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The More You Hug Your Kids, The Smarter They Become

By
Elizabeth Williams
The More You Hug Your Kids, The Smarter They Become

If you’re that kind of parent who can’t keep their arms off their children, hugging them at every moment possible, then don’t stop – your kids will thank you for it one day.

According to new research, hugging, as a form of physical affection, during the developmental period of the baby, is more important than you could think. The affection in the form of touch that these babies get triggers their brains to grow, and thus become smarter.

The research done by Nationwide Children’s Hospital in Ohio looked at 125 babies, born both preterm and full-term, and analyzed how light physical touch affects their brain development, as well as their perception, cognition, and social development.

They discovered that supportive experiences, such as breastfeeding, skin-to-skin care, affectionate hugs, and similar, triggered strong brain responses which allowed the brain to develop faster and more healthily.

On the opposite side, painful experiences, such as skin punctures and tube insertions, inhibited the brain responses to the same touch stimuli.

In other words, being gentle and loving to your baby is not only the humane and natural thing to do, but it also contributes to the development of their brain to such extent that you may as well say that your child will become smarter.

Dr. Nathalie Maitre, the lead researcher behind this study, explains that this simple activity, of providing body contact to your child or rocking them in your arms, makes a significant difference in the development of their brains.

“Making sure that preterm babies receive positive, supportive touch such as skin-to-skin care by parents is essential to help their brains respond to gentle touch in ways similar to those of babies who experienced an entire pregnancy inside their mother’s womb,” she explains to Science Daily.

All in all, love and affection are the key to one’s development in every stage of life. Start early and never stop! Your children will thank you for it in so many ways.

How to Handle a Narcissist in the World of Estate Litigation

By
Elizabeth Williams
Narcissist

Dealing with a narcissist isn’t easy at the best of times, but having to handle one while you’re trying to resolve a Will dispute can prove incredibly tricky…

When a loved one passes away, the last thing you will want to deal with is a dispute over the terms of their Will, or the way in which their Will is being executed. Unfortunately, Will disputes are surprisingly common, with family members and loved ones butting heads with one another to secure what they believe to be a fair outcome.

Contested probate matters can often be resolved quickly and efficiently if the relevant parties are willing to cooperate with one another and understand how to reach a positive outcome that is everyone’s best interests. That can be easier said than done though, especially where you have to deal with a narcissist at the same time.

That’s where this post should come in useful! Read on to learn more about how you can handle a narcissist when it comes to estate litigation.

What is a Narcissist?

A narcissist is someone who generally has an inflated sense of their own self-importance. They seek excessive attention and often lack a sense of empathy for others and their feelings.

Narcissism is a trait, but in some cases it can also be a part of a personality disorder (Narcissistic Personality Disorder).

The potential signs of narcissism could include a general sense of entitlement, manipulative behaviour, a need for admiration, a lack of empathy and general arrogance.

Why Might a Will be Contested?

There are several reasons why someone may launch a Will dispute. The main reasons centre around the following:

  • Lack of testamentary capacity – the person writing the Will (the testator) did not have sufficient mental capacity when writing the Will.
  • Lack of due execution – there was a failure to meet the necessary formalities when writing the Will, such as it not being signed or witnessed correctly.
  • Lack of knowledge or approval – the testator did not understand the contents or meaning of their Will.
  • Undue influence – there was a pressure on the testator to make a Will or make changes to the Will.
  • Fraud or forgery – the Will was created fraudulently, or a signature was forged.

How Can You Deal with a Will Dispute with a Narcissist?

Understand Narcissism and Narcissistic Behaviours

If you want to find a positive resolution to a Will dispute that involves a narcissist, it is important to first understand what a narcissist is and what sort of behaviours they’re likely to exhibit.

Once you understand why they might react in a certain way, or why they might take certain actions that would seem counterproductive, you’ll soon start to learn how to adjust your own behaviour and actions to increase the likelihood of finding a positive resolution.

It’s important to note that not all narcissists will be completely identical, and there are likely to be certain personality quirks that also effect how they behave. But, if you’ve got a general understanding of what to expect, this should put you in a much better position.

Gather as Much Evidence as Necessary

This is true in any scenario, regardless of whether you are dealing with a narcissist. Will disputes can be complicated affairs and the consequences for being on the wrong end of a decision can have a long-lasting impact.

It’s therefore crucial that you take every step to gather as much evidence as you can that can be used to help prove your side of proceedings. This can be used to either demonstrate why a Will should either be contested or upheld, depending on your position, and will be irrefutable for even the most difficult narcissist.

