There is always a solution to every problem, sometimes there are several solutions and we need to choose one which will be the most appropriate one and the most suitable solution which us and our families will benefit from it.

The same applies for parenting, parents come across so many challenges and obstacles in life and it seems difficult to determine whether we are making the right calls and finding the proper solution for the sake of our family.

Nowadays, we can rely on so many technological achievements and innovations which are here with one purpose only- to make our lives easier and more convenient.

However, sometimes the easiest way and the latest invention is not what we truly need. Sometimes the answer we’ve all been searching for is held in our deepest thoughts reminding us that our family and our kids need one thing only that no application or expensive gadget can fill in its place.

Our kids need minimalism, our kids need to be neglected from the material world and focused on the true values in life. We need to understand that teaching doesn’t start from school, but it starts from the first day we become parents.

Parenting is sacred, parenting is patient, parenting is passing on the important lesson in life- technology is here just for the ride.Our kids need humbleness

How many of you have found yourself in a situation where you search for the perfect gift for you loved ones and you simply can’t find something to please their desire or satisfy their needs?

Well, search no more because what your children need is not on the market, it’s in your home. Replace exchanging or promising them gifts for Christmas, because the only gift they need is love.

Forget about the thank you or gratitude cards, because the only thing they need to be grateful for is the family, the love and respect that they get from you. Celebrations are here to remind us that no material thing can replace the gift that we’ve had from birth- the gift of being loved, the gift of religion and the gift of our family.

Our kids need to just kids

Don’t expect your kids to be obedient, calm and disciplined. That’s not in their nature, kids need to be messy, they need to be curious, they need to look upon their parents and find out on their own the persons they want to become in life.

Buying expensive toys or downloading entertaining applications will only narrow your child’s world.

Our kids need to spend time with their families

Not a single class of piano or karate will replace the well-spend and valuable time with the family. Kids who socialize with the family are the ones who are expected to achieve higher results in the future.

So, what does a child that sits around the house and does nothing achieve?

The answer is never nothing. That child develops closeness with the family, it also develops skills which will later on reflect positively on his/her life.

Our kids need proper meals

Skipping a meal from McDonald’s is the best gift that you can give to a child and not only because it’s not healthy for them, but also because you need to create proper eating habits for your child.

Snacking between meals is only alluding that food is something which you intake in order to survive. Even though that bears some truth in it, food should also be regarded as a gift.

Lunch time or dinner time is the time when family sits together and eats real food.

Our kids need US

This is not said just of the sake of being said. Our kids need us to guide them, to make the proper decisions for them, to put them on the right path which later on be reflected on their lives.

Thank God we have teacher who will only help us and support us in the process, however the greatest teachers they can get are their parents, their role models, their biggest supporters.

Our kids need something which grows with them

Those dinosaurs or minions hanging in his/her room will lose meaning after a few months. Buying toys which will grow with them or be sustainable is the best call for them and for you.

They truly don’t need tons of toys just because they need to have them. We consciously make our kids believe that they deserve or need those toys, however the truth is that those toys will only satisfy their momentarily needs and not on a long term.

Most of all, our kids need themselves

Our kids need to grow, they need to be molded and raised with the real values in life. Nothing can buy the love, the life lesson that we give them, however they need to go through some things in life by themselves.

They need to be their own heroes, they need to be able to make decisions and determine their priorities by themselves. They need to grow, they need to be curious, they need to be themselves and they need to be just kids.

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Upon meeting someone for the first time, be it in the workplace or at a causal gathering, we cannot know their personality traits straight away. This is why it takes time to get to know someone.

Most of the time this is a hard thing to uncover because the majority of people never show their true nature in the beginning. Most of us want to represent ourselves in the best light possible and therefore only let our positive traits shine.

This is probably due to the fact that we want to seem more attractive and likeable to others upon our first meeting, because as we have been told, first impressions tend to last. There is no second chance for first impressions.

We are often inclined to ask ourselves if the person we are dealing with is even worth our time, since we know so little about them. Thus, how can we determine if spending time with someone will have a fruitful outcome?

Unfortunately, there is no real way to find out at the very beginning, which means we must take the risk.

According to a new study led by the University of Nebraska, there is one specific question you can ask to reveal one’s complete personality, and that is what they think about someone else.

That’s right – asking someone to give you an opinion of another person may be just the thing you need to find out who they are.

Psychology Professor Dustin Wood from Wake Forest University stated that our perceptions of others, or how we view them, depends on how we view ourselves. Therefore, if we think positively of ourselves, this will also reflect how we see others.

