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Loving Someone Truly Means Loving Them Unconditionally

Loving Someone Truly Means Loving Them Unconditionally

Loving someone truly means loving them unconditionally. Unfortunately, many people tend to think that unconditional love means loving someone no matter what. But, nothing could be further from the truth.

Because this isn’t what unconditional love means. “Loving someone no matter what” is a lack of self-respect. It is attachment. It is neediness. And these three things have nothing to do with genuine, pure, unconditional love.

“Loving someone no matter what” means that you are going to stay in a relationship with that person regardless of the way they treat you or other people. It means that you are supposed to overlook their bad behavior. It means you are supposed to tolerate everything they put you through.

NO! This isn’t how you love someone unconditionally.

To love someone this way means not being dependent on them for your happiness and fulfillment.  It means not putting aside and ignoring your own feelings, needs, and problems. It means not allowing yourself to be mistreated or abused. It means protecting your identity and not forgetting about your importance.

It means loving and taking care of the other person while loving and taking care of yourself. Because if you don’t love and respect yourself, how can you love and respect others?

When you’re unconditionally in love with someone, your love knows no boundaries. You love them so deeply that just the thought of them makes you feel warm on the inside.

You love being around them and you miss them terribly when they’re not around. You feel that you’re deeply connected with them on an emotional, mental, and spiritual level and that this bond is unbreakable.

You know he/she is the one who understands you the most. The one who knows your essence. The one who has managed to reach the deepest parts of your soul.

When you love someone unconditionally, you accept and cherish them for who they are. You’re aware of all their insecurities, annoying habits, fears, problems, and failures, and still, you decide to stay. Still, you make them your choice.

You don’t try to change them or mold them into the person you want them to be. You understand that their flaws and weaknesses are what make the person they are – the person who occupies the most precious place in your heart.

When you love someone unconditionally, you don’t judge and criticize them when they make a mistake or get emotional, moody, or afraid. You don’t make them feel less important because of their past mistakes and failures.

Instead, you show understanding of their problems and insecurities and try your best to help them overcome them.

Yet, loving someone this way doesn’t mean you accept everything they do to you. Instead, it means that when they say or do something that hurts your feelings, you feel free to have open conversations with them about it.

It means that you don’t sweep problems under the carpet, but you put all your cards on the table and work together with your significant other to find solutions to your problems that will be the best for both of you.

When you love someone unconditionally, you allow them to be the true version of themselves. You free them from wearing the mask which society forces them to wear every day.

You understand that they’re not invincible and that they have emotions, weaknesses, and vulnerable sides. And you don’t make them feel embarrassed because of them. Instead, you make them feel free and comfortable to undress their soul and be themselves in front of you.

When you’re unconditionally in love with someone, you keep the original flame of passion always alive. You remember how you felt at the beginning of the relationship, and you make sure you keep feeling that way after that, no matter if you’ve been together for six months or six years.

When you feel unconditional love for someone, your appreciation for life increases. Everything around you gets a new meaning and appears more interesting to you.

When you love someone unconditionally, you love them free of attachment.

You don’t love them because you depend on them or because they make you feel comfortable. You don’t love them because you don’t think you’ll ever find someone better than them or someone who will be willing to accept your imperfections.

Instead, you love them because what you feel for them is pure, deep, and honest. It’s free of expectations and attachment.

You love them because you know they’re worthy of your love and trust. Because you feel free to be yourself in their presence.  Because you’ve never felt like that in your life before.

Because you know you didn’t make a mistake choosing them.

Separating Yourself From Your Soulmate Is A Life-Changing Experience

Separating Yourself From Your Soulmate Is A Life-Changing Experience

Being in a relationship with your soulmate is a life-changing experience. Because when you’re with your soulmate, you know that you’ve found your forever person. You know that the bond between you is close and strong. You start to see romantic relationships in a different way. And you feel like you can face any challenge and overcome any pain life may throw your way as long as you have this person by your side.

