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This Is What Holding Space And Being There For Someone Else Really Means

By
Stephanie Reeds

Have you ever sat by a loved one who was in pain and simply existed at that moment without saying a word to them? Yes, I know you’re all familiar with that feeling.

We’ve all done that. We’ve felt the sadness within a person’s heart. We’ve all sensed the sorrow inside their soul. We’ve all held space for them.

But what does “holding space” really means?

We’ve all used that term but not all of us know the real meaning of holding space for someone else.

Well, “holding space” is a concept that is really hard to describe. Because you aren’t really holding anything. You aren’t holding another person, nor are you holding their fear, sadness or pain.

Holding space is about accepting someone. It is about being in that exact space with them.

When your friend calls you in the middle of the night and needs to talk to you, and you listen, you are holding space for them.

When your partner comes home frustrated and exhausted from all the work he had, and he just wants to vent about it, and you give him your unconditional support, you are holding space…

When your mother has a middle age crisis, feels too tired and opens up to you about everything she was silent before and you are there for her, you are holding space for her.

When you are going crazy over something and someone replies to you “It’s fine. I’ve been through it myself. You will make it.” … That is what holding space really means.

It’s about being present. It is about fully experiencing something. Seeing someone for who they are, without judging them. Holding space is realizing that we are all flawed and that we all make mistakes every once in a while, but that deep down we are much powerful than we believe we are.

It is opening the door for someone and letting them experience something new for the first time. It is allowing them to completely open up their souls and express their fears, insecurities, desires, and passions, by simply being there beside them.

When we hold space, we’re accepting. Ourselves, the moment, our feelings, the people around us. We’re embracing everything that flows through us and we’re allowing ourselves to feel those sensations, but also to learn from them.

Because holding space doesn’t always have to include another person. You can hold space for yourself. Whatever you’re experiencing, no matter how positive or painful the experience is, you can always hold space for yourself by first finding self-compassion within you.

Dr. Kristin Neff explains that self-compassion has three important components.

Common humanity is that inevitable reminder that we all struggle. It helps us get back on our feet by showing us the reality that every single one of us is vulnerable, fragile and flawed. And that suffering is simply a part of the process called life.

Self-kindness, on the other hand, is the support and understanding we have for ourselves whenever we feel miserable. Self-kindness means accepting our pain and finding a way to heal our scars instead of ignoring our sorrow.

Mindfulness is balancing the approach to our emotions. It’s an objective way of observing both our negative and positive emotions and becoming aware of everything we carry inside without suppressing the parts we dislike. It’s about unconditional acceptance.

The thing is, we cannot feel compassion for another human being if we ignore our pain. We cannot help another human being or simply hold the space for them if we’re incapable of holding space for ourselves.

We need that space, even if we don’t always understand why. Because in that space, we are free. In that space, we feel what unconditional love means. Regardless of whether it’s self- love or love for another human being.

That is where our strength comes from.

Being in a constant state of unconditional love means synchronizing all of our thoughts, actions, and words. It means letting them flow like the mightiest river and submerging everything and everyone around it.

Holding space doesn’t benefit us only.

Holding space means sharing that unconditional love with the whole world.

8 Things Alpha Women Don’t Give A F*ck About And You Shouldn’t Too

By
Riley Cooper
alpha woman

An Alpha woman – it sounds so powerful, doesn’t it?

I’m sure you’ve already noticed her because the strength, confidence, and charm she oozes attract everyone’s attention. Her badass nature leaves no one indifferent.

An Alpha woman is strong, smart, independent, self-respecting, ambitious, and fearless. She knows who she is and she knows what she wants in life.

She lives life in accordance with her own beliefs, values, and principles, not the rules of others. When she disagrees with someone, she’s not afraid to speak her mind. And when others criticize her, this woman knows how to stand up for herself.  

She lives her life without worrying about what tomorrow may bring. She’s been through rough times and she has problems just like everyone else, but what differentiates her from the rest is that she doesn’t let her worries affect the quality of her life and stand in the way to her happiness and success.

This tough, smart, and mature woman understands that some things in life are simply not worth stressing over. She knows that life is what we make it and she ensures she makes it worthwhile.