Depending on how happy you are on your own will determine how others perceive your personality as well. If you think optimistically of yourself, this will reflect in your behavior and others will pick up the positive vibes.

The opposite is also true. If you are constantly putting yourself down and thinking negatively, this is how others will perceive you, as the vibes you send will be negative. People tend to stay away from such individuals.

Apart from the typical positive-negative outlooks, there are also extremes such as narcissism and self-absorbency. These type of people are mostly self-critical and hypocritical at the same time, which inflict negative emotions onto others.

Professor Wood illustrates:

We as individuals tend to mirror our emotions onto others and therefore can identify many traits within them that we contain. Oftentimes, when we discover something irritating in another person, it is usually a characteristic we dislike about ourselves.

Therefore, the next time you want to learn more about a person, listen to them speaking about someone else. They may in fact be describing themselves.

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When it comes to telling the truth, almost all people have very difficult moment of “moral awareness”- to lie or not to lie? But unfortunately there are people who base their whole lives around small and big lies and spread their web of lies far beyond their ability to control the consequences from it.

And these consequences at the end might be very painful for the one who has believed in them, and for the one lying. So for a peaceful way of living it is of utmost importance to learn how to tell when someone is lying to you.

Here are some advices that one should take into consideration if you don’t want to fall as a pray into that kind of web.

When you start to examine a person you suspect of lying, very useful tip is to know how that person acts in their normal, everyday life.

And then you should pay attention to these signals that sometimes can be very subtle:

1.Pause

When someone is lying and you do catch them off-guard immediately after they have done the deed, they tend to pause a lot. By doing this they buy themselves some time to think and make up a story that is fairly believable. So watch for pauses, if they haven’t had any time to make up something they’ll do this a lot.

2. Give less detail

This particularly happens when someone wants to take the fault for someone else’s doing. If they haven’t done it they will give less details, or the details they give will not be consistent with the deed. But this also goes for someone who is not very creative and imaginative, thus he cannot make up a convincing story in the amount of time they had to prepare themselves for the lie.

3. Give more details

This is also an important sign of someone lying, especially if they had enough time to think about it. Their story is so convincing that they can even back it up with facts that you cannot deny. But if you know that this person normally wouldn’t pay much attention to places, names and so much details, this might just trigger the “lie alarm”.

4. Trouble backtracking

This is very interesting way to catch a liar. Usually a liar cannot tell the story backwards. When someone is having the intention of lying to you and the time to figure out a convincing story, they usually concentrate on the exact event sequences and the time consistency of those events until the point when you meet and they come to you very prepared. But the catch here is that they cannot repeat the story if you ask them to start with the last thing they did and go backwards, all the way until say, leaving the office. Simple, they were so focused on “how” it all began that they forget that you cannot forge the “why” in a lie.

5. Inconsistence

This especially happens if the one you suspect of lying becomes very comfortable when you leave them they thinking they are safe and you’ve stopped questioning and it the moment when you repeat the question or ask them to repeat a specific detail mentioned once before, they will not answer it at all or they would tell another quick lie different from the previous one.

6. Eye contact

This one is tricky because a trained or pathological liar will lie to you while he watches you directly in the eyes. But usually when someone is lying they do not make eye contact, it is the first sign of shame. They cannot look up into your eyes, because as it is said, the eyes are doors to the Soul and a liar doesn’t want to be looked at their Soul. They are too much embarrassed, because they do know what they are doing.

7. They protest too much or change the subject

When someone doesn’t want you to know the truth they protest too much, they yell at you, say that you don’t believe them whatever they say, or most commonly they tend to put all the blame on you.

8. Ask the unexpected

Usually you can catch a liar very quickly if you play a mind games like asking different questions that has nothing to do with the story, but with the one who’s lying.

You see, when you ask where they were and they start talking like reading a script, just ask a simple question that pops into your mind, change the subject a little, talk a moment about you and suddenly ask them to continue, than ask them to repeat what they have previously said. Here is the moment they lose themselves in their own game.

9. Look for insincere emotions

With the words one can temper, but not with the emotions and feelings. If you pay attention to the body language and the eyes, you can very easily read all of their emotions. So trust what you see in the eyes, trust what is written upon the face when someone speaks to you.

10. Trust your gut-feeling

Putting aside all the event consistencies, all beautiful and convincing storytelling, you must always trust your gut-feeling or intuition. Your heart will never lie to you. Thus trust your Self what is telling you and give yourself some time to find out if your intuition was true.

There are times that we cannot bare the truth, so we go along with the lies we hear and pretend that all is well. But this fake calmness never lasts long, even on our last day we shall say to the one, that we knew all along.

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