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The TRUTH Why White People Say ‘All Lives Matter’

Have you noticed how people started using the expression “All Lives Matter” only after the phrase “Black Lives Matter” was coined?

It is almost as if it was ‘designed’ as an automatic response to the “Black Lives Matter” statement, which suggests that the uttering of these words makes us feel a bit uncomfortable. But why?

Some white folks may argue that the phrase is a bit racist, implying that white lives do not matter as much. That is clearly not the case.

Let us put it this way. If you attended a colon cancer conference, you wouldn’t think for a moment that they were discarding other types of cancer as irrelevant or not as important, would you?

According to a recent article by John Halstead, published on the Huffington Post,  if someone turned up with a banner saying “Lung Cancer Matters” or on a T-shirt saying “All Cancer Victims Matter?” it would certainly appear that there is something else that compels people to say “All Lives Matter” in response to the “Black Lives Matter” statement.

Mr. Halstead writes that that people saying “All Lives Matter” also tend to use the expression “Blue Lives Matter”.

For those of you who find the expression “Black Lives Matter” to be offensive but have no problem with “Blue Lives Matter”, it is clear that there is something about the word “Black” that makes you feel uncomfortable. This is clearly indicative of something.

The Issue of Colorblindness

According to Mr. Halstead, the reason why the word “Black” bother us is the fact that by using it, we acknowledge the fact that we do see color and we are actually not “colorblind” as most of us would like to think.

Mr. Halstead claims that colorblindness simply doesn’t exist. Moreover, it can also be said that ignoring race is a white man’s privilege. In other words, white people are “blessed” with not having to pay attention to race because society is largely run by whites and for whites.

It is clear that the phrase “All Lives Matter” serves the purpose of shifting the focus from the systematic racism out there leveled at black people. It is only a substitute phrase for “White Lives Matter” as when white people say “all lives” they largely think “all white lives”.

Mr. Halstead says that we need to start saying “Black Lives Matter” much more than we do because it is clear that our society doesn’t think so. It is a well established fact that more than two-thirds of all people shot by law enforcement agencies in America are black, and that the country’s judiciary system sentences black people more severely than whites who committed the exact same crime.

And by throwing around phrases like “All Lives Matter” and failing to respond appropriately to unjustified killings of black people we certainly act as if we truly believe that black lives do not matter as much.

And yet we keep saying “All Lives Matter”, not wanting to get out of our comfort zone. “Black Lives Matter” makes us feel uncomfortable, Mr. Halstead claims, because it reminds us that racial segregation is very much alive in America.

While open racism is no longer culturally acceptable for most white folks, modern-day racism has “evolved” and has now taken a more subtle, covert form instead.

A modern-day racist is not a member of the infamous KKK and does not use the N-word, but he unwittingly supports the “institutionalized racism” nevertheless. Failing to see and to respond to racism can be considered as a form of passive participation, as can the use of the statement “All lives matter”.

Embracing the Discomfort

Recognizing the problem is part of the solution, according to Mr. Halstead, and white people should drop the notion that we are colorblind.

How many of us are prepared to admit to giving ourselves a pat on the back for treating a black man the same as we would treat a white man in any given situation? It only goes to show that we are indeed not colorblind.

Racism comes in all kinds of subtle ways, and if you fancy yourself as a non-racist, try and spend some time to interact with black people.

Even if you feel comfortable in the company of a black man or a woman, chances are you will feel pretty uncomfortable in a room full of black people. You would probably start feeling unwelcome. Well, that’s how black people feel most of the time.

Feeling guilty about white privilege will not do much good. Using that privilege against racial abuse and talking to white people about institutional racism will.

According to Mr. Halstead, we must overcome the issue of saying the world “Black” and challenge our unconscious bias by start saying “Black Lives Matter”.

Side With the Second Civil Rights Movement

Mr. Halstead writes that as much as we (white people) like to think that we would have chosen Martin Luther King Junior’s side during the Civil Rights era, the fact remains that the vast majority of white people were opposed to the Civil Rights movement when it was happening.

There is no denying the facts. We are living the second Civil Rights Movement and it seems to have a similar, albeit more subtle effect on white people.

Decades from now, we will reflect on the Second Civil Rights Movement and see if we sided with the right or the wrong side of history. Choosing the former means embracing discomfort, it means saying “Black  Lives Matter ”.

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Staying on top of the testosterone game in 6 ways

What is the first word that comes to your mind when you hear the word Testosterone? If it’s something to do with manliness, well that’s fine.

