Who would’ve thought what I had with him would fall apart? Who would’ve thought that we’d become just a shadow of the couple we once were? Well, I certainly wouldn’t.

When we ended the relationship, he moved out of the apartment. I had just started a new job and he knew things were a little bit complicated so he let me stay. I’ll never forget how I felt while I was waiting for him to leave the apartment. I felt like a part of me was leaving with him.

I was holding the keys tightly in my hands and I avoided looking at his eyes. I knew that if I looked at his deep, blue eyes, I’d burst out crying. Therefore, I waited for him to leave in the kitchen and when he left, I sat on the floor and cried for hours. I couldn’t stop thinking that was the last time I saw him. That was the last time I had him so close to me. So close and yet so far.

But, the truth is, things between us weren’t working for some time. We tried really hard to save our relationship and make things be the way they once were, believing that our love was strong enough to conquer anything.

We tried to work on ourselves as well. I tried to overcome my insecurities and give up habits that bothered him. He did the same thing too. We did our best to solve all our problems and find solutions that were the best for both of us.

We did everything that was in our power to make things work between us, and yet, we didn’t succeed.

The more we tried to save our relationship, the more in vain it looked. And when we finally came to terms with the fact that it wouldn’t work, we decided to part ways.

And the decision was both relieving and painful. But, it was necessary.

However, as soon as he was gone, I regretted it. The apartment felt empty and cold. Every corner radiated with the memories I had of him. The memories we made every single day for three years.

And not just the apartment. Every place in the city reminded me of him. Every club, restaurant, and park reminded me of the lovely time we spent there together. Sometimes even working in my office was impossible because my memories of him haunted me.

I wanted him. I needed him.

I couldn’t let this man go. I simply couldn’t imagine my life without him.

So, one Friday night while I was sitting in our favorite bar, I texted him. I couldn’t text anything else, but “Hi.” He texted me back the same thing.

I could feel myself blushing and my cheeks burning. All I could think of texting him next was “How are you? How is your new place?”

“Fine,” he answered and asked me about our old apartment.

We spent the rest of the night texting each other. We talked about what had been going on in our lives, our careers, and stuff like that. It was nothing meaningful, yet, it was everything we needed to know about each other.

Gradually, we allowed the conversation to turn into something easy and pleasant since both of us wanted that to happen.

So, my point is, when a person loves you, they’ll always respond. Maybe it’ll take you a while before you make the decision to reach out first. Maybe you’ll feel uncomfortable and even afraid that the other person won’t respond, but hey, if you truly love them, nothing will be scary or embarrassing enough to prevent you from trying to get back together with them, right?

My story shows you that even a simple Hi can tell you whether or not he or she still loves you.

And if you want to know what happened at the end of that Friday night, let me just tell you that I didn’t go home alone – I went home holding the hand of the person I loved and still love the most.

Yes, relationships are made when two people are attracted to each other. And yes, relationships happen when two people are strangely, but genuinely interested in one another. But, no matter how much we strive to find someone perfect for us, we simply cannot know what person will eventually capture our attention.

So, what happens when we develop an attraction to someone who is not the right one for us?

More importantly, how do we become so intensely drawn to someone that we keep going back for more even though we are aware that we have to let go of them?

I’m guessing that nobody who has experienced this really knows why they keep going back to something that is clearly harmful to them. However, after careful consideration of some of my experiences and the experiences of people I know, I came to a few possible reasons why we keep going back to people that are not good for us.

Here are some of them:

1. WE THINK WE CAN RELATE TO THEM

Besides all the drama and pain, you feel like there’s something about that that makes you see yourself in them. You believe that they understand you completely. You feel like they know you. You feel like you two can relate to everything you’re going through.

I’m sorry to break it to you, but most of the times, this isn’t true. That strange, intense infatuation has nothing to do with mutual understanding. That is why you didn’t make it the first time, remember? They might have serious issues. So, the best thing you can do to help them is to simply try and be there as their friend. If that hurts you, leave them.

2. WE BELIEVE WE CAN HELP THEM CHANGE

This is probably one of the biggest reasons why most people go back to toxic relationships. We think we can help our ex-partners. The feelings we have for them are still alive, and our hearts tell us that we can actually help them change.

But, little do we know that we cannot force someone to change if they don’t want to. We cannot experiment on another human being. The only thing we can do is leave them and let them deal with their issues on their own.

3. WE THINK IT’S NOT THEM, IT’S OUR FAULT

When a relationship reaches a boiling point, we often take everything into consideration. The commitment issues, the lack of understanding, conflicting schedules, disagreements and so on.