Being in a relationship with your soulmate is a real blessing. But, the truth is that not all soulmate relationships last forever. Sometimes there comes a point in our lives when we have to separate from the person whom we thought we were going to spend our lives with.

And the breakup is difficult and painful. It leaves a void in your life. It makes you think that you’ll never find love again. It makes you think that you’ll never be able to move on. But, this is not true.

Because regardless of how difficult and traumatizing it is to imagine spending your life without your soulmate, you’ll manage to summon up the strength to move on with your life. Sooner or later you’ll manage to pluck up the courage to let go of that person and get back on your feet.

Following are 7 things you experience when you and your soulmate are forced to part ways:

1. You become a different version of yourself.

After you part ways with your soulmate, you’ll never be the same again. You will change both on the inside and outside. You’ll feel like you’re missing an important part of yourself. But, you will also learn to deal with the heartbreak and emotional pain.

You will discover that you have the strength to heal and carry on with your life. The way you approach people and relationships will change as well. And one thing’s for sure: You will become more experienced and stronger than before.

2. The way you think about love changes as well.

Your idea of what love should feel like begins to change. You realize that love is not what you always thought it was. You also realize that you might never get to experience that profound, powerful, once-in-a-lifetime kind of love again, but you’re fine with that fact.

3. You feel extreme pain.

Breaking up with your soulmate will inevitably cause you to feel immense pain. You’ll feel sad, depressed, and devastated. You’ll feel like you’ve lost a part of yourself. But, this is completely normal. After all, you separated from someone with whom you had a deep emotional, mental, and spiritual connection.

Yet, don’t despair. Sadness doesn’t last forever, and as time passes, you’ll heal your wounds and move forward.

4. You feel like a ghost for a long time.

The period after the breakup can feel like hell. You start to feel like you’re just going through the motions and not actually living. You feel empty, confused, and lost. You may even have a hard time socializing. But, don’t worry, this is only a phase and it won’t last forever. In time, you’ll overcome the pain and get back to normal.  

5. You’ll fall in love again, but it’ll feel different.

Of course, in time, you’ll find someone whom you’ll love and care about, but you won’t feel the way you did with your soulmate. The connection and energy between you won’t be as deep and powerful as the ones that existed between you and your soulmate.

Yet, don’t let this discourage you because although this might not be a soulmate love, it’ll still be love and it’ll be special and magical in its own way. You just have to be open to and embrace that feeling and let yourself love and be loved.

6. You’ll always think about that person.

It’s very hard, almost impossible, to get a person like this out of your mind. They’ll cross your mind from time to time irrespective of how much time has passed. No matter what you’re doing in life, where you are, and who you’re with, the memories you have of that person will always be with you.

The wound that you get when you part ways with your soulmate is a wound that never entirely closes. But, this is normal, and you shouldn’t be ashamed of your vulnerability or try to repress your emotions. Instead, let them come, feel them, and then let them go.

7. You move on because you have no other choice.

You move on with your life because you have to and also because that’s the right thing to do. However, you start to see the world around you in a different way. You grow into someone who has become stronger and more resilient as a result of this experience. You also become more determined to not let anyone and anything hurt you that way again.

What you need to remember is that moving forward is the best thing you can do. It’s your life and you need to make the most of it. 

Alpha Women Don’t Let Anyone And Anything Ruin Their Happiness

Alpha Women Don’t Let Anyone And Anything Ruin Their Happiness

An alpha woman. A powerful name for the strong, smart, and independent woman that stands out from the rest. This woman exudes confidence and strength. She oozes charm. She knows what she wants in life and how to get it. She is aware of her qualities and worth.

Alpha women don’t play the victim role. When life throws problems and pains their way, they summon up the strength and handle them. They know worries come and go, so they see no point in focusing their energy and time on them. They know that the only thing that’s truly important is to make themselves and the people they love happy.

Following are 7 things alpha women don’t care about:

1. They don’t care about what other people think of them.

They have their own life. They don’t waste their time focusing on what other people think or say about them. They know who they are and accept themselves as such. They don’t bother proving themselves to others. Moreover, they know what is important to them and they try to be around people who are as independent and strong as they are.