Here are 8 things Alpha women don’t give a damn about:

1. Whether other people accept them.

An Alpha woman doesn’t bother to fit in with the crowd. She embraces her true self and lives a truly authentic life. Conforming to stereotypes, conventions, and boring, outdated rules that society imposes on her is out of the question.

An Alpha woman simply exists out of the box and if others don’t agree with the way she lives, well, there’s nothing she can do about it.

2. What other people think about them.

An Alpha woman lives her life for her, not for anyone else. She doesn’t let the fear of being disliked or rejected stop her from being her true self. She accepts and cherishes herself the way she is – with all her flaws.

She knows her worth and respects herself enough not to feel the need to seek other people’s approval. She knows that no matter what kind of person you are, people will always judge. So, if someone doesn’t like her, well, that’s not her problem!

3. Having a “90-60-90” body.

Alpha women don’t buy into all that “perfect female body shape” stuff which is heavily propagated in the fashion industry and all media. Alpha women love themselves and their bodies as they are. They find beauty in all their imperfections.

They know that we’re all different and that we possess unique characteristics, and this is what makes us beautiful and special.  

It doesn’t matter to an Alpha woman whether she has a pound more or pound less because she understands that her body weight and dimensions don’t make the person she is and they certainly don’t define her worth.

The only thing that matters to her is to always keep her body healthy and maintain her mental and emotional well-being.

4. Following fashion trends

If she doesn’t care about her body weight and dimensions, why would you think she’d care about following some stupid, boring fashion trends? If short, tight, black dresses and high-heels are not her style, there’s no chance she’ll wear them, be that at dates, parties, meetings, or you name it.

Alpha women only wear clothes that they like wearing and that they feel comfortable in. And what matters is that whatever they wear, they wear it with confidence.

5. Being always right.

Being always right? What?! This attitude is only for immature, unambitious, ignorant people. And Alpha women certainly don’t fit into this group. These women are open-minded and curious. They want to expand their knowledge of any topic and gain new perceptions of the world.

Any smart, ambitious woman knows that there’s no such person that knows everything. Therefore, she’s not ashamed or afraid to admit when she’s made a mistake or said something wrong. What matters to her is the fact that she can always learn something new and useful from her mistakes.

6. Leaving toxic relationships.

Any smart, self-respecting, confident woman knows that when it comes to her happiness, inner peace, and well-being, there are no compromises. Therefore, she surrounds herself with people who benefit her and add happiness and value to her life.

She respects herself enough to know that selfish, phony, manipulative, and controlling people deserve no place in her life. So, whether it’s a friend, a family member, a co-worker, or partner, she’s not hesitant or afraid to end her relationship with them if they have a toxic influence on her and prevent her from living a fulfilling, happy, successful life.

7. Being shy in bed.

Being shy and submissive in bed? The hell with it. When an Alpha woman is truly in love with someone, she’s not ashamed or afraid to give in to passion. She’s not ashamed to share her wildest erotic fantasies and desires with her partner.

This woman is an equal partner in bed, and she demands what she wants.

8. Being popular on social media.

An Alpha woman knows who she is and she knows her worth. She doesn’t need to receive hundreds of likes on her selfies and posts or have a thousand friends on her Facebook or Instagram profile so as to feel accepted and valued.

Instead of spending her energy checking how many likes her photos on social media have received or what other people have posted, she focuses on doing something which is beneficial for her and enhances her personal and professional life.

11 Ways To Recognize A Misogynist

By
Stephanie Reeds

We’ve all heard about the misogynists. Heck, some of us even dealt with them. But, what most of the people out there fail to realize is that misogynists can be everywhere around us.

They can be the person you believe in the most. They can be the ex-boyfriend who supposedly still cares about you. They can be your current partner. And believe it or not, they can even be the loudest, pro-feminist guy out there.

These people don’t walk around with a warning sign attached to them.

But, what is misogyny?

Misogyny is the hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against women or girls.

The truth is, some misogynists are not even aware that they hate women. This is because in most cases, misogyny is unconsciously developed as a result of a past trauma that involved a female person they probably trusted.

