that she wants to turn the attention inward. She wants to get to know herself and accept or change the parts that bother her.

She’s not looking for love because love is simply not the journey she chose for herself. She wants to explore the world and learn new things. Her heart craves fresh experiences, it seeks adventure.

She’s not looking for a relationship because she has her old wounds to heal and her broken heart to take care of. She needs time to be on her own and figure out her next steps.

She’s not looking for a man because she’s eager to see what the future has in store for her. She wants to challenge herself to work harder on her goals, reach the highest of highs and follow her own path in life.

She’s not looking for love anymore because she’s determined to let the people who are meant for her to align with her journey and somehow find her.

She’s not looking for a relationship because she’s finally started to live a life that is meaningful to her. She realized that she’s the only creator of her destiny, so she promised herself to never ever follow someone’s rules and ideas about life.

She’s not looking for a man because, after a long time of struggling to accept the reality, she finally felt what it is to be whole on your own. She realized that everything she ever looked for in someone, was already within her heart.

She’s not looking for love because her only focus is her wellbeing and her happiness. She finally stopped searching for a man who would validate her opinions and tell her she’s beautiful. She finally stopped searching for her happiness in all the wrong places.

Because now, she’s completely aware that she can give all of those things to herself and still feel loved. Right now, she’s more confident and wiser than she ever was. She’s learned that she doesn’t need someone to love her.

But, even though she has become the person she was desperately searching for, she has never given up on love.

The fact that she’s not looking for love right now has nothing to do with fear of commitment or general distrust. The fact that she has taken some time to be alone and find herself means that she wants to wait until she finds the real thing.

She’s open to life. She’s willing to let the right person come into her life. She’s open for love to find her. Only, this time, she’s not going to settle down for just about anything. She’s going to wait for something meaningful. Real, all-consuming, out-of-this-world kind of love.

She knows how much she’s worth and she will never again accept anything less than she deserves.

12 Seemingly Unimportant Things That Actually Mean A Lot To Every Woman

By
Riley Cooper

Expressions of love don’t always need to be grand romantic, fairytale-like gestures. In fact, it’s the little things you do for your lady on a daily basis that matter the most to her.

You wonder why this is so? Well, the reason is pretty simple. It’s these seemingly unimportant things that show how much she means to you. They show that you’re willing to put in the effort to keep the connection and romance between you alive.

After all, there are 365 days in a year, which means that you don’t have to wait until Valentine’s Day or her birthday to show how much you love her. There’s a myriad of simple things you can do every day that can help you strengthen the bond and intimacy between you. And undoubtedly, they’ll make her fall in love with you more and more with each new day.

Here are 12 little things which are actually big to every woman:

1. Remember the small details when she talks to you.

Of course, you won’t be able to memorize everything she tells you, but you should put in the effort to remember the most important details. For example, she’s talked about her co-worker Jennifer with whom she gets on really well hundreds of times since you’ve been together. And not referring to her as “That girl with the curly hair called you this morning” will show her that you pay attention when she talks to you.

So, make sure you remember the names of her friends, her favorite type of flowers or chocolate, or any other little detail she’s shared with you. Trust me, it’ll mean a lot to her.

2. Go shopping with her.

Men don’t like shopping, we get that. But imagine how surprised and pleased your woman will be if you offer to take her to the mall and help her choose some fancy clothes.  

But, make sure you’re in a good mood while you’re there because if you start getting grumpy and impatient, this will do more harm than good, and you won’t certainly make the shopping a pleasant experience.

3. Leave her little love notes.

Leave her a cute little love note on her bed so that it’s the first thing she sees in the morning. This will definitively give her a pleasant, warm feeling. And if you want her to know you’re thinking about her during the day, you can leave her a post-it note into her coat pocket or purse. Trust me, this will make you her hero.   