2. They don’t care about breaking off toxic relationships.

Why would you think they do? An alpha woman has little time to waste on a guy who doesn’t know her value, is fickle, and has mixed feelings for her. She’ll never be with someone who disrespects and takes her for granted or sucks the happiness out of her. She’ll never allow herself to stay in a relationship that is holding her back. She knows she deserves much more than that.

3. They don’t care about having a perfect body.

A pound more, or a pound less – what difference does it make? They accept their body as it is, with all their imperfections, because they know each person possesses unique traits that make them beautiful in their own way. The only thing they care about when it comes to their body is to keep it healthy.

4. They don’t care about being right all the time.

Hell, no! They know they aren’t perfect and that they can’t know everything. They’re open-minded and accept other people’s opinions. Moreover, they’re always willing to learn something new and broaden their knowledge.

5. They don’t care about fashion rules.

Who said floral dresses are not in this summer? Or bikinis are not for you if you’re a bit overweight? Come on, you have to be kidding me!

An alpha woman will never care about this. She wears the things she feels comfortable in. It doesn’t matter to her if the color, the material, or the shape don’t follow the latest fashion trends. Moreover, she doesn’t waste time and money on fitting into societal standards of beauty.

6. They don’t care about fitting in.

F*ck the rules. She doesn’t act by following the stupid stereotypical rules that society has made. Instead, she plays by her own. She doesn’t allow other people’s behaviors and opinions to shape hers. This trait of hers makes her stand out from the rest.

7. They don’t care about getting millions of likes on Facebook and Instagram.

What? You’ll never see an alpha woman checking a thousand times a day how many likes her selfies or posts have received on Facebook. That’s just out of the mind. How famous she is on the social media isn’t a measurement of her worth. She spends her time doing things that are beneficial to her, and not counting how many likes she’s received on Facebook or Instagram.

Women Are Not Rehabilitation Centers For Immature And Badly Raised Men

Women Are Not Rehabilitation Centers For Immature And Badly Raised Men

There’s something that has been going through my mind for days, so I believe it is finally time for me to spit it out… I can’t hold it in any longer and I won’t.

So, let’s get straight to the point, shall we?

What’s up with this “She makes me want to become a better person”?

Hey men… Women don’t want to be rehabilitation centers for traumatized, badly raised, immature and generally troubled men.

We don’t want to raise you; we want to grow and flourish together.

I mean, I get. It’s supposed to be a compliment. It is supposed to let me know that you are so madly in love with me that you truly cherish my presence in your life. It supposed to flatter me and make me proud of how strong I am. It’s supposed to make me feel as though I am a superhero. I get it, I do.

But… you know what? It’s not flattering at all. Pardon my French, but it’s bullsh*t.

And what’s even more disturbing, it’s everywhere around us. Everywhere you look, regardless of which segment of life you are analyzing, women are constantly expected to be these strong, almighty, superhero humans who are always there to lend a helping hand or fix the guy who for some reason struggles to do that on his own.

Let’s take the Childish Gambino’s music video for example. Halfway through the video, a sad and troubled Kanye appears. For some reason, Michelle Obama hugs him, lifts his spirits and suddenly he is fine again.

What’s up with that? Are you seriously telling me that Kanye secretly needs to be saved by a strong, brave woman like Michelle?

Here’s what. We already have enough baggage on our shoulders. We do everything in our power to be good moms, loving friends, loyal partners. We fight with the oppression almost 24 hours a week, we try hard to excel in our career, we struggle to find time for self-care, we run the household and etc. and etc. And now all of a sudden, we are expected to be responsible for inspiring men to become better human beings?

Hell no!

Don’t you think we need inspiring and lifting up as well?

So, then who will inspire us?

I don’t know if you know but we are flawed as well. We are doing our best to be better humans as well. And it is pretty damn hard if you ask me, but you know how we do it? By reflecting on ourselves. By not depending on anyone. By diving deep within. That’s where we search for our strength and willingness to be more and do more. Because that is something every human being is supposed to do in their life if they want to find true happiness.