But, when you’re stuck in a toxic relationship, the blame can be easily put on you. You might fight that thought, but eventually, you surrender, and you reach a point when you accept the fact that it might be you who is responsible for all this mess.

4. OTHERS ADVISE US TO GO BACK

This should never be a deciding factor for you. It takes two to tango, and it takes two to make a relationship. There’s simply a crowd. However, it is safe to say that it is one of the main reasons why most of us usually get attracted to people who are bad for us.

Believe it or not, there are people who sometimes favor a certain stranger over their loved one. These people are the ones who often manage to reignite feelings between you and your ex-partner.

5. WE’RE CERTAIN THAT OUR ATTRACTION IS BASED ON LOVE

We’ve all done this. We’ve all confused love with longing or simply with infatuation. But, whenever this happens, and you realize that you’re simply lying to yourself, you have to stop and let go of that toxic person. If you catch yourself constantly second-guessing yourself, that my dear, is not love.

In life, you’ll go through a lot of experiences. You’ll search for love in all the wrong places, you’ll settle for people who are not worth it, you’ll make mistakes, you’ll learn from the lessons, you’ll engage in different relationships, you’ll meet a lot of people.

And some of them will say everything you want to hear just to keep you beside them. They won’t care about the meaning of their words. Some of them will force you to stop believing in miracles. Some of them will take away your hopes that true love even exists.

And then, there are some who will come into your life and turn your world upside down. They will love you like never before and they will say all the right things with, only this time you’ll feel the emotion. This time you’ll feel the pure, intense energy in their words and you’ll finally realize that this is it.

This is what you’ve been waiting for your whole life.

Here are 8 things you’ll only hear from someone who genuinely loves you:

1. I LOVE YOU

Oh, those three, magical words we all wish to hear. It’s true that I love you is the most overrated and overused saying among us. Most people don’t really think before they say it. But, it is also true that when someone truly loves you, these statements get a whole new meaning. There isn’t anything more beautiful than having someone whose words can make you feel the happiest person alive.

2. I REALLY MISSED YOU

However, “I love you” isn’t the only way to express our deepest and most sincere emotions. There’s something more meaningful and intimate in saying “I miss you”. I feel like when we say that we truly missed someone, a bigger part of our fragile soul is exposed. We’re no longer afraid to be who we are – a vulnerable human being who craves love.

3. I’M WORRIED ABOUT YOU

And, there’s truly nothing more special than having someone who really cares about you. If your partner can see or sense when something is upsetting you and does everything they can to help you overcome the struggle, you’ve found someone special. These people are rare.

4. I WILL ALWAYS BE HERE FOR YOU

You know how it is. Talk is usually cheap. So, when they tell you that they’re always there for you, ask yourself if they really are. If the answer is yes, you’re a truly lucky person. When a person lets you know that you can always count on them, it is obvious they care so much that they’d get out of their way to help or comfort you.

5. I WANT TO HELP YOU

Love isn’t expressed only by saying “I love you”. Actions will always be the more important part. They will always be louder than words. You can say what you feel, but that doesn’t have to mean anything until you prove your point. Someone who really loves you won’t hesitate to sacrifice for you. They won’t be afraid to simply be there when you need them.

6. NOTHING WILL EVER SCARE ME AWAY FROM YOU

More importantly, when someone lets you know that they’d never leave you, it’s clear that they want to spend their lifetimes with you and that their love for you is only getting stronger and stronger.

7. I RESPECT YOUR NEED FOR PERSONAL SPACE

Respect is the foundation of a healthy and successful relationship. If your partner doesn’t respect your boundaries, if they don’t respect your different opinions, goals, and perspectives, then the relationship is doomed from the start.

But, when someone makes it clear that they’re 100% supportive of your work, your goals and they let you evolve on your own, it’s more than clear that they would do anything for you.

8. I WANT TO GROW OLD WITH YOU

If they tell you that they want to grow old with you, trust me, you’re in for the most incredible ride of your life. This person not only loves you, but they are also 100% sure and ready to spend their life with you. They’re willing to commit to you and share their world with you.

Whatever you think the reasons are for him not paying enough attention to you, they aren’t. If you, the one who is reading this article, are confused, disappointed and exhausted from deciphering his actions and you desperately need answers for his behavior, I’m really glad you knocked on this door.

Welcome and make yourself at home.