There are all kinds of notions that men have about their testosterone levels, why they should be high, and how to keep them up and stay on top of the game. So, let’s jump right into it:

1.Steroids: If you’ve never heard of the word steroide anabolisant, we don’t blame you. Firstly, it’s French for Anabolic steroid, and secondly, it’s something that there’s a lot of discussion about.

So, what’s all the big deal?

Anabolic steroids quite simply result in anabolism through higher synthesis of protein in the body, which leads to a person putting on more muscle.

It’s quite often used to impart a higher degree of manliness by inducing puberty, hair growth, deepening of voice, et cetera.

There’s an extensive use of these steroids in bodybuilding and sports as well, with results visible within a short period of time.

However, we recommend that you consult a physician before starting out on courses of any such steroids, to ensure that your body is ready to benefit from these.

2. Cut the extra cigarettes & beers: While we would recommend entirely cutting them out of your daily life, it’s not something that happens overnight. So, if you’re a regular consumer, lay these down.

It’s been proven time and again that smoking messes up your body and negates all the hard work you put into your workout, and impairs your stamina and lung capacity.

Beer, on the other hand, contains hops which causes Estrogen formation. For those of you who don’t know, more Estrogen means your testosterone levels go for a toss.

3. Avoid Soy: While soy is an exemplary source of protein, it’s known to produce a great deal of Estrogen. Throwback to the previous point.

Rely less on soy for your protein supply, and avoid taking any supplements based on it. Always check the constituents of your box of WHEY.

4. Amp up your workout: Well, working out is known to promote testosterone formation. So, if you’re worried about getting your testosterone levels high, just blaze your workout schedule.

But remember one quick rule: keep your workouts short (~45 minutes) and intense. Beyond that, cortisol levels will spike, and counter your intended result.

5. Rest: Further to the above, it’s good to go for a good workout. But it’s so much important to take proper rest.

Little/no rest leads to overtraining and perpetual fatigue, which shifts your hormonal balance to grey areas where one thing that doesn’t dwell is testosterone.

6. Sleep: No matter what anyone tells you, pulling across more workout isn’t going to do you any good if you don’t get proper sleep.

Less sleep = more stress. More stress = decreased testosterone. Get the maths?

While the above tips work for sure, we still advise consulting a physician if you’re feeling low on testosterone and put a lid to that sooner. Keep training, stay fit and healthy, and enjoy life.

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21 Things Only People Who Were Raised By Really Strict Parents Understand

For many, asking for permission to go out and see a friend was unimaginable. But for those with strict parents, it was something inevitable. In fact, you know you had to create a detailed plan for asking permission for anything, right? And not only that…

1. For others, sleepovers were not a big deal because they were common, but not for you. There was whole procedure involved: planning a speech to explain why you should go, presenting the family of your friend in details and praying for a positive result. Of course, you would have to swear that you will stay away from alcohol and go to bed early.

2. Then, even if you already got the permission, things could still go wrong. For example, remember what happened when someone was changing the plans when you already got the permission? You had to explain everything, justify the actions of your friends and then explain why you’re friends with them to get the “yes”.

3. Spontaneous dates were science fiction because your parents needed time to think whether you should go out or stay home.

4 Going out once a week is more than enough, they would say. So, you had to choose one day to have a fun time out.

5. The party is just starting, everyone is arriving and you have to leave. Sounds familiar?

6. The clothes were another problem. It seemed that everything that you liked was inappropriate to wear for them. You are thinking about the “appropriateness” of your clothes even now.

7. Piercing, tattoos and unusual hairstyles were something you never even tried to get because you knew that they wouldn’t allow it.

8. Even your name was conventional and “usual” – not an experiment.

9. Cursing was forbidden in your house.

10. You were too afraid to watch TV-shows where the characters may kiss, so you turned the TV off or you acted like you’re doing something else and the show was on accidentally.

11. Every casual conversation with them could become their monologue about your behavior, so you were choosing your words carefully.

12. It was usual for them to call you while you were out, but whenever you took more time to answer, they would immediately conclude that you are doing something suspicious with “that friend” who they never liked.

13. Proper behavior was expected. Bad and non-decent behavior was considered a ticket to hell.

14. Talking about sex was also forbidden and avoided as much as possible. Everything you know you have learned from your friends, movies and books.

15. Everything that was important for your parents were your achievements at school and university. All the rest was not important and “not for you”.