Whether it is an abusive mother, a negligent sister, a toxic girlfriend, a mean friend, or a teacher, their behaviors can easily plant a seed inside a man’s brain earlier in life, affect his emotions and eventually be the reason for him developing a hatred for women.

Here are 11 ways you can recognize a misogynist:

1. He will carefully analyze a woman and pick her as his target. The woman in question might not notice his hidden intentions and let her guard down since the misogynist is usually very fun to be around, exciting, charismatic and flirtatious at the begging.

2.  As time passes by, he will reveal a Jekyll and Hyde behavior. This means that he may go from incredibly kind and irresistible to extremely rude and inconsiderate within seconds. The real type of social chameleon.

3. He will make crazy promises to women, but he will never bother to keep them. But, when it comes to his male companions, on the other hand, he will always do the things he said he would.

4. A misogynist doesn’t respect women. He will always be late to his dates or his meetings with women. However, when it comes to his business with men, he will always keep his word and be as punctual as he can.

5. He is competitive and extremely intimidated by women who are more successful than him. He considers that a personal attack on him.

6. A misogynist is usually very cocky, rude, condescending and domineering towards women. He thinks highly of himself.

7. He will consciously discriminate the women in every social setting, whether it’s his workplace, a meeting, or a social gathering. A misogynist will do everything in his power to make men superior to women.

8. A misogynist will do whatever it takes to make a woman feel bad about herself. He will humiliate her in public, he will manipulate her by withholding sex in the relationship, he will make offensive jokes on her account in front of people, he will string her along, he will trigger her insecurities and he will use her ideas without giving her the credit for it.

9. He will also try to sexually control the women he is with by avoiding their needs and paying no attention to their sexual pleasure. A misogynist will always ask to be sexually satisfied, but he will never do anything to please his partner.

10. He will cheat on every woman he is with. Because a misogynist does not believe in monogamy. He has no respect for women.

11. A misogynist may completely ghost on the people he is in a relationship with and then come back after a few months with a silly explanation designed to trick his partner to take him back.

The thing is, not all of the misogynists out there possess all of these traits. That is exactly what makes it difficult for people to recognize them and avoid them. Their alluring charisma and attractive appearance only make it harder for women to spot the caution signs that these people are toxic.

Enough Is Enough – I’m Done Waiting

By
Riley Cooper

I’m done waiting for you to respond to my messages and answer my calls. I’ll no longer stare at my phone hoping to see your name pop up on the screen. I’ll no longer rack my brains trying to figure out why you haven’t texted me back yet even though many days have passed.

I’ll no longer allow my thoughts of you to keep me distracted and prevent me from focusing on my happiness, needs, desires, and priorities.

I’m done making you the center of my world. I’ll no longer rearrange my priorities so as to fit myself into your “busy” schedule. I’ll no longer compete with your friends for your time and attention. I’ll no longer forgive you for your mistakes and allow you to hurt my feelings.

I’m done wondering where I stand with you. I’m tired of you treating our relationship like it’s nothing. I’m tired of playing your little mind games.

I’m done waiting for you to choose me. I’m tired of waiting for you to make me your priority and show me that I mean to you as much as you mean to me.

I’m done chasing after you and waiting for you to commit to me.

I’ll no longer allow you to manipulate me and play with my feelings. I’ll no longer let you take advantage of me, my kindness, and my love for you.

I’m done wearing my heart on my sleeve. I’m sick and tired of giving you all of me and receiving only crumbs of your love.

I’m done letting you treat me like an option. A toy. A favorite pastime.

I’m done sacrificing my own happiness, needs, and priorities so as to make you feel happy and fulfilled. I’ll no longer put your feelings, needs, and desires first. It’s time I started taking care of myself.

I’m done tearing myself into pieces so as to keep you complete.

I waited for too long for you to hear my voice when I called your name; to touch me when I needed to feel your warmth; to stop treating me like I was a ghost. But I won’t wait anymore.

I’m done allowing myself to be taken for granted.

I’m done waiting for you to be the person I always thought you were. When I met you, you were sweet, kind, compassionate, and loving, but as soon as you lured me into your trap, you revealed your true colors.

You showed that you are actually selfish, inconsiderate, immature, and emotionally unavailable. I can no longer recognize you and I will no longer put up with your bullsh*t.