Speak to a Legal Professional

Will disputes, and contested probate in general, can be incredibly complicated affairs, with the stakes often being very high. If you’re dealing with narcissist at the same time, you may be running the risk of becoming extremely overwhelmed and unable to enforce your side of proceedings.

So, why not take the initiative and speak to a legal professional, such as a solicitor who specialises in contested probate? They’ll be able to review your situation, assess the details regarding the disputed Will and advise you on your all of your available options.

They’ll also be able to negotiate with the other side on your behalf, saving you the hassle, and if court proceedings are required, they’ll be able to provide you with robust representation.

Be Open and Willing to Listen (Within Reason)

This may be the most difficult step to follow, but you may need to be patient during a Will dispute with a narcissist. This means being open and willing to listen to their side of things, even if you don’t necessarily agree with what they’re saying.

Only by doing this can you get some understanding of their viewpoint, which could help you to find a more amicable agreement that suits your interests and appeases them.

Of course, this is all within reason. You shouldn’t be tempted to simply try and settle for an outcome you don’t agree with simply because it is more convenient to do so.

Consider Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR)

When you’re at odds with someone over contested probate, it’s up to you to find workable solutions before you consider heading to costly and time-consuming court proceedings.

It would be very beneficial to engage in various Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) methods such as mediation, arbitration or Constructive Negotiation, which will help to reduce any unnecessary conflict and increase the chances of reaching a positive resolution.

Are You Dealing with a Will Dispute with a Narcissist?

In this post, we’ve discussed some of the best ways you can deal with a Will dispute with a narcissist which should help you to secure the outcome you’re looking for. There’s no denying that going through such a process is incredibly difficult and will present plenty of challenges, but keeping these pointers in mind should help to streamline the process.

Have you got any other tips for dealing with a narcissist in these scenarios? If so, feel free to leave a comment below!

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How To Use Music To Cleanse The Negative Energy From Your Home

By
Elizabeth Williams
Music To Cleanse The Negative Energy From Your Home

Music is the cure for many things. And besides its powerful psychological properties, music can come with one of the purest forms of vibration out there. This means we can use the energy it vibrates to cleanse our and our home’s energy of any lingering negativity and introduce a wave of positivity.

Cleansing your home means cleansing your soul, as you are directly affected by the energy of your living space (especially when you sleep). Because of this, it’s very important that you treat your home with respect and love and offer it the positivity it needs to nurture your strength and mind.

There are many different ways of cleansing negative energy, from salt and smudging to more advanced meditative techniques, but the easiest and most peaceful way to influence the energy in your home is by introducing high-vibrational music.

Playing a peaceful melody that incorporates both high and low frequencies will fill your home with the harmonious energy it radiates with. Singing can also play a powerful role in the cleansing process, as your intentions will be transferred in the form of sound and will echo through the room.

Whatever you choose to be your tool for cleansing, music can always accompany you in the process and provide you with the energetic support you need to disperse and transmute the negative energy.

Historically speaking, music has been used as one of the primary tools for dispelling negative influences since the earliest times in rituals. Every religious service includes singing and chanting accompanied by various other tools.

Music is universal and powerful. It brings your mind to the present moment and it has the power to interfere with the negative energetic loops that might be present in your living space.

So, next time you decide to cleanse your home, turn the volume up and play a melody that will guide you through the process. Never underestimate the frequencies that emanate from the peaceful, yet powerful sounds created with the intent to bring in positivity and relaxation.

Here’s a suggestion on what you could play. Of course, you can always browse for other melodies and choose the one that makes you feel at peace.

Sound is one of the most powerful energetic manifestations, and every melody has the power to change a world of troubles into a safe haven for insight and relaxation.

How Men Show Love? Men Show Their Love Through Actions NOT Words

By
Mary Wright
Men Show Their Love

Many women get frustrated and tend to worry if their men are not vocal when it comes to showing their love and affection. But how do men show their love?

However, men are differently wired. Women are naturally more verbally expressive than men. Men, on the other hand, when it comes to expressing their love, their actions always speak louder than their words.

So, if your guy is not telling you about his feelings, here are 11 ways he might do to show you their love.  

1. He Brings You Around His Friends And Family

When he starts to show you off proudly to his friends and family, it is a sign that he loves you and he is serious about you. He wants to make you an important part of his life, and he wants everyone to see how happy you make him feel.

2. He Stays In Touch With You All The Time

When two people genuinely care about each other and enjoy their time together, they don’t need a special reason to stay in contact. So, when your guy calls you to say hello or just to see what you are doing – it is a sign that you are on his mind a lot.