16. They were always trying to be involved in every school activity they could. They couldn’t just leave you be independent, could they?

17. All the time, the rebel in you was fantasizing about spontaneous adventures around the city or doing something independently. But, all of that remained just a fantasy until you moved out.

18. Often, you knew their answers even before you ask them to go out although you have practiced the dialogue for hours in your head.

19. Of course, asking for permission when they’re tired or angry equals to suicide.

20. You have tried to use tricks to get them on board with an “adorable look”, trying to get to their emotions and make them feel sorry for you before you ask for something really big.

21. Everyone lies, but you had to lie more: sometimes to your parents and more often to your friends who couldn’t understand.

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How the Intensive care is provided for the inpatient mental health?

All the diseases start from the mental health of a person. If a patient is mentally strong enough to fight with major diseases he will be a healthy person in no time but if a person is mentally and emotionally weak and he is not able to deal with minor incidents or illness, it will be near to impossible for him to get better.

Mental health of a person totally depends on the resistance and strength residing in him. Some people’ mental health may easily get affected by the daily life issues and incidents whereas the mental health of some people is not even affected by severe traumatic events.

A person suffering from any disease in the hospital may remain ill for a longer time not because of the side effects of that disease but due to the depressing and negative effects of the surroundings on his mental health.

Physicians try a lot to keep the environment lively around the patient and to not let him think pessimistic regarding his disease and life. Family pressure, career difficulties, sudden deaths, failures can easily be a cause for a person’s depression, anxiety, thought disturbances, loss of wealth etc.

There are many therapies introduced to treat the mental health of a person depending on the cause of its occurrence. The most adopted mental health therapies are:

  1. Individual and group psychotherapy
  2. Milieu therapy
  3. Occupational therapy
  4. Family sessions
  5. Medication management

Inpatient mental health treatments of patients is required to be performed by highly qualified physicians and professionals who have years of experience in treating patients suffering from any emotional or mental disorder.

As per the suggestions and directions of the psychiatrist, the patient is thoroughly assessed and observed for his every activity and thinking which is used to stabilize him among his family and friends. The team of inpatient mental health treatment might include:

  • Board-certified general psychiatrists
  • Registered nurses
  • Licensed clinical social workers or psychiatric therapists
  • Board-certified child and adolescent psychiatrists
  • Clinical psychologists
  • Occupational and/or recreational therapists
  • Behavioral health advisors

The team is subjected to provide intensive care an attention to the inpatient mental health. The patient is overly cared and observed till he reacts better. There are also adult acute inpatient units that are focused on treating the people over age 18 and suffering from mental health issues.

Younger than 18 years of age might get admitted to the adult acute inpatient care unit depending on the severity of his condition. Physicians make sure if the adult acute inpatient unit is safe and secure for the patient or not.

The duration of treatment is not specified by the physicians as it may take days, months or even years depending on the improvement in the mental health condition of the patient. The time is provided for the treatment with the suggestions of the families provided and the condition discussed with the consultants.

The Isolated Indian Ocean Island Is The Home To A Community Who Have Lived There For 60,000 Years

What is more fulfilling and still hold a place in your bucket list for as long as you can remember? Is it having enough money to travel the world?

Is it visiting secluded places which has been untouched by humans or the fast-developing technology? Or maybe you have a small black notes keeping down all the places you want to see and experience like no other? Yes, yes and yes!

No matter how adventurous or not adventurous you are, everyone wants to see as many places as possible before their lives come to an end.

The North Sentinel Island sounds just the right place that everyone should put on their bucket list, or is it?

One on One with the North Sentinel Island

It’s located in the Bay of Bengal and it belongs to India. It’s dreamy, it’s isolated, it’s untouched by humans or technology and that sounds like a real vacation for us.

Exploring nature all day long, meeting the tribe that inhabited this marvelous island and take advantage of all the natural sources that this island provides for you.

Well, so far it sounds perfect, however nothing is perfect on this world and there’s something on this island that gives people from all around the world chills and fear.

Ok, now I’m interested. Why is this island so mysterious and so untouchable?

Meet the Sentinelese People

The tribe that ruled this island exclusively for over 60, 000 years and one thing’s for sure- you don’t want to mess with these people.

They have been so hostile to outsiders that we can easily say that no man alive have lived enough or reached even the bays of this island to tell a story about it.