We are busy, overwhelmed, exhausted, troubled and not so strong as some of you may sometimes think. So, taking responsibility for another grown human being is not on our priority list. And it will never be!

We don’t want to raise our partner. We want someone who would try hard to become a better person by learning from his own mistakes and going through things without our influence or our inspiration. If a woman is a kind, decent and admirable person that doesn’t mean that she should be a man’s main guidance in life. Being there for another person is one thing and being expected to always be there for someone because you are a woman is completely another.

Why is it that when a man is struggling with something, the woman who stays with him is considered loyal and loving, but when a woman is going through some stuff and the man leaves her, he then successfully dodged a bullet?

How come women supporting troubled men is a common thing, and men supporting troubled women is a rarity?

What about us? We fall apart just as you do. Sometimes it’s even more painful. And yet, we still manage to somehow suck it all up and find the strength within us to move on.

Stop holding us accountable for your personal growth. I know that this might come off as harsh and that some of you mean this in a good way, but please…I need you to stop it. This is really getting out of hand.

Instead of expecting a woman to fix you, try to fix yourself. Be better. Do better. Grow. Fall. Rise up. Learn from your mistakes. At your own pace. In your own time.

We are not responsible for your actions. Nor we’ll ever be.

Happy And Meaningful Relationships Require Much More Than Just Love

Happy And Meaningful Relationships Require Much More Than Just Love

We all want our romantic relationships to be strong, happy, meaningful, and long-lasting. We all want to find someone who will accept us and cherish us the way we are. Someone who will show us what true love feels like.  

So, the question is: What makes a good relationship?

The first thing that probably pops into your mind is love. Perhaps you’ve often been told, and perhaps you believe in that yourself, that love is the most important ingredient in a relationship. But, is this really so?

I’ve known a lot of couples that were deeply in love with each other and yet their relationships failed. I have been there myself as well.  I had to see my relationships fall apart in front of my eyes until I found the one that showed me what it’s like to be in a happy and meaningful relationship. I’ve realized that this kind of relationship requires much more than just love.

I’ve realized that a happy and meaningful relationship teaches you what behaviors strengthen a relationship and what behaviors ruin it. It makes you become more aware of your feelings, needs, wishes, desires, and expectations. It shows you how wonderful it is to be with that one person that makes you feel complete and whole.

And most importantly, it teaches you essential lessons about relationships, and in what follows, we’ve presented the 7 most valuable ones:

1. If someone truly loves you and wants to be with you, they’ll be with you. They’ll never allow anything and anyone to ruin your happiness, destroy your love, and tear you apart.  Moreover, they will let you know how important you are to them and make sure you always feel protected and safe.

2. If someone really cares about you, they’ll never put you in a position to question their feelings for you. They’ll never string you along or avoid committing to you by telling you lame excuses, such as “it’s not the right time” or  “I need to focus more on my career now.” Because it’s never the right time until it’s the right person.

3. You learn that kissing, cuddling, date nights, and romantic surprises are sweet but they’re not commitment. They’re not a willingness to endure the difficulties that appear in every relationship sooner or later.

4. You learn that every meaningful and successful relationship requires much more than just love. It requires hard work. It requires patience, understanding, compassion, respect, commitment, compromises, sacrifice. It requires work on yourself – to be willing to grow personally and become a better version of yourself.

5. When you truly love someone you accept them for who they are, with all of their faults, quirks, insecurities, and fears. Maybe their bad habit of leaving their personal stuff all over the place or talking loudly annoys you.

But these are things you don’t try to change because they’re a part of the person you love and they make them special. You learn to accept and cherish your loved one with all their imperfections.

6. Arguments don’t tear you apart  – they bring you closer. They strengthen and improve your relationship.

7. Last but not least, you learn that when you’re finally in a good relationship, you’re completely satisfied with your choice. You don’t look around to find someone better. You don’t look for your happiness in other men or women. You feel relieved and lucky to have found the one you’ve always wanted to be with.