3. He Stays Physically Close To You

It may be just him keeping his arm around you, or hugging you unexpectedly, or just lying on the couch and cuddling. His attempts to stay physically connected to you are a clear sign that he wants you to be close to him because he loves your company. (1)

4. He Compromises

When a man is in love, he wants to make his woman happy. Even if that means that he should sometimes sacrifice his own interests for the sake of the relationship. When a man is willing to compromise – you can be sure that the relationship feels sacred to him.

5. He Doesn’t Care What You Do, As Long As You Are Together

He won’t care if he has to go with you at the groceries or to keep you company when you have to choose a birthday present for your friend because he wants to spend as much time with you as possible. When a man loves you, everything you do is exciting to him and he wants to be a part of it. (2)

6. He Really Listens To You

No matter what anyone says – details matter. And men are often accused of being terrible listeners. However, when a man remembers small details about you, like your favorite chocolate or your favorite movie, it is a little but sure sign he listens to you intently because he values and cares for you.

7. He Asks For Your Advice

When a man sees you as his life partner he will take your opinions seriously. Your thoughts will matter to him because you matter to him as well.

8. He Will Go Pick Up Your Dry Cleaning

Or any other thing that you ask him to. He will go out of his way to help you out with everyday things. On the other hand, a man who is not serious about you, won’t even stick around often nor will he be willing to do any of those things.

9. He Puts A Lot Of Thought Into The Gifts He Gives You

Whether it is a present you have always wanted or someplace you said you’ve always wanted to visit – a man who truly loves you will try to give you something that is valuable to you because he pays attention to your words and knows you well.

10. He Is Smiling In A Cute Way After You Kiss

Ohh you know that smile… ????

Eye Color Can Tell A Lot About Your Personality

By
Elizabeth Williams
Eye Color Can Tell a Lot About Your Personality

Can you tell a person’s personality based on their eye color? Many people agree that the eyes are indeed a window to the soul, and really, if your tongue can lie, making your eyes to lie is rather difficult.

The eyes can show a variety of emotions that we have learned to recognize, but can they tell more about one’s personality? After studying the personalities of 428 subjects, scientists at Orebro University in Sweden have found a pattern.

In their study, they concluded that every eye color comes with a distinct set of personality traits that the other eye colors lack or combine (depending on the color). This correlation is a result of a gene that is responsible for the development of the iris.

In fact, the same gene responsible for the development of the iris is the one that plays a shaping role of the frontal lobe of the brain, the part of the brain that influences personality.

As Dr. Anthony Fallone of the Edinburgh University points, “The eye is so closely linked neurologically to the brain that you might call it the only part of our brain you can see from the outside. It seems to hold vital clues to our brain function.”

So, what does your eye color say about your personality?

DARK BROWN / BLACK EYES  PERSONALITY

These heavily pigmented eyes leave the impression of being black. This rare color leaves a hint of mystery in the perception of others. If you have black eyes, you were most likely born a leader, and if you can’t see yourself in this description, it’s at least how others tend to see you.

According to a study, people with dark-brown or black eyes are also seen as more agreeable.

Dark-eyed people are also better at target-hitting sports (like tennis), requiring accuracy and fast thinking.

The ability to think fast comes as a result of the increased amount of melanin in the iris (and thus the brain), which functions as an insulator in the connectors between the brain cells. This allows the cells to communicate more quickly and efficiently.

Another thing that dark-eyed people are good at is remaining sober. Unlike those with light-colored eyes, people with dark eyes choose to drink considerably less.

BLUE EYES PERSONALITY

Facts About Blue Eyes Personality:

While dark eyes are the result of an increased amount of melanin, the blue eyes lack melanin altogether. In fact, the blue color is a result of the blue light escaping the otherwise transparent iris.

Many people see blue-eyed people as soft and even meek. However, people with blue eyes come with great psychological and physical strength. A study has shown that women with blue eyes have shown an increased tolerance to childbirth pain compared to the others.

Not only did they show greater tolerance to pain, but the women involved in the study also showed a remarkable ability in handling postpartum depression, anxiety, and catastrophizing/rumination.

However, don’t be discouraged to find that people tend to see blue-eyed people as being ‘egotistical’ and ‘competitive’, while at the same time being ‘weak’, ‘unassertive’, or even ‘untrustworthy’. It’s just that they’re not able to peer deeper into those bright eyes and see your strength.

GRAY EYES PERSONALITY

A variation of blue eyes, and very rare. Gray eyes come in two variations: light and dark. Dark gray eyes have more melanin, whereas light gray eyes have significantly less.

If your eyes are dark gray, then you possess two opposite sides of your personality that create a well-balanced personality. In other words, you can be both good and evil, depending on your choice.