I’m done being naïve and believing your lame excuses, blatant lies, and false promises. I’m done falling for your compliments, sweet words, and charm.

I’m done giving you a thousand chances. And there’s nothing you can do that could change my mind.

I’m done letting you weaken my confidence. I’ll no longer allow you to make me feel like I’m dumb, unimportant, or “overly emotional” and “too dramatic,” as you often called me. I will no longer allow you to make me doubt my self-worth.

I’ll no longer allow you to shift the blame onto me for your own mistakes and wrongdoings. I’m done being your scapegoat. Your doormat.

I’m done fighting for you. I’m done waiting for you to notice me and pay attention to me. I’m tired of waiting for you to treat me like I deserve.

I’m done waiting for you to realize my worth. I’m done waiting for you to see my kindness, generosity, strength, and the purity of my love. I’ll no longer wait for you to reach the deepest parts of my soul and see what I carry in my heart.

I’m done hoping that you love me. That your heart melts and you start seeing me the way I used to see you – with eyes full of warmth, love, and passion.

I’m done fantasizing about our future. About us.

I’ve had it enough. I’m done. I’m letting go of you. And this time for real.

The Most Common Phrases And Words That Indicate A Person Is Struggling With Depression

By
Stephanie Reeds

Depression is a mental condition that has seriously taken its toll on us. Most people who are suffering from this awful condition have a hard time coping with its consequences, so they usually do what they know best. They try to hide it under their fake smile.

However, even though it is truly difficult to recognize this harmful condition in some people, there are certain things that these people unconsciously say or do that usually give them away.

A recent study published in the Sage Journals found that people with symptoms of depression tend to communicate by talking in first person. Something that also caught their attention was the fact that many people who suffered from depression also talked in absolutes.

So, we decided to do thorough research and help you understand the secret language of the people who struggle with depression. If you suspect that your loved one might be struggling with this mental illness, pay attention to the way they express their thoughts.

1. THEY TEND TO USE NEGATIVE WORDS

It’s no surprise. People who suffer from depression use words that have a negative connotation. They usually use words such as lonely, unhappy, miserable and worried to describe their current state of mind.

Moreover, it has been found that in comparison to others average human beings, people who struggle with depression tend to use negative words more frequently.

2. THEY LIKE TO TALK IN ABSOLUTIST LANGUAGE

Another way you can recognize a person with depression is by focusing on their point of view. Once you put yourself inside their shoes, you will realize that these people see the world in black and white. They perceive it in extremes. It’s one way or the other.

The reason for this behavior is because their mental condition is constantly keeping them alert. They’re living on the edge. So, they talk in absolutes. It’s what they know best.

If you pay attention to them, you will notice that they often use the words “always”, “never”, or “totally”, “definitely”.

3. THEY ALWAYS TALK ABOUT THEMSELVES

Further analysis has revealed that people with depression like to talk about themselves. And, when you think about this, it makes total sense.

The hallmark of struggling with depression is obsessing about your own issues, but at the same time feeling uncomfortable to share those issues with other people.

This often results in complete withdrawal, that eventually gives birth to even bigger issues.   

4. THEY COMPLAIN A LOT

All of the people do, but people who suffer from depression complain a lot more. Because, besides being mentally exhausting and challenging, depression can also affect us physically.

Therefore, it is no wonder that people who suffer from depression often complain about feeling completely drained and exhausted. Some people find it very hard to cope with those feeling of emptiness. So, they need to find a proper way to vent.

But, if you think that your loved one suffers from depression, I advise you to be there for them. That is the only thing you can truly do to help them. No matter how strange and irrational they sound, you have to find a way to understand them, or simply support them.

It might not always look like they’re doing everything they can, but they are fighting. Trust me on this. They are fighting a battle against themselves. So, the last thing they need is another opponent.

Sit next to them. Open your mind and just listen. Don’t reply. Don’t share your thoughts. Don’t tell them it’s all in their head. Just hold their hand, look them into their eyes and let them know that you support them.

How To Stop Pleasing Others And Start Living Life On Your Own Terms

By
Riley Cooper

I have a confession to make, and I must say I’m not very proud of it: I used to be a people-pleaser. Yes, I was a total pushover.