The things you’re about to read in the following paragraphs might be a tough pill for you to swallow, but I’ve always figured that in life, it’s “better to get hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie”.

I know that it’s probably hard for you to explain the reality in which you live in. I know that it’s really difficult to go back to that initial moment and try to find the reason for falling in love with him. But, it is fine.

Don’t beat yourself up. It’s true, you and only you are responsible for that mistake. But, it is also you who are responsible for correcting that mistake. You are the only person who can help yourself.

So, listen to me.

If a man truly wants you in his life, he will do everything in his power to keep you. If he really wants you as he says, he will pursue you. He will bend over backward, he will face many obstacles, he will get rid of the things that bother you, he will change, but he will do the necessary to keep you in his life.

Because men love the chase. Especially when the woman they’re after is the woman of their dreams. In that case, they are unstoppable. They would never give up on pursuing you.

It’s really that simple. When men want something, they go after it.

But, when they’re not that into you, well… They make plenty of excuses as to why they’re not right there beside you, but rather somewhere else.

They’re busy, they’re swamped with work, they’re tired, they already have a guy’s night planned, they fell asleep and forgot to call you, they’re taking a shower, their car is broken, they have a family dinner, they…

There’s always something. And it’s always something urgent, something that needs to be done exactly in those rare moments when they are supposed to spend some quality time with you. Everything seems like it’s more important than you.

And let me tell you the truth.  Everything is probably more important than you.

Because if you were his top priority, and he was completely into you, he would have done everything to pursue you and keep you beside him. If he was really in love with you like he says, he wouldn’t have misled you with his confusing messages. If he was truly devoted to you, he wouldn’t have made stupid excuses. He would have done everything to be with you and pay attention only to you.

So, please don’t be that woman who lets him get away with this. Don’t be just another notch in his bedpost. Don’t be a part of his game. Don’t get carried away by his sugar-coated lies.

HE is just NOT THAT into YOU. Get that through your head and accept the bitter truth.

He’s simply not the one for you. Let him go.

A better person will come along and recognize your pure soul and beauty. He will show you what it feels to be loved and he will choose you each and every day, all over again. That day may seem like it’s far away, but I promise you, it will come.

In the meantime, you have to learn to love and respect yourself. You have to find the strength within you to let go of everything and everyone that hurts you and focus on your wellbeing. Be alone and make time for yourself. Take good care of yourself, and let everything else will take care of itself.

When two people are meant to be together – it is the greatest force in the universe. It’s a magical power. It’s the purest, deepest, and most intense feeling. It has the power to turn the ugliest thing into the most beautiful one, and yet, it can destroy us at any given time. (1)

It’s unbelievable how a single emotion can show itself in so many different ways. It’s difficult to understand how something so pure and amazing can either make us the happiest or the most disconsolate person in the world.

When we think of love, we imagine it like a fairytale about two people who are madly in love with each other and who are destined to stay together forever. We think of love as being all about sunshine, butterflies, boxes of chocolates, romantic surprises, and true happiness.

We think of love as being the beginning of something profound, amazing, and flawless. We think of it as a genuine, deep, one-of-a-kind connection.

And this is the kind of love we all want to experience, right?

We all want to experience the kind of love that leads to happiness and the lifelong union of two souls that are destined to be together.

What If We Are Not Meant To Be Together?

However, not all couples are blessed to experience this kind of love. Not all love stories have the “…and, they lived happily ever after” end. Because there’s another type of love that is not bright and happy. Instead, it’s gloomy and sad. It’s the kind of love one feels when they love someone, they’re not meant to be with.

It’s the kind of love that’s not about sunshine and butterflies but about darkness and pain: tears and despair.

It’s the kind of love that’s not soothing or fulfilling but damaging and painful.

Such love doesn’t present itself as a beautiful, blissful beginning but as something that won’t even begin.

Such love can never blossom and thrive. Such love can never bring happiness and fulfillment to those involved.

Such couples are forced to part ways.

And that’s how some people discover the painful, dark side of love. They discover the pain of being so deeply and madly in love with someone but not being able and lucky enough to enjoy that kind of love with that person. They discover the pain of truly loving someone they can never have.

They discover that you can love someone with every part of yourself and still never get the chance to be together with that person. You can give your heart and soul to someone and still not be loved back.

Because the ugly truth is that sometimes love simply isn’t enough. Call it destiny, faith, magic, or the universe, but there are plenty of other factors that prevent two people in love from being together. (2)

How do you know if you’re not meant to be together?