If you have light-grey eyes, you come with a deep affection and caring for those who are able to reach through your concerned and wary exterior. You tend to keep your defenses up and don’t let everyone in.

You can work a lot more than others before you exert yourself and you wish to be taken seriously.

HAZEL EYES PERSONALITY

Called hazel because of their resemblance to the hazelnut color, these eyes appear to change from brown to green or have a vivid combination between the two colors. This combination is not so common, and every hazel-eyed person bears their unique combination of green and brown.

If you have heard your parents telling you that you are different and unique, it’s because you really are. In fact, you can never pin down the personality of a hazel-eyed person. It’s because people with hazel eyes like their independence, confidence, and spontaneity more than anything in the world.

Hazel-eyed people possess a balanced personality that leaves a hint of mystery in the eyes of the others.

BROWN EYES PERSONALITY

The brown eye color is the most common in the world, making brown-eyed people the dominant population. Personality-wise, brown-eyed people tend to be more assertive, agreeable, and confident.

According to the Charles University in Prague, these people can be described as respectful, gentle, and very loyal – though definitely not submissive.

If you have brown eyes, you probably have a difficult time getting up in the morning. It has been found that brown-eyed people spend two hours less sleeping than those with lighter eyes and that they had poorer sleep cycles.

GREEN EYES PERSONALITY

Green eyes are in the middle between blue and brown, lacking the melanin to be brown, but having enough not to be blue. And they are the dream of many people. In fact, most people want to change their eye color to green, and it’s no wonder why.

Green-eyed people are seen as sexy by most. This is what a survey conducted by CyberPulse has found. And indeed, the exotic charm of the green eyes is something everyone would fall for.

Personality-wise, green-eyed people are both dominant and agreeable like those with brown eyes and cautious and strong like those with blue eyes. Doctor Hamadi Kallel, an ophthalmologist surgeon, says that people with green eyes possess “an air of mystery and a quiet self-sufficiency.”

These people possess their own genuine and creative nature, paired with the ability to perform well under pressure. They are also often unpredictable and are slow to anger.

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Forms of Sexual Harassment on Dating Apps to be Aware Of

By
Elizabeth Williams

Dating apps are an incredibly popular way of meeting people but they can also leave women open to sexual harassment. In this article, we’ll explore the different types of harassment to look out for.

Sexual harassment is defined by state laws as any form of unwelcome sexual behavior that can take multiple forms, including visual, verbal, or physical, and is motivated by sexual intentions. It covers a wide range of actions, including harassment based on gender, which can occur regardless of whether the harasser and the victim are of the same gender. If you need more information, our Los Angeles sexual harassment lawyers can clarify these legal subtleties in more detail.

In September 2021, dating app, Tinder, appointed its first ever female CEO – Renate Nyborg. Since her appointment, Ms Nyborg has stated her commitment to improving safety for women on dating apps.

This has been seen as a welcome move, after a 2020 investigation into apps like Tinder and Bumble, showed they were allowing known sex offenders onto their platforms. A recent survey revealed that 25% of people who use dating apps experience some form of sexual assault, with a third reporting sexual harassment or abuse.

In this article, we’re going to take a look at some of the forms of sexual harassment, that occur on dating apps you need to be aware of.

Sexual Comments and Innuendos

Unwarranted sexual messages are the most common form of online harassment. Many female app users report that they have begun a conversation with somebody on a dating site, only for the person to then quickly begin to make sexual comments.

Although some of these comments, such as ‘you look yummy’, may seem like harmless banter to some, they can make the recipient feel extremely uncomfortable. Unsolicited, sexual comments of any kind are a form of sexual harassment.

Unwanted Sexual Advances

Often, the perceived anonymity of dating apps can make a person behave in a bolder way than they would in real life – and this can include making unwanted sexual advances.

An example of this would be a person sending messages asking for sex or describing what they would like to do to the recipient of the message. This form of sexual harassment can be distressing for the recipient who may even feel threatened by the content of the messaging.

Surveys show, 6 out of 10 female dating app users, report receiving this kind of harassment at one time or another. If you’re out on a date and don’t feel comfortable a lot of bars have adopted the ‘Ask for Angela’ campaign action plan to help people feeling uncomfortable.

Unsolicited Sexual Imagery

If you’ve ever received an unwanted sexual photograph or video, you’ll know how invasive and unpleasant this form of sexual harassment can be. Receiving photos or videos which show nudity or sexual imagery can feel like a violation and can make the online world feel unsafe for women.

When men send these types of images, often referred to as ‘d*ck pics’ there is often a perceived threat and, these should always be reported to the app.