Yes, these people are hostile, they defend this island with all the weapons, force and people they have in order to keep foreigners away from them. It’s no wonder this island has been a mystery for such a long time, the Sentinelese allow no access to what’s known as their OWN island.

So, the North Sentinel Island is about the size of Manhattan and yet there hasn’t been a man to lay foot on it or tell us how it really looks. This tribe is often referred as the “Stone Age Tribe”, probably due to their lifestyle because from the few photos and videos that appeared so far, we can notice that they still use tools and weapons like the ones they used in the Stone Age.

In fact, the Indian government had made several attempts to establish contact or communication with them, however they firmly indicate that they want no contact or mingling with other people.

So, the Indian government has decided to let these people live as they please and even prohibited people to come near the island or make attempts to establish contact with the Sentinelese people.

What we know?

First of all, we see photos from afar and we instantly notice the dazzling beaches, the amazing greenery, and the astonishing forest secluding this island.

However, the tribe left a lot to our imagination. The notorious reputation of this tribe left curious people away from this island and if you even get the chance to get close even by a helicopter, then you will notice a representative of the tribe holding an arrow in his hand and aiming towards you.

Even people wandering the ocean and coming close to it, have faced difficulties approaching this island because they may put their lives in danger or they may not even come alive from this adventure.

The tribe has zero tolerance for curious outsiders, in fact there was an incident in 2006 when the tribe killed two fishermen just because they were fishing too close to their island.

They also use filing rocks and fire arrows as a defense mechanism and not even a helicopter can come near them. However, it’s more about what we don’t know rather than what we know.

It’s the 21st century and we still have no clue about the tribe, what their habits are, the language they speak, their rituals, but one thing is for sure, they don’t want us there and they still want to keep their island away from outsiders or modern civilization.

There are some photos or videos with a very poor quality, because people are trying to take a glimpse of them from afar, however no one dares to approach them or put their lives into jeopardy. 

So, long story short, if you ever do have the chance to wander the ocean, try to avoid this mysterious island and save yourself from all the troubles you may encounter on the way. I’m sure deleting this island from my bucket list.

Sources:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/
http://www.businessinsider.com/

9 Brutally Honest Reasons Why Millennials Refuse To Have Kids

Getting married and raising children are the most important roles we have as humans. Yes, older generations believed in this purpose, but is that the case now?

I don’t think so. If you ask millennials do they want to have children, without much thinking they will immediately replay NO!

If the picture which women had earlier involved having a big yard, white picket fence and children running around today’s picture is completely different.

Career first, say millennials.

Therefore, data from the Urban Institute which show that between 2007and 2012, birth rates among women in their 20s is about 15% lower, are not surprise at all.

A research from Pew showed that the number of people who don’t have children has doubled since 1970.

Our grandparents may think that we are selfish for not wanting to dedicate our lives raising children. But as we can see millennials are not much affected by what other people think and say. They’ll do whatever they feel is best for them.

Here are 9 reasons why millennials refuse to have children.

  1. We Live in an Awful World

Every time I turn the TV on there are news about some terrorists’ attacks, many dead and many seriously injured, some new disease has invaded the country or similar ugly things.

How on earth do you expect us to want to raise a child in this awful world? Like it’s not enough that we are trying to survive all the bad things that are happening? So, forgive us if we want to spare an innocent child from all the ugliness there is.

  1. We are Broke

The sad truth is that our generation is the most educated but the least paid one. There are so many people with a doctoral, master or professional degree but unfortunately they are not paid enough.

The expenses of everyday life are too high and we are struggling to make ends meet each month. We are still giving back the loans we’ve taken to cover the expenses for our education.

How could we afford housing, diapers, baby food, baby clothing (which is by the way as expensive as clothing for grown-ups), and the list goes on. It’s just unbearable.

And to mention same sex couples or couples who can’t have their own baby. Their journey would be even more expensive one. Surrogate and artificial insemination are very expensive methods and not everyone can afford them.

  1. Overcrowded World and Expensive Housing are just Too Much

There are too many people in the cities, and that is already causing many problems. Too many cars equal too much traffic. Too much traffic equals too much air pollution. Too much air pollution equals too many diseases and so on and so forth.

The amount of rents is too high because overpopulation increases demand and normally prices.

There are also many orphans and children who are starving and begging on the streets so if you are thinking about raising a child, why not adopt one. That way you won’t add to overpopulation and you’ll get the chance of being a parent.  