Premier Allergy & Asthma Shares How To Relieve Indoor, Winter Allergy Symptoms

When it gets cold outside, you must take steps to avoid problems with indoor and winter allergies. You can reduce the impact of carpets and allergies during the winter, and you should work with a doctor if you believe you have undiagnosed allergies. Use these tips to prepare your home for the allergy season. Also, find a doctor who can help you when you have extreme allergy problems.

Get Tested

Premier Allergy offers allergy testing for patients. You may be allergic to pollen, or you may be allergic to specific allergens in the air. Plus, you must consult with a doctor who can explain why the environment might cause problems for you.

You may have asthma or chronic bronchitis, and these conditions might be exacerbated by the winter season. You may need to take preventative measures including an oral steroid, a secondary inhaler, or a primary inhaler you use when you feel shortness of breath. You may discover you have other allergies that must be addressed.

For example, you may cause problems with your lungs and throat if you are eating foods that cause allergy issues. Take the medication you have been prescribed, and contact your doctor when you feel the medication is not working.

Cover Your Mattress

Your mattress can harbor allergens that you never see. Because the mattress is collecting allergens, you will breathe in those allergens every night. You might wake up feeling worse than you did when you went to bed. If you continue to sleep on a dirty mattress, you will continue to feel worse until you cannot breathe or need to go to the doctor.

A basic plastic mattress cover will prevent dust, dirt, and allergens from sitting on the bed. Plus, you can brush the mattress cover clean when you change your sheets as recommended by Premier Allergy.

Wash Your Sheets Often

You should wash your sheets every few days to avoid dust and dirt that stick to the sheets. You can switch out your sheets with a clean set, and you can strip the bed every third day or so for the best results. You must do the same thing with your pillowcases, and you may consider washing your pillows. Pillows that have not been washed might harbor more allergens than your mattress.

Keep A Humidifier Or Dehumidifier In Your Home

If your home gets very dry in the winter, you should use a humidifier to get a little moisture in the air. Mites and dust will float around the house with ease when the air is dry. Plus, you may feel a tickle in your throat that will never go away.

If your home is extremely humid, you must use a dehumidifier to remove mold and mildew from the house. The spores from mold and mildew will cause more allergy issues. Plus, you will never stop coughing because those spores are always floating in the air.

Change Your Air Filters

The filters for your HVAC unit must be changed before the winter season. You can get a special filter that removes dust, dirt, and other winter allergens before the air pass through your vents. You should change your filters every three months, and you may want to change them again during the winter if the filter gets extremely dirty.

Some homeowners might prefer a permanent filter that can be washed. These filters will keep your home in good condition, and you will avoid issues with allergies that start because dust is constantly blowing in your face.

You should clean the vents in the house to remove all dust and dirt that might have collected. However, you may need to take the next step by working with an air duct cleaner.

Get Your Air Ducts Cleaned

You must get your air ducts cleaned by a professional who knows how to remove the vents and inspect the ducts. You may have a cockroach or animal droppings in the ducts. These droppings will cause your allergies to flare up, and you may need to call an exterminator to get these pests out of your house.

Someone who is accustomed to dealing with allergies can feel animal dander in the air, and you should call the inspector the moment you think there is a problem.

Clean Pet Dander In The House

Your rugs and carpeting must be vacuumed often to remove pet dander. Your pets are a precious part of the family, but you must remove their hair and dander. You should vacuum more than once a week, and you should wipe down your furniture to remove all dander and hair that has collected. You can smell the dander in the air, and you will notice the difference when you have cleaned the house.

Wash Your Clothes Faithfully

You should wash your clothes faithfully. You have gone to great lengths to keep the house clean, but there is no guarantee that your clothes are not harboring dust, dirt, pet hair, and dander. You may need to take your clothes to the dry cleaner if they cannot be washed normally. Plus, you should not allow your clothes to sit around before they are cleaned.