Online Stalking

When we think about stalking, our thoughts usually turn to that of a shadowy figure following somebody through darkened streets, however, online stalking is very much a thing.

Many people will make contact with somebody on a dating app and then set out on a mission to follow that person, throughout their digital presence, gaining access to their social media platforms, email addresses and more.

In extreme cases, the perpetrator will aim to find physical information such as home and work addresses, in order to keep tabs on their victim. Any kind of online stalking should be reported to both the platforms involved and to the police.

Rape Threats

In recent times, there has been a worrying increase in the number of sexual assaults committed after a meeting on a dating app. Similarly, a significant number of women say that they have received threats of rape through these platforms.

This is an incredibly serious form of sexual harassment and should always, without question, be reported to the police – even if you think the abuser is ‘all talk’ The police will usually take threats like these extremely seriously and may even prosecute.

Andrea Simon, Director of End Violence Against Women, says, “Dating apps are a really popular way for people to meet each other, but there is also a really worrying side to the way perpetrators are exploiting this to meet potential victims, resulting in a reported increase in rapes of women using dating apps.

Tinder’s new safety features are a small step to encourage reporting of harassment but do not go far enough to address abuse like rape threats. Tech companies like Tinder ultimately profit from a business model that ignores the abuse facilitated by its services. It’s critical they are held to account for ensuring users’ safety”.

These comments highlight the fact that, although improvements have been made, and the appointment of Renate Nyborg is almost certainly a step forward. There is clearly still work to be done on making sure that women are able to use dating apps without worrying about sexual harassment.

It’s important to continue reporting sexual harassment…

In this article, we’ve shared some statistics regarding sexual harassment on dating apps but, the fact is that the true figures are probably very much higher. It’s almost certain that many women do not report abuse and sexual harassment on dating platforms simply because they don’t believe that their complaints will be taken seriously.

In 2022, sexual harassment, whether online or in real life, is entirely unacceptable and people have a right to spend time online without being victimised. As such, it’s incredibly important to report sexual harassment to the app’s management team, however trivial it may seem.

By reporting abuse, owners of dating apps are more effectively able to manage their operations and to figure out what needs to be done in order to make their platforms safer for all.

11 Warning Signs From The Universe You’re On The Wrong Path

By
Elizabeth Williams
Signs From The Universe You’re On The Wrong Path

We all come with a purpose, a calling that we all strive to fulfill. It is the thing we are meant to do in this crazy world to leave it better than we found it, and it is our truest passion and ambition – our life purpose. But watch for the warning sign from the universe if you are on the wrong path.

However, our free will allows us to choose our own paths to fulfill this purpose, and through them, we tend to learn different things. Life is a labyrinth, and the end of it is the fulfillment of our life’s purpose.

So, we often walk blindly through the maze and we often tend to find ourselves in a dead-end that leads nowhere. Our tendency to create comfort zones makes us want to stay there and create our own kingdom out of it, but the Universe steps in to help.

And here’s where it sends us warning signs that tell us: you’ve ended up in a dead-end, you’re not walking toward your purpose, you’ve made a wrong decision.

And these warning signs are not pleasant because they are meant to shake us down from the wrong tree and make us start exploring the mazy forest of our lives again, so as to find the right path.

And what do these reality checks look like?

Here are 11 warning signs from the universe you may be on the wrong path:

1. Constant feelings of uneasiness

Once you start walking toward a dead end, you may start feeling uneasy and stressed for no apparent reason. This feeling intensifies when you make bolder decisions that steer you directly off the path you need to take.

We often tend to ignore our intuition in favor of our convictions, and this can lead us astray. Start trusting your gut feeling more, and it’s always alright to change your mind about something.

2. Unexpected losses

Just when you think that things are going your way, you suddenly experience an unexpected loss. These losses may be major, and the consequence may feel tremendous to you. It’s because you weren’t supposed to go there. Make a step back and see what brought you to that loss.

3. Unexpected expenses that tip you off balance

When you think you’ve started growing, a sudden expense that tips everything off balance is a sign from the universe that you might be growing in the wrong direction. Do everything to make amends for this kind of loss and see what step brought you to this. We usually end up in these situations because we get carried away before taking everything into consideration.

4. Sudden quarrels with your loved ones

The people you love are there to help you steer toward the right path. If they start being hostile toward you for no good reason, it might be that the Universe is trying to talk you out of some kind of decision through them.

5. Unexpected illnesses

It may feel unprecedented – everything is alright, and you suddenly feel ill. It’s definitely a fall that may affect your way of functioning, but it’s one that is trying to prevent you from doing whatever you have started doing.