  1. Pregnancy is not Such a Blissful Period as They Say

Morning sickness, sore breasts, fatigue, nausea, throwing up after every meal, heartburns… blissful period, I don’t think so!

And then comes the time of giving birth. Even with all the improved medical technology childbirth is excruciatingly painful experience. The time for recuperation can take a long period of time too. This means no normal sexual activities for a long time either.

But wait, that’s not all. Imagine some little creature sucking on your breasts all day and all night long.

Are these reasons not enough?

  1. Some People have Children for Selfish Reasons

Some would say that not having children is a selfish act, but having kids for the wrong reasons, is that the right thing to do?

Some people decide to have children so they could save their shaky marriage or relationship while others do it out of boredom.

If you just want to see what a hybrid of you and your partner would look like, then don’t have children.

I’m grossed out whenever I see how people parade their children on Facebook or Instagram just so they could get more likes.

  1. We’ll Ruin Them With Terrible Parenting

Some of us admit that they can’t take care of themselves let alone take care of a child. There are some who don’t like children and can’t stand being around them.

I’ve spoken to some who have said that the only time they thought children are cute is when they are quiet and sitting still, and we all know that happens only when they are asleep, every 4 hours that is.

Some women just don’t have the so called motherly instinct that sets your biological clock and tells you when the time has come to have a baby.

  1. Career First Please

Just as the study shows, having both a successful career and a family is simply impossible. Even when a couple decides to have children, one of them has to stay at home or at least work less. That will of course have a negative impact on their achievement in the career area.

Therefore, many who want to stay focused on their career opt not to have children. That’s the wise choice if you ask me. Because what’s the point of giving birth to a child and then letting a babysitter raise them so you could work more and chase your dream? 

  1. Children Won’t Fix Your Relationship or Your Marriage

True story. There are so many pathetic people who think a child will restore their damaged relationship or save their marriage.

Others decide to have children just because the society and their surrounding expect them to.

Hats off to those who say they don’t care what society thinks as long as they are satisfied and happy with their own decision.

And if that’s not having kids and being a parent, then be it.

  1. We simply don’t Like Them! Period

Some people like chicken, some like pork while others like fish. Same goes with the choice to be a parent or not. Some people like the role while others simply don’t. There’s no particular reason why, it just doesn’t seem right to them.

What one does with their money, career, body or lifestyle choices is no one else’s business.

Everybody deserves to live a life as they see fit!

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This City Really Exists Where People Live Without Politics, No Religion And No Money!!!

Take a moment and think about the biggest challenges the world is facing today.  Poverty, political disputes, natural resources depletion, cultural and ethnic intolerance. Moreover, prevalence of judgmental behavior and prejudice against anyone different.

Now, imagine living in a place where none of these problems exist. It sounds impossible, right?

Well, although a surprise for many, such a utopian place exists for more than 50 years.

It is called Auroville and it is located in Southern India.

The creation of the city was an idea of an incredibly smart and benevolent woman, a spiritual leader named Mirra Alfansa.

Although with Egyptian and Turkish roots, she has found her peace in the Indian culture, and has fulfilled her dream of creating a place where people will leave in peace with God and the universe, rather than worrying about the earthly artificially created plights.

As early as her teenage years, when asked why she is so sad, Mirra answered: “Indeed, I do feel the weight of the world‘s miseries pressing upon me!” Struggling with the idea she has to change the world, it all started.

The main goal of Auroville is to become a universal place, where everyone is welcomed to live, regardless of the nationality, cultural heritage, religion or language.

It is designed to be a cosmopolitan place that will demonstrate to everyone how harmonious life can be, if we only remember one thing – that we are all human, and that we are all citizens of the earth.

The way in which this place functions in very unique, and certainly, difficult to be believed. Its creator Mirra, has shaped a city charter, which explains the purpose of the town.  According to the document, no nation can claim property of this place – Auroville belongs to the whole world. 

There is no authority, legal or political, nor a person of power, that the inhabitants need to respect. There are no written laws either.

They all believe that there is only one supreme universal truth that everyone needs to follow. The values that its citizens strive towards are harmony, love and acceptance, while in the same time; they put enormous emphasis on education and research.

The idea of the town is to be a place of birth of new and prosperous ideas that will be used to the progress of all. There are no titles of hierarchical positions – everyone has equal access of resources, and everyone has a right to choose its own profession as long as he/she does not harm anyone.

To some it may look like a city of laziness – everyone can pursue its own dream. But in reality the city puts immense accent or scientific progress and societal development.