And when I say a people-pleaser, I don’t mean always being there for others and selflessly giving them your help and support. Instead, I’m referring to the point in life when you start caring about what would make others feel pleasant, fulfilled, and happy more than about what would make YOU feel this way.

Thus, all the decisions I made and everything I did was based on what other people expected and wanted from me. Oftentimes, I felt like I was not living my own life but someone else’s.

And the reasons why I behaved this way are different. Sometimes, it was because I wanted to avoid upsetting others, and other times, it was because I was too afraid of being disliked or rejected. That’s why I always agreed with other people’s opinions, plans, and proposals.

And I truly believed that this way I appeared more likable, friendly, and cool. However, what I failed to realize was that by trying to always please others and meet their expectations, while keeping my own feelings, needs, and wishes beneath the surface, I did neither myself nor anyone else any good.

In this way, I just surrounded myself with selfish, inconsiderate, draining, and negative people, who instead of respecting me and being appreciative that I have put their wishes and needs before mine, all they thought about was how to take more advantage of me and my kindness.  

Luckily, I did realize that if I did not do anything to change this and get rid of the pressure others put on me with all their constant demands and expectations, I was going to lose myself.

I realized that it was not only useless but also absurd waiting for other people to change their behavior. I realized that I was the only person that had to change and that’s exactly what I did.

If you happen to be a people-pleaser as I once was, know that you’re in the right place.

Here’s how you can stop being a pushover and start living free life:

1. Focus on your internal world.

Become aware of your feelings and thoughts, both positive and negative. Learn to embrace your strong, negative emotions instead of suppressing or dwelling on them.

Become aware of everything that’s going on inside of you and around you. Stop showing interest only in other people’s feelings, opinions, needs, and desires, and start showing interest in your own.

This will help you control your need to please others and also realize when you are not actually being helpful to others.

2. Be authentic.

You need to understand that we are all different and therefore special in our own ways. That’s why we should all live our lives in accordance with our own beliefs, values, and principles.

You should live your life the way you want and think it’s the best for you, not the way other people want you to.

3. Always keep in mind that doing too much for others damages rather than strengthens relationships.

Your relationships, whether romantic or otherwise, will never be healthy, meaningful, and long-lasting unless you take care of your own mental, emotional, and physical well-being and you’re always honest with yourself.

On the other hand, if you put all your energy and time into taking care of and making happy others while neglecting your own feelings, needs, and priorities, you’ll inevitably ruin the balance and health of your relationships.

4. Remember that avoiding problems and pain doesn’t do you any good.

The harder you try to avoid any discomfort, problems, or pain, the more you feel the need to please others. But you need to understand that by always agreeing with other people and meeting their expectations, you just make things worse for you in the long run.

Because people pleasing does not only stop you from living a truly fulfilling, happy, and enjoyable life, but it’s also one of the major triggers of stress and anxiety.

5. Practice self-acceptance.

If you want to live a meaningful, happy, and productive life and always be true to yourself, you have to accept yourself just the way you are.

You have to embrace all your faults, weaknesses, and fears and become more aware of your worth.

6. Start managing your anxiety.

You’ll never be a person of integrity or become your best self if you always act quickly and instinctively and make decisions based on your anxious thoughts and feelings.

The more you allow your anxiety to affect your feelings, decisions, and actions, the more anxiety and stress you experience. To prevent this, you need to learn to control your urge for pleasing others, and always keep in mind that pleasing other people at the expense of your own well- being is just not worth it.

7. Let it go.

We all carry burdens from our past, but if you’re unable to let go of the bad things that happened to you in your past, it is very likely that you are accepting all the bad and hurtful things the toxic and abusive people in your life tell you.

You need to understand that if you continue allowing them to affect you with the things they say about you, you’ll never be able to realize your full potential and live a meaningful, happy life.

So, let go of everything bad and hurtful they say about you and that makes you fear that others will disapprove of or reject you.

You Have One Life – Spend It On Things That Matter And Let Go Of What Doesn’t

By
Stephanie Reeds

The trouble is, you think you have time.

But, in reality, you don’t.