You know, there comes the point in your life when you realize that real-life love is nothing like the love you read about and see in fairy tales and romantic movies. Love is something that you need to work really hard both to achieve and maintain.

Just like you need to water a flower every day so as to stay alive and grow, you need to “water” love with hard work. And that means fully committing yourself to your partner and the relationship; accepting and cherishing the other person the way they are; treating them with kindness, compassion, patience, and affection every single day; being there for them in both their good and bad days.

You need to understand that love is irrational and that there’s no such thing as a smooth, perfect relationship. All couples go through ups and downs in their relationship. They’re faced with difficult challenges, obstacles, and tests every single day.

But, you also need to understand that you can’t leave at the first sign of trouble. You can’t leave without a fight. You can’t give up on your loved one before exhausting all the possible means of saving the relationship.

Because that’s what real love feels like. It’s hard. It requires effort, hard work, and commitment.  One more thing you always need to bear in mind is that we’re all unique individuals with different traits, beliefs, and behaviors. We all have quirks, annoying habits, and awkward preferences.

At the beginning of the relationship, we may fall in love with the flaws and quirks of the other person or even think that we love them. But, as I said, love is an irrational feeling and living in a world that is governed by logic, it’s only a matter of time until the painful reality hits us.

And when this happens, we start to see things as they really are. We realize that the faults and weaknesses we thought we loved about the other person, in fact, bothered us and made us gradually distance ourselves from our partner.

But, the truth is that you’ll never find someone that you’ll be 100 percent compatible with. There’ll always be some habit or behavior of theirs that you’ll find annoying or even unacceptable. And the only thing you can do to maintain both the love and the relationship is to be willing to compromise.

You always have the choice to compromise and make the relationship work. It’s up to you to decide whether you’ll accept your partner’s flaws, past mistakes, and failures or not.

Yet, there’re some mistakes that you’ll never be able to accept and forget. They will be like wounds that leave deep emotional scars on your soul. Because once the person you loved and trusted the most hurts you, this breaks your trust in them and ruins your hopes for your future together.

And the ugly truth is that it’s not these scars that will make your soul burn forever, but the excruciating feeling of loving the other person although you know that you’ll never be together.

Because sometimes, you love someone till your last breath, even when you know you’re not meant to be together.

And sometimes, red flags present in a relationship indicate that you and your partner are not meant to be together. In what follows, we’ll explain what a red flag in a relationship is as well as present some most common relationship red flags and signs which show you’re forcing yourself to love someone.

What Is A Red Flag In A Relationship?

You have probably heard the expression “red flags in a relationship” many times before. But, have you ever wondered what the term “red flags” means? Or are they a sign that you should put an end to the relationship or stay and do everything in your power to make it work? 

A red flag in a relationship is a sign that the relationship is not happy or healthy and that staying in that relationship can negatively affect both partners.

In what follows, we’ve presented the 9 most common relationship red flags. If some or all of these red flags are present in your relationship, take this as a sign that you should put an end to it and move on.

9 Most Common Red Flags In Relationships You Need To Look Out For

1. Lack Of Trust And Constant Jealousy

Mutual trust is the foundation upon which any healthy, meaningful, and successful relationship is built. But, if your relationship is characterized by distrust and constant, irrational jealousy instead of trust, this is a sure sign that your relationship is not headed in the right direction.

If your partner doesn’t trust you if they constantly insist that you inform them about your whereabouts, and if they often accuse you of cheating on them or flirting with others, this is a telltale sign that they’re insecure.

2. Constant Fighting

Disagreements and arguments are an inseparable part of any healthy and strong relationship. But if you and your partner are constantly fighting about insignificant things or serious matters or if you often have trouble resolving conflict, this indicates that something is wrong with your relationship. Frequent fights and an inability to resolve a dispute can lead to passive aggression and resentment.

3. Different Relationship Goals

It’s normal for you and your partner to have different goals when it comes to your career or relationships with others, but when it comes to your relationship, your goals should be the same, otherwise, the relationship is bound to fail.

You and your partner need to have the same goals concerning certain aspects of your relationship, such as how you plan to deal with finances, whether you want to have kids, and where you want to live.

4. Highly Controlling Behavior

If your partner tries to control your beliefs, desires, decisions, or movements, this is a clear sign that they prioritize their feelings, needs, and desires over your own.

No one has the right to control who you make friends with or hang out with, how you spend your money, who you talk to on social media, or what you wear. In a healthy relationship, both partners understand their differences and are willing to compromise.