6. Frequent headaches

Frequent headaches that have no obvious background are another sign that you may be on the wrong path. They will happen when you try to relax, and they will make you feel awful.

7. A strong desire for change

In many cases, you may even feel that you need to change something, but be unaware of what exactly you need. This feeling can permeate throughout the whole time until you finally realize that you’ve been doing things wrong.

8. Events turn for the worse

Being on the right path means that things will go smoothly, and will seem easier with every step. However, once you step the wrong way, everything will start to deteriorate and become more difficult by the day. Challenges make us grow, but these negative experiences are there to prevent you from going down the wrong path.

9. More enemies than friends

The place you wish to go to will be hostile toward you, and the people that are meant to go there will also be hostile. You will become surrounded by enemies and you’ll start losing touch with your real friends. It’s because you don’t belong there, and they can sense it.

10. A feeling of debilitating isolation – clear sign from the universe!

Even when the people you need are around you, you may start feeling as isolated as one can be. This is a clear sign that you have drifted away from the energetic stream that is meant for you. You should go back and reconsider your choices.

11. Depression

Falling into depression is the final fall that will try to return you to where you were supposed to be, and the only way to get out of the depression is to start questioning your existence, as depression makes you do this.

When a tree grows a branch that cannot get enough light, the branch eventually starts getting weaker and it dies.

We don’t always choose our path but are rather led into believing that we are doing the right thing.

That’s why the Universe will do everything to make you feel small down the path you shouldn’t be walking. Don’t take this negatively, as the only thing that matters is you returning to your true calling.

There are some things that aren’t meant for us because we were destined for other, greater things. Listen to your intuition and learn from your mistakes. Your true calling has a magnetism that you will always be able to recognize if you pay attention.

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Complaining Physically Rewires Your Brain To Be Depressed And Anxious

By
Elizabeth Williams

It’s a fact that nobody’s life is perfect. The truth is that indeed everyone has ups and downs and everyone is waging their own battle most aren’t aware of. However, there are those who keep up the positivity and know that life is tough no matter what; and there are the complainers.

While it’s natural to vent your stress when things get tough, these people choose to turn a blind eye to the positive things in their life and obsess over the odds they face. Hence, they use every possible opportunity to vent their stress over these things by complaining to whoever is willing to listen.

Complaining won’t help, though. On the contrary, not only will it eventually chase away the person who is forced to listen, but it will rewire your brain to be depressed and anxious. Because of this, it’s best to see why people tend to complain, the way it affects the brain, and how the negative thoughts behind complaining can be reversed.

There are 3 types of complainers:

  1. Those who complain to get sympathy
  2. Those who ruminate over all their problems
  3. Those who want to vent, but don’t really search for any real solutions to their problems

Whatever the type of complainer, the psychology behind complaining goes to early childhood, with the child learning this habit from someone in the family. Living and growing up with a person who constantly sees the worst in everything is something that affects the child’s perception of the adult world.

In other words, the child will learn this negative behavior from a parent or a relative as something which is normal to do, and they will perpetuate the habit later on.

What complaining does to your brain

Constant complaining trains your brain to behave in the way it has been used most. Neuropsychologist Donald Hebb explains that complaining, like any other activity, activates the neurons in the brain and trains them to remember the pattern.

So, in a way, the complainer teaches his/her brain to fire the same cognitive pattern every time they complain, and this negative set of emotions and recollections eventually triggers depression and anxiety.

As a result, any effort to change the mindset to a more positive outlook will be difficult, and the person will be stuck in a loop of negative emotions and attitudes toward life, as their brain is most familiar with this pattern. (1)

How to retrain your brain to be more positive?

Luckily, every habit can be changed and all the negativity can be reversed. This process does take some effort at first, but it gets easier with practice and constantly reminding yourself that not everything is as dark as it seems.

The aim is to adapt your brain into creating patterns of thoughts other than the negative set which it’s so used to. However, one needs to want to change in order to change. And who wouldn’t want to get out of that grim loop of dark thoughts? (2)

You can start off by focusing on these 5 things:

1.Be aware of your attitude – complaining can come as a default reaction to any thought. You need to become more aware of your attitude toward things and understand that everything has its positive and negative sides.

2. Let go of all the bad stuff – some things can’t be changed, it’s just the way they are. Letting go of the negative things is better than holding on to them and this is all for your own sake. Instead, focus on what cheers you up – all things come to an end, even the bad ones.

3. Focus on the positive – of course, there is something positive in everything! If you can’t see it, look closer. Focus on what makes the true virtues, such as honesty, love, the positive lessons out of it, your personal growth out of the experiences. (3)

4. Be grateful – always remember that you have been blessed with many wonderful things in your life – you just need to look and see just how many there are. Be grateful for those things, not resentful of the challenges that come.