Life is an unpredictable journey. You arrive in this world and you’re instructed that you must be cautious and careful in order to survive. But, even if you do that, no one out there guarantees you how long you’re going to be here.

No one can tell you for sure how long your loved ones will walk this earth. Nobody can promise you that tomorrow you will wake up in the exact same world you fell asleep in. No one can guarantee you that everything you ever dreamed off will come true.

There lies the fragility of life.

The truth is, realizing that we are not powerful enough to control our lives make us feel insecure and weak. But, at the same time, it also has an empowering effect on us. It makes us aware of how important the present moment is. It faces us with the inevitability of death, and as a result, it inspires us to make the most of our lives.

The greatest irony in our lives is the fact that we’re constantly choosing to be busy, but we complain that we don’t have enough time to devote ourselves to our deepest dreams and goals.

We like to lie to ourselves that being busy is actually a sign of a hard-work, but deep down we know that we’re only making those excuses in order to avoid facing the unknown and all the possibilities that it holds.

What we need to do is to focus on our days. We have to stop putting things off until tomorrow. We need to write the book that was on our mind, start that business, plan that road trip we were so excited about, live the life we always wanted to live.

But, to do that, we have to first understand that there is no right time for these things. There’s no ideal moment to finally say “Yes, I will do this now. I feel ready.”

Because guess what? You never will be 100% ready.

There will always be a little speck of doubt inside your heart that will keep you from making that initial step.

However, while pursuing our dreams is considered a truly admirable and brave action, we also need to learn to appreciate the things we already have.

Sometimes, we get so caught up in the idea of wanting more, that we forget the incredible gifts life has given us, and as a result, we complain. We feel like something is missing. We feel like we’re not enough.  

That is why we have to start practicing gratitude. This will not only remind us that there a lot of things in our lives that we should be grateful for, but it will also give us a more realistic point of view.

Most importantly, it will help us get rid of the things that have no place in our lives, in order to make time for those things that matter the most.

This positive outlook on life will give us the power to identify those negative, harmful emotions that are eating us alive and it will help us learn to let go of everything that doesn’t let us grow and evolve on our own.

The truth is, once we realize that our lives are precious and vulnerable, we will be strong enough to bury those negative thoughts and let go of the things that keep us chained to the ground. We will finally be able to make time for those things that make our soul flourish and heart sing.

And that is exactly how the limited amount of time on this earth make us stronger and more determined.

Our time is fixed, so we learn to say no to things that we don’t like and yes to things that mean the world to us. Time is passing us by like a fast river in the springtime. The moments that surround us are fleeting and it is up to us to make the most of them.

So, here’s to life!

May we learn to live it to the fullest.

May we celebrate it.

May we make more time for ourselves.

May we dare to dream and go after the things that excite us.

Ayurvedic Products for Increasing Height & Growing Taller

By
Elizabeth Williams

When it comes to feeling or being shorter than everyone else, there are some cures to aid you in growing that are natural Ayurvedic products for increasing height. Ayurvedic simply means “relating to Ayurveda, the traditional Hindu system of medicine” according to Merriam-Webster.

But what does this mean for those of you who want to grow taller? This means that using certain herbs, tonics, and other forms of ancient medicines, you can use this with diet, exercise, nutritional supplements, and sleep to help your body grow a little taller (and be healthier in the process).

1.Ashwagandha is a common human growth hormone (HGH) producing herb that can also add to your bone density by helping you absorb more calcium, and can be linked to products being a strength aid, increase endurance, flexibility and overall general wellness. This supplement can be purchased in capsules, which contain the powder, and it isn’t as costly as even some multivitamins on the market. It is also commonly used in male “enhancement” vitamins because of the many health benefits it offers. This herb is number one on almost every list.

Other top contenders in the best ayurvedic list are:

2.Shilajit

This “mountain tar” is made up of numerous elements and minerals that is in common Hindu medicine, but is unregulated and unmarketed. This holistic medicine has been linked to the same things as Ashwagandha, but since it doesn’t have the science to back up the claims, it’s use is limited and shouldn’t be taken by anyone who has sickle cell anemia, too much iron, or thalassemia (blood disorders).