You should check the lint collector on your dryer because you can remove all the lint that contains pet dander and hair. You will keep the dryer a bit cleaner, and you should sweep out the interior of the dryer to avoid any dust or dirt from sticking to the drum.

Conclusion

When you are dealing with winter allergies, you should take every step above to keep your home as clean and fresh as possible. You might need to hire a professional to clean your house, or you could clean the house religiously to prevent allergy problems. Cover your mattress, clean your bedding regularly, and keep your clothes free of pet dander. You can change your air filters, and you should contact an HVAC technician when you need help cleaning your air ducts. Your attention to detail will be rewarded the next time you visit the doctor for a follow-up.

Retaining Independence in Later Years

There are few things that people worry about more when it comes to old age than losing your independence. Being reliant on others is hard to accept after getting on your feet as a teenager or young adult and making your own way in life. However, it is a reality for most that things will start to slow down and help will be necessary. That does not mean that it is impossible to retain some level of independence in later years. Continue reading for our advice on how you could do that.

Social Life

Just because someone’s age is increasing does not mean that their desire to mix with other people is decreasing. It is good to converse with others and have regular catch ups. Being retired means that there are almost endless possibilities to socialise and it is highly recommended. Investigate what is on in your local area as there is bound to be something that appeals to you: from chess to astronomy, knitting to photography. You may also wish to throw yourself into learning something new. It is a fantastic way to meet new people and you could even fulfil a lifelong dream by getting a degree or passing that exam you desperately wanted to, but couldn’t. What’s stopping you? As well as seeing friends be sure to make regular trips to visit your family members too and encourage them to reciprocate. Discussing memories of amusing or important events can certainly boost your feelings as well as encouraging some freedom.

Consider a New Home

Many elderly people find the home in which they have lived for the past few decades is no longer fit for purpose. Unfortunately, it can be a real wrench to consider moving from the home into which they have put so much money and effort, but it can be for the best. Senior living communities can be a superb option as there are other residents with whom to engage, but also the necessary support that you may need. Thrive Senior Living is a brilliant example of communities where people can live with a decent level of independence, but totally avoid disengagement. Knowing that there is a dedicated team of fully trained staff around you can put your mind at ease in case of an accident or emergency. Considering this option as early as possible is certainly worthwhile because being determined that you don’t want to move can hinder chances of maintaining independence altogether if you wait too long.

Keep Active

Ensuring that you get out of the house each and every day is important. Even just a short walk to the end of the road can help maintain a decent level of fitness. Swimming is another great activity. Being in the water means that there is a much lower risk of injury as the water offers support. Exercise classes aimed at the older generation are not only brilliant for the body, but also for the mind as you can meet some truly brilliant, likeminded people there. Zumba Gold is a prime example of a class that is thriving; in fact, you’ll find a range of ages there as it is low impact fitness.

4 Ways Viagra Changed The Pharmaceutical World

Pfizer likely knew that they had a goldmine on their hands when they discovered how to treat erectile dysfunction. But, they may not have realized how the marketing of the drug would forever change the landscape of how pharmaceuticals are sold.

At the time, it was very controversial to put sexual health out into the public sphere. It was always something that was best kept in the bedroom. People often had a hard time talking to their doctor about their sexual problems.

The biggest thing that happened when Viagra was announced was that it took the taboo of sexual health issues out of the equation. It was no longer a problem.

That’s just one of the ways that Viagra changed the marketing landscape. In this article, we will go over several other ways that marketing changed.

1 – They changed the language 

One of the first ways that Viagra changed marketing was to change the way we talked about conditions.

Before Viagra, erectile dysfunction was not in many people’s vocabulary. Men were called impotent if they couldn’t get a construction. 

This word, impotence, described the man and not the condition and have some severely negative connotations. By changing the name to erectile dysfunction, it described the problem. And the problem was physiological and could be treated. Not to mention it made no judgements on anybody’s manhood.

Think of how low testosterone is now called Low T. It totally takes away any negativity that would make somebody feel like “less of a man” by giving it a more innocent sounding name.