4. Offer her some stress relief.

Did she come home tired and stressed out from work? Well, then, why don’t you suggest ordering in some pizza and save her from making dinner herself. And why stop there? After the dinner, you can prepare a hot relaxing bath for her. Don’t doubt she’ll be especially pleased by your gesture.

5. Clean up after yourself.

Whether you have your own place or share one with her, know that she’ll appreciate if you keep it tidy and clean. Maybe leaving a little bit of mess behind you is not a big thing for you, but, trust me – women hate this. She’ll clean it up, but she definitely won’t feel happy about it.

And let’s be honest, it’s not that hard to clean up after yourself (even kids do that). So make sure you remember next time to clear up all that mess you’ve made in the bathroom and put your clothes where they belong.

6. Listen to her. Just listen.

When she talks to you, she wants to know she’s heard. So, let her know you’re paying attention to her words because you’re interested in what she has to say. Don’t just be physically present and pretend to listen to her while your mind is wandering off who knows where.

But most importantly, don’t listen with the intent to make a suggestion or offer her a solution to whatever is bothering her. She does not need your opinions and solutions. All that she wants is to know that you try and want to understand what she has to share with you.

7. Don’t criticize her choices.

“Are you really going to buy those jeans? Just look at the color.”  Yes, she is. You don’t need to criticize the little choices she makes whenever you disapprove of them. Instead, learn to respect them and let her be.

8. Don’t let her wait long for you to respond to her text messages.

It’s not like you have to text her back the moment you receive her message or leave in the middle of a meeting at work to answer her call. But, when she texts you, don’t let her wait for hours for your replay.

Texting her will only take you a couple of seconds, but it’ll show her that she’s your priority even when you’re up to your neck in work.9. Show interest in the things she likes doing.

Maybe you don’t like watching romantic comedies (in fact, I’m sure you don’t), but why not watching one with her on a Sunday afternoon if you know she enjoys them? Or, if she likes jogging or walking in nature, it won’t hurt if you join her, right?

By taking part in her interests, you’ll show that everything related to her means to you. And the more time you spend together, the stronger the bond between you will get.

10. Cook up something nice for her.

It doesn’t matter how good you are at cooking, you should be capable of making her a meal at least once a week. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant and difficult to make because what will really matter to her is your effort. And most women find it sexy when they see their man making some delicious dinner for them.

11. Take her on a date.

Whether you’ve been together for 6 months or 6 years, you should never stop dating. You can take her out to dinner, to the cinema, or just go for a walk. And you don’t need to wait for a special occasion to take her on a date.

It’d really surprise her if you do that when she expects it the least. For example, pick her up from her work and take her to a restaurant or any other place where you’ll spend a good quality time together and have fun.

12. Give her space.

Sometimes women just need to spend time alone. Whether they feel stressed out and want to relax or they just want to watch an episode of their favorite TV show, it’s important for them to have alone time. So, make sure you give her as much alone time as she needs to rest and feel better.

Share this to show men how they should be looking after their ladies.

 

Which gymnastic tumbling mat will be better for practicing gymnastics?

By
Elizabeth Williams

Are you looking for the comfortable tumbling mats for the use in the home? If yes, then verellenhc is a site where you can find the reviews of top home tools and equipments. Also, you will get to learn some important tips to be considered while choosing these tumbling mats. We are offering reviews of top home equipment/tools to the customers to help choose the best quality items. Read thoroughly the reviews on gymnastic tumbling given below.

Reviews of the top tumbling mats-

Tumbl Trak gymnastic folding tumbling mat-

It is made using the premium quality material and it is a foldable mat which is having 2 inch wide panels. It is offered in various colors along with two-end Velcro.  Material which is used to make it is polyethylene cross-linked foam and 10 oz industry set vinyl. It is a durable, light weighted, foldable as well as easy to clean this mat. Hence, it is best for the practicing gym exercises and gymnastics.