3. Ayurveda Height Increaser capsules

This product is actually a mixture of different herbs which have all been linked to increasing HGH levels in the body. There are no known side effects reported, and all of the ingredients in this, from Kale, to Ashwagandha root powder work together to increase levels to a maximum amount. Taking one capsule twice per day is all you have to do. You may not see results immediately, but keep taking them and keep track and you should see surprising results as they promise.

4. Step Up Height Increasing Powder

This is a powdered supplement that you can mix with a glass of milk and water. It has herbs like Garden Cress, Gale of the Wind (Chanca Piedra) extract, Long Pepper, Rennet, Myrobalan, Ginger, and Bahera (the oil from Myrobalan seeds), and more.

5. Height Top Powder

Height Top Mapple Powder is about $12 U.S. Dollars and contains a mixture of Multivitamins and minerals that are essential, but also help aid in height growth. While it states that it can help your body grow taller naturally, it is essentially just a multivitamin drink mix, but it can help when vitamins are hard to get. You can mix about 10-15 grams with powder or milk to consume it and has been told that it can have possible side effects so you should talk with your physician before taking it.

7 Ways You Can Handle Toxic Family Members Successfully

By
Riley Cooper

Toxic people are the type of people that make life hard and stressful. Their effect on you is the same as that of any other toxin in the environment – they poison your mind, soul, and body.

Whether they’re jealous, judgmental, needy, hypocritical, manipulative, or dishonest, toxic people can sap all your energy and leave you feeling emotionally, mentally, and physically drained in the blink of an eye.

The longer you stay under their toxic influence, the easier it is for them to manipulate you and make you act in ways that suit their needs.

One thing’s for sure: if you fall into their toxic trap and don’t do anything to get out, they’ll wreak havoc on your overall health and suck the happiness and life out of you.

So, how can you protect yourself from toxic people?

Well, of course, it would be best when you could just distance yourself completely from such people. But it’s not always as easy as that.

The thing is that when the toxic person is a friend, partner, co-worker, or neighbor, you may have to deal with them for a short time. But when the toxic person is a family member, the situation becomes much more complicated.

With family members, you’re almost forced to go the extra mile so as to maintain the integrity of the whole family group.  

So, if you happen to have toxic family members and you can’t distance yourself from them completely, here are 7 things you can do that will help you handle them successfully:

1. First things first, don’t ignore their toxic behavior.

Unfortunately, many people turn a blind eye to the toxicity of a family member and avoid confronting them in the hope that this will stop their abusive behavior. But instead of having this effect, this makes their behavior even worse.

The truth is that acting like everything is okay won’t make them put an end to their madness. They’ll only see this as a sign that you’re okay with the way they treat you or that you’re too weak and afraid to confront them, which will make them continue exploiting your weakness and psychologically abusing you.

So, stop putting up with their bad behavior and call them out on it instead. Stand up for yourself and tell them that their behavior is wrong and you’re not going to tolerate it.

2. Be open and direct with them.

When a toxic family member wants to provoke conflict, they can easily make you fly off the handle.

But instead of creating unnecessary drama and entering into a heated discussion with them, try to stay calm and collected. Be open and direct when you express yourself.

Don’t let your negative emotions affect your actions and stay focused on the way you respond instead. And when you notice that the toxic person isn’t actually trying to resolve the conflict, but win it, leave the conversation.

3. Don’t take their behavior personally.

Always bear in mind that the way they treat you has nothing to do with who you are or your worth. It’s very likely that they will often try to shift the blame onto you so as to justify their toxic behavior and get away with it.

Remember that when you let their hurtful words and bad actions get to you, you actually admit that you’re guilty of what they’re accusing you. And the more you take the blame for things that are not your fault, the more they’ll use you as a scapegoat.

4. Keep in mind that they might not be bad people, but it is best to maintain distance from them.

There are cases in which the toxicity is, in fact, a manifestation of a deep-seated problem. A lot of toxic family members actually care about and want the best for us, but the way they live their lives and see ours forces us to please them.

Thus, trying to please them and meet their expectations, we put their feelings, needs, and wants before ours.