5. Be humble – arrogance and the thought that everything should belong to you are a poison to the mind. Instead, focus on your true values and don’t put yourself on a pedestal for anything. Focus on your happiness instead.

And then – when you are obsessed with negativity and you can’t let go easily, take a quick trip to nature and relax. Nature, sport, and any creative activity serve to vent out all the negativity you have gathered. It’s natural that we all face negativity in our lives, and it’s important not to get caught in a negative loop and rise above it.

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11 Reasons Why Empaths Are The Best Relationship Partners

By
Mary Wright
Empaths Are The Best Relationship Partners

No relationship is all milk and honey. Relationships take work and real sacrifices from both partners in order to succeed.

Being in a relationship with an empath is not an easy task too. However, empaths have many traits that make them one of the best partners that anyone could ask for in a relationship.

Dr. Elaine Aaron studied empaths in the 90s and found that 15-20% of the population are empaths. She also discovered that the brain of the empaths is wired to sense the feelings, emotions, and even the feelings and thoughts of other people.

11 Reasons Why Empaths Are The Best Partners When It Comes To Romantic Relationships:

1. They Are Healers

Empaths have healing capacities that come naturally to them. They enjoy healing people because if others feel good, empaths would feel good too. An empath can not only sense other people’s pain, but they also experience it as if it’s their own and they will do everything to comprehend them and ease their pain. (1)

2. They Are Incredibly Loyal

Once an empath starts to trust you, there is not anything that they wouldn’t do for you. They are one of the most loyal people, and they give their heart and soul to their loved ones. When they sense that your love is genuine, they will stay true to you and will do anything to make you feel loved and fulfilled.

3. They Will Make You Happy

Empaths radiate happiness everywhere they go. They shine even more with joy when they are around people they love. Their positive vibe is infectious. When they are in a loving relationship, their happiness will be even higher and more compelling which in turn would make their partner happy. An empath can never be in a relationship with a negative person. (2)

4. They Love Unconditionally

Empaths are highly intuitive and highly sensitive people. They can experience deep and intense feelings, and because of that, they can love their partner just as deep and intense. They love in ways that they know their partner wants and needs to be loved. Most importantly, when they fall in love, they love unconditionally.

5. They Believe In Calmness Over Anger

Someone once said that the opposite of anger is not calmness, but empathy. Empathetic people are both. They are calm, and they rarely express their anger. When they are angry they still carefully choose their words because even then empaths don’t want to hurt you. Their loving and calm nature make them the best partners anyone could ask for.

6. They Are Optimists

Empaths’ optimism is essential to them. It serves them as a defense mechanism from all the emotions and negativity they sense from other people. If they were not optimists, they would break down. This is excellent for their partner because they would not have to worry about cheering up the empath daily. Plus, they can count on the empath’s optimism and positive energy to put a smile on their face whenever necessary.

7. They Will Make You A Better Person

Many would confuse empathy for weakness. This is far from the truth. Empathy is a divine force that can move mountains. Empaths are people who have strength and willingness inside of them to change the world and make it a better place. They will inspire their partner to be a better person just by being around them.

8. They Are Emotionally Open And Honest

Empaths wear their hearts on their sleeves. When they are in a romantic relationship, they are honest about their feelings. Although this puts them in a vulnerable position, they are confident that they can trust their partner and that the feelings are mutual. And because of the empath’s honesty, their partner will always know where the relationship is headed.

9. They Are Creative Problem-Solvers

Empathy is directly connected to the imagination and creativity. Being able to sense and feel everything so intensely is what makes a person more in tune with the world around them. This makes empaths able to approach every problem using their creativity and imagination which makes them look for solutions that no one would ever think of.

10. They Are Able To Closely Relate To Many Specific Aspects Of Your Personality

Empaths feel other people’s feelings as their own. This makes them able to connect to others on a deeper level, which in turn can lead the empaths to find some of their personality traits in their partners.

11. They Are More Related To Human Beings As They Are To Human Emotions

Empaths look at a person, and they see the person as he/she is. When they fall in love, they fall in love with the person with all their flaws and virtues. So, if their partner is experiencing negative emotions – the empath would still love them.

You Can Get Benefits When Hiring Personal Trainer Sunnyvale

By
Felicia Wilson
Personal Training

Personal trainers are armed with the knowledge and skills necessary to design exercise routines that are both secure and effective for their clients. When fitness experts help people identify their health and fitness goals, they are referred to as personal trainers. They are also the ones who are responsible for coming up with exercise and fitness plans for their clients.