5. Lack Of Emotional Intimacy

If your partner has trouble opening up about their feelings and connecting genuinely and deeply with you, what’s the point of staying in that relationship?

If there’s no closeness between your partner and you in which both of you feel loved, appreciated, and secure and open communication abounds, and there’s mutual respect and trust, this may be a sign that it’s time for you to walk away.

6. Drug Or Alcoholism Addiction

If substances, such as drugs or alcohol, are adversely affecting your partner’s life in their health, work, or relationship, this is a clear sign of addiction. In addition, if they rely on alcohol or drugs to cope with problems, this is also a sign of addiction, and it indicates that they haven’t found a way to deal with tough situations yet without changing their mental state.

Finally, if your partner’s addiction leads them to be emotionally or physically abusive, this is a sure sign that you should put an end to the relationship.

7. Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a manipulation technique that a person may use to create a false narrative and make you doubt your judgments and perception of reality. Gaslighting can undermine your self-esteem over time and make you become dependent on the person who is using this form of manipulation.

So, if your partner shows the following behaviors, this is a telltale sign that you’re a victim of gaslighting:

• They accuse you of saying or doing things that you know you never did
• They call you “needy” or “too sensitive” when you complain about something or express your needs
• They deny that certain events or agreements happened
• They often complain that you don’t love or care about them as much as you say you do
• They avoid admitting their mistakes and taking responsibility for their actions, and they lay the blame at your door
• They often disregard your opinions and think they’re always right

8. Inability To Build Relationships With Other People

If your partner has trouble building and maintaining relationships with other people, chances are they’ll struggle to create a close, emotional bond with you as well.

If your partner has this type of problem, try to understand why this is so. If you discover that they tend to criticize and blame others rather than accept responsibility, criticism, or blame for their own actions or that there’s a lack of drive in their relationships with others, this could be a sign that you’ll face the same problems in your relationship.

9. Violence

If your partner is violent towards you or someone else, including strangers, this is a major warning sign. Not only can this be a sign that they can’t healthily channel their emotions, but it can also be a sign that they’re incapable of feeling empathy for other people.

How Do You Know If You’re Forcing Yourself To Love Someone?

If you’re currently in a relationship and can often catch yourself asking yourself these two questions: “Do I really love him/her?” or “Am I trying to force a relationship?” it’s likely that you’re forcing yourself to love your partner.

The thing is that people get into relationships for various reasons. Some people do that because they want to be with someone they’ll love and care about and who will reciprocate the same feelings. Others enter relationships out of fear of feeling lonely and because they think this will bring a sense of fulfillment and happiness into their lives. However, whatever the reason a person may get into a relationship, when there’s no pure and unconditional love in a relationship as well as a close, genuine, and deep bond between the partners, the relationship is bound to fail.

So, if you can often catch yourself thinking that you do the most in your relationship and wondering whether your partner loves you as much as you love them, this could be a sign that you’re forcing yourself to love them. In what follows, we’ve presented 10 signs that indicate you’re forcing yourself to love your partner.

• You feel like you’re more invested in the relationship than your partner.
• You wonder whether you’ll ever have the chance to be in a happy, meaningful relationship.
• You sometimes wonder whether it’s the relationship you want more than your partner.
• You often catch yourself thinking, “He/She would be perfect if he/she changed X about him/her.” When you truly love someone, you don’t expect them to change. Instead, you love them for who they are.
• There’s no spark between you and your partner.
• You pretend to be interested in your partner’s hobbies and likes.
• You only feel happy around your partner in certain environments, such as during date nights, but you don’t like spending time with them on a Sunday afternoon.
• You question your partner’s loyalty.
• You don’t feel your partner respects you the way they should.
• You can imagine you two living together, but this idea doesn’t excite you at all.

I know you.

You’re a person who’ve always dreamt of true love. You are someone who’ve always followed their heart and never accepted anything less than the real thing.

You’ve always fought for the things you truly deserved.

So, I know it’s been hard for you, especially when it comes to love and romantic affairs. I know that you’ve struggled to actually find someone decent. Someone who would genuinely love you and really be that for you. Someone whose soul matches yours.

This society is turning into a greedy, heartless monster who only cares about pleasure and profit. The traditional, genuine values are slowly dying. People are desperate for love but too afraid to give it. Most of the people have no other choice, but to crack under the pressure and follow the masses.

But, you… why would you give everything up for someone who simply isn’t worthy of your love?

I see that you’re too tired to keep searching. And I see that you’re about to make that mistake and throw away everything you’ve fought for. But, I just know that you’re stronger than this. I know that you have so much love to give.