2 – More open discussions with doctors 

By breaking that barrier, people are far more open to discussing sexual health with their doctor. Before that, many men made a lot of assumptions and didn’t really know the facts about Viagra or any other treatments available for erectile dysfunction.

Not only are men more likely to ask their doctors about how to treat their ED, they might also be more willing to discuss other sensitive matters that previously they would be too embarrassed to ask.

3 – Broke the controversial ceiling 

In the 1970s or 80s it would have been inconceivable for a commercial about erectile dysfunction to be shown on prime time television. It would have been far too controversial.

Suddenly, there was Bob Dole, a war veteran and distinguished politician, talking about his ED all over the networks.

And with that, it became alright to talk about these things. Sexual health was no longer a controversial subject, but part of the larger discussion about health in general.

4 – Changes to marketing 

Advertising companies had to go back to the drawing board when it came to marketing pharmaceuticals. It shifted the focus of many drugs from being doctor driven to customer driven.

What that means is that it created a cultural shift in which people could feel more in control of their health decisions. “Ask your doctor is Brand X is right for you”. We’re all familiar with that now, but before it wasn’t common for people to feel in control of those kinds of decisions.

Real Friendships Are Those That Move From Casual To Close

Real Friendships Are Those That Move From Casual To Close

I’m sure you’ll agree that when you first become friends with someone, you enjoy spending time together. You are kind to each other. And you respect each other’s opinions and feelings.

And before you know it, you begin teasing each other about everything. You feel so comfortable being around each other that you feel free to talk about anything.  Your conversations go from, “Wow, you look great!” to “What happened to your hair? Are you trying to scare everyone around you?

The truth is that real friendships move from casual to close. Once you and a friend reach the phase where you easily cross each other’s boundaries, you can take this as a sign that your friend really is your BEST FRIEND.

Here are the 12 stages of friendship:

Stage 1: The nice phase.

During this phase, you’re nice and give compliments to each other as much as possible. You’re careful not to hurt their feelings and you watch your behavior. For example, if they ask you something like: “How do I look in these jeans?”, you think twice before you answer them.

Stage 2: I just met her/him. Am I going to look too clingy or desperate if I ask them to hang out 2 days in a row phase?

During this phase, you’re wondering whether you’re bothering them with your frequent phone calls and messages to hang out. You’re trying to find out if this makes you look clingy and weird.

Stage 3: The secret is out. I can finally be myself phase.

In this phase, you feel free to text your best friend 30 times in a row. Moreover, you no longer feel embarrassed to show that you can sometimes get cranky and clingy when your friend doesn’t respond to your calls or messages.

Stage 4: The ‘couple’ phase.

This phase involves that awkward moment when you and your best friend behave more like a couple than you and your boyfriend/girlfriend. It may look surprising, but you go on more dates with your best friend and you often find yourself having more fun with them than with your partner.

Stage 5: The honest, oh no wait, the blunt phase.

During this stage, you feel free to tell each other what you really mean and what you need to hear. There’s no beating around the bush or feeling uncomfortable telling your best friend what they probably don’t want to hear. If “Admit it-he/she’s not into you” sounds familiar to you, know you’re on the right track and moving towards…

Stage 6: Feeling comfortable showing your psycho side phase.

That’s it. You can fly off the handle in an instant without worrying this may scare your best friend and make them think “What’s wrong with her/him?” You can have mood swings, be happy and relaxed one moment and flip out the next, let’s say, for example, if your boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t answer your calls.

Stage 7: Feeling comfortable enough to get psycho at each other phase.

This is the stage when you don’t try to control your emotions anymore. You shout and yell at each other until you let all your anger out. You can even argue about the stupidest things. Yet, you can’t stay mad at each other for more than 3 hours because you have a lot of gossip to catch up on and there’s no a better person than your best friend you can share that with.

Stage 8: Getting comfortable planning hoe activities phase.

This is the stage when if you see your best friend drinking (more than they should), you simply don’t stop them – you join them. You’re best friends and you encourage each other’s hoe activities.