They care about the nature –, but in the same time they appreciate art, technology and industrial development.

As a result, the functioning of the town is organized in a very modern and environmental friendly way. They have implemented systems of wastewater treatment, as well as systems of ground water depletion.

Auroville uses eco-friendly methods for production of organic food, as well as technologically advanced methods for making the poor soil fertile. With the time, the town has become self-sufficient when it comes to food production and drinking water.

Starting from the seventies, they have started a process of forestation, and today the city is settled within a belt of forests and fields, making it one of the cleanest places on earth.

On top of that, Auroville has started with the production of biogas, produced out of a bio-waste. With that, the town has its own renewable energy production and a clean environment.

Interestingly enough, there were representatives of the western developed countries visiting the congresses organizes in Auroville, in order to see the new advancements this small settlement has instigated.

If you thought that all of this is too unrealistic, wait for the most fascinating part of the story.

Aurovillians use no money – they have a whole economy functioning on principles of sharing, giving and exchanging.

There is a distribution center in the city where both citizens and strangers can get a meal, but mainly, people produce what they need and exchange items with neighbors, without any aspirations of earning from the barter economy.

As a result of the cosmopolitan spirit embedded in the city, today it is inhabited with representatives from more than 50 nations.

It is protected under the authority of UNESCO, which in a way secures its future existence.  The town has no restrictions – everyone is welcomes to come and to find his own peace.

Certainly, the example of Auroville might be perceived as extreme to someone, but without a doubt, it sets an example of how societies should search for organizational and functional forms that will stop the destruction of the environment and will reduce human suffering. As Mirra Alfansa would say: “Widen your consciousness to the dimension of the earth, and you will have a place for everything”.

Anxiety Makes Me Look Like An Asshole

“Look at her, she probably thinks she is way better than anyone else.”

But I don’t. I stay quiet because I cannot engage myself in conversations, not because I think people are not good enough to be talked to, but because I think I am not good enough to be talked to.

Anxiety has made me like this. Anxiety has put an end to my social life way before it had even started.

I am always the shy one when it comes to hanging out in groups. I have a lot to say the majority of the time but the thing keeping me away from expressing myself is the thought I put behind every single word that comes out of my mouth.

The tone of voice I greet you with or the amount of interest I put into my sentences. Nothing goes unnoticed. Anxiety makes sure that I notice everything.

All I have ever wanted in life is to know how it feels like having self-confidence. How it feels like having no problems talking and exchanging opinions with others. The pure ability to make eye contact without sweating or cracking my knuckles until I’m in physical pain.

Just because I stare at my phone, at the floor, or I am counting the cracks on the wall behind your talking lips instead of focusing on the point you are trying to make, people assume I am rude.

Nodding my head instead of a welcoming “Good morning” makes my coworker think I am full of judgment, despise and derision.

But he is not familiar with my burning desire to talk to him, he is only familiar with the parts of me I don’t want to show. The ones that destroy me. He doesn’t know how many times I have skipped lunch because of him.

Because I was too shy, too embarrassed to ask him to move his plate out of the microwave. Or how many times I had to walk miles to get to work because it just seemed much easier than asking him not to use my parking space.

People get the vision of me being an asshole. But the real asshole here is my anxiety. The thing keeping me at home, keeping me away from my own life.

The voices in my head constantly yelling and telling me to double, even triple check everything I do. My movements, posture, body language and every combination of notes and sounds I make.

I just want to be normal, to have a normal life, a human life. This is not something I can wash away with pills, my mental health, or to be clearer: a lack of it is not something that I can live with anymore.

A widespread havoc on my inside is covered up with the most innocent smile and eyes full of “joy.” I am being attacked and destroyed by something I can’t escape from.

By something that is inside my own mind. I am on the verge of breaking and the only one whose fault it’s is myself. No matter how irrational that sounds, it’s more than real to me.

It’s not a choice you make, rather a choice that makes you.

All the logic in the world can’t keep my heart from hammering in my chest when I am about to go out with my friends. Getting ready for a night out is like getting ready for a battle.

By practicing my words and greetings I leave the door, with an abundance of apprehension in my thoughts, capturing the things that may go wrong and everything in between.

Anxiety makes me look like an asshole, it makes me turn into something I am in eternal denial for being.

It makes me lose myself, but in the same time, it is bringing me closer to myself, making me realize there is more to me than my mental illnesses.