We sell mat gymnastics tumbling mats-

This is also a very popular tumbling mat model and it is made using high-quality polyethylene foam as well as vinyl coating. It is highly durable as well as safe! You can avail this mat in different sizes and it is quite portable. 

Best choice’s PU leather gymnastic tumbling mat-

It is offered in different size and colors. It is a multipurpose mat which is 4 sided and it can be folded easily. This Velcro gym mat secure the hold thus, mat remains together. This mat has a non-slip surface and thus, chances of slipping while practicing gymnastics are less. If you make use of this gymnastic mat then you can experience safety and practice comfortably.

Soozier PU leather gymnastic tumbling-

This is a leather mat made using 2 inches thick firm having 8 as high-density EPE foam. It is having four panels which conform to CPSIA needs for phthalate, formaldehyde, and lead. The leather used is non-absorbent as well as durable. It can be cleaned easily and it is also easy to carry. On 4 sides there is Velcro which enables a person to attach it to the other mats. It is suitable for use by the gymnasts of every age.

We sell mat non-folding incline cheese wedge-

This is a folding gymnastic mat which is perfect for your home. It is not only durable but its construction is also very good. Also, it is portable and there are handles provided on the sides of the mat. It is made using the dependable vinyl. It is offered in various sizes and it is best for your home use. Any age group people can use it.

Tips to consider while buying the tumbling mat online-

Verellenhc provides a tumbling mat selection tips which you can follow and get the best tumbling mat for home. Some of the points you have to consider while choosing it are as follows-

Purpose of use- it is necessary for you to know the purpose of use before buying it. Are you buying it to carry out a regular workout on it or for kids to play on it? Decide the thickness of the mat and which type of mat you require and it will completely depend on the purpose of use.  Make sure if it for practicing workout then it must be a non-slip mat.

The dimension of the mat– it is important to consider the size of the mat! Look at the area you wish to cover and this will help you decide the size of the mat. For practicing gymnastics you may require multiple mats. Thus, it is important that you select those mats which can be folded easily and thus, there will be no problem of space. Also, the mat you choose must get folded as well as tucked easily. The mat you choose must have the thickness between 1 to 8 inches.

The material used– it is important to consider the material quality while choosing the tumbling mats for home. Make use of the mat which is made from eco-friendly as well as premium quality material.  Also, check it is mildew resistant, cross-link polymer or simple foam. The covering of mat matters a lot hence, select the one which has PU, vinyl or leather material. Also, make decision about whether you are in need of removable covers. Don’t make use of the low-quality mat as they can be unsafe and using it you may not be able to practice well.

Also, make a decision about whether you are in need of removable covers. Don’t make use of the low-quality mat as they can be unsafe and using it you may not be able to practice well. Consider purchasing an amethyst biomat, that can help ease fatigue and combat stress.

Budget

Always make a budget before you buy anything. Also, see whether the certain thing you are buying is having features you need and it falls under your budget or not. If a gymnastic mat you buy is having a low price but do not have good features then don’t waste money on it. Also, don’t buy the higher priced material because then giving good care to those items are difficult. Consider buying mats which are affordable and offer suitable features to you.

The above given tips are followed by peoples and they are thus, able to get the gymnastic tumbling mats which they desire. You can also do research on what type of mat to be bought and how to use it perfectly. There are so many places where you can make use of these mats and also, children can play on it. They can practice gymnastics, do workout and they won’t get hurt.

Some of the types of gymnastic tumbling mat you can get in the market are-

  • Incline mat
  • Paneled mat
  • Flexi-roll mat
  • Cartwheel beam mat

Verellenhc have the reviews of the several products, tools and equipments but the last choice is yours. We only provide reviews on the basis of the material and its features. Rest it is your decision which one you are going to select and which item will suit your needs the most. If you are in need of kitchenware or outdoor or indoor items then you can first read reviews of the top item/ tools/ equipment here on Verellenhc. This will be helpful in determining which brand and which type of equipment or tool is best for home use.

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