There are many gyms and fitness instructors in Sunnyvale. Thus, hiring one to start your fitness journey would be easy. Nevertheless, always make it a priority to assess if the personal trainer Sunnyvale is keen in their job to educate and motivate their clients to assist them in reaching their health and fitness goals in a safe and effective way.

Many individuals have the mistaken impression that personal trainers are paid for doing nothing but exercising throughout the day. It cannot be denied that there has been some misunderstanding here. It would be pretty challenging for a personal trainer to work out themselves while providing helpful feedback to their client. In all honesty, personal trainers need to set aside time on their calendars to complete their own workouts.

Personal Trainer Sunnyvale: The Benefits

Expert advice

There is more to just working out with a personal trainer; in all likelihood, you will pick up some useful information while you are in the company of your trainer during your sessions.

A personal trainer Sunnyvale must have certifications in CPR or cardiopulmonary resuscitation and the use of automated external defibrillators in addition to a high school diploma. These are a few requirements that must be met before becoming a certified personal trainer. To obtain these qualifications, an individual would need to go through an accredited organization such as the American Council on Exercise (ACE) or National Academy of Sports Medicine (NASM).

In addition, to keep their certification current, they are required to complete a certain number of hours of continuing education and pass a preliminary certification exam. These processes indicate that your trainer possesses a broad range of knowledge, including but not limited to human physiology and the mechanics of the body, exercise science, altering behaviors, and more. They can show you how to use specific pieces of exercise equipment properly, how to perform exercises with the proper form, and which exercises will benefit you the most. (1)

Goal setting

Working out with the assistance of a personal trainer Sunnyvale enables you to create goals that are not only plausible but also within your reach while considering your specific circumstances. Even if your main motivation is to increase your activity level or to make improvements to your overall health, developing a specific plan for your fitness journey will help you stay on track and motivate.

There are many ways to cheat on a set, including working out by yourself, turning off your alarm, or snoozing it. A personal trainer will motivate you throughout the entire program, hold you responsible for your workouts, and challenge you to reach new levels.

Individualized fitness plan

When you work with a personal trainer Sunnyvale, your exercise routine will be modified to meet your unique needs. This will make it more likely that you will achieve the most noticeable results possible. For instance, if you take two different people and put them both through the same online program, you will probably end up with two different sets of results.

Nutritional advice

Personal trainers who are not nutritionists are not permitted by law to provide dietary recommendations to clients who may have underlying health issues. It is okay for personal trainers to offer their clients general nutrition advice, which so many clients might still find to be of significant benefit as they work toward leading healthier lifestyles.

It does not matter if you are attempting to reduce body fat or increase muscle mass; maintaining a healthy diet is essential. Your workouts at the gym will be more effective if you are aware of how much protein you must consume, how to increase the number of fruits and vegetables you eat at each meal, and even how much water intake you should have.

Personal Trainer Sunnyvale: When Should Your Hire One?

No visible results.

There is a good chance that you have been working out for a significant amount of time but have not yet achieved the results you desire. It makes no difference if your goal is to improve your performance in a sport, build more muscle, or reduce your body fat. Trainers can help in many different ways. A personal trainer can help you see things in a new light and give you a different perspective on the situation. 

You are apprehensive to start.

Nobody is born knowing the basics of working out, like how to strike a balance between cardio, weightlifting, and flexibility drills. This is something that has to be learned over time. When you have a packed schedule, it can be challenging to remember the specific moves for each exercise and figure out how to fit them into your day. Taking on the challenge might seem so complex that you decide against doing so. You’ll pick up the fundamentals of exercise with the assistance of a personal trainer Sunnyvale. You are in charge of every aspect of your workout, including the frequency, intensity, duration, and kind of exercise you do. It can be highly beneficial to have someone to guide you through the process, acting as a coach. Some professionals in the field of fitness make it their specialty to assist people in finding activities that are suitable for their bodies, work schedules, and the types of equipment they have available to them.

Your workout routine is boring.

If you are an experienced exerciser, it is possible that you have not given any thought to the possibility of working with a Personal Trainer Sunnyvale. On the other hand, if you want to add some variety to your workouts, this is an excellent choice for you to consider. It is simple to become unmotivated when performing the same exercises repeatedly; hiring a personal trainer would give you a new obstacle to overcome and a new source of inspiration.

You have an injury or illness.

Personal trainers work with clients of all ages and walks of life and those with special needs. A personal trainer can make a fitness program that caters to your specific requirements without putting you at risk of further injury or re-injury and address injuries that are already present or have been present for a long time. It is also possible for them to design a fitness routine if you are pregnant or are hoping to become pregnant soon. (2)

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