There is more to anyone than their silence.

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Why Women Date Married Men!

Primitively speaking wanting something we can’t have has been embroiled in our genetic make up for many generations. The stark reality of poaching a mate has evolved from animals into our daily lives, mate poaching is attractive to women because women see a married man as already possessing all the qualities they require in their life.

If a man is married and taken off the market then it’s perceived that another woman has already seen his life ensuring qualities and married him.

This perception of what men can offer can certainly change due to their relationship with others. If a single lady meets a single guy, then immediately you may ask yourself why he is single, why hasn’t another single lady taken him off the market? However, if a single lady is attracted to a man and finds out they are in a relationship or married, then is this subliminal confirmation that he  has all the necessary qualities she is looking for, is he more experienced, is he more committed, is he more desirable now because his wife or partner has already pre screened him?!! If someone wants him and has him, then he must be worth wanting and having by another!

It could also be said that women want more than a one night stand, more than just sex with a stranger never to be seen again.

But in the same breath don’t necessarily want the fully fledged and committed relationship that is expected of two people in a relationship. A married man offers sex, a partner, a lunch date, maybe even a weekend away. But on majority he certainly does not offer a long committed drawn out relationship that is hers and hers alone to fulfil and make work.
On the other hand a married man could well be offering a committed relationship, but only when he is ready in the future and has left his wife first, but until then the guilty sex, the sneaking around and wanting what she can’t have is more than enough satisfaction.

The irony is that if he is perceived to have all the life ensuring qualities a woman seeks in a man, pre-screened by his current wife or partner, then why is he cheating with someone else, is his honesty and integrity already impaired, yet when dating a married man this is all ignored.

If he’s a cheat, a sneak and two timing the women in his life, then surely he can’t be top of your ‘must have’ list, or… is he? You would think the lack of respect, availability, time and attention is enough to put any women off, yet he is still perceived as desirable by many. However, some women’s logic also determines that if a man has a wife at home and is cheating on her, then he is not cheating with me. And in some women’s eyes that does sound good, especially those with possible trust.

This high number of single women certainly does desire a married man because it gives them space, they have a relationship with a pre-screened man who has the ability to give a woman breathing space. A mistress is not at all responsible for him, not accountable to him and do not need to give him all of their time and energy. 

And let’s face it the sneaking around is probably a highlight of the relationship as the excitement of meeting up, hot rendezvous, meeting for lunch, staying for nights at a time provides arguably more thrills on a regular basis than a personal honest relationship. Secret sex can be more sort after, this lusting part of married men dating provides all the enjoyment a woman could need. New daring places to have sex such as in the marital home or bed fills this experience with passion and desire in a way not always possible in a regular relationship.
Grabbing sexual encounters when you least expect them can be a huge turn on, these rule breaking, unprotected experiences are very desirable to single women as they are naughty, new, adventurous and no strings attached.

Alternatively there is also the competitive element to consider. Some women crave competition; they thrive on challenges and constantly seek goals to achieve to boost self-esteem. Dating a married man is the ultimate prize, the reassurance that comes with ‘winning’ a man that has already been pre-selected by another female.

The element of feeling superior often has little to do with how ‘hot’ or attractive the married man is, but more to do with being in a position of power and competing to ‘beat’ another woman.

However, do not forget that as much as the sparks are flying when they meet up at the secret rendezvous if he was to actually leave the marriage or relationship then be aware that dating a married man may well lose its appeal.

Once he is available and ready to start this new lease of life with a mistress, all the pretence and upkeep of this sordid affair will dissipate as quickly as the competition and challenge does.

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Bank Of Canada Urges “STAR TREK” Fans To Stop “Spocking” Their Fivers

Canadians are ‘Spocking’ their fivers in tribute to deceased actor Leonard Nimoy, aka Spock from the Star Trek series.

In a trend that has taken on Twitter, hashtagged #Spocking and #Spockingfives, Canadians have started drawing pointy ears and tiled brows over Canada’s seventh prime minister’s face.

Sir Wilfrid Lauriel’s face seems to have served as perfect basis for Star Trek’s famous Mr. Spock, played by Nimoy.

The Bank of Canada is not so happy with this trend though. Their spokeswoman Josianne Menard, sent USA Today an emailed statement that showed the reasons on why the Bank disagrees with this practice:

However, the trend continues and Canadian’s fivers aren’t the only notes that received a makeover.

Here are some of the tweets:

Source: dangerousminds.net