So, tell me… Why would you settle for an immature boy who simply isn’t ready to be a man?

You deserve so much more than him. You deserve someone who won’t be afraid to love you. Someone who will let you love him with all of your heart. Someone who will leave all his inhibitions, fears, insecurities and traumas aside and give in to your love.

Don’t make the foolish mistake to settle for an immature boy.

You don’t need a baby, you need a grown man. You don’t need someone who is too afraid of commitment. You don’t need someone who will run for the hills the second you express your genuine feelings.

You don’t need someone who will constantly mind-f*ck you and manipulate you with their vicious lies. You don’t need a person who will try to shut you down just because they’re too intimated by your strength.

What you need is a mature, grown man who knows what he wants and knows exactly how to get it.

A person with real values who will love you the way you deserve to be loved. A good, kind and loving man who will accept you, support you and inspire you to become the best version of yourself.

That’s what you’ve been fighting for entire life. That’s what you’ve been dreaming of since you were a little girl. That is your definition of love. So, you shouldn’t give up on that, ever.

Time is ticking away, years go by, we grow older… but regrets are always here to haunt us.

Don’t make that mistake that you’ll likely regret 10 years from now.

Don’t settle for a boy who simply isn’t ready to become a man.

You deserve someone who won’t be afraid of your greatness. You deserve a real man who will love you like there’s no tomorrow. Someone who will choose you each and every day all over again, for all eternity.

The funny thing about us humans and our interpersonal relationships is the fact that we often tend to overlook people’s actions because we simply care too much for them.

Cupid’s arrow strikes us, we fall madly in love with someone, and we suddenly find it hard to perceive the truth about them, so we make excuses for their actions.

Whatever they do, however they behave, we constantly look for different ways to justify their shitty behavior. Because, deep inside, we care too much.

“Oh, they’re just too tired”; “It’s not that they don’t care, they just don’t have time from all that work” and the good, old-fashioned “I swear to you, this time is different”.

I swear to you, If I had a penny every single time I heard this story from someone, I’d be rich by now. A billionaire, to be exact.

People are constantly getting involved in toxic relationships. It’s sad to hear about this, but that is the truth. I keep hearing about people who decide to stay together, despite the hell they’re experiencing while being in a harmful relationship.

I keep hearing about women who are hopeful that they could actually change something in their partners who clearly don’t give a damn about anything at all.

And, it’s the same thing with you and him. From the very first moment you met him, you knew that this guy would never give you what you wanted.

Admit it, you immediately sensed what kind of a guy he was. Yet, you decided that you’re going to ignore your gut feeling and give into that burning sensation inside your chest.

You wanted him. You wanted all of him. You craved love. That passionate, mad, all-consuming kind of love. The one that turns your world upside down and changes you to the very core.

And so, you fell hard for him. You surrendered to him completely. Body and fu*cking soul.

You were there for him. You sacrificed yourself for you. You went out of your way to make him happy. You put up with everything you disliked about him. You made it clear that you are about to commit to this relationship.

Yet, he never reciprocated. He never even made an effort to show you what he felt about you. He only defended himself with his foolish excuses that he’s been hurt and too emotionally damaged to open up so soon.

But, you knew about all of this. And you took no precautions whatsoever. Deep inside of you, you expected this, and you let it happen. You feared that your doubts will come true, and finally they did. 

So, tell me, why did you do that to yourself?

More importantly, why are you still doing this to yourself?

I really hate to be the one to break it to you, but this man will never love you the way you deserve to be loved. This man is toxic. Incapable of expressing his emotions. He is emotionally handicapped. No, not, emotionally damaged. He’s emotionally dead.

Don’t buy into his bullshit. Don’t let his words trick you. He’s not broken, and he’s certainly not traumatized by a previous experience. He’s just an immature jerk who’s too self-absorbed to care about anyone besides himself.

I know that this is all too painful for you to comprehend, but you have to realize that this man doesn’t love you. He never did. He might have shown some interest for you, but that was at the beginning. And believe me, it wasn’t real.

I’m very familiar with this type of behavior. So, I really don’t want you to think that he’s just a fragile, broken man, whose heart is too damaged to love. I don’t want you to fall for that old trick. He’s not the vulnerable boy he’s presenting himself to be.

This person is only using you. He is taking advantage of your kindness and he will continue doing that until you speak up and take the matter into your own hands.

Stop justifying his behavior. It’s time for you to open your eyes and accept the ugly truth.