Stage 9: The private detective phase.

If you need to get some information about someone or something, you send your best friend to do some investigation. This stage involves spying for each other and finding out things which are usually private and supposed to be kept as a secret.

Stage 10: No convo is off limits phase.

In this stage, you feel free to show all your nasty habits. No more refraining – you’ve had it enough. You’re not ashamed to burp or fart in front of each other, or talk about going number one and especially, number two in the bathroom. You’re best friends and best friends talk about everything.

Stage 11: Showing your friend messages from the latest fight with your boyfriend/girlfriend phase.

You had a fight with your bae and if you still keep the texts in your phone, the next step is sending 20 screenshots of them to your best friend. You feel a lot easier and relieved when you share your love problems with them.

Stage 12: The typing up conversations for each other phase.

Okay, it’s official – there are no boundaries left. This is the phase when you type up your best friend’s arguments when she/he’s arguing with their partner. You know all their private problems and secrets, well, they’re actually no longer a secret.

A Heartfelt Letter To The Girl That Loved Someone More Than She Loved Herself

A Heartfelt Letter To The Girl That Loved Someone More Than She Loved Herself

This goes to you – the girl who loved someone more than she loved herself.

First of all, let me tell you that your heart is unique. Your soul is innocent and pure. And you have qualities that not many people possess.

You love in unique ways. You love honestly and deeply. You love wholeheartedly and unconditionally. You love hard. And for that, I salute you.

I salute you for believing him. I salute you for letting him be a part of your life although he never showed he deserved that. Thank you letter closings.

I salute you for letting him consume your time and energy although he didn’t give you anything in return.

I salute you for staying with him although he never made you his priority. Yeah, you were always his option. His favorite pastime. To him, you were nothing else, but a girlfriend of convenience.

I salute you for loving the guy who was fickle. The guy who could act he was interested in you one day and then be indifferent the other. And you deserved much more than his mixed feelings for you. You deserved to know where you stand in his life.

You were brave for putting up with someone who only called you when he needed someone to talk to or just have fun with. Someone who never bothered to ask you how your day went. Someone who never asked you how you felt or why you looked sad.

I salute you for forgiving him for all the bad things he did to you. For giving him thousands of chances although he deserved not even one.

I salute you for having the strength to heal your wounds when you were deeply hurt. For having the strength to smile when you were crying on the inside. I salute you for hiding your sorrow behind a strong, confident face.

I salute you for not losing hope that things would get better. That one day, he’ll realize how important and amazing you are. That he will see your kindness, unselfishness, and efforts. That he would change.

I salute you for loving someone who didn’t love you back. Someone who couldn’t or didn’t want to appreciate you.

I salute you for loving him enough to allow him to break your heart time and time again.

I salute you for always making him a part of your life although he never saw you as a part of his.

And maybe many will judge you for staying with such a guy and allowing him to treat you that way.  They’ll say you were naive and that you should have stood up for yourself. But, don’t let that upset you because they don’t love in the way you do.

They don’t understand that you aren’t afraid to get hurt. You wore your heart on your sleeve and allowed your love for him to break your heart in countless pieces. And yet, you were brave enough to pick them up all by yourself.

You believed that if he felt your true love, this would touch his heart and change him. You chose love over anything else. You were neglected and humiliated, but you still chose to love and never stopped looking for the good in him. You loved the wrong guy but you didn’t allow this to shatter your hope that true love exists.

And I salute you because no matter how many times people have criticized you for loving the wrong guy and your soul was wounded, you always choose LOVE.

Love over anything else. You always choose to love unselfishly, forgive, heal your wounds, overcome your pain, and move on.

You choose to love even when every single part of you is exhausted. And it takes a lot of courage for that.

That’s why I salute and admire you.

Love can be scary, hard, and painful. But, keep loving, Girl, because there’s nothing in the world that the intensity of your love cannot conquer. And I can only hope that one day you’ll find someone who will know how to love and appreciate you. Someone who will be grateful for having such an amazing person in his life – YOU.