But you need to remember that even if they aren’t truly bad people, you should never compromise your own well-being and happiness for them. Sacrificing your own happiness, needs, and priorities for a person who doesn’t treat you right and shows no intention whatsoever of changing their behavior despite your good intentions is simply not worth it.

5. Focus on your overall well-being.

Just because toxic family members can’t be avoided or simply cut out of your life easily, it doesn’t mean that you should allow them to suck all the positive energy and happiness out of you.

The best way you can prevent them from destroying your confidence and self-esteem and ruining your life is to focus on your mental, emotional, and physical well-being as well as your needs, wishes, and priorities.

Remember that if you don’t take care of yourself, no one else will.

6. Forgive them.

Instead of carrying feelings of anger and resentment in your heart and hating them for all the stress they create in your life, let go of all the drama and forgive them for their mistakes and wrongdoings. Forgive them – not for themselves but for yourself.

But don’t forget. Use this negative experience as a valuable lesson and be more cautious in their presence.

7. Walk away.

If you’ve done everything to let them know how you feel and how hurt you are by the way they treat you, and also tried to reason with them, and you still can’t liberate yourself from the negativity and stress they cause in your life, know that sometimes the best thing you can do is let go of them.

Completely distancing yourself from them won’t certainly be easy, but after all, you’re the one who knows what’s best for you, and if walking away is a way to protect yourself from their toxicity, then you should absolutely do it.

10 Traits Of Open-Minded People That Make Them So Extraordinary And Special

By
Mary Wright

Mentally and emotionally strong, confident, charismatic, responsible, positive, and utterly amazing. Yes, these are all characteristics of people who have an open mind and fiery spirit.

What’s their secret? How they manage to always be so cool and charming? Well, here are 11 traits that these people possess that make them stand out from the crowd.

1. THEY DO NOT ACCEPT PEOPLE’S EXPECTATIONS

Our parents, friends, partners, siblings always try to teach us how we are supposed to live our life. However, open-minded people can ignore their remarks and opinion and they choose to follow their instincts instead. They won’t pick the career that their parents want for them. They will follow their dreams no matter what.

2. THEY LISTEN TO THEIR HEART

Open-minded people are able to follow their heart and listen to their deepest feelings. They make all the important decisions in their life from their heart and that’s why these people are always living the life that they truly love and desire.

3. THEY ARE DREAMERS

You may think that they are not paying attention to you and they don’t care about you, but when they drift off, they are probably in the land of dreams and imagination. They cannot waste a day without dreaming. It’s what makes them creative, unique, and special.

4. THEY LOVE THEIR FREEDOM

You can’t make an open-minded person to follow your rules and do what you tell them to do. These people love their freedom. That’s why they don’t like it when someone tries to burden them in some way.

5. THEY ARE MODEST AND PROUD AT THE SAME TIME

These people are the perfect combination of shyness and pride. An open-minded person never shows off their success and achievements. However, they take pride in them. They are confident in themselves and they know that they can achieve anything they set their mind on.

6. THEIR WORK IS EVERYTHING TO THEM

Open minded people are generally workaholics. They are always willing to go the extra mile and do more than needed. This is because they love working. When they work, nothing else matters to them. They can focus on the task and ignore any distractions.

7. THEY TURN THEIR PROBLEMS INTO WONDERFUL NEW OPPORTUNITIES

It’s not that they don’t have problems. Sometimes life is not fair to them as well, but they don’t look at their hardships as something catastrophic. Instead, they see them as chances to learn new things and become stronger and better.

8. THEY CAN SEE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE MISS

Open-minded people have the power to see the other side of the coin. They are extremely perceptive and aware of everything that happens around them. They can see and feel things that other people may miss.

9. THEY DO NOT WAIT FOR SOMETHING TO HAPPEN, THEY MAKE IT HAPPEN

Open-minded people don’t wait for inspiration or an opportunity to present itself. They create their own opportunities with the creativity of their mind. When they decide they want something, they go for it.

10. THEY ARE CHILDREN AT HEART

They’ve never lost their inner child and they never will. They tend to look at the world in a naïve and childish manner, but that’s because these extraordinary people always see everything in a positive and beautiful light. That’s their uniqueness. That’s what makes them truly amazing souls.

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